How to Avoid a Panic Attack [ANXIETY SERIES]

Summary

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Love Your Life Show with Susie Pettit

Episode 344: How to Avoid a Panic Attack [ANXIETY SERIES]

Release Date: March 5, 2025

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Main Theme

In this heartfelt and practical episode, host and certified life and wellness coach Susie Pettit addresses a pressing topic for many listeners: how to avoid a panic attack. Susie normalizes anxiety, shares her personal experiences, and delivers a concise, actionable three-step process for managing anxiety before it escalates. The episode is designed for busy moms, parents of anxious children/teens, and anyone seeking tools for emotional resilience in today’s high-stress world.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Normalizing Anxiety (00:35 – 04:19)

• Anxiety is normal: Susie stresses that anxiety is a completely normal emotional response, especially considering contemporary stressors and post-pandemic life.

  “Anxiety is a normal feeling to be feeling with what is going on in our lives right now.” (01:59)

• Don’t judge or catastrophize: Feeling anxious isn’t a sign something is wrong with you or your child. Becoming anxious about anxiety only intensifies it.
• Normalize for your kids: Show the same understanding to your children as you would to yourself.

2. Step One: Notice and Name (04:19 – 12:09)

• Awareness without avoidance: The first step is to pay attention to the physical sensations of anxiety and give them a label.

  “The first step to avoid a panic attack is to pay attention to the panic your human body is feeling.” (05:08)

• Build emotional intelligence: Recognize where in your body anxiety shows up—heart racing, chest tightness, clenched jaw, etc.
• Practical example: Susie shares a personal story from that morning, realizing on the elliptical that her anxiety was triggered by subconscious thoughts about her health.
• Children & energy transfer: When kids enter a room with anxiety, parents often absorb it. Susie advises to pause and label your own response, e.g., “I’m stressed about their stress.” (11:34)

3. Step Two: Feel It to Heal It (12:09 – 19:18)

• Experience the sensation: Instead of trying to “think” your way out, focus on physically experiencing the emotion.

  “The way to avoid a panic attack is to let that energy move through your body versus us stopping it up. The way out is through.” (13:11)

• Breath as the main tool: Susie emphasizes a specific “inhale, inhale, exhale” breath technique for instant relief:
  • Inhale through your nose
  • Inhale a bit more
  • Forceful, extended exhale (make a sound if you can)
• Demonstrate, don’t dictate (especially with teens): Model this breathing; don’t insist your anxious teen does it themselves, as that can seem invalidating.

  “If he tells me when I’m really feeling panicky and anxious to just breathe—that is the opposite of helpful.” (16:50)

• The power of parental modeling: By calming your own nervous system, you also unconsciously calm those around you.

4. Step Three (Extra Credit): Zoom Out / Change Your Perspective (19:18 – 25:23)

• Why do this? After the immediate wave of anxiety passes, step back for a wider perspective—“zoom out” mentally.

  “…when we’re feeling anxious, we’re feeling like this thing at hand is massive. It’s urgent. It feels life threatening to our system.” (21:48)

• Ask questions: Consider “Will this matter in a week, a month, or a year?” or “What would I say if this was my neighbor’s situation?”
• Don’t rush to reframe your child’s feelings: Susie warns that trying to minimize or reframe your child’s anxiety for them often undermines your connection. Leave reframing for older teens, professionals, or when invited.

5. Practice Makes Resilient

• Regular practice builds resilience: Managing anxiety is a skill that strengthens over time—like exercising a muscle.
• You’re making a difference: Susie encourages listeners that by managing their own anxiety, they’re modeling skills for the next generation.

  “You managing your anxiety and bringing a calm to a situation is massive.” (26:32)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the stigma of anxiety:

  “Anxiety is a normal part of our human experience. Sort of like sneezing.” (04:19)

• On noticing anxiety:

  “What does it actually feel like to be you, dear listener, in your body when you’re feeling anxious?” (07:37)

• On the importance of modeling:

  “You have more influence the less you say. Said another way: the less you say, the more influence you have.” (19:19)

• On breath as a tool:

  “One breath can make the difference between having or not having a panic attack.” (15:08)

• On extra credit (step three):

  “…this step is about zooming out and gaining perspective. We can question our thinking by asking things like, ‘What’s another way to think about this?’” (23:42)

• On advice for parents:

