Let's Not Talk About The Husband
Episode: Sexiest Men Alive: Harry Hamlin's Words of Wisdom to Jonathan Bailey
Hosts: Lisa Rinna & Harry Hamlin
Date: November 21, 2025
Episode Overview
In this lively, candid, and often hilarious episode, Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin, iconic Hollywood couple, reflect on decades of fame, marriage, and the quirky, competitive world of "sexiest men alive." The show weaves together behind-the-scenes industry stories, marital banter, shopping confessions, charity talk, and a memorable quiz segment about People Magazine’s "Sexiest Man Alive" title—culminating in Harry’s advice for this year’s honoree, Jonathan Bailey.
Key Topics & Discussion Points
1. Fashion, Freezers, and Shopping Confessions
00:34–08:26
- Cashmere in the Freezer: Lisa reveals her new German Dewey Cashmere sweater needs 48 hours in the freezer (she left it a week), sparking Harry’s confusion:
“I went to get the dog food out... and there’s this black and sort of pink thing... what the fuck is that in the freezer?” (01:01 – Harry)
- Charity Event Recap: They attended a Michael Kors-hosted event for Project Angel Food (provides meals to LA’s sick and elderly), with 20% of sales going to charity. Lisa bought sunglasses for the cause, leading to playful marital jabs about her accessory obsession:
“You would not believe the number of sunglasses... there’s a place in every room... hundreds of pairs...” (06:17 – Harry) “You’re lucky. I’m very low maintenance. You could’ve been stuck... with some divas that would have cost you 20 million more dollars than I cost you.” (24:38 – Lisa)
- Hermès Bags as Investment: Lisa counsels on luxury bags’ investment value, wryly comparing herself to other Real Housewives.
2. Marriage Chronicles & Birthday Mayhem
08:26–13:33
- A Typical Rinna-Hamlin Day: Lisa recounts the frenetic birthday schedule—workout, shopping for charity, dinner, and catching a red-eye to NYC for a parade float as Elizabeth Taylor.
“We went out for my birthday… and she had to take her Michael Kors dress off in the car… and throws the black suit onto the floor of my car.” (09:04 – Harry) “You couldn’t have hung it up?” (12:28 – Lisa)
3. Reflections on “Sexiest Man Alive”
13:33–19:41
- Sexiest Man Alive Quiz: Lisa and their producer Daniel quiz Harry on the history of People magazine’s "Sexiest Man Alive"—Harry was named in 1987.
- Notable Questions/Answers:
- Predecessors: Mark Harmon and Mel Gibson (15:46)
- 1988: John Kennedy Jr. (16:11)
- First Sexiest Couple: Cindy Crawford & Richard Gere (16:37)
- Four repeat winners: Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Johnny Depp, Richard Gere (16:58–18:12)
- Notable Questions/Answers:
- Advice to Jonathan Bailey (2025 Honoree):
“Roll around in it, Jonathan. Enjoy it, love it, because unless you’re one of those four guys, it only comes around once!” (19:11 – Harry) “If you want to get it twice, you’re going to have to work really hard and be really sexy.” (19:33 – Harry)
4. Food, Family, and Marital Therapy
19:43–26:55
- Thanksgiving Traditions & Cooking: Harry laments his lack of turkey-cooking passion; Lisa loves a turkey and cranberry sandwich, revealing—after decades—her sandwich passion.
“I love a sandwich. I will tell you.” (20:49 – Lisa) “Why am I just learning this after 30 some odd years?” (22:59 – Harry)
- Marital Finances & Fights: The couple humorously unpacks their only recurring argument: Lisa’s shopping.
“The only thing Harry and I ever fight about... is my shopping and money. It’s true.” (25:29 – Lisa)
- True Crime Obsession: Lisa’s fascination with Dateline and 48 Hours prompts a playful exchange on murder dreams and the psychology of crime:
“I just don’t know why they don’t just get divorced. That’s always my question. Why do you have to kill them?” (27:12 – Lisa) “Maybe divorce doesn’t satisfy that need... to hijack your amygdala.” (27:19 – Harry)
5. Dreams, Stage Fright, and the Actor’s Journey
26:55–36:38
- Bad Dreams & Stage Anxiety: They share stories of waking from horrific dreams and the terror of forgetting lines on stage or on "Dancing with the Stars."
“I have this sinking feeling—life as I know it is over.” (28:32 – Lisa) “It happens to me every time... especially opening night.” (29:42 – Harry)
- Life After Dancing with the Stars: Both say the show was transformative for confidence and careers.
“It gave me so much. It got my mojo back. It gave me courage, pure joy... one of the greatest times of my life.” (31:46 – Lisa) “The only reason I wanted to do [DWTS] after you... is because I saw it woke you up.” (31:34 – Harry)
6. Contrasting Hollywood Journeys
36:38–37:08
- Different Paths, Same Team: Harry admits his early career was handed to him, while Lisa had to hustle for everything—offering listeners a candid look at two very different Hollywood experiences.
“No one has ever given me this career... I have worked very hard.” (33:03 – Lisa) “I always wanted to just work on the stage... I didn’t even want to make movies.” (33:52 – Harry)
- Delightfully, their mutual support and admiration shine through.
Notable Quotes & Moments
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“I went to get the dog food out of the freezer and I saw that in the freezer, and I go, what the fuck? What is that in the freezer?”
— Harry, 01:01 (on Lisa’s sweater storage) -
“You’re lucky. I’m a very low-maintenance...you could’ve been stuck with some divas that would have cost you 20 million more dollars than I cost you.”
— Lisa, 24:38 -
“Heavy is the head that wears the sexiest crown… do you have any words for Jonathan Bailey?”
— Daniel, 19:04 -
“Just roll around in it, Jonathan. Roll around in it, enjoy it, love it… it only comes around once.”
— Harry, 19:11 -
“The only thing Harry and I ever fight about, you guys, is my shopping and money.”
— Lisa, 25:29 -
“I always wanted to just work on the stage… [movies] got handed to me—I didn’t even audition for my first movie.”
— Harry, 33:52
Segment Timestamps
- Opening Chit-Chat & Cashmere Freezer Talk: 00:34–01:47
- Project Angel Food Charity Event & Michael Kors Shopping: 01:47–09:04
- Birthday Dinner Chaos & Lisa’s NYC Trip: 09:04–13:33
- Sexiest Man Alive Trivia Quiz: 13:33–19:41
- Advice for Jonathan Bailey: 19:04–19:41
- Thanksgiving Talk & Sandwich Obsessions: 19:41–23:40
- Food Waste, Shopping, and Marital Therapy: 23:40–26:55
- True Crime Fascination and Murder Dreams: 26:55–29:42
- Stage Fright, Dreams & Dancing with the Stars: 29:42–36:38
- Career Reflections & Hustle vs. Handed Roles: 36:38–37:08
Final Thoughts & Takeaways
The episode is a quintessential Hamlin-Rinna mash-up: sharp wit, competing stories, raw honesty, and a marriage that finds humor and admiration in their differences. From confessions about shopping habits and sandwich cravings, to poignant career reflections and gleeful pokes at each other’s egos, Lisa and Harry create a podcast that blends glitz, domestic drama, wisdom, and plenty of laughter—leaving listeners feeling like insiders in their home and hearts.