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Life Uncut
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Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.
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The Trolls Were Right! Britt Doesn't Know Her Husband & The Bachelor Producer Who Wrote a Tell-All About Sleeping With Pilot Pete
3d ago00:58:28Tap to summarizeHey Lifers! Surprise! Britt is BACK! Keeshia is filling in for Laura this week while she enjoys the school holidays, and the girls waste no time getting into it: the bonus episodes with Ben that had half of you sliding into Britt's DMs to check if she was okay! We have an honest chat about why some things are easier to talk about from a scar than a wound. Then - the trolls were right. After nearly 4 months straight with Ben (the longest stretch they've EVER spent together), Britt discovered something about her husband on the island of Capri that she genuinely cannot believe she didn't know. What did you find out embarrassingly late in your relationship? Also, Britt left the country for four months and came back to find Keeshia beating butter with a scarf on her head. We get into cottage core, going crunchy, the microplastics rabbit hole, and the new counter-trend of "wellness anarchism" - because apparently cigarettes are back (they never left Europe). Then it's time for the deep dive: The Love Producer. Julie, Pilot Pete's lead producer on the US Bachelor, has released a tell-all memoir about their secret romance. Britt, who has lived the Bachelor experience from the inside, has THOUGHTS. We break down what a lead producer actually does, the two camps of the internet's reaction, Pilot Pete's response, and whether this was a love story or a gross misuse of power. Britt also opens up about her own finale and whether Nick's producers knew he was picking no one, and how she'd feel if that story ever got the Love Producer treatment. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Welcome back! Britt's surprise return, the Delilah handover standoff & the honest check-in10:38 — The trolls were right: Ben's secret allergy & what did you find out too late in your relationship17:00 — Keeshia's gone full cottage core: going crunchy, microplastics & wellness anarchism22:02 — The Love Producer — Pilot Pete, the tell-all memoir & Britt's insider take on producer power51:00 — Sucks & Sweets Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut - The 30-Year-Old Dating Rut, Best Friend Betrayal & My Underwhelming Engagement Reaction
5d ago00:49:54Tap to summarizeWelcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas! Full transparency: we arrived at the studio at 8am and it took us approximately three hours to record 45 minutes of podcast because sometimes you just have to sit with your friends and feel each other out first. Efficiency is not always the word of the year in practice. We also need to talk about the fact that Roald Dahl — the man who wrote the BFG — was a World War II spy and fighter pilot before he decided to write children's books. And James Blunt was in the military before "You're Beautiful." You can change your career at any point. Vibes for the week:Laura - @la_sidhu Keeshia - Worldle Britt - Gone on Stan LOST AT 30Advice needed for a lost 30 year old. Honestly I’m really struggling being single. I’ve been told my hormone levels are low and the best option is to get my eggs frozen as I’m a single 30 year old. I’m not closed off to doing it but I just feel like a failure and putting it off. I’ve tried dating and any time I think I’ve found someone it’s always the same story ‘you’re amazing but I’ve found someone else, but I still want to be friends’ I’m exhausted with dating but I don’t want to give up because I want the partner and the family all of that. But I just genuinely feel like it’s never going to happen and to just give up on that life I’ve always wanted. How do I get out of this rut, dating is exhausting and the fear of getting my eggs frozen is just all consuming. And honestly I’m shutting down because of it. I just want some advice and preferably not the typical ‘you’ll find love when you least expect It ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS ‘DATING’ MY EXOne of my best friends is now “dating” my ex. My ex, my best friend and I have all been friends for around 9 years. 1 year ago my ex and I broke up from a 5 year relationship. It was a fairly mutual breakup but it did come from me. Straight away after the break up my friend and my ex started getting really close and spending a lot of time together. I started to question if something was going on between them, which was always a sensitive spot for me during the relationship (as they were pretty close then but not this close). I felt replaced in my ex’s life by my best friend but I tried to move past it and even spoke to both of them about this which they told me nothing was going on. Fast forward to now where I have just found out they have been sleeping together and are in a situationship for the last ~7 months. I am here to ask you how you would feel in this situation as I am totally over my ex and don’t care if he moves on but not sure how I feel about my best friend and what this means for our friendship. I