Sam Parr (1:47)

Yes, but.

Oz Pearlman (1:48)

Okay, so you've walked around the room, you've said hi to people, and open your eyes. And this is where I tell you. I say one person you walk up to, they give you a big old hug, and it means a lot that you're here right now and you look this person to the face. Can you picture that person's face?

Sam Parr (2:01)

Yes.

Oz Pearlman (2:03)

Could I have known that you were going to tell me there were 10 people at the birthday party. I don't know, but. Did I tell you to set this up? Is there any way I could have known how many people you'd have at this party or who they would be?

Sam Parr (2:13)

Of course not.

Oz Pearlman (2:13)

How. Right. How? And then the person that would hug you. Right. How could we know this? If they had a birthday party, a milestone, would you attend their party for

Sam Parr (2:24)

a really big one?

Oz Pearlman (2:25)

That's interesting how you thought, for a really big one. I wonder if they live far away. And in your mind you're thinking, have I been to their party before? Watch this. Let's switch it. Somebody just came up. They hugged you at your birthday party. Could have been anyone. You looked them in the eye. You were thinking in your head. When I go to their birthday party, and I saw. I know you know this person's birthday instantly, I could tell. Try not to react. January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December. Close your eyes. Okay, I'm going to just show the camera. Open your eyes. There is absolutely no way I can know who you would have thought of. Are we in agreement?

Sam Parr (3:06)

Yeah.

Oz Pearlman (3:07)

Or anything about them. Personal details. What month is that person born in?

Sam Parr (3:11)

July.

Oz Pearlman (3:11)

July. July. July has 31 days. I'm born in July. That's my birthday month. Think beginning, middle, end. Beginning, middle, end. Close your eyes one more time. So nobody. Okay, I'm gonna go with this. I'm gonna go with this. I'm gonna commit. I think it's a guy. Open your eyes. In fact, when you looked at them, you looked up directly at them. Similar height. Are they older than you?

Sam Parr (3:32)

They're older than me.

Oz Pearlman (3:33)

I could tell it was a differential thing. What's their birthday? July 10th, July, 10. Uh, and then you gave them a hug. You looked him right in the eye. You go. Really means a lot that you're here. John. Is it John?

Sam Parr (3:47)

Yes. That's crazy. I hate that. My brother's name is John. That's. That's absolutely insane. That's crazy. It makes me emotional a little bit. My brother. I was telling my this. We had a nanny at our house this morning. And I was like, I'm talking to this guy. I was like, he's a mentalist. And she's like, huh, yeah. Is there. Oh, what do you explain? Or how do you explain what you do?

Oz Pearlman (4:15)

So everyone knows what a magician is. So think of this as a magician of the mind. There are no props. Rather than tell you, here, pick a card. You put it back, and I find it. I can just have you think of a card and see if I can deduce where your mind went. It's how to influence people. It's how to pick up on what they're thinking and how to make it seem as if I can read people's minds. Right. Which we all know is impossible. But. But I say it all the time. I can't remind. I don't possess supernatural powers. I am not psychic. I don't talk to the dead. I don't know the future. I've just found ways to influence you and get information out of you that you can't explain through a variety of different methods. It's kind of an elevated form of magic. It truly is. I find the purest form of entertainment is standup comedy. It's you, a microphone, and potentially thousands or tens of thousands or millions of people. Just the spoken word. Magic involves props. And I don't. I don't dislike magic. I love magic. I started as a magician, but as I evolved, I got rid of the props. Rid of the props. Rid of the props. And if you saw me last night, did a show for 1200 people, in a few days, show for 4000 people, I will show up with virtually nothing. If you lost my luggage, I could do the show with, literally, a marker and a flip chart, because that's not the show. I'm the show. So to describe it, it's a magician of the mind.

Sam Parr (5:38)

Well, what's interesting about what you do. So I've known who you are for a while because I studied, like, magic when I was a kid, and, like, a lot of. I mean, I was a very stereotypical, kind of nerdy, introverted kid wanting to, like, be loved by people, and I studied this stuff.

Oz Pearlman (5:50)

Join the club.

Sam Parr (5:51)

Yes. Which I want to talk to you all about that. That club. So I've known about you for a little bit, and then I was reading your book, I thought I was gonna learn more about, like, how to read people's minds when I. Or how to, like, do magic or something like that. You're basically like a modern version of how to win friends and influence people.

Oz Pearlman (6:05)

That's the hook. If I could distill all of the skills I've learned in the last 30 years doing what I do, which is really interacting with people, that's truly what I do. I've learned that what my product is, and everyone should know what their product is, is people always think you're there to fool them. If you're a magician, that's. That's not it at all. I create very memorable moments and For a lot of the companies I work for, what I mean by memorable moments when I leave something people talk about and. And the skills that I use within my profession that are not the magic and not the mentalism. But if I quit this business today, started a new business tomorrow, what could I use from these 30 years that would make me successful at any business? I believe these are the core skills. So it's. It's a reinvention of that book.

Sam Parr (6:46)

All right, so a lot of people watch and listen to the show because they want to hear us just tell them exactly what to do when it comes to starting or growing a business. Now, a lot of people message Sean and I, and they say, all right, I want to start something on the side. Is this a good idea? Is that a good idea? And again, what they're really just saying is just give me the ideas. Well, my friends here in luck. So my old company, the Hustle, they put together a hundred different side Hustle ideas, and they have appropriately called it the side Hustle Idea Database. It's a list of 100 pretty good ideas, frankly. I went through them. They're awesome. And it gives you how to start them, how to grow them. Things like that gives you a little bit of inspiration. So check it out. It's called the side Hustle Idea Database. It's in the description below. You'll see the link. Click it, check it out, Let me know in the comments what you think. What are the one or two things that people are most transformed in their lives based off of what they learned from your book or from you?

Oz Pearlman (7:41)

I think one of the biggest ones is how to make your fear of rejection disappear. So that one, to me personally, I could see it from a young age, was my biggest hurdle. The book starts out with me in my teenage years. I got into magic when I was 13. I don't know what you were saying again.

Sam Parr (7:56)

Do you remember Scotch and soda?

Oz Pearlman (7:58)

Of course.

Sam Parr (7:58)

That was my. I remember I got that trick, and that was my trick. And then the quarter trick. Yeah. And, yeah, that was my first David Blaine.

Oz Pearlman (8:05)

You saw the Dave Blaine street magic. I'm buying everything. I was really into trick decks.

Sam Parr (8:09)

Yeah.

Oz Pearlman (8:10)

So I started doing the tricks, and I got a restaurant gig when I was 14. I walked in, I talk about in the book. I don't know where I got the cojones to go in there. You know, my mom was with me and just. I knew how to do a sales call at a young age of how to go in, how to convince them, how to use benefits. Oriented language. And I got this gig. And within two weeks of me doing it, I realized that my biggest hurdle was when I went up to feel they would reject me. And it hurt. You know what I mean, Sam? Like you go to three tables in a row, we're like, get out of here, kid. It's very bruising and it's very difficult to approach the next table and not have a bad attitude.

