Candid Conversations with Scott Galloway

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Mick Unplugged – Candid Conversations with Scott Galloway

Host: Mick Hunt
Guest: Scott Galloway
Episode Date: December 4, 2025
Main Topic: Modern masculinity, crisis among young men, and practical advice for parents

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Episode Overview

This episode of Mick Unplugged dives deep into what it means to be a man in the modern era, featuring a special conversation with author, professor, and commentator Scott Galloway. Building on the themes of Galloway’s new book, Notes on Being a Man, the discussion explores the shifting landscape of masculinity, the social and economic challenges facing young men, and what parents can do to raise healthy, engaged, and resilient sons. The episode is a candid, data-driven, and deeply personal conversation, offering not just diagnosis but tangible hope and direction.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Scott’s “Because” – Purpose and Evolution

• Early Life Purpose:

  • Galloway shares how his motivation used to be economic security due to his upbringing by a single immigrant mother with limited financial means.
  • Quote:

    “Into my 20s, 30s, and even 40s, my purpose was just to have economic security… It wasn’t to be a good person. It wasn’t to save the whales. It wasn’t to restore social justice—it was just to have economic security.” (04:00)

• Purpose Shift After Economic Success:

  • Once achieving stability, his focus shifted to raising two loving, generous, and patriotic sons.
  • Quote:

    “The box I really want to check before I check out… is I want to know that I’ve raised two kids that feel good about themselves, invest in other people’s wellbeing, and invest in the country.” (05:26)

The Changing Role of Men and Dads

• From Being Needed to Being Accountable:
  • Modern fatherhood has shifted from being “needed” to being a model of accountability.
  • Mick’s Reflection:
    • Mick describes how Galloway’s book facilitated deeper conversations with his own adult sons, reframing his role as their father (06:29).

The Crisis Facing Young Men: Data & Context

• Startling Statistics:

  • Male homelessness, addiction, and suicide far outpace females.

    “If you walk into a morgue and there’s five people who’ve died by suicide, four are men… If a man hasn’t cohabitated or married by 30, there’s a one in three chance he’s going to be a substance abuser.” (07:09–09:27)

  • Economic and educational gaps worsening for young men.
  • Social isolation is acute, especially among young men (12:37).

• Cultural Shifts and Education:

  • Education system is increasingly disadvantageous for boys—majority female teachers and values that unconsciously favor girls’ behavioral traits.
  • No push for “affirmative action for men” as male college graduation rates drop to 2:1 female-to-male in the next five years (12:37–15:53).

• Empathy Is Not Zero-Sum:

  • Galloway stresses that supporting boys does not mean ignoring the plight or advancement of girls.
  • Quote:

    “Empathy is not a zero sum game… We can absolutely have empathy for one group without it being a zero sum game." (15:53)

The Problem with Current Narratives

• Political Extremes:
  • Right-wing voices point out the male crisis but suggest regressive solutions.
  • Left-leaning narratives often deny men’s struggles or tell them to act more like women.
  • Quote:

    “The solution is not to go back to the 50s… At the same time, telling men they don’t have problems or that they are the problem—‘just act more like a woman’—isn’t helpful.” (15:53)

Social Isolation and Technology

• Orcas and Solitary Confinement Analogy:

  • “The worst thing you can do to a mammal is isolate it… Young men 20–30 are now spending less time outside than prison inmates.” (23:07)

• Big Tech and Algorithms:

  • Screens, social media, and online platforms—by design—lock people into isolation and outrage loops.

    “Their job is to get you glued to your screen and away from your parents, away from friends, mentors and mates… enragement equals engagement.” (23:07–25:00)

• Alarming Modern Trends:

  • One in three men under 30 hasn’t had sex in the past year.
  • Staggering statistic:

    "45% of men 18–24 have never asked a woman out in person." (26:39)

• Romantic & Social Skills Deficit:

  • Men are receiving mixed signals about approaching women and are less practiced at romantic or even platonic initiation, leading to more loneliness and less confidence (27:17).

• Societal Risk:

  • The most dangerous demographic, Galloway warns, is the lonely, broke young man—a commonality in unstable societies (28:03).