feel she has totally disrespected our friendship. I think the expected response would be to stop being friends and it’s what I told myself I would do if this happened but now I am here I don’t feel that affected by it. Should I hold a greater standard for our friendship and move on knowing there are better people out there who have my back or should I just move on and continue with our friendship however that may look now? For context she is very distressed about what this means for our friendship. DO I REACH OUT TO GUY FROM YEARS AGO?3 years ago I was casually dating two guys at the same time. After about 2-3 months of dating each guy, things started to get serious. I knew it was unfair to continue with both but I found it really hard to choose. Both had great qualities but I ended up choosing Guy A because I felt a deeper connection at the time and he was a friend of a friend (vetted). Fast forward Guy A and I broke up 2.5 years later. It wasn't meant to be. But now I can't help but think, should I try and see if something could work with Guy B? I dont have him on social media so I can't check if he's dating anyone. For context, Guy B messaged me multiple times throughout my 2.5year relationship. Initially he said he'd wait for me if I changed my mind. I never responded out of respect for my relationship. He would message me about mutual interests and even that he saw Guy A and I at a sporting match. Should I initiate conversation? If so, how would I go about it? MY FRIEND GOT ENGAGED AND I FELT NOTHING AND NOW I FEEL TERRIBLE My best friend got engaged last weekend and I said all the right things. I screamed, I cried, I asked to see the ring and asked for the proposal story etc. But privately in that first moment when she told me, I felt nothing. Not happy, not sad, just nothing. And now I feel like a really bad friend. Do I secretly not think he's right for her? Am I jealous? Am I just a bad friend? She is absolutely glowing and I feel guilty for not actually being excited for her. What is wrong with me? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Three hours of chatting, zero productivity 4:00 — Vibes 12:04 — Q1: I'm 30, single, and been told to freeze my eggs. I feel like a failure. 24:45 — Q2: My best friend has been secretly dating my ex for seven months and lied to my face 36:26 — Q3: I broke up with a good guy for someone else. It didn't work out. Can I go back? 42:45 — Q4: My best friend got engaged and I felt absolutely nothing. Am I a bad person? Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! She Charged the Old iPhone And Found Out He Had Cheated
1w ago00:47:36Tap to summarizeHey lifers! We're on holidays and that means Matty J is back on the mic!Matt is now also a TV actor (despite being unaware of the genre of the show) and is joining Laura to answer your Ask Uncut questions! Matt is firm on one thing: this is the LAST time you'll hear from him for at least six months - unless you love it, in which case maybe we'll bring him back. Then we get into your questions! HE CHEATED AND DOESN'T KNOW I CAN STILL READ HIS MESSAGES I charged up my old iPhone that he was previously using and discovered my ex of six years had been cheating on me before we broke up. I can still see his current messages, and I now know he's planning to have the girl over while I'm away on a camping trip. Do I cancel the trip and come home to catch them? Or do I leave it? HIS CLOSEST FRIENDS DON'T KNOW I EXIST AFTER A YEARI've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year. His family knows about me. We've travelled together. We've talked about the future. But his friendship group, who are mostly women, have no idea I exist. He says he needs more time to "understand the relationship" before introducing me. Am I being unreasonable? MY SISTER-IN-LAW LETS HER KIDS TRASH MY HOUSE AND THEN JUST LEAVESEvery time my sister-in-law comes over with her kids, the house gets absolutely destroyed, and then she bundles everyone up and walks out the door without lifting a finger. I love having them over. I just don't want to be the only one who cares about the mess. How do I bring it up without it turning into a fight? I'M 36, SINGLE FOR 13 YEARS, AND THINKING ABOUT A SPERM DONOR. HOW DO I LET GO OF THE LIFE I IMAGINED?I've always wanted to be a mum. I've been dating throughout my single years but nothing has led anywhere. Now my fertility is lower than expected for my age, and I'm seriously considering becoming a single mum by choice. But I'm scared I'll be undateable. I'm grieving the family I pictured. And I genuinely TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Welcome back! Matty J is here for the holidays + his acting debut 7:30 — Q1: She charged the old iPhone and can still read all his messages 18:02 — Q2: Long-distance boyfriend whose friends don't know she exists after a year 26:12 — Q3: Sister-in-law who lets her kids trash the house and just leaves 33:30 — Q4: 36, single for 13 years, considering a sperm donor. How do I let go of the life I imagined? 42:00 — Would Matt ever date again? Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | SpotifyA Matty J Special: Apple | SpotifyUNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Spank Me Matty! Ask Laura and Matt!
