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A warrior. Hello. Do you know that you get to believe whatever you want to believe about your future? You get to think whatever you want to think about your life. No one can control what's happening inside of your head. And this is the best news yet, and I can't wait to talk to you about it on this show. If you're new to the Love youe Life show and the new the Love youe Life family, welcome. This is a great episode to start with as I will help you see how your thoughts make such a difference. If you've been a listener for a while, you've watched my story unfold from bankrupt in a basement outside of Washington D.C. with my biological family, my mom, dad and sisters, and ex husband plotting against me, trying to gain custody of my sons using the archaic state law that I lived in to take my money and almost my sanity. Now, on the cusp of 2026, living in my dream house with my dream husband, different man with dreamy relationships with my adult children. Is this magic? No. This is what happens when you work diligently with a coach to investigate your thinking and push your brain to see what's truly possible for you. And this podcast is a great place to start. I'm so glad you're here. Thank you. Because we can't do it alone. Left alone, our brain continues to run the same story and believe the same limited thinking over and over and over. Which is how I ended up bankrupt in that basement after 20 plus years of marriage. I love leading women on this journey of self discovery and growth, blowing our own damn minds. So pop those earbuds in, put your excuse and limiting thinking brain on hold for just a bit, and let's start dreaming. Dear one, what would your next year look like if it was your best year yet? That's how it all starts realizing. You get to think whatever you want to think. You get to believe whatever the heck you want to believe about your future and what's possible for you. It is the truth. We can either talk ourselves out of our dreams or talk ourselves into our dreams. Guess which option I want for you? Hi, this is the Love youe Life show with Susie Pettit, certified life and wellness Coach. Join Susie as as she helps you with your wellness and mindset so you can live a life you love. Let's go Warriors. Hello, dear warriors. It is me, Susie Pettit, your certified life parenting wellness coach. That person who was just talking, that deep voice is actually one of my sons. So isn't that so fun? And can you Believe it. Depending on when you're listening to this, we're wrapping up 2025, or we're completely into 2026, which means we are more than halfway through this decade. One of the things that happens as we age is time seems to pass faster. We get to this place and we're like, wait, what? It's been half a decade since 2020. Like, how is that even possible? The beauty is that as a listener of the show, you're here. And I know the way to slow this show down so we can feel more in control, more intentional, and more connected to the life that we're living. Does that sound good to you? Living a life with more of you in it, doing more of what you want that feels good to you without this, like, waking up and like, where did the time go? That's what we're getting into today. I love listeners like you who are constantly in that growth mindset, the let's do it. That tune into that inner voice that might be whispering, I want to feel differently than I feel right now. Know that there are things you can do and people you can turn to to find out how to make that happen, which is what today's episode is all about. So let's go. Anytime you're listening to this is a great time to start. Any hour of the day is a great time to wake up from that nap we've been in and declare our own restart. January is an especially great time. And I think the second half of a decade is even more golden juiciness. The future is ours to create, no matter how stuck you might feel right now. Dear one, stick with me. All right, let's start by taking some two deep breaths with me. If it's safe, like you're not driving or walking. Close your eyes. If it's not safe, then just soften your gaze a little and let's breathe. Let's inhale in and think about possibility and excitement, expansion and lightness in your chest. Exhale out tightness or pressure in your neck. Inhale in light. Imagine yourself filling up with light, white light and hope. Exhale out that dark, black, sludgy doubt. Alright, one more. Let's inhale. Raise your shoulders up to your ears. Squeeze, squeeze, squeeze. And then exhale out. Shake out your shoulders, your neck, your jaw. Loosen your jaw. This is your moment. Have a little reset to decide what you want your next year to look like. When we slow down and reflect, we realize how quickly time moves. Didn't it feel like just yesterday we were saying goodbye to 2024. I loved that Ferris Bueller movie when I was growing up that life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around every once in a while, you could miss it. It's like there was a younger part of me that knew I was going to be a future mindfulness based cognitive coach. Because I know time doesn't slow down, but our presence in the present moment does. Our awareness, our intention. And when we start to live on purpose instead of autopilot, life start stops feeling like it's rushing past us. And that's what I want for you in 2026. A year where you feel