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The problem is when we obsess about mistakes, we kill our momentum. And suddenly, no momentum, no happiness, no progress, no growth. And I believe that instead of calling it a mistake or right or wrong, I just try to ask, is there something to learn from this? Can I learn something from this? What could I learn from this? What new lessons do I need to go learn? What new skills must I develop? See, instead of going, I'm a mistake, I'm done, I'm dumb, I just go. Let me ask a series of questions right here. What distinctions? What skills? What new rules? I know that when people look back to the week, sometimes they don't like it. They feel like they made too many mistakes. In fact, I was just talking with a client the other day who was repeating over and over that she made too many mistakes in her life. She was on her second marriage, so she made a big mistake with her first one. She felt she had a mistake in her business that almost cost her everything. She had made multiple relationship, career, and health mistakes throughout her life that she regretted. And the problem is, when we obsess about mistakes, we kill our momentum. Let me say it again. When we obsess about our mistakes, we kill our momentum. And suddenly, no momentum, no happiness, no progress, no growth. And so today's session is about no mistakes. This philosophy that to me, you know, everything that we experience in our life, we can discern whether it's good or bad, right or wrong, happy or sad. But I feel for me personally that we do get things wrong and it's okay to call them wrong. Sometimes you've done something bad and it was stupid and you were wrong and it was a mistake or it was a bad intention, and we've got to call it wrong and set a new standard and improve. But there's also that weird spiritual philosophy you've probably heard before. No mistakes. Everything is meant to be. And I also kind of believe that. So where do we land? One extreme is everything's supposed to happen. Another extreme is no, you know what? Some things we got to take accountability for, and some things are bad and are wrong. I kind of meet in the middle and I believe that instead of calling it a mistake or right or wrong, I just try to ask, is there something to learn from this? Can I learn something from this? What could I learn from this? What new distinctions have I made? What new standards should I set? What new processes should I follow? What new self rules should I set? What new boundaries do I need to create? What new lessons do I need to go learn? What New skills must I develop? See, instead of going, I'm a mistake, I'm done, I'm dumb, I just go. Let me ask a series of questions right here. What distinctions, what skills, what new rules? And as soon as you flip a mistake into a learning opportunity, you get to hurdle over the hurt, you get to hurdle over the shame, to hurdle over the fear, the disappointment, the discouragement, the anger. You get to kind of like leapfrog over those things. Doesn't mean you can't feel those things and sense those things. Because again, I do believe there's good and bad. I do believe there's right and wrong. I believe that we must have a value ethic of setting standards for ourselves and other people in society. Otherwise we'd have a. A lot of really mean things happening in the world. But if you keep beating yourself up for old mistakes, which is what my client was doing, the problem is you beat yourself in the ground and you kill your momentum, you kill your growth, and you kill the very opportunity that was given to you to learn, to get better, to skill up and to level up. So if you made some mistakes this last week, take it as a learning opportunity. Second, let it go. Let it go. I truly believe most people, and I know this sounds flippant, but I really do believe most people hang on to old hurts, old stories, embarrassing situations, frustrating situations, traumas, difficulties too long. And it's not a judgment of them, but rather it's that those things are easy to hold on to and to keep. And some of those things happen at unconscious levels where we need assistance, therapy or coaching to overcome. But here's what I do know. We all need a practice. For that, we gotta have a weekly session. I have so many moving parts of my life. I need a daily session where I let go the frustrations, hurt, shame, embarrassment, disappointments, struggles of the day, let go the mistakes. And so what I do, as many of you know, is I do a release meditation technique. It's called RMT Release Meditation Technique. You can look it up on YouTube. I've been blessed to teach over 2 million people around the world. This RMT Release Meditation Technique means you just take a moment out of the day. You can sit down or lie down, hopefully in a place that's quiet or in a place where you're by yourself and you do a mantra based meditation, which means you close your eyes and you repeat a mantra to yourself. And that mantra is literally the word release. And so if you've made a mistake, look for the learnings. But sometimes you Know what? Your emotions are all caught up into it. And so you can close your eyes, maybe do some self soothing. But ultimately what I do is I close my eyes and I have the goal to let go of my thoughts and feelings about this and to let go of the tension in my body. Now that's an important one to me because when I make a mistake, I get tense, my jaw clenches up, you know, I just feel tension in my muscles. My stomach kind of gets tight and churning. And what I got to do is take a nice deep breath. I