KIPS LIVE - Pt. 1: The Group Chat w/ B. Simone, Pretty V, Watch Jazzy + Shamea Morton

Summary

Podcast Summary: Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Episode: KIPS LIVE - Pt. 1: The Group Chat w/ B. Simone, Pretty V, Watch Jazzy + Shamea Morton
Release Date: March 30, 2025

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Introduction and Welcome

Crystal Renee Hayslett opens the episode with her signature warmth and enthusiasm, welcoming her audience and introducing her panel of friends and fellow contributors: Pretty Vee, B. Simone, and Jazzy. Crystal emphasizes the multifaceted nature of her personality, highlighting her love for connecting with others, discussing Jesus, and engaging in deep conversations. She sets the tone for an evening filled with surprises and heartfelt discussions.

Balancing Busy Lives and Nurturing Relationships

Crystal shares her recent struggles with balancing the demands of launching her show with her personal life, travel, appearances, and maintaining relationships. She candidly asks her guests for their strategies on managing such a hectic schedule.

• Jazzy, a new mom, discusses the challenges of motherhood alongside her career, emphasizing the importance of prioritization. At 04:12, she states, “Prioritize, prioritize. Honestly, I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately.”

• B. Simone echoes the sentiment of gratitude amidst busyness, highlighting her faith as a cornerstone for maintaining balance. At 05:36, she shares, “When you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play.”

• Pretty Vee talks about her holistic approach to wellness, integrating health, mindset, and spiritual practices to maintain her joy and peace. She mentions her commitment to visiting one country a month, showcasing her dedication to personal growth and exploration.

Navigating Love Lives Amidst Busy Careers

The conversation shifts to the complexities of maintaining romantic relationships while being career-driven.

• Crystal reflects on her own relationship struggles, noting how her creative endeavors often lead her to neglect checking in with her partner. She asks her guests if they've faced similar issues.

• Jazzy shares her struggles as a new mother balancing her relationship, admitting, “Postpartum is not talked about enough and we don't support each other enough in that.”

• B. Simone offers insightful advice on giving oneself grace, especially when juggling multiple roles. At 08:02, she advises, “Just let me run it... give yourself grace.”

• Pretty Vee emphasizes the importance of addressing emotional challenges head-on to prevent them from snowballing. At 13:14, she states, “Don’t diminish the things you're going through. It’s still bad.”

Defining Deal Breakers and Relationship Goals

The panel discusses what they seek in romantic partners and their non-negotiable deal breakers.

• B. Simone outlines her desire for a God-fearing man who embodies respect and morality. She mentions, “God fearing is my foundation. There's no ifs, ands, or buts about it” (15:23).

• Crystal shares her personal journey towards celibacy until marriage, detailing the spiritual conviction that led her to make significant lifestyle changes. At 22:21, she declares, “I threw my vibrator away.”

• Pretty Vee looks forward to sharing her strategies for balancing work and entrepreneurial life with her husband, adding humor to the discussion by teasing, “He understands these roles and things change when it comes down to a successful marriage” (20:34).

Faith and Overcoming Challenges

The conversation delves deeper into the role of faith in overcoming personal and professional challenges.

• B. Simone recounts her past relationships and how faith guided her to a healthier partnership. She emphasizes the importance of finding someone who loves you beyond superficial attributes, saying, “He believed in me in moments that I didn’t even believe in myself” (18:03).

• Pretty Vee shares her experiences with faith during family crises, illustrating how her mother's unwavering belief influenced her own spiritual journey. At 29:33, she reflects, “My faith has always been rocky... but I stand tall in my victory.”

• Crystal opens up about her struggles with sexual immorality and how divine intervention led her to embrace celibacy, reinforcing her commitment to her faith and personal growth.

Interactive Girl Talk Game

To conclude the main discussion, Crystal introduces a fun and engaging girl talk game, encouraging spontaneity and laughter among the panelists.

• Pretty Vee and Simone participate enthusiastically, with moments of playful teasing and camaraderie. For instance, when Crystal tries to play the game without her phone, Pretty Vee jokes, “Props, can we have Crystal’s phone?” (31:20).

• The game leads to light-hearted anecdotes and reinforces the strong bond and mutual support among the friends.

Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

As the episode wraps up, Crystal expresses gratitude for her friends' openness and honesty, reinforcing the theme of support and positivity. The guests leave listeners with empowering messages about faith, self-care, and the importance of nurturing all aspects of one's life.

Notable Quotes:

• Jazzy (04:12): “Prioritize, prioritize. Honestly, I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately.”

• B. Simone (08:02): “Just let me run it... give yourself grace.”

