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Hello, my name is Tim Storey. Welcome to Miracle Mentality.
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Remember, rooftops, drawing spaceships on the ground.
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It's for the dreamers, the doers, the believers in something greater. In each episode, I'll invite you to rise above the mundane, to push past the messy and learn to live boldly in the miraculous. Every episode will have practical wisdom, spiritual insight, and my guests will explore what it takes to activate your miracle mindset. Remember to subscribe, follow and light. Welcome to the Miracle Mentality. It's a podcast, it's helping to change people's lives. And today I'm. I'm doing something very unique. I'm going to take you into a coaching session. I've been life coaching people for over three decades. This one is very unique. I did one session already with a young lady who is just an amazing person. She came to LA to model, to be an actor. She's done some very, very good projects, but she's also a family friend. I'm good friends with her mom or dad and her family. And so, Krista, welcome to the Miracle Mentality.
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Hey, Tim. Glad to be here.
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So we've been talking in this counseling session about. You have a dog. Kratos is his name. This is a very big dog. And what kind of dog is he again?
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He's a bullmastiff.
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Yes. And at his full weight, before he got ill, he was about how many pounds?
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About 110 or so. Maybe a little more when he was chunky.
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So unfortunately, what happened is that Chris realized there was something wrong with him, took him to the vet and found out that he had a tumor on his heart. And at that point, Chris said, tell the listeners and the viewers how long they said that Kratos would possibly live.
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After the diagnosis, they gave him only a few weeks. But they did say that he could surprise us. And so far he has, so thank God.
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Okay, so that was how many weeks ago did he got the diagnosis?
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About six, about seven weeks ago.
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Okay. All right, so in this seven weeks, are you seeing that he's waning in his energy or breathing different, or do you see any effects that you could see just by being around him all the time?
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Yeah, absolutely. I mean, he's definitely slowing down. It's interesting that you said breathing because he's been. When he sleeps, he'll get like a. He'll wake up with like a odd, like cough type situation. But yeah, you can definitely see the decline slowly.
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Okay. So, you know, I did a lot of research looking into this, knowing that I was going to talk to you about this subject of how many people in the world have pets? Because this podcast goes all over the world and it's such a high percentage. Oh, you know, some have cats, some have dogs, some have birds. I teased with you earlier, Michael Jackson used to have a llama and a chimpanzee.
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Yeah.
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But the pet, as we talked about last session to many, can be as close as a human being to them because of the connection, the consistency. Talk to us a little bit about how close you and Kratos are. And you. You guys kind of have this little flow. I know it because I've seen it firsthand.
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Yeah, absolutely. I mean, he's my companion. He goes with me everywhere, even prior to the diagnosis, but now especially, like, I even will pick up grocery deliveries and have them in the back instead of me going by myself. But, yeah, he goes with me everywhere, and we have our whole schedule.
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Help me with this idea of the way your personality is. Your dad, your mother. Tell me this. That even when you were younger, you've always been vibrant. You played sports even in high school. You were very good at volleyball, but you played a lot of sports. You've always been very active. Not only are you an actor, but you also taught acting for a very long time. And within that space, you're known as being a person with a lot of energy. How has it been the last few weeks to show up as the Krista that people know, while at the same time, you're kind of grieving on the inside?
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That's a great question. I think it's not always easy. I think I learned this a lot from. For me, because I, you know, we've been around each other for so long. It's what you call playing hurt.
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Yeah.
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And so it's interesting, too, because life goes on and you have responsibilities. You have to show up for other people as well. So how I deal with that and how I do it is I just let myself feel my feelings very strongly when I feel them. That way, when I'm with people, I can show up for them in the way that they need me to in the Krista vibrant way so that I'm not a Debbie Downer at all times. I'm sure I have shown up and people can tell something's wrong, but I still try and push through because, you know, I do have responsibilities, and sometimes other people are going through things too. So it's not just about me.
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Krista, what do you think is one of the most frustrating responses that you get sometimes when you would share like I have a dog who's ill because, like, even this morning, I talked to a man that I coach, and his mother died. And I. I was very, very careful on what I say because I have been, you know, a pastor since I was in my early 20s. And you learn over time that sometimes it's not the power of the words, but it's just. Just showing up and being there. And, you know, I think some people say the typical sorry for your loss or the thing that you really should not say is, I know what you're going through, because you really don't. It's. Because it's. It's different to everybody. But what. What would be one of the most frustrating responses? You don't have to say, maybe who did it, but if you were to say, my dog is ill, have you heard anything that's frustrating?
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You know, I think everyone's been pretty good about showing up. For me, I think the most frustrating thing I've experienced is when somebody knows that what's happening, and then they're very pushy about, like, well, I need this. I need this. I need you to do this for a whole day. And I'm like, I can't. I. I don't know what to say. I can't. I think that's the most frustrating thing when people are like, huh, Well, I need you to do this for me. Like, let me give you a whole list. It's like, I serve people. I know that. But, like, in this stage, I'm actually really proud to be learning how to say no. So I'm learning that.
