235. "Can we pay off this debt faster?" (Part 2)

Summary

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Podcast Episode Summary

Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

Episode 235: "Can we pay off this debt faster?" (Part 2)
Date: November 18, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this emotionally charged continuation, Ramit Sethi reconnects with Imani and Michael—a couple, aged 52 and 65, facing over $600,000 in debt after recently combining finances. The episode explores their divergent “Rich Life” visions, their struggles with money psychology, and the actionable steps (including a debt payoff plan) Ramit coaches them through. Key themes include: accountability, emotional triggers with money, rekindling trust in relationships, and building a visionary, shared future together while wrestling with a daunting financial reality.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Emotional Baggage & Money Mindset

• The Emotional Toll of Debt

  • Imani expresses deep frustration and exhaustion at carrying the primary responsibility for finances.

    “I’m angry at Michael. I'm angry at myself. ... I'm tapping out. I can't keep doing this.” (Imani, 02:08)

  • Michael demonstrates avoidance and self-blame, voicing his “unworthiness” for a rich life and retreating to what’s familiar—acquiring more gadgets, shrinking his vision of fulfillment.

    “I have more than I deserve.” (Michael, 05:44)

• Divergent Visions for a Rich Life

  • Imani desires travel and shared experiences; Michael defaults to minimizing, decluttering, and keeping life “simple.”

    “If I want to do life by myself, then I’ll just go do life by myself. … I deserve the best of everything and I'll be damned if I won’t go get it.” (Imani, 06:18) “I want to declutter, get rid of this debt, and just have a…just simplified life.” (Michael, 05:37)

• Ramit’s Challenge: Rediscovering the Ability to Dream
  Ramit underscores how avoidance of money issues leads to smaller ambitions and urges the couple to reconnect with what truly matters to them, beyond basic survival or consumer purchases.

  “Your rich life is not buying random commodities … Not a single person I have ever talked to has answered my question ‘What is your rich life?’ with ‘keyboards’ or ‘detergent at Target’... The richer life is about living bigger, not smaller.” (Ramit, 12:40)

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2. Financial Reality Check

• Numbers at a Glance

  • Assets: $603,000
  • Investments: $770,000
  • Savings: $8,500
  • Debt: $601,000 (including $100K+ high-interest)
  • Annual Income: $268,000
  • Net Worth: ~$780,000

• Critical Observations

  • Over 83% of take-home pay goes to fixed costs—majority to debt.
  • $5,291 per month spent on debt payments alone.
  • Investments and savings allocations minimal.
  • Numerous sources of debt—a reflection of years of inconsistent oversight.

    “The debt is unsustainable. Candidly, it’s out of control… For what? What do you have to show for it?” (Ramit, 27:27)

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3. Ownership, Accountability, & Behavioral Change

• Michael Steps Up

  • Initially, Imani managed everything; now, Michael accepts responsibility, setting the stage for new financial behavior and partnership dynamics.

    “I don’t think I’ve been proactive… by me being proactive is me pushing the agenda as far as finances.” (Michael, 11:39)

• Action Items Coached By Ramit

  • Sell off electronics and unnecessary belongings.
  • Reallocate budget—reduce grocery and subscription spending.
  • Assign Michael the leadership role in their debt payoff journey.
  • Draft and adhere to a true debt payoff plan, together.

• Addressing Deeper Patterns

  • Ramit gently probes Michael’s compulsive electronics buying—suggesting a mental health check-in may be both healing and practical.

    “I’m not qualified to diagnose what’s behind this behavior, but I did suggest he speak to a professional. … It might actually unlock some serious insights.” (Ramit, 30:36)

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4. Building the New Plan: Tangible Progress

• Rapid Debt Reduction

  • In four weeks:

    • Paid off $6,000 in debt.
    • Sold $3,000+ in electronics; $4,000 quote for camera equipment.
    • Implemented stricter grocery, subscription, and discretionary spending cuts.

  • Imani’s take:

    “Seeing him actually take the lead and the conversation was non-confrontational. I was so proud of him. Seeing him motivated kept me motivated…” (Imani, 41:58)

  • Michael’s experience:

    “I made $3,000 selling electronics… Now I can’t stop.” (Michael, 47:33)

• Results

  • Net worth up $28,000 in a month.
  • Fixed cost ratio trimmed from 83% to 79%.
  • Projected debt payoff by 2030—possibly sooner with bonuses and continued asset sales.

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5. Shared Vision for the Future

• Alignment at Last

  • Developed a joint “North Star” vision:

    • Owning a home abroad (Panama/Costa Rica/Cartagena)
    • Decluttering and downsizing
    • Experiencing travel together and enabling family adventures

  • Michael’s Dream Evolved:

    “My dream: stress free life, not being surrounded by clutter and to get into a position financially where I could reach out and help others.” (Michael, 58:53)

    • Envisions treating nieces/nephews to travel and supporting family.

• Imani’s Satisfaction

  • No longer wishes to separate finances; feels rebuilt trust.

    “I don’t feel that way anymore. … I feel inspired, I feel energized. I feel like… Michael said he wanted to be the man I married, I think he’s getting back to that man.” (Imani, 81:12)

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6. Retirement Scenarios & Professional Guidance

• Three Retirement Options Generated by Facet Advisors
  • Scenario 1: Retire as planned, maintain current spending—run out of assets by age 85 (Imani).
  • Scenario 2: Delay Michael’s retirement by 1 year, cut spending (guilt-free to $800/mo), have sons contribute to household—assets last to age 95.

    “I like that scenario better. … Longevity is in my genes.” (Imani, 69:42)

  • Scenario 3: Michael retires at 70, allows $15k/year for travel—trade off is three more years of work.

    “That’s a lot of travel. That’s, that's, that's a little first class travel in there.” (Imani, 73:13)

  • Both Michael and Imani lean toward Scenario 2, valuing earlier retirement over extravagant travel, but plan to integrate travel gradually.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Imani, on self-worth and vision:

  "I deserve the best of everything and I'll be damned if I won't go get it." (06:49)

• Ramit, on the real meaning of “Rich Life”:

  "Your rich life is not buying random commodities. ... The traveling represents new experiences, being expansive, seeing new places. It's about living bigger, not smaller." (12:40)

• Michael, on transformation:

  "This is my Doug Flutie moment." (12:14)
  “What's exciting for me, Ramit, is I enjoy selling as much as I did buying it.” (81:37)

• Imani, on learning to trust:

  "It's hard, right? Because I'm a control freak. But ... you have to let go and let people, right? They say let go and let people show you.” (46:08)

• Ramit, reframing budgeting:

  “Real transformations happen when you create a powerful vision for your life ... budgets miss the point. Math is important. Numbers matter. But that's table stakes.” (83:14)

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Key Timestamps for Segments

• [01:45] - Return to Imani and Michael’s crisis point; background and stakes.
• [05:37] - Michael describes his minimalist “Rich Life” vision.
• [06:57] - Imani defends her right to abundance and adventure.
• [09:20] - Ramit pushes Michael to own his feelings about purchases.
• [11:19] - Michael commits to taking active financial leadership.
• [19:11] - North Star exercise: defining a shared vision beyond money.
• [27:27] - Ramit's frank assessment: “Debt is unsustainable…for what?”
• [41:02] - Michael & Imani share feelings post-intervention.
• [43:00] - Review of their actual debt payoff plan and timeline.
• [47:33] - Electronics sales and rapid behavioral change.
• [56:05] - Articulation of their shared vision (travel, home abroad, decluttering).
• [67:23] - Retirement scenario analysis; weighing tradeoffs.
• [80:06] - Imani reflects on combining finances and rebuilt trust.
• [85:57] - Four-week post-update progress from Imani & Michael.

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Conclusion & Episode Takeaways

• Major positive change is possible in weeks—not years—when both partners commit.
• The “Rich Life” is less about strict numbers and more about aligning values, vision, and habits as a couple.
• Accountability (Michael’s leadership, Imani’s trust), clarity of planning (debt snowballing, budgeting), and willingness to tackle both the emotional and mathematical sides of money are essential for transformation.
• Professional guidance (Facet Advisors) and tools enable smart, customized scenario planning for retirement and quality of life.
• Shared vision creates hope and a real sense of teamwork where there once was resentment and distance.

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Further Resources

• Facet Advisors – for scenario planning & financial guidance
• Ramit’s Money Coaching – actionable support for couples
• Episode application: iwt.com/apply

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This summary is designed for those seeking deep insight into the episode’s themes, actionable tools used, and the journey Imani and Michael undertook—from crisis and resentment to genuine partnership and hope.

Transcript

[Ramit Sethi]

When my wife and I were planning our honeymoon, we decided we wanted to invite our parents for the first leg of our trip. We decided to take them all to Italy and we mapped out exactly how we wanted everybody to feel. We wanted them to feel a sense of awe. Visiting beautiful churches for my mother in law. We wanted relaxed downtime for my parents. And I personally wanted a hands on tactile cooking class for all of us to do together. We had a vision and we built that trip around it. And I got to tell you, I did not want to do the normal trip. My time is too important to land in a city and then go to Expedia.com to find the most popular sites. I want magical memories that are personalized for my family and me. I want to see things that are going to change our lives. I want to take a food tour and see beautiful design because I love architecture and textiles and I want it to be relaxing. If you want these kind of trips and you want to personalize them for your interests, then I want to show you behind the scenes of how I plan incredible trips. On November 20th at 8:00pm Eastern, I'm going to walk you through how I plan vacations that are part of my rich life. You're going to walk away with real numbers to book magical trips. You're going to understand where to cut and where to spend more. And I'm going to give you word for word emails that celebrities send to hotels and restaurants before they arrive just to give you a peek behind the curtain of how high end travel is done. Don't miss it. This event is free for my money coaching members which you can join right [e-mail] MoneyCoaching previously on Money for Couples. What do you think about this debt?

