The Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Wedding Guest

Summary

LA PLATICA — The Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Wedding Guest

Hosts: Sebastian Robles and Josh Leyva
Date: September 15, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, Sebas and Josh dive deep into the unwritten rules and essential etiquette of being a wedding guest. Drawing from personal experience as both guests and grooms, the duo breaks down everything from RSVPs to dance floor dynamics, offering real talk and humorous insights rooted in their Latino upbringing and respect for tradition. Whether you’re new to weddings or a seasoned partygoer, this “plática” packs practical tips, personal anecdotes, and the duo’s signature banter to help you show up as the ideal guest.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Importance of Wedding Guest Etiquette

(Timestamp: 06:20 – 07:37)

• Sebas sets the stage: “I believe that, like, if you want to get married, you can do whatever you want… But for a guest, there’s etiquette to this.”
• The conversation is strictly about guest etiquette, not what’s expected of the wedding couple.

2. RSVP Responsibly

(08:00 – 09:55)

• RSVP promptly and by the deadline.
  • Sebas: “If you don’t, that’s rude. And a lot of people don’t take that into consideration.” (08:10)
  • Many people, especially in Latino culture, are used to informal invitations and may skip RSVPing. The hosts stress how important this is for planning and catering.

3. Respecting the Invitation

(12:31 – 17:35)

• Don’t bring uninvited guests or children unless specified.
  • Josh: “First of all, that's crazy that people do that.” (12:53)
  • Stories about guests wanting to bring kids to “no kids” weddings, and how uncomfortable or inconvenient this is for the couple.
• Don’t ask why certain people weren’t invited.
  • “Everything has been discussed, pre-planned. They talked about every single possible person they want… just don’t bring those things up.” (13:42 – Josh)

4. Dress Code Matters

(19:13 – 22:59)

• Don’t wear white or attention-grabbing outfits (unless told to).
  • Sebas: “There’s still that tía…wearing a very whitish, creamy color dress, and that’s a big no no.” (19:47)
• Respect the specified dress code.
  • Josh: “It’s a privilege to be at somebody’s wedding and to be invited. You always have to take that as like, wow, I’m blessed and I’m grateful to be here.” (21:01)
  • The guys poke fun at the classic “blue suit and brown shoes” combo (22:10 – 23:05), and urge guests to make the effort since it’s the couple’s big day.

5. Show Up, Celebrate, Support

(24:30 – 26:12)

• Thank the couple for including you.
  • “The first thing…‘Thank you so much for letting me be a part of your beautiful day. Honestly, it means a lot to me.’” (24:30 – Sebas)
• Check in on the bride and groom, especially if you’re part of the wedding.
  • “Call them, see how they’re doing…offer your service, encourage them.” (25:12 – Josh)

6. Arrive On Time — Don’t Distract

(26:37 – 29:00)

• Give yourself plenty of time, especially at destination weddings.
  • Showing up late draws attention and stresses everyone out.
• Silence your phone and limit recording.
  • Josh: “First of all…the fact that people still have ringtones… is so completely detached from reality.” (27:48)
  • Sebas shares how a sea of phone screens ruins professional photos and authentic vibes (29:09).

7. Be Present, Enjoy the Moment

(30:10 – 32:50)

• The hosts discuss the value of truly experiencing the day instead of being glued to your phone.
  • “Be in the moment…you’ll get the photo eventually from somewhere.” (30:14 – Sebas quoting Josh)
  • Sebas on candid pics: “I much rather prefer a photo somebody takes of me that I look ugly in the moment. Very candid.”

8. Don’t Block the Professionals

(32:54 – 33:00)

• “Don’t block photographers. That’s annoying.” (32:54 – Sebas)

9. Be a Vibe, Not a Downer

(33:11 – 34:00)

• Don’t bring bad energy or personal drama.
  • “For the three to six hours that you’re there, that needs to go out the window. People can feel your energy.” (33:09 – Josh)
  • “Try to be a vibe, bro. Your vibe button should be fully blasted.” (33:59 – Josh)

10. Food and Seating Etiquette

(34:13 – 35:54)

• Wait your turn for food and respect seating arrangements.
  • Sebas: “Wherever you’re sitting was thought out. Curated.” (34:57)
  • Good energy at your table matters — don’t be the anti-social guest.

11. The Couple Are the Main Characters

(36:28 – 37:13)

• The hosts reflect on being the “main character” at their own weddings, but the real star is usually the bride.

12. Alcohol: Mindfulness over Fadedness

(38:00 – 42:41)

• Have fun, but don’t ruin the party.
  • Josh: “Be mindful. I think that’s the perfect word…when I get too faded the next day, my anxiety is through the roof because I’m like, how did I behave? What did I say?” (40:44)
  • Sebas: “If you want to remember the day… keep it a 7, scratch the 8 at the end.” (42:06)

13. Respect Culture and Traditions

(42:49 – 43:48)

• If you don’t know the customs, participate respectfully: “Respect the traditions, respect the dances…if you get invited, have fun with them.” (43:48 – Sebas)

14. Hit the Dance Floor

(43:51 – 45:41)

• “Don’t be sitting at the table the whole… wedding, bro.” (43:58 – Josh)
• “Everybody likes to dance. People just don’t like to be seen dancing.” (44:31 – Josh)
• If you’re not bringing energy, you’re making it about yourself.

15. Make Connections

(45:46 – 46:13)

• Use the wedding to meet new people and learn their stories. “This is when you get to know everybody, bro. It’s such a beautiful thing…” (46:46 – Sebas)

16. Leave Graciously

(46:27 – 47:27)

• Thank the couple or their family before leaving—no “Irish goodbyes” at weddings.
  • “Say goodbye if possible and thank the couple or their family or their host. If you can’t get to them, say goodbye to the family.” (47:07 – Sebas)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On RSVPing:

  • “There’s always a deadline that they give you… if you don’t, that’s rude.” (08:10 – Sebas)

• On Dress Code:

  • “It’s a privilege to be at somebody’s wedding and to be invited. You always have to take that as like, wow, I’m blessed and I’m grateful to be here…” (21:01 – Josh)

• On Phone Use:

  • “We don’t want the crowd like this in the picture. It kills the vibe, you know, it kills the photo.” (29:09 – Sebas)

• On Vibes:

  • “Try to be a vibe, bro. Your vibe button should be fully blasted.” (33:59 — Josh)

• On Alcohol:

  • “Keep it a 7. Scratch the 8 at the end, you know, put it in your back pocket.” (42:16 – Sebas)

• On Dance Floor:

  • “Don’t be the guy or girl that’s just at the… table just twiddling your thumbs. Don’t do that. That’s really important, bro. Be lively.” (44:41 – Sebas)

• On Farewells:

  • “Say your goodbyes…especially at a wedding…Leave graciously.” (46:29 – 47:07 — Sebas)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Wedding Etiquette Introduction – 06:20
• RSVP Culture and Importance – 08:00
• Dress Codes & Outfit Sins – 19:13
• Thanking and Supporting the Couple – 24:30
• Showing Up and Being Present – 26:37
• Phone Etiquette & Enjoying the Moment – 29:09
• Alcohol & Conduct – 38:00
• Dance Floor Dynamics – 43:51
• How to Leave a Wedding – 46:27

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Conclusion

Sebas and Josh keep it real and relatable, making a case that being a thoughtful, fun, and respectful wedding guest is an act of love and gratitude. From sustainable tips (“keep it a 7, scratch the 8 at the end”) to real talk on family, culture, and party vibes, they prove that etiquette isn’t about rules—it’s about respect.