Practical Advice for Parents

• Presence Over Performance:

  • Galloway calls “quality time” a myth for busy parents; the real moments of connection come during “garbage time”—everyday, unplanned moments.
  • Quote:

    “I become an Uber driver on the weekends. I call my kids every day. I do my best… I never know when those moments of connection are going to happen.” (31:35)

• Be a Parent, Not a Friend:

  • Cites Michelle Obama’s insight:

    “Sometimes parents have to be assholes, so their kids aren’t assholes later in life.” (32:30)

  • Hard conversations, discipline, and not shying away from confrontation are crucial.

• Signal Unconditional Love and Value:

  • “Every day… my mother signaled to me that she loved me immensely and I was wonderful… If you have a parent that says, ‘I love you, I think you’re wonderful, and you have a lot of value,’ you start to believe that.” (33:38)

• Male Role Models Matter:

  • Data shows male presence is more predictive of boys’ long-term success than many other factors—even income.
  • “When a boy loses a male role model, he becomes more likely to be incarcerated than graduate from college.” (34:39)

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Memorable Quotes & Their Timestamps

• Scott Galloway on purpose:

  “The box I really want to check before I check out… is I want to know that I’ve raised two kids that feel good about themselves, invest in other people’s wellbeing, and invest in the country.” (05:26)

• On empathy:

  “Empathy is not a zero sum game… Gay marriage didn’t hurt heteronormative marriage. Civil rights didn’t hurt white people. And having empathy for young men that are having a really tough time right now should not take away from our focus on the very real challenges that women still face.” (15:53)

• On male crisis:

  “We’re evolving a new species of asocial, asexual males.” (25:00)

• On romantic skills:

  “45% of men 18–24 have never asked a woman out in person.” (26:39)

• On being a parent:

  “I find, for the most part, your kids watch what you do. They don’t really listen to what you say.” (31:35)
  “Occasionally parents have to be assholes so their kids aren’t assholes later in life.” (Michelle Obama, cited by Galloway, 32:30)

• On love and value:

  “Every day… my mother signaled to me that she loved me immensely and I was wonderful… You can’t help but start to believe that. And I think that confidence… I’ve carried that my whole life.” (33:38)

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Key Segment Timestamps

• Scott defines his “because” & purpose: 03:14–05:33
• Modern masculinity: old vs. new, Mick’s parenting story: 05:33–07:09
• Statistics on men’s struggles: 07:09–09:27
• Impact of education and shifting opportunities: 12:37–15:53
• Empathy for boys & girls is not zero-sum: 15:53–17:09
• The dangers of social isolation and screens: 23:07–27:17
• Mating, marriage & social capital crisis: 27:17–29:32
• Practical tips for parents – garbage time, tough love, model presence: 30:30–36:11

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Final Reflection

Scott Galloway’s frank blend of personal story, statistical insight, and pragmatic recommendations makes this a must-listen for parents, educators, and leaders concerned about today’s troubled boys and young men. The solution, he argues, is not to finger-point or regress, but to foster presence, real empathy, tough conversations, and active, loving involvement—especially by male role models. As Mick Hunt closes:

“Your because is your superpower. Go unleash it.”

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Transcript

[A]

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Scott, how you doing today, brother?

[B]

I'm good. And I'm enjoying this podcast so far. Thanks for the kind words, Beck.

[A]

Hey, man, I'm honored to have you on. I know how busy you are, and it just means the world that you're here with me, Scott. And there's so much I want to get into with the book, but I want to start by asking you, brother, like, what is your. Because that thing that's deeper than your why, that passion, that purpose that's driving.

[B]

You forward every day today, it's a generous question. So trying to not put as much polish on it. It's changed, I would say it's kind of pre, pre 45 and then post 45. I didn't grow up with a lot of money. Mick, did you grow up with money?

[A]

Not at all.