Sam Parr (8:42)

Yeah.

Oz Pearlman (8:42)

And so again, I saw this vision of I want to buy more tricks. Tricks are expensive. My parents were divorced. I don't have money. So if I keep doing this, I need this path to make money to buy more tricks.

Sam Parr (8:52)

Right.

Oz Pearlman (8:52)

It was very like linear A to B. And so I realized I have to find a way to overcome this part where people have the ability to hurt my feelings. And I have to. So I just, at that point, and I describe it really clearly, I almost became my own agent. If you're in showbiz, you have an agent who handles your negotiations, who does all the icky stuff you don't want to do. You don't get a movie star on the phone. I can't call Michael B. Jordan right now and negotiate. You negotiate with this person's agent. I didn't have an agent. I'm a 14 year old twerp. I'm four foot nothing. I'm walking up to your table at an Italian restaurant. So. So I created this separation in my mind where I no longer took it personally. When I was rejected. I said, that's not me. They don't know O's Perlman. That's O's the magician. It was this cognitive dissociation where I was able to take the negativity and put it on someone else that they don't know. Oh, it's the tricks. I gotta work on these tricks. And I didn't take it personal. And it was truly transformative. And I believe that that ability to overcome rejection and like that fear of it. Cause it's not even rejection, it's the fear of. Of it and failure. So many people, when they start a business or go after their goals, they don't go full in because they keep one foot out. You know, it's like you don't jump in the pool. You keep one foot out to protect yourself if it goes wrong. That's what I've learned and what sets me apart from my competitors, I think greatly is that ability to focus on goals, not care if there's hurdles. I don't care if there's a no or a no or no. It's a not yet. And I have, to this point, achieved way more than I thought I would. And I'm not even done. I'm nowhere close.

Sam Parr (10:22)

When I was 14, I remember I read this book called the Game. Have you ever read the Game?

Oz Pearlman (10:26)

Of course, Neil. Oh, my God. It has a little bit of an ick factor, but the way it discusses and quantifies and creates terminology for interactions with people is incredible.

Sam Parr (10:36)

So the Game is a book, basically. I think. I think I was a 14. It created this. This word called pickup artist. I read it because it was like. It's like a little bit James Bondi where you're like, it's like an adventure book about hearing these guys who are nerds going to hook up with these girls. But the reality is, as I read it and many other people read it, is because I was 14, and I was desperate to get a girl to like me, and I wanted a relationship. I didn't want to, like, hook you up with girls. That wasn't even, like, a possibility. It was like, can I please convince a girl to, like, like me?

Oz Pearlman (11:02)

Yeah.

Sam Parr (11:03)

And so I studied that book, and then I was reading what your. Your work and watching your podcast, and you do these things where you talk about approaching people, and you're like, I'll approach someone. Like, because I think what you say is. You've talked about this a bunch. You're like, I have to walk into a room of 500 people or 10 people, and I have to control the energy. Yep. And so I've learned that if I walk up to them and I'll say, hey, I gotta run in a second. But first, before I leave, I've been told by the owner of the restaurant to do something special for you. And that seems like you just made that phrase up. But, like, every part of that sentence has a very particular purpose.

Oz Pearlman (11:34)

Yes.

Sam Parr (11:34)

And when you study, like, how to meet girls, it's like, oh, he just put a time constraint on it. Oh, he's coming up at an angle as if he's going, I caught straight

Oz Pearlman (11:41)

out of the game. I'm not even trying to window dress it. That's 100% things that were learned in the game and that are from the world of pickup artists where it's iterating. It's just like any type of software platform changing little ingredients in a recipe and seeing how they do. And the other part of the recipe is other people and what makes them feel comfortable. And a big one that I analyze is when you leave an event, who did you remember I'm just. I'm obsessed with that term. Who did you remember? Who stood out to you and why? And normally you don't think about it. It's like in the game, who are the naturals? The people who have natural game who didn't learn it, but how do they know that? They walk up and they have this cool, calm composure. What's it like when you walk into a bar, you smile and you approach the first person you look at and you say, hey, how's it going? Oh, I had to come say hi to you. That confidence is contagious, right? That energy of someone who does that naturally. But I would say 90% of people don't have that. So how do you develop that? And how do you not have the fear of, oh, what am I going to say to them? If they say this, they're going to think I'm stupid. All of the inner dialogue that kind of talks you out of what you could be in your full potential. So the packaging was magic for me when I was a kid. But underneath the magic in the skill that we bring to the table, and especially as a mentalist, having done this for so many years, there's skills that have nothing to do with my tricks, nothing that allow me to walk into a room, be remembered, you know, engage with people and create deeper bonds. Those three things are a cheat code in life. If you're able to do them, you will succeed at anything you do. I don't care what business you're in. I don't care if it's interpersonal. I don't care if you're a teacher who is selling attention to their students or a mom trying to get their kids to listen and eat their vegetables and do their homework. How to convince people and how to win them over is the most important thing in life.

Sam Parr (13:23)

Are there any cool crimes that you could commit that.

Oz Pearlman (13:27)

I mean, I could commit tremendous financial crimes because my job is a con man. It's exactly the same as a con man, but it's an honest con, of course. Right? So a hundred years ago is when it's a little fuzzy. When is when. I don't want to call them con man, but psychics who would take your money to talk to dead people or to tell you your future. They would take your money and that was the transaction. And whether you were getting the product you paid for, I don't know. That's up to you. I'm not going to say whether psychics are real or not. I'm going to let people believe what they want. But whether or not you can prove that, it's a matter of kind of faith. I am not selling a product that's false or fake. I'm telling you from the start it's fake. Like, I couldn't be more honest. This is built on magic. I have no supernatural psychic powers. It's a learnable, repeatable skill.

Sam Parr (14:18)

Well, then why, why is this not being taught?

Oz Pearlman (14:20)

Like, because it's, it's. I'm crafting a narrative that doesn't generalize. So again, the beauty of it is that you believe these skills could generalize to every part of your life. They're hyper focused.

Sam Parr (14:31)

Yeah, but I was joking with someone and I was like, this guy's so powerful and he's using it to guess a bunch of losers people's ATM pin number. Like, what a waste.

Oz Pearlman (14:41)

Seth Meyers was recently on TV with Kate Hudson and she was talking about me because I did something for Hugh and Hugh Jackman. It's a great clip. And Seth Meyers had the funniest joke where he goes, you know, I think he might be an alien. He goes, but why did the aliens send the mentalists here? And then go, you know, be great for this. Bar mitzvahs in parties.

Sam Parr (15:00)

It's like, what a waste.

Oz Pearlman (15:02)

Such a good joke. Oh, Seth Meyers, man, very funny. He's a great comedian. And, and that was, it just, it had me laughing so hard I posted it, but it was so funny. But it's because it's funny. But you don't realize how true that is. So if you were to use this in a different sense. So if I was using this to, to steal your financial information and then use it to potentially steal from you, could I do that? Absolutely. Could I? Absolutely. It's not that different of a subset of what I'm doing, guiding you to giving me the information. It's really what scammers do.