Brought to you by La Plática. If you’re heading to a wedding anytime soon, consider this your survival guide—Mehh Behh!

(Listen to the full episode for more stories, laughs, and the hosts’ signature chemistry.)

Transcript

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You ready also?

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No camera four.

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Please.

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This is my ideal time to film. I love waking up early and just filming. And, bro, it's like, it's not even eight yet.

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You're. You are. What you call, dare I say, a morning person.

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I am.

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I could just tell the way you were texting me in the morning, I was, like, full. Shut up. I'm trying to, like, wake up. Just spamming me. Me on some.

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I was like, bro, I woke up. I just love waking up. And, like, I feel like I have. I have the most energy.

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Yeah, you do.

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Like, I'm good. I don't drink coffee in the morning to wake up. I do it for the flavor.

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Yeah. Flavor.

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I don't have energy drinks. Pre workouts to work out. I'm already up.

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You up?

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That's just for the pump.

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Yeah.

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Or they got married.

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They got married already. Congratulations to them.

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Give it up.

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A beautiful wedding.

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Probably the most beautiful wedding I've ever been to in my entire life.

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Stunning.

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Stunning.

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We had a great time, obviously.

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And.

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Yeah. So congratulations to you guys. And, you know, rewinding back in time of today, we're up early because we have a long day ahead of us. We got to pack, and we got to go to San Diego. Right.

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Which is where the wedding was.

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Where the wedding is and was. Yeah. So we're very more was than is. Yeah.

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I haven't packed or more is than was. More is than was.

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More is than was.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. And speaking about weddings, I thought it would be really cool to talk about today. An interesting topic, and that's wedding guest etiquette.

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Oh, is there a different kind of etiquette for the actual.

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It's what you should.

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Bride and groomsmen definitely.

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Oh, like their etiquette. Yeah. Yeah, there is.

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Probably. Probably More pressure on them than us.

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Yeah.

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Oh, because you've been on both sides of the table, dude.

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Yeah, I would, but, like, I don't want to talk about, like, etiquette for the actual bride and groom because I'm just a guest. I believe that, like, if you want to get married, you can do whatever you want. You know what I mean? Like, there's no etiquette. Like, if you want your wedding like that, have it like that. You know what I mean? Yeah. But for a guest, there's etiquette to this. For example, went to rsvp. Should you bring a gift to the wedding? Should you be wanting to take pictures throughout the whole wedding?

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When to go ask for pictures of.

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When to go ask for. For. For pigs.

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Cuz I got in trouble for yours.

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Yeah, you did. You got stuck. Almost. Almost. Sh. Shall I say tackled by security? No. So. So I definitely have a wedding kit thing and we'll just kind of go down the list and. Yeah, we'll get it on. I think it'll be good. I think it'll be really cool.

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Hey, let's get it on, baby.

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Cool. Is it hot in here?

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Yeah.

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I'm so lazy to go turn on the ac.

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Let's just keep it running for a little bit and then we'll just. We'll circle back.

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Okay, cool. So wedding etiquette. So I got some wedding etiquette. Wedding etiquette prior to the wedding, before the wedding. The first one is RSVPing promptly.

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Okay, I see. I'm glad. I'm glad we're going over this because I didn't. What's the. What's the rule of thumb?

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It's a thing.

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Yeah, I just rsvp. I just make sure I do.

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Yeah.

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Is there a timeline?

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Yeah, you. You want to be able to RSVP on the cert. There's always a deadline that they give you. Okay. The safe to date might have like an rsvp. RSVP before this date. If you don't, that's rude. And a lot of people don't take that into consideration. Like, it's not a big deal. They think I'm going to go. They know I'm going. You know, but it's not about that. There's so much that goes into it. Because now when you rsvp, they know that you're confirmed. And now they can cater to you. They can cater to where they're going to sit you. Now they can ask you what kind of food do you want? Now they know the number of people that they expect they get a better accurate reading of who's coming.

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Can I ask you something? Do you think people don't know everything you just described?

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You'd be.

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Obviously, bro.

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You'd be surprised. Look, I'm only saying this because you'd be surprised that people don't rsvp, but.

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They don't think that. Oh, trust me, they don't.

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I know. I'm telling you, this is a general perspective. People don't know this.

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Dude, you're the definition of mansplaining and you just mansplain me. I'm like, yeah, no fucking shit, dude. But I do agree, though, you got to RSVP before the date. Because it's definitely, like. It's. It's a courtesy thing, and if you don't do it, it's a little rude.

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Yeah. 100.

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I will say that I try to RSVP the moment I get the card because it takes, what, 60 seconds, two minutes to, like, RSVP. As soon as I get it, I just do it. I just do it immediately. Even if I'm not going.

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Yeah. Because then you can kind of like.

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On rsv, if I'm not going, I'm not gonna rsvp. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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It's very important. A lot of people don't do it. I'm. I'm telling you because, like, especially, like, in our culture.

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Yeah.

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A lot of the weddings that we went to growing up, there's no such thing as that.

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No, it's a new age thing. It's new.

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Yeah. It's a little bit like, how did they do it before Kyle.

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Yeah.

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Come through.

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There was no rsvp. There had been.

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Not. Not like. Not like. Not like minted dot com.

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No. You probably have, like, something in.

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And you go on the website and you type in a password. You think your Tias and Theos are doing that back then? No. Kyle.

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Yeah. You know that that's kind of crazy.

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That's what I'm saying. Like, okay, even when I talk about, like, rsvp, it's not really for us. Like, bro, I got theas and Theos and like, blah, blah, blah. That didn't RSVP for my. But I knew they were coming, of course. But it's like, do it. A lot of people don't do it.

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It's a good point. It's a good point.

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They think it's like, whatever.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Going on to the next. Shall I. Or do you have something to say, sir? Nice hat, by the way.

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Thank you. Sir. Likewise.

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Yeah, I saw you at the Mexico games. Insane looking.

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We'll talk about that another time, though. This is wedding etiquette season.

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Can I just say that the one that you went in Nashville, you wore, like, this really tight jersey.

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Yeah.

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You looked fucking huge.

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I felt huge, bro. It was a little.

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Anybody go out to you and be like, well, you look fucking massive.

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I had a few people tell me.

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That it was a little too tight.

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It was a little too tight. But you know what? We rock with it. Do you want to know why? It was so tight, but it looked good. So that jersey is completely sold out.

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Okay.

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That jersey was given to me by the men's Mexican national team.

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What jersey was that?