[Imani]

I'm angry at Michael. I'm angry at myself. Michael has 1012 laptops.

[Ramit Sethi]

What the 12 laptops?

[Imani]

Yeah. He's at the point now where he should be able to retire, but he can't.

[Michael]

This is my vision of my goal. Someone kind of manage the money and make sure that it goes in the right places. I don't have that knowledge to do with that.

[Ramit Sethi]

If this doesn't work, what does it mean for you?

[Imani]

Be honest. I'm tapping out. I can't keep doing this.

[Michael]

To be truthful, after our conversation, I got kind of off. I kind of got the fever to start selling stuff.

[Imani]

How do we wipe the debt out so that our net worth continues to rise?

[Ramit Sethi]

How much debt have you paid off since we last talked?

[Michael]

6,000.

[Ramit Sethi]

$6,000 since we last talked if we.

[Imani]

Had no debt, right? If we had just the mortgage, we'd be well over a million today.

[Ramit Sethi]

When couples have a lot of debt, one of the most common phrases they say is, we're just going to die with this debt. But virtually none of them has ever run a simple debt payoff calculation. They've basically just given up. When will their debts be paid off? What happens if they pay more or pay less? What levers can they pull to speed things up? They don't ask these questions because it's uncomfortable. And people don't like to feel stupid about money. No wonder they feel so bad about debt. They've never even taken five minutes to figure out a plan to get rid of it. But that's exactly what we do here on Money for Couples Today. We're back with Imani and Michael. They're 52 and 65 years old, and after 20 years of marriage, they finally combined their finances just four years ago, and everything fell apart. Last week we left off with Imani in tears because their rich life visions are so different. Imani dreams of a life full of travel and experiences. Meanwhile, Michael says he wants to just declutter and sit with a book. She wants bigger. He wants smaller. And honestly, when your rich life vision is that small, it's no surprise that Michael has not thought about retirement. When the bar is set so low and you're carrying over $600,000 in debt, retirement just feels like a fantasy. That is why I called in our partners at Facet to help us today. Michael is 65 years old, but with high debt and a high income. Their financial picture is fascinating and complex. Facet has provided real scenarios today to show exactly what Michael needs to do to retire. You can learn more about how fast can help [e-mail] Ramit can Imani and Michael bridge their worldviews and come around to a shared rich life vision? Can they repair the wedge that has been driven into their relationship? I recommend you go back and watch or listen to part one for all of the important background on this fascinating story. Now let's do a quick recap of their conscious spending plan, the same tool that I use in every episode to go through their actual numbers. Assets $603,000 Investments $770,000 Remember, Michael is 65 years old. Savings $8,500 Debt $601,000 including over 100k of high interest consumer debt Net worth 6, $780,000 Annual income $268,000 let's see if we can help Imani and Michael rewrite their story and their future. Facet is an RIA with the sec. The facet provided scenarios discussed are based on inputs provided by Imani and Michael and are based on industry standard assumptions. This information is, my opinion is for illustrative and educational purposes only. Investing involves serious risks and past performance is not a guarantee of future performance or success. I'm not a member of Facet. I have an incentive to endorse Facet as I have an ongoing fee based contract for cash compensation based on this endorsement. So your rich life is to declutter.

[Michael]

Declutter, get rid of this debt, okay, and just have a. Just simplified life. Just really have a simple life. I have more than I deserve.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. I'm going to help you come up with an even more powerful vision of a rich life.

[Michael]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

Imani, I see you nodding over there. How come?

[Imani]

Because I feel like everything that he says, I don't know if it's because he's looking at the effect of things on me. Right. I want Michael to have a vision of his rich life. Like you talked about. I want to travel and all that. And he didn't say that. Right. And so for me, it feels like he's like, oh, I've lived my lace and I've traveled the world. You go do that by yourself. And I don't want to do life by myself. If I want to do life by myself, then I'll just go do life by myself. I wouldn't have wrote into this program. I would have just said, you know what, I'm over it. I'd have cashed out part of my 401k, paid off my debt, take my children and just go. And then he'll say, he said he didn't. He, he has more stuff than he deserves. So what are you not deserving of of a rich life? Like, to me, that's an issue. I deserve the best of everything and I'll be damned if I won't go get it.

[Ramit Sethi]

Say more.

[Imani]

I feel like I work hard, I give, I give, I give. My family probably wants to smack me. I'm always somewhere volunteering and giving and giving and giving. I feel like that is my mission. Like I've been put on this earth to serve. But I also deserve to live that rich life, to travel, to do all the things that God put in my heart to do. And for him to say he doesn't deserve that, I'm like, there's a disconnect there.

[Ramit Sethi]

Are you too religious?

[Imani]

Absolutely.

[Michael]

Yes.

[Ramit Sethi]

Both Are. Okay, I have more than I deserve. Familiar phrase, Michael. Where'd you pick that phrase up?

[Michael]

I just. I just look around me when I'm in the house. I like, I got this piece of equipment. I got this. It's just too much.

[Ramit Sethi]

Hold on. Finish the sentence. I have this, I have that. And.

[Michael]

And I just feel that. So If I have 10 computers and I have 15 computers, I can't only be on one computer at a time. Like, why do I need 14 other.

[Ramit Sethi]

Computers, but yet just bought an SSD another one?

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

And you had a very good reason to explain it to Imani.

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

So in a way, you're saying I have more than I deserve, and why do I have all this? But then you just buy another one. Explain it.

[Michael]

Yeah, it's. It's just a. I would say that a bad pattern of doing that.

[Ramit Sethi]

What do you feel when you go to the website or the store and you pick that thing up? What do you feel?

[Michael]

The first thing I say is, okay, I'm looking at some. I really don't need it, but I would like to have it.

[Ramit Sethi]

What do you feel?

[Michael]

I just feel like, hey, I should not be on this website looking at this.

[Ramit Sethi]

Nope, that's not what you feel. You're lying to yourself right now, and you're lying to me. I get lied to a lot. I love it. But I could tell. I think when you go to that website or that store, you see the little computer, the tech gadget, and you feel excited. I think you go, oh, that's gonna be good. I got a reason. I know I have this one, but, like, I actually need this one because it has this feature. True or false?

[Michael]

True.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. I don't think you're trying to lie to me on purpose. I don't think that at all.

[Michael]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

I think we all, like, lie in different ways. Somebody said, do I look good in this shirt? Whatever. Okay. I don't mind that stuff. But I'm wondering, do you have access to your own feelings inside? Do you know why you do certain things?

[Michael]

Sometimes I don't.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Very honest answer. I appreciate that. Okay, again, not that I think you are lying intentionally. Right. You're here. I know you're here out of good faith. You both want help. I get. I believe that.

[Michael]

Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

But when I ask you, you know, what's your rich life? Your answer is, I want to minimize. But, like, there's no real evidence of minimizing. When I ask you, like, what would you want to do? I guess I mean, she could travel and, like, Imani's crying, you know, over there, saying, like, I don't want to do it alone. I want to do it together.

[Michael]

Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

We're not in the same universe right now. Imani, what do you think it would take for you to get on the same page about money?

[Imani]

I think it would take a real effort on Michael's part. Right. A real, concerted, consistent effort. Not a yes. We got off the podcast, and now we have this thing, and, you know, for. For two months, everything's great, and then all of a sudden, we're back in the same pattern.

[Ramit Sethi]

But what if it doesn't work? Like, what if it's. You worked with this other money coach, and, you know, you got the pack of budgets and this and that. Nothing really changes after a couple months. What happens then?

[Imani]

Be honest. I'm tapping out someone out. I don't know. It's gotta, it's gotta work. I, I don't have the energy, the intestinal fortitude, the. The desire. Michael has got to show up because I'm tired.

[Michael]

It's gotta work. I, I, I mean, I don't. I don't have any more solutions. I don't. It's gotta work.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. I'm gonna help you come up with an even more powerful vision of a rich life.

[Michael]

And I think it will work, because I don't think the proactivity has been there on my part.

[Ramit Sethi]

Can you say that again in a way that is like taking ownership?

[Michael]

I don't think I've been proactive, and by me being proactive is me pushing the agenda as far as finances.

[Ramit Sethi]

Nice.

[Michael]

Not always. Imani pushing the agenda to the point where she says, okay, I don't want to talk about the finances anymore. I want you to manage it.

[Ramit Sethi]

Whoa. Right? I like that.

[Michael]

Right. So then that will take some stress off of her.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah.

[Michael]

And she can focus on some other things that will enhance what we're trying to do from a relationship standpoint. I believe everybody has a. You know who Doug Flutie is?

[Ramit Sethi]

No.

[Michael]

So Doug Flutie was a football player, and he played for Boston College, and the time was out in the game, and he had one pass to make to win the game. He threw the pass and receiver caught the ball, and Boston College won the game. This is my Doug Flutie moment.

[Imani]

Wow.

[Ramit Sethi]

What does it mean to you?

[Michael]

A lot.

[Ramit Sethi]

Tell me. Take your time. We got no rush.

[Michael]

Is. Well, it's time to stop.

