KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Keep It Positive, Sweetie – KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

Podcast: Keep It Positive, Sweetie
Host: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts (Crystal Renee Hayslett)
Episode Air Date: March 30, 2025
Episode: KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

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Main Theme & Purpose

This special live episode of Keep It Positive, Sweetie is all about sisterhood, faith, self-worth, balancing career and personal life, and real talk about the ups and downs of womanhood. Led by Crystal Renee Hayslett and joined by special guests B. Simone, Pretty Vee (Vee), Jazzy, Shamia Morton, and Savia, the group dives into “group chat” style conversations. The setting is uplifting, unfiltered, and deeply honest—aimed at inspiring and encouraging listeners to keep it healing, keep it honest, and always keep it positive.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Opening & Introductions (00:16–03:01)

• Crystal and B. Simone hype up their live audience, expressing love and gratitude.
• B. Simone shares the excitement for the diverse conversation ahead, including faith, deep talks, and relationship topics.
• The atmosphere is celebratory and inclusive, setting the stage for candid dialogue.

Navigating Busyness & Finding Balance (03:01–08:52)

• B. Simone opens up about the stress of balancing work, travel, and relationships, seeking advice from the panel.
• Jazzy (03:33): "Prioritize, prioritize. I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately... I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude."
• Vee (05:00): "I just enjoy what I do, and the balance gonna come. When you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play... I just go with the flow."
• Savia (06:18): Highlights the importance of holistic self-care: "All of it matters. From your health to your wellness to your mindset to your reading to everything. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other."
• Shamia (07:58): "You just have to give yourself grace... Most people aren't doing 500 jobs like us... if we're able to walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it."

Love, Relationships & Support Systems (08:52–14:44)

• B. Simone brings up how career focus can overshadow romantic and personal relationships.
• Jazzy (10:04–11:54): Speaks candidly about postpartum struggles, needing support, and the reality of feeling unseen as a mother: "Just because I might look nice and pretty on the outside doesn't mean... I don't have internal damage going on the inside... Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing. Just let me run it."
• Savia (13:14): Advice from podcast guest Dr. Thema Bryant about acknowledging hardships: "Don't diminish what you're going through... Another betrayal. That's bad. Another jealous spirit. That's bad. Address it so you can fix it. Don't bury it."
• The group agrees: intentionality and honesty are key to maintaining all forms of relationships.

Dealbreakers & Values in Dating (14:44–17:31)

• Crystal asks about what’s important and what are dealbreakers in relationships.
• Vee (14:58): "You gotta be God-fearing for me... I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You better believe in Jesus Christ around me."
• Vee humorously lists other dealbreakers: dishonesty, cheating, lack of respect and manners.
• Shamia (17:49): Shares the lesson that love alone is not enough without respect, security, and shared values. Her own story includes leaving an unhealthy relationship for one rooted in faith and support.

Marriage, Money vs. Time, and Faith (17:31–21:23)

• Shamia (17:49–20:34): Answers whether she chose a partner based on time or money, ultimately valuing love, character, shared faith, and partnership over status or image:

  "You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's going to be seasons in your marriage... As long as you are God fearing, have finances in order, and have that sex...communication and God."

• The importance of partnership, flexibility, and shared purpose in marriage is highlighted.

Faith, Conviction, and Celibacy (21:23–27:31)

• Crystal and B. Simone discuss recent journeys around sex, celibacy, and spiritual conviction.
• B. Simone (22:02): Announces her choice of celibacy until marriage, including giving up her vibrator, prompted by spiritual conviction:

  "I had done this before and the relationship didn’t work out. So I was like, well it didn’t work—so I’m gonna go on back to busting wide open... But this relationship came, and God was convicting me again."

• Vee and others share their own stories of periods of celibacy and sacrificing for spiritual clarity and purpose.
• Vee (26:48): "In this season, I really was just focused... I had to sacrifice something." She credits faith as central to resilience and growth, recounting personal family miracles and the importance of not being defined by the past.

Moving Past Betrayal & Finding Healing (33:32–34:27)

• Fan Question: How to move past the heartache of a friendship that turns out to be rooted in jealousy?
• The group turns to song and faith for comfort, singing “What God has for me, it is for me,” affirming personal strength and spiritual destiny.

Memorable Game Segment: Raw Girl-Talk Fun (31:00–33:30)

• The group plays a card game prompting bold admissions:
  • Stalking exes on social? "Yesterday." (Vee, 31:54)
  • Sending flirty DMs to celebrities—complete with playful peer pressure and plenty of laughter.
• This segment showcases the joy and humor characteristic of real “group chat” energy.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Jazzy on perspective (04:13):
  "I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude to being... To being busy at all."

• Savia on holistic well-being (07:16):
  "All of it matters. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other. You gotta go to the gym, watch what you eat... It's all the things that add to your joy, your wellness, and your peace."

• Shamia's advice on giving yourself grace (07:58):
  "You just have to give yourself grace... if we're able to walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it."