[B]

So that scarcity, some of that anxiety that. I was raised by a single immigrant mother who lived and died as secretary. Money was a thing for us. A lack of money was a thing for us. And I don't want to say it traumatized me, but it made me very aware. Aware or self conscious about not having money. And so, to be blunt, my objective or purpose as a younger man, into my 20s, 30s, and even into my 40s, wasn't to be a good person. It wasn't to save the whales. It wasn't to restore social justice, quite frankly. It was just to have economic security. That was my, that was my purpose and my goal and everything I was focused on, I was never a bad person. I, you know, I voted. I, I, I think I was a good, good to my employees, but I was very focused on money, quite frankly, and the accoutrements of money relevance. People find you interesting access to things and experiences. I think, as I, when I hit economic security and I had the luxury of, of thinking, what is my purpose? And my purpose now I see is I want to raise, you know, I want to raise generous, loving, patriotic men. I have two boys. That's my purpose. It's, it's. And I'm still learning. I'm not sure I'm, I'm not sure I'm good at it. It's, you know, it's something I'm trying to Figure out every day. But the box I really want to check before I check out, if you will, is I want to know that I've raised two kids that feel good about themselves.

Invest in other people's well being, Invest in the country. That's my purpose. I want to raise loving, generous, patriotic men.

[A]

I love that, dude. I love that. And Scott, I'm honored to be here with you. And I owe you this right here. And this is me looking in your eye saying, thank you. Notes on being a man. Your latest book is amazing. And why I'm telling you thank you is this. I have two boys as well, 23 and 25.

You've allowed us to have meaningful, meaningful dialogue. Meaning my boys are reading this book right now and, and we're having conversations and we don't live in the same household, right? Like, they're 23, 25 ones in. In grad school in Miami. The other one's coaching football in Colorado. But we have a weekly chat where we break down this book and they get to ask me questions, I get to ask them questions. And one of the things in our last conversation two days ago, literally was.

You say in the book, you know, men used to go from being needed, right? But now it starts with being accountable. And my kids were like, so, dad, talk to us about what it was like, you know, to be needed. And I said, you're the example, right? Like, I felt like as your father, I needed to be needed by you. Right. But now I realize what I need is for you to hold me accountable to being the example for you. And that kind of sparked some really good conversations. So I owe you. Thank you for being a blueprint for what is going to be my future fatherhood for grown men.

[B]

Well, thanks. Those are generous comments, mate. And my first reaction is, you're both obviously done something right, and you're blessed because I'm telling you, Mick, I know a lot of men, a lot of dads who, when you scratch the surface and they get off mic, their sons are really struggling. And I mean, I'll give you some stark statistics here. We have an opiate and a homeless crisis, but what we really have is a male opiate and a male homeless crisis. Men are three times more likely to be addicted, three times more likely to be. To be homeless. If you walk into a Morgue and there's five people who've died by suicide, four of them are men, and 12 times more likely to be incarcerated. More single women own homes now than single men. And I want to be clear, we should do nothing to get in the way of women's ascent. We need to celebrate our mothers and sisters progress. It's been important. We won World War II because unlike Hitler we said women can build P51 planes and they can be in factories. Women entering the workforce having certain laws passed, Title 9 gender equality laws. This has kind of been the. It hasn't been AI it's or technology that's been the fuel of our economy is is tapping into different labor forces that were underutilized, specifically women and non whites such that we could continue to grow our economy and have the kind of prosperity we've registered. But there's just no doubt about it that the data is striking. There are one in seven men now qualify as what's called a neet, and that is they're physically capable, but they're neither in education, employment or in any sort of training. They're literally doing nothing. 1 out of 3 men under the age of 25 lives at home. 1 out of 530 year old men lives at home. 1. Only 1 in 3 are in a relationship under the age of 30, whereas 2 and 3 women are in a relationship. And you think, well that's impossible mathematically. It's not because women are dating older because they want more economically and emotionally viable men. And if a man hasn't cohabitated or married by the time he's 30, there's a one in three chance he's going to be a substance abuser. So the question is, all right, if any group was killing themselves at four times the rate of the control group, you'd think we'd weigh in with empathy and programs. But the problem is true or false.

