
Sam Harris speaks with Donald Robertson about Stoicism and the good life. They discuss the relationship between wisdom and virtue, ancient versions of psychotherapy, parallels between Stoicism and Buddhism, practical vs. analytical styles of...
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Sam Harris
Welcome to the Making Sense Podcast. This is Sam Harris. Just a note to say that if you're hearing this, you're not currently on our subscriber feed and will only be hearing the first part of this conversation. In order to access full episodes of the Making Sense podcast, you'll need to subscribe@samharris.org we don't run ads on the podcast, and therefore it's made possible entirely through the support of our subscribers. So if you enjoy what we're doing here, please consider becoming one. I am here with Donald Robertson. Donald, thanks for joining me.
Donald Robertson
It's a pleasure to be here, Sam.
Sam Harris
So how would you summarize your background? Academically, intellectually, philosophically?
Donald Robertson
Well, my first degree was in philosophy and my master's degree was at an interdisciplinary center. And I wanted to combine philosophy and psychotherapy. That's what I was studying. So I did what a lot of people do. I had one run at it and then completely changed my mind. So I was trying to combine existential philosophy and psychoanalysis. My dissertation was on Jean Paul Sartre and existential psychoanalysis. And I decided it just wasn't working out for me. So I started again from scratch and I began looking at stoicism and cognitive behavioral therapy, and that's what I've been doing. I was a psychotherapist. I pursued a clinical career instead of an academic one. And then I started writing books about it. And somewhere along the lines, stoicism became what the young people call a thing. It sort of had a moment and became popular.
Sam Harris
Yeah, yeah. It's due to people like yourself and Bill Irvin and Ryan Holiday. And I should say you've written a couple of books. Here you have how to Think Like a Roman Emperor, which I think I got it in. Maybe it was 20. 20. 2019. When did that come out?
Donald Robertson
Came out in 2019.
Sam Harris
And then also you have one, how to Think Like Socrates. How did you get into Stoicism, specifically?
Donald Robertson
Well, the truth is, long story. I grew up in the west coast of Scotland in a place where Freemasonry is popular, because our national bard, Robert Burns, was a master Freemason. So my father and most of my friends fathers were into Freemasonry, and it gave them a kind of philosophy of life. I looked at my father's books on Freemasonry when I was about 16 years old, and there was all these references to Pythagoras and Plato and the four cardinal virtues of Greek philosophy. So that kind of got me interested in reading about Christian kind of Mysticism, I suppose, and world religions and Greek philosophy. Then I studied philosophy at university and I was looking for something like a Western Buddhism, basically a guide to life, like Freemasonry had provided my father, philosophy of life. Now I couldn't find it in modern academic philosophy. Now, in most undergraduate philosophy curricula, Stoicism isn't covered, although it's one of the major schools of ancient philosophy. So I didn't really read the Stoics until after I graduated. And when I did, I kind of had an epiphany. A light went on, and it felt like I was trying to juggle several competing interests. I was into psychotherapy, I was into meditation, I was into philosophy, and I was reading loads and loads and loads of different books. And when I started reading the Stoics, somehow all of that seemed to crystallize into one thing. I kind of got my fix for all of those things from reading Seneca, basically. And I soon figured out that Stoicism was the inspiration for cognitive behavioral therapy, that Stoicism contained contemplative practices or meditation techniques, and it provided a kind of workable philosophy of life. So it really all crystallized for me very quickly. And that was about 25 years ago, or a little bit more than that now. And I'm still into Stoicism. It stuck with me.
Sam Harris
Yeah. When you read ancient philosophy and when you read Eastern philosophy, it's pretty clear that philosophy was always meant to be a way of life. Right. And there was the implication that if a person was a real philosopher, certainly one worth respecting, that would translate into, by definition, some mastery of the art of living. I mean, some wisdom, you know, like you couldn't be a florid neurotic and be a great philosopher, presumably. I mean, it would just. Or at least you would be living in stark contradiction to your stated insights. Whereas in modern times, and I'm not quite sure when we can date this, I mean, certainly there was a linguistic turn in philosophy in the west, in England and America in particular, and you have people like Wittgenstein and others for whom it really becomes kind of an analysis of language and concepts. And there's really no implication that a person would be wise based on having mastered their area of philosophy, and even with continental philosophy in Europe. And you have the contributions of someone like Nietzsche, who, for all his gifts, was obviously a profoundly unhappy person and is nevertheless a much celebrated philosopher. So I'm not sure if you can date when this broke down, but it is remarkable that if you go in through the front door, of a philosophy department in a university, you really can't expect to encounter much wisdom.