• Jazzy on motherhood and needing support (10:46):
  "It's hard. Postpartum is not talked about enough... Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing. Just let me run it."

• Savia on minimizing pain (13:14):
  "Don't diminish what you're going through... The only way to fix something is to be honest."

• Vee's non-negotiable in relationships (14:58):
  "I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You better believe in Jesus Christ around me."

• Shamia on marriage and seasons (20:00):
  "You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's going to be seasons in your marriage..."

• B. Simone on celibacy and conviction (23:41):
  "We keeping it real, unfiltered, and raw. And then this relationship came, and God was convicting me again... He said, 'We'll just find other ways to be intimate without any sexual.'"

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:16] – Hype, welcome, show intro
• [03:01] – Opening on busyness and balance
• [04:13] – Jazzy on perspective and gratitude
• [06:18] – Savia on holistic well-being
• [07:58] – Shamia on grace
• [08:52] – Career vs. relationships
• [10:46] – Jazzy on motherhood and support
• [13:14] – Savia on naming your pain
• [14:58] – Dealbreakers/what matters in relationships
• [17:49] – Shamia: Money vs. time, healthy marriage
• [21:23] – Faith, sex, and celibacy
• [26:48] – Vee on sacrifice and faith
• [31:00] – Girl talk card game
• [33:32] – Moving past betrayal/question from fan
• [34:19] – Affirmation song
• [34:40] – Segment wrap

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Overall Tone & Takeaways

This live episode shines with warmth, candor, playfulness, and spiritual depth. Listeners are encouraged to:

• Embrace self-grace and holistic well-being
• Lean on faith especially in times of doubt or challenge
• Pursue intentional and honest relationships (romantic, platonic, or familial)
• Speak openly about struggles—from motherhood and career to heartbreak and faith journeys
• Celebrate sisterhood, laughter, and the power of a supportive group chat

Signature moment: Uplifting, musical affirmation—“What God has for me, it is for me”—capturing the healing, hopeful spirit at the heart of the podcast.

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Transcript

[Crystal]

Put your hands together. Are y' all ready to have a good time? How y' all feeling tonight.

[B. Simone]

Guys, we have so many surprises in store for you. I just want to thank you all so much for coming.

[Crystal]

I love y'. All.

[B. Simone]

I love it. I see the T shirts. So, guys, there are so many different sides to me, you know what I'm saying? I love my girls. I love good girl talk. Hey, cuz, you know I love. I love talking about Jesus. I also love some deep conversation. I'm a sapio sexual. If y' all didn't know that, you gotta get me here. And then also, I love connecting with y'. All. That's the most important part. All right, so tonight, we doing everything.

[Crystal]

Are y' all ready?

[B. Simone]

All right, so we're gonna go and get this show started. So first up, I have some real raw, unfiltered girl talk with some of my favorite girlfriends. Are y' all ready? Welcome to the stage, my sisters, Pretty V.

[Crystal]

Be Simone. What's Jazzy? Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, m. I see Tamia Morton.

[B. Simone]

I forgot how long this ponytail was. Then I done broke my fan. Help me, Lord.

[Jazzy]

Who got a fan she could borrow? I know that's right.

[Crystal]

Look, they all got fans.

[Shamia]

They gonna give it to you.

[B. Simone]

Y' all better have them fans. Thank you, baby.

[Crystal]

Take mine. Take mine, please.

[B. Simone]

All right, ladies.

[Crystal]

Hi.

[B. Simone]

Thank y' all so much for joining me today. I really appreciate it. I know y' all are all busy. And speaking of being busy, I ain't gonna lie to y'. All. Since we put this show on sale, my sweeties can attest the devil has been busy from the day we dropped it. It was something, but we here, we made it. And the devil is alive.

[Jazzy]

Sure is.

[B. Simone]

But I would be lying if I said I have not been stressed out lately trying to balance everything from putting the show together with my amazing team to balancing travel and appearances, nurturing relationships. And I recently had to check myself because I realized I'm not nurturing the relationships how I should. Now, all of us are very busy, and I just want to ask each of you, how are y' all handling? Because I need some tips. Just hoping you can help me out.

[Shamia]

Oh, my gosh.

[Jazzy]

How. How am I balancing being busy? Well, first of all, I'm a new mom, y'.

[B. Simone]

All.

[Jazzy]

Shout out to all the mommies.

[Crystal]

Mommy gang. Yes.

[Jazzy]

How many kids you got, sis?

[Crystal]

Two.

[Jazzy]

None.

[Crystal]

Two. Two, three.

[Jazzy]

Oh, my gosh. So I just had my first child a year ago. It was her birthday last week. Thank you. Thank you. So being a mom has me extremely busy. Extremely, extremely busy. But honestly, the balance that I do in order to just keep my life flowing.

[Shamia]

Oh, my gosh.

[Jazzy]

Prioritize, prioritize. Honestly, I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately. It's not easy, but I'm very blessed to be doing something because I could be waking up and doing nothing at all. So I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude to being. To being busy at all.

