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EP 65 - The New Year Pressure Is Real… Here’s Our Family Reset for 2026
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B
Is the traffic so bad? Like, it's never, it's never this bad. Like, well, it's the first Sunday of the year.
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C
Yeah.
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B
So there's going to be long lines at church and long lines at the gym.
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C
Realize how fast life goes by by watching your kids grow up.
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B
I know. For whatever reason, it feels like society and culture and stuff has just gotten like, so busy and fast paced and like there's always something going on and like, let's get back to the basics and get back what family and friendship and stuff like that is meant to be and like what the table and being around the table with other people is meant to do and be.
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A
This is More Than Reality podcast, where we dive into all things faith, family and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.
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C
Hello. Hello. Happy new year.
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B
Happy 2026. This is more Than Reality podcast. This is our first episode of 2026.
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C
Yeah.
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B
And I'm still trying to figure out. I'm still trying to get like, back into my, my routine after having the kids home since like mid December.
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C
Yeah. It feels like I've been home for the summer.
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B
Oh my gosh. It's been a lot.
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C
Yep. But we're in the new year, so it's new year everything. You know, these last couple days, I don't think just like us, it's just like this. It happens. Everyone does a reset. Right. So you're resetting. I'm gonna go to the gym. I'm gonna start a diet. I'm. I'm gonna better this. I'm gonna go to church. Go to church. I'm.
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B
That was funny.
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C
Gonna read goals and stuff and. So let's talk about that. Let's talk about this Sunday.
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B
On the way to church, we were like, trying to get to the exit and, and traffic was like, crazy. And Riley's like, why Is the traffic so bad? Like, it's never. It's never this bad. Like, well, it's the first Sunday of the year.
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C
Yeah.
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B
So there's going to be long lines at church and long lines at the gym.
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C
Why. Why is it that we always have to start the new year off with like. Like, why do we wait? Why do people wait to the new year? Like, why aren't they, like, tomorrow I'm gonna do this?
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B
You know, it's just like. I mean, it's just like what you just said, tomorrow. Like, why don't you start tomorrow? Why don't you just start right now?
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C
I guess so.
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B
I mean, you know, new year, it's like a fresh start. Like, oh, like, the calendar is clean. You know, it's like day one. It's like.
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C
It's like a fresh notebook you're opening up. It's like, yeah. Satisfying.
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B
And so you want to start, you know, you want to start new, start fresh, start, you know, on a good note for the year. And, you know, so that's just like, one of those things. Like, I'm going to start reading more, I'm going to start praying more. I'm going to go to church. I'm going to, you know, be more healthy, I'm going to eat more healthy, I'm going to go to the gym. Stuff like that. Everybody, you know, all these things that people, like, aspire to be and want to do, you know, they're like, oh, you know, the best time is like, right at the start of the year. Like, I'm gonna hit this year strong.
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C
And then how many people do you think actually go through what's there? I wonder what the stats are about that. But I mean, you. Because, like, even myself, like, I always go, like, always feel like I'm starting the new year with some type of, like, goal or, like, what do I want or expect or want to work on or even if it's business or personal or internal, like, whatever it might be. But I. I was weird. Like, this year started and I didn't really have, like a. Like a. Of, like, this is what the year is gonna do. I don't know. I guess. I guess maybe it's. Maybe it's aligning myself to be able to possibly homeschool next school year, which is only like six months away. Oh, wait, eight months away. Is that a weird. Is that a weird goal?
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B
Right as I was thinking, my stomach growled. Like, I paused.
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C
I don't know. I think that for a while it's been. I usually have already Felt like, prepared to like, or, like, I have a word, or, like, already kind of like in that mode of, like, it's the new year. This is what, you know, I feel like the Lord's telling me and whatnot. And I don't know, I didn't start. I didn't come into the new year already knowing what that was going to be, which has been weird because I would say probably for the last four or five years, it's been already kind of like something I knew before going into the new year.
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B
Yeah.
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C
You know, do you have. Do you. Do you agree with this, like, word or, like, we've done this for a while. Like, we'll have, like, a word or something and say, like, what is it? What it. What is something that you're not for.