like to breathe in deep three, four, five times. And then I start saying out loud the word release, Release, release, release, release. And I repeat that word out loud several times. And then eventually I take the word into my mind. So I'm still saying it in my mind, I'm not saying it out loud anymore, just in my mind. And I just keep repeating it. Now, as inevitably other thoughts come up and scenes and images and thoughts and feelings, I allow them to happen, but I just report back and check in with my mantra and keep saying my mantra, release. And I attempt to release the thoughts and the feelings and the tension. And I do that every day for 20 minutes. Now, you might do it once a week, but I believe one session a week should be really focused on did I make any mistakes this week and can I let them go now? Your mistakes might be something you said to somebody and you know you shouldn't have said it, or they gave you feedback, you shouldn't have said it, or you were supposed to do something with a project and you turned it in and it was subpar and you knew it, but you knew it was a mistake. Maybe you did something that hurt someone else's feelings. Maybe you made a wrong decision. And I believe as conscious adults we can sit with that. And we can choose to either sit with that and hate ourselves, or we can sit with that and learn to get perspective by learning from it, but then also letting go of its grip on our mind and our psyche. That's what I mean by using that release meditation. I'm going to let that mistake go and let its grip of me go. Third, I believe if the first thing we can do from mistake is learn, the second thing we can do is let go. The third thing is launch forward. It is very easy to make a mistake and quit. People go to launch their business or their new thing and you know what? The first promotion doesn't go right. They made some mistakes. It didn't generate what they thought. It's easy at the mistakes or the poor results. To quit, to become discouraged so that you no longer take an action. But soon as I make a mistake and I let it go, I go, okay, what's the next right action of integrity for me? Take the action today. What's the next move? Take it today. Do something on that very single day or the very next day after my release meditation to move it forward to what that means. Make an apology, send an email, complete the project, pick myself up again and go again. Whatever it is, I'm going to launch forward from a mistake. I will never sit and stew in a mistake for. For days, weeks, months, years, or decades on end. And a lot of people make that mistake. I bet. You know somebody who made a mistake once and they were so hard on themselves that they kind of paused their life, they kind of held it against themselves so much and so hard and for so long that suddenly they stopped dreaming, they stopped trying, they stopped believing in themselves. And then they stewed in that regret, in that shame, in that hurt, in that fear, in that disappointment, in whatever quote, unquote, negative emotion they had. And they kept reliving it. And the mistake killed the momentum for them. Maybe you know, somebody personally who's one time made a mistake and stopped, but make this day, the day that you get that forward momentum again, launch forward. What's the next right action of integrity to write this thing or get back on the bike and get going again. What would you have to do to make some small step or take one small gesture to just move it forward? What could you do today, in fact, this day, this day, what could you do today to move forward a little bit from something that you halted because you made a mistake? Maybe you can go into your journal and capture any mistakes you made and what you could do, one small step to move forward again. I highly encourage that. This is part of my, my, let's just call it weekly review. I know some of you guys have teased me on this, on the Internet, calling me. This is. Bren's got this weekly cleansing. He does. And some people think it's a. A health or, you know, a gut detox. I do. But no, it's a mental detoxing. I do. It is. You know what? I'm not going to carry these mistakes around. I can acknowledge them, be real, be honest, learn from them, but then let go of their grip and choose to take another small step forward. When we do that, we can get back on track. When we do that, we can actually accelerate and grow and expand and evolve and Become more conscious human beings from the very mistakes we make. But we need that practice of sitting with it, learning from it, letting it go, and choosing how to move forward today. When we do that, we live that truth that every day is a great day to grow. How can we develop more momentum in our lives? I've taught this for so many years, so forgive me if you've heard this before, but I really believe that there's just four Cs that can really lead to great momentum. And I'll keep this conceptual for the day. So this might be a really great opportunity to. To journal on these topics today. First and foremost, I believe momentum always initiates with clarity. When we are clear in what we want, clear in our direction, clear in who we are, clear in what the end outcomes are that we are after, clear on our why, our purpose. These things, though you don't have to have all of those help. No clarity, no change. So I always suggest people find that inner clarity. If that means you just need to brainstorm of all the things that you want in your journal, if that means you've got to, you know, sit and just journal about how you're feeling, if that means you need