MFM Minisode 412

Summary

My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark Episode: MFM Minisode 412 Release Date: December 2, 2024

Summary

In MFM Minisode 412 of My Favorite Murder, hosts Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark delve into an array of heartfelt and humorous listener-submitted stories. This episode blends personal anecdotes with the show's signature true crime and comedic flair, offering listeners both entertainment and relatable experiences. Below is a detailed breakdown of the key segments covered in this minisode.

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1. Creating New Fears for My Child

Submitted by: Cecily Strong Timestamp: [01:27] – [13:11]

Cecily Strong opens the episode with a poignant story titled "Creating New Fears for My Child" from Virginia. She recounts her experience as a young parent who inadvertently instilled a fear of firefighters in her five-year-old daughter.

Key Points:

• Cecily humorously describes raising her daughter as "a baby raising a baby" at 21 years old.
• She mentions joking about dropping her daughter off at the fire station, a nod to her mother's similar actions involving baby drop boxes.
• The joke takes a dark turn when her daughter, aged five, becomes terrified of firefighters during an annual fire department visit to her daycare, mistaking them for kidnappers.
• Cecily reflects on the unintended consequences of her humor, acknowledging, “[02:13] Cecily Strong: One day when she was about five years old…I had successfully made her terrified of all firefighters.”
• The story concludes with Cecily noting that her daughter is now 15 and no longer scared, adding a touch of relief and growth over time.

Notable Quote:

• “[13:11] Cecily Strong: I've been musing about what could make a 23-year-old man who was full of potential go on a robbery and murder spree…”

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2. The Legendary Knitter: Delia Berry

Submitted by: Mary Timestamp: [03:08] – [07:10]

Karen shares a fascinating email about Delia Berry, an 83-year-old Irish knitter whose craftsmanship has left an indelible mark on Hollywood.

Key Points:

• Delia Berry became renowned for knitting iconic sweaters featured in the Oscar-nominated film The Banshees of Venus.
• She provided sweaters for celebrities like Colin Farrell, Brendan Gleeson, Barry Keoghan, Meryl Streep for The Devil Wears Prada, and even taught Emily Watson to knit for Little Women.
• Karen highlights Delia's humble beginnings, joining a knitting group through cancer support after her husband Patty's death over a decade ago.
• Delia's contributions to film and her philanthropic spirit are celebrated, emphasizing her status as "Jesus's favorite person."

Notable Quote:

• “[06:03] Karen Kilgariff: She fits knitting in and around her bingo. And walks around her town. Greystones, County Wicklow. In the garden of Ireland.”

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3. Culty Christian Camp

Submitted by: Chelsea Timestamp: [14:01] – [17:11]

Chelsea narrates her unsettling experience at a Christian summer camp in the late '90s, likening it to being inducted into a cult.

Key Points:

• The camp, situated in the Rocky Mountains, featured typical summer activities with an intense Christian twist, including sunrise sermons, Bible studies, and midnight campfire sermons.
• Chelsea describes a particularly strange activity where campers had to find counselors acting as non-believers and attempt to convert them, likening it to a "culty scavenger hunt."
• The week culminates in a dramatic sunset sermon where campers are asked to declare their acceptance of Jesus, leading to awkward and forced confessions.
• Karen shares her own experience of reluctantly raising her hand and standing in front of the group, highlighting the pressure to conform.

Notable Quote:

• “[15:50] Cecily Strong: Oh my God.”

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4. The Anne Frank Sandwich Story

Submitted by: R. Timestamp: [19:29] – [21:58]

R. shares a touching and educational parenting moment that balances teaching about historical atrocities while maintaining her child’s innocence.

Key Points:

• R. recounts how her daughter, Ella, a young girl fascinated by Anne Frank, wrote a book and idolized her historical figure.
• Struggling to explain the horrors Anne Frank faced without shattering Ella’s innocence, R. uses the act of not eating a sandwich as a metaphor.
• The pivotal moment occurs when R. holds up an uneaten sandwich and asks Ella if she knows who would have eaten it, leading Ella to understand the gravity of Anne Frank’s experiences.
• This story underscores the challenges of parenting and teaching difficult lessons with sensitivity.