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It's the black and gold one. The jersey is sold out everywhere, bro. So the only sizes that they were able to allocate was large. That's a large jersey. I probably am a 2x in the jerseys because jerseys themselves, they're really, like, slim fit, right? So I just had a rocket, bro. I was like, if I want to wear this jersey, I couldn't get an extra large. I'll even tell you. Go even deeper. I ordered a jersey off of a random website that's based out of New York. They do, like, they sell the jerseys. And it was. It was $300. That jersey retails, like 150 bucks. So I paid double the price just to get an xl because I wanted to wear it. And the jersey wasn't real, like, compared to the ones that they sent me. Yeah, it wasn't real, bro.

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You got bamboozled.

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I got bamboozled. It's a. It's a really nice replica. Really nice. But then when I touched the actual large one, the one that I. I wore, I was like, oh, this isn't real. I could feel it, bro. I didn't have, like, stretch.

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It just felt so different and 100%. Whoever sells that, they buy those jerseys for, like 20 bucks.

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Yeah, exactly, Exactly. So I was like, I either wear this fake extra large that is not that much bigger, or I wear an authentic large that is a little. Maybe a little too tight. Yeah, I went with the large.

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Yeah.

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You're like, oh, we know your arms look massive, bro, but soccer jerseys are like that. They're like.

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Yeah, they're athletic fit.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyways.

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Yeah, look good. Number two, respect the invitation.

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Explain.

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Okay. Respect the invitation. Don't bring extra guests, kids, or plus ones unless explicitly invited.

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You said explicitly, so Mexican.

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Explicitly invited.

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Yeah.

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Okay. So what that means is, dude, that.

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First of all that's crazy that people do that.

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Oh, yeah, 100%.

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Some people have no. Like, they don't see the wrong in it.

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Yeah.

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I'm like, dude, you can't. Can't just bring people that weren't invited to the wedding.

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Yeah. At all. Because let me tell you something. If you get invited to the wedding, right? If you get invited to the wedding and you're like, oh, they didn't invite somebody. Okay. That's because when they invited you, the bride and the groom talked to each other and said they discussed this. Should we invite.

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No, Clearly.

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So the answer is no. Do you know that when you invite somebody and you're like, oh, can I bring this person? Can I bring that person? You know how awkward that makes a person feel? Or the bride and the groom, it's like, man, now what am I gonna say? You know, Just respect the invitation.

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Speaking of which, if you don't see somebody at the wedding, don't ask the bride and groom why they're not at the wedding, because that's awkward. Hey, how come what's his name's not at the wedding? Because like you just said, everything has been discussed, pre planned. They talked about every single possible person they want when it comes to the wedding. I think it's just one of those situations, especially at the wedding. Don't bring it up. Maybe after the wedding, if you have a relationship with the person, like, yo, I didn't see this person here. Like, what was the situation? Oh, they couldn't make it. I didn't invite them. Yeah, but like, I've seen people have those kind of conversations at the wedding. Like, this is about them. Don't put more stress on them or, or you know what I mean?

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Like.

[B]

Yeah, try to create, I don't know, like, just don't bring those things up.

[C]

Yeah. And then it's awkward.

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It's awkward, dude.

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Yeah, well, nothing here. That, that I put. If the. If the invitation says it's a no kid wedding, don't bring your kid.

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It's the one that we're going to. No kid wedding.

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No kids.

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No kids.

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No kids. If there's kids, bring your kid. We all love kids, but if there's no kids. No kids. I had, I'm not gonna lie, I had.

[B]

Did you do another kid's wedding?

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Yes, of course. I had a. Nope. I had a person. What's a kid and 100. It was, it was one of my.

[B]

Under 13.

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It was one of my uncles. No, bro, Dead ass.

[B]

What's classified under 18?

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Like, if I see anybody under 17? 16. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.

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Under 16. Like, under 15, bro.

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No.

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15. 16. Yeah.

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Yeah. Unless it's like. Unless I invited him, because I'm like, nah, that's my little cousin. Like, I love him.

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Yeah.

[C]

You know, and he's mature. He's older, but, like. Yeah, you're right. Like, anything under 15. Blah, blah, blah. Him. I had a. A person in my wedding, and he was going to my wedding. I was excited that he was going. He has kids, you know? And literally, I think it was days prior to the wedding. I can't go anymore because I couldn't have anybody watch my kid.

[B]

That's fair. That happens, bro.

[C]

No, that. Really? Yeah. Because I told you a year ago, okay?

[B]

Like, figure it out. You did it last year, and it.

[C]

Sucks, because I want you to be there, bro.

[B]

It's. Yeah, I get you. I get you.

[C]

And. And now you're. You're. You're. Your babysitter didn't come through. Like, I get it.

[B]

That's a tough sometimes.

[C]

Sometimes may happen.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Right.

[B]

And whatever.

[C]

But I know that nothing happened. You just didn't care enough to get a babysitter. That's what it is. Yeah. Yeah. So if I got that thing and it sucks, because I wanted you to.

[B]

Be there, did you get a little mad? Like, did you get a little mad at them?

[C]

Well, when I found out, I was like, what the. You know, because not only that, I just paid for your plate for you, where to sit, you know? And like I said, this is like a wedding where everything is fine. This isn't like, oh, I got a tent and billions of messes and chairs.

[B]

Find a spa, buffet style.

[C]

I wish it was like that. It wasn't. You know, that's the easy way. No, everything is legit. Boom, boom, boom. Mr. Leyva, follow me. You are at C13.

[B]

I was.

[C]

And it just sucks because, like, I wanted them to be there.

[B]

They never showed up.

[C]

Well, no, because they had their kid. Yeah. And then somebody else, I think, was like, no, I don't want to go because I can't bring my kid. What? Like, I get it. We all love our kids, right? Like, obviously. But, bro, you knew for a year. It's a wedding. Come on, man.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

We love you.

[B]

And the wedding is what, six hours?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, you can be. How long could you be there at a wedding to, like, show face for? Could you do four?

[C]

Yeah. Show face, huh? Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Show face for three hours and get away with it.

[C]

Show face. Yeah. Even if you can get a babysitter for three hours, Kyla. For three hours, bro. And then go do your thing. Show face, commit, try. You know what I mean? But respect invitation. Yeah, none of that awkward. Think twice before you ask if you can bring somebody. And I like the point that you said as well, don't ask. Hey, you didn't invite. What's your name? That's not your place to ask. That day.

[B]

That day.

[C]

That day.

[B]

That's what I was trying to say. Yeah, that day.

[C]

That's.

[B]

That's a. Don't do that.

[C]

But going back to what you were saying about. Were you pissed? Yeah, when I realized it, yeah, I was a little pissed. But it's my wedding, bro. Nothing is going to piss me off. Good. Yeah.

[B]

Not everybody has that mindset though.

[C]

You should though, because no matter what, something's going to go wrong. Wrong that you don't like. Maybe the wedding planner didn't do something that you said to do. Something's going to happen, blah, blah. But honestly, to be honest, if you don't need a wedding planner. Good. I believe that if that's like a luxury if you want a wedding planner.

[B]

100% it is. But it's very helpful.

[C]

Very helpful. Because they're the ones that deal with all the noise, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You are supposed to just be there and enjoy yourself with your bride or your groom, whatever, and that's it. And the wedding planner and his team deal with all the noise outside. You just simply enjoy.

