Podcast Summary: Keep It Positive, Sweetie – KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

Podcast: Keep It Positive, Sweetie
Host: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts (Crystal Renee Hayslett)
Episode Air Date: March 30, 2025
Episode: KIPS LIVE SHOW Pt. 1: The Group Chat

Main Theme & Purpose

This special live episode of Keep It Positive, Sweetie is all about sisterhood, faith, self-worth, balancing career and personal life, and real talk about the ups and downs of womanhood. Led by Crystal Renee Hayslett and joined by special guests B. Simone, Pretty Vee (Vee), Jazzy, Shamia Morton, and Savia, the group dives into “group chat” style conversations. The setting is uplifting, unfiltered, and deeply honest—aimed at inspiring and encouraging listeners to keep it healing, keep it honest, and always keep it positive.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Opening & Introductions (00:16–03:01)

• Crystal and B. Simone hype up their live audience, expressing love and gratitude.
• B. Simone shares the excitement for the diverse conversation ahead, including faith, deep talks, and relationship topics.
• The atmosphere is celebratory and inclusive, setting the stage for candid dialogue.

Navigating Busyness & Finding Balance (03:01–08:52)

• B. Simone opens up about the stress of balancing work, travel, and relationships, seeking advice from the panel.
• Jazzy (03:33): "Prioritize, prioritize. I wake up every day, and I'm a slave immediately... I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude."
• Vee (05:00): "I just enjoy what I do, and the balance gonna come. When you just have fun with everything, everything falls into play... I just go with the flow."
• Savia (06:18): Highlights the importance of holistic self-care: "All of it matters. From your health to your wellness to your mindset to your reading to everything. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other."
• Shamia (07:58): "You just have to give yourself grace... Most people aren't doing 500 jobs like us... if we're able to walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it."

Love, Relationships & Support Systems (08:52–14:44)

• B. Simone brings up how career focus can overshadow romantic and personal relationships.
• Jazzy (10:04–11:54): Speaks candidly about postpartum struggles, needing support, and the reality of feeling unseen as a mother: "Just because I might look nice and pretty on the outside doesn't mean... I don't have internal damage going on the inside... Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing. Just let me run it."
• Savia (13:14): Advice from podcast guest Dr. Thema Bryant about acknowledging hardships: "Don't diminish what you're going through... Another betrayal. That's bad. Another jealous spirit. That's bad. Address it so you can fix it. Don't bury it."
• The group agrees: intentionality and honesty are key to maintaining all forms of relationships.

Dealbreakers & Values in Dating (14:44–17:31)

• Crystal asks about what’s important and what are dealbreakers in relationships.
• Vee (14:58): "You gotta be God-fearing for me... I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You better believe in Jesus Christ around me."
• Vee humorously lists other dealbreakers: dishonesty, cheating, lack of respect and manners.
• Shamia (17:49): Shares the lesson that love alone is not enough without respect, security, and shared values. Her own story includes leaving an unhealthy relationship for one rooted in faith and support.

Marriage, Money vs. Time, and Faith (17:31–21:23)

• Shamia (17:49–20:34): Answers whether she chose a partner based on time or money, ultimately valuing love, character, shared faith, and partnership over status or image:

  "You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's going to be seasons in your marriage... As long as you are God fearing, have finances in order, and have that sex...communication and God."

• The importance of partnership, flexibility, and shared purpose in marriage is highlighted.

Faith, Conviction, and Celibacy (21:23–27:31)

• Crystal and B. Simone discuss recent journeys around sex, celibacy, and spiritual conviction.
• B. Simone (22:02): Announces her choice of celibacy until marriage, including giving up her vibrator, prompted by spiritual conviction:

  "I had done this before and the relationship didn’t work out. So I was like, well it didn’t work—so I’m gonna go on back to busting wide open... But this relationship came, and God was convicting me again."

• Vee and others share their own stories of periods of celibacy and sacrificing for spiritual clarity and purpose.
• Vee (26:48): "In this season, I really was just focused... I had to sacrifice something." She credits faith as central to resilience and growth, recounting personal family miracles and the importance of not being defined by the past.

Moving Past Betrayal & Finding Healing (33:32–34:27)

• Fan Question: How to move past the heartache of a friendship that turns out to be rooted in jealousy?
• The group turns to song and faith for comfort, singing “What God has for me, it is for me,” affirming personal strength and spiritual destiny.

Memorable Game Segment: Raw Girl-Talk Fun (31:00–33:30)

• The group plays a card game prompting bold admissions:
  • Stalking exes on social? "Yesterday." (Vee, 31:54)
  • Sending flirty DMs to celebrities—complete with playful peer pressure and plenty of laughter.
• This segment showcases the joy and humor characteristic of real “group chat” energy.

Notable Quotes & Moments

• Jazzy on perspective (04:13):
  "I try to just shift my perspective from being overwhelmed to be overjoyed with gratitude to being... To being busy at all."

• Savia on holistic well-being (07:16):
  "All of it matters. You can't just focus on one area of your life and neglect the other. You gotta go to the gym, watch what you eat... It's all the things that add to your joy, your wellness, and your peace."

• Shamia's advice on giving yourself grace (07:58):
  "You just have to give yourself grace... if we're able to walk in our purpose and in God's will, we're doing it."

• Jazzy on motherhood and needing support (10:46):
  "It's hard. Postpartum is not talked about enough... Sometimes I just need to call and be like, don't say nothing. Just let me run it."

• Savia on minimizing pain (13:14):
  "Don't diminish what you're going through... The only way to fix something is to be honest."

• Vee's non-negotiable in relationships (14:58):
  "I'm not negotiating what you believe in. You better believe in Jesus Christ around me."

• Shamia on marriage and seasons (20:00):
  "You need someone that loves you more than what you love them at the moment because it's gonna shift and there's going to be seasons in your marriage..."

• B. Simone on celibacy and conviction (23:41):
  "We keeping it real, unfiltered, and raw. And then this relationship came, and God was convicting me again... He said, 'We'll just find other ways to be intimate without any sexual.'"

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:16] – Hype, welcome, show intro
• [03:01] – Opening on busyness and balance
• [04:13] – Jazzy on perspective and gratitude
• [06:18] – Savia on holistic well-being
• [07:58] – Shamia on grace
• [08:52] – Career vs. relationships
• [10:46] – Jazzy on motherhood and support
• [13:14] – Savia on naming your pain
• [14:58] – Dealbreakers/what matters in relationships
• [17:49] – Shamia: Money vs. time, healthy marriage
• [21:23] – Faith, sex, and celibacy
• [26:48] – Vee on sacrifice and faith
• [31:00] – Girl talk card game
• [33:32] – Moving past betrayal/question from fan
• [34:19] – Affirmation song
• [34:40] – Segment wrap

Overall Tone & Takeaways

This live episode shines with warmth, candor, playfulness, and spiritual depth. Listeners are encouraged to:

• Embrace self-grace and holistic well-being
• Lean on faith especially in times of doubt or challenge
• Pursue intentional and honest relationships (romantic, platonic, or familial)
• Speak openly about struggles—from motherhood and career to heartbreak and faith journeys
• Celebrate sisterhood, laughter, and the power of a supportive group chat

Signature moment: Uplifting, musical affirmation—“What God has for me, it is for me”—capturing the healing, hopeful spirit at the heart of the podcast.