Notable Quote:

• “[20:47] Karen Kilgariff: She wrote a book. She was famous.”

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5. Asshole Older Sister Stories

Submitted by: Lindsey Timestamp: [22:19] – [23:50]

Lindsey shares humorous yet troubling tales of her older sister’s mischievous antics during their childhood.

Key Points:

• Lindsey describes lying to her younger sister, who was gullible, by telling her outrageous stories such as she was hatched from a giant egg found in a dumpster.
• Another prank involved convincing her sister that the ginger served with sushi was actually pistachio ice cream, leading to comical yet traumatising reactions.
• These stories highlight the dynamics of sibling relationships and the enduring impact of childhood pranks.

Notable Quote:

• “[23:12] Karen Kilgariff: And you're her older sister.”

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Conclusion

MFM Minisode 412 weaves together a tapestry of listener stories that range from humorous mishaps to deeply emotional experiences. Karen and Georgia adeptly balance the dark and light aspects of parenting, family dynamics, and personal growth, all while maintaining the show's trademark blend of comedy and candidness. This episode not only entertains but also fosters a sense of community among listeners who share their own "murderino" stories.

Final Notable Quote:

• “[24:28] Cecily Strong: Stay sexy and don't get murdered.”

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Notable Production Credits:

• Senior Producer: Alejandra Keck
• Editor: Aristotle Acevedo
• Mixing: Liana Squalacci

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Transcript

[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Georgia Hardstark]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

My savior.

[Cecily Strong]

Hello and welcome to my favorite murder the Minisode, where we read you your stories.

[Karen Kilgariff]

You said in emails we agreed we would read them. What more do you want us to do?

[Cecily Strong]

Yeah, and they can be about anything at this point in life.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

I mean it, you know, Truly.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Would you like to go first?

[Cecily Strong]

Sure. This one's called Creating New Fears for My Child. Hello from Virginia. In a recent hometown, y'all asked for our own trash parenting stories and I am finally in there.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

I was 21 when I had my first child. So basically a baby raising a baby. And somewhere along the way, I started joking with her about, quote, dropping her off at the fire station. My mom did a similar thing because they have the baby drop boxes. And I always thought it was a joke. We even joked about how she would have to tuck her knees because she was probably getting too big for the box.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Oh.

[Cecily Strong]

One day when she was about five years old, when I dropped her off at her on base daycare, they informed me that the fire department would be doing an annual walk through later in the day. Okay, cool. No big deal. Until her daycare provider called me a few hours later. Because when my daughter saw the fire truck out front, she ran into a closet screaming, no, don't take me. I'll be good. Oh, that's right. My daughter thought the fire department had come to pick her up and take her away. She was hysterical. Turns out I had successfully made her terrified of all firefighters. Good News. She's now 15 and no longer scared. But it was super fun explaining to her daycare provider that I was actually a terrible parent and to please not report us. Thank you guys for all that you do and keeping Me company on long drives into work. Cecily. And then it says good luck on the pronunciation. I just go with whatever these days looks like. Cecily.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Cecily or Cicely.

[Cecily Strong]

Cecily. I'm going to go Cecily.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Cecily's cool. Yeah, I like that name. Yeah, I like a self reporting trash parent.

[Cecily Strong]

I do too.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Please. If you're, if you've been trashy and you want to talk about it, we're here for you.

[Cecily Strong]

You all have those stories. We know it.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I mean, come on. Also, it's that thing where I think for my trash babysitter story of my own, it was like I only ever related to other adults, so I forgot that children do not relate the same way.

[Cecily Strong]

Yeah.

