Bo (3:53)

I think another thing that's just important to mention because we get some flack on this in the comments. No one's messy middle is exactly the same. Just because your messy middle looks different than someone else's messy middle does not mean that you're not in the messy middle. I mean, it's, it's not a. You might have a great income and you've got the financial piece kind of figured out, but because you have young kids and a bunch of commitments and time is just, you may be in the messy middle, even though maybe financially you're not having the exact same struggles as someone else, or maybe you don't have all the family commitments yet, you don't have all the other stuff going on. But man, just trying to get your dollars to do what you need them to do with all the different stuff pulling you in all kinds of different directions. You may very well be in the messy middle. So be careful letting someone else define, oh, my situation's worse than yours or I've got it worse. You're not dealing with this. Just like personal finance is personal, messy middle is personal. I love that you said, Brian, you were able to come out of it when you're. Because your kids were still relatively young. I mean, they weren't like baby, baby kids, but they weren't out of the house at that point. But you did start to have some, some relaxation, some deep breath, some, hey, life is not quite as hard right now as it was the past year. The past two years. The past three years.

Brian (5:07)

Yeah. Just to give perspective on that, I'm doing this really quick mental accounting and public accounting, which is always scary. Yeah. You'd written 2012 and 6. 12 and 6 years of age. Yeah, that makes sense. Yeah. They can feed themselves. You're not changing diapers right now. You're sitting here thinking about, my third child is six years old. Man, my life is going to be so much. I bet it feels. Because you know what's so interesting on how I think our human, us humans are designed is we are wired that when, that, when that baby can start feeding itself, start going to the restroom and then it starts talking to you and hugging you and telling you. All of a sudden it's like you forgot how hard the first 18 months were. And I think we're designed that way. Yes. You're going to have to selflessly take care of this, this bundle of joy because they won't survive on their own. And then we have been designed in a way that when they get to be about three, three years of age or even two and a half and they start showing some love to you, like, maybe it wasn't so bad. Let's do it again, man.

Bo (6:14)

Can I tell just a quick funny aside that happened yesterday. Of course my kids like eating frozen blueberries. I don't know why, it's just saying like, bag of frozen blueberries. And so my wife the other day, I have a little boy, he's about to be two years old, and he was sitting in the high chair and my wife just gives him just a bowl of frozen blueberries. So what do you think happened?

Brian (6:33)

It sounds like these turned into weapons or something.

Bo (6:35)

No, no, no. He's just covered head to toe. Like he's like here to here, blueberry everybody. And I don't deal with messes. It's not my thing. I don't like messy fingers.

Brian (6:43)

Oh, you deal with them. You just don't like them.

Bo (6:44)

And so I'm looking at this kid, and I'm like, that's gross. Like, that's. That's pretty rough. Dude. You. You. This looks like a crime scene. I mean, just blueberry goo all over him. And you know what he did? He looked at me and he goes, dad, dad, come here, son. Right. Like, it's so. You're exactly right. That's exactly the way that it happens.

Brian (7:04)

So we bringing a fourth one to the world.

Bo (7:06)

We out.

Brian (7:09)

So maybe there are limits.

Janine (7:12)

All right, thank you, Janine, for your question. Next up, we've got Holly S. Who sounds like she might be entering the messy middle.

Bo (7:19)

Okay.

Brian (7:20)

She.

Janine (7:20)

She says, hi, guys. My fiance and I are getting married in December. Oh, congratulations. As we look to merge our finances, what advice do you guys have for this transition process?