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That. That's super good. One of the things I found, I'm looking at my notes here, is that it's. It's amazing to me, when I was started reading this and going deeper into it, is that some people think that a pet can just be replaced. It's like if somebody had, like, a Scottish terrier, and the Scottish terrier dies at 14, and people will just go like, well, just replace it with a nude Scottish terrier. Tell them that it's just not that easy to do. Can you explain that?
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Yeah, it's not a real pet owner. Yeah, it's not easy because it's really adorable because all. Each animal has their own personality. You're not gonna get. You're not gonna get the same dog if you replace it. It's just as, you know, not comparing to human beings. But, you know, I can't replace my dad if he passed away. You can't replace it. You just can't. There's it doesn't make any sense when people say that.
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Yeah.
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In my opinion.
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All right, let me take you to the deeper place. Do you have hope that he's going to get through this? You know, when mountains come up in life, sometimes you go around them, sometimes you try to go over them, and sometimes you try to drill through them, and sometimes you just don't get through it at all. What is your hope? Because you are a woman of faith. You're a Christian woman. What is your hope? And how are you processing that hope?
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The progression to when it's time is kind of hard to understand. I hope that he goes out strong.
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Yeah.
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And that he's not in pain and that we just get to create beautiful memories together and take him wherever I need to take him. But I think I have to go through it. I have to drill through it for sure. But that's. That's my hope. Yeah.
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That I like that attitude. And I think that because I. I've dealt with so many people at the end of their lives, and Chris said, there's a. A couple. I remember this one lady in Texas who had cancer all over her body, and I remember leaving. And the other person that I was with said, you know, outside of a miracle, I mean, she's probably got a couple days because that's what she looked like. And, well, in this case, she did get a miracle, and she lasted two more years, and at that point, she was already, like, 88 years of age. And so I think that we have to drill through that mountain by faith, but then if it does not work and the person dies, or in this case, the pet passes, then we have to find a way to grieve. And one of the things that I love that you do have in place is you're very strong with the power partnerships because you got a lot of great friendships and you have an amazing family. And tell me again how your family is playing a role in helping you even deal with the fact that Kratos is having this health challenge.
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Yeah. I mean, in. In this season of. Of me going through this with Kratos. I mean, I. I'm been so blessed to have such an amazing family. And even though they don't live in the same state, it really does feel. You feel their love from afar. And the amount of times that they check in on me and just text me and say, I love you, because sometimes you just need to hear that. You just need to hear, I love you. I'm giving you big kisses and hugs. And I'm also Practicing sharing with them fun moments.
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Yeah.
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So that helps. That helps too. So when I go on my little stroller adventures, I share it with them and they get all excited. So they play a huge part in me feeling supported, even though they're not here.
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I think one thing you should feel great about in the idea of the time spent is that I do know that you. You've always spent a lot of time with your dog. And I say that because when I look at my notes that I prepared for this life coaching session, that some people feel guilt because they worked all day and the. The dog or cat or whatever the pet is or was, was always just at home alone. But that's not like you. You always have been around your dog as much as possible. So have you felt any guilt? And if so, if. I'm sorry. If not, why not?
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I haven't really felt guilt for not being with him or, you know, with what he needs. I think I'm in a really unique situation and I'm really blessed that I get to work from home. So he's there. I mean, he's. He's asleep right now in his couch. So it's like I. Any anytime, like if he falls or whatever, I'm right there with him. So, yeah, I haven't had any issues in that area at the moment.
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All right, Krista, help me out a little bit. So in my notes, it says, talk to people who understand what you're going through. Pet grief can feel very isolating because society sometimes treats it as less important. Okay. What would you say to others that have either lost their pet or those who have a pet that is ill? What would you say to strengthen their faith or just to strengthen them as a person?
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Yeah. Things that I've learned that can potentially help someone is when you're in that deep grief. Don't isolate.
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Yeah.
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Re. Reach out to people. Let them know what's happening that way. Like you said, the power of partnership. Have those people that you trust, that you love, let them know what's happening so that you're not just in a dark place. Because that's not good. And you're going to get through it. I know I'm going to get through it. And just keep going strong and enjoy the moments that you have. Be in the moment intentionally.
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Yeah. As a young lady who has a lot of responsibility and has a really good career, it must be tempting at times just to draw the curtains and just sleep and just go under. Tell me about a time that you actually did do that, because I'VE been there myself. Believe me, when I've had people pass in my family, I've had family members pass. Or if I'm going through personal pain. Like, even though I'm Tim's story, there's been times I feel like medicating in some form or fashion or I feel like just laying in bed and not coming out for a long time.
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Yeah. I mean, I, I would be lying if I said that it hasn't happened more than often, but that's embracing your emotions. That's embracing what it is that you're feeling. But it's. With everything that I have on my schedule, I feel like I kind of have to time it.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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When I first found out, I think I was down in the dumps, Tim. I was.
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Yeah.
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Not very well. But now I embrace it though. Instead of it being such a dark thing, it's more like, okay, it's time to give yourself a big hug.