[Ramit Sethi]

Time to stop spending.

[Michael]

Yes.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. And tell me what you want to start.

[Michael]

As soon as I can.

[Ramit Sethi]

What do you want to start Doing instead?

[Michael]

Just. Just getting rid of stuff.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, And. And once you get rid of those things, we can make it happen. What then?

[Michael]

Have a plan. Have a discipline and rigor to stick to the plan.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah. I'm struck by the way Michael talks about his rich life. Do you notice how he keeps circling back to the same idea? Stop spending. Declutter. It's all just so small. I think Michael has truly lost the ability to dream, maybe partially because of the generation he grew up in. But I suspect the larger reason is that he's an avoider. He's avoided the issue of money for so long that dreaming simply feels foreign to him. And when you avoid money, you don't just avoid spreadsheets or debt. You actually avoid the bigger questions about what you want out of life. So instead of imagining a rich life filled with meaning and connection, Michael has shrunk his vision down to arbitrary commodity purchases. A keyboard, a computer, because that feels manageable and safe. Guys, listen up. Your rich life is not buying random commodities. I can tell you that right now. Not a single person I have ever talked to has answered my question. What is your rich life? With keyboards or detergent at Target, or even sweaters, which I personally love. Now, if you love those things and you can afford them, get them. But we both know that is not the totality of what matters to you in your rich life. When Imani talks about her dreams, like traveling to Martha's Vineyard, she's trying to create a more powerful vision. It's not really about Martha's Vineyard. The traveling represents new experiences, being expansive, seeing new places. It's about living bigger, not smaller. I can guarantee you that a keyboard or a freaking coffee mug is probably not your rich life in totality. I think he is finally starting to realize the severity of the situation now, so I want to keep pushing. Listen as I challenge Michael to stop retreating. I know that some of us think better when we write our thoughts out. But for a lot of us, including me, I'm better when I can think out loud. 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Plus you get access to G's full tax library with guides on retirement accounts, QBI and more. So if you've got a business or you filed for an extension, this is the window to take control of your tax plan. Head to joingelt.com ramit to book a consultation and as a member of my community you get to skip the waitlist again that is join Gilt.com/Ramit G E L T Taxes do not have to be a task with guilt. They can be a tool to build wealth. I think that when I ask like what's your rich life? What I'm looking for is the ability to dream is the ability to think beyond a daily problem or a monthly problem or even a spreadsheet. I'm looking to see if one or both partners have the ability to think bigger. And I typically find that most people have such a bad relationship with money that they've lost the ability to dream. And you know Michael, you got A lot of life left in you. And what Imani is saying is like, hey, I'm young. I'm not even close to being done with this life. And I'm trying to do this with a partner. And that I think is part of what is upsetting when your answer is, I went when I was in the military. So, like, if she wants to do that, she should do that. Do you see how the two answers are not meeting?

[Michael]

I see. Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right. Can we try it again, actually? Because I think this is so important. I think this is one of those moments that the two of you are going to remember for a long time.

[Michael]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

And I want to ask you, Michael, specifically, I'll ask you what is your rich life in just a minute. So go ahead and just think about it. Think about it. You don't have to answer me yet. Just give it some time before you answer. Maybe we can set up like a North Star. I'll give you a couple of examples. A North Star helps elevate us out of the day to day. And all this debt that you have. Yeah, there's debt, there's a problem. We'll try to fix it. But, like, when my wife and I think about our North Stars, we have a few, you know, like, we both want to laugh a lot. We both put relationships first. So if we ever have the opportunity, if. If we can be at somebody's birthday party or something, we're going to be there. You know what I mean? We'll use money to spend more time with relationships. We want to travel a lot. We like, you know, fitness and stuff like that. So we'll pay money for that. What would be some examples of North Stars for you? Let's go back and forth, starting with Michael. What's important in your relationship?

[Michael]

To be in a financial situation where I can take money, See places that I've seen, like the Grand Canyon.

[Imani]

Great.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right, Imani.

[Imani]

To be able to take huge family vacations, you know, with multiple sides of our family, where we pay for it, right? Like go to Jamaica, rent a House, take 10 people with us.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Let's do it again. And this time, no money, no worry. Just important to the two of you.

[Michael]

Michael, I would say what's most important right now is that we keep each other in check, that I take on readily, take on more responsibility for the finances.

[Ramit Sethi]

What? Didn't I just say no money?

[Michael]

Oh, no money. I would say to be able to go to places like Wine and Sips. She likes going to Wine and Sip. To be able to Go to Wine and Sips and just kind of hang out.

[Ramit Sethi]

Oh, I like that. All right, so, like, to be able to go there regularly. What do you say? How often is that?

[Michael]

I would say to be in a situation where we can go, say, once a month, and it's no big deal. Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, cool. Imani.

[Imani]

To be able to go with Michael to try new foods, Thai food is one of our favorites. To be able to try different Thai restaurants all over the. You know, all over the state where we live.

[Ramit Sethi]

Beautiful. Okay. Now, Michael, can we come back?

[Michael]

Sure.

[Ramit Sethi]

I want to ask you the same question again. What is your rich life?

[Michael]

I would say to be the man that she married 20, 24 years ago.

[Ramit Sethi]

Tell me what that means.

[Michael]

I think we were more connected. I think we were more on the same page as. As far as being a family, we communicated more. Even though we both had careers going on, there still was that bond there that, hey, we're in this together.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah, that's awesome. What do you say, Imani?

[Imani]

I think that's great because I think a lot of life has happened. Right. And we aren't those same people. I think a lot of frustration, a lot of disappointment has happened in 24 years and, you know, an erosion of the trust. Right. To be honest. Right. Because, you know, financially, if you can't trust someone, you feel like you're in it on your own. And that's how I feel. Sometimes I feel like, you know, again, like I said earlier, if I don't do it, it doesn't happen, and that's a huge burden to take on. And so I would love for Michael to be the man that I married 24 years ago, because I went into this thinking that, you know, I knew that, you know, we all carry baggage from our childhood. We all carry, you know, baggage from other relationships and marriages and things like that. So I get it. But I think we all have to take responsibility and accountability for where we are in our part in it.

[Ramit Sethi]

Can I ask you, Michael?

[Michael]

Sure.

[Ramit Sethi]

I'm sorry to cut you off, Imani. Michael, I was really struck by what you said about reconnecting and getting that bond back that you had with Imani when you first met each other. What did it feel like when you had that bond?

[Michael]

It felt great, I think. I know our lives were a lot less complicated then, even though we both had careers, and as we grew older and kind of got more complicated with just life. Life.

[Ramit Sethi]

And how did it feel? You said, great. Tell me more.

[Michael]

I mean, we. We. We went out a lot when we initially Met when the kids came along. I don't think we stopped going out. I mean, we found some way to go out, so I think the bond was stronger. So as. As we grew in our careers, our sons are now adults now. We're still in our careers. But I think what we're doing in our careers probably vibrates more than what we do in our relationship, and especially around finances.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah, sometimes finances are just the surface level reflection of what's going on at a deeper level. Not always. Sometimes it's adjacent, orthogonal, whatever. But yeah, sometimes it's easy to focus on work instead of a relationship. We all know that every one of us in a relationship has experienced that. I'm struck by the honesty, Michael. I feel like we're really. We're talking now, like, about the real stuff. The computers is not the real stuff. We'll deal with that, but this is the real stuff. And to be able to talk about it in relation to money, that's specifically what I do. So I want to try to get us to make some changes to the finances because I think it will influence the relationship and I think the relationship will influence the numbers. It's this kind of beautiful cycle. It feeds on itself and it can be an upward spiral where things are going well and the money's going well. And like, even if you have debt, it's still. You got a plan. Or it can be a negative spiral. We're disconnected. We're just going to spend a bunch of money, go into debt, not talk about it, get in a fight every so often, and then repeat. Okay, so I'd like to create a positive cycle. I would like to quickly reflect on what I see in your conscious spending plan. Okay. In your 50s and 60s, if you two were earning far less, I would say this is, you know, at least from an assets and investment perspective, it's not bad. And if you were to tell me we have a pension as well, I would say, wow, that actually makes things even better. But the fact that you earn $268,000 makes the numbers here not acceptable. The debt is unsustainable. Candidly, it's out of control. First of all, there's just like so many sources of debt, and it. For what? Like, for what. What do you have to show for it? You know, we have, again, we have student loans. Okay, that I totally understand. And that is what is responsible for the higher income. That's great. We have a home equity line of credit. We have a 401k loan. We have credit card debt, consumer debt, cars and you know, like, it's just a lot. It shows that it has not been organized, that there's not been care and attention paid towards this. If we go down to fixed cost, 83% is way too high. I'd like to see it lower, but it's hard to change that. Look at these debt payments. $5,291 a month. Outrageous. Outrageous. You're basically spending a third of your take home pay on debt for what? All this hard work you've done and it's just going right into interest and a bunch of debt you racked up. Investments are at 1%. There's basically nothing going there. Savings at 7%. But like really it's okay. We'd like to get that number higher. And then we know that the guilt free spending number is not accurate. You're spending much more than you have noted here, which means you're just going into more debt. Big changes need to be made.

[Michael]

I think that spot, spot on. I agree that a, we need to make big changes. I'm not going to say it's going to be drastic because I'm at the point now where they have to be made.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. It has to happen.

[Michael]

I agree it has to happen. And I'll be honest with you. I'm not going to miss the things that I got to get rid of. I'm not.