[B. Simone]

Yeah, right? That's a blessing.

[Jazzy]

Yes.

[B. Simone]

Veena, you got a whole devotional out. You're on the COVID upscale magazine.

[Crystal]

Come on.

[Vee]

God is good.

[Crystal]

Come on, y'. All. He is so good.

[Vee]

God is good. He's worthy to be praised.

[B. Simone]

Amen.

[Crystal]

How are you?

[B. Simone]

How are you? Wait. How are you balancing it all?

[Crystal]

Ooh, Lord.

[Vee]

First of all, I thank God for it all. Thank you so much, Crystal, for choosing all of us on this stage right now. We thank y'. All. Give it up for Crystal, y', all, forever. She is such a beautiful soul. But for real, for real, like, I mean, I just enjoy what I do, and the balance gonna come, you know? And when you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play. So, I mean, I don't really stress about the what if and maybes no more, only when it's time to make some decisions. I'm worried. But in the midst of it all, I'm just having a good time, so whatever comes with it, comes with it. And I just be prayerful in all things. So, I mean, it is what it is. I just go with the flow.

[Jazzy]

There we go.

[B. Simone]

I love that. B, my sis, you just launched an app. You have a podcast as well. It's coming. Okay. The app is coming. You have a podcast, you're doing comedy shows, you're all over the world, and you're traveling. She's doing. Is it two countries or one country every.

[Savia]

I want to go to one country a month this year.

[B. Simone]

One country a month.

[Crystal]

Yeah.

[B. Simone]

So that's right.

[Savia]

So I'm doing good. It's only March, though. Ask me in June.

[B. Simone]

Yeah.

[Savia]

To answer your question, first of all, your edges are beautiful.

[B. Simone]

Shout out Sornel Charnel.

[Jazzy]

Charnel.

[Savia]

They are so thick. I'm over here, like, okay, let me brush my hair.

[Vee]

Little finish. I was just talking about this.

[Savia]

One of my best friends, Shekinah in the back, just saying. She was like, how do you feel? I was like, I feel so good. And I was. The lady was touching us up in the back, the makeup lady. I'M sorry. I don't know her name.

[Jazzy]

Tiffany.

[B. Simone]

Yes.

[Vee]

Yes.

[Savia]

She was great. And I was like, I'm about to cry because I remember sitting in makeup chairs crying because I didn't feel good and I had to go to work. And I'm about to cry now because I feel good, and I'm in this makeup chair and I have to go to work. So I said all that to say this week, man, I've been honed in. And Shekinah was like, what do you think it is? I'm like, I don't know. Cause I've done everything. I got a chef and changed my diet. I was in the sauna four times a week. I've been doing two a day. So that just goes to tell you and show you all of it matters. All of it matters. From your health to your wellness to your mindset to your reading to everything. I had church today. I went to two services.

[Crystal]

I'm like, come on.

[B. Simone]

It showed up.

[Savia]

All of it matters.

[B. Simone]

Feel good.

[Savia]

Shekinah was like, what's the mission when you go out there? I was like, to exude joy. I hope y' all feel this joy. And I'm just so glad to be on a stage where I feel good. But all of it matters. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other. You gotta go to the gym, if you gotta walk, you gotta watch what you eat. You got. It's all the things that add to your joy, your wellness, and your peace.

[B. Simone]

That's so good. I love that. Shia, the mother of all trades, she does everything.

[Crystal]

Oh, my gosh.

[B. Simone]

Y' all make me feel so cool.

[Crystal]

It's all for me.

[B. Simone]

Offer smiles anyway.

[Shamia]

No, I'm just. Honestly, I told myself, you just have to give yourself grace, because I'll start out my day with a list of 10 things, and if I can get through half of it, I'm like, you know what? I did good. I was actually listening to B talk, and I looked down and I saw my boot was halfway zipped, and I was like, oh, then there's that. I mean, you know, just get yourself. Get your clothes on. I mean, honestly, I think when you're. You're a mom and a career woman and you're doing all the things, sometimes we get so wound up and wrapped up in everyday things, and you're like, I didn't get to it, or I'm not doing enough, or you get flustered. And I can just say, give yourself grace. Because most people aren't doing 500 jobs like us, you know, that's good. And if we're able to be above the ground and just walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it.

[B. Simone]

I love that. I love that. So we are all very career driven and we are go getters. And oftentimes when it comes to our love lives, it can take the backseat. I know for me, I'm in a relationship and trying to.

[Crystal]

You knew that.

[B. Simone]

Justin was there. Justin, you were there. He said that really happened. But, yeah, it's like trying to balance everything. And I had to check. I had to ask one day, how are you? Because I realized I had been so consumed in everything that I was doing that I hadn't really checked in properly. And I think there's so many times, because I'm a creative and when I get. I can literally lose myself in creativity and I forget everything else that's going on. I'll be up all hours of the night and I'm like, oh, it's 4 in the morning, I need to go to sleep, you know, because I actually love what I do. Have you guys had any issues with that as well? And trying to balance relationships and nurturing, whether it's platonic or romantic or even family relationships, I went right to you.