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Yeah.
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It's. It's time for you to just sit on the couch, watch shows and give Kratos some well needed belly rubs and stuff like that.
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Yeah. Give me three things that you're grateful for about the relationship you have with your dog. Because he's still alive. He has a tumor right now in his heart, but he's still alive. Just give me three quick things you're grateful for for having Kratos in your life.
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There's so many. The moments, the time together. His little quirks are the best. And his, his snoring. His snoring for sure. Squishy face. It's adorable.
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It's. It's, it's so funny because sometimes you're on ZOOM meetings because we, you help us out with this movement called Leave with Love.
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Yeah.
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And once in a while you'll show us Kratos just like chilling. Like he's just. Love. Love.
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Yep. He's the king of the castle, if you will. He's. He's definitely been blessed, man. He's. He's the best.
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Okay, just two more questions about how you're learning as a young person that life can sometimes be fragile. But yet we have to find a way to get through. Because I know you've had to go back to El Paso in the past for relatives that have passed away.
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Yeah.
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You. You understand relationship challenges. And now you, you. You find yourself in the challenge with Kratos. Your. Your dog. Talk to me about the. How life can be fragile and how you're finding your way through that fact that life can be fragile.
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Yeah. I mean, life is precious. Life is precious, and you really can't take anything for granted. I've always been someone who has. I mean, all my life, I've practiced being in the moment. I mean, on Saturdays, if you reach out to me, you're more than likely not going to hear back because I literally unplug. I put my phone in my room. So being in the moment with your family members, being the moment even with your pets, don't take them for granted, because we're going to probably outlive them. So life is fragile. Time is. I mean, I'll give you an example, and you probably don't even know this. When I was in Nashville, I woke up to a call and multiple texts that Kratos had fallen and that he.
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That.
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That he, like, went stiff. So you just really can't take life for granted. And it's. Life is fragile and time is precious.
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Yeah, we just did a. A big Lead with Love conference. Krista helped lead it with Joseph and David, Michael and Rebecca and so many people on our team. I didn't know that. It's interesting that you didn't even show that last question to you. Where does. What role does faith in God play? Is there really peace in finding faith? Is there. Can God really guide you through the valley of the shadow of death like we have been taught since we were kids? Because I speak at the church you were raised at and you started even in the Sunday school.
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I did.
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Has faith helped you in this journey?
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Absolutely, 100%. It's interesting how we were talking about taking things for granted and how fragile life is, but when I found out, I just, like, have been diving into the Word.
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Yeah.
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I do believe that God is right by my side. He's in my heart. And there are moments where, like, say, for example, I'm doing dishes or I'm cleaning the house. I put worship music on.
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Yeah.
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And I just pray over Kratos, and then it's like he sparks up this joy. Faith has been a really huge part of my life, but especially in this time and just really digging deeper into the word.
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Yeah. So I'm going to end in a way I've never ended one of my podcasts, and a lot of people listen to these podcasts. I'm going to pray for Kratos, but I'm also going to pray for other people that have lost their pets and also for ailing pets and that could be a pet of many, many kind. Father, I come to you and I thank you, God, that you truly are loving you're caring and you're healing. And God, for Kratos, according to the doctors, he has a certain diagnosis. But I thank you, God. You are a miracle working God. And there's a reason why in certain churches, in certain places, the people pray for pets and miracles can stay happen. So we pray for Kratos today and we pray for his healing. We pray God that he would not be in pain and you would strengthen him and when it's his time to go, that he will go out strong. I pray for Krista that you would continue to surround her with peace and strength. And for everyone that is listening watching today that their pet has either passed and they're continuing to grieve that you would walk them through the challenging times According to Psalms 23, that you are our shepherd and you walk us even through the challenging times. And I pray for people's pets today and I thank you for this. In your name we pray. Amen. Thank you, Lord. Krista, thank you for being open, for being vulnerable about this because there are thousands of people that have lost their pets that are still grieving. There are thousands of people that had to make the choice whether they should do the surgery or not do the surgery and maybe did not have the money to do what they wanted to do and maybe feel a little guilt. I think we help them walk through a process. So I appreciate you. Okay, thank you so much to all of you listening today. Miracle mentality. We're helping people on purpose. You know, life is not always easy. When I talk about the miracle mentality, I'm not just saying that life is just roses. Life is fragile. Believe me, I have walked many, many people through the pain of life, but I've also seen their pain turn to power and the things that they didn't understand, where they found understanding. And so let's continue to go with God and go with grace. Thank you for liking this podcast subscribing but also comment. I want to break the record in comments today. So many of you pet lovers, I want you to comment of what these podcasts have meant to you when I'm talking to Krista about this subject of her pet, okay, named Kratos. God bless you. Life is still good Foreign. Thank you for sharing space with me on this episode of Miracle Mentality with Tim Story. If today sparked your courage or helped you understand why you're created for success, I invite you to carry that miracle mentality forward. Visit me@tim story.com that story with an eye on the end. Until next time, walk by faith. Embrace possibility and create your own comeback story.