to get a mentor or somebody who can give you a plan or a roadmap or a blueprint to follow, I'm here to tell you clarity matters. I've taught this for a long time too. Being a Montanan, I like to have this saying that says the time to have the map is before you enter the woods. So many people enter the woods of life with no clarity. And so they wander around lost and directionless and scared for years where, if they just gotten the map, the directions first, they would have had a beautiful nature walk. And so clarity matters. Second, big idea to get more momentum in life, we gotta have more confidence. When we have confidence, when we believe in our ability to figure things out, we're more willing to try to put the effort in, to do the hours because we believe that things will turn out well. We have high expectancy that things will turn out well and that we're capable of handling them. We can have confidence in who we are and what we're capable of in managing and doing things. And suddenly, with more confidence, you feel more motivated, don't you? You're more willing to also assert yourself, raise your hand, ask for help to get those directions, that map, that blueprint, that roadmap. Sometimes real confidence is demonstrated when we can admit we don't know what to do and we're willing to ask for that help. Sometimes confidence happens when we decide finally we're worthy of more success. That moment, it clicks for you that you deserve greatness and a great life just like anybody else. That simple decision, that realization can change things. Confidence is a secret. Unlock to more momentum. Up next, one of my favorite topics in the world, competence. Competence. Competence is knowledge, skill, ability, talent. It means your ability to level up your learning so you know more of what to do and you have more mastery. You want momentum in any area of life. Develop more expertise. With more expertise and more know how you feel. Also more confident. With more expertise, you have more clarity. I always tell people, if you haven't identified the five major skill sets that are critical to your career or your business or your mission, you haven't even got in the conscious game of high performance yet. You might be good, but you're unconsciously competent. When you become consciously competent, you know the skills, you know what you need to develop. You are on the path of mastering the areas in which you need to have expertise. It you're just like, you just outpace everybody. And I've seen that over and over and over again. Those who have a competent roadmap in my industry, in the influencer or creator or knowledge economy, they just, you know, it doesn't mean they're more entertaining, more fancy, or, you know, have more innate talent. They just know the roadmap. They just clear. They just clearly pass everybody else. Competence. What are the five skills you need to develop? Go develop them. Finally, for momentum, get coaching upgraded Pro. If you're not in pro so you can learn from our coaches about the different perspectives in life, about how to look at or seek your goals, your mindset, develop your habits, have a better approach to life. Overall, that coaching is invaluable. But I think it's important that you get an outside perspective to help you develop that clarity, that competence and that confidence. That's why when I sometime draw these four Cs, clarity, competence, confidence and coaching, I like to intersect all of them. And one thing that often I'll circle them with is this idea of community. Community is like a bonus point for momentum. When you're around other people who are also on the same path, same ideals or vision or work effort, same positivity, same willingness to challenge ourselves to grow, things change. I really believe the encouragement that comes from a community can be a singular amplifier of our mood and a tremendously powerful amplifier for our momentum, clarity, competence, confidence, coaching and community. But I'd like to end with this. What does momentum mean to you right now. You know, you can have all those things or develop all those things. But momentum for what? Where are you going? What do you want? What do you dream of? I'd love to encourage you to level up your ambition today, to believe in yourself in a bigger way today, to remember that you can design an architect, a future that you are encouraged by, that you love, that you're excited by, that's compelling to you. And if you can have that then and see that, then you want to move towards it. And suddenly what happens is you get a little momentum, one little action a day to build a better future for yourself, to be a little healthier, happier, more alive, more connected, have a greater sense of satisfaction, meaning or fulfillment. All these things, part of momentum. What does momentum mean to you at this stage of your life? Something to journal about. I want to encourage you to keep going no matter where you're at, whatever you're struggling with. Momentum. Yeah, some days you don't have a good day, but you still got six days left. Maybe you have two bad days, there's still four, five days left. There's always another day, a new chapter, an open page, a blank canvas. There's always an opportunity to try again and to go again and to go again. I think it shouldn't need to be stated, but the underlying assumption of gaining momentum in life is that we're more consistent in our action. More consistency, more action, more momentum. So do something today to improve your life, because here at growth day, we're trying to make self improvement a way of life.