• Pretty Vee (13:14): “Don’t diminish the things you're going through. It’s still bad.”

• B. Simone (18:03): “He believed in me in moments that I didn’t even believe in myself.”

• Crystal (22:21): “I threw my vibrator away.”

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Conclusion

This episode of Keep it Positive, Sweetie offers an authentic and heartfelt exploration of balancing busy careers with personal and romantic relationships. Through candid conversations, the panel shares valuable insights on prioritization, faith, self-care, and the unwavering support of true friendship. Crystal Renee Hayslett successfully creates a safe and uplifting space for women to heal, love, and grow together.

Transcript

[Crystal]

What's up, y'all?

[B. Simone]

Put your hands together.

[Crystal]

Are y'all ready to have a good time? How y'all feeling tonight, Guys, we have so many surprises in store for you. I just want to thank you all so much for coming. I love y'all. I love it. I see the T shirts. So, guys, there are so many different sides to me, you know what I'm saying? I love my girls. I love good girl talk. Hey, cuz, you know, I love. I love talking about Jesus. I also love some deep conversation. I'm a sapiosexual. If y'all didn't know that, you gotta get me here. And then also, I love connecting with y'all. That's the most important part. All right, so tonight, we doing everything. Are y'all ready? All right, so we gonna go and get this show started. So first up, I have some real raw, unfiltered girl talk with some of my favorite girlfriends. Are y'all ready? Welcome to the stage, my sisters. Pretty Vee, Simone. What's Jazzy?

[Pretty Vee]

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

[Crystal]

M I s to Mia Morgan. I forgot how long this ponytail was. Okay, there we go then. I done broke my fan. Help me, Lord.

[Jazzy]

Who got a fan she could borrow? I know that's right. Look, they all got fans.

[Crystal]

They gonna give it to you. Y'all better have them fans. Thank you, baby. Take mine. Take mine, please. All right, ladies.

[Jazzy]

Hi.

[Crystal]

Thank y'all so much for joining me today. I really appreciate it. I know y'all are all busy. And speaking of being busy, I ain't gonna lie to y'all. Since we put this show on sale, my sweeties can attest the devil has been busy from the day we dropped it. It was something, but we here, we made it. And the devil is alive.

[Pretty Vee]

Sure is.

[Crystal]

But I would be lying if I said I have not been stressed out lately trying to balance everything from putting the show together with my amazing team to balancing travel and appearances, nurturing relationships. And I recently had to check myself because I realized I'm not nurturing the relationships how I should. Now, all of us are very busy, and I just want to ask each of you, how are y'all handling? Because I need some tips for you.

[Simone]

To help me out.

[Jazzy]

Oh, my gosh. How am I balancing being busy? Well, first of all, I'm a new mom, y'all.

[Crystal]

Shout out to all the mommies.

[Simone]

Mommy gang.

[Crystal]

Yes.

[Jazzy]

How many kids you got, sis? Two. None.

[Crystal]

Two.

[Jazzy]

Two. Three. Oh, my gosh. So I just had my first child a year ago. It was her Birthday last week. Thank you. Thank you. So being a mom has me extremely busy. Extremely, extremely busy. But honestly, the balance that I do in order to just keep my life flowing.

[B. Simone]

Oh, my gosh.

[Jazzy]

Prioritize, prioritize. Honestly, I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately. It's not easy, but I'm very blessed to be doing something because I could be waking up and doing nothing at all. So I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude to being. To being busy at all.

[Crystal]

Yeah, right? That's a blessing.

[Jazzy]

Yes.

[Crystal]

Veena, you got a whole devotional out. You're on the COVID upscale magazine.

[Simone]

Come on. God is good.

[B. Simone]

Come on, y'all.

[Simone]

God is good. He's worthy to be praised.

[Crystal]

Amen. How are you? How are you? Wait. How are you balancing it all?

[Simone]

Oh, Lord. First of all, I thank God for it all. Thank you so much, Crystal, for choosing all of us on this stage right now. We thank God. Give it up for Crystal, y'all, forever. She is such a beautiful soul. But for real, for real, like, I mean, I just enjoy what I do, and the balance gonna come, you know? And when you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play. So, I mean, I don't really stress about the what if and maybes no more, Only when it's time to make some decisions. I'm worried. But in the midst of it all, I'm just having a good time, so whatever comes with it, comes with it. And I just be prayerful in all things. So, I mean, it is what it is. I just go with the flow.

[Crystal]

There we go. I love that. B, my sis, you just launched an app. You have a podcast as well. It's coming. Okay. The app is coming. You have a podcast, you're doing comedy shows, you're all over the world, and you're traveling. She's doing. Is it two countries or one country every.