2w ago00:48:23Tap to summarizeHey Lifers! Matt is back; dragged in, as per tradition, to cover the holiday break. They kick off with the state of Matt's chest hair, a debrief on Laura's ten days in India while Matt solo parented three kids and the homecoming argument that kicked off. Then your questions!Have they ever considered divorce? Matt's answer is a roast chicken analogy. Do they both orgasm every time? Does Laura's ambition test Matt's patience? And there's the small matter of the Daily Mail article after Matt went on a podcast and casually mentioned that they're drowning in debt. They also get into living with nana, what Matt's tattoos actually mean, whether they'd ever do couples therapy and the vasectomy update. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Matt's back! The half-shaved chest, the India debrief and the homecoming argument 14:15 — How they argue, who apologises first and have they ever considered divorce? 23:30 — The public eye, the Daily Mail debt headline and The Bachelor legacy 33:50 — Laura's ambition, the busyness-anxiety link and would they do couples therapy? 48:20 — Baby number four, the vasectomy update and the pull out method consequences Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | SpotifyA Matty J Special: Apple | SpotifyUNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut Aftermath! The Threesome That Resulted in a Baby and We Finally Know What Happened
3w ago00:42:39Tap to summarizeWe're back with another Aftermath episode! If you've been lying awake wondering what happened to the people behind some of our most talked-about Ask Uncut questions, same. Today we finally get the updates we’ve all been desperate for! The Threesome AftermathThe question that went viral, flooded our DMs for two years, and made Brittany physically reach out and beg for an update. You might remember it: a woman wrote in just weeks before her wedding, after a pre-marriage threesome with her fiancé and a friend resulted in a pregnancy. The condom broke. Nobody said anything. A baby was on the way. "Don't Sleep With Anyone for a Month"A woman going through a devastating breakup asked her ex for one thing: don't hook up with anyone for 30 days while she finds her feet. He said he'd try but couldn't promise. We had pretty definitive opinions at the time. So, did he respect it? And did the one-month boundary actually give her the peace she was looking for? "My Parents Won't Stop Suggesting Names"A listener at 38 weeks pregnant is being driven up the wall by her mum constantly texting baby name suggestions. Is she being too precious, or is naming your child something sacred between you and your partner? This one spiralled because it turns out Laura, Brittany AND Keeshia have very strong feelings about unsolicited name suggestions (and a personal history involving a chatbot that shall not be named). "Did I Betray My Friend Group?"When a group all tries for tickets to a sold-out show and one person scores through a different friend, are they obligated to stay in the original group, even if it means missing out entirely? This one also had a personal twist when it turned out the question may have been written by someone who works in the Life Uncut team. Have we answered YOUR Ask Uncut? We want your aftermath. Slide into our DMs or send us an email; even if you think nothing interesting happened. We just need to know. We need to put a full stop at the end of that sentence. Timestamps0:00 - Intro 4:17 - The Threesome — she finally wrote back18:12 - The one-month boundary — did he keep his promise?24:00 - Baby name drama — the baby has arrived30:58 - Concert ticket drama Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Britt & Ben - The Visa Debacle, Living in Italy & How Ben Feels About Being A Plastic Bag