Donald Robertson
Well, there's always been this. There is a connection still in 20th century philosophy, 21st century philosophy, with therapy. Even Wittgenstein compared philosophy, his philosophy, to a type of therapy, but not in the way the ancient philosophers did. I mean, in the ancient world, people thought that you could often recognize a philosopher if you passed one in the street. By the way that they were clothed, the way they wore their beard from their conduct. They were kind of like Western yogis. Even though in the ancient world there was kind of always a contrast between Diogenes the Cynic and Plato and the two views of philosophy as an activity that they represented. Plato definitely had a therapeutic idea of philosophy, but his philosophy was more academic, it was more scholarly, whereas the Cynics were seen as rejecting logic and rejecting this kind of academic discourse and being much more focused on developing strength of character. So in the ancient world, there was this dichotomy about these two opposing ways of interpreting. The Stoics kind of try to reconcile that a little bit, but the Cynics in particular couldn't be more different from what we think of as philosophy today.
Sam Harris
So what is the essence of Stoicism, in your view?
Donald Robertson
I think Stoicism fundamentally is an ethic, an ethical worldview. It's a big philosophy. It flourished for five centuries in the ancient world. It was around for a long time, and it evolved a lot. But essentially it's based on the doctrine that virtue is the only true good. That's how Cicero, for example, characterizes the cornerstone of Stoicism, that in a sense, a kind of moral wisdom is the only true good, and that therefore the things that the majority of people deem to be important in life, like wealth and reputation, are indifferent. They're not really intrinsically good. They're at most a kind of practical advantage in life. And what follows on from that is what Stoicism is perhaps most famous for, which is that if somebody really embraced that ethical worldview, they would be less attached to external possessions and reputation, and so they would develop a kind of emotional resilience in the face of adversity. And Stoicism today has kind of become a synonym, I guess we could say, for emotional resilience as a consequence of that. But it stems from their ethic, their virtue ethic.
Sam Harris
Yeah. In reading the Stoics and what we'll get into some of the specific thinkers here, what I've gotten is that it really amounts to a way of thinking that allows for the regulation of negative emotion. There's kind of a master value. I certainly got this from Marcus Aurelius, that what you don't want above all is to suffer unnecessarily. Right. And the lack of necessity is in how one reacts to the world, reacts to the behavior of other people, and kind of hallucinates the cause of one's suffering as being out there in the world, overlooking the fact that there is a reaction that is actually the felt presence of the injustice or the annoyance, and it's in surrendering that reaction, reframing it, thinking so as to see the non necessity of it, that you become free of these collisions with annoying people, annoying circumstances, inevitable bad luck, et cetera.
Donald Robertson
Well, I think we can say that probably the most famous quote from Stoicism is from the Enchiridion or Handbook of Epictetus. And it says people are distressed not by events, but by their opinions about events. And the reason that it became so famous is that that quote is cited extensively in cognitive behavioral therapy. So it became a kind of cliche in a way. But this is a fundamental insight of Stoicism. And something that might surprise your listeners is that we think of psychotherapy as being a modern thing, a modern invention, in a sense. I think many people believe that psychotherapy began with Sigmund Freud, which is categorically false. Freud trained in psychotherapy. There were modern psychotherapists around before Freud. But psychotherapy existed in the ancient world. In fact, at the beginning of the Meditations, Marcus Aurelius says that one of the most important things that he gained from Junius Rusticus, who was his main Stoic mentor, was Therapaea, like psychotherapy, based on Stoicism. Basically, Chrysippus, the third head of the Stoic school, the most prolific writer in ancient Stoicism, wrote what was once a famous book on therapeutics, on Stoic psychotherapy, which is lost today. But we have an entire book by Seneca that still survives, called On Anger, which is all about Stoic psychotherapy for the passion of anger. So you're right, it has this kind of therapeutic angle. It's about overcoming the passions or irrational and unhealthy emotions. And the Stoics call that goal apatheia, which is kind of mistranslated as meaning apathy. But a better translation, a more literal translation, would be freedom from pathological desires and emotions.