[Pretty Vee]

I want to go to one country a month this year.

[Crystal]

One country a month. Yeah. So that's right.

[Pretty Vee]

So I'm doing good. It's only March, though. Ask me in June.

[Jazzy]

Yeah.

[Pretty Vee]

To answer your question, first of all, your edges are beautiful.

[Crystal]

Shout out. Sornel. Charnel.

[Pretty Vee]

Charnel.

[Crystal]

Charnell.

[Pretty Vee]

They are so thick. I'm over here, like, okay, let me brush my. I was just talking about this with one of my best friends, Shekinah, in the back. Just saying. She was like, how do you feel? I was like, I feel so good. And I was. The lady was touching us up in the back, the makeup lady. I'M sorry, I don't know her name.

[Jazzy]

Tiffany.

[Pretty Vee]

Yes. Yes. She was great. And I was like, I'm about to cry because I remember sitting in makeup chairs crying because I didn't feel good and I had to go to work. And I'm about to cry now because I feel good, and I'm in this makeup chair and I have to go to work. So I said all that to say this week, man, I've been honed in. And Shekinah was like, what do you think it is? I'm like, I don't know. Cause I've done everything. I got a chef and changed my diet. I was in the sauna four times a week. I've been doing two a day. So that just goes to tell you and show you all of it matters. All of it matters. From your health to your wellness to your mindset to your reading to everything. I had church today. I went to two services.

[Simone]

I'm like, come on, come on.

[Pretty Vee]

All of it matters. Feel good. Shekinah was like, what's the mission when you go out there? I was like, to exude joy. I hope y'all feel this joy. And I'm just so glad to be on a stage where I feel good. But all of it matters. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other. You gotta go to the gym, if you gotta walk, you gotta watch what you eat. You got. It's all the things that add to your joy, your wellness, and your peace.

[Crystal]

That's so good. I love that Shamia, the mother of all trades, she does everything.

[B. Simone]

Oh, my gosh. Y'all make me feel so cool.

[Crystal]

All this love of me.

[B. Simone]

Offer smiles. Anyway, no, I'm just. Honestly, I told myself, you just have to give yourself grace.

[Jazzy]

There we go.

[B. Simone]

Because I'll start out my day with a list of 10 things, and if I can get through half of it, I'm like, you know what? I did good. I was actually listening to B Talk, and I looked down and I saw my boot was halfway zipped. And I was like, oh. And then there's that. I mean, you know, just get yourself. Get your clothes on. I mean, honestly, I think when you're a mom and a career woman and you're doing all the things, sometimes we get so wound up and wrapped up in everyday things, and you're like, I didn't get to it, or I'm not doing enough, or you get flustered. And I can just say, give yourself grace. Because most people aren't doing 500 jobs like us, you know, and if we're able to be above the ground and just walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it.

[Crystal]

I love that. I love that. So we are all very career driven and we are go getters and oftentimes when it comes to our love lives, it can take the backseat. I know for me, I'm in a relationship and trying to.

[Simone]

You knew that.

[Crystal]

Justin was there. Justin, you were there. He said that really happened. But yeah, it's like trying to balance everything. And I had to check, I had to ask one day, how are you? Because I realized I had been so consumed in everything that I was doing that I hadn't really checked in properly. And I think there's so many times, because I'm a creative and when I get. I can literally lose myself in creativity and I forget everything else that's going on. I'll be up all hours of the night and I'm like, oh, it's 4 in the morning, I need to go to sleep, you know, because I actually love what I do. Have you guys had any issues with that as well? And trying to balance relationships and nurturing, whether it's platonic or romantic or even family relationships? I went right to you. You're looking at me.

[Jazzy]

Oh my gosh.

[Crystal]

Ok. Yes, yes.

[Jazzy]

Honestly, you know, and I, I hate to be that person. Just keep talking about my child. But when you have a child and you're in a relationship, it changes things. You know, you might go from, I know we got sanctified holy people in here Sunday, when you go from it being every day, two times a day to maybe once a week. Cause the baby on your titty, she hating on you, he mad at her. It's like, it's hard. It really is. It's really hard. But I think that, you know, you just gotta find time. And it's funny that you said that you didn't check on your man because for me it's like I do so much. I was looking for somebody to check on me.

[Crystal]

Ooh. Mm. That's the word. You know what I mean?

[Jazzy]

I said. Because I'm going to say it like this postpartum is not talked about enough and we don't support each other enough in that. And it is hard. It is hard and it is dark. It is very dark. And you know, you know, it's dark. So sometimes, just because I might look nice and pretty on the outside doesn't mean that I don't have internal damage going on on the inside.

