Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari

Episode Title: It's Not Goodbye, It's See You Soon
Date: September 9, 2025
Host: Kristin Cavallari
Podcast Network: Dear Media

Episode Overview

In this candid, reflective solo episode, Kristin Cavallari invites listeners into her LA condo for an unscripted and “rebellious” episode—her first recorded at home. Kristin shares that she’s at a personal turning point, describing an urgent need to protect her peace by deleting TikTok and changing her phone number. She unpacks the negative effects of constant digital connectivity, the impact of others' opinions, and the difficulties of setting personal boundaries—especially as a public figure. Kristin discusses her plans for the podcast’s future (including a short hiatus and new content), her hopes to reclaim more present family time, and her commitment to personal growth. The episode is rich in self-reflection, advice, and her characteristically frank style.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Recording from Home: Embracing New Energy

• Kristin explains her decision to record from her condo rather than a studio, noting a need to capture her current energy and thoughts in the moment.
  • "I just got off of a plane and... I wanted to do a podcast about it and get this out quickly." (00:49)

2. Protecting Peace: Deleting TikTok and Changing Her Number

• Kristin discusses a “rebellious state”—a surge of motivation to make big changes:
  • Deleted TikTok from her phone to avoid the barrage of opinions and negativity.
  • "We all get to control what comes into our lives... who has access to us, who gets to give an opinion in our lives." (02:16)
• Changed her phone number to filter out unnecessary contact and preserve her mental health.
  • She was highly selective about who received her new number, opting to only tell people with whom she truly communicates.
  • "I just asked myself, what's the most important thing for me in my day to day life? And for me, it is...harnessing this peace." (23:28)

3. The Toll of Constant Opinions: Social Media & Accessibility

• Kristin reveals frustration about being bombarded with comments and unsolicited opinions, especially after her latest show aired.
  • Even as a seasoned public figure, she feels overwhelmed and invaded by direct access strangers have to her via social media.
  • "My TikTok, I am my own algorithm. So I get fed a lot of these videos about me. And it drives me crazy, if I'm being completely honest." (03:40)
• Reflects nostalgically on the early Laguna Beach days, when encountering others’ opinions required effort.
  • "Back then…there wasn’t this direct line of communication that now we have through social media." (06:32)

4. Social Media: Low Vibes, Overload, and Fear-Mongering

• Critiques the “low vibrational” nature of gossip, pop-culture news, and the echo chamber effect—comparing it to sports and politics in toxicity.
  • "Celebrity gossip, any kind of gossip...it's nasty." (07:17)
• Notes how social media (TikTok in particular) propagates fear and unnecessary anxiety around health, wellness, and relationships.
  • "Now we're all eating a credit card sized amount of plastic every week. We all are living in mold...everyone in your life is a narcissist. It's not you, it's everyone else." (07:44)
• Acknowledges some value in online tips (e.g., fruit washing), but generally feels overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of information.
  • Raises the provocative notion: "Is ignorance bliss? I think in a lot of ways it sort of is." (09:35)

5. The Power of Mindset & Intuition

• Argues that our focus shapes our reality; excessive online attention to fears only magnifies them.
  • "What we focus on grows…that’s energy. That’s science." (09:36)
• Emphasizes the importance of returning to self-trust, introspection, and personalized choices amidst the trends and anxiety promoted on social platforms.
  • "Life is not one size fits all. And I actually think that's the beautiful thing about life, is that we are all different." (10:44)

6. Boundaries, Boredom, and the Impact of Phones

• Kristin laments the loss of quiet thought, nostalgic for pre-smartphone days when boredom spurred reflection and creativity.
  • "Phones have taken away us sitting in our own thoughts...our phones have become so addictive that any chance of having a moment by yourself...is [gone]." (18:55)
• She’s especially concerned for her children, believing constant screens erode the ability to process emotions and creativity.
  • "Kids don't know how to be bored anymore. They never sit in their thoughts anymore." (19:50)
• Relates efforts to set digital boundaries at home—timed app shutdowns, limiting social media, and actively encouraging conversation and board games.
  • "When you guys are walking around like this with your head in your phone, you're like zombies. And like, you're not there, You're a zombie, you are not here." (21:27)

7. New Routines, Family Time, and Value of Presence

• With fewer digital distractions, Kristin invests more in intentional time with her children (playing games, taking walks).
  • "That's 30 minutes wasted to me...I would rather have all of us together creating memories and laughing and having fun." (35:01)
• Expresses the irreplaceable value of “these precious years” with her kids.
  • "This time with my kids is so...It's just precious. It's precious. And I want to savior every moment." (35:59)

8. Fresh Starts & Course Changes

• Changing her phone number symbolizes a clean slate and letting go of the past—including ex-boyfriends and casual acquaintances.
  • "I don't know. I like having a clean slate. I just feel like this new energy is among me right now, and it's...the beginning of a new chapter." (32:14)

9. Podcast Plans & Hiatus

• Announces a temporary pause for “Let’s Be Honest” but promises to return, hinting at fun “Hills Rewatch” episodes.
  • "Actually, what I'm gonna do is I'm going to kick it off doing some Hills rewatch episodes, which I've already done the first two. And, oh my God, am I having fun doing it." (33:26)
• Intent on pursuing personal growth: plans to learn Italian (with Rosetta Stone) and be more present.
  • "I've downloaded Rosetta Stone. I'm gonna learn Italian." (33:28)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On boundaries and accessibility:
  "I've just decided protecting my peace is the most important thing for me." – Kristin (03:00)

• On escapism and digital overload:
  "Social media preys on our insecurities, and it preys on us wanting to question our own truth." – Kristin (10:07)

• On individual journeys:
  "Your inner voice, that inner guide, is your best compass for life." – Kristin (16:20)

• On the change of era:
  "We never truly know anybody's whole story. And my issue with phones is that the phones have taken away us sitting in our own thoughts." – Kristin (18:55)

• On personal transformation:
  "There are a couple of guys who...still text me, and I don't respond. And they keep texting me over and over and over. ...I just feel like this is the beginning of a new chapter in my life." – Kristin (31:56–32:14)

• On gratitude:
  "Your support, with everything I do, especially this podcast, is so, so incredible, and it really means the world to me." – Kristin (36:02)

Key Timestamps

• 00:49: Kristin’s decision to record from home
• 02:16: Decision to delete TikTok and set boundaries
• 03:40: Discussion of how TikTok algorithm affects her mental state
• 07:17–09:36: Social media’s negative impact and fear mongering
• 10:44: The importance of self-trust and individuality
• 18:55–21:27: The impact of phones and screens on mental presence—for adults and kids
• 31:07: Kristin’s process for distributing her new number—prioritizing meaningful relationships
• 33:26: Preview of “Hills Rewatch” episodes and podcast updates
• 35:01: Commitment to more meaningful family time
• 36:02: Closing gratitude to listeners

Closing

Kristin’s episode is a blend of honest self-examination and practical advice, encouraging listeners to reassess their relationship with technology and external influences. By candidly sharing her struggles with boundaries, peace, and presence, she empowers her audience to do the same—reminding everyone of the value of listening to themselves and cherishing time with loved ones. As she signs off for a short hiatus, she leaves the door open for new adventures, more authenticity, and, of course, a return to the mic.