[B]

Damn, dude. To be a wedding planner, that's crazy.

[C]

You have to be under some stress and you have to be like.

[B]

And they do it time after time after time. Like it's. You do. You do that once in a lifetime, you know, but they do it every week.

[C]

Imagine the way wedding planners relax, dude. Just zen the out.

[B]

Because it's not only they're planning and dealing with all these other people, but they're also dealing with the bride and the groom and like that pressure from them. Oh my God.

[C]

And some of them are like really difficult.

[B]

Yeah, not interested.

[C]

Not interested. Yeah.

[B]

Great movie though.

[C]

Which one?

[B]

Wedding Planner.

[C]

Oh.

[B]

With Jennifer Lopez, bro.

[C]

Oh yeah, that was a great movie. Yeah, great movie.

[B]

I love Ron. That era of her, like where she did main Manhattan wedding plan.

[C]

She was like, she was it girl.

[B]

Yeah, I was a girl. Selena.

[C]

Next one. And I know it's so dumb and remember we're talking about like etiquette prior to the wedding and I know it's so dumb. But you still hear about it, people still talk about it and people still do it. And it is avoiding wearing white or overly attention grabbing outfits that's there's still that thea that comes to the wedding wearing a really either maybe not white, but very whitish creamy color dress. And that's a big no, no se. I just y. Like before I got married, cuz. Oh yeah, you're right. I guess you can't wear white cuz only the.

[B]

This is a known thing universally. Like everybody should know this. Like your Thea should know this because.

[C]

I guess a couple of them don't.

[B]

Yeah, maybe they just don't.

[C]

Yeah, it's kind of common sense really.

[B]

I don't know.

[C]

I don't know. What does the bride always wear?

[B]

Well, no, yeah, I guess you're right. Right.

[C]

95, 98 of the time. Because there's people. Like I said, you can do whatever the you want.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[C]

I don't believe in traditional. You can do whatever you want. But yeah, there's still people that roll up to the part to the wedding in like a white outfit. And that's kind of crazy.

[B]

What are the chances?

[C]

And I don't think the guy should wear white either. What are the chances? Yeah, I don't know. But I promise you. Yeah, I promise you every wedding that I've been to, there's gonna be somebody.

[B]

Who'S in the white who wore a.

[C]

White esque outfit, especially a female. And like. Yeah, we'll, we'll look at, we'll look at that. And trust me, there's always somebody. Always.

[B]

That's crazy.

[C]

It might not be white. And they probably. Oh, I didn't think it was that much of a big deal, but like it is. Respect the dress code. Yeah, you got to respect the dress code. Always on the invites. Yeah, they say like, you know, we're trying to have.

[B]

Dude, that's one thing that bothers me when people don't respect the dress codes at weddings.

[C]

Yeah, you have.

[B]

I'm like, bro, you're literally in a button up.

[C]

First of all, in jeans. It's a privilege to be at somebody's wedding and to be invited. You always have to take that as like, wow, this is. I'm blessed and I'm grateful to be here and thank you so much for inviting.

[B]

I think it's more noticeable with guys, by the way, than girls. Girls can get away with like a dress, I guess, right? Maybe, I don't know. But with guys, if they're wearing like a cut off button up with jeans or something like that and like sneakers.

[C]

I'm like, bro, at a wedding yeah, don't do that.

[B]

Like that's insane.

[C]

It's cuz guys, sometimes guys, they don't care about the way they don't care and they don't care about anything they.

[B]

Think just work, it's not going to.

[C]

Be a big deal. But look, the bride and the groom, they're trying to have their dream wedding, respect everything that they want on their wedding. And they're trying to have a, a vibe, their, their, their personal vibe that they've been dreaming about since the bride's been dreaming about since she was a little girl.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, and yeah, you're right. I think it is the guy that, that mainly, you know, kind of like tweaks it a bit.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, but sometimes it is the women too. But if it says black tie, tux, black, everyone's wearing black. Respect that. There's always a motherfucker in a blue fudgeing suit.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

Don't be that guy with a blue suit and brown shoes. I hate that combination by the way.

[B]

I'm not mad. I like like the navy.

[C]

I like a navy dark blue suit. I don't like how people when they wear navy suit suits think that, that it's always the brown. Nah, son, don't do navy blue and brown. I don't like that combo.

[B]

That's a crazy hot take.

[C]

But you know what, bro? How many people you see that have a blue suit and they always got.

[B]

Brown, brown shoes, dress shoes on.

[C]

Yeah, I don't like that.

[B]

And they think they stutting on them.

[C]

They're not, they're not. Oh, they're talking about me in my suit. Yeah, we're talking about like how you wore the brown shoes. Don't wear them.

[B]

Somebody at the wedding is gonna have that exact outfit, bro.

[C]

And they're sharp, don't get me wrong. They're sharp. Like it's a sharp thing. But it's just one of those things that's not talked about where it's like, I don't, I don't like it. I just think it's like they looked at a magazine and that wore brown shoes and that's what they're like.

[B]

That's the wave, right?

[C]

Oh, this is what you wear with.

[B]

And the matching belt. And the matching belt to match.

[C]

Yeah, that's it. It's not cute, bro. It's not. But yes, respect the dress code, man.

[B]

Yeah, I agree.

[C]

Like even the wedding that with Sierra and Jonathan, there's dress codes, bro. Respect the dress code. Yeah. And I'm excited for that. I Love doing that. I like when everyone's uniformly, like, looking sick.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. You know, but we're talking about specifically for the wedding day, not like the wedding week.

[C]

Boy. Well, the wedding for us is a wedding week. If the wedding is a wedding weekend or a destination wedding and there's dress codes, no matter what, regardless if it's the wedding or not, they, they, they. If there's a dress code, respect it.

[B]

I agree with that.

[C]

You know, like, really respect that. Go out of your way and, and look into that.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Because remember the day of the wedding or whenever you see them, the first thing that you should say to the bride and the groom. And I'm not saying this because this is what I expected, but this is real. Hey, Fito. Or like, for example, Jonathan Sierra. Jonathan. Congratulations, man. Thank you so much for letting me be a part of your beautiful day. Honestly, it means a lot. It means a lot to me.

[B]

That's a kind. That's really kind to say.

[C]

It is. It's. It's. It's. It's the thing. They, they just went through months and months and months of preparation. Nobody thinks about that. Everybody just thinks about sitting down and let's party. You know, it's not, bro. Months and months and months of preparation. The first thing you see, bro. Thank you so much, man. This is absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for, for, for. For allowing me to be here. Be a part of it. Even though I know you were going to tell me or if you're a part of the. The court or the groom or the. The party.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Thank you so much for being here. Everything looks great. Everything looks gorgeous, bro. I'm so honored to be here and I can't wait to. To celebrate you guys and for example, and my brother. And thank you for allowing my family to enjoy your. Your beautiful weekend as well. Yeah. You know.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You have to, bro.

[B]

Are they coming?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Oh, dope.

[C]

That's what I'm saying. Like, thank you so much. Like, that means a lot, bro. Now I'm only. Not only gonna have fun with you guys, but I'm also going to enjoy this with my family. Yeah.

