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Foreign. Hello and welcome to this episode of Kennedy Saves the world. Hallelujah. It's January 6th. No storming the Capitol. You. A lot of people are talking about Ashley Tisdale's article for the Cut that where she kind of dumped all over her mom group because they kicked her out. I have some thoughts. Ashley Tisdale is. She was like a Disney actress. And now, at least for the article, she goes by Ashley French. And she talked about having a baby in the early pandemic and developing a bond with other women in her mom group and needing people to help her navigate the early difficulties of having your first baby and trying to figure out yourself and your baby and this tiny thing that you're terrified you're going to hurt or worse, and there is no sleep, your hormones crash. And everyone tries to paint it, especially on social media, as a rosy and perfect time. But for a lot of women, it is incredibly difficult. And, you know, we're not supposed to talk about the hormonal difficulties that people experience after they have a baby. So it's really nice, as she points out, to connect with other women where you can truly be honest, where you can be yourself and you can talk about things other than the superficialities of decorating the nursery. So she talks about that and bonding with this mom group. And, you know, their kids start to get older and get into different ages in school and different activities. And then she realized because human nature is pretty much the same, it doesn't matter if you are in a friend group in junior high or in college or, you know, as you're entering the workforce, the dynamics are all pretty much the same. And when you get into a group, there are some people like Ashley Tisdale, who really don't function well in groups because, you know, I, I was never the kind of person who wanted to be a part of a group or a clique or a collective. Maybe it's the anti commie in me. I've always been much happier in individual friendships because I'm also the kind of person where if you back me into a corner, I will fight back. I never go on the offensive, but I will play defense. And that can be problematic in a group setting. I have a feeling that Ashley Tisdale is the same way. And when push comes to shove, and oftentimes the pushing is very passive aggressive and people make comments and people needle. And if you do defend yourself, then you are tarred as being a difficult person who makes the friend group acrimonious. And so they freeze you out. So that's what Happened. Ashley Tisdale. And of course, social media amplifies the very worst in people. You know, sometimes the best, sometimes, you know, a fake ideal. But, you know, sometimes it can truly bring out the better side and magnify that. But usually it just brings out the absolute worst in people and it is a tool for ostracization. So if you have a group of women and you know, you have been hanging out in a group and then all of a sudden they're all posting on their stories, they're hanging out together and you're not there, they're sending you a signal. They're sending you a signal like, we don't want you to be a part of this. You are the difficult one. You, you are the individualist who speaks up and defend yourself. And we can't have that because within a group setting, within a group dynamic, there is group think and you have to be submissive to that. And for individuals who are skeptical, free thinkers bordering on eccentric, it is very difficult to be submissive, especially when you are, you know, not intellectually challenged and you grow bored. Because when people get bored, they tend to lash out to create excitement. Don't go anywhere. More Kennedy Saves the World right after this.