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B
The year, or like, you feel that you're. This is your mindset for the year of where you think, like, you're, like, the direction you're headed or.
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C
Yeah, but it has to be something like, usually we. In the past, we've said it needs to be something that you're not necessarily good at, so you want to be able to grow in that area.
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B
Something that pushes you, something that drives you.
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C
Yeah.
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B
It gives you, like, refocus. Refocus.
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C
And something that you can, you know, dedicate to the whole year of, like, working on and whatnot. And I don't know. Do you feel like you've. How do you feel like going into the new year versus, like, do you feel like you are, like, stepping in and being like, oh, I feel like this is going to be my word, or this is the goal of the year or whatever?
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B
Not yet. Not yet. I don't know. Like, it's just been hard, like, it's. It's been hard to, like, kind of focus through the holiday, getting past the holiday. I don't know, I feel like I just need to get back into, like, my rhythm, my routine to, like, kind of realign and refocus, because I haven't been able to do that well. I feel like the whole, honestly, like, our holiday. I feel like our holiday was, like, really busy. Even, honestly, like, through this holiday, we actually picked up, like, cameras and stuff more than we typically do and which obviously leads to, like, more work for me. And so, like. And so it's just like, kind of been like, more of, like a back and forth and just trying to, like, tinker and get stuff done and. And so, like, I haven't really been able to, like, I feel like I've just been like, scatterbrained and, like, all over the place and just trying to get, like, this done and this done and this done and this done and. And think about, like, okay, like, what's next? And. And so I haven't really had a chance to, like, think about, like, me and, like, refocus and, like, what I want to do. But it is funny, like, talking about, like, going back to church and stuff like that. I mean, obviously, like, we go to church very consistently and stuff, and, you know, something that, you know, I wanted to do. I kind of got a little bit out of, like, my habit of, like, picking up my Bible and, like, being in the word daily and haven't been as consistent probably over the last, like, maybe month and a half or so. Over the course of, like, November, December, there was just, like, a lot of stuff going on. And then just like. I mean, I just wasn't making it a priority. Like, I should be. And, you know, so, like, going into the new year, like, I. You know, whenever you buy something new, like, even. Just, like, whenever I'm. I go into the gym, like, I'll buy different things to, like, keep in my gym bag. And it, like, kind of gives me, like, a new excitement for, like, oh, I'm gonna try this new type of workout because I have this thing now. And so it's like a. Like a new little thing that kind of motivates you. And so, like, I ordered a new Bible. I've been. I don't know, I've been wanting one of those people that have been pushing that off because, like, I don't, like, starting with a new Bible because, like, my Bible that I've had for years, like, has, like, all of my notes and my highlights and, like, all these things. And, like, I don't want to, like, reset that.
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C
Why do you feel like you have a new Bible and just, like, the new Bible?
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B
Yeah, well, I've been wanting to study Bible and. And I've used, like, I've had. I've had some study Bibles that I use, like, on, like, Kindle or iPad or something like that. And I'm just trying to, like, get away, like, a device while I'm studying the Bible or reading my Bible, like, because it never fails. You know, if you're reading your Bible from your phone or your iPad, yes, you can put it in, do not disturb. But it's just. It's there and, you know, something pops in your head and you just, like, swipe down and, like, go look at something real quick. And, like, I don't want to do that. So, like, this morning, you know, it's just, like, my phone was over on my desk, like, away from me, out of arm's reach. And, like, I have, like, my Bible sitting right here. I was sitting in Daniel's chair, and so I'm just sitting there with my Bible and highlighters and that's it. And then just reading through stuff and, like, going back and back and forth and referencing and stuff. I've been wanting, like, a. Like, a study Bible where, you know, it, like, gives back references and stuff and, like, foreshadow stuff and, like, insights. And so I'm not having to use my phone while I'm doing it, because normally I would look up that kind of stuff on my phone or on the iPad, but just trying to get away from that. Trying to get away from, like, having another distraction. Because I'm horrible about being distracted, you know? You know that very well.
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C
No comment.
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Like, I'm. I'm the worst of just, like, getting distracted, like.
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C
Yeah.