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Miracle Mentality with Tim Storey

Episode: The Three Pillars of Grieving Your Pet | Mental Health | Coaching Session with Chrysta | Part 2
Date: June 18, 2026
Guest: Chrysta

Episode Overview

In this vulnerable and heartfelt coaching session, Tim Storey sits down with Chrysta, an actor and family friend, to discuss the deeply personal journey of grieving a beloved pet—her bullmastiff, Kratos, who has been battling a terminal illness. Together, they explore the challenges of anticipatory grief, the importance of community and faith, and the transformative power of embracing emotions during loss. This episode is a compassionate guide for anyone navigating pet loss or supporting others through it.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Special Bond Between Owner and Pet

Kratos' Illness and the Shock of the Diagnosis
- Kratos, Chrysta's 110-pound bullmastiff, was diagnosed with a heart tumor and given only a few weeks to live, but has surpassed that expectation (01:14-02:08).
- “After the diagnosis, they gave him only a few weeks. But they did say that he could surprise us. And so far he has, so thank God.” – Chrysta (01:54)
Chrysta and Kratos' Relationship
- Kratos is her constant companion, accompanying her everywhere and forming an integral part of her daily routine (03:32).
- “He goes with me everywhere, even prior to the diagnosis, but now especially… we have our whole schedule.” – Chrysta (03:32)

2. Managing Grief While Maintaining Life's Responsibilities

Balancing Public Persona and Inner Grief
- Chrysta describes the difficulty of “playing hurt”—fulfilling her vibrant, energetic identity while privately grieving (04:31-04:43).
- “You have to show up for other people as well… I just let myself feel my feelings very strongly when I feel them. That way, when I'm with people, I can show up for them in the way that they need me to.” – Chrysta (04:44)
- Tim affirms the importance of authenticity and allowing room for emotions.
The Challenge of Unhelpful Responses
- Tim raises the issue of well-meaning but problematic comments or expectations placed on someone grieving a pet (05:27-06:29).
- Chrysta cites frustration when people ignore her struggle and push their own needs, reinforcing her newfound ability to say no for self-care (06:29-07:11).
- “I'm actually really proud to be learning how to say no.” – Chrysta (07:06)

3. The Unique Nature of Pet Loss

Irreplaceability of Pets
- Both emphasize that pets are not replaceable, each has a distinct personality (07:11-08:13).
- “You're not gonna get the same dog if you replace it… There's it doesn't make any sense when people say that.” – Chrysta (07:41)
Hope and Acceptance
- Chrysta hopes Kratos will remain comfortable and that they can make beautiful memories, facing the reality with resilience and faith (08:43-09:12).

4. The Power of Support Networks

Family and Friendship as Lifelines
- Chrysta shares the role of her family in supporting her, even from afar through regular check-ins and shared moments (10:29-11:04).
- “Sometimes you just need to hear that. You just need to hear, ‘I love you.’” – Chrysta (11:03)
Avoiding Guilt over Care
- Unlike many pet owners, Chrysta can be with Kratos almost constantly, sparing her the guilt many feel about not spending enough time (11:57-12:28).

5. Advice for Others Facing Pet Grief

Don’t Isolate: Reach Out
- Chrysta urges listeners to stay connected and intentionally include trusted people in their grief (12:58-13:39).
- “When you're in that deep grief, don't isolate. Reach out to people… Have those people that you trust, that you love, let them know what's happening so that you're not just in a dark place.” – Chrysta (13:09)
Allow Yourself Time to Grieve
- Both Tim and Chrysta discuss the necessity and normalcy of “going under” or retreating to process pain, but emphasize balancing that with re-entry into life and gratitude (13:39-15:03).
- "Instead of it being such a dark thing, it’s more like, okay, it’s time to give yourself a big hug… give Kratos some well needed belly rubs.” – Chrysta (14:44)
Practicing Gratitude Amidst Loss
- Chrysta lists her gratitude for simple joys: time spent, Kratos’ unique quirks, and his comforting snoring (15:25-15:38).