[B]

That's beautiful, bro.

[C]

Thank you for this opportunity.

[B]

Another one going off of that, piggybacking off of that. If you are a part of the wedding, based on everything you just said about, like, the stress that comes with planning a wedding, check in on the bride and groom leading up to them.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Like, call them, see how they're doing. If you. Especially if you are a part of the wedding.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Yo, how's everything going? How you feeling about. Are you excited? Is there anything I can do to help? Probably not, but like, you know, at least offer your service of like, yo, I'm here, I'm with you, you know, I hope you're doing good. I'm so excited and just encouraging them because this is like a lead up, you know, they just want to feel that support from the people that they've like selected.

[C]

100%. I 100% agree with that. Cuz a lot of people, they're like, should we, should we talk to them?

[B]

I think you should.

[C]

Yeah. You should.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Even the day of the wedding, bro, they're going to be so busy talking to so many people, dealing with their own stuff and like, you know, being, being just really.

[B]

The attention is all alive in that moment. Dude. Is there so much attention?

[C]

So much attention. You're. You're, you're the, the. The. You're the star of the show.

[B]

Wow.

[C]

Yeah. You're the star of the show.

[B]

You. Were you ever by yourself at your wedding?

[C]

Like 90. I was never by myself. Never. 98% of the time I was with my wife. Oh, right. The other 2% maybe with like friends and family, but most of the time.

[B]

I was with my wife.

[C]

And we wanted, we wanted that to be a thing. I didn't want to leave her sight or she didn't want to leave my side either. But like I said, the day of the wedding as well, go up to the groom, go up to the bride. Hey, do you want me to go get a drink real quick? Are you good? You want me to bring you something to eat? The wedding planner, she's probably, is probably doing that. But just, but just in case, bro, what do you want me to bring you? Because you shouldn't have the groom or the bride going to the bar.

[B]

No, I agree.

[C]

No, they're. They're royalty, you know, I agree with that. Another one. Now we're kind of going away from, you know, there's so many. There's so much etiquette. Right. But we're not going to go through all of them. But during the ceremony, arrive on time. Yeah, it's a huge thing. No, there's people, trust me, I get it. There's people that are not. Please allow yourself to get time to, to have time to get ready, have time to check in. Don't think that you're going to arrive to the hotel when you're going to check in and everything's going to be smooth. Something always happens if you think that you're Going to get. You're going to check in at 12, 1, 2, even 3pm Give yourself some time, you know, because if you. Oh, I'm gonna check in at three. Oh my God, there's so much people. Oh my God. My room's not ready. Your days. Oh yeah, you're right.

[B]

But that's. If you're, if you're. If it's a destination winning.

[C]

Yeah. Because what happens if you're late and everyone's sitting down and then you're somewhat late, Even five minutes late, bro. It stresses everybody out, stresses the wedding planner out. And now you pull up and all eyes on you. No eyes should be on you. Eyes should be on the bride and the groom and it's awkward. Next, silence your phone. These are all general common mistakes people make. Silence your phone and avoid recording unless told otherwise. That's a big one.

[B]

First of all, who it's. It like the fact that people still have ringtones if you're. It's not always on vibrate, bro. It's so completely detached from reality.

[C]

It's so sad. I don't know if it's like millennials to like now Gen Z. No one uses ringtones. No, but like my mom or dad's like, yeah, yeah. And I'm like, dad, turn that shit off.

[B]

Keep it on vibrate.

[C]

And. But it's so sad because like my dad doesn't feel like he's doing anything wrong because he's not.

[B]

He's not.

[C]

But it's just like who the has that?

[B]

Yeah, shut up. It's definitely, it's definitely like the older crowd that has like the, like or.

[C]

Like a little like someone text. I'm like, dad, turn that off.

[B]

Yeah, sometimes vibrates are loud too.

[C]

They'll be like, yeah, yeah, some, some. But for the most part you never hear them.

[B]

No, no, for the.

[C]

Right. For the most part. You got an Apple watch.

[B]

Are you putting your phone on dnd? Yeah, right. For the. During the wedding. I'm going to do that.

[C]

Yeah. Dnd. Put your phone on DND or just put on vibrate.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

But honestly, if you have a loud ass vibration and the wedding is maybe not as big and you think are gonna hear it, even if you think the person next to you is gonna hear it, which is a distraction. DND.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Do not disturb.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

People don't know what DND means. Huh?

[B]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure 99 of the people who listen to this podcast. No, but for that 1%.

[C]

That's why I said that. Silence your phones. Like I Said that's another thing too. Like, if people say, like, no recording. Yeah, don't record. It's not that we don't want you to record. You know, it's just, I'm making a video. There's videographers, there's photographers that are taking pictures of everything. We don't want you like this on the picture, in the picture. We don't want the crowd like this in the picture. You know, it kills the vibe, you know, it kills the photo.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, and plus, you're not there to take pictures. You're there to soak it in. To soak it in. Yeah. So you gotta respect when they say no videos or anything like that. Yeah.

[B]

There's this one photo. Sorry, this is completely off topic. It's when this is like a sports thing. But LeBron James, he hit like the most points ever scored in the NBA. And everybody's like, has their phones out. Obviously. I was at the game, I had my phone out. And the. The founder of Nike something night. I forget something.

[C]

Phil Knight.

[B]

Is it Phil Knight?

[C]

Phil Knight, I think, bro, he's just.

[B]

Sitting with his legs crossed, just watching him, like, with like a little smirk on his face. Like, damn, this sick. And then phones all around him. Yeah. And he's just taking it in. And I'm like, that's how you live life, man. Like, just. I'm giving chills. Like, just be in the moment. Like just such a beautiful thing. Like, you miss out and you'll get.

[C]

You'll get the photo eventually from somewhere.

[B]

I don't know if this is just a luxury thing for me on my behalf, and forgive me if I sound so, like, pompous saying this, but, like, when I go to coach events and stuff like that now, like, I have people who like our photographers, right? Like, I have crews around me so I don't have to take photos ever. Bro. My phone is not out watching, bro. When I go to Coachella, any kind of event, I don't take photos of shit. One, because even if I don't have people around me who are going to take photos, people are taking photos. If I really wanted a photo of that moment, I could get it. You know what I mean? My photo isn't going to be like the greatest photo of all. I can get the photo. So I'm like, bro. And people know, people who. When you go places, you know, either you're going to be. Your girl's going to be taking photos. You can just enjoy the moment because the photos are going to be there yeah.

[C]

Plus, I much rather prefer a photo somebody takes of me that I look ugly in the moment. Very candid. I'd rather take that photo than, like, me and you taking a selfie at Coachella. Does that make any sense?

[B]

But okay. But then I want to kind of. Maybe I'm. I think those kind of photos are fine, you know, but if you're recording an entire concert. No, I'm like, bro, what are we doing here? You're gonna post this because I'm skipping through all of it. Yeah, yeah.