3w ago00:51:05Tap to summarizeHey Lifers! Ben is back for a bonus round because you sent in way too many questions for just one episode! They kick things off with the reality of living together full time: Ben's answer is "we're doing fine," Britt's answer involves the phrase "truffle pig". Ben shares what it actually takes to make it as a professional footballer and whether he ever tries to get under opponents' skin. Ben opens up about life pre-Britt, how he knew she was the one, and the biggest fight of their marriage. They also get into the question everyone keeps sliding into the DMs: babies. Britt and Ben speak openly about their fertility journey and what it looks like from here. 0:00 — Welcome & living together full time 7:15 — How to make it as a pro footballer 18:10 — Getting to know Ben: languages, Aussie slang, life pre-Britt and how he knew she was the one 27:18 — The biggest fight of their marriage 38:28 — Babies, fertility and the IVF journey Want more from Ben? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out The... Apple | SpotifyBritt & Ben Got MARRIED!! Apple | SpotifyAsk Uncut - Ask Ben Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut with Britt & Ben - Strippers at the Buck's, Sitting Down to Pee & My Husband Won't Move to Australia
4w ago01:02:36Tap to summarizeWelcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! This week we have a very special co-host: Britt's husband Ben is back in the hot seat. They recorded this just before going on a month holiday and their one year wedding anniversary. To mark the occasion, Britt reached out to her parents Nikki and Tony, who have been married for 48 years, and asked them for their best marriage advice! We also revisit the greatest wedding chaos of 2025: Ben picking up his suit jacket the day they flew out, the photographer cancelling days before the ceremony, and the legendary cake gate. One year on and we are still not fully over it. Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BOYFRIEND RESPECTED MY BOUNDARY ABOUT THE BUCK'S PARTY AND NOW THE OTHER WIVES ARE BULLYING ME FOR IT My boyfriend is best man at his best mate's wedding. The three day buck's party has strippers booked for eight hours on the first night, and strippers are a hard boundary for me. My boyfriend agreed to attend part of the weekend but leave before that part of the night. When he told the groom, the buck was furious and then two of the women I considered my friends added me to a group chat calling me insecure and saying I'm "emotionally damaging" my boyfriend and the friendship. When I reached out to talk, they said they were too busy before the wedding. The wedding is overseas in four weeks. What do I do? Q2: MY GIRLFRIEND HAS ASKED ME TO SIT DOWN TO PEE. IS THIS REASONABLE OR AN ATTACK ON MY MASCULINITY? My long term partner and I have just moved in together. After watching a MythBusters episode about how standing to pee spreads germs, she's asked me to sit down from now on. I have no problems with my aim. I occasionally prefer to sit when tired or hungover. But mostly I prefer to stand; it's more efficient and comfortable. Is this a reasonable request, or is it an attack on my masculinity? Q3: I MOVED TO THE UK FOR MY HUSBAND 16 YEARS AGO. NOW HE WON'T MOVE BACK TO AUSTRALIA. I moved to the UK at 22 for the man I'm now married to. We've built a full life here; a home, a four-year-old, a dog, a cat. On paper everything looks settled. But I have always been clear that I wanted to move back to Australia one day, especially to raise a family, and he has always agreed. Now that I'm actually raising it seriously, he doesn't want to go. He can be stubborn, and the more I push, the more resistant he becomes. On top of this, I've had three consecutive miscarriages with the last ending in a D&C and it's made me feel even more strongly about being near my family. I also feel completely unfulfilled in my job. I feel stuck. How do you navigate this when neither person is wrong, but timing is starting to feel really important? Q4: I'M 34 AND I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP. WAS THERE A MEETING I MISSED? Everyone around me seems so certain about their lives. How am I supposed to figure it out? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — One year married, Ben's back & recording from Italy 5:41 — Wedding advice from Nikki & Tony married 48 years 18:21 — Wedding chaos flashback: the suit, the photographer and cake gate 20:22 — Q1: My boyfriend respected my boundary about the buck's party — now the other wives are bullying me 30:40 — Q2: My girlfriend wants me to sit down to pee — is this reasonable? 38:12 — Q3: I moved to the UK for my husband 16 years ago. Now he won't move back to Australia. 53:03 — Q4: I'm 34 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up Want more from Ben? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out The... Apple | SpotifyBritt & Ben Got MARRIED!! Apple | SpotifyAsk Uncut - Ask Ben Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut - He Got a Hair Transplant and Wants Everyone to Lie About It, Warning the Next Girl & Drunk Brides
Jun 1400:51:33Tap to summarizeWelcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! Vibes of the week:Link to the sensor lightsKeeshia 🧲 Adhesive Magnetic Tablet Wall Mount Holder (Two Pack) Laura 👕 Tahnee Kelland T-Shirts Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND GOT A HAIR TRANSPLANT AND IS ASKING HER TO LIE ABOUT IT My best friend's husband has gone from barely-there hair to a full comeback and he's been telling everyone it's down to diet and stress reduction. She knows the truth. Their friends know the truth. And now she's been put in the impossible position of actively upholding a lie she never agreed to, while everyone around her silently raises an eyebrow. Q2: MY ABUSIVE EX IS NOW WITH ONE OF THE GIRLS HE CHEATED ON ME WITH. DO I WARN HER? I was in an incredibly volatile relationship for three years; emotional abuse, multiple women, dating apps running the whole time. Four months out, I'm working on myself. Now I'm watching him post his new girlfriend all over Instagram. It’s one of the girls he was seeing behind my back. I want to warn her. But am I out of line? Q3: WHO IS RESPONSIBLE WHEN THE HEN GETS BLOTTO AT HER HENS PARTY? The hen got blotto, passed out, the night ended early and now the blame is flying. Is it the guests? The bridesmaids? The maid of honour? Or the hen herself? Q4: I CAUGHT MY FRIEND REHEARSING HER STORIES IN THE MIRROR BEFORE A DINNER PARTY I walked back into the room and my close friend was standing in front of the mirror, running through full sentences and hand gestures for a story she was planning to tell at dinner later that night. I reversed out quietly. She then told the exact same story, exactly as rehearsed. Is this genius? Is this deeply weird? Is this something everyone secretly does? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's in Sardinia, Laura's off to India 1:19 — Vibes 6:06 — Q1: My best friend's husband got a hair transplant and expects her to lie about it 19:00 — Q2: My abusive ex is now with one of the girls he cheated with — do I warn her? 35:06 — Q3: Who's responsible when the hen gets blotto at her own hens party? 42:33 — Q4: I caught my friend rehearsing her stories in the mirror before a dinner party 50:27 — Wrap up, what's dropping over the break & the Aftermath episode teaser Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Offcuts: There's a Mouse in My Car, Drag Queen Trademark Wars & Are You Scared of Failing or Being Seen Failing?