Sam Parr (15:31)

Were you. Have you. So we've been in here. I don't know how long we've been in here, but you came in earlier, we talked for 10 minutes.

Oz Pearlman (15:35)

Were you.

Sam Parr (15:36)

Did you. Have you clocked me the second that, like, were you making. Are you. Is like Robocop making calculations? The second.

Oz Pearlman (15:42)

Yeah, I mean, there's a bunch of calculations. I normally come into these things with a little more info.

Sam Parr (15:47)

Yeah, I felt like, you know how like that story of like, someone goes to prison and they, they got to like in the first day, they got to like, kick someone's ass.

Oz Pearlman (15:55)

Yeah, yeah, that's it. Day one.

Sam Parr (15:57)

Yeah. So you Came in and I was

Oz Pearlman (15:59)

like, if you want to read the book, the last chapter is me going to jail. I know.

Sam Parr (16:02)

And I read that, and I spent time in jail too.

Oz Pearlman (16:04)

How many days? Months?

Sam Parr (16:06)

Five days.

Oz Pearlman (16:07)

Wow. For what?

Sam Parr (16:08)

DUIs and fighting. I. In college, I'm 14 years sober. But I went through. I was basically intoxicated for like two years. Every 24 hours a day.

Oz Pearlman (16:16)

And you'd be like a. Like a raging drunk, like in a fight.

Sam Parr (16:19)

Yeah, I was just like a risk taker. I was like. I was just reckless and I only cared about myself. And so I just did a lot of dumb shit.

Oz Pearlman (16:25)

Just lucky you made it through it, huh?

Sam Parr (16:27)

Oh, my God. Getting arrested and going to jail, it changed my life because I was there and I was like, what am I doing?

Oz Pearlman (16:33)

This is.

Sam Parr (16:34)

Then I read that you were in jail for kind of like a. It could have potentially, but.

Oz Pearlman (16:37)

But it could have ruined my life. I used to shoplift. I would shoplift things I didn't even need or want.

Sam Parr (16:42)

Were you good?

Oz Pearlman (16:44)

Amazing.

Sam Parr (16:44)

Yeah.

Oz Pearlman (16:45)

But think about. I was sleight of hand expert. So I used to be at a 7 11. I could. I could shoplift. It was like. It was like Mission Impossible with Tom Cruise when we had the CD and he sweat like this and it was gone. That was me. Okay? That was literally.

Sam Parr (16:55)

What were you selling? Candy.

Oz Pearlman (16:56)

I used to steal cigars, and I didn't smoke cigars, so how stupid is that? Can we discuss that for a moment? I would steal them from my friends and I would take them and there's

Sam Parr (17:06)

aren't cigars behind the counter.

Oz Pearlman (17:07)

So I could do it behind the counter. I could do it anywhere.

Sam Parr (17:09)

What?

Oz Pearlman (17:09)

Oh, man. I'm like, expert. Well, you gotta understand again. So I could do there. I'm not gonna give away magic secrets, but I could literally take something in my hands and just go like this. And it's gone. And you'd be like, what the fuck? Like, so. And I would do that. But also I'd misdirect. I'd say, I'm putting it back. And then it was gone. Then like, you thought I'd put it back. It's like a. It's kind of like the way you could pickpocket somebody. I could take your phone and say, oh, let me put it back. And you don't know that it's already gone again. Because a pickpocket touches you here, does this misdirection, right when you look there. That's training. That's misdirection 101, beginner I didn't tell you to look there, but you instantly look there. That's the same tactic I used to steal stuff. And so I peer pressured my friends. I won't tell the whole story. I don't want to ruin it if anyone does buy the book. But it was in college. It was drunken stupidity. We stole a bunch of stuff from a Papa John's. And then at night, we went back to house party. We were wearing Papa John's T shirts that we had stolen from, dirty ones, and a Papa John's phone. Going around the party, house party. Like, 25 people. You want Papa John's. Who wants pepperoni? Like, just run like.

Sam Parr (18:09)

You stole someone's cell phone at the Papa John's.

Oz Pearlman (18:11)

This is too early for a cell phone. This is in 2002. This is like a landline broken phone.

Sam Parr (18:15)

So you, like, unplugged it and took the.

Oz Pearlman (18:16)

It was broken because, you know, it's a college one. They have like 20 phones line up because all they're doing is answering phones. So one of them had been cracked. So down the. The middle was a crack. So it was broken. So it wasn't a tap.

Sam Parr (18:26)

But it had the logo on it.

Oz Pearlman (18:27)

It had everything. So I just swiped it, put it. I had like a poofy fake north face, I don't know if in my jacket right here, like, instantly gone. And I just stole that one. And I made my friends go steal something. So they went in. It was a bathroom slash locker room. So one of the lockers wasn't closed all the way, so they had it like, open by a corner. They just reached in and took a bunch of T shirts that were dirty. They. They turned up being like, grease stains.

Sam Parr (18:48)

It's good. Get good caper.

Oz Pearlman (18:49)

Yes, great caper. And so I got woken up at about, I don't even know, two or three in the morning. And I was. I was like, wearing like, tighty whiteies. And I'm wearing the Papa John shirt, which is way too big for me because I'm, like, small. And I get woken up by a dude being like, yo, the cops are here. And I thought it was a noise violation because I'm, like, so drunk and passed out. Like, I don't live here, dude. What do you want for me? And he's like, no, the cops are here for you. I'm like, for me? And then, like, one minute later, I think this guy, they. They come in and the cops are in, and they're like, you're under arrest. And I'm like, under arrest for What? And they're like, felony larceny. The first one's out of their mouth, which I'm like, felony. I'm like, true. You know, and then I go, stealing what? And they go, from a Papa John's, and. And they didn't let me put pants on. And this was in big rapids, Michigan, McCall county.

Sam Parr (19:38)

Negative 10.

Oz Pearlman (19:39)

It's like. Yeah, it's like negative 10 fahrenheit. And I'm literally perp walked out. I thank God they let me get. I got. I got my. Dang. My contacts or my glass. I can't remember. I think they let me get my contacts. I was near legal blind before I got Lasik. And man, in these, like, tiny, tight, tighty whities, they brought my pants with me. It was like so unnecessary. The whole thing arrested us, brought us in, and we were in jail for three and a half days.

Sam Parr (20:01)

Yeah, I mean, you stole something.

Oz Pearlman (20:03)

Changed my life. Never stole since that Same instance, different person, wrong thing, can't get a job in finance. The path just is so different. But I was very, very smart. And I don't say that I'm not trying to be cocky, but school came very easily to me and math came incredibly easy. And so it allowed me if. If. And I just. It's so lucky that I was able to get great grades while completely messing up in other sectors of my life where normally those things are. There's a linear correlation, like if you're doing ton of drugs, you're probably failing out of school. I wasn't. Somehow I was still getting straight A's and doing well and covering my tracks. And so there's differences of. And then I stopped drinking a couple of years ago. I didn't really have a problem, but I just was a change that I decided to make. And I think it was. It was a healthier path.