6. Life Lessons: Fragility and Being Present

Embracing the Preciousness of Time
- Chrysta reminds listeners to savor moments with loved ones because life is fragile and unpredictable (16:36-17:30).
- “Life is precious, and you really can't take anything for granted… being in the moment with your family members, being the moment even with your pets, don't take them for granted.” – Chrysta (16:36)
Tim shares that life’s fragility is a universal lesson, both for pet loss and broader life challenges.

7. The Role of Faith in Grieving

Leaning on Faith for Comfort
- Chrysta describes her reliance on her Christian faith, prayer, and worship music as steadying forces, bringing her peace and even sparking joy in Kratos (18:13-18:40).
- “I do believe that God is right by my side. He’s in my heart… I just pray over Kratos, and then it’s like he sparks up this joy.” – Chrysta (18:29)
- Tim closes by affirming faith’s role as a guide through the “valley of the shadow of death.” (18:13-18:55)

Most Memorable Quotes

“It’s what you call playing hurt.”
– Chrysta (04:43)
“You’re not gonna get the same dog if you replace it… you can’t replace it.”
– Chrysta (07:41)
“When you're in that deep grief, don’t isolate… Have those people that you trust, that you love, let them know what’s happening so that you’re not just in a dark place.”
– Chrysta (13:09)
“Life is precious and you really can't take anything for granted… Being in the moment even with your pets, don’t take them for granted.”
– Chrysta (16:36)
“I do believe that God is right by my side. He’s in my heart… and then it’s like he sparks up this joy.”
– Chrysta (18:29)

Timestamps for Key Segments

[01:14] – Introduction to Kratos’ diagnosis
[03:32] – Companionship and daily routines with Kratos
[04:44] – Playing hurt: balancing public life and inner grief
[06:29] – Frustrations around unsupportive reactions
[07:41] – Why pets are truly irreplaceable
[08:43] – Holding onto hope and drilling through grief
[10:29] – Family’s supportive role during tough times
[12:58] – Advice for others grieving a pet
[14:44] – Embracing emotions and practicing self-care
[15:25] – Gratitude for moments with Kratos
[16:36] – Discussing life’s fragility and preciousness
[18:13] – The sustaining power of faith during grief
[18:55] – Special prayer for Kratos, pets, and grieving pet owners

Tone & Conclusion

The conversation is warm, empathetic, and encouraging. With gentle humor and spiritual grounding, Tim and Chrysta remind listeners that grief—even for a pet—is real, valid, and not to be minimized. Chrysta’s openness models resilience and grace, while Tim offers spiritual encouragement and practical wisdom. The episode is a comforting resource for anyone who has loved and lost a pet, or who is navigating anticipatory grief.

Quick Takeaways

Feel your feelings. Don’t suppress your grief, but also seek moments of gratitude and connection.
You’re not alone. Rely on trusted friends, family, and if you’re spiritually inclined, your faith community.
Pets are family. Their loss is unique and irreplaceable; your grief is valid.
Faith and hope can offer peace. Spiritual practices can be a great source of strength.

Closing Prayer

To close, Tim offers a heartfelt prayer for Kratos, Chrysta, and all pet-lovers facing loss and uncertainty ([18:55]).

For more, visit TimStorey.com.
Listeners are invited to comment, subscribe, and share what the episode has meant for their own healing journeys.