[Crystal]

Are you looking at me?

[B. Simone]

Oh, my gosh. Okay.

[Jazzy]

Yes, yes. Honestly, you know, and I. I hate to be that person. Just keep talking about my child. But when you have a child and you're in a relationship, it changes things. You know, you might go from, I know we got sanctified holy people in here Sunday. When you go from it being every day, two times a day to maybe once a week. Cause the baby on your titty, she hating on you, he mad at her. It's like, it's hard. It really is. It's really hard. But I think that, you know, you just gotta find time. And it's funny that you said that you didn't check on your man, because for me, it's like, I do so much. I was looking for somebody to check on me.

[Crystal]

Ooh. Mm.

[B. Simone]

That's the word.

[Jazzy]

You know what I'm saying? I said. Because I'm going to say it like this postpartum is not talked about enough. And we don't support each other enough in that. And it is hard. It is hard. And it is dark. It is very dark. And you know, you know, it's dark. So sometimes, just because I might look nice and pretty on the outside doesn't mean that I don't have internal damage. Going on on the inside?

[Crystal]

Because I woke up, I cooked for.

[Jazzy]

Everybody, I fed everybody, and I realized it's four o', clock, I didn't eat a thing, and nobody even asked me if I ate a thing. Baby on a titty all day. She good, she chunky and fed. And here I am, starving, malnourished, losing my ass.

[Crystal]

Jazzy, it's hard.

[B. Simone]

It's real.

[Jazzy]

It's really hard. And I think that it just goes back to your support. Support system. You having them people who really check in on you and be like, hey, listen, I know you're busy. I know you got a lot going on, but, like, how are you?

[B. Simone]

Right?

[Jazzy]

What's going on with you?

[B. Simone]

Right? That's real.

[Jazzy]

Can I help you do anything? Can you just vent real quick?

[B. Simone]

Come on, now.

[Jazzy]

Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing. Just let me run it. You know? But the balance, you just have to make a conscious effort, and you just have to. Anything else that's important in your life and you're intentional about. If it's important to you, you gotta be intentional about that, too.

[B. Simone]

I love that. I love that. That's good. That's so good.

[Jazzy]

I'm working to pray for me, y'.

[B. Simone]

All.

[Crystal]

Cause I ain't figured it out yet.

[Jazzy]

I'm still trying, but just being intentional with everything that I do along with my relationship. But I also need him to be intentional, too.

[B. Simone]

Come on.

[Jazzy]

So it goes both ways.

[B. Simone]

That's so good, Bina. You talk about if you sing it for too much longer, you're gonna be a nun at this point. Home.

[Savia]

I can't wait to say. Oh, this is how me and my husband balance work life and entrepreneur life with my man.

[Crystal]

My man.

[Savia]

I can't wait. It's coming. Thank you, Lord.

[Shamia]

Claim it and you shall receive.

[Savia]

Every morning, I'll be like, ooh, okay. Yeah, you know, I just figure it out. But balancing this. This came up in therapy. Well, it wasn't really a therapy session. It was a podcast episode with Thema Bryant.

[B. Simone]

Yes. Yes.

[Savia]

Dr. Bryant was on my podcast, and she was like, you have to realize that when you go through bad things, we're like, it's not that bad. We all probably do that. Like, it's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad because you've been through worse. No, it's not that bad. It's still bad.

[B. Simone]

Yes.

[Savia]

Don't diminish the things you're going. It's not that bad. It's just A little. Just lost another friend. No, that's bad. Another betrayal. That's bad. Another jealous spirit. That's bad. Another. Oh, he just cheated on. This is not that. No, that's bad. Don't diminish what you're going through. So I think to balance it all, you have to address it. You know, you have to address it. You have to address the postpartum, like Jaz said. You have to address. I'm not. Okay. You have to address. The only way to fix something is to be honest.

[Jazzy]

Come on now.

[Savia]

You can't brush it under the rug. I need a minute yet. I want to strangle my friend or my boyfriend or my baby.

[Jazzy]

That's real. That's real.

[Crystal]

No, that's real. That's real. That's real. Okay.

[Savia]

Intrusive thoughts. I'm just saying.

[Shamia]

No, that's real.

[Savia]

Address it so you can fix it. Don't bury it. And. And. And then now it's a snowball effect and you blow up and really do it.

[B. Simone]

Yeah, right. Oh, Lord.

[Crystal]

It's true.

[B. Simone]

That's really, though.

[Crystal]

I'm serious.

[B. Simone]

You have to talk to someone.

[Crystal]

You know what I'm saying?

[Savia]

Talk to somebody. The only way to get through is to start walking through it and address it.

[B. Simone]

I love that. Be. That's so good.

[Crystal]

Everybody.