[Crystal]

Because I woke up, I cooked for.

[Jazzy]

Everybody, I fed everybody, and I realized it's 4 o'clock, I didn't eat a thing, and nobody even asked me if I ate a thing. Baby on the titty all day. She good, she chunky and fed. And here I am, starving, malnourished, losing my ass.

[Crystal]

Jazzy.

[Jazzy]

It's hard.

[Crystal]

It's real.

[Jazzy]

It's really hard. And I think that it just goes back to your support system. You having them people who really check in on you and be like, hey, listen, I know you're busy. I know you got a lot going on, but, like, how are you?

[Crystal]

Right?

[Jazzy]

What's going on with you?

[Crystal]

Right? That's real.

[Jazzy]

Can I help you do anything? Can you just vent real quick?

[Crystal]

Come on, now.

[Jazzy]

Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing.

[B. Simone]

Just let me run it.

[Jazzy]

You know? But the balance, you just have to make a conscious effort, and you just have to. Anything else that's important in your life and you're intentional about. If it's important to you, you got to be intentional about that, too.

[Crystal]

I love that. I love that. That's good. That's so good.

[Jazzy]

I'm working to pray for me, y'all.

[Crystal]

Cause I ain't figured it out yet.

[Jazzy]

I'm still trying, but just being intentional with everything that I do along with my relationship. But I also need him to be intentional, too.

[Crystal]

Come on.

[Jazzy]

So it goes both ways.

[Crystal]

That's so good, Bina. You talk about if you sing it for too much longer, you're gonna be a nun.

[Pretty Vee]

At this point, I can't wait to say, oh, this is how me and my husband balance work life and entrepreneur life. With my man. My man. I can't wait. It's coming. Thank you, Lord.

[B. Simone]

Claim it and you shall receive.

[Pretty Vee]

Every morning, I'll be like, ooh, okay, you're right. Yeah. You know, I just figure it out. But balancing this. This came up in therapy. What wasn't really a therapy session. It was a podcast episode with Thema Bryant.

[Crystal]

Yes. Yes.

[Pretty Vee]

Dr. Bryant was on my podcast, and she was like, you have to realize that when you go through bad things, we're like, it's not that bad. We all probably do that. Like, it's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad because you've been through worse. No, it's not that bad. It's still bad.

[Crystal]

Yes.

[Pretty Vee]

Don't diminish the things you're going. It's not that bad. It's just a little. Just Lost another friend. No, that's bad. Another betrayal. That's bad. Another jealous spirit. That's bad. Another. Oh, he just cheated on. This is not that. No, that's bad. Don't diminish what you're going through. So I think to balance it all, you have to address it. You know, you have to address it. You have to address the postpartum, like Jaz said. You have to address. I'm not. Okay. You have to address. The only way to fix something is to be honest.

[Crystal]

Come on now.

[Pretty Vee]

You can't brush it under the rug. I need a minute yet. I want to strangle my friend or my boyfriend or my baby.

[Jazzy]

That's real. That's real. No, that's real.

[Crystal]

That's real.

[Pretty Vee]

Okay. Intrusive thoughts. I'm just saying.

[Crystal]

No, that's real.

[Pretty Vee]

Address it so you can fix it. Don't bury it. And. And. And then now it's a snowball effect and you blow up and really do it.

[Crystal]

Yeah, right. Oh, Lord. It's true. That's real, though. You have to talk to someone. You know what I'm saying?

[Simone]

Yeah, talk to somebody.

[Pretty Vee]

So the only way to get through is to start walking through it and address it.

[Crystal]

Come on. I love that. Be. That's so good. Everybody, I'm gonna ask you a different question. When you're dating or looking, well, I guess as a woman, you don't look, they find you. Come on now. What are the most important things for you? And what's your deal breakers?

[Simone]

Ooh, my deal breakers. And what's important to me? One thing about it. Two things for sure. What's good? Anybody out here? I'm single, but let's be very clear. I am single. But you gotta be God fearing for me. Like all this, like, who the libra is and what the sun done told y'all. Like, I don't want to hear about that. I want to hear about what God said, you know, I want to know what he talking about. What's in your spirit, man? What's in your inner man? Because your inner man got to talk to me, you know, I'm that girl. But you have to be God fearing. I'm not telling you that. You have to be the pastor's son. You know, we don't got to go down to God's redeeming temple every Sunday. Sometimes I know you may be busy, but just make sure you hold on to God's word and it's embedded in you. You know, thank God for the foundation that I have, and I want my man, to walk in that as well. In that light, the deal breakers are for me is. Let me see, let me see. Oh, Lord, you a liar, you a cheater, you a deceiver, heartbreaker. And I won't let you back in my life. So I'm taking the house.