Bo (7:31)

When it comes to couples? There's one big piece of advice that we often try to communicate, and it is communicate, communicate, communicate. Like, as you go into this marriage, as you prepare to begin this union that you're entering into, you want to have the conversations around, hey, who are we? What do we value? What do we want our life to look like? And specifically, how do we think about money? Like, what are going to be our goals as a couple? Do we want to travel? And when do we want to have kids? And what do we want to do before we have kids? And what do we do after we have kids? And I think if you can begin to have those conversations before you get into the marriage, before things start to get heavy and before things start to get hard, there's a really good chance you're going to set yourself up for success, especially having conversations around, you know, this year would be a great time. Hey, let's do a combined net worth statement. This is gonna be our first year married. What's it. Okay, here's all the stuff that I've been doing. Here's my checking account, savings account, investment accounts, and here's the debts that I have. And here's the checking account, savings account, investment accounts, and debt that you. Okay, great. We have these debts. What's our goal? How are we going to pay this off? Like, is my debt my debt? Or when we get married, is my debt your debt? And, like, how are we going to approach this? And I think if you can have a very open and honest and candid conversation, you're going to remove the propensity for any surprises to come. You don't want to get into the new year get into January, the first paycheck hits, and then all of a sudden, oh, well, I was going to. Now that my, now that our incomes combined, I'm going to go pay off some debt.

Brian (9:03)

Whoa.

Bo (9:03)

We didn't, we didn't talk about that. That wasn't part of the plan. If you can do that on the front end, there's just a much better chance that you're going to be able to navigate hard financial decisions because ultimately you're going to face hard decisions. If you can start from a place of communication, you're likely going to set yourself up well, long term.

Brian (9:20)

Holly, congratulations. I think it's super exciting when I find out people are getting married. I even celebrated at our annual Christmas parties. I tell how many babies came into the firm this year, how many marriages were happening, all kind of cool stuff like that. And so I think this is one of those life moments to definitely celebrate. I wrote down two quick things, or really it's two to three quick decision points. If you're, if you and your fiance are both fabulously broke and young, don't overcomplicate this. This is, it's the easiest thing. And I think this is a lot of people. If you're, if you're broke and young and you both come into this marriage with not a lot going on, I want you to embrace the broke and just unite everything. Just bring it all together. Do the joint. Do the joint checking accounts. Do the joint everything that you can to make sure you're tackling two becomes one on that. Now, if there's a complication point. So that's why I'm putting the asterisk out there. If this is an older marriage, meaning that maybe there's children from a previous marriage or you're just older. So because you're older or. And here's the other complication. One of you has assets and the other has like, lots of debt and other things. Those are complications that we need to address. It doesn't mean that you still don't embrace the unite, because I like joint accounts for, for married couples because, you know, especially with what you're paying, the bills, what you're making, those savings and investment goals for the future. I like those to be joint accounts because money is a tool, but it's a tool that sometimes, if used in an unhealthy way, can have power. And I see too often couples who, the, the power component of money can make things very uncomfortable in the future where. Because more than more, more likely than not, one of you is going to have more success than the other in your career. And you don't want to get even if you don't want to get in a power play where one spouse is having to ask the other spouse for access or an allowance or something, it just. It just makes it weird. And that's. I'm not. I don't want you to get in those power plays because it just. It doesn't bring the best out in the relationship. So it doesn't mean you can't have separate account for, like, you know, premarital assets. If you inherited some money, even if you're young, you've inherited some money, and you got to protect that stuff because you. If you bring it into joint, it would. It would now make it subject to, you know, everybody, you know, complexity. It co. Mingles it. But I still want you to have that joint account so that y'all can make those marriage decisions still two becoming one. And. And you take out that power structure so that there's not weird things that happen as your marriage goes 10, 20, 30, 40, even 50 years.

Bo (12:13)

It's awesome. It's a fun ride. Congratulations.

Janine (12:16)

Great. Congratulations, Holly. We're super excited for you. And thank you for your question. The next one is from Kyle V. He says, I have $30,000 in a 529 for me, but I graduated from college. I. I know that I can only use 10,000 of that for my student loans. So I'm wondering, what would you recommend I do with the rest? Roth distributions. Pay out with a penalty. Anything else you guys can think of?

