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Episode: Behind the Scenes Stories From Our Acting Careers

Release Date: September 5, 2025
Hosts: Lisa Rinna & Harry Hamlin

Overview

In this episode, Hollywood power couple Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin take listeners on a candid, funny, and revealing journey through the quirks and milestones of their decades-long acting careers. From hilarious family anecdotes to hard-won industry wisdom, Lisa and Harry open up about everything from wardrobe habits and household battles to the drama of soap opera life, making it both a heartfelt and entertaining listen. They discuss the changing landscape for actors, the realities of fame, and how their respective upbringings, personalities, and choices shaped the legacies they've built—both onscreen and off.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Opening Banter: Life, Laundry & Lean Jean Philosophy

[00:32 - 03:40]

• Harry’s Haircuts and Life Markers:
  Harry jokes about having had the same hairstylist, Jonathan Antin, for 30 years, reflecting on the oddness of reaching such milestones.

• Wardrobe Habits & Family Laundry Feuds:
  Lisa teases Harry on his jeans habit, while Harry justifies it with his intermittent fasting routine and the satisfaction of fitting into old clothes.

  • Lisa tries to train the family to reuse towels, but the house is plagued by overfilled hampers due to frequent showers.

Notable Quote:

"You get to a point in your life when you can say, oh, he's been cutting my hair for 30 years. I mean, that's just like… there's something weird about that."
— Harry [01:10]

2. Skims Bag & Kardashian Connections

[04:02 - 09:03]

• Skims Bag Mystery:
  Lisa points out Harry’s use of a Skims bag (Kim Kardashian’s shapewear line) that actually belongs to their daughter Delilah. Harry is oblivious to the branding, sparking playful banter.

• Behind-the-scenes of Kim Kardashian’s Early Branding:
  Lisa recounts being in a pre-launch SKIMS (then called Kimono) infomercial with Kris Jenner and Kyle Richards, revealing fun industry trivia.

Notable Quotes:

"Excuse me. It's like gorgeous female bodies on the bag, and you didn't look at it?"
— Lisa [04:42]
"I live with a gorgeous female. I sleep with a gorgeous female. Why do I need to look at another one?"
— Harry [04:47]

3. Nipple Ring Chronicles: Cautionary Parenting

[09:03 - 14:17]

• The Nipple Ring Bra:
  A tangent about a SKIMS bra designed with fake nipple rings leads to stories of their daughters’ real piercings.

• Amelia's Medical Scare:
  Lisa shares a harrowing tale of daughter Amelia ending up in the ER—at Sherman Oaks Medical, then later, UCLA—with sepsis from a nipple piercing injury at Coachella.

  • Delilah also went through a piercing phase, but both daughters eventually removed them after this incident.

Notable Quote:

"She had sepsis. Sepsis in her fricking boob."
— Lisa [12:45]
"So there’s another cautionary tale. Don’t get a nipple ring."
— Harry [13:11]

4. Tattoo Talk: The Next Generation’s Rebellion

[17:15 - 26:33]

• Tattoos as Individual Expression:
  Harry expresses both curiosity and resignation about Delilah and Amelia's various tattoos—aphorisms, secret ink inside lips, and behind the ears.

• Saturn Tattoo & Family Stories:
  Harry reminisces about teaching Amelia about space when she was little, linking to her Saturn tattoo. He dives into a humorous (and astonishing) math tangent about counting to a trillion, connecting it to Saturn’s distance from Earth.

Notable Quote:

"So if you stacked one quarter on top of another on Earth and you stacked a trillion quarters on top of each other... the stack apparently would go from here to the surface of Saturn."
— Harry [25:16]

5. Voicemail Q&A: Drama, Nosiness, and Family History

[27:10 - 32:54]

• Advice Segment:
  Responding to a listener’s question on avoiding drama when you’re naturally nosy, Lisa admits to being a “shit stirrer” more than a snoop. Harry reflects on having "crazy" but beautiful exes and appreciates Lisa’s refreshing lack of suspicion.

Notable Quote:

"I was paid for it for eight years, so I was quite good at it. But I'm not getting paid for it anymore, so I don't do it anymore."
— Lisa [31:43]

6. Becoming Actors: Paths, Parent Problems, and Rejection

[32:46 - 37:14]

• No Industry Nepotism:
  Both share that neither came from acting backgrounds. Lisa’s mother wanted to act but “was too chicken.” Harry’s family (apart from a distant painter aunt) was not artistic.