Sam Harris
So what are the primary negative emotions that Stoicism is an antidote for?
Donald Robertson
Well, desire in the sense of a kind of greed or attachment to external things. But anger also is one of the main emotions that they were particularly concerned with, and also irrational fear or sadness. The Stoics think that any emotion that places too much intrinsic value on external events beyond our direct control, any emotion like that, is inherently unhealthy. There's something not quite right about it, they believe, and that's the core of their philosophy, essentially.
Sam Harris
You said that there's a direct connection between cognitive behavioral therapy and stoicism. Is that historically in the field, or is that merely in your practice?
Donald Robertson
No, that's for real. Albert Ellis, who is the original pioneer of cognitive therapy, he developed a thing called rational emotive behavior therapy, which is the earliest form of CBT, in the 1950s in New York. Ellis was originally a psychoanalytic therapist, and he got disillusioned with it and gave up and decided he was going to start again from scratch. And he'd read Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius when he was a teenager. And so he began drawing on Stoicism for inspiration. And he describes the Stoics as the main philosophical inspiration for his approach to cognitive therapy. Then the next major pioneer of that approach is Aaron T. Beck. Tim beckman. In the 60s and 70s, he developed cognitive therapy for depression and made cognitive therapy much more mainstream. And Beck also says that the philosophical origins, he says this repeatedly, of cognitive therapy, lie in ancient Stoicism.
Sam Harris
So can you give me an example of the technique of Stoicism? How does one put these insights into practice?
Donald Robertson
Well, first of all, there's a repertoire of techniques. There are many, many techniques. The first book that I wrote on Stoicism, I tried to list as many as I could, and there were about 18, like, broad strategies, and those can take different forms, so we can pick several out. But actually, I'm going to pick one in particular because I think it might be especially of interest to you, given your interest in mindfulness meditation and Buddhism. The Stoics have a practice that they call prosohe, and this term is used by other ancient Greek writers as well. Epictetus has an entire discourse on it. Prosoke is a word that you'll see in modern Greece on signs. So you'll see signs that say prosoke skilos, which means beware of the dog. So proso means be mindful, be aware, watch out. It can be translated as pay attention. And the Stoics describe this as a kind of practice of continual attention to the way that we're using our mind. So you could see it as a kind of Stoic mindfulness Practice. They think that we should constantly observe the use we make of impressions, for example, or the automatic thoughts that pop into our mind. Marcus Aurelius, for instance, says we should continually ask ourselves, what use are you making right now of your psyche, of your mind? What character does your psyche have right now? So constantly reflecting on the type of judgments we're making, and in particular, the value judgments that we're making from moment to moment, and how those might be affecting our emotions. So there's this kind of sort of mindfulness practice that we find in Stoicism pretty explicitly. And then there's the use of the Socratic method or Socratic questioning, which is integral to cognitive therapy. I'll take a step back and say the reason for that is this idea that it's not things that upset us, but our opinions about them. The Stoics had a cognitive model of emotion. So it's similar, very similar, surprisingly similar to the premise of modern cognitive therapy. And if you believe that your cognitions shape your emotions to a greater extent than we normally assume, then you're going to arrive at broadly similar conclusions, perhaps about what you would do about that. So you might try to identify what the beliefs are that cause your anger, for example, and then challenge those beliefs, question them. Questions whether they're contradictory or whether they contain certain logical errors, for example. So the Stoics use questioning techniques to root out and challenge rationally or philosophically in a similar way that we do in modern cognitive therapy, to help deal with these rational beliefs. But they also have a variety of other meditation or contemplative practices. And I think you'll find parallels to those in Eastern traditions like Buddhism. So I know in the Buddhist tradition, there are meditations that involve contemplating the character of the Buddha and the qualities that he possessed. In Stoicism, they have a practice called contemplating the sage, or the sophos in Greek. So the Stoics didn't believe that any perfect person had ever existed, but they thought that we're able to imagine what a wise person might look like and how they might act, et cetera, an imaginative contemplative exercise. They think we should contemplate our own death, which is also a practice that we find in Buddhism. And they thought we should also try to imagine potential misfortunes that could befall us and prepare ourselves in advance for them. Imagine, for example, poverty or illness as if it's happening right now, and then rehearse responding to it with a philosophical attitude, which is kind of similar to practices that we find in modern cognitive Behavioral therapy as well, what we call mental rehearsal or imaginal exposure exercises in cbt.