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Hello, my name is Tim Storey. Welcome to Miracle Mentality.
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Remember, rooftops, drawing spaceships on the ground.
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It's for the dreamers, the doers, the believers in something greater. In each episode, I'll invite you to rise above the mundane, to push past the messy and learn to live boldly in the miraculous. Every episode will have practical wisdom, spiritual insight, and my guests will explore what it takes to activate your miracle mindset. Remember to subscribe, follow and light. Welcome to the Miracle Mentality. It's a podcast, it's helping to change people's lives. And today I'm. I'm doing something very unique. I'm going to take you into a coaching session. I've been life coaching people for over three decades. This one is very unique. I did one session already with a young lady who is just an amazing person. She came to LA to model, to be an actor. She's done some very, very good projects, but she's also a family friend. I'm good friends with her mom or dad and her family. And so, Krista, welcome to the Miracle Mentality.
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Hey, Tim. Glad to be here.
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So we've been talking in this counseling session about. You have a dog. Kratos is his name. This is a very big dog. And what kind of dog is he again?
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He's a bullmastiff.
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Yes. And at his full weight, before he got ill, he was about how many pounds?
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About 110 or so. Maybe a little more when he was chunky.
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So unfortunately, what happened is that Chris realized there was something wrong with him, took him to the vet and found out that he had a tumor on his heart. And at that point, Chris said, tell the listeners and the viewers how long they said that Kratos would possibly live.
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After the diagnosis, they gave him only a few weeks. But they did say that he could surprise us. And so far he has, so thank God.
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Okay, so that was how many weeks ago did he got the diagnosis?
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About six, about seven weeks ago.
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Okay. All right, so in this seven weeks, are you seeing that he's waning in his energy or breathing different, or do you see any effects that you could see just by being around him all the time?
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B
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, he's definitely slowing down. It's interesting that you said breathing because he's been. When he sleeps, he'll get like a. He'll wake up with like a odd, like cough type situation. But yeah, you can definitely see the decline slowly.
[02:42]
A
Okay. So, you know, I did a lot of research looking into this, knowing that I was going to talk to you about this subject of how many people in the world have pets? Because this podcast goes all over the world and it's such a high percentage. Oh, you know, some have cats, some have dogs, some have birds. I teased with you earlier, Michael Jackson used to have a llama and a chimpanzee.
[03:10]
B
Yeah.
[03:11]
A
But the pet, as we talked about last session to many, can be as close as a human being to them because of the connection, the consistency. Talk to us a little bit about how close you and Kratos are. And you. You guys kind of have this little flow. I know it because I've seen it firsthand.
[03:32]
B
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, he's my companion. He goes with me everywhere, even prior to the diagnosis, but now especially, like, I even will pick up grocery deliveries and have them in the back instead of me going by myself. But, yeah, he goes with me everywhere, and we have our whole schedule.
[03:52]
A
Help me with this idea of the way your personality is. Your dad, your mother. Tell me this. That even when you were younger, you've always been vibrant. You played sports even in high school. You were very good at volleyball, but you played a lot of sports. You've always been very active. Not only are you an actor, but you also taught acting for a very long time. And within that space, you're known as being a person with a lot of energy. How has it been the last few weeks to show up as the Krista that people know, while at the same time, you're kind of grieving on the inside?
[04:31]
B
That's a great question. I think it's not always easy. I think I learned this a lot from. For me, because I, you know, we've been around each other for so long. It's what you call playing hurt.
[04:43]
A
Yeah.
[04:44]
B
And so it's interesting, too, because life goes on and you have responsibilities. You have to show up for other people as well. So how I deal with that and how I do it is I just let myself feel my feelings very strongly when I feel them. That way, when I'm with people, I can show up for them in the way that they need me to in the Krista vibrant way so that I'm not a Debbie Downer at all times. I'm sure I have shown up and people can tell something's wrong, but I still try and push through because, you know, I do have responsibilities, and sometimes other people are going through things too. So it's not just about me.
[05:27]
A
Krista, what do you think is one of the most frustrating responses that you get sometimes when you would share like I have a dog who's ill because, like, even this morning, I talked to a man that I coach, and his mother died. And I. I was very, very careful on what I say because I have been, you know, a pastor since I was in my early 20s. And you learn over time that sometimes it's not the power of the words, but it's just. Just showing up and being there. And, you know, I think some people say the typical sorry for your loss or the thing that you really should not say is, I know what you're going through, because you really don't. It's. Because it's. It's different to everybody. But what. What would be one of the most frustrating responses? You don't have to say, maybe who did it, but if you were to say, my dog is ill, have you heard anything that's frustrating?
[06:30]
B
