Murder With My Husband: Episode 287 – The Fatal Fantasy - The Murder of Jennifer Ramsaran
Podcast Date: September 22, 2025
Hosts: Peyton Moreland & Garrett Moreland
Main Theme & Purpose
This episode delves into the baffling and tragic murder of Jennifer Ramsaran, a devoted mother and community member in small-town New York, whose life was upended by digital escapism, marital secrets, and an ultimately fatal betrayal. Peyton expertly walks listeners through the complex web of relationships, infidelities, and digital footprints that both complicated and illuminated the investigation—while Garrett, true to form, intersperses skeptical asides and grounded reactions. The episode grapples with how life changes, the fragility of relationships, and the dark consequences when those changes are handled with cowardice or malice.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
Setting the Scene: Small-Town Life & Family Dynamics
- Jennifer ("Jen") Ramsaran: Stay-at-home mom, “Martha Stewart” type, highly active with her three kids, community volunteer, and described as “the kind of person who was always there for you” (07:10).
- Remy (Ganesh Ramsaran): Jen’s husband, IBM project manager, charismatic, marathon runner (06:58). The couple, seen as opposites, "looked like the perfect, loving, supportive couple," until December 2012.
The Disappearance
- December 11, 2012: Jen tells Remy she's going Christmas shopping an hour away at the Syracuse mall (08:24). After dropping the kids at school, Remy claims Jen leaves the house at about 10:30 am—but that’s later contested by evidence.
- Remy grows worried by her lack of response to texts. Jen's friend Eileen Sells is also contacted. Both are clueless to Jen’s whereabouts (09:59).
- Remy calls 911:
"My wife left this morning between 10 and 11 and she hasn't been back and I'm really freaked out. This is totally unlike her." (10:54)
Early Investigation & Growing Suspicions
- The next day, Remy uses Find My iPhone to locate Jen’s phone in a rural area 20 miles away. He personally finds it in overgrowth by a bridge (13:20), a detail considered suspicious by police.
- Police note the phone is "undamaged," raising suspicion over whether it was placed or thrown there (16:16).
Digging Deeper: Secrets Come to Light
Jen’s Secret Online Life
- Jen had become heavily involved in the game "Kingdoms of Camelot", sometimes spending 8+ hours a day online (17:40).
- She formed a flirtatious online relationship with “Rob” in England, even sending him lingerie. The relationship’s seriousness added a possible motive for voluntary disappearance or an alternate suspect (18:29–21:12).
Remy’s Double Life
- Police discover Remy was having an affair with Jen's best friend, Eileen Sells—her key confidant from the Girl Scouts circle (24:14).
- The affair had gone on for about a year and had recently been rekindled the night before Jen vanished. Eileen’s guilt led her to temporarily end it, but she and Remy could not stay apart.
Shifts in the Investigation: From Missing to Murder
- Five days after Jen’s disappearance, her father finds her minivan abandoned. There are blood stains in the vehicle, shifting the case to homicide (22:13).
- In February 2013, Jen’s naked, decomposed body is discovered in an embankment 20 miles from home. Likely cause: strangulation or suffocation (23:01).
The Mounting Evidence Against Remy
- Alibi Issues: Video footage does not support his stated running route or timeline; Jen’s phone activity contradicts his version of events (25:44).
- Forensics: Blood from both Jen and Remy found on Remy's sweatshirt and on the couple’s mattress (27:46).
- Circumstantial Motive: Desire to be with Eileen and avoid divorce, coupled with suspicious behavior on the day Jen disappeared.
The Trial(s) and Its Aftermath
- 2014: Remy is convicted of second-degree murder and sentenced to 25 years (37:50).
- Eileen switches sides and testifies for the prosecution, pointing out Remy’s odd behavior the day Jen vanished—such as refusing to invite her inside when Jen was supposedly shopping (32:34).
- The prosecution lays out a timeline:
“He killed her in their bedroom after catching her online, then spent the morning disposing of the body and evidence.” (31:53–33:25)
Defense Strategies & Weaknesses
- Defense attempts to cast doubt with alternate witness statements and unexplained male DNA under Jen’s fingernails, but lacks strong evidence or credible expert witnesses (35:57–36:37).
- Remy’s time on the stand is self-destructive:
“He said he had the perfect life, there was no reason for him to kill his wife … He didn’t really care what anyone else thought of him.” (36:37)
The Twist: Appeal and Plea Deal
- 2022: Conviction tossed out due to incompetent legal counsel; Remy's original lawyer had zero murder trial experience and “googled basic forensic issues” (39:28).
- Facing a new trial, Remy pleads guilty to manslaughter for a 22-year sentence (with time served), maintaining his innocence but admitting the plea was “the smartest thing to do legally” (40:11).
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On how fast life can change:
"Sometimes life does not go in the direction that we hoped it would... There are moments where our inner strength is put to the test... But some people cannot handle the pressures of life. And as we'll see in today's case, while their decisions maybe didn't kill them, a coward's decision could lead to the death of someone else." (04:35)
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Garrett’s reality check:
"You never know someone's relationship. You never know who someone is. Everyone's just kind of living their own lives, and you never know." (17:21)
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On finding Jen’s phone:
"There's something odd about the cell phone... It looks pretty undamaged for being tossed into some brush like this." (16:16)
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On Remy’s attitude towards prison (post-conviction):
"Prison is a joke. You get cell phones. You kind of get anything you want in prison if you are looking for it." (40:13)
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Garrett’s blunt conclusion:
"He kind of got away with murder... They don't really know. I mean, they know what happened to her, but, like, there's not a ton of evidence." (42:00)
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Peyton’s final reflection:
"Innocent people like Jen can become victims of a senseless crime and really have a murky justice." (42:17)
Important Timestamps
- 04:35 – Peyton’s introduction; setting the theme around life changes and the consequences of resisting them.
- 08:24 – Details of Jen’s last morning, her plans to shop, and the early timeline.
- 13:20 – Remy finds Jen’s phone; suspicious circumstances.
- 17:40 – Jen’s Kingdoms of Camelot addiction and developing online relationship.
- 22:13 – Discovery of Jen’s abandoned van and bloodstains—shift to murder investigation.
- 23:01 – Jen’s body is found; autopsy results.
- 24:14 – Remy and Eileen’s secret affair comes to light.
- 25:44 – Problems with Remy’s alibi and forensic evidence.
- 31:53 – Prosecution's theory; detail on timeline and Eileen’s role as a witness.
- 32:34 – Eileen testifies to her suspicions about Remy after Jen’s disappearance.
- 39:28 – Ineffective counsel revelation; Remy's original conviction overturned.
- 40:11 – Remy pleads guilty to manslaughter, maintains innocence.
- 42:00 – Hosts reflect on the case’s unsatisfying resolution and the concept of “getting away with murder.”
Summary & Listener Takeaways
The episode skillfully unpacks a real-life whodunit where the lines of guilt, evidence, and justice blur. With a focus on the human dynamics—addiction, infidelity, and the fallout of concealed feelings—listeners are asked to consider not just the cold facts of Jen Ramsaran’s murder, but the devastating effects unchecked secrets and cowardly decisions can have on families and communities. In a case where the perpetrator’s guilt is both obvious and elusive, Peyton and Garrett highlight the frustratingly murky nature of true crime justice.
Tone & Style
The hosts mix empathy for the victim, Jennifer, with a skeptical, sometimes irreverent tone—Garrett’s grounded commentary balancing Peyton’s narrative empathy. The show’s hallmark is to make true crime accessible, engaging, and honest about both procedural details and emotional impact.