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[B]

I mean from 1945 to 2000America was registered a third of the world's economic growth with 5% of the population. So we got six times the prosperity, right? And then the vast majority of that prosperity was crammed into 1/3 of the population that was white, male and heterosexual. So people like me with outdoor plumbing and pale skin born in the 60s, we had Hurricane like winds in our sails. We just had to be good to have a great life. And if we were average, we could have a good life. And that created A justifiable amount of resentment. And unfortunately because of the unearned privilege and prosperity I've registered, we're now holding 19 year old men accountable who don't have the same advantages I had. You have an education system that's actually, I heard you say your kids in grad school. The education system is biased against boys. 70 to 80% of K12 teachers are female. And it's natural and understandable that they're going to champion people who look, they remind them of themselves. Think about what we, the behaviors we encourage in K through 12. Sit still, be organized, be a pleaser, raise your hand. You just described a girl. A boy is twice as likely to be suspended for the exact same behavior as a girl. A black boy five times as likely to be suspended for the exact same behavior as a girl. Seven in ten high school valedictorians are girls. The reality is their prefrontal cortex is more mature than a boys. And now over the next five years we're going to see probably two to one female to male college graduates. And a lot there's, I understand the gag reflex when I start talking about men like where were you for us, Scott? And what I would argue actually is that a lot of men were there for women. When it was 40, 60 female to male college enrollment we said if college is going to be the upward lubricant of income mobility, we need to give women a hand up. And we passed Title 9 and when we passed Title 9, 97% of our elected officials were men. So there are men on your side, so to speak. And now that it's 40, 60 male to female, it's now 60% women enrollment and probably 2 to 1. 66, 33 in terms of college graduation because men drop out at a further rate, there's no discussion of affirmative action for men. So I think, I think one of the moving to solutions, one of the things we have to do as a society is realize that empathy is not a zero sum game. Gay marriage didn't hurt heteronormative marriage. Civil rights didn't hurt white people. And having empathy for young men that are having a really tough time right now should not take away from our focus on the very real challenges that women still face. They go to 77 cents on the dollar when they have, when they have a kid. That's a problem. There are still young girls have dramatically increased the level of self harm since social went on mobile. There are real issues still facing Latino and black families have an average household net worth of 20,000 white families 150,000. That's an economic apartheid that still exists in the United States.

[A]

You.

[B]

Yeah, but we can walk and chew gum at the same time and recognize that there are, we can absolutely have empathy for one group without it being a zero sum game. And the unfortunate thing about this dialogue so far in America is that because some very unproductive voices filled this kind of manosphere void, there's a natural gag reflex. Because to the far right's credit, they recognize the problem with young men before anybody else. But their solution is the problem. Their solution is to go back to the 50s when women and non whites had less opportunity. That's not the solution. At the same time, the far left's answer to the struggles of young men, or what you would refer to as a masculinity crisis, is to say you don't have problems, you are the problem. Or if you only just acted more like a woman, that's not helpful either. So we need to identify, I think, a more aspirational vision of masculinity and celebrate and embrace it and give young men a code where they can be successful in our society. Programs that lift all young people up, which I think will disproportionately impact men who have fallen really far behind. And also, just to wrap up this word salad, we have to have an honest conversation. Economic viability in men.

Is key to mating. Three quarters of women say economic viability is key to a mate. It's only a quarter of men. As Chris Rock said, Beyonce could work at McDonald's and marry Jay Z. The opposite is not true. So when you don't have men who are economically viable, you have an absence of household formation. 60% of people age 30 used to have one child in the house. Now it's 27%. And it's because when you constantly take money from young people and put it into the pockets of my generation through tax policy, you have young people that just have a lack. Fewer of them have economic viability and dramatically fewer men because they're not going to college. And we in an information economy, more of them are dependent upon a college degree and many of the on ramps for middle class lifestyle and more manufacturing based jobs are not as available. You have a lot of young people who aren't finding mates, more anxious, more depressed. In addition, men. There's a myth of a woman in her 30s who didn't find romantic love and she's living alone and what a tragedy. And listening to, you know, Joan Baez and weeping as she looks out into a rainy Landscape. The reality is, yeah, loneliness with women is, is. Is unfortunate. It's sad, it's a problem. But they don't come off the tracks the same way young men do when they don't have a relationship. And that is if a young man hasn't had a relationship by the time he's 30 or cohabitated. As I mentioned, there's a 1 in 3 chance he becomes a substance abuser. What it ends up is that men actually need relationships more than women. Widows are happier after their husband dies. Widowers are less happy after their wife dies. Women in relationships do live longer, two to four years, but men live four to seven years longer. I'm not sure I would ever had a colonoscopy if my wife wasn't all over me all the time. I'm not sure I'd be living on pineapple juice and creatine if it wasn't for my wife, like, slowing me down. So men, it ends up that relationships, romantic relationships, are actually more important to men than they are to women.