[B. Simone]

Let me ask you a different question. When you're dating or looking, well, I guess as a woman, you don't look, they find you. Come on now. What are the most important things for you? And what's your deal breakers?

[Vee]

Ooh, my deal breakers. And what's important to me? One thing about it. Two things for sure. What's good? Anybody out here? I'm single, but let's be very clear. I am single. But you gotta be God fearing for me. Like all this, like, who the libra is and what the sun done told y'. All, like, I don't want to hear about that. I want to hear about what God said, you know, I want to know what he talking about. What's in your spirit, man? What's in your inner man? Because your inner man got to talk to me, you know, I'm that girl. But you have to be God fearing. I'm not telling you that. You have to be the pastor's son. You know, we don't got to go down to God's redeeming temple every Sunday. Sometimes. I know you may be busy, but just make sure you hold on to God's word and it's embedded in you. You know, thank God for the foundation that I Have. And I want my man to walk in that as well. In that light, the deal breakers are for me is. Let me see, let me see. Oh, Lord, you a liar, you a cheater, you a deceiver, heartbreaker. And I won't let you back in my life. So I'm taking the house. The house. Okay. Lord, I want it all.

[Crystal]

Oh, Lord.

[Vee]

I mean, like I said, God fearing man. I mean respectable man. You have to be, you know, I'm Caribbean, so you have to have some manners, okay? You have to have some manners. You have to walk with some manners, you know. But God fearing is my foundation. There's no if, ands or buts about it. I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You better believe in Jesus Christ around me. You know, if it's a man, get to it. You don't have to be perfect. I'm not asking. I'm not asking for you to be perfect. I'm not asking for you to be head to toe this and the third. You might have a limp in your dip. I might stick still talk to you. You might, you might have a little bit of. I might still. You know, we could work some things out.

[Crystal]

No, no, no. I'm not saying that limp.

[Savia]

I'm not saying that limp.

[Vee]

But make sure you have something. Okay? I'm not saying that limp. Cause we gonna have to ask God to fix that. You know, I can't talk to that now. But the deal breakers for sure. You just can't cheat.

[B. Simone]

That's it. Can't. Don't do that.

[Crystal]

Can't.

[Vee]

Okay, I might take him back, but you thinking cheat?

[Savia]

Kendra.

[Crystal]

What kind of cheating was it? What kind of cheating?

[Vee]

Okay, the first time, okay, my 10 kids. 10 kids. Somebody, somebody. It's something down there. Something.

[Crystal]

10, 10 kids.

[Savia]

Nine is fine.

[B. Simone]

That's a deal right here.

[Vee]

Maybe four over. That is a problem.

[Shamia]

I don't know.

[B. Simone]

Oh my goodness. Okay, Shamia, you are married. And a wise man once said, a man with no money has a lot of time and a man with money has no time. When you were deciding on your person, did you choose time or money?

[Shamia]

Ooh, that's a great question. Money. No, I'm kidding.

[Crystal]

Duh.

[Shamia]

No, no, seriously, I'mma keep it 100. I mean, you know, my mom used to always say, find you somebody, baby, that love you more than you love them. Oh my God. And I used to be like, ugh, why would I. No. Like, and this is my second go. My first marriage, I was like, you know, just all about just love. But My heart and. But he's so. And he's so sexy and so handsome and all the things, right? But he was horrible. He was abusive. He didn't care for my heart, and he had money. So I said, the next time around, God fearing. It's got to be the center of our lives. And I don't want anybody with kids anymore because the last one had a kid. And the kid used to cuss me out better than the stepmom. I used to be like, man, both of you, the child and the. She can cuss too. So I was like, this time around, I had to be honest with myself. Like, I came from a household where my mom and dad both lived under the same roof. And I was lucky enough to have both parents there. And I was like, I want something like that. And I was like, well, I shouldn't have to minimize and change up my wish list because there could be somebody out there like that. So I met my husband, and he was not what I thought. You know, I would have as a husband, like, to just keep it. 100 people would come under my page like, oh, she got her African. Then they would like tag me in the African starter kit, which was like the Chanel bag and like the ashy flip flop shoes. And I would be like, why? He's not this. And I mean. And to be honest, he really was.

[Jazzy]

He's amazing.

[Shamia]

Like, he's. Again, it was not what I had put on paper, but he was all the other things that I needed, you know, back then, you know, they didn't want me. Now I'm hot. They all on me. He wanted me when I wasn't hot. Like when I wasn't shaking pom poms and getting that $25 a game. And, you know, I just, like, he believed in me in moments that I didn't even believe in myself. And I think that's what you need. You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's gonna be seasons in your marriage or relationship where he gonna be hot. And I'm like, well, hold on now. You know, been in the gym and you got your little chest wall. You feel, you know, but it really is important because then when you start dreaming and you want the career and all the things, like right now I'm able to be here amongst the stage with all these beautiful ladies with you.

[Jazzy]

Because he at home with the children.