[Karen Kilgariff]

And I wonder if it's like that's part of it. It's like you're a young parent and you're just like, oh, wait, okay. That's right. Okay, here's my first story. The subject line is an Irish hometown story with a difference. Hi, Karen, Georgia, Stephen, Alejandra and all furry creatures. I love you gals. Obviously, as you brighten up my day. It says brighten up me day because they're Irish. Me day, I shall brighten up me day, my walks when I'm cooking, et cetera, et cetera. I first came across your podcast a few years ago when I heard my colleagues giggling in the office with their earphones in. They were all listening to you while working. Nice. So I could tell you about the spooky happenings in the house I grew up in. That's over 120 years old. But I'll leave that to another time and tell you about something way better. I wanted to let you know about a fantastic 83 year old from Ireland who was a crucial behind the scenes part of the Banshees of Venus.

[Cecily Strong]

Oh shit.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Did you watch that movie? I loved that movie. We think it's such a lovely story and of course Karen's Irish, so we wanted to share it with you.

[Cecily Strong]

Yes.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Delia Berry joined the knitting group through Greystone's cancer support. When her husband Patty died over 10 years ago, she found friends and comfort from this group and from gcs. So she wanted to give something special back. Something else special about Delia is that she also took and her sister's four children when she lost her sister to cancer many years ago. Delia is Jesus favorite person. She shot to fame having knit the iconic jumpers sweaters for Colin Farrell, Brendan Gleason and Barry Keoghan in the Oscar nominated movie the Banshees. Of Inna Sharon. So that movie is like, the sweaters are the third lead and Delia is the one who made all of them.

[Cecily Strong]

Amazing.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Also, Colin Farrell's sister, who actually won an Oscar for best supporting Carrie something, has an incredible cardigan that I was obsessed with like every. I watched it like three times.

[Cecily Strong]

I wonder if she made it. You can commission one. Oh, that's right.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Delia, I need to talk to you. Okay, so Brendan Gleason has even asked her to knit two more for him since. What we didn't know before now was that Delia is no stranger to the celebrity world. Having knit for Meryl Streep for her role in D at Luganza, and having taught Emily Watson how to knit for her role in the movie Little Women.

[Cecily Strong]

Cute.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Delia is an international superstar.

[Cecily Strong]

Teach me how to knit.

[Karen Kilgariff]

She fits knitting in and around her bingo. And walks around her town. Greystones, County Wicklow. In the garden of Ireland. In the garden of Ireland. Is that a saying?

[Cecily Strong]

You tell me.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I can't. How cool is she? Right? If you'd like to read more about our famous and generous Delia, you can read all about her in the New York Times, Vogue, the Daily Mail, to name a few. This is the best. Stay sexy and don't get murdered and wrap yourself in a cost knit errand sweater. Knit with love, Mary.

[Cecily Strong]

Wow, Mary.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I love that email.

[Cecily Strong]

It makes me want to be an old lady. Like, I'm excited to be an old lady also.

[Karen Kilgariff]

It's like the thing that brought her to knitting was this painful, difficult thing that then knitting actually helped her with. And then she kind of kept powering through, and then she was like, now everybody loves my knitting and now she needs her own. Yeah, she actually does. And like, all those stars will come and star in it with her.

[Cecily Strong]

Stop it. I love it. I'm mad. I'm mad. I love it.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Such a good email.

[Cecily Strong]

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[Cecily Strong]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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Goodbye Goodbye. Okay. Just found out my uncle's death was a murder. All the requisite pleasantries and compliments. I'm from a large east coast Puerto Rican family of murderinos. My abuelos grandparents were married for almost 70 years before Abuelo became an ancestor. Isn't that a beautiful way of saying he passed on?