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And not staying focused. I mean, one of my words, like, a few years ago was focus, like, to not be distracted. Because I'm. I'm just, like, I go from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing, and I get to the end of the day, and, like, I feel like I didn't do anything today. Like, I feel like I didn't get anything accomplished. I did a lot, but I feel like I didn't get one thing, like, fully accomplished. I did a bunch of a little things and just didn't quite get started.
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C
You did a lot, but you didn't finish anything.
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Yeah.
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C
Yeah.
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And I freaking hate that.
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Yeah. I think we all go in tendencies of, like, getting in those distraction things. I mean, I think we all do it, but it is like, I. I constantly do have to tell myself, no, you started the laundry. You have to finish the laundry. Like, something stupid like that. For me, the start of the new year always feels like this deep need for a reset. And not just mentally, but at home, too.
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B
Yeah.
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C
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B
Yeah. I mean, making home actually feel like the place that you want to land at the end of the day.
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C
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B
Yep. Thank you Cozy Earth.
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C
After this last week there's just been like this rut going like vibe around this house or whatever. And I think a lot of it has been because we started a new year and there's like, there's like this form of like a pressure, oh, it's a new year, so you have to do this and that and that and that. And you know, I, I feel like it's been, it's just been off or.
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Something because like 2025 was like this year of like so much happened, so much change in our life. And so like then, you know, you go through this year of just like just so much drastic change in our life. Like we made a big move and which some people will say like, oh, that wasn't a big move. You only moved 30 minutes away. But it's a big deal. It was a big deal in our home and a big life change for like six kids going to new schools and you know.
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C
Smaller house.
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We started going to a new church. We, I mean we did all these new things and kind of just started that fairly recently just because like we're in this, like we're in this season of change or like, well, you know, what else in our life needs change or you know, a restart or something like that. But then you're, you look at 2026 and you're like, well, you know, 2025 was like our season of change. But 2026 is like, whenever everything's going to kind of, in a sense, come to fruition or.
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But we don't know what the fruition.
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Like a finality, which. When will we ever get to that? But, you know, so it almost applies a lot of pressure on 2026.
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Yeah.
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And. Which makes the beginning of 2026 kind of feel weighty in a sense of like, man, like, there's all these things that we need to accomplish in 2026.
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Yeah.
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All these things that we've been thinking about. Now we have to follow through with all these things or these things need to be completed this year. And it's just like, almost like, okay, this is like the start of that. And that too. It's just like, a lot of pressure I feel like we've put on ourselves. May not be necessary.
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Yeah, I don't think it's necessary. I think that one thing that I read and I think I had shared it a while back was that, like, before you kind of, like, start working on, like, what do you want your 2026 to look like? And, like, goals and stuff. Like, look back at 2025 and see what God did. I look back and I'm like, he did so much. And yes, it was a lot of big changes. And. But if you look back, because we always can look back, sometimes we don't see how God's working in the moment, but you can look back and say, like, man, he was there, he was there, he was there. And so hard decisions and changes that we had to make and to better, you know, life and family and just, like, the pace of, like, where we want this family to, you know, continue prospering. I guess we had to make a lot of changes that were all hard, that not everybody, like, accepted or. Which is the story of our life or didn't really want us to do, I guess. But we stayed pretty consistent with. We feel God's called us to this and to do this and to make these changes without even knowing, like, why or what's next or what's to come, you know, where our kids are all getting older. And so we're kind of like, trying to have, like. I feel like I'm trying to have, like, more real, real conversations with them. And it's hard in a house with six kids because it's hard to get everybody, like, family meeting. And we've been doing quote, unquote, family meetings where it's like, hey, we need to have a conversation. Like, let's everybody come together and sit on the Couch. Well, I feel like our best time to do those is at dinner, because we always. When we sit around the table at dinner, we always hear each other talk with, what was good today? Like, what was your high today? Was there anything that was hard? Like, it's simple questions to go around and. And ask an up and down thing, you know? And so we always start with whose day is it? And go around the table from that point. And so in that moment, we know everyone's still. Everyone's eating, Everyone can't talk over whoever's talking. It's probably, like, the one moment of the day where it's like, there still will be outbursts, but it's like one moment of the day where it's like everyone knows it's her turn, you know, and so we've kind of set that, like, when they're talking and it's their turn about the question, you don't talk. You