[B. Simone]

Come on now. A helpmate.

[Shamia]

A lot of times sometimes we say, oh, money. Well, then there's roles in a relationship, but not in this one. He understands, like, these roles and the things change when it comes down to a successful marriage. As long as you are God fearing, you have your finances in order. Because, hello, I like nice stuff. And you have that sex. Because that is very important. Even, you know, you might have to speak on the mic. It's important. And, yeah. And, yeah, it's a thing you said.

[Savia]

Speak on the mic.

[B. Simone]

That's what you said. Because.

[Shamia]

Because even when you can't communicate and they mad at you, if you sing a little song on the mic, they gonna be like, you know, okay, I forgive you. So I just think you just gotta.

[B. Simone]

Keep those things in order, you know.

[Shamia]

Sex, finance, communication, and God.

[B. Simone]

Come on. I love it. I love that. So I think it's safe to say that all of us are really strong in our faith. We've all, at some point, had conversations about just our faith and how we've had to lean on God in certain situations. And I would say recently I just did a podcast about this and opened up about you talking about sex. About God convicting me on sex. Yeah, I'm with you, B. I mean, B, I ain't doing it no more. I've been delivered. I promise.

[Savia]

Stop.

[Crystal]

Swear.

[Shamia]

You ain't doing what no more?

[Crystal]

Wait, I'm mixing swear. Chilling here. I'm like, swear. Swear.

[Shamia]

So wait, for real?

[B. Simone]

For real, for real.

[Savia]

Wait, so you celibacy?

[Jazzy]

Yes.

[Crystal]

Oh, my goodness.

[Jazzy]

Congratulations.

[Shamia]

That's amazing.

[B. Simone]

Thank you, baby. Yeah. So thank y'. All.

[Crystal]

I'm so glad.

[Savia]

Is the goal until marriage.

[B. Simone]

Yes, the goals until marriage. Yeah. Because.

[Savia]

Y' all need to get married next week.

[Crystal]

Listen. Okay.

[B. Simone]

Come on, Lord.

[Crystal]

Sweetest thing.

[Shamia]

But does that include my talks?

[B. Simone]

Does that include what and everything? Honey, I threw my vibrator away.

[Crystal]

What? Yes.

[B. Simone]

I was dead serious. Yeah.

[Vee]

So, like, I was.

[B. Simone]

I've been really in my Bible. And, like, every time I would read it, it seemed like I have on this Bible plan. So it gives you, like, different books to read from. And I feel like every morning it was like, sexual immorality. I'm like. It was just, like, jumping out the page.

[Crystal]

I'm like, lord, which.

[B. Simone]

Okay, calm down. And finally, I just got to the point. I was like, all right, God, and I'm in a relationship, and just transparently, I was having sex. So I was like, this man's about to leave me. You know what I'm saying? Cause, like, you feel like we have been conditioned. I'm sure we all can assess we've been conditioned. That what you don't do, another woman will. Right? Yeah. So we've been, like, really groomed to, like, take care of a man and make sure that we know what we doing, you know? And when we had that conversation, I literally was in my kitchen, like, crying as we're on the phone. And God was like, you just gotta trust me on this. And I had done this before, and the relationship didn't work out. So I was like, well, that didn't work. So I'm gonna go on back to busting wide open and maybe.

[Crystal]

Keep it real.

[B. Simone]

I'm just being trans. We keeping it real, unfiltered and raw. And then this relationship came, and God was convicted me again. I was like, all right, I really have to take this serious. So we got through that, and he was like, no. He said, we'll just find other ways to be intimate without any sexual. Yeah. Yes. So I. We're doing that. And that was December, that we, like, stopped that. And then I was at home. I was at home. And God literally said. I was sitting in bed. And he said that, too. And I said, what you talking about? You know what I'm talking about. And I looked to the nightstand, I.

[Crystal]

Said, now you're taking it too far, Lord.

[B. Simone]

He said that, too. And he. So I literally pulled it out my vibrator out the drawer, put it in the trash can. And it was the day that my cleaning ladies were coming, and that's when I knew I was serious. Cause I said on the podcast, I said, if I wouldn't. If they didn't come that day, I might have pulled that thing back out.

[Savia]

And washed it off.

[Crystal]

I put the soap on it one more time. One more time.

[Savia]

One for the roll.

[Crystal]

I'm on full charge. I don't want to waste it. Right? Don't waste that charge. I'm done. I'm on a hundred.

[Vee]

You doing away on a hundred?

[B. Simone]

On a hundred. Listen, 99 and a half on, dude. That's what they said. I'm trying to make a hundred. Okay? But no, I just want to know, like, has there been any. Any moments in your life where you guys have been tested, your faith has been tested, where God has really, like, pushed you to your limits? Because that was a limit for me. I said that flesh is hard to fight. Anybody want to chime in?

[Crystal]

V, y'? All.

[Shamia]

V just was like, skip me, skip me, skip me.

[Crystal]

Look at B. Hates when I do that.

