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So the bait of the empath trap is your personal need to, to be needed and to heal and to give and to light work and, and that's the bait that the trickster uses to trap you into their own spiral of wasting all of that beauty in you and all that, all that giving nature. And I thought about doing this, just kind of a standalone episode about empath traps because we gotta make sure we don't fall for them. And one of the reasons why is online just, you know, it's just, it's outta control. They're. The empath trap platform is hot. It's hot right now. It's been hot a while. I got on this subject because I went, you know, like a lot of us, I was like, oh. And I just started binge watching Scamander, you know, which is all these cancer scam documentaries and, and the one about Belle Gibson, who was a wellness influencer who said she cured herself with her food and then was selling an app. You know, so it's these people who never had cancer saying that they did and, and creating this huge empath trap. I mean, people are giving money to time, opportunities, business deals, speaking opportunities, attention to them, that people were giving them love and, and just grace and prayers and energy all the time. And it was truly just an empath trap. All that energy which could have been spread to those who actually need it was just wasted and extinguished in the empath trap. And if you're interested in that, I did a Bigger breakdown over on my sub stack. But I wanted to focus this episode on empath traps. Cause I don't want any of us getting stuck in one. And let me tell you, you have. Trust me, you have. Now, the cancer scam is like the king of the empath traps. I'm talking about the little, tiny empath traps that surround us all the time and are usually people in our peripheral lives. You know, like, once you know somebody and you're like, hey, wait a second, you know this isn't real, or these are people who are in your. You know, they're in your lateral life. They're not exactly in your everyday. But it's important to know what it feels like and really important to know what in you would fall for it, what in you they're looking as your weakness to grab you into the trap. Before we talk about empath traps, we have to talk about blue auras. And we'll throw indigo auras in here, too. But honestly, when I see the people doing the empath traps, it's usually the blue auras. And this is a great time to reiterate my favorite saying that I made up myself, which is auras aren't excuses, but they do provide an explanation of behavior. All right, so obviously this isn't all blue auras that do this. Just like anything, auras do not control intention. Intention is our own. Intention is something each one of us has, and we have total control of it. We just also happen to have some aura colors combined with it. Kind of gives you a cue into how someone's bad intention is going to act out if they happen to be a blue aura. And a lot of that is the empath trap stuff. So let's talk about some blues. So when blues, the way I talk about them, most. Most blue aura people are balanced, normal, selfless givers. They live to make life comfortable, peaceful, cozy for those that they love. Their true motivation is feeling the good feelings of others and feeling like they did something to assist with that. And I always say blue auras love to feel God's light in others, which is just my way of saying, you know, when you're a conduit for that unconditional love from that which is greater than us. So, like little things, you know, you need a. I bought you a coffee. You know, you're in. You know, you buy the person's coffee in line behind you, or you're volunteering and someone's hungry, and you're like, here's a sandwich. Come here. Or you're at the hospital, and you see somebody's just not having a great day and you're just like, giving them a hug. You know, it's like blue auras are just like, come here, I see you. I validate you. You're important. It creates a channel straight through the Divine. This is usually what drives a blue aura in all their life purposes. They do not usually look for pats on the back for that or any sort of gratitude, which isn't always good either. But usually that's. That's just not their motivation. You know, they just want to feel that they did something good and they facilitated that. But then what happens is there can be, like a dark side of the blue aura, the shadow side. And this is one where sometimes blue auras can start feeling resentful. Like, hey, wait a second, like, nobody ever says thank you. They stop remembering that it's a choice. Like, you don't have to constantly facilitate everyone else's validation in life. Like, you don't. Oh, you can take a break. You don't always have to do that. And you can choose who you do it for too, by the way. You know, maybe the group you're usually doing it for, you know, we're done with them. Like, they're just. They're not. This is not giving me joy anymore. And then you go work with another group, which gives you that feeling again. So I think some blue auras forget that they have choices in the matter, and then they start to feel resentful. They start to feel victimized, and they start to feel a lack of specialness. They stop connecting with the Divine as they're giving because they're just kind of over the people they're giving to. And so that can turn into like a victim blue