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

And I am the oldest of 16 grandchildren. Several of us kids grew up on a heavy dose of diagnosis murder. 20, 20 CSI and the list goes on. Diagnosis Murder. Recently, I think I uncovered our family's murderino origin story. When I was growing up, our relative Rosa, and it says names changed, would occasionally come visit from Puerto Rico with her two kids, Leti and Roberto. Rosa's relation to us was unclear, but I assume that she was a distant aunt. During their visits, they would go to the local cemetery where Rosa's husband, my assumed uncle, was buried. I always wondered why he would be here instead of in Puerto Rico. Cut to a few weeks ago, a handful of the family was at Abuela's house, pouring through old albums and bins of pictures. My sister pulls out an 8 by 10 portrait of a handsome young man that looked like it was from the 60s. Who's this? She asked. Oh, that's Javier, Rosa's husband. My abuela said solemnly. You know, she said, turning to me, they killed him. I instantly had about a million questions and went to work trying to get them all answered. So here's the story I was able to get from my abuela, my mom and a free trial to a newspaper website. In the mid-80s, Rosa unfortunately had a miscarriage. Javier, who was Maya Abuelo's cousin, that's how they're related, dropped off a young Leti and Roberto at Mayabuelo's house so he could go be with Rosa in the hospital. It was the last time any of our family would see him alive. His body was found in a field the next day. He was 38 years old. The police interviewed everyone at my abuelo's house, including my mom, since that was the last place he was seen. It took months of investigation, but the story came together. Javier dropped off the kids and was carjacked on the way to the hospital. Hospital? He withdrew $100 from the ATM and 25 minutes later, his car was found on fire in a residential area. They found him the following day. He had been shot execution style. Nearly two years later, three suspects were arrested and one was eventually convicted. He was also convicted of killing a cab driver a few weeks after Javier's murder and is suspected to Be involved in a few other murders. After the trial, Rosa took the kids and moved back to Puerto Rico. So this happened in the U.S. yeah. By all accounts, she was never the same. Apparently the murderer was up for parole in 2019. And my uncle spoke at the hearing on behalf of our family. Everyone kept it quiet because they didn't want Rosa to find out. We're unsure of what the outcome was, but Covid hit shortly thereafter and the murderer died in prison. I found his obituary and it's clear his family loved him very much. Just as our family loved Javier. That's like a really beautiful sentiment.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah, it is, isn't it? Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

I've been musing about what could make a 23 year old man who was full of potential go on a robbery and murder spree, but this email is long enough. The whole ordeal was traumatizing for my family. And my theory is that it created a generational anxiety that fuels our interest in true crime. Or maybe it's just a horrible story that I feel the need to wrap up nicely. Either way, stay sexy and don't carjack people. J she her. Wow, Jay, that's a classic hometown.

[Karen Kilgariff]

And also just so personal and kind of beautiful. Like, because. Yeah, why would a 23 year old be not just robbing people, but robbing and murdering them?

[Cecily Strong]

Like this, like, email makes it clear that Jay has a really big heart. You know what I mean? Like, I totally got that just from the story being told, right?

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah. Thank you for sending that in. Thank you. Okay, we're gonna take a little left turn, please, and go do subject line culty Christian camp.

[Cecily Strong]

Okay.

[Karen Kilgariff]

And then it just says, sup? You all have been the voices I fall asleep to for years now. So thank you for your sweet murderous bedtime tales. They've definitely helped me avoid the shame merry go round. I typically ride as I'm falling asleep, so. Thank you.

[Cecily Strong]

I am very familiar with that ride.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I've been on it a time or two myself.

[Cecily Strong]

Honored to be part of the soundtrack.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I mean, actually, that kind of just made me think where it's like, yeah, if it's a shame merry go round, how do you, like, avoid it? It's like you have to do a step up of like, engaging different feelings. Stronger feelings.

[Cecily Strong]

Yeah. To make something louder.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

And we're fucking plenty loud, so.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Whew. I was relistening to Minisode 278 the other night, and it sparked a memory of summer camp for me that I had to tell you guys. In the late 90s, I went to A Christian summer camp with my best friend for some godforsaken reason. And it was as close to being inducted into a cult as I have ever come. Picture it. Summer in the Rocky Mountains, clean cut Christian teenager, camp counselors, horseback riding, mess halls, and coming home with hand, foot mouth disease. Oh my God, no.