[Jazzy]

The house.

[Simone]

Okay, Lord, I want it. Oh, Lord. I mean, like I said, God fearing man. I mean respectable man. You have to be, you know, I'm Caribbean, so you have to have some manners, okay? You have to have some manners. You have to walk with some manners, you know. But God fearing is my foundation. There's no if, ands or buts about it. I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You're better to believe in Jesus Christ around me. You know, if it's a man, get to it. You don't have to be perfect. I'm not asking for you to be perfect. I'm not asking for you to be head to toe this and the third, you might have a limp in your dip. I might stand still, talk to you. You might, you might have a little bit of. I might still, you know, we could work some things out.

[Pretty Vee]

No, no, no, I'm not saying that limp. I'm not saying that limp.

[Simone]

But make sure you have something. Okay. I'm not saying that limp. Cause we gonna have to ask God to fix that. You know, I can't talk to that now. But the deal breakers for sure. You just can't cheat.

[Crystal]

That's it. Can't. Don't do that.

[Jazzy]

Can't.

[Simone]

Okay, I might take him back. But you sing and cheat 10 times.

[Jazzy]

What kind of cheating was it?

[B. Simone]

What kind of cheating?

[Simone]

Okay, the first time, okay, about 10 kids. 10 kids. Somebody, somebody. It's something down there. Something. 10, 10 kids.

[Pretty Vee]

Nine is fine.

[Crystal]

That's a deal right here.

[Simone]

Maybe four over. That is a problem. I don't know.

[Crystal]

Oh my goodness. Okay, Shabia, you are married. And a wise man once said, a man with no money has a lot of time and a man with money has no time. When you were deciding on your person, did you choose time or money?

[B. Simone]

Oh, that's a great question.

[Crystal]

Money. No, I'm sorry. Duh.

[B. Simone]

No, no, seriously, I'm going to keep it 100. I mean, you know, my mom used to always say, find you somebody, baby, that love you more than you love them.

[Jazzy]

Oh my God.

[B. Simone]

And I used to be like, ugh, why would I. No. Like, and this is my second go. My first marriage, I was like, you know, just all about just love, but my heart and. But he's so. And he's so sexy and so handsome and all the things, right? But he was horrible. He was abusive. He didn't, you know, care for my heart. And he had money. So I said the next time around, you know, God fearing, it's got to be the center of our lives. And I don't want anybody with kids anymore because the last one had a kid. And the kid used to cuss me out better than the stepmom. I used to be like, man, both of you, the child and the. She can cuss too. So I was like, this time around, you know, I had to be honest with myself. Like, I came from, you know, a household where my mom and dad both lived in under the same roof. And I was lucky enough to have both parents there. And I was like, I want something like that. And I was like, well, I shouldn't have to minimize and change up my wish list because there could be somebody out there like that. So I met my husband, and he was not what I thought I would have as a husband to just keep it. 100 people would come under my page like, oh, she got her African. Then they would tag me in the African starter kit, which was like the Chanel bag and like the ashy flip flop shoes. And I would be like, why? He's not this. And I mean, and to be honest, he really was. He's amazing. Like, he's again, was not what I put on paper, but he was all the other things that I needed, you know, back then, you know, they didn't want me. Now I'm hot. They all on me. He wanted me when I wasn't hot. Like when I wasn't shaking pom poms and getting that $25 a game. And you know, I just like, he believed in me in moments that I didn't even believe in myself. And I think that's what you need. You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's gonna be seasons in your marriage or relationship where he gonna be hot. And I'm like, well, hold on now. You know, been in the gym and you got your little chest wall. You feel, you know, but it really is important because then when you start dreaming and you want the career and all the things, like right now I'm able to be here amongst the stage with all these beautiful ladies with you because he at home with the children.

[Crystal]

Come on now. A helpmate.

[B. Simone]

A lot of times we say, oh, money was. Then there's roles In a relationship, but not in this one. He understands, like, these roles and the things change when it comes down to a successful marriage. As long as you are God fearing, you have your finances in order. Because, hello, I like nice stuff. And you have that sex. Because that is very important. Even, you know, you might have to speak on the mic. It's important. And. Yeah, yeah, it's a thing you said.

[Pretty Vee]

Speak on the mic.

[Crystal]

That's what you said. Because.

[B. Simone]

Because even when you can't communicate and they mad at you, if you sing a little song on the mic, they gonna be like, you know, okay, I forgive you. So I just think you just gotta.

