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Chris Renee Hayslett (0:00)
Calling all my sweeties to the forefront. I'm your host, Chris Renee Hazlet, and this is the Keep It Positive Sweetie Show. Hello, and welcome to this episode of the Keep It Positive Sweetie Show. A safe space to heal, laugh, grow, and love. I'm your host, Chris Renee Hayslett, and today is another solo episode. Because you guys love these. Today I'm answering questions. It's fun. I even broke the fourth wall and included some of my crew. So let's have a good time. I hope you guys enjoy this one. All right, guys, so I'm going to do something different on this episode. I'm going to be answering a few questions that will also bring you into my mindset and how I think about things. The first one is Delulu or manifestation. Hmm. The power of dreaming big. I can definitely tend to be a little Delulu. I remember, like, growing up, and my mom would always say, oh, my goodness, you are literally the biggest risk taker of the family. And I think it got me to where I am today because I see no bounds to how far I can go. Some of the craziest things I did growing up, I remember when I was in Washington, D.C. working on Capitol Hill. I drove from D.C. to New York to audition for Diddy's Assistant. Yeah, it was crazy because I wanted to be a singer. I wanted to be an entertainer. And I was like, okay, what's the best way to go about this? I've always. Even from back then, I've always been a firm believer of putting yourself around what you want to do so that you can learn from all aspects of that space. And that was one of the craziest things I did. I clearly didn't get it. And then I remember another time when I was working on Capitol Hill in D.C. that this was when then Senator Obama was running for his first term in presidency. And his. One of his. I don't know if he was a legislative correspondent or. But he worked in Senator Obama's office at the time. And he was like, hey, Crystal. He was like, senator Obama's running for president and we have some paid positions to come work on the campaign. Would you want to come do it? And I'm like, heck, yeah. And he was like, all right, bet. So I called my parents. I'm like, hey, guys, guys, I'm going to quit my job and I'm going to go work on the Obama campaign. And my parents were like, you are crazy. And I was like, no, I really think he's going to win. My parents were like, I don't know, because we had never seen it. And this is no slight to them. Like, nobody ever thought that we would have a black president. We were hopeful that we would have one. But at that moment, they really weren't sure that it was smart for me to quit my job to go work on a campaign for someone who I could possibly not have a job. After that moment, needless to say, I was right. They were wrong. No, but he won. And after that, they were like, you know what? We're not gonna tell you what you can and cannot do. Just go for it. Because I could have been working in the White House for the first black president, you know, but that's neither here nor there. So, yeah, I think I'm definitely Delulu when it comes to manifesting my dreams. So I guess that has played a huge part in my success today. And literally since a kid, I don't care if anybody likes it or doesn't like it. As long as I set my mind to it, there's no stopping me. So call me Delulu or whatever you want to call me. But yeah. All right. So the next one is how do I make everyday moments feel magical? I feel like I try to make everything that I do fun and enjoyable. I don't really do anything that I don't enjoy. You know, there are some things you're like, this isn't the most fun thing, but I know it's good for me. So I do it and then I end up loving it. But things that I make enjoyable and that I just really love. I love my daily routine. I love my self care routines. You guys know, in the mornings, I do my meditation, I pray, I read my bible, and I journal in my light, the flame within journal. That is very therapeutic for me. And it really helps me kind of get centered in the day and helps me fight off all the craziness that I'm ready to face throughout the day. Things that make me feel like I'm in a movie. So I just had a moment. I was in New York Fashion Week and I was sitting next to. Oh, my gosh, such an amazing moment. I was sitting next to Jay Manuel, who, if you watch America's Next Top Model, he was one of the guest judges that always made appearances on America's Next Top Model. So I have just a great, great love for J. Manuel. So I got to sit next to him at the Romeo Hunt show. And anybody who knows me knows that the Devil Wears Prada is one of my favorite movies starring Meryl Streep. And we were at this show and the show was getting started late. And I had a very, very tight schedule that day where I had to be at another show by five o'. Clock. So I was banking on that show starting on time. And J, honey, he was like, you need to leave now. And I was like, what do you mean? He was like, you don't want to be late for that show. He said, in the fashion world, there's a 15 minute grace period. And he was like, by now, Anna Wintour would be walking out. You should go. And I swear in that moment, I was like, this is a scene from a movie. It felt like a movie. There's so many points in my life that I feel like. Feel kind of like a movie