Episode Overview

Podcast: Lakepointe Church with Josh Howerton
Episode: The Power Of A Godly Woman | Love Life | Pastor Josh Howerton
Date: August 17, 2025

This episode, part of the “Love Life” series walking through Song of Solomon, focuses on the power and calling of a godly woman, primarily addressing wives and women in the church. Pastor Josh Howerton offers teaching rooted in both biblical narrative and practical life application, exploring themes of sexuality, friendship, marriage roles, priorities, and the spiritual legacy of women. The episode is marked by Howerton’s humorous, direct, and often candid style.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting the Stage: The Purpose and Tone of the Message

• Disclaimer & Audience: Pastor Josh “warns” this is a frank, PG-13 message focusing on sex and marriage from a biblical perspective, intentionally speaking to women (00:20).
• Cultural Observations: He notes that men are often challenged directly in church, but pastors tend to go soft on women, which he aims to correct:

  “I refuse to rob the women of our church of the discipleship they need to grow up into maturity in Christ.” (05:40)

2. Four Characteristics of a Woman of God

Principle 1: A Woman of God is a Sexual Blessing to Her Husband

• Textual Foundation: Song of Solomon 1, with explicit reference to biblical marital intimacy (09:20).
• Cultural Contrasts:
  • Some treat sex as “God” (idolizing it), others as “gross” (shame or taboo)—neither is biblical (10:30).
  • Sex is a good gift for marriage, designed for both procreation and recreation (12:10).
• Straight Talk to Wives:
  • Initiate and invest in physical connection; lack of this can devastate a husband’s confidence.

    “If you want to destroy a man’s confidence, just continually reject him sexually.” (15:00)

  • Marriage isn't just about “him playing offense, her playing defense”—wives are called to be engaged and creative, as in Song of Solomon (13:45).
  • For husbands: Emotional connection for wives is vital; don't ask her to “do your part” without doing yours (18:00).
• Memorable Moment:

  “Ladies, you need to make this your cheer for the rest of your life and your marriage: B-E aggressive. Be. Aggressive!” (16:30)

Principle 2: A Woman of God Chooses Godly Friends

• Biblical Example: Song of Solomon’s female friends encourage her marriage and honor her husband (19:50).
• Practical Application: Encourage friendships that promote godliness and support marriage—not just those who “affirm every feeling.”
  • Howerton humorously critiques “Wind Down Wednesday” friends:

    “You don’t need a bunch of wind-down-Wednesday friends who are just going to tell you whatever you want to hear.” (22:00)

• Advocacy for Discipleship: Join church groups (e.g., Rooted), seek “the holy women of the past,” and actively pursue friendship with older, godly women (23:30).
  • Advice for Young Women:

    “What you need in your life is some godly woman whose age starts with a 5, 6, 7, or 8… and ask them, ‘How do I not be crappy at marriage?’” (27:50)

• Critique of Modern Counsel: Don’t seek marriage advice from “22-year-old TikTok influencers.”
• Finding Godly Men and Women: “Where do you find godly women? Church. Where do you find godly men? Church!” (25:30, 38:50)

Principle 3: A Woman of God Knows How to ‘Fish’ (Singles Guidance)

• Self-Presentation: Attract men by character, not just appearance (31:15).
  • “Fall in love with my character, not just my cleavage.” (32:10)
  • Warning about attracting the wrong kind of man with “junk bait.”

    “If you fish with junk bait, you’re going to catch junk fish.” (33:30)

• Where to Find Godly Men:
  • “If you’re a godly woman looking for a godly man in nightclubs, bars, and Tinder… the only thing you’ll catch there is ‘crappy.’” (37:40)
  • Reiterates: Church is the best “pond” to fish in.
• Empowerment with Humor:
  • “We got some winners up in here, man! We got some guys who… have these amazing things called jobs.” (40:20)

Principle 4: A Woman of God Honors Her Husband (With Her Priorities and Words)

• Expression of Honor: The Song of Solomon wife blesses her husband with both praise and priorities (41:00).
• Priority in Marriage:
  • Husbands must not place job above spouse, and wives must not place children above husband (42:30).

  • “The best way to be a good parent is to be a great spouse.” (43:15)

• Specific Warnings: Don’t make children #1, don’t emasculate or belittle husbands in public (46:00).
  • “There should be things happening in your bed that would scar your children for life if they saw them.” (45:50)
• Power of Encouragement:
  • “Encouragement in the mouth of a wife is strong in the heart of a husband.” (48:40)
  • Book of Proverbs—nagging and quarrelsome spirit are devastating for a marriage (46:45).

  • “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” (Proverbs 12:4, 48:05)

• Personal Example: Howerton shares how his wife, Jana, rallied the family to encourage him after public criticism, quoting Jesus:

  “‘Blessed are you when others revile you... Rejoice and be glad, for great is your reward in heaven.’—So tonight we feast.” (49:40)

3. The Woman of God Code (49:55)

Jana Howerton leads the congregation in a powerful confessional declaration of godly womanhood, touching on themes of forgiveness, biblical priorities, purity, unity in marriage, repentance, scriptural submission, and steadfastness.

Notable Excerpts from the Confession (50:19):

“I am a woman of God. God is my father. Jesus Christ is my Lord. The Spirit of God and the Word of God are my guide. … My husband is my highest earthly calling.”
“I am not a perfect woman. I am a forgiven woman. All my sins, past, present, and future have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God...”
“I am a prioritized woman. I unapologetically keep my God-given priorities in order: my Savior, then my husband, then our children and our home, and then all else.”
“I am a Bible woman. My thoughts, feelings, and the opinions of this world are submitted to the Word of the living God…”
“I am a woman of God. I will seek to build up my home for God’s glory and our family’s flourishing, serving the Lord together all the days of our life.”

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Humor & Candor:

  “I am going to be encouraging all of us to have extremely Pentecostal marriages. Lots of tongues and the laying on of hands.” (03:10)

• On Discipleship Equality:

  “I refuse to rob the women of our church of the discipleship they need to grow up into maturity in Christ.” (05:40)

• On Friendship:

  “You don’t need a bunch of wind-down-Wednesday friends who are just going to tell you whatever you want to hear and affirm every feeling you have.” (22:10)

• On Self-Presentation and Dating:

  “If you fish with junk bait, you’re going to catch junk fish.” (33:30)

• On Priorities in Marriage:

  “You are not one flesh with your children, even though your children came from your flesh. You are one flesh with your husband and your husband alone.” (43:00)

• On Encouragement:

  “Encouragement in the mouth of a wife is strong in the heart of a husband. You got this. You got this.” (48:40)

Important Segment Timestamps

• Intro, disclaimers, and cultural setup: 00:00 – 06:00
• Four characteristics overview: 09:00
• Marital sexuality and theology: 10:30 – 18:00
• Friends & discipleship, “holy women of the past”: 19:30 – 29:00
• Guidance for singles; “fishing” analogies: 31:15 – 42:00
• Prioritizing husband, honoring with words and action: 41:00 – 48:30
• Personal testimony: “We feast!” encouragement: 49:20
• Jana leads the confession: 50:19 – 52:25

Episode Tone & Style

Funny, direct, and unapologetically biblical, blending practical advice, personal stories, and lively analogies. The message is clear: live God’s design for biblical womanhood courageously and joyfully—regardless of cultural trends.

For Listeners

This episode is especially valuable for Christian women (married and single), couples desiring stronger marriages, and church communities wanting to disciple both men and women with clarity and grace. The repeated emphasis: biblical womanhood requires intentionality, spiritual community, and a willingness to prioritize God’s word over culture.