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Foreign hello and welcome to this episode of Kennedy Saves the World. Very interesting op ed in Rolling Stone, written by a female high school senior talking about the guys in her grade who are now terrified of dating because they're worried that they are going to be filmed or screenshotted and shamed and then they will be embarrassed. So they are so self conscious about everything they do and say with the opposite sex that they're no longer approaching girls. They're not asking girls out and I don't know, I guess they're just hiding in their rooms on their PS5s, becoming incels. That is no way to live. You cannot live in fear. You cannot live in fear of shame people. And it's not just gen zers spending way too much time on their phones. And so. And the author makes a good point because on Snapchat and TikTok there are fail compilations where people are filmed face planting doing embarrassing things. One example she gave was a guy asked a girl out in a school hallway. The girl said no. Uh, it was posted to a Snapchat group and 200 people saw it by the time the kid went to lunch. At that point you just have to lean into it. At that point you have to live your life and say, you know what, who cares? Yes. She said, no, don't care. I'll be like Ariana Grande. Thank you. Next. And this is the part of life, like romantic life is the one part where you have to go analog. You have to be in touch with your feelings. So stop overthinking everything. And I know so many people, you know, from people in their 20s to people in their 60s who have been so horribly disappointed and let down by dating apps. And it's fascinating going through people's accounts when they're looking at people that they match with, because it is a friggin jungle out there and it is a jungle. I'm going to go back to that word that I use over and over again when I talk about love and romance and relationships and, and connecting with people. It is alchemy. There is something about our major histocompatibility complex, our pheromones, our musk, our atoms where they have to bounce off one another in order to know if you really have a connection with someone. And sure, there are a lot of people who meet on apps and that's great, but so often romance becomes completely disposable. And for a group of young men who already feel disposed of, the digital override that they face in their lives is going to keep them from deeply and meaningfully connecting with another person. And that is ultimately, as human beings, what we want. I was reading an Instagram post the other day for my friend Jana Hawking. She is, I've interviewed her on the show. She's hysterical. She's an Australian sex columnist. She is one of my colleagues at the Daily Mail. She's so funny. She's so outrageous. She's so honest and fearless. And she writes all about sex. So of course people read her stuff. They devour it. And she made a really good point the other day. You know, she talks about going to sex clubs and orgasm camp and all the things we talked about on the podcast. And she's very transparent and funny. But she made a good point the other day when she posted. She's like, you know what? I'm lonely. Sometimes I just want a boyfriend. I want someone who checks in with me, who cares about me, who asks me how I'm feeling and how my day was. And, you know, she wants that deep connection. She said, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I like casually dating and writing about it and sharing your stories and, and meeting new people. But other times I just want to be with one person. And to the women out there who brag about being single and how being alone is so much better, she goes, sometimes it is, but a lot of times it just isn't. And that is okay. Don't go anywhere. More Kennedy Saves the World right after this.