awake, grounded, alive, not running from one thing to the next, trying to keep everyone else happy, but centered in your lane, living in your truth. And today is a great day to start. Let's say whenever you're listening to this, it's your reset. Any moment, any day, any year is a great time to get started. And even better, you don't need a perfect plan. You just need a little bit of courage to quiet your life down a little. To listen to your inner voice that might be whispering, not this. She might be whispering in a certain area of your life, or she might be whispering it in many areas of your life, encouraged to listen to that yearning. I want something different is what we need. We are standing at the doorstep of a brand new year. In fact, I've got to mention my life audit. It's a quick smbwell.com lifeaudit that can give you a little screenshot of what you're thinking, your life. You know where you might be hearing that whisper? Because we are standing at the beginning of a new year. What would it look like if this next year was your best year yet? Imagine that one year from now, December 2026, sitting down with your tea, smiling, feeling proud. What would she, your future self, tell you? What did she say yes to? What did she let go of? How did she treat herself this year so that version of you exists? She's not a fantasy. She is waiting for you to start believing in her. That's where our brain comes in. We don't have these desires without the ability to make them come true. And yet our powerful, sneaky, predictable brain gets in the way. Because if we leave it unchecked, unmanaged, it runs old programs. The worry loop, the guilt, the who am I to want that story. This is where my coach helped me so much. To see where my brain was stuck. Because that really is our greatest human freedom. The ability to think about what we think about what we think creates how we feel, which drives the actions we take in our life, which show up as the results we have. And so it is us as human, sapien sapiens, homo sapiens. It is our greatest freedom to think about what we think about. Yet that takes a lot of brain energy. And so without deliberate steps, our brain will run old programs. We get more of what we already had left. On its own. Our brain looks to our past for evidence of what's possible for us in our future. Which is why our years can look and feel very much like all the other ones we've led. But not on my watch. If you're new to the show, grab the free podcast roadmap@smbwell.com roadmap all one word to learn more about how our sneaky brains are doing this. Our brains motivational triad and emotional intelligence. How? Just because we think it doesn't mean we need to listen to it, right? Because this stuff is real and we want that reinforcement. I am a life coach and I do this for a living. And yet still probably daily find myself reminding myself, hey, Susie, just because you think it doesn't mean it's true. Or I'll say, hey, you don't have to listen to every silly thought your brain has. Or I'll be like, hey, bully brain, pipe down. Okay, Our brains are not doing anything wrong. They're saving energy and keeping us alive. However, this is not just called the stay alive show. It's called the love your life show, which is because we don't want you to just survive. We want you to thrive. Your brain just wants you to survive. I want you to thrive. To feel lit up about the life and the choices you're making. And that is possible. And I think there's a reason this episode found you today. I think it's because you're ready. That it's time. No more waiting. No more maybe next year. No more living everyone else's story and calling it your own. It's time for you. Why not make this the year you stop playing small. Stop worrying about your kids happiness more than your own happiness. Stop letting your husband's bad mood dictate your mood. Let the other people learn how to manage their lives, their feelings, how to regulate themselves. Maybe this is time. Permission slip granted to tune into you. To pay more attention to what you want and need than what everyone else wants and needs. You are not here to make other people happy. You are not here to make sure everyone else's needs are met and that everyone else is okay, sure, when our kids are super little, and yes, we need to pay attention to their needs. But most of us listening, we've taken that way too far. This is what our current system teaches us, and it's not the truth. You were not put on this earth to make sure that everyone else is happy or satisfied like some human servant. You, my dear wonderful listener, are unique. And we're given dreams and desires that are unique to you. And the more you listen to them, the happier you will feel and the more free the other people around you will be to live the lives, their lives and fulfill their dreams. It's a universal law called the law of Dharma. The concept that you are here for a reason, and your dreams and desires are the path to that purpose. Now, that might scare the pants off you. Like, oh, my gosh. What if I don't know what the heck are my dreams and desires? It did for me too. Okay, I'm by your side. I'm here. Okay. There are no accidents or coincidences in your life that you're listening to this episode. It is time. You are ready. Let all the other noise of life melt away and hear my voice in your ear. What if this was your best year yet? All right, we got three steps for us. The