[C]

What? When Marcela goes, what she really means. Since when does my friend have a Toyota with intelligent park assist that parks its. And why doesn't mine do that? If you want a car that makes your friend go, what we got you Toyota intelligent parking assist requires driver brake control. Visually ensure safe clearance before use. See owner's manual for instructions and limitations. Maybe there's some moments that you really want to capture for yourself.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Like, I just went to the roof as a soul concert, and when the Inner Bloom song came on and that beat came on and the lasers and the fireworks.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I have to get this moment right.

[B]

Of course.

[C]

But, like, it was only for a second. After that, there's foods that are recording the whole concert.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I'm like, bro, you came to the Coliseum, which was a nightmare.

[B]

Rose Bowl.

[C]

To the Rose Bowl. I'm sorry. To. To look. To look at. To look at the lens of your. Or the screen of your phone for the whole. Why? When it's right in front of you, bro, the whole time I was like this. Wow, wow, wow. But, yeah, I totally agree, bro, but you are a pompous.

[B]

I have people follow me around with cameras.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

I don't need it.

[C]

You deserve it, though, brother. You deserve. There was another one. I put. Don't block photographers. That's annoying.

[B]

Oh, yeah. Be mindful of that.

[C]

Yeah. Oh, look what we were talking about at the reception. Congratulate the couple warmly, bro.

[B]

Can I. Speaking of which, and I don't know if you have this in your little notepad there.

[C]

It's not little.

[B]

Don't come in with, like, your little shitty attitude. Like, whatever thing you're dealing with in your own personal life for the three to six hours that you're there, that needs to go out the window because people can feel your energy. Don't come in with, like, got to the fuchi. Like, bro, just enjoy yourself.

[C]

No kind of food.

[B]

Do you get me? Because I've seen people. I'm like.

[C]

And it's so buzz kill.

[B]

This Is not your day. Like, you don't. This is not about you right now.

[C]

And you talk about that and people back at home, you know, myself, you're like, yeah, that's common sense. Why would you that. Yeah, but people do that.

[B]

Well, I think people. People forget, right? They get so consumed in their own life, which is normal. But you have to be mindful of, like, what you're stepping into and be like, okay, this isn't about me. I'm dealing with this right now. But I'm just gonna, like, put that to the side right now, and I'm gonna enjoy myself. Try to be a vibe, bro. Your vibe button should be fully blasted.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Ah, you scared me.

[C]

Also, I'm gonna bring him up here because I already can see him. He's so cute. Another thing, too. It's very common sense, but people still do it is wait for your turn for food and drinks.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

People get really antsy about, like. Or is it. Are we up?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, when it's a really formal wedding, sometimes your table is called the pond. To either go get food or see. Gets to get food. Sure. Right. People. They see people get food. Where's mine? Where's mine?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Are we next? Just be mindful.

[B]

What's the word for that? For people who are like that? Is there a word for an.

[C]

I don't know. Yeah, they're just, like, antsy to. My turn. My turn.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Well, what's up with us, dude?

[B]

It's not a good look.

[C]

It's not a good look for you or your table, bro. Remember your table when you're around those people that. That sat next to you. And that was. That was. That was also thought out.

[B]

Damn.

[C]

Wherever you're sitting was thought out. Curated. Yeah. And it's funny because, like, I've been to. To weddings, and I'm super grateful that they invited even us, but, like, I'm with other people that they know them, but they don't know them like, their family knows them. So it's like, oh, they sat us with. Like, this is our tier.

[B]

Kind of like the outsiders a bit.

[C]

Yeah, like. Like, we love you guys. And like. But also, like, when I was planning out my table and I was like, nah, nah, that, like, say, like, obviously you were my wedding, but, like, if you weren't.

[B]

But you didn't sit us off, I.

[C]

Would sit you down with somebody that I know you would have fun with and vice versa.

[B]

My table was lit, dude.

[C]

Yeah, I lit, dude. I forgot how I sat you guys down. But, yeah, you know What? I mean, like, even, like, Karen's like, oh, but they don't know each other. I don't care.

[B]

That's perfect.

[C]

That's perfect. They're gonna know each other and they're gonna have a great time.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know what I mean? Like, everything is thought out, so you have to make sure that your table is lit.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, I don't see no tables just sitting around not talking to each other. You know, and that's honestly, like, that falls on the bride and the groom, too, when we make the. The table seatings or the. The. The. What is it called?

[B]

It's not the city chart.

[C]

City chart.

[B]

Do you feel, you know how people, like, main character energy, like they have main character. Like, they think like they're the main character, which everybody is their own main character in your own movie.

[C]

Right.

[B]

But, like, sometimes people, like, really, like, embrace that. Did you feel like the main character the day of your wedding? Like, did you feel like you're like, oh, my God, this is all about me and my wife? Of course.

[C]

Me and my wife.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Yeah. But does it feel like that?

[B]

Does it feel like you're like, dude, this is, like, so, like, about me.

[C]

Yeah. I. I knew that my wife and me were the main characters.

[B]

Damn.

[C]

But in my mind, my wife was a main character.

[B]

Yeah. That's good.

[C]

Yeah. You know, because no matter what, like, yes, the wedding was for me, but this is, you know, this is, you know, whoever. Your wife's dream come true, you know, this is what, you know, you don't grow up, you know. Well, you do. Some guys do. Oh, we do grow up. And we're like, you know, I'm gonna have the greatest wedding. I'm gonna marry the best girl or the. The best woman. The best man, whatever. But it's the woman who really grows up in that fairy tale lifestyle. We're like, I want to have the best wedding.

[B]

Yeah, for sure.

[C]

You know what I mean? We don't really think that into it, you know, we know we're gonna do what you're saying, but you know what I'm saying, right? Like, the woman is the one that's, like, it really. It's in her heart.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

So to me, my wife was the main character. But yeah, bro, you're the main character. Everyone's talking about you. Everyone wants to talk to you. Everybody wants to take pictures with you.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Everybody is happy for you.

[B]

Okay. Being in the wedding and, like, having people come up to you, everybody kind of says the same thing. Would you say that?

[C]

I Would say so. Yeah.

[B]

Okay. I'm gonna try to like switch it up.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

You know what I mean?

[C]

That's another good attitude.

[B]

I'm trying to switch it up.

[C]

Switch it up.

[B]

Because everyone's gonna say congratulations and stuff like that, you know? I don't know. I gotta figure it out.

[C]

Yeah, figure it out. But yeah, that. That's a great idea, bro. It is a great idea. Another thing too is it's really hard, but it says here, be mindful with alcohol and in our culture, you know, let's get faded.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know what I mean? Which is great. But also, don't be that guy that gets too hammered. And then I got what to do with you.

[B]

There was, there was like a few people at your wedding that kind of. Kind of happened to you.

[C]

Yeah. And luckily it didn't go out of control.

[B]

No, it wasn't out of control, but.

[C]

And it was nice. No. Look, I don't care if you're blacked out on the corner on your table. I'm laughing. But when you try fighting people.

[B]

Oh, that's crazy.

[C]

When you try being like, like somewhat creepy, disrespectful, you're causing harm or you're disruptive. You're being disruptive. That's the pedal. That's a good point. So it's not really like, oh, yo, too much.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And you know, like, I don't know what to do with you. Hahaha. I'm funny. Then she got faded at cocktail hour, you know.