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Oz Pearlman (21:44)

Nice.

Sam Parr (21:44)

Where I was like, I am a racing horse in the aisle getting ready to go. And racing horses, they're not nervous. They don't think about any of this. They're just there. And so I would think I was like, I'm just a machine. And I would like, look down on myself and be like, well, there's the machine. I am nervous, but it doesn't matter. The machine's not nervous and he's about to race.

Oz Pearlman (22:03)

Right.

Sam Parr (22:04)

I'm so happy the machine exists. And that was like an alter ego. And it was the exact same thing of like, disassociating in order to perform. And it's the same thing actually with starting a business. I've started and sold a company and by maybe some traditional measures, I've been a success. But I still am, like, incredibly fearful about starting any new project or before this podcast. And what is interesting about starting new things is you realize that the repetitions you say, I must accept that this fear is going to happen, but I have practiced so often at getting past the fear and I just accept that this is part of the journey, not why am I fearful.

Oz Pearlman (22:40)

Right.

Sam Parr (22:41)

So I, I think that most everything someone can improve on. But whether you're going to be in the NBA or not, it's likely due to were you born 7ft tall or not?

Oz Pearlman (22:50)

Yeah, I would agree.

Sam Parr (22:51)

Like, you can ma. I like, you know, a five foot five guy can, like, maximize potential for basketball. But like, LeBron James was born and he worked hard.

Oz Pearlman (22:59)

And he worked hard. Yeah.

Sam Parr (23:00)

It's a skill and a talent. Where does this rank on skill versus talent? Like, how much can you teach me in order to be better and do things like you do?

Oz Pearlman (23:10)

I would like to think that it's mostly skill based. If you were willing to put in the work, you'd probably get very, very good. There's just no question, where's the ceiling that, like, you hit that I have gone over or that other people that are at the top of the game would have gone Over. I think that the core skill for me is one of relentless drive. So I'm willing to overcome failure consistently. Like, I'll fail and I don't mind it. A lot of other people would fail enough times and be like, oh, but

Sam Parr (23:39)

like, it's failure for you. You're in a group of seven people trying to do a trick and it just.

Oz Pearlman (23:44)

Yeah, exactly. Bombs. Yes.

Sam Parr (23:45)

When was the last time you bond?

Oz Pearlman (23:48)

I it again, define what bombing is because as you get better and better, you get to move the goalposts, you get to change the rules. Yeah. So you're defining something that I define very differently.

Sam Parr (23:59)

Got it. So it's not binary.

Oz Pearlman (24:01)

It's not binary at all. Because you only know if something's right if you knew what was wrong. But listen to me, because that's really poignant. You only know if it's wrong if I've set the terms as you think this, I guess this I didn't get it. It's wrong. What if you're watching a movie and there's three directors cuts and you never saw the other director's cuts. A good example is I did something with Josh Allen for quarterback for the Bills where Josh Allen was told, hey, if I talk to you, do we know each other? No. No. I set this up. Josh. No. I give him the ball and I say, look around the room and throw the ball to anybody. I wrote it down and show everybody. He throws it to the first guy, it's him. I go throw it to another guy. I wrot it down, it's him. It's like, how are you doing this? I guess the two players he throw the ball to. I go, I know who you're going to throw the ball to right now. I'm not going to write it. I can prove 100%. I know exactly who you're going to throw the ball to. I go, put the marker. Put this. Go throw it somebody. I go, I knew you would do that. And he's like, yeah, how do I know that? I go, think of your ATM pin code. And I go, does your wife even know it? He goes, no. And everyone started applauding. It was pretty funny. It's like a little, little bit rude, but. And so I then guessed this guy's ATM pin code. He freaks out. And then I had the two other guys stand up and I go, what's your jersey number? His jersey number's 88. Next guy, what's yours? 50. Their jersey numbers were the third guy's ATM PIN code to his bank. Amazing trick. No one's ever done that before. What would have happened if I got it miserably wrong, which I have before? I never did the last part. All I did was guess two of these people and then I guessed the ATM pink and you would have been blown away and you would have never seen that. The whole thing to me went wrong. But you didn't know that. Do you understand what I'm saying? So you don't know what's next. So in, in a lot of the tricks you've had, like they're called multiple outs. I have different ways that this can end. I have, you know, it's like when I did a T shirt reveal on the Today show and Al Roker goes, what underwear are you wearing? I'm like, you don't even know the half of it, brother.

Sam Parr (25:53)

Did you have underwear on?

Oz Pearlman (25:54)

No, but that's a funny point because you just don't know where I would have gone with it because I don't tell you. And I have the element of surprise to my advantage. So as I've gotten better at my craft, I've realized that I get to call the shots and know where it's going to go. So a lot of times you don't know if I got it wrong or if I get it wrong. I will then overcome that hurdle and get it right. And it's actually stronger because it looks like you got it wrong. And then, oh my God, he got it after all. It builds drama.

Sam Parr (26:23)

Are there people above you where you're like, man, I would love to be good as this person, or are you

Oz Pearlman (26:28)

at what I do?

Sam Parr (26:29)

Yeah, you're. Are you at the top again, I'm

Oz Pearlman (26:31)

not going to answer that for you. Just do a Google search and you can kind of figure that out for yourself. But at this point right now, it's indisputable. It's not even. It's like when you describe LeBron at the moment. But again, you've got to understand there's waves, there's peaks and valleys. It's silly to ever think that everything's going to stay the same. You've got to stay at the top of your game and keep reinventing. But I'm not going to define that for you. I'm going to let you look at objective metrics subjectively. There's tremendous amounts of people that I admire, people that are. There could be kids. There's a 19 year old person who does what I'm like watching. I'm like, wow, this is cutting edge. This is new stuff. It's silly not to learn from everyone. As soon as you do that, you start dying.

Sam Parr (27:08)

When you are learning a new trick or a new skill.

Oz Pearlman (27:12)

Yep.

Sam Parr (27:12)

Can you walk me through, like, your routine on how you focus?

Oz Pearlman (27:16)

So I'm. The weird part about me is that I do so many, like, TV and media appearances that think of a comedian. A comedian has to work out new material, and then they tell the joke at a comedy, like a comedy seller or some club, and they keep refining, refining, refining, and then it's very funny. And then they've got their material for a special. Right. That's their. I like the parallel. Cause comedy's the closest thing to what I do. I have to create new material for when I go on tv because if you keep doing the same thing, it gets very tired. So I constantly. When you see me on these things, I'm doing that trick for the first time ever. So when you see the thing with Josh Allen, I'd never done that before. Before I did it in the room for them. I had never done that before. That was the first time. Which is kind of the craziest thing to realize, because I can't burn my material that I do in my normal sets, like in my corporate show and in my place where I'm performing for audience members. If I did that all on tv, it would lose its luster for when I do it in paid performances. So what I'm constantly doing is thinking of what's the ending and rewinding backwards. And it's just like reverse engineering, which I think is really my skill set. I went to school for engineering. I know my solution, and I'm just trying to figure out a way to get to it. Do you understand what I mean? It's like in math.