[Cecily Strong]

Yeah, I was about to say I went to a camp like that, but it was Jewish. No, we did not.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Didn't get that. Yeah, all the camp staples, it says, except throw some very weird Christian spice in there. We attended sun rise sermons, lunchtime Bible studies, and midnight campfire sermons. One of the stranger games, quote unquote they had us play, was to go out into the forest after dark in pairs of two and find counselors scattered around acting like they were non believers. And we had to do our best to convert them or convince them to give Christianity a try.

[Cecily Strong]

Oh my God.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Like a culty scavenger hunt. The whole week culminated into a sunset sermon overlooking the mountains given by the owner of the camp. Singing worship songs and everyone becoming very emotional. At one point, he told all the campers to close their eyes and raise their hands if they felt like they accepted Jesus into their heart. This week I was absolutely nosy and peaked and saw my best friend raise her hand. And because I'm a girls girl and definitely did not want to be left out, I raised my hand too.

[Cecily Strong]

That's the right answer.

[Karen Kilgariff]

The speaker then asked us to lower our hands and open our eyes and asked who would be brave enough to come stand up front if we had raised our hand. Well, mama didn't raise no pussy. So I got up. I mean, so I got up and went to the front with some reluctant others, expecting my best friend to come up too. She did not. So there I was standing up while the crowd cheered and my best friend got teary eyed saying how glad she was that I finally accepted Jesus. What the fuck, Chelsea?

[Cecily Strong]

Oh no.

[Karen Kilgariff]

The speaker then asked us to write our name in the book of life, whatever the fuck that was.

[Cecily Strong]

That's a Jewish.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Is it? They just kind of blended a little.

[Cecily Strong]

Well, they stolen a lot of shit, but yeah, go ahead.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Okay. Really sorry on behalf of me and Chelsea.

[Cecily Strong]

Sorry.

[Karen Kilgariff]

That's really funny. What if they were like ex Jewish now they were born again Christian? They're like. But this actually was kind of effective, this one. Yeah, well, I winkled my way out of that step and decided I didn't think summer camp was for me anymore. So actually that's right where she stops. Anyway, thank you for all you do You've been my most reliable best friends through years of postpartum depression.

[Cecily Strong]

Wow.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Regular depression. And finding a wonderful therapist to help unpack all that shit.

[Cecily Strong]

Yay.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Partly due to listening to you guys talk about the ways you have benefited from therapy. You're both wonderful, stay sexy and definitely stay out of the forest at a Christian summer camp. Kate, she. Her. Oh, that's really funny. She winkled her way out of that one.

[Cecily Strong]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Cecily Strong]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Cecily Strong]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Cecily Strong]

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[Karen Kilgariff]

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[Cecily Strong]

Goodbye. My last one's called the Anne Frank Sandwich Story. Hello. I love you all. Let's go. For the past 10 years, I have been the proud stepmom to Ella, 20, and Sam, 23. And I myself have a pretty rad stepmom. This story took place when ella was around 7. My husband and I had been struggling to get Ella to eat the lunches we packed her for school. The excuses were rampant, ran out of time, didn't have a fork, an alien invaded the lunchroom, et cetera. It was a temporarily frustrating time in our lives, to be sure, and many grapes were sacrificed. One day after school, Ella was telling me about her day and what she learned. As she did so, her excitement grew. She wrote a book. She's famous. As if the subject were a pop culture celebrity. As I listened, it did not seem as if said historical figure's whole story had been told, and I started to wonder what the fuck to say to help her understand the horror and atrocity Anne Frank endured without crushing my sweet child's innocence. I asked a few follow ups as she unpacked her things, and we delicately made our way around the topic until it seemed she started to grasp the tiny bits of reality being sprinkled in, and her fangirl tone became a little more balanced. How do you. How do you.

[Karen Kilgariff]

She wrote a book. She was famous.

[Cecily Strong]

Sure. The book. She was famous.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Well, also, it is exciting that you're that age and you would get a book published. Like, it's like, I'm sure. She was like, could I do that?

[Cecily Strong]

Totally.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah.