  “If this is your teen, I want you to leave this step for them and their coach… most times, when I see parents try to reframe things for our kids, it comes off as dismissive or invalidating and harms the parent-child relationship.” (24:59)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

| Segment | Timestamp | |--------------------------------------------|------------------| | Introduction & Normalizing Anxiety | 00:35 – 04:19 | | Step One: Notice and Name | 04:19 – 12:09 | | Personal Example: Anxiety at the Gym | 08:39 – 11:02 | | Step Two: Feel It to Heal It | 12:09 – 19:18 | | Step Two Continued: Breathing Techniques | 14:49 – 16:50 | | Modeling Regulation for Teens | 16:50 – 19:18 | | Step Three: Zoom Out / Change Perspective | 19:18 – 25:23 | | Cautions about Reframing for Kids | 24:59 – 25:23 | | Emotional Resilience & Outro | 25:23 – 26:32 |

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Tone and Style

Susie’s tone is empathetic, encouraging, conversational, and direct. She blends personal storytelling, real-life examples, and actionable strategies, addressing her “dear warriors” with warmth and genuine care.

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Summary of Steps to Avoid a Panic Attack

1. Notice & Name (Awareness):
   Identify and describe what anxiety feels like in your body.
2. Feel It to Heal It (Embodiment):
   Experience the sensation without resisting; use breath (inhale-inhale-exhale).
3. Zoom Out / Extra Credit (Perspective):
   Broaden your viewpoint; question your “urgent” thoughts—but hold off on this for your child.

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Takeaways

• Anxiety is not a problem to “fix”; it is a normal part of life, heightened by our environment.
• Immediate tools: naming, feeling, and breathing interrupt the panic spiral.
• For parents and caregivers: Model what you want to see instead of instructing; your calm is contagious.
• Reframing perspective is powerful but best reserved for self-reflection or professional settings when it comes to children’s emotions.

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For more resources and support:
Visit the Love Your Life School (smbwell.com), or consider a one-on-one session with Susie for tailored strategies.

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Share this episode with anyone who needs practical, compassionate guidance on navigating anxiety. This is “warrior work” for you—and for future generations.

Transcript

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Hello, this is Susie Pettit, host of the Love youe Life show. Episode number 344, how to Stop a Panic Attack.

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Hi, this is the Love youe Life show with Susie Pettit, certified life and wellness coach. Join Susie as she helps you with your wellness and mindset so you can live a life you love. Let's go, warriors.

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Show. I'm Susie Petta, your certified life and wellness coach. And today we're diving into a topic that is close to my heart because I have been there. I have had panic attacks. I have been on the verge of panic attacks. And I would say that I'm really well skilled at learning and knowing how to avoid a panic attack in myself and how to support others. Others so they have less of them also. So today is all about how to avoid a panic attack. Whether it is for you when you're feeling anxious or maybe for your teen or young adult who needs help with their anxiety. I'll be sharing three simple steps today you can use when you feel anxiety creeping in. That my hope is will help you feel better. Armed for these times, anxiety feels really out of control. And when we know and we're like, oh, wait, it's actually not that crazy. Like, my brain is doing this thing, okay? These are the things I can do to support myself in this. I found it feels a lot better, and I want to help you with that. And before, though, my dear warriors, before we get into these steps and tactical tools, I have to get on here human to human and normalize anxiety. Normalize what you or your child is feeling or your neighbor or your husband is feeling right now.

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Anxiety is a normal feeling to be feeling with what is going on in our lives right now.

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We have had anxiety over the years, and yet ever since the pandemic, anxiety has been on the rise. Some studies show it's gone up 30%.

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And I'm starting with this because one of the ways we make our anxiety worse is we get anxious about being anxious.

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Or we get anxious because our kid is anxious and we're like, something's wrong. Oh, my God, we need to fix this. They need meds. They need to doctor, they need this, they need that. It's like, oh, calm down. You know what? They're having a normal emotional response to what's going on in their life right now. I'm not saying those other things might also be necessary at other times. Yet what I see more often than not is us getting anxious about our anxiety, which makes everything feel Worse and heavier and awful. So I'm here to help. As someone who at times in my life I've been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. And as I said, I've had panic attacks and all that. I'm coming on here to share that. When we can approach it with a mindset and that's lighter, that's this, like, oh, yes, it makes sense. I'm feeling this way. That goes a really long way in supporting ourselves and those that we love. Okay, so getting into this episode, you know, we really want to keep that at the forefront for ourselves. To not get anxious about our own anxiety. To just be like, oh, right, makes sense. I'm feeling this way. And if we are a mom, we want to make doubly sure that we're not anxious about our kids anxiety. We want to have the same mindset with our kids and their feelings, thinking things like, it makes sense they're feeling this way or it makes sense that they're anxious about talking to the teacher. It makes sense they're anxious about ordering their food on their own. It makes sense that they're nervous about that. Instead of this like, oh my gosh, something's gone wrong, my kid is anxious. Ah, and we run to our neighbor and we talk and does anyone know a doctor or medicine or this or that? Okay, deep breath. First step is to understand anxiety happens. It's a normal part of our human experience.