wait for your turn, you know, I feel like I'm trying to instill more of those because we have a smaller table at this house, but there's also, like, a big island bar, and we always kind of sit, like, wherever. And I'm wanting to get back in the habit of, like, literally at the table. Like, we're all together at the table. And like, last night, Riley had tennis, and so Adam was out, and I was like, all right, let's eat dinner, whatever's leftovers. And Olivia said, are we going to sit at the table all together? And I said, yes, we're going to all sit together. Even though we weren't all here because Adam and Riley were gone for tennis. But even. Even the six of us who actually fit at the table, you know, and so it's just. Even. Even something as simple like that, it's not necessarily like a word or like this, like, business goal or whatever, but something so simple that I think that you could bring into your family routine is just simply kneel at the table, like, get together. And sometimes our kids, you know, it's cafeteria style up in here, you know, it's like I fix six plates, and they're picking it up, and they sit down, they start eating, and it's like, whoa, whoa. It's like, yeah. And so we're really. I'm really trying to say we're gonna wait till everybody sits, because sometimes by the time we, Adam and I get our plates, they're done eating, you know, and it's like.
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B
Because fix all their food.
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C
Yeah, we haven't blessed our food. And so that.
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That frustrates. Me more than anything.
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Yes. Can I have more?
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And they're like, I haven't even fixed my plate yet and you're already asking for more. It drives me nuts.
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C
So just something so simple is that, like, I would love to, like, encourage those listening, like, just for your family, like, have meal at the table together. I don't care if you're like, picking up fast food or your door dashing or whatever it is. Maybe you're all eating something different. Just sit together at the table.
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Yeah.
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Because I feel like that's where just like valuable and purposeful family conversation happen. And we've talked about like, this in the past, for sure. I know. Especially over, like, Thanksgiving, we. In November. We were talking about that a lot.
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Yeah. That was like our big thing for the year with like, good ranchers was, you know, just bringing people back to the table. And like, I know for whatever reason, it feels like society and culture and stuff has just gotten like, so busy and fast paced and like, there's always something going on. And like, let's get back to the basics and get back what family and friendship and stuff like that is meant to be and like what the table and being around the table with other people is meant to do and be. A lot could be said for that. Because I feel like people aren't making that the priority sometimes. A lot of times we don't make that the priority. But to be intentional with that and to have those intentional moments with your kids, like a captive audience where, you know, they have no choice but to sit there and like, talk about their day or talk about their feelings or what's going on with them in their. In their life. What's on their heart.
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C
Yeah.
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B
You know, it goes a long way for the family.
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C
Quick pause. Because I have to talk about this. I'm that mom who reads every label before I let the kids drink anything anymore.
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B
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C
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B
Than water, which is big for me because it's just plain water. I'm terrible at drinking enough. And cure actually makes it easier. The watermelon and the lemonade are my go to. Not too sweet sweet. Which I appreciate.
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C
Yeah. And the kids, man, they are always asking for those sugary sports drinks and we're constantly saying no cure Kids has been such a win. They love the flavors. And when I say love, I mean they love the flavors. It's formulated with pediatricians and doesn't have any of that junk in it.
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B
We use it after practice, busy school days. Honestly, even just around, around the house because kids somehow get dehydrated doing nothing.
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C
I feel the same.
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B
Staying hydrated isn't just about water. You need electrolytes too. That's why our family loves cure. It's clean, it tastes great, and the kids actually ask for it.
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C
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B
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C
Thank you, Kira.
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B
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C
Because it's the only one you actually like.
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B
Exactly. And that's why Poncho has been such a win for. For me.
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C
Yep.
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B
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C
Yeah, that's right.
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B
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C
Yeah, which is why you keep reaching for them.
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B
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C
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B
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C
Think back to just like how things were when I was little or even generations back in life was just so different back then. You know, people. People came. People came ready to like, be there and be in the moment and serve one another. And, like, just quality time to me was, they just did it so much better back then.
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B
Yeah.