aura thing. And listen, if you're indigo or blue, and I've been there too, so we've all been there for indigorable. You can get a little victim blue sometimes. It happens, okay? It's just kind of where you're, like, looking around, you got a little chip on your shoulder. And that's when you know you need a break. You need a break. But I'm talking extreme here. People that, you know, become really victim blue, and they decide to stay there, and they decide to stay in this. It's not just a moment or a week or a phase of life. It's like, this is me now. This is what I choose. And then they start to, you know, that that energy, that blue aura energy gets hijacked by the ego. Now, the ego is the human part of us that likes us to do the things to keep us alive, to survive, and to stay in a pattern. And the ego's not bad. It's the human part of us that just tries to keep us alive. The ego likes to keep us alive by having us be repetitive and not learn or grow or evolve or anything. Oh, the ego's annoying, but we do need it keeps us here. But anyways, so when your blue aura gets, like, hijacked by the ego, sometimes you start feeling, like, any remorse about your own vindictive feelings and actions. And so I'll say, like, not all empaths have empathy. I did a whole podcast episode on that a couple podcasts ago. They can rewrite their consciousness to say they deserve what they get and lose total sense of personal responsibility or empathy to others. They only have empathy for themselves. So empath traps are like the extreme version of when a victim blue, like, makes this into an action, and they develop it in a way to, like, cultivate and harvest attention and is basically, this is where the sob story scenarios come up to just to, you know, trap compassionate people into action. And. And this is where it gets touchy. This is where. And listen, if we're not growing, if we don't get touchy. So if what I'm about to say makes you a little defensive or makes you feel touchy, I want you to just give yourself a big hug and be like, okay. That means that it's touching something that my ego doesn't like. And when your ego doesn't, like, when it hears something, it gets touchy, you know, and that just means that underneath is the key, good stuff. And I was just telling people in the workshop the other day, because I'm doing an aura workshop right now, and I told them the other day, I'm like, you know, the more you go on this healing journey, and a lot of us understand it who are listening, the more you go on the healing journey, you live for the touchy. Like, you're like, ooh, somebody said something that made me touchy. Oh, that's good stuff under there. And then you just, like, dive in because you, you know, that's where the good stuff is, you know, so if this makes you touchy, good. All right, so here we go. So this is the part that, again, can, you know, rub you the wrong way if you're. If you haven't heard it before. The people who big time get invested in these empath traps are usually in need of recognition in their own lives. So if you've ever been like, completely 100 duped by somebody in a total empath trap. And I'm talking, like, not a here or there whatever situation. I'm talking like you were invested and you got hoodwinked. Like, you were, like, what at the end? Like, this was a con job. Like, if that happened to you, it's very possible. I'm saying that you were in need of some sort of ego recognition, and they gave it to you. Let me explain. People who create these empath traps are usually people that seem ordinary but suffering, and they create some sort of situation which is an urgent need of your support. You can save the world. You, yes, you, who never gets told thank you and does everything for everybody else and never gets a pat on the back. But I'm telling you, I need you, and you can take all that energy and you can save me and make a huge difference. And I'll tell you that you're doing that, all right? So instead of donating anonymously to, like, some big old charity, you can take that money and you can give it to my face, and I can give you something that you need, which is you're special, too. Okay? A look in the eye, a moment of adulation, a sense that you're being seen forgiving, a pat on the back that is really, really needed. And this. This person making the empath trap, they know full well how to use that need for attention and benefit from it, because that's. That's driving their whole adventure right here. They take your money, time, energy. They pour it into this empty pit. Your resources are now unable to be used for those who truly need it. But in return, they did give you something. They gave you a pat on the back to a person who may have felt very unseen themselves. Okay? The truth is, a lot of these empath traps are around us all the time, just waiting for us and baiting us to walk in. And you're more susceptible to empath traps if you're not paying attention. And your pattern is just to give whatever is around you without asking a ton of questions or worrying about validity. That is most of us, like, you know, you think about it, there could be a lot of stuff going on, and they're like, can you have five bucks for this? And it's like, okay, whatever. You know, not a big deal. I'm talking about the. I mean, they could be everywhere, and you're just like, whatever, I don't care. But the ones that really take you for a ride, those are the