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Sort of like sneezing. And the most important thing that we can do as listeners of this show is to learn how to manage our anxiety. Whether it's because the people around us are anxious or because of the world, circumstances and events in our personal life are making us feel anxious. So let's listen in. At the end of this episode, I hope that you will feel more in control and armed with some ideas of what to do to support yourself. Okay, so the first step, when you notice that feeling that, ah. The first step is what I call notice and name the first. You heard me right. The first step to avoid a panic attack is to pay attention to the panic your human body is feeling.

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It's sort of counterintuitive. We're like, ah, no, run away from it. And no, I'm saying notice your physical sensation and name it. Are you short of breath? Is your chest tight? Are you clenching your jaw? What are your shoulders doing?

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Listeners of this show are warriors. We're learning the things here that make our human life easier. And yet we weren't taught these things. And so we tend to go through life like little human robots moving from one thing to the next without slowing down to check in with the human being that we are. Which works really well for anxiety. Anxiety loves to grow in the dark. Anxiety loves it when we push down or ignore our feelings. And yet those feelings don't disappear. They simmer under the surface, getting louder and louder. It's like having a toddler tugging on your sleeve. The more you ignore them, the louder they get. And so the first step is to turn towards those feelings and to pay more attention to the experience that your human being body is having. Okay, get like, step out of the metal armor of the human robot and into the skin suit of the human being. Get to know yourself. This is emotional intelligence. How intelligent are you about the emotions you have? Most of us are very low on that scale. Okay, for example, what does anxiety feel like in your body? Get to know it. This literally is emotional intelligence, the intelligence of what emotions feel like in a body. Emotions are energy in motion. They are physical sensations. What do they feel like? Okay, like, what does anxiety feel like versus anger versus disappointment versus dread. Those are all wonderful questions to investigate with ourselves. And today we're focusing on anxiety. So just pause, maybe pause this recording or just pause and check in with yourself. What do you think you feel like when you feel anxious? Where do you feel it? How would you describe it to a medical doctor? You go into a doctor and you're like, this is what I'm feeling. Maybe it's a tightness in your chest, a pit in your stomach, a heaviness in your shoulders, a spinning in your head. That's what we're trying to get at. What does it actually feel like to be you, dear listener, in your body when you're feeling anxious? I want you to say that out loud. Like, I notice my heart races when I feel anxious. When you name it, you start to create some control over it. It's no longer this big scale, scary, uncontrollable thing. It's just a sensation, physical feeling. It will pass, pass two S's. So this first step is literally slowing down enough to notice what is going on for you. This happens multiple times in my day. Multiple times. Like yesterday, actually. Interestingly, I got up with my alarm, got dressed, drove to the gym, like a good little human robot. Like, really? I don't remember myself having much conscious thought. I just sort of like, my alarm went off. I got up, got dressed, got to the gym. Like, got to the, you know, sort of like, I don't even know if someone had said, like, did you pass a bird on in your car? I'm like, I don't know. I really was quite robotic.

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And the first thing I do when I get to the gym is I get on the elliptical for five minutes, warm up my muscles. And it was at that point when I was on the elliptical, I noticed a feeling of anxiety in my body. I've been working with this for a while in my emotional intelligence. And so I know that for me, anxiety feels like my chest is both heavy and fluttery. Like, it's like a fluttering of energy, and it just feels, like, heavy.

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Sometimes it's hard for me to catch my breath. Well, I noticed this. I named it. I was on the elliptical. I said, oh, wow, anxiety's here.