[B]

Have you ever been accidentally faded? Have you ever been like you're drinking and then you. Not necessarily. Anyway, just in general.

[C]

Oh yeah, in general.

[B]

100. Just like hot. The. Did I get so faded?

[C]

Yes.

[B]

First live show for me. That was an accidental blackout. Accidental, bro. Like I was drinking, obviously. But then it just happened.

[C]

You had a lot of shots, Josh. I don't know if that's accidental. You accidentally drink 10 shots. Did you accidentally chug from the bottle? For sure, buddy.

[B]

No, but I was trying to be. I wasn't like intentionally like trying to be like get up.

[C]

I know, I know what you mean. Hard. Cuz I seen you drinking. That's easy.

[B]

Yes, easy, easy.

[C]

You also didn't eat that much.

[B]

True.

[C]

I remember we went to the restaurant. You weren't. You weren't eating that much.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Cuz you didn't want to feel like fool.

[B]

But at a wedding.

[C]

And I didn't either.

[B]

At a wedding, that could happen too.

[C]

Yeah, it could happen. I've gone faded at weddings. Obviously. That's fun. But like, yeah, but like I said, I. I'll be real. I've invited maybe one family member that he has a history of, you know, being disruptive, being, you know, and you.

[B]

Were a little nervous about it, like, inviting them, knowing that they could potentially be.

[C]

Sadly, sadly, no. Lombita.

[B]

Oh, wow. I. I think that's okay.

[C]

I know.

[B]

I think that's totally. Because, mind you, knowing that.

[C]

Knowing that, mind you, it is my wedding, but it's also. It's my wife's wedding as well, more important. And if she doesn't want people like that. Yeah, I'm sorry.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

It's not my party. My wife's party too. Yeah. You know what I mean? And. And that's another thing. Don't feel bad if I'm sorry, you know.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

But you are who you are. You. You get how you get. And I'm not having that. You know, it's zero tolerance, bro.

[B]

No, I totally get it.

[C]

You cannot ruin, you know, especially.

[B]

You can't take that chance.

[C]

Everybody got that deal that, like, it's bubble, you know, there's pretty girls, you know, whatever, and just not gonna happen. So, yeah, be mindful with your alcohol.

[B]

Yeah, that's fair. That's a fair point.

[C]

Yeah, I'm saying don't get faded.

[B]

No, yeah, I'm not saying don't, but.

[C]

Every wedding you're fading.

[B]

Yeah, be mindful. I think that's the perfect word. Like, be mindful of the alcohol, you're concerned. And then also, bro, like, when you're in a setting like that, for me specifically, I'm speaking, like, to myself, when I get too faded the next day, bro, my anxiety's through the roof because I'm like, how did I behave? What did I say? Because, you know, when you're drinking, like, kind of things kind of go out the window, right? Like, you're not really thinking as clear as you normally do when you're sober.

[C]

And back. Back to my point too. Like, also, guys, how many times have we been to a wedding? You're like, what happened? And you didn't even enjoy the wedding. I know, bro. Like, get faded, but from a 1 to 10, keep it, like at a 7. Scratching 8. Scratching 8 at the end. Scratching it. Scratch and sniff that at the end. Yeah, yeah, at the end.

[B]

But, like, wait, how late did your wedding go to? 11. Oh, it hit. No, you don't know.

[C]

I must not.

[B]

Wait, did it go till 2am that.

[C]

Was the most silver one there.

[B]

Did it? Did it?

[C]

Yeah. 2. Oh, yeah, it was. You know, here In California, it's really difficult. So I. I found more somewhere where it ended at 2, where we were able to. There's other places I end up for.

[B]

But I was one of the last people to leave.

[C]

Yeah, I know. It was fun.

[B]

What time did you leave?

[C]

When everybody left.

[B]

Oh, you did?

[C]

Yeah. And then I. I think probably even like later because we were still like, getting our.

[B]

Did you guys go to the hotel? Oh, you gotta stay at the hotel. Yeah, that's right. That's right, that's right.

[C]

So, yeah, be mindful with your alcohol. Like I said, you want to remember the day.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You really do. You want to go to sleep that night, like, oh, that was fun. You don't want to go to sleep because you blacked out and didn't just been like, wake up the next day. Like, oh, my God, what the.

[B]

What happened? That was fun, right?

[C]

I mean, whatever. Do whatever you want to do. But I'm just saying, you're gonna not regret it if you just. Just keep it a 7. Scratch the 8 in the ass at the end, you know, put it in your back pocket. Yeah. Because if you. Scratching the 8 at the end, say that the wedding ends at 2, taking a couple extra shots around 1 120. By the time it's 2:30, you're gonna feel those shots.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You'll be a solid eight and a half, nine. But at the end of the day, like, whatever you. The wedding was fine.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Now it's just a lone survivor.

[B]

Every man for themselves.

[C]

Every man for themselves. Another thing too, is how many times have you been to a wedding? And it's not your culture. Right. It's. I've been to Middle Eastern weddings, bro, and like, I didn't know what to do. Oh. Because they have so much. They have beautiful traditions, beautiful, rich culture. Yeah, rich culture. The way that even. Even during misa or the church or what is it called? That's not the ceremony. Right. During the ceremony, there's, like, different shapes that you maybe not have dealt with. Respect the traditions, respect the dances. You know, if you get invited, have fun with them. Even if you don't believe in it or whatever. Respect it. Don't be that guy that just stands. Stands around like, what the hell? Because everyone's looking at you like, who the fuck is this guy? Yeah. You know, be the guy that jumps in the line, you know, in the dance and do this part six. Yeah. Partake because you're invited. There to be a key feature in the wedding. You're not there to just watch it either. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Be a part of it. I think we got two more real quick.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

And then this. This other one is pretty common sense. Hit the dance floor.

[B]

Come on, baby.

[C]

Come on, man.

[B]

Don't be sitting at the table the whole you can't wedding, bro.

[C]

You can't. And people do that. People are shy. I get it. Get the out of your little eggshell, bro.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Yeah. Hit the dance floor for a couple hours. Go get lit. If you dance ugly, who cares?

[B]

Cares.

[C]

Don't. Like you said, don't be the guy that's always at the table the whole time.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know what I mean? That's whack, bro.

[B]

Yeah. And then if we say. And if I go, hey, you don't want to go dance, be like, I don't like to dance. We're at a wedding, bro.

[C]

Yeah. Who cares, bro?

[B]

And who doesn't like to dance, really? Like, who doesn't really like to dance?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

People don't like to be seen dancing.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

That's the difference.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Everybody likes to dance.

[C]

And that's true.

[B]

You know what I mean? People don't like to be seen dancing.

[C]

Oh, I don't dance. No, you just don't want to be seen shy. Yeah, exactly.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

No, not here. Yeah. Guys, don't be the guy or girl that's just at the. You know, at the table, just twiddling your thumbs. Don't do that. That's really important, bro. Be lively.

[B]

Beat the vibe, bro, because you.

[C]

And if everybody follows suit, the party gets lit. And I think that you are responsible for the litness of the wedding.

