Podcast Summary: Just Trish – Episode Released May 29, 2025
Hosts:
- Trisha Paytas (“A”)
- Oscar Gracey (“B”)
Introduction
In this episode of Just Trish, Trisha Paytas and her co-host, Oscar Gracey, engage in a candid and unfiltered conversation covering a wide array of topics from their experiences on reality TV shows to personal relationships and identity. The dialogue is peppered with humor, introspection, and insightful commentary, staying true to Trisha's reputation for speaking her mind.
Reality TV Experiences
The Bachelor and The Bachelorette Trisha shares her journey from being a nurse to participating in reality TV, specifically The Bachelor and The Bachelorette.
- Trisha discusses her initial reluctance:
- "I’m not going on a show with the D squad. Like, she was proposing probably three months in. And I’m like, I need time. I need time." (03:00)
- Engagement and Breakup:
- Trisha reveals her swift engagement and subsequent breakup, attributing it to differing life goals with her ex-fiancé who couldn't align with her career ambitions.
- "Our goals weren’t aligned. Like, meeting Robbie, like, as a woman, we just have our together. She’s so driven. She’s so smart." (24:37)
Dancing with the Stars vs. Traitors A comparison between the physical and mental demands of Dancing with the Stars and a reality show referred to as Traitors (likely a pseudonym for privacy).
- Challenges Faced:
- "The helicopter thing was so strong in my nose that I blew a blood vessel. So I had to do it in my mouth after." (40:33)
- Trisha’s Concerns During Filming:
- "I was moving to LA to travel nurse, and then my cheerleader friends, which I don’t have anymore, nominated me." (04:18)
- Oscar's Perspective:
- Oscar shares his struggles with extensive filming schedules, especially while pregnant, highlighting the intense workload Trisha faced.
Personal Relationships and Identity
Transition to Lesbian Relationships Trisha discusses her journey toward embracing her sexuality, leading to a fulfilling marriage with her wife, Robbie.
- Self-Discovery:
- "I wasn’t even sure if I was gay. I grew up in the Midwest with very little exposure to LGBTQ+ culture." (13:17)
- Meeting Robbie:
- "We met outside of a lesbian bar. She laid it on thick. I was very interested from first sight." (17:20)
- Marriage:
- "Being married feels amazing. It’s the security I needed." (28:08)
- Arguments and Dynamics:
Impact of Upbringing on Relationships The hosts explore how their childhoods influenced their adult relationships.
- Trisha on Her Mother:
- "My mom was emotionally abusive, always locking herself in her room or on her phone." (26:35)
- Oscar on Social Interaction:
- "I was staying at home, just locking myself in my apartment." (19:36)
- This contrasts with Trisha's more socially active past as a cheerleader and nurse.
Sexuality and Mental Health
Open Discussions on Sexuality Trisha and Oscar delve into their exploration of sexuality, discussing lesbian relationships in depth.
- Lesbian Experiences:
- "We are fluid in our gender and sexuality, both of us." (11:28)
- Trisha emphasizes the importance of authentic relationships over societal expectations.
Mental Health Advocacy The conversation touches on mental health, with both hosts sharing their struggles and coping mechanisms.
- Trisha’s Mental Health:
- "I’m dealing with depression, anxiety, and mood issues." (50:14)
- She discusses the use of medications like Lamictal and natural remedies like smoking to manage anxiety.
- Oscar’s Perspective:
- "I never felt like I was good at sex, but we’re both getting what we need." (16:19)
- Advocacy and Personal Struggles:
- Both hosts advocate for mental health awareness, sharing personal anecdotes to inspire listeners.
- Trisha remarks, "Fame is different than money. I could do with more fame and less money than the opposite." (57:58)
Product Placements and Sponsorships
Degree’s Cool Rush and Lifelock Ads The episode begins with advertisements for Degree's Cool Rush antiperspirant and Lifelock’s identity theft protection services.
- Degree’s Campaign:
- "Degree Cool Rush is back. And it smells like victory." (00:21)
- Lifelock Advertisement:
- Details about Lifelock’s services and promotional discount code.
Domino’s and Other Sponsorships Trisha discusses securing sponsorships, particularly with Domino’s Pizza.
- Domino’s Collaboration:
- "I did one with Domino’s. It was the most chaotic concept. It was Domino’s and a nail collab." (52:00)
- Oscar expresses envy over Trisha’s successful sponsorships, highlighting the challenges he faces in securing deals despite frequent mentions on their podcast.
Air1 Smoothies and Other Brands They touch upon other brand collaborations, including discussions about Air1 Smoothies and Erewhon.
- Product Placement Insights:
- Trisha shares experiences with brand placements, emphasizing the balance between personal brand and sponsor requirements.
- "I during the first time I did it on Traitors, it was so strong in my nose that I blew a blood vessel." (48:39)
Social Media and Podcasting
Growth and Audience Engagement The hosts discuss the evolution of their podcast and social media presence.
- Podcast Development:
- "With my podcast, I'll think of, like, takes or points, maybe like, three or four to get me through the hour and then just see what comes out." (76:00)
- Social Media Strategy:
- Trisha highlights the importance of authentic content and viral TikToks in expanding her audience.
- "I don’t want to look for a wedding dress. And then this is one of the ones they found. I’m like, should I wear pasties?" (31:36)
Audience Demographics They analyze their audience composition, noting a strong following among gay men and LGBTQ+ communities.
- Audience Breakdown:
- "I think it's like it used to be 90% women and 10% men, but now it's like 70% probably 30%. 80% gay men." (78:52)
- Oscar appreciates the support from the gay male audience, emphasizing the inclusivity and relatability of their content.
Future Plans and Aspirations
Upcoming Projects and Shows Trisha hints at future endeavors, including another reality show scheduled for June.
- Scheduled TV Appearances:
- "I’ll be gone all of June. So I know I can’t do the pride thing." (80:31)
- Desire for Scripted Roles:
- "I want to do scripted stuff now because there’s more longevity in it." (85:02)
- Both hosts express interest in expanding their presence in scripted television, with Trisha aspiring to act alongside her wife Robbie.
Balancing Personal and Professional Lives Discussions on maintaining relationships while managing demanding schedules.
- Trisha and Robbie’s Dynamic:
- "We cook together, we have dinner, staying in, it’s the happiest." (81:02)
- They navigate the challenges of long-distance commitments due to filming schedules, striving to maintain a strong and supportive relationship.
Notable Quotes
- Trisha on Career Decisions:
- “Your career is made by what you say no to.” (18:35)
- Oscar on Podcast Chemistry:
- “It’s the best thing in the whole wide world. It’s so, like, just your guys' chemistry.” (86:27)
- Trisha on Authenticity:
- “I never want to wear a bra.” (30:39)
Conclusion
This episode of Just Trish offers an in-depth look into the personal and professional lives of Trisha Paytas and Oscar Gracey. From navigating the high-stakes environment of reality TV to embracing their true identities and fostering meaningful relationships, the hosts provide listeners with genuine insights and relatable experiences. Their discussions on mental health, sexuality, and the complexities of sponsorships add layers of depth, making the conversation both entertaining and enlightening. As they continue to evolve their podcast and social media presence, listeners can look forward to more unfiltered and engaging content in future episodes.
Timestamps Reference:
- 00:00 to 00:21 – Advertisements
- 03:00 – Trisha’s reluctance to join The Bachelor
- 13:17 – Self-discovery of sexuality
- 24:37 – Trisha on differing goals in relationships
- 40:33 – Challenges on Traitors
- 50:14 – Trisha’s mental health discussion
- 78:52 – Audience demographics
- (Additional timestamps referenced above)