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Podcast
Kind [of a] B!*ch
Hosted by Liz Hake · EN
Society loves to label people who are bold, confident, and direct as ”bitches”. But here’s the thing—shrinking to avoid that label doesn’t serve you or anyone else. This podcast is about owning your strength, speaking up, and showing up fully as yourself.
For most of my life, I cared deeply about what people thought of me. I was the “good, nice girl,” which worked… to an extent. When I pivoted from a career as a professional performer to the cutthroat world of real estate, I struggled with this fear of being called a name for being bold and direct. But I learned that showing up as my authentic self—unapologetically bold—wasn’t just freeing; it was the key to success for me and my clients.
This podcast is for anyone who’s tired of shrinking themselves to fit other people’s expectations. Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, stepping into leadership, or just figuring out how to say “no” without guilt, this is the space for you.
We’ll dive into stories of transformation—mine, and those of incredible guests who’ve rewired their mindsets and communication styles to make big moves. I’ll share tools and insights to help you show up bigger and bolder in your own life, and, spoiler alert: there might be ruffle some feathers along the way.
If you’re ready to stop apologizing for taking up space and start owning your power, this podcast is for you. Follow along and let’s rewrite the rules—together.
Liz Hake is a Seattle-based multi-hyphenate...From performing on stages around the world, to building a successful real estate practice, speaking from stages and leading her clients on their road towards engaging and authentic communication is the name of the game.
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Taking a Beat | Ep 50
Jan 600:14:52Tap to summarizeWe've made it to 50 episodes! One year of creation, musing, dedication and consistency and SO much learning. Today we're talking about the Law of Least Regret and what intentions I'm taking with me into 2026. And with that, we're also taking a break! I don't know what's next for Kind [of a] B!tch, but I'm so glad you are here. See you next time.
Transcribe →How Do You Measure A Year? | Ep 49
Dec 3000:25:52Tap to summarizeI used to be afraid of setting goals because missing one felt like a personal failure. In this episode, I'm reflecting on how my relationship with goals has changed, what happens when life responds to your effort in unexpected ways, and why I'm learning to trust timing instead of forced outcomes. This is a New Year conversation about ambition, self-trust, and holding big visions without turning them into rules.
Transcribe →Hot Take: Skip the 75 Hard Challenge | Ep 48
Dec 2300:28:20Tap to summarizeI love discipline. I love effort. I do not love programs that promise confidence and grit through rigid rules and punishment for being human. In this episode, I explain why 75 Hard looks like mental toughness on the surface but actually trains compliance, not self-mastery. I talk about why control often gets mistaken for confidence, how shame gets baked into all-or-nothing challenges, and why these systems tend to backfire for high performers. If you have ever wondered why extreme discipline programs never seem to stick or why you feel worse instead of stronger when you fall off, this conversation is for you.
Transcribe →New Year Manifesting vs Goal Setting | Ep 47
Dec 1600:24:07Tap to summarizeManifesting and goal setting are often treated like opposite approaches to New Year resolutions, but they are meant to work together. In this episode, we explore why vision without action leads to frustration, why hard work without intention leads to burnout, and how identity-based action is what actually creates sustainable success. I share a personal story about investing, upgrades, and what really builds credibility over time, including why buying the symbol of success never replaces consistent, embodied action. This is a grounded approach to manifesting that actually works. Follow along on Instagram: @liz.hake Work with me: www.lizhake.com
Transcribe →Letting Your Boundary Speak For Itself | Ep 46
Dec 900:29:44Tap to summarizeThis episode is for the anxious ones. The people who like to over explain, justify, or provide additional PROOF when a simple "no" would suffice. Today we'll talk about the pressure to perform when setting a boundary. That urge to educate and explain shows up fast, especially when we are concerned with perception.
Transcribe →Social Anxiety - The Mental Load of Managing Perception | Ep 45
Dec 200:24:16Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we dig into a form of social anxiety most people never talk about. It is not fear of people...it's the fear of being misread. The fear of being seen as harsh, cold, intense, or unkind when we are simply being ourselves. We'll explore why this type of anxiety shows up so often for women, how cultural expectations shape our communication patterns, and why so many of us feel responsible for other people’s interpretations. We also break down the research behind the spotlight effect, the real neurological response to anticipated judgment, and why clarity is often labeled differently depending on who delivers it. This episode is for anyone who has ever second guessed their tone, softened their delivery to avoid judgment, or replayed a conversation long after it ended. It is an invitation to stop managing perception and start trusting your presence.
Transcribe →Stop Waiting for January | Ep 44
Nov 2500:27:23Tap to summarizeI'm making the case for why we should ditch the New Year resolutions and just start NOW. In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet trap of hesitation and why the New Year often convinces us to wait for a version of ourselves that feels more ready. After spending an entire weekend spiraling about a simple phone call that ended up going smoothly, I'm realizing that the hardest part was everything I imagined BEFORE taking action. This conversation explores how waiting increases pressure, how fear grows in the pause, and why clarity almost always comes from doing the thing instead of thinking about it. You will walk away with practical tools to take one small step now rather than postponing your life until January.
Transcribe →Micro Actions = Macro Impact | Ep 43
Nov 1800:28:47Tap to summarizeEveryone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager. This gauge is how I measure whether giving will burn me out, or build the village and I have been using it CONSTANTLY. If you're an overgiver-turned-boundaries queen, feeling burnt out, or lonely, this one is for you.
Transcribe →Do We Need Friction to Feel Joy? | Ep 42
Nov 1100:24:52Tap to summarizeDo we need friction to feel joy? This is an exploration today.. not a fully formed thought, but something that has been on my mind as I come out of the fog of my own tough season. Today we'll explore how the contrast between hard seasons and moments of ease create big moments of joy. Part personal reflection and a bit of neuroscience thrown in for good measure, we'll process why struggle can reset our sense of joy, how dopamine and contrast actually work in the brain, and how to reframe life’s rough patches as part of the rhythm instead of proof that we're off track.
Transcribe →On Having the AUDACITY: To Rest | Ep 41
Nov 400:25:28Tap to summarizeIn this final episode of the Audacity series, we're tackling one of the hardest things to do in a culture that celebrates hustle... REST. In the words of Tricia Hersey from The Nap Ministry: "Rest is an act of resistance." This episode is a big reminder to myself that recovery is the true key to innovation, creativity, and connection. We’ll talk about why it feels uncomfortable to slow down, how rest can be a kind of trust, and why it matters more than most of us want to admit. Thank you for being here!
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