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C
And I want that back in our world today.
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B
You know, I mean, I remember my childhood, like, and, like, dinner time was pretty sacred. You know, by the time, like, dad got home from work, like, dinner was already prepared and everybody was just, like, ready to, like, fix their plates and sit down together. And it happened every. Every evening. And we all sat down as a family and, like, said a prayer and, like, and had a conversation at the table. And that's.
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C
And that doesn't mean that, like, that doesn't mean, like, oh, dad, were dad has to work, mom has to slave in the kitchen all day. Like, that's not what he's saying. Even though that might be what.
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B
I mean, that's just what our.
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C
That's what it was my mom did.
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B
Because work and had that luxury of, yeah, stay home and.
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C
But you can still do those things with ordering food and picking up food on the way home, doordash, like, whatever it is, like, you can still do that. So however that chaos is with your meal time, all I'm asking you to do for the year is to do it together at the table. You know, even when our kids are done eating and they want to get up and go jump on the trampoline or go whatever, it's like, no, we're going to sit here until we're all done. We're going to. Because we're. Because you're not going to hear what she said. She's not going to hear. You know, it's. It's about teaching time, too, to them is that time is not always on the go. Right. And so, I don't know. I started saying all that because I think that is just the start of the new year. Just focus on, like, family time and coming to the table and having some values and some goals around dinner time, I think would be very prospering for your family growth time. And it's. Sometimes maybe there's not a lot to say, but just. I think even just being there, like, like, even as teenagers, there's like, oh, I'm not hungry right now. I. I don't care. I didn't. Like, you're gonna still come down and sit down and eat with us, like, you're. You're not hungry or you don't want to eat that well, you're still gonna sit with us at the table, you know, and that's how I was raised, and I'M not saying we have to do things like it was done in our past, but looking at the, the, the point of it, it was to be as a family. And I think, I think that is what a lot of families need to know and to be reminded that be the family once a day if it's all it is that you can actually all be or if some are gone. So if it's just you mom or you dad with one or two of your kids, just say, come sit with me at the table. Come sit with me at the table. You know, that's simple as that.
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B
Yeah. I mean, it's just obviously like we can't do that every day. I mean, yesterday like, I mean, Riley was away at practice, but you know, it's like one of those moments where I can take her somewhere and we can have like a one on one intimate moment and, and just talk about. I mean, obviously it was with her.
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C
It's anything.
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B
It was her first day back to school and like, and just like getting back into a routine and just like, you know, she came home kind of just super tired and grumpy and kind of in a bad mood and stuff and you know, and being able to like talk, talk with her through that. And typically with Riley, it's like her love language is like kind of like intentionality, like intentional like time and like spending time with her and like giving her like one on one, like focused attention. You know, I've noticed that ever since she was little. Like, you know, she'll have these like huge explosive outbursts and pretty much the only thing you can do is pull her aside and just give her your one undivided attention. And that works for her. I mean, all of our girls are so different and, but that works for Riley. And you can tell like she craves that she's constantly, she'll ask you about that. Like, even like whenever I take her to tennis and like I'm watching her, she's like, are you gonna go, are you gonna go run errands? Are you gonna go sit out in the car? Are you gonna like stay up here and watch me? Yeah, she wants to know that you're asking that. Like yesterday, it's like she wants me to just kind of be there. Even though, like, I'm not practicing with her. She wants me to like, be there and be like in it with her. And so I stayed out there even though it started getting cold. And I was like, man, I kind of want to go to the car, but I just stayed there through the whole Thing. And like, she, she recognized that, you know, whenever we left and. And she was like, why didn't you go back to the car? And like, you know, just seeing like, like what my intent was and like, why, Why?
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C
I know sometimes I have to ask her. I'm like, it's cold out there, Riley. Can I sit watcher? She's like, yeah, yeah, sit in here and watch me.
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B
Yeah. But, you know, she wants to. She wants to know. And she. I mean, she asks some very, like, insightful and provoking questions sometimes. And. And she's. It's funny because she's usually the one that's very blunt with, like, the questions that she asks. But, you know, it's good, I mean, that, like, having a personality like that and like a mind the way that she does, it's. I mean, it's like awesome. Just. Just to see how she ticks.
