C (25:25)
How do you understand your students, especially when you have multiple children? Because none of them, you already know. You can feed them the same food, they can grow up in the same house, attend the same schools and they're going to be completely different. So how does that, how does that work when it comes to standardized tests? Don't make assumptions because some of the things that you learn about your students, you don't want to learn too late that, oh my student does really well on a classroom test. But boy, when they took that act, that was a, that, that was a revelation. Don't, don't assume, just have them take a test early. And you know, you don't necessarily have to have them go into the actual official testing environment. Practice tests are available online. Administer the practice tests to the student and, but ACT does offer a paper based exam that you can get online. It's a PDF and College Board offers digital exams where of course the software will score it for, for everyone. Have them take those tests early. Now some students need to take it in an official environment so they can see that this is really real. But other students are okay just doing it kind of informally at home or wherever. Have them and then have them test early so you can know where they are and then you need to talk with them about their goals. And I know for me as a student, what was helpful for me is in terms of pursuing, in terms of being very hungry and driven about my college application process because I am incredibly persistent. But one thing is I'm persistent about what I want to be persistent about. When I was in high school and I was in 12th grade and I was taking calculus, like I just kind of blew it off because in my mind I was done with high school. That wasn't the best Thing, it wasn't the best thing to do. But when it came to my application process, I was incredibly persistent because I knew my goal. My goal was to go away. And I knew the only way for me to achieve that, I had to sit and do the things that were required to do that. And so parents need to talk with, you know, you have them take those practice tests. You look at the practice, you look at the test scores. And when you have them take the practice test, explain to them that we're having you take this to have an understanding of where you are. It's not an indictment or a confirmation of your intelligence. It's not. It's kind of like when I go to the doctor's office, I have to step. I have to step on the scale. Do I want to step on the scale? But I have to step on the scale because that is an indicator to help the doctor understand the state of my health. Same thing here. We want to know where you are with your tests. And then when you start, you know, and you say, okay, well, here are the test scores. And then you talk with the student about his or her goals. Okay, so like your graduate student, your graduate student is in graduate school. So somewhere along the line, he knew that he needed to go to graduate school. So, so maybe he. At some point, maybe he understood, hey, I'm gonna have to go to undergraduate school and then go to graduate school. And this is the kind of lifestyle that I have. Like, I would talk with my students about the kind of lifestyle they wanna have after college. And then we just work backwards. I talk with my students and I tell them, hey, you look like you like nice things. So let's just talk about what your life is going to be like after college. And then I'm like, okay, well, let's talk about what that's going to cost. And then we start talking about the cost of college. And, you know, okay, if you get a student loan, this is what this is going to look like, and this is how it's going to impede your ability to live that life where you're, you know, flossing and stunting for the gram and all of that. That's, you know, that's going to affect that. And then we just. And we say, okay, well, this is. This is the kind of life that you want. This is what it's gonna cost. So what are you willing to do now in order to defray the cost? And just listening to them and it may be. Sometimes it's easier to have that conversation, to have A third party to have that conversation. Cause I know how one parent had that conversation. I'm retiring next year. I don't care what you do and I'm not sending you to this school because of blah blah blah. And you know, he was saying the same thing that I was saying, but I was just saying it in a different way. So that's what I would do. I would start with this, hey, have a student take the exam. Have that student walk them through the end. What does your life look like after college? Talk with them about the cost. Help them to understand what they're willing to do now to make it happen. And you have to know your child. So some students, I meet with students online and we're one to one online. Some students thrive in an in person class. If that is your student, that's your student. Do that for them. Some students have crazy busy schedules. So your daughter sounds like the type of person who probably took a lot of advanced classes and she probably worked very, very hard at her advanced classes and she probably doesn't need to really prepare during the school year. She probably should have prepared in the summertime because she's one of those students who's going to do what you ask her to do. And so she's going to be torn between test prep and AP English. But that's what I would say.