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Love Your Villain Podcast
Hosted by Ila.casselman · EN
Love Your Villain is the raw, unfiltered podcast that helps you stop running from your shadow—and start loving it.
The jealousy, the rage, the insecurity, the shame…
They’re not your flaws.
They’re your story.
This is where emotional honesty meets radical self-ownership.
No sugarcoating. No bypassing.
Welcome to the podcast that helps you turn your “worst” into your power.
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S2. Ep 1. Parenting is no F'ing Joke
2w ago00:46:01Tap to summarizeSeason 2 of Love Your Villain kicks off with the topic nobody wants to say out loud: parenting will wreck you, and that's normal.Ila isn't a parent. She's not a child psychologist. What she is: an osteopath who spent years helping women through fertility struggles, pregnancy, and postpartum recovery, and someone who made the hard call not to have kids of her own. In this raw, unfiltered episode, she pulls back the curtain on what actually happens behind closed doors: the grief of infertility, the physical toll pregnancy takes that no one warns you about, the shame spiral of a baby who won't latch, and the crying that breaks even the most put-together parent.This isn't a gentle parenting podcast. It's a call to stop blaming your kid for your own dysregulation, stop pretending pregnancy is all glow and gratitude, and start taking responsibility, as a parent, as a partner, as a society, for the humans we're raising.If you're a new parent, an exhausted parent, or someone who's ever felt isolated in the hardest job you'll ever do: this one's for you.
Transcribe →Episode 10: Exploring Your Inner Villain with Book Editor Tina Overbury
Nov 1800:27:51Tap to summarizeWe’re ending the season with a powerful reflection on writing, healing, and shadow work. 🖤Tina Overbury (@tinaolife), the editor of my book 'Love Your Villain', joins me to talk about the emotional layers behind the writing process, exploring hidden anger, judgment, boundary guilt, and the weight of people-pleasing.She shares how working on the Love Your Villain Book helped her meet her own inner villain. Together, we unpack what it means to stop suppressing those parts and start integrating them with awareness, curiosity, and grace.
Transcribe →Episode 9: Sexy Villain
Nov 400:45:34Tap to summarizeThis week on #LoveYourVillain, we’re diving into the parts of ourselves we’ve been told to hide, the ones driven by pleasure, curiosity, and desire.💗In this unfiltered episode, Simone joins me for an intimate conversation about sensuality, emotional honesty, and how embracing your “sexy villain” can actually bring you closer to healing, integrity, and trust.We talk jealousy, communication, kink, and the difference between being good and being whole.What if the part of you that craves pleasure, intimacy, and freedom wasn’t a problem to fix but a truth to explore?
Transcribe →Episode 8 - How Emotional Literacy Can Change Your Life
Oct 2100:28:19Tap to summarizeEpisode 8 - How Emotional Literacy Can Change Your Life is out now.We’re taught to chase good vibes and fear bad ones but what if all emotions had value?In this solo episode, I unpack how emotional literacy can transform your life.We talk about triggers, jealousy, emotional maturity, and how true emotional maturity comes from recognizing, understanding, and validating your emotions.
Transcribe →Ep 7. Addiction
Oct 700:29:48Tap to summarizeEp 7: Addiction with guest Arthur LeeAddiction is about pain, disconnection, and the need to numb yourself when emotions feel too heavy to carry.Arthur joins me to talk honestly about his journey through alcoholism, drug use, and emotional healing.We explore what addiction can look like, what recovery really takes, and how emotional literacy can save a life. And what it really takes to come back to yourself.
Transcribe →Ep.6 It's Emotional
Sep 2300:31:39Tap to summarizeNo one ever handed us a map for how to feel. Many of us grew up around emotional avoidance, passed-down trauma, and parents who didn’t know how to process their own pain, so they made us responsible for it.In this solo episode, I unpack what emotional literacy really means, why naming emotions is powerful, and how our relationship to feelings shapes everything from addiction to intimacy.We’re breaking down the myth that emotions make you weak.They don’t. They make you honest.
Transcribe →Where Healing Really Begins
Sep 900:48:17Tap to summarize🎙️Coming up on #LoveYourVillain is Ep 5: Where Healing Really Begins with Moriah GonidisWe’re talking about what healing actually looks like at the start: messy, raw, and real.Moriah shares how she began facing her inner villain, learning to pause before reacting, and rebuilding a life based on truth instead of survival.In this honest and vulnerable episode. Moriah shares her experience facing her inner villain, learning to pause instead of react, and rebuilding life from the inside out. We, talk about the emotional “workout” of healing and why it feels hard at first, but gets easier with time.
Transcribe →Why We Love the Way We Do: Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Trap
Aug 2600:33:57Tap to summarizeIs your Villain Anxious, Avoidant or both? In this episode of Love Your Villain, we're diving into the attachment trap. I get personal about my own anxious-avoidant attachment:How they can play out in a relationships. How they are formed.What it takes to shift toward security.I break down how our earliest bonds shape the way we relate, and why self-abandonment, emotional explosions, and shame spirals often start as survival strategies.If you’ve ever felt too much or not enough in love, this one’s for you.
Transcribe →#3 Emotional Capacity & Availability
Aug 1200:37:17Tap to summarizeEmotional Availability with @bebhinnpidgeonIn this episode, Bebhinn Pidgeon, RTC and founder of @evolvecreativetherapy, shares how expressive arts, nervous system work, and self-reflection can help us soften our armor and show up with more presence and honesty.It’s not about being emotionally perfect.It’s about being emotionally real.🎭 Love your villain because the walls you built were once your only form of safety.
Transcribe →#2 A Villain Begins
Jul 29, 202500:35:30Tap to summarizeA Villain Begins talks about the origin and development of the Villain AKA the shadow side of our personality. The unconscious version of us we were taught as babies to suppress for fear of not being loved or liked by the people that mattered the most to us. And it all starts with crying. I'm an osteopath, a lifelong personal growth explorer, with 21 years of clinical experience and a master's degree in osteopathic medicine. I've spent my career holding space for pain in all its forms, physical, emotional, generational, and ancestral. My practice evolved from treating bodies to understanding the stories those bodies carry. And what I've come to know as this true healing doesn't come from fixing, performing, or pleasing our way into acceptance. It begins when we stop pretending to be okay, when we meet the messy, misunderstood parts of ourselves with curiosity instead of shame. We stop abandoning our emotional truth and finally choose to love the villain we became to survive.
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