[Ramit Sethi]

That's the way to approach it. Your job is to bring your fixed costs to 60%. But I would like for each of you and I would like for Michael to start because from now on, Michael is taking a leadership role here. Play around, tell me what you'd like me to do. Remember, I can always undo it. But we got the fixed costs are at 83% or $12,000 a month and we need to bring that number down.

[Michael]

The two numbers that really stick out for me is the debt payments and groceries.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay.

[Michael]

In regards to the debt payments, getting rid of some things and just selling things could a big dent in that.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Talk to me about that.

[Michael]

So synthesizers. I'm going to say 7,000.

[Ramit Sethi]

How many of those do you have?

[Michael]

About seven of those, but they vary in prices.

[Ramit Sethi]

Are you a hoarder?

[Michael]

Imani said that I am.

[Imani]

Oh.

[Ramit Sethi]

Like all jokes aside, if you look in the house, is it like difficult to walk in?

[Michael]

Yes. In my elect, in my electronics room it is.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. Okay.

[Imani]

Yes. Michael has his stuff has to be in a certain place. It migrates out, but I put it back. It's like fighting the blob.

[Ramit Sethi]

Has anyone else in your life ever Joked about you being a hoarder.

[Michael]

I mean, my son. My sons will quip every now and.

[Ramit Sethi]

Then, but what will they say?

[Michael]

My oldest son always said, you need to get rid of some of this stuff.

[Ramit Sethi]

And do you ever.

[Michael]

Imani is saying no, but I recently took a trip home and I took a couple of computers and gave them to my nieces and nephew.

[Ramit Sethi]

I'm puzzled because, like, these synthesizers appear to be quite large. You tell me you don't just have one, two, three, you have seven. And then, like you're telling me it's difficult to walk around. It certainly caused hardship financially. We're in a lot of debt here. But at the same time, you're like, I'm ready to get rid of it all. So I'm like, okay, that's interesting. I. I take you at face value. I believe you are ready to get rid of them. We're going to make a plan for it. I would like to encourage you to see a mental health care specialist and just talk to them about it. Worst case, you spend an hour of your time. Best case, it might actually unlock some serious insights.

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

Would you be down for that?

[Michael]

Yeah. A lot of what I get rid of, there's absolutely nothing that I have in my possession that I will miss.

[Ramit Sethi]

I want you to notice the layers that we're uncovering. It's like an onion. Every time we peel a layer, a new one is revealed. And what strikes me about this collection of electronics, 15 laptops, seven synthesizers, a room so cluttered that he has trouble moving around, is how unreasonable it all is. It's not just the sheer volume of stuff. It is the way he has fixated on these small things while completely ignoring the bigger, more pressing financial issues in his life. His wife has said she might leave. How many synthesizers is that worth? I also find it interesting how proud he is of these gadgets. Yet there is no urgency or emotion, not even anger when it comes to over $600,000 of debt. Instead, his focus has been what new toy he can purchase at Best Buy. Remember, when your life feels out of control, you often shrink it down to the most controllable item there is. We've seen it many times on this show. We have a couple whose finances are totally out of control. And what do we see? Often the wife, micro fixated on a budget, while their debt is simply snowballing out of control. We see the equivalent thing happening right here. Now, I told Michael I'm not qualified to diagnose what's behind this behavior, but I did suggest he speak to a professional. I admire that Michael wants to clean this room of gadgets and getting help would make that a lot easier. Let's keep going. I think one of the best characteristics for people who actually end up living a rich life is being curious. Like lots of people will say their rich life is traveling more, but I think that's just a word. Where do you want to go? What specifically do you want to see? And if I were to ask you, what could you do to make your trip 25% more amazing? If you want to explore your curiosity, I recommend checking out Masterclass. I love Masterclass. I've gifted memberships to family before and very soon my own masterclass called Financial Wellness will be added to their library. With Masterclass you can learn from the best to become your best. Plans start at just $10 a month and you get unlimited access to over 200 classes taught by the world's best business leaders, writers, chefs and more. Plus, there's no risk. Every new membership comes with a 30 day money back guarantee so you can try it out before you commit. One class that I recently watched was Prepare to be Unprepared with Amy Poehler. What I learned in that Masterclass was how to adjust to situations on the fly, very similar to what people in improv do. Masterclass always has great offers during the holidays, sometimes up to as much as 50% off. Head over to masterclass.com ramit for their current offer. That's up to 50% [e-mail] ramit masterclass.com ramit Real question for you. Do you know how often you're supposed to see your primary care physician? How about the dentist? How about a dermatologist? A lot of us just wait to get a text from the dental hygienist to know it's time to make an appointment. But your health is important and we talk about going from defense to offense with your money. What about with your health? Why not make your life easier and book this year's appointments today with zocdoc. Zocdoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare high high quality in network doctors and click to instantly book an appointment. They have over 100,000 doctors across every specialty from mental health, dental, primary care and more. Just filter for the doctors based on your insurance, your location, even ratings and find a doctor who's a good fit for your needs. Plus, Zocdoc appointments happen fast, usually within 24 to 72 hours.

[Imani]

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[Ramit Sethi]

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[Michael]

This kind of be at least 15 grand.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, great. Let's say 15. That will bring your payments down a little bit, not much. So, Michael, there's two numbers. You said debt payments and groceries. Why don't we talk about groceries? Who does the grocery shopping?

[Michael]

Imani does.

[Ramit Sethi]

Oh, let's ask her.

[Imani]

We probably can take groceries from 1500 down to, like a thousand. I can make work. Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

Are you sure I'm not pressuring you? You tell me. You do the shopping?

[Imani]

Yeah, I mean, I. I think we can, because we. We don't eat the food that we bring in the house. We eat out a lot.

[Ramit Sethi]

If I were you, Imani, I would assign that to somebody else because. Why are you taking that on? You got three grown adults besides you in the house. Here's the number you need to hit every month. Good luck. That's it.

[Imani]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

Are you prepared to do that? Look at that. Deep breath. Tell me if you're not. It's okay. This is a hard transition.

[Imani]

You know? What if I don't, then it won't change. So I just have to.

[Ramit Sethi]

I am so happy you just said that. Damn. Well, let me just tell you. We just brought that number down by changing it from 1500 to a thousand. We brought it down to 79%. Phone at 346. Why?

[Imani]

Michael, tell them why. Why is the phone bill at 326?

[Michael]

That's two additional lines and phones on there.

[Ramit Sethi]

Why does it even matter?

[Michael]

No.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, what number should it be?

[Michael]

So each one. Everybody in the house has a separate line. I would say that it should be. Should be 250.

[Ramit Sethi]

250. All right. Yeah, moving along. Subscriptions at 170. Can we just bring this down?

[Imani]

Yes.

[Ramit Sethi]

What number?

[Imani]

Let's go to 100.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. All right. We're down to 78. We're moving in the right direction. It's really the debt that we need to talk about. Do you know when your debt will be paid off? Yes or no?

[Michael]

No.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay.

[Imani]

Imani, some of It. Not all of it, no.

[Ramit Sethi]

Everyone's just kind of like, this sucks. And I've gotten used to it, and I'm going to instead focus on other things, like Best Buy purchases instead of this thing, which is really the thing that matters. What I want to do is I'd like to speak to you again. I think we need to breathe. I want to allow you both to have some time. So I will speak to you again if you will do the following. A true debt payoff plan. Selling your electronics and putting that money towards the debt.

[Imani]

I.

[Ramit Sethi]

Ideally, the principal, but any of it will be good.

[Michael]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

And then sitting down together, creating a rich life vision and redoing your CSP on all of these things. I want Michael to take the lead, but Imani will be right there, hand in hand. She'll just not be the first one mentioning it, scheduling it, leading it, but she'll be there.

[Michael]

All right.

[Ramit Sethi]

How's that sound?

[Michael]

Sounds good. I got it wrote down.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay.

[Imani]

It makes total sense. And it. It. It's a rational way, because I have a scientific, rational brain. So that helps me to think about, you know. Okay. I need to be thoughtful in how I approach it and put it back on him. Right. I am not his parent.

[Ramit Sethi]

I'd like to give you four weeks to make these changes.

[Michael]

Okay.

[Imani]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

Fast but doable. That's it. Like. And that really forces, like, hey, we gotta sell this stuff. We gotta get this thing paid off. We gotta do this. We gotta do that. But I know you can move. I know you can.

[Imani]

I feel like we talked to one another in a way today that has been a long time coming. Gives me hope. I feel like I saw something change in Michael. And so I'm hopeful. I'm cautiously optimistic.

[Ramit Sethi]

Michael, anything I can answer for you.

[Michael]

I know the work that I have to do, it's going to be painful. It is. Yeah. Yeah. But I'm at that point now where I'm good, and I believe Imani will be good.

[Ramit Sethi]

You know, I rarely invite guests back for a second session, but I wanted to, and I thought it was really important for a few reasons. Sometimes I can see the changes that they have to make are very large. And I can tell that if we end after one call, I don't have the confidence that those changes would be meaningful. I also want accountability. Yes. Michael has a ton of work to do, especially as someone who, as he told me, hasn't ever had a plan in his life. Having a deadline is going to hold him accountable. But Imani also needs to be held Accountable as well. She has a lot of work to do on her own money, psychology, and her spending habit. Next, Imani literally said she would consider leaving Michael if things don't change. The stakes are high. I want to give them the best chance at success. And if you are in any sort of coaching, counseling, or therapy, you know that multiple sessions are very important to succeeding. And finally, we haven't even had the opportunity to talk about retirement yet. We have a lot more work to do, and I want to share their financial information with our partners at Facet to get some real data in front of Imani and Michael on what is possible. Now, I've given them a ton of work to do and. And only four weeks to accomplish it. All this change is not going to be easy, especially since they have spent 25 years cementing their roles. But let's get back into it with Imani and Michael. I'm so excited to see you again. I've been thinking about our conversation, so I was pumped when I saw that we get a chance to speak again today. First off, just in general, if you had to describe how you're feeling right now, before we get into all of it, what would you say? Imani, in one or two words, how do you feel right now?