[Crystal]

Keep those things in order.

[B. Simone]

You know, Sex, finance, communication, and God.

[Crystal]

Come on. I love it. I love that. So I think it's safe to say that all of us are really strong in our faith. We've all, at some point, had conversations about just our faith and how we had to lean on God in certain situations. And I would say recently I just did a podcast about this and opened up about you talking about sex. About God convicting me on sex. Yeah, I'm with you, B. I mean, B, I ain't doing it no more. I've been delivered, I promise.

[Pretty Vee]

Stop.

[Crystal]

Swear.

[B. Simone]

You ain't doing what no more?

[Crystal]

Wait, I'm missing here. I'm like, swear. Swear. So wait, for real? For real, for real.

[Pretty Vee]

Wait, so you Celibacy?

[Crystal]

Yes. Oh, my goodness.

[B. Simone]

Congratulations. That's amazing.

[Crystal]

Thank you. Yeah. So thank y'all.

[Pretty Vee]

I'm so proud. Is the goal until marriage?

[Crystal]

Yes, the goals until marriage. Yeah. Because.

[Pretty Vee]

Y'All need to get married next week.

[Crystal]

Listen. Okay. Come on, Lord. Sweetest thing.

[B. Simone]

But does that include my talks?

[Crystal]

Does that include what and everything? Honey, I threw my vibrator away.

[Pretty Vee]

What?

[Crystal]

Yes. I was dead serious. Yeah. So, like, I was. I've been really in my Bible, and, like, every time I would read it, it seemed like I have on this Bible plan. So it gives you, like, different books to read from. And I feel like every morning it was like, sexual immorality. I'm like. It was just, like, jumping out the page. I'm like, lord, which. Okay, calm down. And finally, I just got to the point. I was like, all right, God, now I'm in a relationship. And just transparently, I was having sex. So I was like, this man's about to leave me. You know what I'm saying? Cause, like, you feel like we have been conditioned. I'm sure we all can attest we've been conditioned. That what you don't do another Woman will, right? Yeah. So we've been, like, really groomed to, like, take care of a man and make sure that we know what we doing, you know? And when we had that conversation, I literally was in my kitchen, like, crying as we're on the phone. And God was like, you just gotta trust me on this. And I had done this before, and the relationship didn't work out, so I was like, well, that didn't work. So I'm gonna go on back to busting wide open and maybe keep it real. I just. Being trans. We keeping it real, unfiltered and raw. And then this relationship came, and God was convicted me again. I was like, all right, I really have to take this serious. So we got through that, and he was like, no. He said, we'll just find other ways to be intimate without any sexual. Yeah. Yes. So I. We're doing that. And that was December, that we, like, stopped that. And then I was at home. I was at home. And God literally said. I was sitting in bed. And he said that, too. And I said, what you talking about? You know what I'm talking about. And I looked to the nightstand, I said, now you're taking it too far, Lord. He said that, too. And he. So I literally pulled it out my vibrator out the drawer, put it in the trash can. And it was the day that my cleaning ladies were coming. And that's when I knew I was serious. Cause I said on the podcast, I said, if I wasn't. If they didn't come that day, I might have pulled that thing back out and washed it off.

[Simone]

I put the soap on it one more time.

[Pretty Vee]

One more time.

[Jazzy]

I'm gonna run out. I'm on a full charge.

[Pretty Vee]

I don't wanna waste it.

[Crystal]

Right? Don't waste that charge. I'm done.

[Pretty Vee]

I'm on a hundred. You threw it away on a hundred?

[Crystal]

On a hundred. Listen, 99 and a half on, dude. That's what they said. I'm trying to make a hundred. Okay. But no, I just wanna know, like, has there been any. Any moments in your life where you guys have been tested, your faith has been tested, where God has really, like, pushed you to your limits? Because that was the limit for me. I said, oh, that flesh is hard to fight. Anybody want to chime in? V.

[Simone]

V. Y'all.

[Crystal]

V just was like, skip me, skip me, Skip.

[Simone]

Bea hates when I do that. She'd be like, oh, my God. I don't want you to do that. You're like, my little sister. Don't do that.

[Pretty Vee]

I can't imagine being a heaven sex, you guys. She's like. I mean, she never tells me anything, but I'm just saying, I'm like, B, what do you be doing? She like, girl, she be showing me how to dance and stuff. I'm like, you. You do not be doing that.

[Simone]

You know what's so crazy is me and B Be talking about, like, celibacy. It was one year, and I told her, like, I haven't had. I wasn't having sex in for, like, four years.

[Crystal]

Wow.