You know, I think everyone's been pretty good about showing up. For me, I think the most frustrating thing I've experienced is when somebody knows that what's happening, and then they're very pushy about, like, well, I need this. I need this. I need you to do this for a whole day. And I'm like, I can't. I. I don't know what to say. I can't. I think that's the most frustrating thing when people are like, huh, Well, I need you to do this for me. Like, let me give you a whole list. It's like, I serve people. I know that. But, like, in this stage, I'm actually really proud to be learning how to say no. So I'm learning that.
[07:11]
A
That. That's super good. One of the things I found, I'm looking at my notes here, is that it's. It's amazing to me, when I was started reading this and going deeper into it, is that some people think that a pet can just be replaced. It's like if somebody had, like, a Scottish terrier, and the Scottish terrier dies at 14, and people will just go like, well, just replace it with a nude Scottish terrier. Tell them that it's just not that easy to do. Can you explain that?
[07:41]
B
Yeah, it's not a real pet owner. Yeah, it's not easy because it's really adorable because all. Each animal has their own personality. You're not gonna get. You're not gonna get the same dog if you replace it. It's just as, you know, not comparing to human beings. But, you know, I can't replace my dad if he passed away. You can't replace it. You just can't. There's it doesn't make any sense when people say that.
[08:11]
A
Yeah.
[08:12]
B
In my opinion.
[08:14]
A
All right, let me take you to the deeper place. Do you have hope that he's going to get through this? You know, when mountains come up in life, sometimes you go around them, sometimes you try to go over them, and sometimes you try to drill through them, and sometimes you just don't get through it at all. What is your hope? Because you are a woman of faith. You're a Christian woman. What is your hope? And how are you processing that hope?
[08:43]
B
The progression to when it's time is kind of hard to understand. I hope that he goes out strong.
[08:52]
A
Yeah.
[08:53]
B
And that he's not in pain and that we just get to create beautiful memories together and take him wherever I need to take him. But I think I have to go through it. I have to drill through it for sure. But that's. That's my hope. Yeah.
[09:13]
A
That I like that attitude. And I think that because I. I've dealt with so many people at the end of their lives, and Chris said, there's a. A couple. I remember this one lady in Texas who had cancer all over her body, and I remember leaving. And the other person that I was with said, you know, outside of a miracle, I mean, she's probably got a couple days because that's what she looked like. And, well, in this case, she did get a miracle, and she lasted two more years, and at that point, she was already, like, 88 years of age. And so I think that we have to drill through that mountain by faith, but then if it does not work and the person dies, or in this case, the pet passes, then we have to find a way to grieve. And one of the things that I love that you do have in place is you're very strong with the power partnerships because you got a lot of great friendships and you have an amazing family. And tell me again how your family is playing a role in helping you even deal with the fact that Kratos is having this health challenge.
[10:30]
B
Yeah. I mean, in. In this season of. Of me going through this with Kratos. I mean, I. I'm been so blessed to have such an amazing family. And even though they don't live in the same state, it really does feel. You feel their love from afar. And the amount of times that they check in on me and just text me and say, I love you, because sometimes you just need to hear that. You just need to hear, I love you. I'm giving you big kisses and hugs. And I'm also Practicing sharing with them fun moments.
[11:04]
A
Yeah.
[11:04]
B
So that helps. That helps too. So when I go on my little stroller adventures, I share it with them and they get all excited. So they play a huge part in me feeling supported, even though they're not here.
[11:18]
A
I think one thing you should feel great about in the idea of the time spent is that I do know that you. You've always spent a lot of time with your dog. And I say that because when I look at my notes that I prepared for this life coaching session, that some people feel guilt because they worked all day and the. The dog or cat or whatever the pet is or was, was always just at home alone. But that's not like you. You always have been around your dog as much as possible. So have you felt any guilt? And if so, if. I'm sorry. If not, why not?
[11:57]
B
I haven't really felt guilt for not being with him or, you know, with what he needs. I think I'm in a really unique situation and I'm really blessed that I get to work from home. So he's there. I mean, he's. He's asleep right now in his couch. So it's like I. Any anytime, like if he falls or whatever, I'm right there with him. So, yeah, I haven't had any issues in that area at the moment.
[12:28]
A
All right, Krista, help me out a little bit. So in my notes, it says, talk to people who understand what you're going through. Pet grief can feel very isolating because society sometimes treats it as less important. Okay. What would you say to others that have either lost their pet or those who have a pet that is ill? What would you say to strengthen their faith or just to strengthen them as a person?
[12:58]
B
Yeah. Things that I've learned that can potentially help someone is when you're in that deep grief. Don't isolate.
[13:10]
A
Yeah.
[13:10]
B
Re. Reach out to people. Let them know what's happening that way. Like you said, the power of partnership. Have those people that you trust, that you love, let them know what's happening so that you're not just in a dark place. Because that's not good. And you're going to get through it. I know I'm going to get through it. And just keep going strong and enjoy the moments that you have. Be in the moment intentionally.
[13:39]
A
Yeah. As a young lady who has a lot of responsibility and has a really good career, it must be tempting at times just to draw the curtains and just sleep and just go under. Tell me about a time that you actually did do that, because I'VE been there myself. Believe me, when I've had people pass in my family, I've had family members pass. Or if I'm going through personal pain. Like, even though I'm Tim's story, there's been times I feel like medicating in some form or fashion or I feel like just laying in bed and not coming out for a long time.
[14:18]
B
Yeah. I mean, I, I would be lying if I said that it hasn't happened more than often, but that's embracing your emotions. That's embracing what it is that you're feeling. But it's. With everything that I have on my schedule, I feel like I kind of have to time it.
[14:36]
A
Yeah. Yeah.
[14:37]
B