Sam Parr (28:33)

Well, I do that with business. So when I was 24, my first company, I said, I grew up poor. And I was like. I remember this distinctly, having this feeling of, like, I'm afraid my mom's car is going to run out of gas. Wow. And, like, created trauma.

Oz Pearlman (28:48)

I believe it.

Sam Parr (28:48)

Yeah. I don't want to feel that anymore. I want to be rich.

Oz Pearlman (28:51)

You knew you wanted to be rich?

Sam Parr (28:52)

Yes.

Oz Pearlman (28:53)

At what age?

Sam Parr (28:54)

19.

Oz Pearlman (28:55)

That's pretty interesting.

Sam Parr (28:56)

Maybe even before that. But I was like. At 19, I was like, When I went to college, I worked for people and they were rich. And I was like, rich people are real people, right? Oh, my God. This is like a thing I could touch. This is like a TV thing. And then I asked a rich person, I said, like, what's rich?

Oz Pearlman (29:10)

Right.

Sam Parr (29:10)

And they were like, Well, I spend $50,000 a month. And I was like, well, you're the richest person I know.

Oz Pearlman (29:15)

Right.

Sam Parr (29:16)

And then I looked at this. Have you heard of a safety withdrawal rate?

Oz Pearlman (29:19)

No.

Sam Parr (29:20)

So the safety withdrawal rate is if you have a liquid pot of money, you can. We can withdraw 3% of the money.

Oz Pearlman (29:25)

Sure, sure. I didn't know that's what you're calling it, but yeah.

Sam Parr (29:28)

Yeah.

Oz Pearlman (29:28)

How can you have a perpetual motion machine where you just live off the principal?

Sam Parr (29:30)

Yeah. Where you're, like, free. You will never run out of money as long as you stay within the rules that you've created.

Oz Pearlman (29:35)

Right.

Sam Parr (29:35)

And some rich guy was like, well, 50,000 is how much I spend. And I was like, that's an astronomical amount of money. At the time, I was spending 1500amonth in college. I don't know. And so I was like, did the math. I'm like, 30%. I was like, okay, so I need $20 million.

Oz Pearlman (29:47)

So I was like, right, so it's like 600. Yeah.

Sam Parr (29:49)

Yeah. So I was like, how do I get to $20 million by the age of 30? Like, okay, well, I think I did the thing called Ikiguy. Have you heard of Ikiguy? What you're good at, what the world wants, what the world wants to pay for what you're passionate about. The goal is to find something in the middle.

Oz Pearlman (30:04)

Smart.

Sam Parr (30:05)

That's, like, how you get in, like, flow a little bit. I was like, I like to write. I like to. So I settled on creating a newsletter, a newsletter company. So I was like, okay, so in order to get 20 million by 30, I have to build a company that I could probably sell for 30 or 40 million dollars, which means if it's going to be media, I probably have to be doing 18 million in revenue with this EBITDA. The way I would get there is I would create a newsletter that gets to this many subscribers. And if I do that by year four, that means by year three, I got to be here. Year two, I got to be here. And then it was like, okay, every month. This is where I need to be at each month.

Oz Pearlman (30:32)

Wow, that's intense.

Sam Parr (30:33)

And so I was like, well, if I could just set this up to where all I have to do is worry about what I have to achieve next month and next month and next quarter, then I can allow myself not to worry. So it's just like execution mode.

Oz Pearlman (30:43)

Wow.

Sam Parr (30:44)

And so the idea was like, I'll do that. And so I ended up. I sold my company when I was 31. So it worked.

Oz Pearlman (30:49)

That's the ultra runner mentality right there. You don't think to yourself, like, I've done a race that was 153 miles and I felt like crap very early on.

Sam Parr (30:56)

And you just go next mile.

Oz Pearlman (30:58)

You just have to get to the next thing that you're going to do, whether it's a mile, whether for me it's the next gel, which is going to be in 20 minutes. And that's all I'm thinking about, is just get to that gel. Do not extend beyond that. The first time I did this race called the Spartan, it's in Greece. 153 miles in 36 hours. There's a lot of these races you hear that are longer. This one is arguably the hardest because the cutoff is very tight. Like, a lot of these other ones are glorified. You could walk like this 250 miler. You can walk the whole. You could. People are going to get pissed. But you can jog and walk five days, right? They do it literally that 250. I see, like, you have to like calculate the hours. I'm like, how many hours this is. So this is. You have to run this whole thing or you're out. You're out. Most people are cut by 50 miles into this race. It's. It's that challenging. So at that race, there's a video of me and a buddy of mine, it's on YouTube. We're at mile 54. He goes, oh my God, we only have 99 miles to go. And I literally say, shut your mouth. Like, I just, I was, I DNF'd that year. I didn't finish and I was crushed because that thought of right now, I still have a hundred miles to run. It broke me. It broke my spirit. I just couldn't, I couldn't, I couldn't feel that. It's exactly what you just said, which is, I'm gonna make $20 million by the time I'm 30. I'm already 27. I'm nowhere near. Like, you just crumble. It's like a diet. It's. Instead of just saying, stay focused on the next step, we're getting to 10,000 subscribers. Don't worry about getting to a million. We're that close. Let's focus on now. And I think that's the best way to do it.

Sam Parr (32:19)

That's the best way life. Me and my partner Sean, we call it a B, Z. So Z is the long term vision that, that inspires you, but that's not helpful. But it's rather. It's good for inspiration. It's not good for daily action. For you're at A, you don't worry about C, D, or anything else. You just learned about your A. I worry about B. Yeah. Then when I get to B, I worry about C. Smart. And so that's kind of like, the idea. And so, anyway, I read this about you reverse engineering your trick, and I was like, okay, here's one of these metaphors for life, because that's, like. Works perfectly for, like, anything, honestly.

Oz Pearlman (32:48)

And it's. It's weird how that happens where things are going. I also have a bad problem where, when I'm at my peak, when things are at their best, I have this fatalistic pursuit of, like, oh, man, things are too good right now. It can't continue to go better. And so I'm like, I'm not enjoying the present moment of things being incredible. And everyone's like, dude, you're doing this. This. I'm like, yeah, but what's next? And so that's a mindset I have to kind of overcome a lot of the time, which is always just, you know, being stuck in, like, fifth gear and saying, what am I going to do next? What's going to be even bigger?