[Imani]

Excited.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Michael?

[Michael]

Ecstatic.

[Ramit Sethi]

Ecstatic. Whoa. All right. I like it. I don't hear that word on this show too often. I'm. I'm excited to find out what's going on. During our last conversation, Michael, you told me that you wanted someone to tell you what your options are. So we're going to do some of that today. And I have some options from our friends at Facet. But before we get into that, did you complete the homework? Let's go through them line by line. Let's start with the debt payoff plan. Did you do a debt payoff plan?

[Michael]

Yes, we did.

[Ramit Sethi]

Who was the one who set up the conversation about the debt payoff plan?

[Michael]

I understood the assignment that I was supposed to take lead. So I think maybe a couple of days after that, I said, okay, I gotta make sure that I've taken the lead. But we were all in agreement what we had and what our goals were. The sheet, the debt reduction plan was good.

[Imani]

Michael took the lead more. He was, you know, he brought the big chart with all of our numbers. He brought it over to me and was like, okay, let's go. Right. And so seeing him actually take the lead and the conversation was non confrontational. I was so proud of him. Seeing him motivated kept me motivated as opposed to me pulling him. Right. I felt like we were kind of going the path together, as opposed to me, like, getting upset and slamming stuff and sitting down and, you know, threatening him and why can't you do this? It was more of a conversation that we look forward to having because we have a plan. Right. That gets him to retirement.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, fantastic. I got to give a round of applause. This is great. I love it. I love the progress. I love the attitude, the change in the conversational style, and the intentionality. It's like two thumbs up from me. I love it. With your current amount of debt, how long will it take for you to pay off the debt?

[Michael]

So it's projected to be paid off in 2030. I feel that we can accelerate that because some of the factors that we didn't include in the debt reduction plan was like annual bonuses. So that's not included in the bonus. They can average anywhere from 6 to 8% of my salary, which is substantial. So we didn't factor that in. And then other opportunities to bring cash in, I. E. Sell electronics. Great. So I think that will accelerate things a lot.

[Ramit Sethi]

I love this. I love your strategy with your conservative estimates. Out of curiosity, can I take a look at that debt payoff plan?

[Michael]

Sure.

[Ramit Sethi]

Here's what I'm looking at. Now. This is the actual plan. So at the top, they essentially had all the debts listed out. So we're now looking at how long it's going to take to pay off the debt. And we have four months to pay off this first amount of debt.

[Imani]

Mm.

[Ramit Sethi]

Six months for the next one. All the way up to five years to pay off the $87,000 debt.

[Michael]

Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay. All right. I'm down with this. Total interest paid. $46,000. What does that feel like when you see that number?

[Imani]

It's a lot.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah.

[Imani]

We want to get that paid off fast. I don't want to pay $46,000 in extra interest.

[Michael]

Good.

[Ramit Sethi]

I like when people hate interest. You should. But it also, to me, it's kind of a reminder, like, hey, we made some decisions, and we're going to have to pay. We're actually going to pay $46,000, maybe a little less if we accelerate things for our past decisions, but we can also get out of it. Guys, I am incredibly impressed at that debt payoff plan. I got to give you a round of applause. That's very impressive.

[Imani]

I mean, we. We actually had to buy a dryer the other day, and normally we would panic, and it was like, nope, dryer's not working. Let's go get a dryer. Right? And we had money set aside to do that.

[Ramit Sethi]

Wow.

[Imani]

So we went and bought a dryer, and now, you know, we're getting back into the plan.

[Ramit Sethi]

To me, I look at it, and the way I feel is every time you check one of those things off, you're winning. So instead of losing all day and feeling horrible, you now get to win month after month after month. That is amazing.

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

How much debt have you paid off since we last talked?

[Imani]

It's definitely over. It's about six.

[Ramit Sethi]

Six what?

[Imani]

Thousand.

[Michael]

Six thousand.

[Ramit Sethi]

Six thousand dollars since we last talked?

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Imani]

Damn. We focus.

[Ramit Sethi]

Michael, how did it feel to be in charge of the debt payoff plan after years of letting Imani take the lead on the family finances?

[Michael]

It felt good. And I can see the change in her. Her attitude. It's kind of like, yeah, we got this big cloud overs, but I can kind of see it separating and spreading out a little bit and see a path to the cloud. So that. That was. That was. That was very enlightening. Enjoyable to see.

[Ramit Sethi]

Imani, what did it feel like for you to step back as Michael created the debt payoff plan?

[Imani]

It's hard, right? Because I'm a control freak. But it. It shows that I trust what he's doing and I trust the work that he's putting in, and I appreciate it. So, you know, you have to let go and let people, right? They say let go and. And let people show you, right? And so that is his opportunity to show me. And so now I trust. Okay, now we can do this. Now I will say that there are. Sometimes when he's looking at the account, he's like, well, west bad. Okay, ask me what I'm spending. But I'm like, I get it.

[Ramit Sethi]

What do you tell yourself? Like, what do you tell yourself at that moment? And what did you tell yourself when you were trying to give up a little bit of control in order for Michael to take the lead?

[Imani]

Let go.

[Ramit Sethi]

That's what you said.

[Imani]

Yeah, I literally said, okay, he's got it. I gotta. I gotta let him have it. Michael's gotta step up. Right? That's. That was the assignment. Right? And if he's willing to do that, then I need to let him do that.

[Ramit Sethi]

I like that. I. I hope everybody listening can see and can hear from the two of you how quickly you can make life altering changes. Doesn't have to take 10 years, doesn't it? Could be literally a week and you could change your life completely. Michael, what happened with the electronics? Where are you in the process of selling those things last week, I think.

[Michael]

I made $3,000 off of selling electronics this week, as of yesterday, camera equipment. I got a quote for $4,000.

[Ramit Sethi]

What? Are you serious?

[Michael]

Yeah. Whoa. That's going to ship on Saturday.

[Ramit Sethi]

Wait. This is awesome. You know, I don't think anyone in America has ever seen me smile before. This is the first time I've ever been publicly photographed smiling. I can't believe it.

[Imani]

Yeah, he's. He. He's paid off. That's how we got rid of the. The. The buy now pay later debt. It was over. It was almost $4,000. And we're going to the next biggest thing, right, that we need to get like some wiggle room in our CSP. So we're going to tackle that with that $4,000. That's going to wipe out something big on here.

[Ramit Sethi]

Honestly, phenomenal. Phenomenal. What, what you just said, I really love. I especially love it the way that you took what we talked about and you adapted it for your own needs. Michael, when we talked, you know, you dropped how many laptops you have and cameras and all this stuff. I'd never heard anybody have that much electronic stuff. What got you to look at those things in a different way and decide, I'm going to sell them?

[Michael]

Be truthful. After our. Our conversation, I. I got kind of pissed off.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah?

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

Tell me.

[Michael]

I'm like, this is ridiculous. I kind of got the fever to start selling stuff, so now I can't stop. Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

It's amazing. Like, you, you. What was it, 10 laptops, something like that?

[Michael]

Yeah, it was 10 laptops.

[Imani]

Yeah.

[Michael]

I still get. I got. Still got plenty of head room to sell more.

[Ramit Sethi]

So how many do you have?

[Michael]

I probably got about another 10 or 15,000 to sell.

[Ramit Sethi]

What. What are you gonna do with the money?

[Michael]

Yes. Oh, we're gonna pay off debt.

[Ramit Sethi]

This is amazing.

[Imani]

Yeah, I'm. I'm just super proud of Michael.

[Ramit Sethi]

This is one of my favorite parts of my job. It is incredible and also rare to get to talk to someone after they have made massive life changes. You have to understand how hard it is to actually make a major change in life. Like when someone cuts their grocery spending by $300 a month, I don't just see a number. I see someone recalibrating their role, reassessing their very identity, and making decisions in a way they have never made before. Michael did this and more. This guy spent 20 years buying computers, filling up rooms with gadgets, and building an identity around them. Four weeks ago, he said I can get rid of stuff. I thought, all right, I'll take you at your word. But let's see if you actually follow through. Not only did he follow through, he actually found joy in the process. He turned what was once a weakness into a strength. That is advanced level thinking. If you have help to make a major life change, you will be shocked at the kind of results you can get. You can literally change your life in less than three months. That's exactly what we do in our money coaching program. If you are ready to take control of your money, pay off debt, start investing. Make sure your money is going where you want it to go. Join my Money coaching [e-mail] moneycoaching you hear a lot of advice about starting a business that tells you to just start, just start, just get started. Well, I remember starting my business and every step was confusing. Do I need the right website? How does this tech platform work? Does this plugin function? With that plugin, how do I take payments? What's a merchant account? Well, the great part is there are now tools that make it way easier than when I was starting out. And this episode sponsor, Shopify is a great example. Shopify is built for people who do not want to spend weeks tinkering around to figure out the right shipping zones and sales tax settings. Shopify's technology lets you start off simple and as you grow, it can become as complex as you need it to be. In fact, it can even connect you in store online whether you've got one location or a thousand. And it makes shopping easier for your customers because you can ship directly to customer buy online, pick up in store. It gives your staff tools to handle every part of the process that they need. And because acquiring customers is expensive, Shopify helps you keep the ones that you've got. It's got first party data built in personalization and you can become more effective with your marketing. One report, Ernst and Young showed that businesses using Shopify POS saw an average of 8.9% boost in sales. Get all the big stuff for your small business right with Shopify. Sign up for your $1 per month trial and start selling today at shopify.com ramit go to shopify.com ramit shopify.com ramit okay, is there anything else left to sell that we have not yet talked about?