[B]

I'm gonna go as far as saying, if you are being like that, you're making the wedding about yourself. If you're being like that, like, you're sitting back because you don't want to, like, dance or you don't like to dance. You don't like people watching.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

You're being selfish, because this isn't about you. It's about creating an environment for the beautiful people who invited you to their special day.

[C]

Yeah. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah.

[B]

Like, that's the way you got to look at it.

[C]

Yeah. And they'll see you.

[B]

If somebody's being not a vibe, bro, I'm going to be like, you're so selfish.

[C]

Guys, if you're not a vibe, the bride and the groom, they are going to see you. And if they don't see you, someone's going to tell them that you were being whack. And you probably will never get invited anywhere ever again.

[B]

Whack over there.

[C]

Really? No way. Oh, I thought they're gonna be cool and lit and be friendly because now you give off, like, not friendly vibes.

[B]

Yeah. Too cool for school.

[C]

Yeah. And at a wedding, there's a lot of people you don't know.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

This is when you get to know everybody, bro. It's such a beautiful thing when you're like, oh, how do you know. You know, when you get married, when I got married. How do you know Josh and you know Mo? Or how do you know Karen and Sevas? How do you know Jonathan and Sierra? It's so beautiful to. To know those stories. Yeah. You know, oh, I met them this and that. You're like, oh, no way. Oh, you know what? He has talked about you, you know, is that. Is that. Is that why he does that or, you know, it's a beautiful thing, bro.

[B]

I agree.

[C]

Or like, oh, I'm his cousin from his mom. Mom's side, you know? Wow. His mom.

[B]

I didn't even know he had a mom.

[C]

Yeah, my s. My mom is his mom's sister. No way. Damn. You know the last one. Leave graciously.

[B]

Oh, you know, I like that.

[C]

Say your goodbyes. You. You say sweet, sweet nothings.

[B]

You try to make your way to the bride and groom to say bye.

[C]

Right. Like, yeah, I would say so. I don't want to shady bounce somebody.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Especially at a wedding.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, now if you know that.

[B]

I just love a good Irish goodbye, man. But at a wedding is not it. Huh?

[C]

At a wedding, I think you need to pay your.

[B]

Your dues.

[C]

Thank you for having.

[B]

Yeah. But it also depends on what time you're leaving. Like, if you're just going to show face, I think you can dip it, you know, but if you're staying there throughout the time and it's like an appropriate time where people are leaving, then you can.

[C]

Especially if you know that you mean a lot to the bro.

[B]

Oh, even more so, bro. It all depends on the relationship, too. For sure.

[C]

Yeah. But definitely leave graciously.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And even says here I wrote it down because I'm sick today. Damn. Say goodbye if possible and thank the couple or their family or their host. If you can't get to the. They're always busy. You can get to them, the family.

[B]

The mom and dad for sure.

[C]

Mom and the dad for sure. People that are close by. Oh, yeah. No, he told me to tell you to blah, blah, blah. It's very important.

[B]

I love that bro.

[C]

Matter respect, bro.

[B]

I think we Put people on, bro. If you're showing up to the wedding, you're not following these tips, you need to re watch this episode again.

[C]

I like how we kind of, like, gave etiquette to a wedding.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Right down below where you think that we should tell you the best etiquette for a certain event, for a certain type of party, or, like, etiquette on, like, having people over?

[B]

Because the one thing me and Sevaz know is etiquette.

[C]

Etiquette on being a fucking co pilot in a car. In a car. Oh, there's rules to that shit.

[B]

100% are. 100% are, Blinky Boo.

[C]

So leave a comment down below where we should talk about etiquette, because I kind of like giving my two cents in shit.

[B]

Let me get three of them.

[C]

And I'm gonna tell you one thing. You're gonna see pictures soon, whether this week or you probably already saw them. But when Josh and myself we in a suit, I don't care. I'll be pompous too. We sexy.

[B]

We're sexy. Sexy with it, bro. I'll be acting different.

[C]

Sometimes I wonder, like, if people don't know us and they just saw us, do you think that they think that we're the most handsome man in the world?

[B]

They either think we're international models, secret agents, or the main character.

[C]

Yeah. Or all three.

[B]

We're all three, bro.

[C]

If I was a girl and I saw us walking down and I was single, I'd go up to us immediately.

[B]

Be like, tell me everything about you.

[C]

Be. I would just be like, please marry me.

[B]

What a line right there. What if you just go up, Somebody be like, tell me everything about you.

[C]

See, those are the greatest pickup lines ever. Because I'm. Bro, if somebody even came up to me right now. Tell me everything about you. Regardless. Yeah, regardless. If I knew that they liked me or not, I'd be like, whoa.

[B]

Yeah. And then you go like, where do I start? And you're like, from the very beginning. I want to hear everything.

[C]

I am so interested in you.

[B]

From the top, baby.

[C]

Bro. That's so good. We have to use that line this weekend.

[B]

Tell me, everybody, everything about you. Where do I start? From the very beginning.

[C]

Oh, my God. No. Yes. Congratulations, Johnson.

[B]

Yes. Absolutely. Beautiful wedding.

[C]

Beautiful wedding. Yeah. If you guys don't follow them, I know you guys already do, but if you don't follow them, they probably should.

[B]

Get them back on the podcast.

[C]

Yeah, we should. It's been a while. They were in the shoebox podcast. Not what, like two, three years ago.

[B]

Yeah. Shoebox Studio. Wow.

[C]

Look. Now they're married.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

That's beautiful. I know.

[B]

Crazy.

[C]

Yeah. Follow us.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Here on Instagram. Link down below. Yeah. Dallas, we.

[B]

We there, baby.

[C]

We there. We'll see you in a couple days.

[B]

El Paso.

[C]

El Paso. No vemos.

[B]

Wow, bro.

[C]

We lit. We lit.

[B]

We here.

[C]

We starting the tour again.

[B]

We should have done live show etiquette. Here's rule number one.

[C]

Get there on time.

[B]

Well, yeah, actually, yeah.

[C]

Rule number two. Now, what's rule number one?

[B]

Rule number one, Be lit, baby. Just enjoy yourself. That's what it's about. Like, there's no rules. Rules. Just show up, have a good time.

[C]

Be lit, get to know people.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Because everybody that you're sitting next to, and that's.

[B]

There's a common ground.

[C]

There's a common ground. That's the beautiful thing. That's why I love the live show so much, because everybody that attends them do this, do the same thing ritually every week with you. You know, it's like the community. It's so cool. I love seeing it. It's the best part about it.

[B]

Yeah. I can't wait. I can't wait, man.

[C]

I'm so excited. What else? Or something else? There's something else. If you haven't got your tickets yet, there's still tickets available. They're on La Platica's Instagram at the link in the bio. Yep, It's. It's everybody. It's not just Dallas. It's not just El Paso. It's Dallas, El Paso, San Jose, Scottsdale, Riverside. Yeah, that's it.

[B]

That's it. We're coming, baby.

[C]

Yeah, we're coming. So we're very excited. Enjoy the rest of your guys's week, baby. Etiquette for a wedding complete. Bye.

[B]

Love you guys.

[C]

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[B]

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[C]

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