- [31:36]
C
Yeah. The older she gets, the more and more she's just. She's so much like me.
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B
But the thing is, like, all of our girls, like, have that thing.
- [31:46]
C
Yeah.
- [31:46]
B
What's. What's their thing? And to like, tap into those things, like when you can, you know, and that makes all the difference in the world of just being able to, like, connect intentionally.
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C
Yeah. So I think if we could, you know, like, have this podcast to say today, New Year's new goals, all these things is. Is one is have family time around the table. However that meal is going to be at your table. Do it together, wait till everyone is done eating before those get up and leave. And you know, this is no tv, like, no distractions with phones and whatnot. Just have actual conversation at the table. And then in our world with six kids, we're definitely pulled in multiple directions a lot of times in the evenings. But in those moments, I would say do yourself justice to say, okay, I'm going to have intentional time with whoever I'm with. So last night or on days where we're. Some of us are out for sports or whatever, and we're like going to eat dinner on the way home or whatever, it's. It's not about, like, how fast and what we're going to do, but it's about, let me have this one on one. Let me have this little date with her. Let me. Her. Because that's our world.
- [33:09]
B
You know, it's always, for me, it's always her.
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C
So it's like, don't just bypass through those moments, like, take advantage of those small things. Because I think if you're a parent, you realize how fast Life goes by by watching your kids grow up. You may not feel it and see it in yourself, in a sense, but, like, you see your kids. Like, our. The quints are 10 years old. Blake's 14. Blake is in high school. There's three and a half more years in, quote unquote, in our house with us before she goes to college, if that's what she chooses to do, you know? And so it's all precious time, and I think that there's so much hurry and. And busyness, and it's just. You got to find those moments, even if it's five minutes, to just really stop and just be present with that child. Know your child. Get to know. Like, we have six girls. Adam's given one description of Riley, and you know how, like, love languages or whatever. Like, all six of our girls are all different. And if there weren't six different love language, we would have made up six different love languages between all them. You know, to have a family is very precious, and to. Is such a. It's such a beautiful gift, but to not only have it, but to, like, love it, cherish it, and absorb it and be intentional with it. And so I think that a lot of families should need to hear that and. And say, like, whatever your goals might be this year, like, add this to it. It's not that hard. You're gonna do it anyway, so do it well. Do it better. Do it better. You know, so. Or as the girls used to say.
- [34:53]
B
More better, more better.
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C
And I'll never recre. I'll never correct that, even though it's improper English, because I love it so much, because they used to say when they're little, more better, more better. Is it more better, Mom? Is that more better? Like, so cute. Yeah, it's. It's. It's better than better. It's more better.
- [35:16]
B
It's like in south and like Cajuns, like, you say bad, bad or good good. Like, you'll say it, like, twice or. It's cold. Cold.
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C
It ain't cold. It's cold. Cold. It's more cold. Anyways, can I wrap it?
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B
Yeah.
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C
Yep. So we hope that y' all are, you know, setting some goals, and if not, if you don't have any, do this one, and if you already have goals, add it to it. So.
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B
Or leave us in the comments. Tell us what resolutions or goals or if you have a word for the year, like, let us know, like, what yours is.
- [35:58]
C
Yeah.
- [35:59]
B
And, I don't know, maybe give us some inspiration or give some others some inspiration. I mean, this is, you know, this is like this community that we've created. Like, y' all talk amongst yourselves, like down in the comments and, you know, let us see, like, what you want more talk, what your aspirations are for the year.
- [36:18]
C
Yeah.
- [36:19]
B
You know, do you feel the same, you know, weightiness at the beginning of a year or is this something that, like, you don't really put much thought into or like, I mean, I just take the days as they come or. But, you know, as we come into a new year, like, what is that for you? What, what does that mean for you? And let us know.
- [36:39]
C
Yeah. Love it.
- [36:41]
B
So thank you for listening to this episode. I think you didn't even say it or 57. It's one of the two, but more than reality podcast.
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C
Happy 2026, guys.
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B
Yep. Ringing in 2026 and we'll see you in the next one.