Sam Parr (33:18)

What about next? All the time, I should be deriving

Oz Pearlman (33:21)

joy because I'm doing things that if you had told me 10 years ago, I'd be doing. They'd be impossible. It's like, oh, I'm at the Golden Globes with all the winners. I'm now hosting the White House Correspondents Dinner. Like, I'm like, there are things that I would not have dreamed of occurring that had you rewound and said to me, you're going to do this and this, I'd be like, there's just no way. That's true. And now when you're in it, you don't really enjoy it in the same way, because it's a means to an ends, but I don't know what the ends are. It's a hamster wheel that never stops. You know, it's kind of like we've now entered this cycle of a content game where all of us are vying for eyeballs. And it never ends. It's like, I have friends who are partners at law firms. I remember my sister. I have two sisters that are older than me. When I first moved to New York, I was 17. An internship over the summer.

Sam Parr (34:09)

Where are you from?

Oz Pearlman (34:10)

Michigan.

Sam Parr (34:11)

I come from Missouri, so good. Midwestern guys, right?

Oz Pearlman (34:13)

Very friendly. And I was here and it's just like your thing where I met this gay couple. And these guys were both partners in a law firm. No kids. Each of them made over a million dollars a year. Okay. I'm like, what? You understand? Like, it's. I don't even. I can't even comprehend that number. It's. It's unfathomable. And this is in. This is in like 19. This is in 2000. And I just don't even understand. They go to restaurants every night. I'm like, you eat at restaurants every night? I haven't been able to eat dessert more than once a year on my birthday. Like, I just don't.

Sam Parr (34:42)

You gotta ask if you can order coke.

Oz Pearlman (34:43)

Everything about this is insane, and I can't get over it. It's exactly like what you just said. And so when you're viewing this from an outside perspective, I just can't explain how you get. Once you start attaining those levels, you no longer see it the way you did before.

Sam Parr (35:04)

What do you do with the money once you've already made it? This is a question Sean and I ask our successful guests all the time. And the reason we ask it is because if you are successful, if you do have a little bit of money, information on how to spend or invest your money, it's actually really hard to come by. And I know this because inside of Hampton, which is my community of founders, people ask this question all the time. People have made 10 or $50 million. How do you spend it? How do you invest it? And so to help solve this problem and answer this question, I actually interviewed 80 plus founders. Guys like Scott Galloway, Alex Hormozi, Brian Johnson, people who are worth fifty, a hundred, even billions of dollars. And we got them to reveal everything. So their net worths, how much they pay themselves, their monthly expenses, their portfolio, things like that. And we turn these 80 interviews into one document. And I don't think you can find this type of information literally anywhere on the Internet. And it's completely free. So if you want to see behind the net worth of people who are worth billions of dollars and their portfolios, their expenses, everything, you go to joinhampton.com reveal again. Joinhampton.com reveal. Check it out. What can I do to improve my odds that I can guess that someone's lying to me?

Oz Pearlman (36:08)

So I've gone into a bit of like, lie detection. But the thing is, I'm not a body language expert. So, like, I'm not. There's people that. That's what they study. And even then it's Wishy washy. As to like, how effective is this? It's like looking at, you know, it's almost like only vitamins. What's the efficacy? How much can you really figure it out to know if people are lying to you? I think that the, the key way that I do it, within the construct of my show, I set up very strict parameters of questions that I can potentially get the answer to easier. It's not a daily life thing. This skill doesn't generalize. Does that make sense?

Sam Parr (36:40)

Yeah. So you don't think that you are.

Oz Pearlman (36:41)

Well, if I'm in a show and I ask you a very certain question like think if the card is red, think if it's black, think of it as this. And I'm trying to get to a limited subset. There's 52 cards in a deck and I'm getting down to one. I have a series of very pointed questions and ways that I can influence you to get there. But to ask you, what do you think of my business? How much is it worth? And seeing the answer you give me, that's a much broader span of answers.

Sam Parr (37:05)

Like, have you been able to use this, for example, giving feedback to your wife or your coworker?

Oz Pearlman (37:10)

I would say that I've had very good luck with things that are very simplistic and numerical based, like real estate negotiations, where it's a very clear cut. We're trying to get to a number and I'm trying to see where I think their number stops and where my number stops and trying to figure that out and deduce, like, are we going to go back and forth?

Sam Parr (37:25)

So how do you do that? I mean, how did you do that?

Oz Pearlman (37:27)

Well, I use a lot of emotion. So it's the same thing as what I use in my show, which is excitability, which is the con man's tools. So when I've sold every property that I've sold at a profit, every single one, I want a feeding frenzy. So whereas other people will say, well, emotionally based, I've owned this thing, they're all worth this much. I'm going to price it this. And I hope, I would rather price something 10% less. Get 100 people in the door for an open house. Have this person's spouse saying, we gotta get this, honey, there hasn't been anything on the market for 499 and it went right under the 500 of street easy that your search is. And we gotta get in this place and see it on day one. And then have emotions come into play because once you're emotionally invested, that's when things start to happen. That's when people start getting reckless. It's the same as behavioral economics. When everyone's selling, you should be buying Warren Buffett 101. But when everyone's selling, you're calling your financial advisor and being like, tanking, it's tanking. Oil's about to be 200. What do we do right now? Stay the course, baby. Come on. Look at the long term buy right now when people are panicking. So I use that to my advantage in my show. I do the same thing. So when I've sold properties, I've always underpriced them considerably and then taken the momentum and then utilize the fact that when people think they're competing with others, they're going to work against themselves. You can literally have no other offers.

Sam Parr (38:42)

How many properties have you sold?

Oz Pearlman (38:44)

I think four or five. And they've all been out of profit and done very well. And I think that that's, that's been. Because I understand not just the way people lie, but I can observe the way people behave in situations.

Sam Parr (38:55)

When you were, how old were you when you met your wife?

Oz Pearlman (38:58)

26.

Sam Parr (38:59)

So I, presumably you're, you're good already.

Oz Pearlman (39:02)

Not really.

Sam Parr (39:03)

You said you weren't good yet.

Oz Pearlman (39:04)

I was a pretty good magician, but I was like a pretty, not lackluster mentalist. I didn't do as much mental as a man.

Sam Parr (39:09)

What age did you get good?

Oz Pearlman (39:11)

I mean, I'm still getting good, but I, I, that's a, that's a difficult question. Probably over the next five years I started improving.

Sam Parr (39:18)

Early 30s, where you're like, okay, I got something's going on.

Oz Pearlman (39:21)

Well, I, it was, it's been 11 years ago that I became a mentalist as like I literally branded as Os the mentalist instead of kind of being a bit of both. And I just decided this is what I'm going to do and not really do magic. It's again, this is like nuance. But I don't do almost any magic in my show anymore.

Sam Parr (39:37)

Who's the most successful magician, like financial ever?

Oz Pearlman (39:42)

Oh yeah.

Sam Parr (39:42)

Is he a billionaire?

Oz Pearlman (39:43)

Billionaire. He's a workhorse. I mean he's, no one has his ethic. He's, he's on a different level.

Sam Parr (39:48)

I think I read that he does. Was it 500 shows a year plus?

Oz Pearlman (39:52)

Well, until April 30th. He's wrapping up.