[Imani]

The only thing now for me to look at is do I have too many clothes in my closet and do I need to set up a poshmark store? So that's what I'm gonna look At.

[Ramit Sethi]

You want me to tell you the answer? It's a yes or no. I'll tell you in five seconds.

[Imani]

Tell me.

[Ramit Sethi]

Just show me the camera. Take it in the closet. We'll decide right now.

[Imani]

Oh, God, the closet isn't enough. You mean, like, go in my bedroom? In the closet? Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

Whoa. We got a. Is this a big old walk in closet?

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah, it is. Oh, let me describe what I'm looking at, please. Just. Just very slowly, very slowly. So we have a. A large walk in closet with two rows of clothes. We have. They are full. Absolutely full. I. She just panned down, and I'm seeing the number of shoes here. All right, we got damn near 35 pairs of shoes. She was very careful not to go up.

[Imani]

Oh.

[Ramit Sethi]

God, I love my life. Okay, I see some bags up there. Lots of color. I see blue, red. I see a green blazer on the. On the rack. I see a leopard print.

[Imani]

I don't know if I want the answer.

[Ramit Sethi]

Well, my wife is a personal stylist, and she's done this for hundreds and hundreds of clients, including many successful women. So I'm not going to speak for her. I'll just speak for myself. I would say probably, yes. What if. What if, just as a thought experiment, and we can just hang for just one more second. What if you got rid of 50% of your clothes?

[Imani]

Oh, that would be so traumatic, because I've done that before. I've done. I had a stylist come in and I got rid of. And then I got rid of 75% of my clothes.

[Ramit Sethi]

And then what happened? Oh, you bought it back. All right. You could take us back to the other room. Thank you very much and a big round of applause for showing us that closet. That was cool. It actually tells me so much, and I really appreciate it. All right, so, Imani, you said something interesting. You said that would be traumatic if I had to sell 50% of my clothes. It's interesting because Michael has 10 laptops, and he's probably going to end up selling how many of them, Michael?

[Michael]

Well, we definitely would get down to 2.

[Imani]

I seriously did that. Like, I have pictures of my closet when we did that, so. So maybe. Maybe I'll try again. What is off limits are the Converse sneakers. Not selling any of those.

[Ramit Sethi]

I saw quite a few of those. How many would you say you have?

[Imani]

20 pair. 20 pair.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right.

[Imani]

Yeah, that's my thing.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right. This is a remarkable parallel between Michael's computers and Imani's shoes. Although the price is a little different. Michael, you want to say anything right now or no?

[Michael]

No, I'm giving her wrong. I'm sure she's going to make the right decision and where she can live and can't live with, so.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right, I respect it. Cool. Well, listen, you don't have to sell. Nobody has to do anything.

[Imani]

The other thing for me is looking around and how we did so much with less as we were growing up. And like society will tell you and social media will tell you that you have to have the newest, brightest, shiniest thing. And through this process, I'm realizing that that's not the stuff that makes me happy.

[Ramit Sethi]

Last time that we spoke, we talked about your visions of a rich life, and there were two different visions that emerged from our conversation. Michael, you wanted simplicity and decluttering. Imani, you wanted travel and shared expenses. So as part of the homework, I asked you to come up each with a detailed vision of your rich life and then speak about them together first. Just checking in. Did you complete the exercise? Imani first, then Michael.

[Imani]

We kind of did. We arrived at a shared vision of owning a place outside of America, like Panama. We actually talked about Panama because Michael lived in Panama when he was in the military. So we have actively been, you know, talking to friends that live and that have condos in other places. And so that's a part of our rich life. It is decluttering, getting things sold like he's doing, getting things cleaned out. And, you know, when he retires and I'm location independent, you know, we're going to look at putting that plan into action. So as we pay off debt, look at how do we get to the point where we can buy a place in a location like. Like a Panama or a Costa Rica or a Cartagena, you know, somewhere in that area of the world in order to live.

[Michael]

It's a shared vision, definitely decluttering and selling. And again, living abroad. And I had to worry about, well, you know, I have a house full of stuff here that I got to worry about.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Love it. Okay. Wow. This is quite a. Quite a bit of a shared vision. Different than when we talked last time, which I love. Decluttering fits in because you can't make it happen unless you declutter a bunch of stuff. Decluttering also helps get you there faster.

[Imani]

I really think the last conversation, after we had the conversation, kind of thinking about the time where I said, you know, I'm gonna tap out. I think that affected him a lot. I didn't mean to come off that way, but I Think for Michael, he's one of those people that you have to find something that moves him emotionally. And for me, I was just exhausted, right? Like, I felt like he wasn't hearing me. And I think after our conversation, I'm like, oh, he's starting to hear me, right? He understands what's at stake here. Because I don't want to do this anymore. I'm tired of doing this, right? Because you ask what's going to change? And I see the change and it's been sustainable. And, you know, he's like, can you mail this for me? Can you, can you get a box? And I'm like running around trying to find boxes to mail stuff. And, you know, as much as I'm like, I'm like, but it's good, right? Keep doing it. Let's keep, let's keep this up. Let's, let's, let's keep this up. So I'm excited that we are moving toward a vision.

[Ramit Sethi]

Michael, what did you learn about Imani's dreams through this process and through our last conversation?

[Michael]

She wants to explore. She wants to go out and see some more of the world.

[Ramit Sethi]

Michael, when we talked last, you had trouble coming up with your own dreams. If I were to ask you today, what are some of your dreams, what would you say?

[Michael]

My dream, stress free life, not being surrounded by clutter and to get into a position financially where I could reach out and help others.

[Ramit Sethi]

What does that mean?

[Michael]

Well, I have nieces and nephews and other family members that haven't had some of the opportunities and money and myself have had. So it'd be pretty neat to pay for them to go on a trip to somewhere like the Grand Canyon or maybe take a trip to Jamaica, because financially they're not in a position to do that. So I think that would be pretty cool.

[Ramit Sethi]

My mind is. My mind is turning right now. I love the vision between the two of you starting to create a dream together. This vacation home that you may have traveling abroad. It's just getting my wheels turning that. Michael, I love your vision. And what a beautiful cherry on top that when the debt is paid off, perhaps after the two of you have gone on a couple of international trips, just the two of you. Look at Imani's face. Look at that smile. Then and only then, do you perhaps say, we'd like to invite a couple of our nephews and nieces with us. I mean, you two could be the cool travel relatives. That'll be awesome. Yeah, but you all come first. Can we take a look at your Revised conscious spending plan.

[Michael]

Sure, sure.

[Ramit Sethi]

All right. You sent this over. I've been very interested to take a look at this. This is the one that you changed based on our conversations. All right, so I assume your net worth has not changed much. Maybe you dropped the debt a little bit. Correct.

[Imani]

It's actually changed quite a bit.

[Ramit Sethi]

Oh, tell me.

[Imani]

Because our investments went up quite a bit.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, we got to take it from the top then. Read. Read me off the word in bold and the number in full next to it, please.

[Imani]

Okay. Assets, 603,000, 315, which is car, home, property, and business investment, $795,005.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay.

[Imani]

Savings, 8,523. That's a little low, but we're working on it. And our debt's 590, 486. I think that's changed by about because it was over 600 than before.

[Ramit Sethi]

Whoa. So with a total net worth of $816,000, what does that feel like to you?

[Imani]

Amazing. Look, we are going to be at a million, and once we pay this debt down, we. If we had no debt, right? If we had just the mortgage, we'd be well over a million today. Yeah, right. And what I'm looking at, like, I look at a lot of financial calculators and things like that, and they say the longest time is to make the first hundred thousand. Right. And then after that, it compounds. So I'm like, the compounding of the numbers is what I'm going after. Like, I. I opened up a little Roth thing on the side since our last conversation that I'm like, putting a little bit of money in, flying a little bit stock. You know, I like to see, like, I'm excited seeing that those values change. Right. And so looking at how do we wipe the debt out so that our net worth continues to rise.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great. Your. Your net worth since we last spoke four weeks ago has increased by $28,000.

[Imani]

Wow.

[Ramit Sethi]

Can we give a round of applause here? That is amazing. So basically, on the net worth side, investments went up, debt went down. Fantastic. All right, well done. Let's continue moving along your fixed costs. 79%.

[Imani]

It's down a little.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yeah, I believe it was 83% last time.

[Michael]

Yeah, I think so. Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

So 79, still pretty high, but we're going in the right direction. Looking at your fixed cost changes, I notice a couple of other things. You're paying a little bit more towards your debt, which makes sense. You have cut your grocery spend by 500amonth. Exactly. To your point, Imani, we're Being more economical, we're actually using what we buy. Great. You cut your clothes spend by 200 bucks a month. So what is that? No more clothes for a while?