Jun 1200:43:20Tap to summarizeHey Lifers! Welcome to your little weekend snack!We kick things off with a very pressing issue: Laura thinks there's a mouse living in the roof of her car. Keeshia shares her own rodent origin story where she spent her honours year in a biomedical research lab dosing rats with very high quality drugs. Laura's mouse had a rougher life. We also revisit the great childhood mouse escape where approximately 15 pet mice gnawed through their cage and moved into the family home, which did not end well for them. Then we get into it: Uber has dropped its Lost and Found Index for 2026, and the list does not disappoint. Patagonia the brand vs Pattie Gonia the drag queen & the trademark war that's taken over everyone's algorithm. Ballmaxxing. Men are injecting saline into their scrotums at home to make their testicles firmer, rounder, and more even. Is this actually so different from what women have been doing for years? Is it the fear of failure, or is it the fear of people watching you fail? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's on holidays, Laura & Keeshia are running the show (nom noms still on ice) 0:50 — Laura has a mouse in her car. Two days in. 6:37 — Uber's Lost & Found Index 2026 11:28 — Patagonia the brand vs Pattie Gonia the drag queen 24:30 — Ballmaxxing (sorry) 32:08 — "Is it the fear of failure, or the fear of people watching you fail?" Mentioned in this episode: "INSIDE THE MANOSPHERE - We Have Thoughts!" Missed it? Listen now: Apple | Spotify Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss. The Club No One Wants To Be A Part Of. Uncut with Irena Gilbert
Jun 1100:56:02Tap to summarizeBack in 2020, we released an episode titled “Talking Miscarriage” where Laura spoke about experiencing not one but two miscarriages. It is an episode that people still message us every week about. Six years ago the topic of miscarriage was still pretty taboo, and it has changed slightly but it’s still an experience that leaves so many people feeling alone and grieving privately.Today’s guest has unfortunately experienced miscarriage a number of times. We first got to know Irena Gilbert on The Bachelor Australia back in 2020. After that final rose, her and Locky have gone on to get married and build a life together! Before welcoming their daughter Ava in February 2024, Irena experienced multiple miscarriages; her first in 2021, her second in 2023, and now another just 2 weeks ago. Today we're sitting down with Irena to talk about something that affects one in four pregnancies in Australia, and yet still so often goes unspoken, pregnancy loss. This conversation is not easy. But it is important, generous, and going to reach a lot of women who need to hear it. Irena brings something rare to this conversation: she is both a woman who has lived through pregnancy loss multiple times, and a nurse with over 15 years of experience caring for women going through the same thing. The gap between what she knew clinically and what she felt personally is something she speaks to with a lot of honesty. We chat: When Irena & Locky spoke about having kids Why their Covid-interrupted season actually gave them something most Bachelor couples never get Her first pregnancy loss and why she felt she wasn't "allowed" to grieve it How the second miscarriage How partners grieve differently, and why their pain gets left out of the conversation What miscarriage actually looks like physically The statistics: roughly 280–300 miscarriages happen in Australia every day Pregnancy after loss: why Irena couldn't let herself feel excited, couldn't take photos, and was still waiting for something to go wrong on the day Ava was born Her third and most recent loss two weeks ago Why this one hurt the most and what her obstetrician said that finally made sense of it "At least you have a healthy baby" - why well-meaning words can be the most dismissive thing you can say Why pregnancy loss and infertility are different experiences that don't need to be compared You can follow Irena on Instagram Free counselling is available from Red Nose Grief and Support Line Timestamps 0:00 — Intro 2:20 — Bachelor 2020, meeting Locky, and talking kids on their very first date 4:40 — The Covid season: why six months of phone calls gave them something most Bachelor couples never had 6:40 — Going back to nursing after the show and why it kept her grounded 8:30 — First pregnancy loss 12:00 — Laura shares her own experience: the complicated feelings of an unplanned pregnancy lost 13:40 — How the second miscarriage unlocked everything she'd buried from the first 20:40 — How Locky processed it 23:05 — What miscarriage actually feels like physically 29:25 — The statistics: 280–300 miscarriages a day in Australia, and that's only the ones that are known about 30:00 — Pregnancy after loss: not allowing herself to get excited, not taking photos, waiting for something to go wrong 35:20 — Why she struggled with social media pregnancy announcements and the joy she'll never fully have back 36:00 — The third loss: two weeks ago 38:20 — Why this one hurt the most: her obstetrician's explanation that finally made sense 39:30 — "At least you've got a healthy baby" — why this is the most dismissive thing you can say, even when it comes from love 43:10 — The grief Olympics: pregnancy loss and infertility aren't competing, they're both just really shit 45:20 — Laura's experience of her second loss, and the complicated way miscarriage can clarify how much you want something 49:20 — The shame hangover: why women of our mothers' generation stayed silent, and what that cost us 53:20 — Her mum's stillbirth, growing up knowing about it, and being a rainbow baby herself 54:05 — What she wants every woman who hears this to know See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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