• Parental Resistance:
  Harry’s parents forcibly discouraged him (removing the distributor from his car to prevent acting school), leading him to bounce a check for a flight instead.

  • Lisa’s family was supportive, making her acting dream feel like “doing God’s work.”

• Rejection is the Norm:
  Both stress that acting is dominated by frequent rejection—about 1 yes per 30 no’s—requiring resilience and true passion.

Notable Quotes:

"The rejection is what is so, so huge. Because you get no way more than you ever get yes."
— Lisa [34:33]
"They took the distributor out of my car...so I took a bus to the airport and I bounced a check. The only time I have ever deliberately bounced a check."
— Harry [36:07]

7. Lisa's "Days of Our Lives": Soap Stardom & Behind-the-Scenes Realities

[39:56 - 48:31]

• Soap Audition Anecdote:
  Lisa’s bold decision to cut her hair before a callback for “Days of Our Lives” led to her landing the role, which felt like “winning the jackpot” in her soap-obsessed household.

• Soap Opera Life:
  She explains the grueling pace (sometimes 40+ pages of dialogue overnight, 80-100 pages shot in one day), the pressure to memorize, and why many actors rely on cue cards.

Notable Quote:

"Soaps are very difficult because it's a show a day, and you got to learn your lines the night before. It is really the best training."
— Lisa [42:38]
"80 to 100 pages? Holy shit."
— Harry [48:01]

8. TV vs. Film: Acting Rhythms & Burnout

[46:19 - 50:35]

• Harry’s Perspective:
  Contrasts the leisurely pace of 80s feature films (long discussions, slow workdays) with the relentless speed of TV—then the breakneck pace of soaps.

• Burnout and Longevity:
  Harry notes how even five years of “L.A. Law” was plenty; he’d be “bored out of my mind” doing the same character for 40+ years as soap actors do.

9. Career Choices: Security vs. Freedom

[50:38 - 55:54]

• Why They Both Walked Away:
  Both describe making conscious choices to step away from steady, high-profile jobs at the right time in order to preserve freedom, life balance, and happiness—even if that meant less security or fame.

• The Big “What-If?”
  Harry admits Warner Bros “would have made me into a huge, huge movie star” had he wanted it, but he values the life, family, and freedom he chose instead.

Notable Quotes:

"The life of a big movie star is not much of a life at all...you're just making movie after movie after movie."
— Harry [54:08]
"You might not even be alive."
— Lisa, on the dangers of 80s Hollywood excess [54:57]

10. The Realities of an Acting Life

[55:43 - 56:09]

• No Such Thing as a Steady Gig:
  Even success is temporary: every actor—no matter how famous—faces the end of their job and the question “now what?”

• Financial Wisdom:
  Advice from a fellow actor: “Save your pennies.”

Memorable Moments & Quotes

• On Parenting, Piercings & Risks:
  "You wanna know what's going on over there. I mean, that's what sells newspapers. That's what sells stories, you know." — Lisa [28:23]

• On Early Industry Hustles:
  "I think that's why I got the role—because I'd cut my hair... they had seen like, 225 girls already for this role." — Lisa [41:09]

• On Career Philosophy:
  "If you really think about it, the life of a big movie star is not much of a life at all...there won't be any life in there." — Harry [54:08]

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Opening banter & Family habits: 00:32 – 03:40
• SKIMS, Kim Kardashian, & early gig stories: 04:02 – 09:03
• Nipple ring cautionary tale: 09:03 – 14:17
• Tattoo talk & Saturn anecdote: 17:15 – 26:33
• Voicemail Q&A (drama & nosiness): 27:10 – 32:54
• Becoming actors, family support & rejection: 32:46 – 37:14
• Soap opera grind, "Days of Our Lives": 39:56 – 48:31
• TV vs. film, burnout and acting pace: 46:19 – 50:35
• Freedom vs. security, career choices: 50:38 – 55:54
• Acting reality check, financial wisdom: 55:43 – 56:09

Episode Tone & Closing Thoughts

Lisa and Harry deliver the episode with their trademark blend of warmth, candor, and irreverent humor. Lisa’s high-energy, bold storytelling is perfectly balanced by Harry’s easygoing wit and philosophical asides. The episode captures both the glamour and the grit of acting, offering listeners genuine behind-the-scenes wisdom, family drama, and plenty of laughs—essential listening for anyone interested in the realities of Hollywood, show biz marriages, and what it really takes to survive (and thrive) in a fickle industry.

"There's nothing secure about our life. Unless you had a steady gig. And there's no such thing as a steady gig in acting."
— Lisa [55:43]