ones where you got to kind of look and be like, what in me signed up for that? Because that's the thing that's going to continue to get you into those situations because you're. You're. You're fresh meat for these. For these empath trap people. You are fresh meat, and you are easy pickings. So. So it's kind of like, oh, I'm gonna stop myself here. And what is it in me that signed up for that? What needed it so that I can take a step back and make sure that I have more control over that part of me? Yeah. And it's usually, like I said, if you find yourself really wrapped up in somebody else's situation, what is. What does an empath trap look like? Okay. How are they different from real problems? And these are my own things. They never end. They never end. There's always, like, a continuation. The person never leaves a crisis state. There's always some sort of development, like, oh, it looked like it was getting better, but then this happened like that. And this continues and continues and continues. And if you think about. Just think about people in your life who have had things happen or even yourself, like, there was a period of a, like, really horrific time, and then sometimes it's like silence after for a while, or just a lull or an end or just a nothing. Okay. People who do empath traps, it continues. It can continue for years like this. They always have something. It's usually eerily similar to something something else has. I'm sorry. It's usually eerily similar in Situation two. I mean, it could be a lot of things. It could be kind of lined up to some sort of problem in society. Okay. Like, oh, I was reading this one where this woman and I. Again, I put this on my sub stack. This one woman was pretending she was a disabled military veteran who was hurt on tour, and she was collecting all this money and attention and giving speeches, and she never served one day of her life in the military, you know, so she was kind of lining up with the plight of veterans that were hurt in service. Okay. Or they could line up with something Belle Gibson did, for example. Okay. Like, food. Everyone's scared of food. Everyone's scared of, like, what food can do to you. Chemicals, you know, not eating right, Additives, medicines, things like that. Well, there it is. All that stuff made me sick. And getting rid of it made me. Well, all right. So they kind of line up to a conversation that's already going on, and they can take from that. That's another thing also, it can go smaller. It can be somebody in your life that they saw something going on and then they're like, ooh, that would be cool if that happened to me. So maybe they saw a situation with their friend who was actually having real problems and they saw all the attention and love and, and service and resources that person got during that time. And then all of a sudden they, they start mimicking it and copying it. And so you got to kind of be like, hey, that's so weird that that happened to her because that happened to her sister in law like three years ago. Like that kind of thing. They will romanticize the problem. They'll talk about how this problem has been a blessing. They'll. They'll use it as some sort of. I've learned so many lessons from this. You know, they'll be kind of like a philosopher about how this horrific thing that's happened has given them such a, a new spin on life in a different, in just kind of a way where you're like, oh my gosh, like that's beyond constantly positive. We all know that people who are going through something and if you've been through something yourself, like not every day, such some sort of great day. You know what I mean? Like something like a lot of these are, you are, don't want to talk to people and you do want to be alone and you, you know, they act weird about it, almost like romanticizing it. And then they build up the people who help them through shout outs and praise. That is a big one with the empath traps. Like all of a sudden, you know, they're shouted on the social media, post a special thank you to, you know, you know who you are or Joanne for doing this or da da da. Like there's a list of people that did something for them because what that, what that signals to is kind of needier. People in the peripheral are like, oh well, I want to be special or I'm bad if I don't help or I want to make the list like that. Like very subconscious thoughts that get people to kind of want to, you know, chime in or help or it encourages other people and have no problem with any special attention received. Like they are like, keep it coming, keep it coming. And like I said, this is a tricky situation because people do have real things going on, you know what I mean? And some of these can happen and, and they, it is a real thing. So I'm just, these are just my tips for just, just taking a look and just being. I don't think it takes a lot of research to figure out if Something's an empath trap or not. I feel like you can look at something and be like, oh, yeah, that ain't real. And if I was just kind of in my zone, most of it, like I said, most of the empath trap people in your life are in your peripheral. Like, they're not your best friend or they're not like your sister or something. Like, it's. It's people on the peripheral. So you don't. You're not used to stalking their lives. Like, you're not used to noticing them day to day. You just kind of hear things here and there. You're