first, when you're done listening, go grab your worksheet for the word of the year, smbwell.com word okay, these are lots of links. I'll have them all linked below in the show notes. Don't worry. But we want to choose a word of the year. One that makes you a little nervous, that stretches you towards that woman you visualize in December of 2026, if you haven't chosen a word of the year before and you don't know what the heck I'm doing and talking about this is a life changing step. I'm so excited for you to start doing this. Instead of all the resolutions. Okay. There will be a link to the episode describing exactly how to do the power, the this powerful thing. I'm so excited for you to see how this small step will impact you. For all of us listening, whether you've chosen a word before or not, choose your word, then go to Facebook or Instagram or email if you're not on those social platforms and share your word with me to bring it into being. That's step one. Step two, the second thing that will change your life is to get intentional about thinking of a future different than the present you're living again. Left unmonitored, our brain will think of the future. In a worried way, thinking of everything that could go wrong. We have a negativity bias. It looks for what's wrong. It actually looks for problems to keep us safe. That's not helpful for our mental health. It is time to take control of your brain. Right? Our brain is predictive. It looks to the past to determine what's possible for us in the future, which gets us weeks, months, and years that look remarkably similar to the past ones. Easy for our brain. It's like it's on its factory settings. It's like, this is easy. Not great for life satisfaction though. And we can reprogram our brain. As a listener of this show, you're a warrior. You do things ordinary people don't do, which is take back control of your brain. Even listening to this podcast is what ordinary people don't do. You're extraordinary, okay? Take your thinking off of autopilot and realize it all new and fun and adventurous and exciting things that have happened in your life came because you thought of what might be possible. You tried something new. You listened to those inner whisper dreams and you let yourself believe, even if it was just for a little moment, that that could be true. And so this is the second piece. We want some deliberate thinking time. I want you to get in the habit this year of having time in every day. When your brain just sits with no input coming in, no podcasts, no music, no self help mantras, no audio books, no kids, no spouses, just you and your brain create space in your day to have time to. To listen to your wonderful self. You are the most important person in your life. What do you have to say about the life you're living? What's exciting you right now? What's bugging you right now? What do you dream about when it gets quiet? Your life will change in magnificently wonderful ways if you make deliberate time to listen to your dreams and desires. If you make deliberate time to listen to yourself. And I know, I know we're all busy. That's how we are now, where we're like, what? Wait, what yet? Hang with me. Because this isn't a massive thing. What it looks like is choosing a specific time and starting today, intentionally deciding when you can have brain wandering time, brain downtime. It's not that massive. Maybe when your coffee is brewing, maybe when you're in the shower, maybe when you're on the toilet, maybe for the first five minutes of your daily walk. Or when you're cooking, turn off the tv, the music, the external noise tune in to you and the internal As I said, it's not a massive thing, but it is a massive thing. It doesn't take a massive amount of time. Literally, you could do it for one minute a day, and you're going to notice a difference and you will have a massively different year. So choose a time today and start. That's part one of the step two. Allowing space to listen to yourself, to listen to your thoughts when you're not doing doing. Part two is for the warriors out there who like to take it to a little bit of the next level. At least once a week, schedule some time to think of your best possible future. We are already, I promise you, spending so much time thinking about our future, but it's usually in an undisciplined way, which includes lots of worry, lots of to do lists, lots of in other people's business. This is different because I want you to ask yourself, what would your life look like one year from now if everything turns out better than you can imagine? We spend time in our brain dreaming up these crazy scenarios where everything doesn't work out. Can we spend at least equal time thinking about what if everything does work out? What would that future you be doing and feeling that's different than what you're doing and feeling right now? I'll include a meditation that I had my husband do for students in the Love youe Life School in the show notes. It's. It's a bit more structure to your dream. I think it's about 10 minutes long. So if you want someone to sort of walk you through your future, this recording is for you. Plus, he has that fun Aussie accent, and you can do this alone. I do it at the end of my every week. I stop, I pause, I get out my journal and I think deliberately on paper about what my best year would look like. What's happening? This matters, all right? And step three is taking