Podcast Summary: "Let's Not Talk About The Husband" Episode: Delilah Belle: My Mental Health Journey
Release Date: July 4, 2025
Hosts: Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin
Guest: Delilah Hamlin

Introduction

In this heartfelt and candid episode of "Let's Not Talk About The Husband," hosts Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin welcome their daughter, Delilah Hamlin, as the first official guest. Delilah opens up about her personal mental health journey, exploring topics such as trauma, panic attacks, and her passion for music. The conversation delves deep into her experiences growing up in a high-profile family and the challenges she has faced along the way.

Delilah’s Background and Current Endeavors

Delilah provides an overview of her recent activities, including her modeling work and passion for music. She discusses her experiences shooting for Vogue, highlighting her collaborations with the Morelli brothers. Delilah emphasizes the importance of surrounding herself with creatives and how this environment fuels her artistic endeavors.

Delilah Hamlin [02:19]: "I don't think I could live without music. I just, I love making music. I love writing music. I have to write my own music."

Harry expresses pride in Delilah's accomplishments and her multifaceted career, balancing modeling with her growing interest in music.

Childhood Experiences and Early Trauma

The conversation shifts to Delilah’s childhood, where she reveals both fond and challenging memories. She recalls spending time alone in nature, playing with dolls, and being deeply introspective from a young age.

Delilah Hamlin [04:08]: "I spent a lot of time alone, actually playing in the backyard, like playing in, like just in nature. I played with dolls till I was like 13. I had a great time."

Harry shares his perspective on Delilah’s development, highlighting how her unique upbringing in the entertainment industry shaped her personality and coping mechanisms.

Trauma and Its Impact

Delilah and Harry delve into the concept of trauma, discussing how it manifests differently for individuals and the societal implications of its overuse.

Delilah Hamlin [06:27]: "We need to take accountability for how we interpret and react to the trauma, if that makes sense."

Harry adds that trauma varies in intensity and can significantly influence one's life trajectory.

Harry Hamlin [06:28]: "There are varying degrees of trauma. Some are horribly traumatic... and then there's trauma that is not necessarily as explosive or as dramatic, but could have the same long-term effects."

PANDAS and Mental Health Struggles

A significant portion of the episode focuses on PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal infections), a condition Delilah has been managing since childhood. She explains how viral infections can trigger autoimmune responses leading to severe anxiety, panic attacks, and other psychiatric symptoms.

Delilah Hamlin [09:38]: "PANDAS is the abrupt onset of like OCD, tics, anxiety, panic attacks, moodiness, separation anxiety, rage fits, phobias."

Delilah shares her ongoing struggle with these symptoms, emphasizing the lack of awareness and research surrounding PANDAS, especially in adults.

Delilah Hamlin [14:41]: "I'm not a child anymore. I'm 27, and I still suffer from these symptoms and these episodes. We need to bring awareness to that because it is so horrible."

Coping Mechanisms and Therapy

Delilah discusses her long-term relationship with therapy, which began at the age of 11 after experiencing panic attacks. She highlights the importance of validating emotions and avoiding the blame on trauma for personal actions.

Delilah Hamlin [08:40]: "I've been in therapy so for so many years, since I was 11. I really know how to work the therapy system."

Harry and Delilah explore the challenges of managing panic attacks and the cyclical nature of anxiety, especially when triggered by factors like infections or societal pressures.

Delilah Hamlin [20:32]: "Be like, I can see that you're not... How can I help you regulate."

Impact on Personal and Professional Life

Delilah reflects on how her mental health struggles have influenced her career choices and self-esteem. She shares poignant memories from her teenage years, including being removed from her acapella team due to missed rehearsals caused by her condition.

Delilah Hamlin [29:03]: "The fact that I don't remember this is crazy."

Harry recounts his efforts to support Delilah during these turbulent times, underscoring the familial support that has been pivotal in her journey.

Music as a Therapeutic Outlet

Despite her challenges, Delilah finds solace and empowerment in music. She discusses her creative process, collaboration with producers, and the continuous evolution of her musical style.

Delilah Hamlin [45:12]: "I want to be the most authentic me that I can be. And that's why it's taking me how many years."

Harry admires her dedication and the way music serves as both a therapeutic and creative outlet for her.

Harry Hamlin [43:04]: "I've seen you push through those moments, and you always do. And you'll go to the studio and cut an amazing song, even though you were having a panic attack."

Family Dynamics and Generational Trauma

The discussion delves into the concept of generational trauma, exploring how familial behaviors and attitudes can subconsciously influence one's mental health and coping strategies.

Delilah Hamlin [25:07]: "Control is a big thing. I think generational trauma gets passed down."

Delilah explains how her parents' emphasis on control has impacted her own fears and behaviors, such as her fear of vomit (emetophobia).

Delilah Hamlin [26:55]: "Maybe that's why I have a fear of vomit. Because you're not in control."

Harry acknowledges the inadvertent impact of his actions and attitudes on Delilah's mental health.

Overcoming Challenges and Moving Forward

Delilah shares her strategies for managing anxiety and panic attacks, including self-awareness, community support, and immersing herself in creative work. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and authenticity in achieving personal goals despite mental health challenges.

Delilah Hamlin [49:01]: "Doing what I'm meant to do. And also when I'm in a flow state like that, there's nothing else."

Harry encourages Delilah by recognizing her resilience and the progress she's made, affirming his pride in her continuous efforts to overcome obstacles.

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with reflections on Delilah’s ongoing journey, her aspirations to raise awareness about PANDAS, and her commitment to her passions in modeling and music. Lisa and Harry express their unwavering support and pride in Delilah’s growth and achievements.

Harry Hamlin [53:45]: "Delilah Bell, you are an amazing human. You're also our kid, and I'm... You're going to be my kid forever."

Delilah concludes by expressing her gratitude for the familial support and her determination to continue her path toward healing and self-actualization.

Notable Quotes:

• Delilah Hamlin [06:27]: "We need to take accountability for how we interpret and react to the trauma."

• Harry Hamlin [14:02]: "Do you think it has much more to do with just the physical impact of having strep when you're a kid and your immune system isn't ready for it?"

• Delilah Hamlin [20:32]: "I can see that you're not... How can I help you regulate."

• Delilah Hamlin [25:07]: "Control is a big thing. I think generational trauma gets passed down."

• Harry Hamlin [53:45]: "Delilah Bell, you are an amazing human. You're also our kid, and I'm... You're going to be my kid forever."

Final Thoughts

This episode offers an intimate glimpse into Delilah Hamlin's life, showcasing her strength and resilience in the face of mental health challenges. Lisa and Harry provide a supportive and loving environment, fostering an open dialogue about topics often stigmatized or overlooked. "Let's Not Talk About The Husband" successfully balances humor with profound emotional depth, making it a compelling listen for anyone interested in authentic family dynamics and personal growth.