like, that's awful. And then you give, you know, so it's kind of like understanding, just taking a little closer look, moving forward. I guess the question is, like, who the heck does this? Like, what is wrong with you? Like, yes, I talked about an aura color, and. And it does tend to be the blues. The blues gone wrong, you know, like that ego hijack. Blue auras tend to do this. And like I said, like, people that need. This isn't just a. How do I put this? Every aura color, you know, isn't bad or good at all. It just moves motivation. It moves action. So these are just like people in need, honestly, of attention. So I was just looking into this, and I would love the mental health professionals in the mystic Michaela spiritual family to Jime in. I love when you guys do that. I was looking at, like, something called factitious disorder, which they mentioned in a couple documentaries, which used to. I think it used to be called munch housings, if I'm correct. And. Or it could be some sort of, like, personality disorder, which is characterized by a need for a ton of attention. But bottom line, it is some sort of issue the person has with not getting enough attention. Like, they're craving attention. I mean, here's the deal. Like, we all need attention. Attention keeps us alive. You know? What. What do children need? We are. We are a species that needs a ton of attention in order to stay alive. So attention is fuel. Like, attention is life. Attention is survival. Attention for these people, I feel like, is addictive. Okay? It's kind of like, oh, they, you know, they just keep craving it. They never hit their limit. They never are. Like, oh, okay, wait a second. And perhaps at some point in this person's life who's putting on these constant empath traps, they didn't get enough attention, you know, and that's sad. And now they have created a whole mechanism of behavior, a whole personality around getting it and maintaining it, and they rely on it way more than anyone else does. Now, here's the deal. Just because I read so many people, I read a lot of you, and you did not have a lot of attention growing up, you know, or you went through a ton of neglect, and you don't act like this. So this isn't. People who didn't get attention act like this is. And. And I'll tell you, the ones who didn't get attention growing up, and then they see this kind of stuff. You guys are way better at picking it out than people who did get attention growing up. That's the other thing. I feel like if you didn't get attention growing up, you notice these empath reps a lot quicker than people who had some sort of, like, very safe little childhood. So that's just something I noticed because you're like, well, I could do that too, but I don't. That's attention seeking, you know? Anyways. Yeah. So now. Now they're putting on constant empath traps. Now they have created this whole need, need to keep it coming, you know, Keep it coming. That's why the empath traps usually are huge, tall tales, have a lot of developments, get a little ridiculous, you know, and that's how they usually get themselves in trouble, because somebody, usually a yellow aura is hanging around on the side. Like, that makes no sense. You contradicted yourself. That's not. Or they start talking about processes that don't. Like, that doesn't work. Like, that's not how. That's not how the world works. And you just said it worked that way. And that doesn't even work that way anyway. So who really gets hurt, you know, if you. I guess if you get pulled into these, like, hardcore pulled into these. And that's back to the touchy thing. And you. And you sit around and you're like, okay. I think I got hardcore pulled into that because I wanted to feel like I was helping and I wanted to feel an easy spot. I could be a healer or be a helper or be somebody who was appreciated. That was an, you know, that empath trap. Gave me an easy place to feel things that I wasn't feeling in other areas of my life. That's a big deal. Like, if you. If you can find that out, if you can figure that out, if you can sit there. I mean, I've had to do that, you know, in my life. If you can sit there and you can be like, okay, got it. That gives you so much power. That gives you so much More control. And that gives you so much insight and perspective. I think the big thing with the empath traps is when you are given attention by the person who has gotten a lot of attention. They let you kind of share their spotlight because you assisted them. They'll share a little attention to you. And once you don't need that anymore or you see what that is, you don't fall for it. You know, you're not. If you are like, oh my gosh, that gave me an ego boost. That made me feel safe. That made me feel, like, seen and appreciated and validated. Hold on a second. I can do that in other ways that are actually also creating that connection with the divine and not wasting my energy. You know, it can feel very defensive at first, but then gradually you're like, oh, I feel a lot more in control and power. I'd love to hear your stories about empath traps or getting stuck in these situations or finding one out. I feel like. Or be like, hey, wait a second. Or, you know, figuring it out or. Or helping other people get through, you know, seeing things for what they are. I'd love to hear those stories because I feel like there's a lot here. 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