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I had been listening to a podcast. I pushed pause because I was feeling this physical sensation. And I scanned back through my brief morning of being awake to see what the heck was going on. Like, hey, human, what's happening? And I remembered. I was like, oh. I remember I looked at my health data. Like, I've been wearing one of those trackable rings ever since my hospital stay. And when I looked at the data this morning, there was an alert about a low pulse and something when I was sleeping. And at the time I saw it, I remember almost, like, robotically thinking a thought about it. Like, that's just like, okay, move on. But that's the thing. Our brains work so fast.

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And clearly I had thought something about it, because here I was probably 15 minutes later in the gym, feeling it. And so since I've done this work, my first step was to notice it. Notice and name it. Okay, I gotta tell you that, like, years ago, I probably would have felt that low, buzzing feeling of anxiety. I might not have noticed it on the treadmill, and then I might have done something else in the gym, and then I might have been driving home, and that feeling's getting bigger because what we resist persists. And maybe then I make it mean something about my workout. And I'm like, because our brain is always looking for meaning. So I was like, why are you feeling that way, Susie? And maybe I'm like, oh, right, because you aren't doing as many bicep curls. Or I might make it mean something. Or worse, I don't notice it. Driving home, I get home, I say hello to my unassuming husband and any kids that are in the house, and then they say hello back in a way that maybe my brain registered as not as enthusiastic as. And then my emotion hops onto them and I'm like, yeah, like, I make something about them.

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These emotions don't go away. And so it is so important to pause, notice, and name.

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This happens as parents, too. How many times does this happen to me? To you? You'll be like, popping along in your life, la dee da. And one of your kids comes in and says they're stressed or worried about something.

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They, like, come into the space where you are. They grab a snack and then head back out of the room. It's almost like they've, like, left a residue in the room. Right?

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It's like they come in. You're like, you're feeling all fine. They come in this bright light room. They, like, throw darkness in the room and leave. Okay. Whether it's your kid or your partner, this is what the first step is. Notice and name this situation. I'd say something to myself like, oh, wow, I noticed my jaw is clenched, my forehead feels tight, and my shoulders are up around my ears. You know, my kid came in, told me they were worried, and I noticed. I'm stressed about their stress. I'm worried about their worry.

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This is the first step. Notice it and name it in our body. And then we move on to step two of how to avoid a panic attack. We feel it. Step one, we notice and name it. Step two, we feel it to heal it. This is all about being in your body. If you've listened to enough episodes of the Love youe Life School, you know emotions are physical sensations. If you're new here, grab the podcast [e-mail] roadmap all one word to learn the beginnings of emotional intelligence and how to become more emotionally resilient, because that will help you so much. And what coaches and therapists know is that an emotion is energy in motion in your body. The way to avoid a panic attack is to let that energy move through your body versus us stopping it up. The way out is through.

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If we want to have a panic attack, what we do is we don't pay attention to our body. We get into our heads. We keep thinking more and more dramatic thoughts, and we're going to spin ourselves into an emotional state when we're trying this. How to get out of a panic attack. How to stop a panic attack. We notice that we're starting to feel tense, and then we feel it. We get out of our head and into our body. Stop thinking about why you feel anxious and start focusing on where you feel anxious. I know this sounds cuckoo or crazy or counterintuitive you're like, no, I don't want to feel anxious. I want it to go away. So I need to think it out. But here's the truth. Avoiding these sensations make them stronger. When we allow ourselves to feel them, they start to lose their grip. Step one, notice where the anxiety shows up in your body. Is your chest tight? Are your palms sweaty? Maybe your heart feels like it's racing a mile a minute. Step two, you feel it. The easiest way to feel it is with breath, since breathing is always with us. And we can do it in a crowd, or we can do it in front of our teenager without them knowing, or we can do it in a business meeting or whatever, wherever we are. But the goal is we want to have, like, many things we can do to help us when we're feeling the emotion, the energy of a big emotion. And if you're a student in the Love youe Life school, we have a whole lesson on there of, like, all different tools and things that we do to bring ourselves back to emotional safety.

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And for today, I just really want to focus on the breath because it's, like, free, simple. You don't need any app. You don't need any, like, literally. You just have to be able to take a breath to calm, to break the cycle, to calm yourself down.

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So one breath can make the difference between having or not having a panic attack. There are lots of brain science behind this. If you're a client of mine or, like, ask me about it, I love getting geeky on all this.

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But for you, I just want to say they don't underestimate the breath. And there are so many different ways to breathe. Duh. I know. And I teach a lot of them in the Love youe Life school. But today I just want to focus on one. Give you one that you grab when you're feeling panicky. I have no idea what its technical term is. I've heard a couple different people talk about it. I might have heard it first with Rachel Hollis. I might have heard it first with Mel Robbins. I'm not sure. Or my therapist back in the day. I'm not sure.