[Imani]

Do I need them?

[Ramit Sethi]

Exactly. Well done. Love that you cut your subscriptions by 30. What? You cut for 30 bucks?

[Imani]

It was some podcast thing that I was subscribing to to learn how to be a reseller. I already learned enough that I need, so I have.

[Ramit Sethi]

I was like, wait, do we have a premium membership? And my own guests just canceled our own membership. It's going to happen one day. All right, so total, you brought your fixed cost down by $621 a month, which brought you from 83 to 79%. Not bad. Not bad going in the right direction. What. What is remarkable is how easy it is to reduce grocery spend. And again, most people don't shop to a number. When they finally do, they can cut it by often hundreds of dollars. Okay, great. Investments went up to 3%. From 1% to 3%. Okay, not bad. Total investments went up by about 300 bucks a month. Okay, fine. Savings went up by $300 a month. How'd you do that?

[Imani]

We just reallocated some of the, like the grocery money, and we said we need to be putting things aside for savings. So things like the dryer.

[Ramit Sethi]

Right, Nice.

[Imani]

So I don't have to put that on a credit card so that the debt goes up.

[Michael]

Right. Instead of me taking $100, me taking only 60 or $70, that's $120 a month right there.

[Ramit Sethi]

It really does add up. Especially my favorite word of all that was we just reallocated. That's exactly what it is. Some of this stuff should be so simple. It's like flipping a switch. That's basically money. Once you set your infrastructure up right, I flip this, I flip that. Oh, I added an extra $675,000 to my net worth by the time I'm 72 years old. How? I flipped a switch. That's the approach we are getting to. Okay, great. You are paying a total of $5,400 a month towards debt. It's pretty aggressive. And you've made your plan. You know, you're debt free by 2030. How do you feel about it?

[Imani]

Great.

[Michael]

I think it's great.

[Imani]

There are some. Again, that's the conservative. Right? There are some levers in there. There's an investment that I have that it'll come back, it'll be like $30,000. And so that'll, you know, things like that. Plus the Electronics, plus the poshmark sale of clothes, like that kind of stuff will start to. To accelerate that. 2030, I want to get that to, like, 2028.

[Ramit Sethi]

I think it's possible. I think it's very possible. When you really are both partners dialed in, it's like you're both rowing a boat together. You can go faster, further than you ever thought possible. And things like bonuses, selling things, it becomes this upward spiral. It's just awesome. Okay. Love it. Michael, when we last spoke, you wanted somebody to tell you your options. And I'd actually like to give you some options today.

[Michael]

Okay, cool.

[Ramit Sethi]

These options are from our partners at Facet. And Facet created three. Three retirement scenarios for you. I want to jump in quickly, give a little context on the information that we shared with Facet so you can understand how a financial advisor can craft these scenarios, because I think it's helpful to understand what you are about to see. We asked Imani and Michael to provide a list of their investment accounts and balances. A breakdown of their debt by type, amount and interest rate, their desired retirement ages, which is 62 for Imani, 67 for Michael, and their expected pension and Social Security amounts. This is basically what any financial advisor would ask you to share if you are considering working with them. We also shared Imani and Michael's original CSP so that facet could get an idea of their monthly spending. Now, let's check out these scenarios. To your credit, you have created a debt payoff plan so you know that your fixed costs are artificially high because you're paying so aggressively towards your debt. But I'd like to give you three scenarios now that Facet prepared for you. Tell me which scenario sounds interesting to you.

[Michael]

Sure.

[Ramit Sethi]

Scenario one. We'll call this the baseline scenario. Imani, in this scenario, you retire at age 62. Michael retires at age 67. Your spending stays the same as it was on your original conscious spending plan. So far, so good. The problem is your assets are depleted by 2059, when Imani is aged 85 and Michael is age 98. In other words, you run out of money in retirement. Okay, how do you all feel about that? Michael says, like, what do I care? I'm gone. Meanwhile, Imani's over here shaking her head. Not for me.

[Michael]

Yeah, I think he reads mine.

[Ramit Sethi]

I'm going to take that as a.

[Michael]

No, no, no, no.

[Ramit Sethi]

But I just want to point out that that's the baseline that you would have been. You would have run out of money. And in fact, without changes, it's Possible you could still run out of money. So I want you to be aware of this. Scenario two, we delay Michael's retirement by one year and we reduce spending. Now. Let me walk you through the details. In scenario two, Imani retires at 62. Michael retires at age 68. He is delayed by one year for retirement. Your 401k contributions are reduced to the minimum just to get the match. And if a match is available, take it for now. That spare cash is redirected to an emergency fund. And then high interest debt. You reduce your guilt free spending to $800 per month. You reduce your joint spending by $500 a month. You've actually already done that in the new CSP Facet recommended something that I wanted to bring to your attention. They said if the Sun's expenses like food, utilities and subscriptions are included, they can and should start participating in household expenses as they are 21 and 25 years old. If you followed these suggestions, your assets will last through Imani. Being 95 years old, how do you feel about this scenario?

[Imani]

I like that scenario better. Definitely better. Yeah. Because longevity is in my genes. My grandma has 91.

[Ramit Sethi]

It's very good to know.

[Michael]

Yeah. My mom is 84.

[Ramit Sethi]

Michael, what do you think about this scenario to be very doable?

[Michael]

It's very doable. Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

The thing I noticed is you'd have to reduce your guilt free spending to $800 a month total. Right now you are at 1425.

[Michael]

Yeah, yeah. I think we definitely could do it.

[Imani]

We can do that. Like just have to do more free things. Right. Like go to the park, go to the museum.

[Ramit Sethi]

It's doable.

[Michael]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that doesn't take into account that, you know, the selling thing. I honestly think we have another maybe eight, $9,000.

[Ramit Sethi]

I think that will help a lot. I think what that does is that allows you to pay off some of this high interest debt.

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

Quick. Which actually saves you a lot of money downstream in interest payments. And so that's why I love that you're in a big hurry. Get this stuff sold, get it out and pay that debt off quickly. I love that. Michael, scenario two would require you to cut your personal spending pretty dramatically. How do you feel about that? I'm.

[Michael]

I'm good with it.

[Imani]

Okay.

[Ramit Sethi]

And Imani, how do you think this would change your day to day life?

[Imani]

Think it'll change it too much? I'll just engage the boys and, and I think the conversation with them about participating in the household finances and contributing, I think it's Fair. It's a fair conversation.

[Ramit Sethi]

Would you be willing to ask them to contribute some amount?

[Imani]

Yeah, I'm gonna do. Yeah, we. Yeah, definitely.

[Ramit Sethi]

Great.

[Imani]

I've said it to the oldest one several times, and he just kind of.

[Ramit Sethi]

Gives me that goofy look that doesn't work on me. If it doesn't work for you, give me a call. I love telling kids no. All right, let's go on to scenario three. Delay retirement and add $15,000 for travel and experiences. Let's talk about this one. In this case, Imani retires at age 62. Michael retires at age 70, meaning he delays his retirement by three years. Michael and Imani each spend $400 monthly on guilt free spending, personal needs, etc. Joint spending would be reduced by $500, which you've already done in your new CSP 401k contributions. Reduce them to the minimum for the match. If you have one available for now, use that for an emergency fund and then high interest debt. What this would allow you to do is to spend an additional $15,000 every single year on travel starting at Michael's age 70 until Imani's age 80. That is 23 years in total. And look at Imani's face. Imani's saying. What'd you just say? I'll read it back again. This would allow you to spend an additional $15,000 annually on travel starting at Michael's age 70 until Imani's age, age 80, which is a total of 23 years. And your assets would last until Imani turns 95 years old. What do you think?

[Imani]

Wow, that's a lot of travel. That's, that's, that's a little first class travel in there.

[Ramit Sethi]

What's the trade off? How did you get to be able to do that? Did you catch it?

[Imani]

Yep. We had to cut our spending. Michael had to work, work longer, three years long. I didn't have to work any longer. Michael had to work three years longer.

[Ramit Sethi]

Yes. We're really starting to think about mortality here. Quality of life. 70 years old, traveling from 70 to 75, 76, 80 years old, et cetera, et cetera. There are trade offs to consider. People get injured, people get sick, etc. So we want to think about all these things. But just off the cuff, how does it strike you Imani loves the idea of travel? I can tell that. Michael, how do you feel about working until age 70?

[Michael]

I'm good with it. Probably not in the capacity that I'm doing it right now.

[Imani]

I think it's viable as well. You know, I me retiring at 62, when I look at the 400, 101K, Social Security, right? Like that's the minimum amount I would get. It would be behoove me to work a little longer. If I'm still doing a remote job like I do now, that's great. If not, you know, I hope to be doing something that I truly love by that point. And you know, it won't be like work, right? You know, something like you do for me, like enjoy and help people and, you know, be able to make my own schedule. That's great. So I think it's doable. I honestly think it's doable. I don't know that I want him to have to work till 70 though. I don't think I want him to have to work to 70.