[Cecily Strong]

Deciding not to totally ruin her afternoon, I suggested she go outside and play. As I unpacked her lunchbox, I was once again greeted by an uneaten sandwich. Taking a breath, I went out back and simply asked why she hadn't eaten that day. The usual response ensued, but this time it broke me. An exasperation, one skipping the reminder about her health and being able to focus in class, not bothering to mention food waste for the millionth time, I simply held up the rejected sandwich and said, all caps. Do you know who would have eaten this? Anne Frank. Her little face crumbled, and thus one of my worst slash best parenting stories was born. She's in college now, and we both laugh whenever I humbly tell this story. I'm fortunate to have built great relationships with both kids, thus continuing to dismantle the wicked stepmother, but I do still hate wasting food. Winky emoji. Thanks for everything, R. Wow. I bet it worked.

[Karen Kilgariff]

I'm sure it worked. Yeah. And also, that was very. Yet again, another example of, like, you're being very vulnerable with your own fuck up.

[Cecily Strong]

Yeah, we want to hear your fucked up stories. Cause we've told you all of ours.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah, seriously, You've seen every fuck up. You've heard every fuck up. We've Done it.

[Cecily Strong]

We've done it. We did it.

[Karen Kilgariff]

We've given it to you.

[Cecily Strong]

It's your turn at my favorite murdermail if you want to watch this video. Is that it?

[Karen Kilgariff]

No. Oh, I thought that was it. We got one last one, and it's asshole. Older sister stories. Hi, ladies. On minisode, episode 406, you asked for older sister stories, and I'm here to deliver. My sister is five years younger than me and has always been very gullible. Here are a few of my favorite older sister moments. When she was about three or four, I told her that our mom did not carry or give birth to her. Instead, she found a giant egg in a dollar General dumpster and hatched her from it. I told her that she could never tell our parents. She knew this information because it was a huge family secret. She cried for days and believed us for years, but.

[Cecily Strong]

Oh, my God.

[Karen Kilgariff]

But eventually told our parents that she knew where she came from. It's now a running joke in our family. And I still can't believe she thought this was true for so many years. She was a child.

[Cecily Strong]

She was a child. You lied to her.

[Karen Kilgariff]

And you're her older sister.

[Cecily Strong]

She trusted you.

[Karen Kilgariff]

You hold the reality of the world in your hand. I would also tell her that the ginger served with sushi was ham, and she would eat the weird ham every time we ate sushi. I also told her wasabi was pistachio ice cream and she ate the whole chunk of it at once when she was 10.

[Cecily Strong]

You're mean.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Love you and everything you do. Stay sexy and keep lying to your younger sisters. Lindsey.

[Cecily Strong]

No, that's trauma. That is just trauma.

[Karen Kilgariff]

The first time I ate wasabi, I was just looking at my friend and, like, what's gonna happen? It scared the shit out of me.

[Cecily Strong]

That, like, sinus clearing feeling. That's insane.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Yeah, but, like, when you don't know, like, I had no context of what it was. It's radish. So it's like, oh, yeah, radish. It has that. But, like, when you just put it in your mouth and you don't know. I thought the back of my head was gonna, like, blow out. It was crazy.

[Cecily Strong]

All right, okay, now, please, my favorite murder at Gmail. This is all on video that we're gonna put up in the fan cult if you want to watch it.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Oh, yeah. Do you want us, like, just intently stare at each other while we also read? Yeah, yeah. It's fun.

[Cecily Strong]

Do it.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Come on.

[Cecily Strong]

Stay sexy and don't get murdered. Goodbye, Elvis. Do you want a cookie.

[Karen Kilgariff]

This has been an exactly right production.

[Cecily Strong]

Our senior producer is Alejandra Keck.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Our editor is Aristotle Acevedo.

[Cecily Strong]

This episode was mixed by Liana Squalacci.

[Karen Kilgariff]

Email your hometowns to my favorite merchant.

[Cecily Strong]

And follow the show on Instagram and Facebook at my favorite murder and on Twitter at myfave Murder. Goodbye.