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But basically, you inhale and then inhale a bit more, and then exhale out long and forcefully. So it's like this. We breathe in, inhale a little more, and then exhale. If you're alone, making a big old sound out of your exhale is super helpful. I don't want to blow your eardrums out while you're listening to this, but we Want to get that energy out. A lot of people talk about, like, opening your mouth and letting your tongue just hang out. You're like, let that energy out. Okay, so we inhale, inhale, exhale.

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If you think of this, inhale, inhale. This is sometimes what, like, little babies will do, or like, little kids, like, after you're done crying, like, you cry, cry, cry, cry, cry. And then you're like, like you have that little, like, second breath.

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That's them doing it automatically. How cool is that? So for you guys, try this. The inhale, inhale. Big exhale.

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And for the moms out there, yes, we can share this with our teens. Although I advise not to, because as someone who is married to a man who teaches meditation and is super calm and whatever, if he tells me when I'm really feeling panicky and anxious to just breathe, that is the opposite of helpful. Okay, like, sure, you're chuckling. It's like, just breathe. It's like, okay, so with our teens or other people who we want to support in our life, the most effective thing to do is for you to breathe around them. That's what my husband's done. Now he notices me spinning out, me having my. And then he will breathe. Watch what happens. Watch it. I challenge you. Okay, Say they're going on and on and on with their stressful story. And you take some deep, slow breaths. Notice what they do. So you're. Instead of interrupting, instead of, like, gloss, minimizing what they're going through or telling them they should, like, you're just taking these deep breaths. We humans are connected the same way. They can walk into a room and leave their energy behind. Their energy is contagious. So is yours. It is the coolest thing. Nine times out of ten when I do this, my kid at some point will pause and copy my breath. I'll see him, like, take a deep breath. Okay, Because I'm not adding in to the drama. I'm not, like, starting, you know, sort of like doing the own hyperventa. They're going on and on. I'm just like, I'm active listening. For sure. I might be saying some things that, you know, I talk about in other episodes. And yet me focusing on my breath is the most impactful thing. The added bonus is if you're breathing, you're calming your nervous system down so you don't rush in and say codependent things to make his or her anxiety worse. I don't know if you listened to the last episode from the Love youe Life show episode 343, where we talk about those three voices that we want to read, like the ones that we do want to reinforce, the ones we don't want to reinforce when we are calm, okay? We will not be reinforcing their inner critic or rebel. So try this and report back to me. You have such great influence.

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It is so wonderful. In fact, this is the secret sauce for all parents of kids over age 9. And you might not want to hear this, but if your kid is over the age of eight or nine, you have more influence. The less you say. Said another way. The less you say, the more influence you have. We're like that Charlie Brown teacher. It's like when we're talking, they don't listen. It stirs them up. It gets them so they're not in their experience. Your words make the picture cloudy. Instead, you have the influence when you be who you want your kid to be. Model emotional regulation specifically with this step. Manage your own anxiety about their anxiety. That goes way further than you telling them what you learned in the Love youe Life school and how one breath really makes a difference and blah, blah, blah. Model it. Show them without words. I challenge you. And then report back to me. Now, in reality, those two steps are the only things you need to stop a panic attack. You notice it and then you feel it. And I know you remember I said there are three steps because I know listeners of the show often want more. Eh, you're like, okay, that's great, but then what? Susie, thanks for helping me step off that emotional cliff. Feels good. But if I go back to thinking the same way, I'm going to go back to feeling the same way. Right? For sure. Long term listeners of the show. No, we feel the way we feel about something because of the way we're thinking about it. It's not the circumstance making us feel how we're feeling. It's our thinking. And it is certainly a step forward to support ourselves when we feel what we feel. To feel what we feel yet. I hear you. How about we stop the stinking thinking? How about we shift the thoughts and so we don't keep thinking the same thoughts that are going to get us the same result. And so yes, I will offer a step three, which I really should call extra credit because step one and two is your way out of the panic attack.

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Step three is to back up for a bigger view. In other podcast episodes, I've called this zoom out. Like a camera lens. When we're feeling anxious, we're feeling like this thing at hand, the thing that's happening in that current moment of our day is massive. It's urgent. It feels life threatening to our system.