[Simone]

Four years, no sex.

[Crystal]

That's amazing, right?

[Simone]

But then some dude came around, and you already know how that go. Dreadhead tattoos. You like, oh, God.

[Pretty Vee]

Let's talk.

[Crystal]

I'm from Florida, y'all.

[Simone]

All right.

[Pretty Vee]

And.

[Simone]

Well, the last time I had sex was. I could talk about this was September 6th. So I didn't walk in the new year with, you know, having sex. I was. And I think I'm gonna wait, you know, I don't know about the marriage, Crystal. I might do that. I might. I don't know. God hasn't. I just don't.

[B. Simone]

Right.

[Simone]

In this season, I'm just not in a space of talking to anybody. So I am. Like I said, I am single. And in this season, I really was just focused. Like I said, it took me two years to write my devotional, so I really and truly didn't walk in this season with a group chat or friends and all that good stuff. I spoke to, like, three, four people in this season. It was B. Simone, my hairstylist, makeup artist, my mother. And I just kept at it because I knew I had to sacrifice something. And that was one of the ones. Like, September 6th was that. And again, I was intimate with this particular person. So I was like, okay, we're not even talking to each other no more. We're not dealing with you. I could just stop this whole thing. And I haven't had sex since that. So I just was so focused on putting this book out, really posturing my heart. Really and truly. Thank y'all. Like, literally posturing my heart, clearing my mind. Like I said, I'm not. I used to stress about the what ifs and maybes. I used to be depressed. I know what anxiety looks like. I know what nervousness looks like. I know what it is to really battle the what ifs and maybes. And I just told myself, I can't do that in a season. If I'm writing day one, do 100, I have to live by something. I can't tell my readers and my Listeners that I'm doing this, I'm out here, I'm da, da, da, da. I'm having, like, yeah, put it in. Yeah, yeah. Like what, nigga, what? Like, it don't go like that. Like, it don't go. Like it just don't make sense. Like, of course I'm a comedian. I'mma be funny. I'm gonna be on the table. I'm gonna have my little G string with boots on. We gonna dance, we gonna do all this stuff. But the foundation of what my source is. God. Cause I remember when. I remember when I sit beside this. Watch Jazzy. And she was the first one that took me on the road. You feel me? The first person to take me on the road. The first one. Give it up for Jack. The first one that took me on the road. I haven't seen this face since 28, 17, 18, like, face to face. I haven't seen her since then. And she has been doing her thing, being a mother, you know, killing it. But I haven't told you that. I just love you. I love you for stretching. Like, no, seriously, I could say that because I haven't. We haven't spoken, you know, in a minute, but you were the first one to take me on the road when everyone else did not believe. And you told me, girl, get on the road. Like, you're so funny, you'll be able to do this. And I'm like, jaz, I'm in Charlotte. I gotta figure it all out. I don't know what to do. Just go and do it. And there was a lot of haters that are on that tour that year that was like, oh, she can't do this. She could just host. But you said, nah, my friend could do it, you know, at that time. So I appreciate you for just stretching me and pulling me 2017 to say, come on the road. And that was my first tour. Then Wild N Out came, and if you guys know my story. And every time, I always say I lied to get on Wild N Out. And Jas was the one who told me, girl, tell them that D.C. and Carlos Miller, your uncle, like, here's the email.

[Pretty Vee]

Here's the email.

[Simone]

And so that was her. So every interview I do, I always say, my friend at the time told me to lie on the. Just lie in the application, Just lie in the email and just say, dc, your cousin, Carlos, your uncle, Girl, you'll get in. And I did, you know, So I appreciate that. I appreciate that. I appreciate that, B. Like, you really helped me in that space. So Again, my faith has always been rocky. I used to dwell on my mother's faith so much because she's such a prayer warrior. And I was like, how the doctor just told you that Dominique going to die in 72 hours, and you still going on. That's what the doctors told my brother. He had 72 hours to live this. When I was in Miami, he was on breathing tubes. He had to feed through his stomach. He. He fell off his motorcycle. And my mama said, okay. Well, that's what the doctor said. But the guy that I served, the guy that I served said, okay, now I need to go on my fast for 72 hours. And I have a brother to this day. I have a nephew. I have a nephew. So it's in my bloodline. And again, I had to shape in my heart and get my posture and get my mind right to come into this season to be something else. And I always say, I don't want someone to know me from back then. What do I look like now? And I stand tall in my victory. I do.

[Crystal]

I love that. Ladies, this has been beautiful. Oh, my goodness. So good. So I'm introducing a new girl talk game. Before we close out this segment of the show, I want to play it with y'all. Are y'all down?