[Vee]

She be like, oh, my God, I.

[Savia]

Don'T want you to do that.

[Vee]

It's like, you're like, my little sister. Don't do that.

[Savia]

I can't imagine being a heaven sex, you guys.

[Crystal]

She's like.

[Savia]

I mean, she never tells me anything, but I'm just saying. I'm like, B, what do you be doing? She like, girl, she be showing me how to dance and stuff. I'm like, you. You do not be doing that.

[Vee]

You know what's so crazy is me and B be talking about, like, celibacy. It was one year, and I told her, like, I haven't had. I wasn't having sex in for, like, four years.

[B. Simone]

Wow.

[Vee]

Four years.

[Savia]

No sense.

[B. Simone]

That's amazing, right?

[Vee]

But then some dude came around, and you already know how that go. Dreadhead tattoos. You like, oh, God. Let's talk.

[B. Simone]

I'm from Florida, y'. All.

[Crystal]

All right.

[Savia]

And.

[Vee]

Well, the last time I had sex was. I could talk about this was September 6th. So I didn't walk in the new year with, you know, having sex. I was. And I think I'm gonna wait, you know, I don't know about the marriage, Crystal.

[Crystal]

I might do that.

[Vee]

I might. I don't know. God hasn't. I just don't. Right. In this season, I'm just not in a space of talking to anybody. So I am. Like I said, I am single. And in this season, I really was just focused. Like I said, it took me two years to write my devotional, so I really and truly didn't walk in this season with a group chat or friends and all that good stuff. I spoke to, like, three, four people in this season. It was B. Simone, my hair stylist, makeup artist, my mother. And I just kept at it because I knew I had to sacrifice something. And that was one of the ones. Like, September 6th was that. And again, I was intimate with this particular person. So I was like, okay, we're not even talking to each other no more. We're not dealing with each other no more. I could just stop this whole thing. And I haven't had sex since that. So I just was so focused on putting this book out, really posturing my heart really and truly. Thank y'.

[B. Simone]

All.

[Vee]

Like, literally posturing my heart, clearing my mind. Like I said, I'm not. I used to stress about the what ifs and maybes. I used to be depressed. I know what anxiety looks like. I know what nervousness looks like. I know what it is to really battle the what ifs and maybes. And I just told myself, I can't do that in a season if I'm writing day one, do 100 I have to live by something. I can't tell my readers and my listeners that I'm doing this. I'm out here, I'm da, da, da, da. I'm having, like, yeah, put it in.

[Savia]

Yeah, yeah.

[Vee]

Like what, nigga, what? Like, it don't go like that. Like, it don't go. Like it just don't make sense. Like, of course I'm a comedian. I'mma be funny. I'm gonna be on the table. I'm gonna have my little G string with boots on. We gonna dance, we gonna do all this stuff. But the foundation of what my source is. God. Cause I remember when. I remember when I sit beside this. Watch Jazzy. And she was the first one that took me on the road. You feel me? The first person to take me on the road. The first one. Give it up for Jack. The first one that took me on the road. I haven't seen this face since 28, 17, 18, like, face to face. I haven't seen her since then. And she has been. Been doing her thing, being a mother, you know, killing it. But I haven't told you that. I just love you. I love you for stretching. Like, no, seriously, I could say that because I haven't. We haven't spoken, you know, in a minute. But you. You were the first one to take me on the road when everyone else did not believe. And you told me, girl, get on the road. Like, you're so funny, you'll be able to do this. And I'm like, jaz, I'm in Charlotte. I gotta figure it all out. I don't know what to do. Just go and do it. And there was a lot of haters that are on that tour that year that was like, oh, she can't do this. She could just host. But you said, nah, my friend could do it at that time. So I appreciate you for just stretching me and pulling me 2017 to say, come on the road. And that was my first tour. Then Wild N Out came. And if you guys know my story. And every time, I always say I lied to get on Wild N Out. And Jazz was the one who told me, girl, tell them that D.C. and Carlos, your uncle, like, here's the email. Here's the email. And so that was her. So every interview I do, I always say, my friend at the time told me to lie on the.

[Savia]

Just lie in the application.

[Vee]

Just lie in the email and just say, dc, your cousin, Carlos, your uncle, girl, you'll get in. And I did, you know, So I appreciate that.

[Crystal]

I appreciate that.

[Vee]

I appreciate that, big dog. Like, you really helped me in that space. So, again, my faith has always been rocky. I used to dwell on my mother's faith so much because she's such a prayer warrior. And I was like, how the doctor just told you that Dominique gonna die in 72 hours and you still going on. That's what the doctors told my brother. He had 72 hours to live this. When I was in Miami, he was on breathing tubes. He had to feed through his stomach. He fell off his motorcycle. And my mama said, okay. Well, that's what the doctor said. But the guy that I served. Yeah, yeah, the guy that I served said, okay. Now I need to go on my fast for 72 hours. And I have a brother. To this day, I have a nephew. I have a nephew. So it's in my bloodline. And again, I had to shape in my heart and get my posture and get my mind right to come into this season to be something else. And I always say, I don't want someone to know me from when, from back then. What do I look like now? And I stand tall in my victory. I do.