When I first found out, I think I was down in the dumps, Tim. I was.
[14:43]
A
Yeah.
[14:44]
B
Not very well. But now I embrace it though. Instead of it being such a dark thing, it's more like, okay, it's time to give yourself a big hug.
[14:54]
A
Yeah.
[14:54]
B
It's. It's time for you to just sit on the couch, watch shows and give Kratos some well needed belly rubs and stuff like that.
[15:03]
A
Yeah. Give me three things that you're grateful for about the relationship you have with your dog. Because he's still alive. He has a tumor right now in his heart, but he's still alive. Just give me three quick things you're grateful for for having Kratos in your life.
[15:25]
B
There's so many. The moments, the time together. His little quirks are the best. And his, his snoring. His snoring for sure. Squishy face. It's adorable.
[15:39]
A
It's. It's, it's so funny because sometimes you're on ZOOM meetings because we, you help us out with this movement called Leave with Love.
[15:47]
B
Yeah.
[15:47]
A
And once in a while you'll show us Kratos just like chilling. Like he's just. Love. Love.
[15:53]
B
Yep. He's the king of the castle, if you will. He's. He's definitely been blessed, man. He's. He's the best.
[16:02]
A
Okay, just two more questions about how you're learning as a young person that life can sometimes be fragile. But yet we have to find a way to get through. Because I know you've had to go back to El Paso in the past for relatives that have passed away.
[16:18]
B
Yeah.
[16:19]
A
You. You understand relationship challenges. And now you, you. You find yourself in the challenge with Kratos. Your. Your dog. Talk to me about the. How life can be fragile and how you're finding your way through that fact that life can be fragile.
[16:36]
B
Yeah. I mean, life is precious. Life is precious, and you really can't take anything for granted. I've always been someone who has. I mean, all my life, I've practiced being in the moment. I mean, on Saturdays, if you reach out to me, you're more than likely not going to hear back because I literally unplug. I put my phone in my room. So being in the moment with your family members, being the moment even with your pets, don't take them for granted, because we're going to probably outlive them. So life is fragile. Time is. I mean, I'll give you an example, and you probably don't even know this. When I was in Nashville, I woke up to a call and multiple texts that Kratos had fallen and that he.
[17:19]
A
That.
[17:20]
B
That he, like, went stiff. So you just really can't take life for granted. And it's. Life is fragile and time is precious.
[17:30]
A
Yeah, we just did a. A big Lead with Love conference. Krista helped lead it with Joseph and David, Michael and Rebecca and so many people on our team. I didn't know that. It's interesting that you didn't even show that last question to you. Where does. What role does faith in God play? Is there really peace in finding faith? Is there. Can God really guide you through the valley of the shadow of death like we have been taught since we were kids? Because I speak at the church you were raised at and you started even in the Sunday school.
[18:09]
B
I did.
[18:10]
A
Has faith helped you in this journey?
[18:13]
B
Absolutely, 100%. It's interesting how we were talking about taking things for granted and how fragile life is, but when I found out, I just, like, have been diving into the Word.
[18:28]
A
Yeah.
[18:29]
B
I do believe that God is right by my side. He's in my heart. And there are moments where, like, say, for example, I'm doing dishes or I'm cleaning the house. I put worship music on.
[18:40]
A
Yeah.
[18:41]
B
And I just pray over Kratos, and then it's like he sparks up this joy. Faith has been a really huge part of my life, but especially in this time and just really digging deeper into the word.
[18:55]
A
Yeah. So I'm going to end in a way I've never ended one of my podcasts, and a lot of people listen to these podcasts. I'm going to pray for Kratos, but I'm also going to pray for other people that have lost their pets and also for ailing pets and that could be a pet of many, many kind. Father, I come to you and I thank you, God, that you truly are loving you're caring and you're healing. And God, for Kratos, according to the doctors, he has a certain diagnosis. But I thank you, God. You are a miracle working God. And there's a reason why in certain churches, in certain places, the people pray for pets and miracles can stay happen. So we pray for Kratos today and we pray for his healing. We pray God that he would not be in pain and you would strengthen him and when it's his time to go, that he will go out strong. I pray for Krista that you would continue to surround her with peace and strength. And for everyone that is listening watching today that their pet has either passed and they're continuing to grieve that you would walk them through the challenging times According to Psalms 23, that you are our shepherd and you walk us even through the challenging times. And I pray for people's pets today and I thank you for this. In your name we pray. Amen. Thank you, Lord. Krista, thank you for being open, for being vulnerable about this because there are thousands of people that have lost their pets that are still grieving. There are thousands of people that had to make the choice whether they should do the surgery or not do the surgery and maybe did not have the money to do what they wanted to do and maybe feel a little guilt. I think we help them walk through a process. So I appreciate you. Okay, thank you so much to all of you listening today. Miracle mentality. We're helping people on purpose. You know, life is not always easy. When I talk about the miracle mentality, I'm not just saying that life is just roses. Life is fragile. Believe me, I have walked many, many people through the pain of life, but I've also seen their pain turn to power and the things that they didn't understand, where they found understanding. And so let's continue to go with God and go with grace. Thank you for liking this podcast subscribing but also comment. I want to break the record in comments today. So many of you pet lovers, I want you to comment of what these podcasts have meant to you when I'm talking to Krista about this subject of her pet, okay, named Kratos. God bless you. Life is still good Foreign. Thank you for sharing space with me on this episode of Miracle Mentality with Tim Story. If today sparked your courage or helped you understand why you're created for success, I invite you to carry that miracle mentality forward. Visit me@tim story.com that story with an eye on the end. Until next time, walk by faith. Embrace possibility and create your own comeback story.