Sam Parr (39:54)

But so what? How many shows did he do in his life? No, A year?

Oz Pearlman (39:57)

An obscene amount. I think 500 to 600. Which if you Understand what that maps out to. If you look in Vegas, they have their shows dialed in with teams that really know what they're doing. And again, it's. You're the performer. I'm not saying that anyone's taking the heat off of you, but anything that can be outsourced, that can be, you know, taken off your hands, like ruthless efficiency. It's amazing what some of the people do who have, like a show in their own theater.

Sam Parr (40:20)

When you were getting into the business, were you like, this is the person who.

Oz Pearlman (40:23)

Absolutely not.

Sam Parr (40:24)

Who did you aspire to be?

Oz Pearlman (40:25)

So you never know this person. But I stumbled into the corporate sector because I used to work on Wall Street. So I saw corporate events as, like, kind of the top of the mountain. Because two things. One, I have the right look and the right lingo and terminology. I come from the world of corporations, so I'm a safe bet. And I started to understand that when a corporate event, when somebody wants to come in, they want to. Maybe it's internal, like an sko, right? We want to rah, rah, rah. When we get pumped up, use a little bit of messaging and leave there feeling inspired. Or maybe it's external. It's client facing. We want to win over clients, make them feel appreciated and have that kind of night that's memorable that we talk talk about. In both instances, let's say you hire a musician. Not everyone likes the same music. You could spend $10 million and get Paul McCartney. What if I'm not a Beatles fan? Not everyone is. Then you haven't really gotten the full ROI if you get a comedian. I love comedy, but comedians can sometimes offend. Your sense of humor isn't mine. I. This is very lucky. Have the one product that almost everyone in the universe loves. Wow. The wow in amazement transcends, and it's universal. So do you understand what I'm saying? If you do it effectively, it applies to everyone, and that transcends language barriers. You could drop me in Tokyo and I could make friends in one minute. I would do more magic. But I could instantly go, oh, that. Do you see that? That feeling? That feeling is very special. It's like the same way as certain things are carnal desires like sex appeal, food. Right? There's certain things that are just, like, hardwired in our DNA for whatever reason. Wow is very strong emotion, so I knew that I could do that. Second, they don't spend their own money. So when you go to a to see a concert or to show you worked really hard for that. Money, Sam, you got to go kerplunk your own money. You got to get a babysitter. You got to do all this stuff. A corporate event. You're spending the company's money. Much easier B2B than B2C. If I ever opened a business, never consumer facing. I don't want that drama. I want B2B. I want to go enterprise. I want big amounts of money being given to me and not a lot of oversight. People say you're good, boom, ready to go. It's just such a simpler pursuit than getting a million people to spend $1. I'd rather get one person to sign a check for $1 million.

Sam Parr (42:42)

What? How big's the team, Liz? Is it just you and the team is very small. Who is it?

Oz Pearlman (42:46)

So, I mean, depends what you describe as a team, but I have my manager. There's. I have an agency that helps as well. I have a video editor. I have somebody that helps with social media. But all of them are kind of like contractors. It's mostly me. Yeah. And my manager.

Sam Parr (43:01)

And so do you have an end goal in mind for your career?

Oz Pearlman (43:04)

God, I want to offload some of the stuff that I don't like. I'd like the team to be bigger, but really sharper. And I keep wanting to trade money for time because that's really. I'm just running into this issue of money and time.

Sam Parr (43:16)

Where is your time spent right now that you think is a waste?

Oz Pearlman (43:19)

Oh, without a doubt. On like, skills that I'm not good at. Just like administrative oversight. Things that I need a very strong executive assistant to do. That just takes it off my plate that I can outsource just day to day management of tasks that I detest.

Sam Parr (43:32)

That seems like a. That's like the most straightforward thing ever, so.

Oz Pearlman (43:35)

I know it is. But I just had very bad luck with hiring in recent years where they. It's, it's. And it's mostly my fault.

Sam Parr (43:41)

Do people find you intimidating to work for because of what they see you do?

Oz Pearlman (43:44)

I don't know. Maybe. Yeah, that could be true.

Sam Parr (43:48)

How does like your eldest kid on a hole there? But, like, if they like, are old enough to know, like what you do.

Oz Pearlman (43:52)

Yeah.

Sam Parr (43:53)

And like, does your eldest find you just as dad or do they know that you're. You have superpowers?

Oz Pearlman (43:58)

I think they take a lot of pride, which is really touching. Like when I see them talk about me or hear about me to other people in the day to day. Not really. But what's very funny is that all my kids, they know they get a laugh out of me. So they obviously. You know how kids are so perceptive that if they know something's funny, they'll keep doing it. So all my kids, if you ask them what my name is, they'll say, oh, is the Mentalist. Which cracks me up every time, even down to my 2 year old. So it's just very funny that they'll call me that. And then if I'm in public, they're like, he's a mentalist. I'm like, don't tell people.

Sam Parr (44:29)

So you read this? I. There's this book called 13 Mentalist. Is that right?

Oz Pearlman (44:33)

13 Steps of Mentalism.

Sam Parr (44:34)

Yes, sorry, 13 Steps of Mentalism. I think you said that that was like the book that got you.

Oz Pearlman (44:38)

Rogan asked me on the Spice, like what book? Yeah, it's. That's, that's. That's like the Bible. That's the initial one.

Sam Parr (44:44)

What was the one that impact, what was the source, the primary source for you to learn that was the biggest impact on you?

Oz Pearlman (44:51)

So the biggest impact on me was a book. But it's so inside you wouldn't find it. It's even out of print. It was the business of mentalism. It had no tricks in it. And it was all about theory of. I keep trying to distill. It's the same way I would say there's an economy of words when you watch a really good stand up comic timing, like how do you take a joke and tighten it? I kept trying to figure out what am I doing? I know this sounds so silly, like what am I doing and why am I doing it? There's such key things that sound so simple that most of us, we don't have guiding principles. We just kind of go through life, we stumble into a profession, we keep doing it and you kind of hit a certain level. And I think the people that somehow jump and raise to the height, they look at themselves from an outside perspective of like, why the why. So when I'm doing this, I always assume, why does anyone care? Like, why does anyone care? Why do you care? Because this is about your brother. Your most important thing in your life are the people you care about. You know, your wife, your kids, right. Family finances, your future, your faith. Like things that appeal. I try to make this about you. I try to give you a memory, a feeling that you'll take in the story you tell, which. How do you guess my brother John's name and birthday? Think about it. The exact same thing. I could have just guessed a date that had no Meaning to you. And it wouldn't have been the same story.

Sam Parr (46:12)

I think, like, the emotion that I feel talking to you, I mean, obviously that's insane how you do that. But like, in my head, I'm like, okay, magic's not real. He's just mastered this skill. And the feeling that I have is this person is so much better at his skill set than I am at my skillset.

Oz Pearlman (46:30)

Why are you comparing? I don't know how you so apples and oranges.