Bo (12:43)

Yeah. So it's interesting. The legislation changed a few years ago. A few years ago. That said, hey, if you do have excess 529 funds and a few things happen, the account has been open for at least 15 years, few other things that have to be in place, you can then use those excess funds to fund Roth ira. So now if this is your money and it's your 529 and you're now the one who is in possession of these funds, I don't think it's crazy to think about you can do ultimately $35,000 into Roth, so that would fund your Roth IRA contributions for the next couple of years. I don't think it's crazy to use the 529 assets to do that. But here's what I don't want you to do, because those assets are already there. I don't want you to use them as a crutch to not continue saving, to not continue putting money away. So if I decide to, to take $7,000 out of that 529 and put it in my Roth and max out my Roth, the $7,000 that I would have saved to my Roth otherwise, I want to go to the financial order of operations and figure out, okay, where does that need to go? Do I put that into my 401k? Am I doing step six? Do I max out my HSA? And step five, am I in step seven? Do I do an after tax brokerage account? I think it's great to use the dollars that way, but I would not use it as a crutch for you to lower or miss your savings rate. What else, Brian, would you say, should he cash it out? Pay taxes, pay penalties, Is it worth it?

Brian (14:06)

No. I mean, what I was sitting here writing is that if you pay a penalty or even taxes on this 30 grand, you've probably not maximized the moment because there's just 30,000. Look, it's a chunk of money, but it's a small enough number that it's consumable over a few years that I love because I think you're on the right branch of the, the tree. And the fact that paying you, if you could take out $10,000 of student loans, let's do it, because that's all, you know, it even ties into the whole intention of setting up a 529 being for education. So let's, let's wipe out student loans. And then I am with you. But I think that I also want to give some grace here. Is that right? A lot of times when you're right out of college, even if you're saving like 15%, you're in your 20s and you're trying to save 15% for the future, you might not be able to max out the Roth because you're in your first job. You got a lot of life coming at you. And you know, because I know there were a few years when I was starting out, you know, you can only save a thousand bucks, two thousand, three thousand bucks, definitely. If you're squeezed, even though you're making good, disciplined decisions of starting, automating your financial life and saving and investing, go ahead and use these 529s to fill up the bucket completely. Let's maximize those Roth contributions, get the full $7,000 in there because it's not an addition. That's the point you were making when they funded this. I got so excited. We had journalists and everybody reaching out going, aren't you super excited? You turned 529s into Roth.

Bo (15:39)

Amazing. It's amazing.

Brian (15:39)

And you're like, yeah, it's a great headline, but if you actually read the details, it's not like you got an additional avenue to get more Roth money in. They made you work still within the constraints of your annual funding numbers. So that's why you need to be mindful of what this does to discipline, use it and then maximize. The other thing we mentioned is that wasn't mentioned. You know, if you have kids this month or you have loved ones or you even want to continue your education down the road, you can transfer 529s to other 529s are set up by their 529s. But those, I think we gave you some avenues to look into between the student loans, between the Roth and even, you know, using the 529s for other education goals. But it's back to my point. I think if you pay a penalty or even taxes on this money, you are using it wrong. Love it.

Janine (16:31)

Great. Thank you so much for your question, Kyle. And thank you everybody for watching and tuning in to us. On Tuesday, you can find all the resources that we Talked about@moneyguy.com resources and we will be here every Tuesday to answer some more of your questions.

Brian (16:48)

Man, we have had an absolute blast. I think there's a theme that I felt like happened today where it's because new year, new you focusing on financial goals 529. I mean, I don't know why 5, 29, making sure you're taking advantage of net worth tools and tracking. Answering a 529 question is all in the head right now. But I really do get excited about the annual net worth, you know, statement and putting that together. So if you have not started that journey, I'm going to give you two websites I want you to go to. MoneyGuy.com resources. Tons of free stuff there. But one of the free things we offer is a template to start the net worth statement and do that annual trip and adventure with us. If you want to really accelerate this thing and actually have a dashboard to know what's going on with your money and accelerate the success of that money, I want you to go to learn.moneyguy.com and look at our net worth tool.

Bo (17:46)

Same one that we use.

Brian (17:47)

Same one we use. I absolutely love this thing because it tracks over time, shows changes over time. Here's the key part. We just talked about a very powerful tool, but money, we all have to keep this as financial means. Money is only a tool. It's not a goal. So make sure you're just harnessing that to the max of what it can do for you. I'm your host, Brian Preston. Mr. Bo Hanson. Moneyguy Team out.

Bo (18:13)

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