Valentine's Day can stir up all kinds of longing, worry, and relational anxiety — especially if you love deeply and notice closeness and distance acutely. In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I dive into Marshall Rosenberg's famous metaphor:

"I want to be flowers on your table, not oxygen for your lungs."

I break down what this means through the compassionate lenses of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and attachment theory, including:

The difference between universal human needs (like connection) and the particular ways we meet them in a relationship
How anxious attachment patterns show up, and how I suggest caring for your inner child without making your partner responsible for your emotional survival
What "flower-love" looks like in practice: freely chosen, generous, and joyful

You'll come away with practical insights for nurturing secure, adult love — honoring both your need for connection and your partner's autonomy.

✨ Learn how to love each other better, without shame, pressure, obligation, or resentment.

Connect with your host, Ali Miller:

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Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds
Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse

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