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Like, when I'm feeling the feels over my. Like, my son says that he's nervous. I'm not thinking about how this will pass, that my son is not going to be nervous for the next 82 years of his life.

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I'm not thinking of how in an hour he'll probably be playing basketball and not thinking of this thing at all. I'm not thinking that he's probably up in his room eating his snack now, bebopping along, feeling better because he dumped his emotion in the living room with me.

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It's actually quite the opposite. When our anxious brain is in charge, we are making these things super big in our lives. It's like. It's like you're, like, looking at, like, a picture. Like, I'm picturing, like, one of those where. Where's Waldo? And instead of, like, holding it back so you can see, like, I have to hold everything back now with my aged eyes. It's like bringing your nose right to the paper. And, like, that's all you see. It's like, ah, I can't find Waldo. I'll never find Waldo. Oh, my God, Susie. Waldo's never found. It's like, oh, my Lord. Okay, we're so zoomed in on our experience. We can only see one piece of the puzzle. And in order to think differently so that we feel differently, we need to step back to see how maybe this big thing isn't so big. This is not in a diminishing way. Okay, we did steps one and two. We did the like. Yeah, it makes sense. You're feeling this way and then we're in a like. Yes. And this feels so big to me right now. Yet might I see how this won't feel so horrendous in 14 Tuesdays or next Tuesday? Anxiety has a very sneaky way of zooming in, only seeing what's right in front of our face. It makes things feel urgent and overwhelming. And this step is about zooming out and gaining perspective. We can question our thinking by asking things like, what's another way to think about this?

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Or, if this was happening to my neighbor's kid, how might I feel differently? Or if this was happening to my neighbor's kid, what might I say to support my neighbor? Okay, we want to question our stinking thinking, so we step out of the anxiety spiral, saying things like, it makes sense that you're Feeling this way. I get it.

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Can you think forward to next year this time, how you might be thinking about this then or next month or next week? Okay, now remember, this is the extra credit. If you are still feeling like you felt some of your anxiety, but you're feeling a little panicky and you're. You find your brain is fighting back against me with this. Like you're really committed to seeing this massive thing is massive and it's going to be like world ending and changing and all that, which I get some of the stuff we're going through and yet. Okay, we want to be able to have emotional resiliency so we can handle the world we're living in. So maybe your step right now, you're not. We're not at the place yet where we're going to question our thinking and instead I just want you to change the channel. Just change the channel in your brain. Think of something else. It's like you feel it. You name it, you feel it and then let me go for a walk and snuggle my dog.

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Another thing I want to say about this step is this third step. If this is your teen, I want you to leave this step for them and their coach. Most times, I was going to say most always. But you know, most times when I see parents try to reframe things for our kids, it comes off as dismissive or invalidating and harms the parent child relationship.

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I'm sure you can remember a time when you were worried about something and if someone had said, will this matter to you in a year, you probably would have bitten their head off. It's not that connection that we want.

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And so we. Let's skip this third step for our kids if we're parenting our kids. If you have a particularly anxious child or you tend to get anxious about other people's anxiety, please sign up for a one on one session with me. I like I can help you with strategies that are specific to your kids and situation. And that's where I see it working. But not listening to a general podcast and bringing that in. All right, I want to wrap this up. The most important thing you can do for your anxious teen, spouse, friend, sibling, parent, whomever, is to learn how to manage your own anxiety. First, anxiety spirals us out of control. Notice and name it, Feel it to heal it. Zoom out for a bigger view.

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The bonus is practicing these things regularly builds up your emotional resilience. It's like exercising a muscle. The more you do it, the stronger you get.

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You are actually doing really well. You're listening to an episode like this. You know, you want to feel better. You want to feel more in control of your emotions and. And that's what I help with. If this episode resonate with you, please share it with a friend or a loved one who, who is maybe is also feeling this way. Whatever everybody is right now, so share it. And if you're looking for more support, check to see if the Love youe Life school is open. Or if you're more of a one on one gal, schedule a session with me. Building our emotional intelligence and resilience is work worth doing. Not only will we feel better more often in our days, we will raise and influence a generation where they see this modeled and practiced. This is warrior work. Thank you for being the type of person who listens to podcasts like this and does the inner work to change the outer world for future generations. It is contagious. You managing your anxiety and bringing a calm to a situation is massive. I have deep respect for you and I am honored to be on this journey with you. Let's go.