Sam Harris
Okay. So I'm going to ask you to help me untangle a very familiar pattern of reaction that I have to one of the misfortunes in life. So you mentioned reputation and how one should not put too much stock in it. I find as a writer, podcaster, speaker, I find that the thing I find most annoying on this front is the all too frequent experience of seeing my views misrepresented. So it's not criticism per se, or even just any kind of defamatory attack on me that I care about. What I care about is to see somebody lying or otherwise, consciously or unconsciously misrepresenting my views and to see that at scale become effective. So the truly crazy making experience, from my point of view, is to see vast numbers of people believe that I think things that I have never thought in my life, much less said out loud. And so how would you, if you're going to be my stoic therapist, how would you ask me to interact with that phenomenon?
Donald Robertson
Well, first of all, I sympathize. And it's going to get worse because AI is going to start misrepresenting your views as well. I think that happens. Or they will get misquoted by AI.
Sam Harris
No, AI has me. Someone sent me an ad where an AI generated version of me or an AI voice overlaid on an actual version of me has me selling some cognitive enhancement that I've never heard of. So I'm pushing pills out there that you shouldn't buy.
Donald Robertson
Yeah, that's welcome to the future. But this was a common problem in the past as well. So Marcus Aurelius had to deal with his views being misrepresented and parodied and satirized. That's something that we know that he had to deal with. And so did other influential people in the Roman Empire that were into stoicism. So it's kind of a familiar problem in a way. And one of the first things you might do is to ask yourself, well, how would somebody else cope with that problem? How would someone that we admire for their wisdom and patience and temperance deal with the similar problem? And it could be someone you admire personally. It could be like a colleague or something like that. Or it could even be a fictional character. It could be the hypothetical sage. It could be Buddha. Buddhist views are misrepresented all the time. How would Buddha respond to that or deal with it? How would Socrates deal with his views being misrepresented? So that's what we call modeling cognitive modeling and modern therapy. How would someone else cope well with the same challenge? Another way of dealing with it in Stoicism is.
Sam Harris
But before you move on, what I find interesting about that is that it's a method of seeing yourself from the outside. I mean, you're kind of triangulating on yourself. And it's a funny feature or really bug of human psychology that there are many things that we recognize to be unflattering or otherwise not admirable in others, but in ourselves. When we're in the grip of them, we don't have the perspective on it. I mean, it takes us kind of far afield. But to be boastful or to be name dropping, from the outside, we always notice what is wrong with it. But from the inside, people tend not to notice what is wrong with it. And so I think that the move of triangulation is quite useful.
Donald Robertson
This idea is integral to Greek philosophy, actually. It's in Plato's dialogues. It's integral to Stoicism. The Galen, Marcus Aurelius physician has a book called on the Diagnosis and Cure of the Soul's Passions. So A Cure on Psychopathology and Psychotherapy where he talks precisely about the problem of this blind spot. And he describes it using one of Aesop's fables. Aesop said, we're all born with two sacks hanging around our neck. There's a big one that hangs in front of our chest and we can see it everywhere we go, and it contains everybody else's flaws. And then there's a little one that hangs behind the back of our neck that we can never see because it's in our blind spot, but everyone else can see it really clearly and it contains our own flaws. So they have a really neat little kind of illustration of this problem. And you're right that these kind of perspective shifting exercises are one way of trying to kind of get outside of that blind spot. But the Stoics also thought that it was important to have a mentor or a teacher and engage in dialogue with another living human being. And they seem to think that was one. Galen's pretty clear about that. He says, find an older, wiser mentor, someone that you can be completely transparent with. And that's one way of learning to transcend this blind spot, because they'll give you an outside perspective. I guess like a counselor or a psychotherapist might help people gain perspective today.