[Simone]

Okay, let's do it.

[Crystal]

All right. Let's do it. So there should be some cards.

[B. Simone]

Okay.

[Crystal]

Next to you, these little cars. Do you see your card? You got your cards. So I'll go first. All right. Oh, Lord.

[Pretty Vee]

Yeah.

[Crystal]

Well, I ain't got my phone on me, but it says, send a voice note to someone saying, I had a dream about you last night and let them wonder.

[Pretty Vee]

Oh, yeah, send it to your man right now. Get Crystal her phone.

[Crystal]

Where's my phone?

[Pretty Vee]

Props, can we have Crystal's phone?

[Crystal]

No, my phone.

[Pretty Vee]

And you got to say it in that voice I had a dream about. No. Cause you was trying to be celibate. I'm sorry. Look at the devil.

[Crystal]

See?

[Simone]

Give me your own people. I'm sorry.

[Pretty Vee]

I don't want to.

[Crystal]

Okay, so somebody else go so we can keep it going, and then we'll get to this.

[Simone]

Mine says, so you going, Vee, I was talking for five minutes. Okay, okay, okay. Have you ever stalked an ex or their new boo on social media? Be honest. Yes, I did.

[Pretty Vee]

Yesterday.

[Simone]

Yesterday, Yesterday.

[Crystal]

That's good.

[Pretty Vee]

Okay, so I'm ready already because I'm really excited about this one. So I'm gonna hand you my phone. It's already on my DMs.

[Crystal]

Okay.

[Pretty Vee]

This says Let the group pick someone for you to send a flirty DM to pick. Go.

[Crystal]

Oh.

[Pretty Vee]

It'S like pick a celebrity. Pick. Hold on now. No, no. Did you. Who did you say?

[Simone]

I'm not going to tell you.

[Crystal]

You said, choose the phone.

[Pretty Vee]

Okay, say it.

[Crystal]

No, you.

[Pretty Vee]

No, you got to say it out loud.

[Simone]

No, no.

[Crystal]

You want. Let me say it before you tell it.

[Pretty Vee]

Who is it? I want to see somebody new and fresh.

[Crystal]

What if.

[Jazzy]

What if you go to it and the DM already lit?

[Pretty Vee]

Got to be somebody. I don't know.

[Jazzy]

They already been talking like somebody.

[Pretty Vee]

I'm trying to bag somebody new.

[Crystal]

Wait.

[Jazzy]

They already got to mess this together.

[Simone]

I'm looking at a corner of my eye.

[Jazzy]

They already got a message in there together.

[Pretty Vee]

What is she saying?

[Jazzy]

And her wait, and her bubble is already big. That she already said something to him. They had already said something.

[Crystal]

What's the.

[Jazzy]

We all wanna know. What's the flirty text saying?

[Pretty Vee]

He DM'd the baby. Talking about, hey, boo, I still like you.

[Crystal]

I knew it was him.

[Pretty Vee]

I knew it was him. I knew it.

[Crystal]

I knew it.

[B. Simone]

I knew it.

[Simone]

Thank God for the unseen angel.

[Crystal]

Look at the interview. Vanish mode.

[Pretty Vee]

Oh, my God, I'm icy.

[Crystal]

Okay, now, Samia, what you got?

[B. Simone]

Okay, I don't know which one y'all want me to do.

[Crystal]

Let's pick one. Cause we running a long time. So go ahead and pick one. Okay.

[B. Simone]

I'll just do the fan question. Alexia? Timothy.

[Crystal]

Hey, best friend, you in here?

[Jazzy]

Okay.

[B. Simone]

Alexia.

[Crystal]

There she is.

[B. Simone]

Okay, I see. I'm trying to look out for you. So she wrote, how do you move past the heartache of what you thought was a genuine friendship. But in actuality was jealousy rearing. Rearing its ugly head?

[Pretty Vee]

Wow.

[Jazzy]

Take us there.

[Pretty Vee]

Come on, take us now.

[Jazzy]

What God has for me.

[Crystal]

Come on.

[Pretty Vee]

It is for me.

[Crystal]

Come on.

[B. Simone]

What God has for me it is for me.

[Jazzy]

I know without.

[B. Simone]

That, he will bring me out.

[Pretty Vee]

Yeah.

[B. Simone]

What God it is for me.

[Crystal]

Yeah. That's the perfect answer, baby. That's good, ladies. I love y'all. I'm so serious. Thank you guys so much. You guys. You guys, stay tuned. We have so much more in store for y'all. DJ Mars, take us away.

[B. Simone]

Let's go, y'all, let's go.