where I look back and I'm like, that's my life. That's really my life. So, yeah, those are ways that I. That make my life fun. And then also moments of my life that kind of felt like a movie. Let's see what we have next. Ooh, the glow Up Error Child. We need to find some pictures of me before now. I look crazy. Somebody found a like. Well, I probably posted it, but it was a picture of me when I was a kid, my teeth were all over the place and I never wear braces. So it was like, I guess as they grew and they just grew in straight. But at that moment, it's like one was growing in. It was really bad. Even, like through high school. And I look back at my senior picture, like, how thin my eyebrows were. I'd be like, oh, my gosh, what were you thinking, girl? But becoming my best self inside out. I think for the longest, I've pretty much been a very confident person. But there was a phase in my life where I kind of lost myself and my identity and trying to find myself. And I think where I am now, I am so firm in who I am. I love who I am inside out. I love the skin I'm in. Of course, there's moments where I gain a little weight and y' all be. I be seeing y'. All. Y' all be talking about, is she pregnant, she didn't. She getting fat, all these things. But there's times where I am hard on myself. You guys don't even have to say those things because I am so hard on myself. I see it and I'm like, all right, let me fix it. And there's some things I have to do for work where they're like, you do not lose any weight. We need. You actually gain some weight because you're pregnant or whatever the case may be, and we need it to look real. But, yeah, for the most part, I am very confident. But there were times where I was like, ooh, girl, like, you gotta really pull it together. But I think things that I've done to get to that point is honestly just understanding that one. You're made in the image of God. There is no one else like you. And I think there was this moment in our culture and society where everybody was just walking, everybody was looking the same, like, everybody had the body, and it was like, there was no uniqueness. And I would compare myself to all these girls. You get on social media and everybody has the perfect body. And it was a moment where I was just like, okay, maybe I need to do a little something here. You know what I'm saying? A little here. And I remember, like, not feeling my best self in those moments. But once I got past that and realized, you know what? You are good, you know, like, do your thing. Do what works for you. And I don't knock nobody for what they do. Do you think it works for you? But as long as you feel good about it. And once I got to that place, I was good. But I had to stop comparing myself to other people and put the phone down. This child confidence is contagious. How you walk into any room like you own it. Okay, guys, let me tell you something. I am a confident woman, but when I walk into rooms, I'm not the girl that's like, hi, hey, I'm Crystal. Nice to meet you. I am the girl that's in a corner, like, not networking, not talking to people. So I had to take people with me that don't mind doing that, you know? So I don't know if I really walk into rooms. Like, I own it. You know, I do walk in if I'm spoken to, I'm definitely going to speak with you confidently and carry on a great conversation. So. So that when you leave, it's like, yo, that was a really dope conversation. But as far as me walking in and just kind of owning the room, no. Like, I feel like when you live your life in the spotlight, you kind of tend to, like, sit back in those scenarios. So I don't know if I really walk in and own it. But, yeah, I'll be chilling. I really be chilling. Let's see. Soft life versus the hustle life. Can you have both? Oh, my goodness. So this is tough for me because I. I feel like you have to be very intentional about your soft life. If you Are a woman or a man, whoever it is that is about your hustle and about your business. A lot of times I think we have misconstrue the fact that being about our business, we put aside our soft side. Because when you're about your business, you had to, you know, put on your masculine hat and be tough so people don't run over you and things like that. But I think for me, I'm finally finding the balance of doing things that bring out that softer side. Because, honey, I lost it for a minute. Like, I was. I gotta do everything. I'm hard. You know what I'm saying, Man, I ain't got nobody to help me, so let me just do it myself. Like, I was doing everything. And I remember at one point in my life, I just, like, broke down crying because I'm like, dang, I don't have anybody to, like, help with anything. You ever felt like that, Drea? Yes. It was something as simple as the garbage disposal. My garbage disposal broke. And I was, like, doing everything. I'm trying to build a business. I was new to acting and trying to balance out that schedule. And my whole life is changing, and I'm like, I literally am doing all this by myself, you know, like, I didn't have another human body to help me with it. And I think in that moment, I was like, the soft life started to kind of, like, become more popular. Because I think a lot of women who are entrepreneurs and successful started to realize, dang, I'm doing this on my own, and I've kind of become hard.