[A]

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This is the scariest stat I've seen recently, Mick. 45% of men 18 to 24 have never asked a woman out in person.

So my anecdotal evidence, and this isn't data, but when I go out, I was, it happened to me last night. It has happened to me three times in the last month. When I'm out at a bar and we're talking to strangers and we, we were talking to women, they'll say something along the lines of, I'm out, I'm at a bar, I'm clearly open, I'm clearly single and ready to mingle. I look amazing, right? I'm dressed, I look fantastic. Not a single man approaches me ever. Now.

Because men have gotten mixed signals around what it means to express romantic interest. They don't want to be that guy, right? And yet 70 to 80% of women still say they want men to initiate romantic interest. And they're getting mixed signals. They're not developing the skills, the confidence, the game, quite frankly, to approach a woman. And I feel either it's dads or mentors, we have an obligation to try and have open and honest discussions and help our sons figure out what is, I think, one of the key skill sets in life, and that is to express platonic and romantic interest while making the other person feel safe. And these men aren't developing those skills. And so I feel as if.

We'Re heading into a situation where we just are producing what is the most dangerous person in the world. And that is a lonely, broke young man. If you look at the most violent, unstable societies in the world, they all have the same thing in common. Too many young men with a lack of economic or romantic opportunities. And when a woman doesn't have a romantic relationship, she pours that energy oftentimes into her friends, those relationships, and into her work. Oftentimes, not always, but oftentimes, when A man doesn't have a romantic relationship, he pours that energy into conspiracy theory, nationalism, porn, online video games. In other words, that additional energy is channeled in negative ways. Whereas I don't want to pretend that, oh, women have it easy and they're not lonely. I think the dating crisis or the mating crisis does impact women. It just ends up that the externalities seem to be worse for men who need the guardrails of relationships, including romantic relationships. And you have. Unfortunately, relationships and marriage have become a luxury item. Only about a quarter of men in the lowest quintile income earning households get to marry, whereas 80% of men in the upper quintile have the opportunity to get married. So relationships and marriage are becoming a luxury item based on the income. Based on your income.

[A]

Scott, man, like, this is truly a masterclass. And I know, I know how busy you are and there's so many other things that I want to ask you, but I also want to be very cognizant of your time, man.

[B]

Like, I was late. So if you want to go another five or ten minutes, I'm cool with that. It's up to you, Mick.

[A]

Yeah. So just, just one, one quick question. And this is more for me personally.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

As parents, I'm not even going to go as granular and say as fathers. I'm just going to say, as parents.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What are a couple of things that we can do to start to turn this trend around? Because. And everybody that's listening and watch. I want you to understand, like, it's going to take actual effort. Right. You can't just throw words out there or have a conversation with your son or send them a text message and think that it's going to happen. Scott, what are some things as parents we can literally start doing?

[B]

So I want to be clear. I'm not sure I get this right.

You know, I have a lot of doubts about my own parenting. I try to. I know, I know some basics. One of the things I love, it's called garbage time. And that is, I think the term quality time was invented by guys who were working all the time who wanted to feel better about themselves. I have found those real moments of connection. I took my son out to dinner. My son doesn't open up to me. I would kill for my oldest son to open up to me. He doesn't a lot. And we were at dinner the other night and he just sort of said he just kind of threw out. There's this girl I like. And he started talking about her and he asked me what was the first woman I had fond feelings for? And if you're a dad, you just assume you're going to have. Or I assumed I was going to have these amazing talks where I would teach them lessons and they would look into my eyes like I was giving them pearls of wisdom. And I find for the most part.

Your kids watch what you do. They don't really listen to what you say. But the way I've gotten to some connection is randomly, and it's through what I call garbage time. I become an Uber driver on the weekends. I call my kids every day. A lot of times they decline my call because they're doing something they think is more important. I check in with them every day. I do my best. I am generous with everything but my time. Except with my boys. I will take any chance to spend time with them, talk to them, because I never know when those moments of connection are going to happen. So, for lack of a better term, just being. Just being present. Something I also realize, and this is less true of boys your age, because they're becoming men. But what I didn't. It took me a while to realize is that I'm not their friend. I'm their dad. And that is. Michelle Obama had this great.

