Podcast
Lessons from a Quitter
Hosted by Goli Kalkhoran · EN
It is never too late to start over. No matter how much time or money you've spent chasing degrees and jobs to get to your current position, if ultimately you're unhappy, then it is time to quit. Each week, Goli Kalkhoran, a fellow quitter, will interview inspiring guests who have quit lucrative careers to forge their own path and create a life they love. Get insight, inspiration, tools, and resources to help you quit what you hate and figure out what it is that you love.
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Episodes
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Building Confidence Through Self-Validation Cycles
1w ago00:31:14Tap to summarizeThe root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain… This isn't some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing. I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors: People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you're good enough High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you're worthy Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people's approval so you can believe you're good. Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you're not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise And on and on. Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.
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Leaning Into Uncertainty And Doubt
2w ago00:33:22Tap to summarizeOn this week's podcast, I'm taking you behind the scenes of all of my UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT around my new membership launch. You might be wondering: "Why are you doing this, Goli?" Because I want you to stop thinking that other people have it figured out.Because I want you to see that the entire process is filled with fear and doubt. Because I don't want to just show you results; I want to show you the messy middle.
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The Fear of Failure
3w ago00:24:33Tap to summarizeNo description available
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Getting Good At Feeling Discomfort
May 500:25:54Tap to summarizeThis week we talk all about discomfort. And I don't mean the dictionary definition of discomfort. I mean the feeling that you have when you are pushing towards your goals and you feel like you might throw up...or die. Yeah, that's discomfort. And if you're going to live the biggest life possible, you have to learn to get better at feeling it and not making it mean anything about you. In this episode, I dive into how you can get better at dealing with the inevitable discomfort and keep going!
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Apr 2800:29:48Tap to summarizeIn the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," we dive deep into crafting a well-rounded Quit Plan. It all starts with an honest self-assessment—unearthing why you're itching to leave that job of yours. You know, those reasons you might not even want to admit to yourself. We begin by understanding the underlying motives for leaving our current situation. Next, I guide you to explore your dreams and paint a picture of the life you desire. This way, you can dissect your strengths and skills and start to explore various career options that align best with your true desires. I also help you break down your finances so you can calculate your financial runway once you do quit. Once we crunch the numbers, you can explore whether it's truly the cash or your thoughts about it that are keeping you stuck at your job. And all those doubts you've been harboring about quitting? I have you list your worries, confront them, and come up with a game plan for every single one. Trust me, it's empowering. Listen and work through the six steps for your personalized quit plan, one that's going to guide you to the life you've been craving.
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Handling Difficult Conversations Around Quitting
Apr 2100:27:44Tap to summarizeThis week we're diving deep into having difficult conversations around quitting. We're going to look at the people in your life—the ones who have lots of opinions on what you should or shouldn't be doing. You know the type: spouses, friends, family, and even coworkers who always seem to have something to say. The first and most crucial step is understanding whether these people should even have a say in your decisions. Now, here's the thing. Different people play different roles in your life. If it's your spouse, for example, their opinion matters because it directly affects both of you. But for others, like your parents or that super opinionated friend, it's important to figure out if they're just giving their two cents or if you genuinely need their support or permission. In this episode, we'll also dive into how to clearly communicate what you need from these conversations.
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Handling Guilt Around Quitting
Apr 1400:28:06Tap to summarizeOn today's episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we're diving deep into handling the guilt around quitting. It's a topic that resonates with so many of us, especially those of us who have been raised to prioritize making others happy. We often find ourselves ready to move on, with a clear vision of what we want to do, yet held back by the overwhelming guilt of leaving behind our bosses, coworkers, or even clients we've developed deep connections with. In this episode I want offer you a new perspective, recognizing your own needs and priorities while acknowledging the reciprocal nature of relationships. By learning to sit with discomfort and overcoming the fear of others' negative emotions, we can make choices that align with our true desires.
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Managing Fear
Apr 700:25:00Tap to summarizeIn this podcast episode, I explore the pervasive role of fear in our lives, particularly when pursuing dreams and change. Fear, often rooted in the fear of failure and negative emotions, can paralyze us. The key is to confront these fears by answering critical questions about the worst-case scenarios. Realizing that we can handle these emotions empowers us to take risks and move forward. Listen for the questions you should be asking yourself to face fear head-on and to get to where you want.
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You are not behind
Mar 3100:30:01Tap to summarizeIn the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," we tackle the feeling of "being behind." High achievers often struggle with this thought, ironically, despite their accomplishments. We delve into why this thought persists and how it robs us of joy and happiness. Society's expectations and hustle culture play a significant role in creating this feeling of falling short. However, it's crucial to recognize that we are not on a predetermined, one-size-fits-all path. Everyone's journey is unique, and comparing ourselves to others only breeds unhappiness. We explore the importance of accepting where we are and finding joy in the present moment rather than constantly chasing an elusive future of achievement. Listen for concrete tips to take on the feeling of "being behind" and remember, you are exactly where you need to be. There's no need to rush to some imagined destination.
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Finding Your Community
Mar 2400:33:46Tap to summarizeMy biggest tip for success when you're quitting and starting something new: Get in the room with people doing the thing you want to do. This week, I talk about the benefits of surrounding yourself with a like-minded community and a few ways to find those groups.
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