[B. Simone]

I love it. Ladies, this has been beautiful. Oh, my goodness.

[Crystal]

So good.

[B. Simone]

So I am introducing a new girl talk game. Before we close out this segment of the show, I want to play it with y'. All. Are y' all down?

[Vee]

Okay, let's do it.

[B. Simone]

All right, let's do it. So there should be some cards.

[Jazzy]

Okay.

[B. Simone]

Next to you, these little cards. Do you see your car? You got your cards. So I'll go first. All right. Oh, Lord.

[Vee]

Yeah.

[B. Simone]

Well, I ain't got my phone on me, but it says, send a voice note to someone saying, I had a dream about you last night. And let them wonder.

[Jazzy]

Ooh, yeah.

[Savia]

Send it to your man right now. Get Crystal.

[Crystal]

Where's my phone? Props, can we get Crystal's phone?

[B. Simone]

No phone.

[Savia]

And you gotta say it in that voice. I had a dream about you.

[B. Simone]

No.

[Savia]

Cause you trying to be celibate. I'm sorry. Look at the devil.

[Crystal]

See? Give me your own people.

[Savia]

I'm sorry. I don't want to.

[B. Simone]

Okay, so somebody else goes, so we can keep it going, and then we'll get to this.

[Vee]

Mine says, so you going, Vee, I was talking for five minutes. It's okay.

[Crystal]

Okay, okay.

[Vee]

Have you ever stalked an ex or their new boo on social media? Be honest. Yes, I did.

[Savia]

Yesterday.

[Vee]

Yesterday.

[Crystal]

Yesterday.

[B. Simone]

That's good.

[Savia]

Okay, so I'm ready already because I'm really excited about this one.

[Jazzy]

So I'm going.

[Savia]

Hand you My phone. It's already on my DMs. This says, Let the group pick someone for you to send a flirty DM to.

[Crystal]

Pick.

[Vee]

Go.

[Crystal]

Oh.

[Savia]

It'S like, pick a celebrity.

[Crystal]

Pick. Hold on now. No, no. Did you.

[Savia]

Who did you say?

[Vee]

I'm not going to tell you.

[B. Simone]

You said, choose the phone.

[Crystal]

Okay, say it.

[B. Simone]

No, you.

[Savia]

No, you got to say it out loud.

[Shamia]

No, no.

[Crystal]

You want.

[B. Simone]

Before you tell them.

[Savia]

Who is it? I want to see somebody new and fresh.

[Crystal]

What if. What if you go to it and.

[B. Simone]

The DM already lit it?

[Savia]

Gotta be somebody. I don't know. They already been talking like somebody. I'm trying to bag somebody new.

[Crystal]

Wait, they already got a message together. I'm looking at the corner of my eye.

[Jazzy]

They already got a message in there together.

[Vee]

What is she saying?

[Jazzy]

And her. Wait, and her bubble is already big.

[B. Simone]

That she already said something to him. They had already said something.

[Crystal]

What's the flirty. Oh, we all want to know. What's the flirty text saying?

[Savia]

Dm the baby talking about, hey, boo, I still like you.

[Crystal]

I knew it was him. I knew it was him. I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. Thank God for the unseen angel. Look at you, Vanish mode. Oh, my God.

[Savia]

I'm like Sandy.

[B. Simone]

Okay, now, Savia, what you got?

[Shamia]

Okay, I know which one y' all want me to do.

[B. Simone]

Let's pick one, because we run a long time. So go ahead and pick one.

[Shamia]

Okay. I'll just do the fan question. Alexia.

[Jazzy]

Timothy.

[Shamia]

Hey, best friend, you in here?

[Crystal]

Okay.

[Shamia]

Alexia.

[B. Simone]

There she is.

[Shamia]

Okay. See, I'm trying to look out for you. So she wrote, how do you move past the heartache of what you thought was a genuine friendship, but in actuality was jealousy rearing. Rearing its ugly head?

[B. Simone]

Wow.

[Shamia]

Take us there.

[Savia]

Come on, take us now.

[Crystal]

What God has for me. Come on.

[B. Simone]

It is for me.

[Crystal]

Come on. What God has for me it is for me. I know without that, he will bring me out.

[B. Simone]

Yeah.

[Shamia]

What God.

[Crystal]

It is for me. Yeah.

[B. Simone]

Oh, that's the perfect answer, baby. That's good, ladies. I love y'. All.

[Crystal]

We love you.

[B. Simone]

I'm so serious. Thank you guys so much.

[Crystal]

Thank you, guys. You guys, stay tuned.

[B. Simone]

We have so much more in store for y'.

[Crystal]

All.

[B. Simone]

DJ Mars, take us away.

[Crystal]

Let's go, y', all, let's go.