[Ramit Sethi]

I mean, you have cards to play. You know, I have this philosophy in business which is live to fight another day. And what it means is just always have a plan B, a plan C, a plan D, live to fight another day. And I think that you have a lot of cards to play. You have bonuses, you have expense reduction, you have your sons who should definitely be contributing financially, which would dramatically change the contours of your financial situation, especially if they were charged. You don't have to charge them full market rate, but you charge them something, you know, and put that towards debt, et cetera. You have cards to play, a lot of them. It probably takes thinking about now that you've created your debt payoff plan and you see how quickly you can make progress. Now it's time to go to the next concentric circle, the next layer of making decisions. What kind of life do we want to lead? You know, as we get older, as we get into this next chapter of life, what is our life going to look like? And that's when you start making these kind of trade offs. Is Michael going to work until 67, 68, 70? How do we see our life going? Do we want to wait until 70 to travel or do we want to bake in? A little trip here and a little trip there and if so, let's actually map it out. That's how I would think about it.

[Michael]

Right, Because I kind of want to travel now. I think one of the, one of the things that Imani and I have talked about is so in 2027 is my full retirement age year for Social Security. And in May I will be 67. So I'll be at full retirement age. Whereas I could draw my full Social Security plus my military pension, plus plus consult and not be penalized, Social Security wise. So that's another factor that we have to factor into it, too. Do we go with option B or do we go with option C, which is work longer? Hopefully the plan is get this debt paid off by selling and be in a position where we can say, okay, option B is the best option.

[Ramit Sethi]

Got it. So, Michael, for you, option B is the one that you would choose if you could choose?

[Michael]

Yes.

[Ramit Sethi]

Okay, great. And, Imani, what about you?

[Imani]

I think option B for the reason of I don't want him to have to work till 70. I like the idea of travel, but there are levers, like you said, there are levers we can pull to get and bake in the travel. I want to bake in the travel before then. Right. I want us to take, you know, it doesn't have to be a $15,000 trip. It could be, you know, 1 4, $5,000 trip a year. Right. You know, go to the. Take a cruise or take a driving trip. Right.

[Ramit Sethi]

Like, do.

[Imani]

But be intentional about planning the time, you know, with each other and our families to just connect.

[Ramit Sethi]

I love that. I think you could do it. I think you can more than do it.

[Michael]

I think so, too.

[Imani]

I mean, I agree. I think it'll be. It'll be great for him to be able to retire and for us to. To have a good plan to, like you said, pay off high interest debt, to put some away, the emergency fund, like, building that up. I like that. You know, everybody tells you, max out your 401k, max out your 401k, max out YOUR 401k. And I get it. Right. I kind of wish I had done that when I was younger and didn't have a whole lot of debt, but the best time to start is now. And so backing that back down to stock some of that money aside for, like, and build up that $8,500 that we got, like, and save it. Like, I want that to be like a hundred thousand, right? Like, set aside and then, you know, to be able to handle any type of things that come our way or emergencies or, you know, with that kind of money, you can help people. Like, we talked about being able to take a vacation. We can, you know, grab a little something off of there and figure out, you know, what. What does it look like to take a family vacation and how do we plan that out and, you know, all of that. I like the idea of getting the boys involved and contributing to the household.

[Ramit Sethi]

You know, your boys are lucky to have you, that you can give them the room to be able to kick start their lives and, you know, have a little bit of ease in getting into it. I think a lot of people would love to be able to have that. So I totally appreciate whatever decision you make with your sons, whether or not they financially contribute today or tomorrow to your family finances. You have many other levers to pull many. It's the bonuses, it's the work, it's the guilt free spending, knocking one debt down after another and effectively reallocating extra dollars when they become available. I don't have any doubt you can do it because you're already doing it right now since we taught it four weeks ago. So I'm loving it. I'm very confident in the two of you. Imani, before we met, this is what you wrote on your application. Quote, I want to separate our finances. In fact, I am so upset that I suggested we combine them four years ago. How do you feel hearing that back now?

[Imani]

I don't feel that way anymore. You know, for the, the vast majority of our marriage, we had separate accounts and we paid the bills out of a joint account. I think combining them makes you accountable to one another in a different way. But we, you know, now we, we still have little separate things. Like, based on our conversation with you, everybody has to have some separate money that they can do what they need to do with. But, you know, for me, again, it was the control thing. It was, you know, Michael's hiding something over here from me, right? I need to get my hands on everything to see what's coming in, because I know he's hiding something over there, you know, And I think that seeing the change and building that level of trust back, right? So, yeah, I felt that way. Four, five, six, whenever I put the applicant, I felt that way. I was like this. Like I told you, if this didn't work, it didn't, didn't change. I was tapping and I felt that. Yeah, I felt that, but I don't feel that anymore. You stuck with me, brother.

[Ramit Sethi]

What do you feel now, Imani? If you had to describe it in a couple of words, I feel excited.

[Imani]

I feel inspired, I feel energized. I feel like, you know, Michael said something to the effect if he wanted to be the man that I married, I think he's getting back to that man. For a while there, I was like, I don't know who this joker is over here.

[Ramit Sethi]

What about you, Michael? How do you feel now versus when we first started talking on our first.

[Michael]

Conversation, what's exciting for me Rabit is I enjoy selling as much as I did buying it.

[Ramit Sethi]

That is interesting.

[Michael]

That was scary.

[Imani]

Like, I like.

[Michael]

I like doing this. When the money started coming in, I like, wow, this. This feels kind of good.

[Ramit Sethi]

That's pretty interesting.

[Michael]

Yeah.

[Ramit Sethi]

I think that next level is one you've already tapped into putting together the plan and paying off debt and investing and. And then the ultimate level is defining our rich life and actually starting to go down that list of things. Yeah, that's a beautiful transition.

[Imani]

It was thinking back to childhood, and kind of the reason why I. I approach things the way that I do is the dynamic between my parents. My mom, you know, handled the money, did all the things, you know, But I know that in order to change our future. Right. I've got to let him be a partner and not someone that I'm pulling along for the ride. Right. Like, this is his life, too. So the things that. That I wanted to see differently play out in my marriage, I can do that. Right? We can have those conversations. And again, if he's willing to make the change, then I have to be supportive to allow him to do that. Now, if he wasn't willing to make the change, then I can make a decision based on that as well. Fortunately for us, he decided to get with the program.

[Ramit Sethi]

Wow. What a transformation. This is what happens when two people come together with a shared vision for their rich life. Just a few weeks ago, Imani was feeling disconnected and actually unsure about her future with Michael. Today, she is smiling. She's connected. You can see how money goes far deeper than the numbers alone, guys. This is why talking about budgets misses the point. Yes, math is important. Numbers matter. But that's table stakes. Real transformations happen when you create a powerful vision for your life, whether it's traveling the world or retiring early or simply staying together and thriving as a couple. Do you remember that? At first, Michael didn't even see a path to retirement. He wasn't sure if he could pay off his debt before he died. But once they saw their options laid out clearly, something amazing happened. They started working together to decide what the right path would be. This is how a tool like Facet can completely change the game for someone who feels stuck or unsure. Now, when you're younger, you can afford to be a little loose with your assumptions. Save 10%, invest 10%, you'll probably be fine. But as you get closer to retirement, precision becomes critical, and that's where Facet comes in. They helped Imani and Michael map out specific scenarios and how much they would need to save what would happen if they retired early, how to balance their spending today with their future goals. It's kind of like walking into an empty house and suddenly seeing where everything fits. Suddenly the decisions they were making started to make sense. On a personal level, I am extremely impressed with the work that they did. Sure, it's going to be a long road, but now they are doing it as a team. So a huge thank you to Imani and Michael for sharing their journey. Now you thank not once but twice and most importantly for putting in the work to get where they are today. If you are ready to take control of your financial future, head over to facet.com Ramit Facet is waiving their $250 enrollment fee for new annual members and for my audience they are offering $300 in your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Don't wait. Start building your rich life today. Facet is an SEC Registered Investment Advisor. Investing involves serious risks and past performance is not a guarantee of future performance or success. I'm not a member of Facet. I have an incentive to endorse Facet as I have an ongoing fee based contract for cash compensation. Based on this endorsement. My opinions are included and should not be interpreted as a recommendation or research regarding any investment or investment strategy, legal or tax advice. Let's check out their follow ups now.

[Imani]

Hi Romani here with our four week post for Meat Update. Michael and I have been hard at work selling some of his electronics clients collection and paying off some of the debt. We have paid off over $10,000 using the funds from those sales. We've also stopped contributing to our kids 529 accounts and actually used one of those to pay down about $7,000 off of my student loan debt. So that's been great. Getting some momentum there. We are meeting this weekend to have our money discussion led by hi Michael to talk about our plans for the rest of the year and starting off 2026. What we're going to pay off, how we're going to pay it off, generate some ideas of ways to bring in some extra income so that we can get things paid off faster. We're also going to plan a vacation with some friends next year and set aside money in a separate account to save for that. So you know overall what I learned in our process is is that we have the finances to be able to dig ourselves out of this hole. We just have to work together and come up with what our vision for a rich life looks like and also I was affirmed through talking with Ramit about the fact that I do know what I'm talking about. I've done the research, I read the books and that it is okay for us to learn how to work together to get back to a good financial place. I'm excited for the future and I'm so grateful for all the advice that Ramit gave us. Thanks.

[Michael]

So hello Ramit, this is Michael. Just giving you an update on progress. So, so far I think I've sold close to $4,500 $5,000 worth of camera equipment and old electronics. So I'm out in the garage today sorting through the garage. So I'll give you an overhead shot and kind of pan around. So as you can see, I got quite, quite a bit to sort through. Just going through electronics to see what I could sell to generate more cash value to reduce the debt. We continue to work through our spend plan and debt reduction plan. We'll keep you updated on the progress. And as you can see, I got to go because I had a lot of work to do. Thanks and have a good day.

[Ramit Sethi]

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