I mean, basically what you said is occasionally parents have to be assholes, such that your kids aren't assholes. Later in life, you have to disappoint them. You have to get in their face. You have to tell them they're being jerks or idiots. You have to. There's. Yeah, my house has a lot of yelling in it. I'm not proud of that. My God, it gets ugly sometimes.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I'm like, okay, no, you said. You said you were studying. You said you were done. I just went online. I found out you missed this test, and you're upstairs playing Fortnite. This is unacceptable. You're not going to the Halloween party this weekend. It's awful. I. I want my son to have a great time. I want him to be social. So, like, two basics. A ton of presence in what I call garbage time. The willingness to have hard conversations. And on a very basic level, what I got from my mom. I was raised by a single immigrant mother. Lived and died as secretary is every day. Regardless of how angry she was at me or how badly I was behaving, she signaled to me that she loved me immensely and that I was wonderful. And I think that when I look back on.

Why I get to lead the extraordinary life I lead, it's because one the Smartest thing I did was to be born in America. I just got great opportunities that I don't think any, anyone else my age got in other nations. Tremendous opportunities and prosperity. And two, I think if you have a parent that regardless of the state of your relationship or what you've done every day, says in explicit and implicit ways, I love you and I think you're wonderful and you have a lot of value, you can't help but start to believe that. And I think that confidence is. I've carried with that my whole life. So garbage time, having the tough conversations and always ensuring that every day they know. I mean, my parents, I'm a busy guy and I'm an impressive guy. And my kids hear from me every day and know that that's the thing. It's most important to me in my life is seeing them and talking to them. I think they've got to recognize that means I have value, right? And boys will just naturally.

Imply more value, if you will, on their father in some ways. And that is their father's sort of this mythical character to them. It's our size, the depth of our voice, but presence in a kid's life. When a boy loses a male role model, Mick, at that moment he becomes more likely to be incarcerated than graduate from college. And what's interesting is that girls in single parent homes, when they lose their dad, they have the same outcomes. They have the same levels of college attendance, same income they can get. They sometimes are more promiscuous because they're looking for male attention in the wrong places, but they have the same rates of college attendance and income. What it ends up is that while being physically stronger, boys are emotionally and neurologically much weaker than girls. And so what I'll call at the end of the day, the secret sauce for raising good men is their dad's or a male's involvement. It's really important to boys. And even just saying that men need to be involved in boys lives five years ago triggered people. But the evidence is clear. The primary, unfortunately, in our nation, the biggest indicator of success is now how wealthy your parents are. We've moved from a meritocracy to a dynastic society. But a close second, and maybe even first with respect to boys is the presence and engagement of a male role model, full stop. So it sounds like you're very engaged with your sons. At the end of the day, that's, that's like the majority of the shooting match.

Bro.

[A]

I needed that, man. I really did. Scott, I adore you. Huge follower of yours. Huge fan of who you are. Keep doing the good fight, brother. Keep making us uncomfortable because we need it. I love it, brother.

[B]

I appreciate that. Congrats on all your success, Mick.

[A]

You got it. And for everybody that's watching and listening, notes on being a man. I'm going to have a link to purchasing the book. I'm going to have links to Scott's website, to his social. Make sure you're engaging with Scott. Send him a note that said, hey, you heard this on the podcast and that's why you purchased the book. Like, we. We need that feedback, Scott and I, so we know. We know what? What? Which one of these media forms is actually hitting, right, Scott, we do media. We don't know where people are coming from, man, but just appreciate who you are, dude. And I mean that from my soul.

[B]

That means a lot coming from you, Mick. Thanks very much.

[A]

You got it. And to everybody that's watching or listening, remember your because is your superpower. Go unleash it. That's another powerful conversation on Mick Unplugged. If this episode moved you, and I'm sure it did, follow the show wherever you listen. Share it with someone who needs that spark. And leave a review so more people can find there, because I'm Rudy Rush. And until next time, stay driven, stay focused, and stay unplugged.

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