action. It's doing these things. Listening to a podcast is great, but actually doing them, real change happens when we take action. Listening into that inner voice is amazing. Listening into podcasts, this is great. If you. If you choose to do step two and you listen in that inner voice, that's amazing, then take that to the next level. Do something. Start taking small action steps on the dreams and desires that pop into your head. Ask yourself, what small step could I take this week? You won't know every step you need to take or exactly how to do the thing. Like, you visualize yourself a year from now and you're like, wow, check her out. You won't know how she got there. All you need to do is get started. Alright, say you choose to have your brain quiet when you're cooking and you notice you're like, oh, I've been feeling restless lately. Oh, and it might be related to cooking. I love cooking, but not really just cooking for my family. Maybe I can make money cooking up for others. Follow that spark. Schedule time later that day to google cooking groups and mompreneur. Or maybe you love the Brown Bag Lunch series that your office has. When people come to speak of life and of wellness and midlife health, it just lights you up. You look forward to them on your schedule. Well, speak to the presenter after the next event and schedule a session with her to pick her brain on how she got started giving those brown bag sessions. Or maybe when you closed your eyes at the beginning of this podcast and thought of your best possible year, the thought popped into your head that you'd like to feel more connected and understood by your spouse. Make this the year you stop hoping things will change. Be the change. Reach out to a coach like me to learn communication techniques and scripts that have helped me change my relationship. We weren't taught these things in school, so you won't know how to do them differently by just going to your brain and thinking the same thoughts of what you did last year. Trying harder. You know what that'll do? That you get the same results. Do something different. Or maybe you wish you didn't yell so much. Maybe you wish you exercise more. Maybe you wish you took better care of your body. Maybe you wish you had more confidence in certain areas or you didn't feel so insecure in social settings. All these things. Pay attention to them. These little pings in you. They are there to tell your sweet self something. And I want you to think of what's the first action step you could take forward. Book the class. Write the email. Sign up for the program. Momentum builds. Belief. A belief is a thought we tell ourselves over and over until we believe it. And my dear one, since we get to choose to think whatever we want to think, we can also choose to believe whatever the heck we want to believe. You can believe you're fantastic no matter what anyone else says. You can believe that it's all going to work out wonderfully for you and your kids no matter what's going on in the world. You can believe that you're smart, amazing and capable of anything you set your mind to. If you think you are, you are. If you think it's possible for you, possible for you. If you think you can, you can. Our lives are a reflection of the stories we tell yourself. If you tell yourself you can't or that's not possible for you, guess what? You find evidence for that and make it so. And you'll find other people that will tell you that too. And that's where I want you to begin this year, Warrior. I want you to begin turning the negative voices down and turning up the positive ones for help on your journey. Please get a coach to help you see where you're making excuses in your life and help you understand where your thinking is, getting involved or getting in your way. We can't see that in ourselves. Alright, I've had a lot of women over 40 Sign up for the Love youe Life school lately and I'd love to see you in there. Especially since next month, January, we're working on exactly this. Goal setting, scheduling action, getting support and expert help from me. It's simple. Such a fun group and it's a fun place we can be together. We bust our own limiting belief ceilings all the time. Smbwell.com lifeschool if you're more of a one on one warrior, I have some coaching spots open. Good news, this does not happen often. So rush to get on my schedule because they will fill up. I guess my question for you is why would you wait to feel better or to live your best life? We don't know what's given to us. Last year I was in the hospital twice. Heart. Serious heart. Like my heart stopped twice. I almost died. People are amazed that I didn't. I didn't see that coming. Please don't wait. Why would you wait? Are you waiting to listen to, I don't know, episode 840 of the Love youe Life show in 2032 when I again urge you to choose you? Let's not do that. Today is your perfect day to sign up for coaching. Give yourself the accountability and support to live a life that feels more in control, connected and aligned for you. I threw a lot of links at you. They're all in the show notes of this episode. Scroll down to the writing and see them. Sign up for coaching. Choose your word of the year. Schedule. Time to dream and take action. You. You, my dear Warrior, have something to offer that no one else here on this planet does. That gives me goosebumps and I want it to give you goosebumps. It is time. I love you. Happy New Year.