Sam Harris
Yeah, yeah. So I cut you off. You were on to a next method to deal with all that ails me.
Donald Robertson
Yeah, we're like in Buddhism, where there's a bunch of solutions, you know, that's a good thing. We've got a whole box of tricks. So another one. I mean, one might just be to repeat what happens, titus says, which is, you know, it's not these other people and their behavior.
Sam Harris
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Release Date: May 28, 2025
Host: Sam Harris
Guest: Donald Robertson
In Episode #417 of the Making Sense podcast, neuroscientist and philosopher Sam Harris welcomes Donald Robertson, a prominent psychotherapist and author known for his work on Stoicism and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). The conversation delves into the intersection of ancient philosophy and modern psychotherapy, exploring how Stoicism can serve as a practical guide to living a fulfilled and resilient life.
Donald Robertson begins by outlining his academic journey, highlighting his initial focus on existential philosophy and psychoanalysis during his master's studies. Dissatisfied with combining these disciplines, he pivoted to Stoicism and cognitive behavioral therapy, which ultimately defined his career path as a psychotherapist and author.
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Notable Quote:
"When I started reading the Stoics, somehow all of that seemed to crystallize into one thing." — Donald Robertson ([03:15])
Sam Harris reflects on the transformation of philosophy from a discipline inherently linked to the art of living to a more abstract, analytical field in modern academia. He contrasts ancient philosophers, who embodied wisdom and practical living, with contemporary philosophers who often focus on language and concepts without necessarily demonstrating personal wisdom.
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Notable Quote:
"If you go in through the front door of a philosophy department in a university, you really can't expect to encounter much wisdom." — Sam Harris ([05:00])
Donald Robertson defines Stoicism as an ethical worldview centered on the belief that virtue is the only true good. External factors such as wealth and reputation are considered "indifferent" and do not contribute to true happiness or moral worth. This perspective fosters emotional resilience by reducing attachment to uncontrollable external circumstances.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"Virtue is the only true good... things like wealth and reputation are not really intrinsically good." — Donald Robertson ([06:59])
The discussion highlights the profound influence of Stoicism on the development of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Robertson explains that foundational figures in CBT, such as Albert Ellis and Aaron T. Beck, drew heavily from Stoic principles, particularly the idea that our perceptions shape our emotional responses.
Key Points:
Notable Quotes:
"People are distressed not by events, but by their opinions about events." — Donald Robertson ([09:25])
"The Stoics have a practice that they call prosohe, which is... a kind of Stoic mindfulness Practice." — Donald Robertson ([12:05])
Robertson elaborates on specific Stoic practices that can be integrated into daily life to manage negative emotions and build emotional resilience.
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"We should constantly observe the use we make of impressions... reflecting on the type of judgments we're making." — Donald Robertson ([14:30])
Sam Harris shares his personal frustration with others misrepresenting his views, especially through modern technologies like AI. Robertson offers Stoic strategies to cope with such challenges, emphasizing perspective shifting and cognitive modeling.
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Notable Quotes:
"How would someone that we admire for their wisdom and patience and temperance deal with the similar problem?" — Donald Robertson ([17:53])
"We are all born with two sacks hanging around our neck... one contains everybody else's flaws... the other contains our own flaws." — Donald Robertson ([20:12])
The conversation between Sam Harris and Donald Robertson underscores the enduring relevance of Stoic philosophy in addressing modern psychological challenges. By integrating Stoic techniques with contemporary CBT practices, individuals can cultivate greater emotional resilience, clarity of mind, and a more examined life. Robertson’s insights bridge ancient wisdom with modern therapeutic approaches, offering a comprehensive framework for personal growth and well-being.
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