Sam Parr (46:32)

No, but what I'm saying is I am so inspired at the level of mastery that this person has that I want to become a master at whatever it is that I choose. It's sort of like I don't need to be a fan of swimming, but when I see microphel swim, it's a. It's a work of art.

Oz Pearlman (46:46)

Yeah.

Sam Parr (46:47)

And that is what I feel like. I feel like I'm in, like, the presence of just someone who's the best, the best of the best, and I find that inspiring. And I'm also like, I want to learn how to be the best.

Oz Pearlman (46:56)

I couldn't say it any clearer. That's exactly how I feel. Like I. When I meet people that, that have committed their life to something and are exceptional at it, and if they are the best, it's just so inspiring. It's exactly that. Rather than, say, putting myself down, I'm just like, wow, this gives me something. It gives me fuel.

Sam Parr (47:14)

Yeah. We've done 800 of these episodes. I've talked. I know 20 billionaires, probably I don't know a lot.

Oz Pearlman (47:19)

I know the billionaires. But you've talked to people that are just like, in inspiring, that have built businesses that have been like, really just. I like the people that are so driven that all the obstacles put in front of them doesn't matter. They're going to find a way to go through brick walls.

Sam Parr (47:32)

This sounds messed up. I don't find Elon Musk to be particularly inspiring because I don't want to, like, trade spots with him.

Oz Pearlman (47:38)

Right.

Sam Parr (47:38)

But what I love is people who carve their own path. And I don't. And I think business and capitalism is the most practical way to carve your own path.

Oz Pearlman (47:47)

Right.

Sam Parr (47:47)

But like, I'm obsessed with people who are world class artists or someone who owns the bodega down the street, but they have every single protein bar because they found that that's their niche and they're just on top of it.

Oz Pearlman (47:58)

Yeah.

Sam Parr (47:58)

Like, I'm obsessed with that. Like the, the, the just like the people who Just said, I'm gonna let my freak flag fly. And this is the path that I'm going. Have there been any, like, titans of industry or famous people who you've met, and they've been very challenging to read, and you're like, that's why you're successful. Or you've noticed other attributes where you're like, you are more difficult than the average Joe. And now I understand why you were at the top of your game.

Oz Pearlman (48:20)

So I've. It's funny you. You mentioned Jeff Bezos, and I met Jeff Bezos last year, and I had him in my show, and it was awesome. It was. It's. It's honestly like, top 10 moments of career, what I did with him. So I. I mean, I'll tell the story. I'll keep it short, but it was a room, probably the most powerful room I've ever been in. It's. It's this big event in Aspen and just, wow, everybody in there is CEOs, people that run companies. Like, just name the people and save the list of names. Bill Gates is here. Ted Sarandos. We got Jeff Bezos. That's just everyone. There's about 200 people in the room. 300. And so my kids, we have an Alexa speaker. And I wanted a heartwarming story. It's very true. It humanizes me when I'm up there performing. But I said, there's one person in this room that I told my kids was here, and they don't care about any of the rest of you, but this one person to them has created true magic. And I go, the Alexa speaker in my house gets asked 100 questions a day, at least. What's this? What's this? Alexa this? And I go, I told them, the person who invented Alexa is going to be in the room with me. So, Mr. Bezos, please stand up. It was just a very funny moment, very poignant. I go, you get to now, ask me any question you want. Ask me any question. And sit there, marinade. But think to yourself, what if I had access to all the data in the world, which you do aws, and I could look up anything about you. Ask me a question nobody would know the answer to. Not your wife, not your brother, not your sister. Try to go back through your life like it's a mistake movie and think of something so obscure, so impossible, so I don't care what it is, but ask me a question. It goes, who'd I get in a fight with in third grade? You know, like, it was just like. And so And I'm not going to go through the whole thing, but how you got it. Yep. And it was. I got it. It was just a crazy moment. It was just. It's one of those moments that I'll never forget because it was just in this room, right time, right place, a challenge. There's nothing like a challenge where somebody challenges you. And it was wild. It was a wild moment. And it's somebody where it's like it also. Every one of those is a little internal of like internal boost, not of self esteem, but it validates because these are some of the most intelligent people in the world by far. And to be able to take my craft, my craft is to reverse engineer the human mind, to know how people think and to amaze them and also to some level deceive them. And the fact they just pulled it off where they just have no idea how you could have possibly done that. That's a rare commodity.

Sam Parr (50:43)

Yeah. It's crazy hanging out with you because, like, I have this book up here, Persuasion. You know who wrote that?

Oz Pearlman (50:49)

Of course.

Sam Parr (50:50)

Robert Chaudini. His book Influence. Like, I read that when I was going through my period and I was like, I was like, I have this ability to convince people of certain things. Not like you, but I was like, I have this ability to convince a girl to like go out with me. I have this ability to sell stuff. Let's get this right. And I remember reading that book and it like changed my life. And I was like, okay, my act. Right. But then I'm like hanging out with you now and I'm like, this is like Robert Cialdini Times 100 is very sharp. Yeah. I mean, what you're doing is like him times way more, you know, it's crazy.

Oz Pearlman (51:18)

I bet he'd enjoy it, but he. It's also done again through a certain lens where it's. It's done for the sake of entertainment and it's very specific.

Sam Parr (51:26)

Do you want to do one more trick? Then we.

Oz Pearlman (51:28)

Yeah, let's do one more thing. Let's do one thing. Which is again, I like this. I like this idea. My first million. It's a very smart title for a podcast, right?

Sam Parr (51:36)

It's like we make fun of it. We thought it was a horrible name.

Oz Pearlman (51:38)

I think it's funny because it leads with the right foot. It's like, this is what it is. You take it or leave it. You're going to like it. And it's a certain culture. You decided in your mind. I had a number. Once you had that number, you've achieved exit velocity, you have enough money, you can make it in life. You get to enjoy your life more. I want you to imagine you spin a globe. I always like to go back to a visual, hold it in your hand and you point at one place and you go, I would love to go there. Number one place in the world, right? I walked in here earlier and I said to you, what would you do? You have all the money in the world. Think, where would I love to go? And imagine you point at that one place right now. Can you see it in your mind? Like, try to point at it.

Sam Parr (52:18)

I've been there before.

Oz Pearlman (52:20)

Interesting question. Hold on. If you've been there before. No, you've never been there before. I think the place you thought of, normally, people will travel all over. You've been to a bunch of places. I think you don't need a passport. It's in the US Isn't it? Reverse psychology. You decided, like, what if I'll do this. That's really funny. Where everybody else would say, maldives, Seychelles, I'm going to go crazy. Machu Picchu. You decided, I'm going to try and keep it local to throw him off and probably didn't get it. Probably didn't get it. How did I think domestic. Where. Where was the. Where was it where. You'd never been there. Where did you think of? Say it.

Sam Parr (53:00)

Jackson Hole, Wyoming.

Oz Pearlman (53:01)

Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Airbnb didn't hire you. You had to pivot, correct? Yeah. You just, in your mind, pivoted, just like any good entrepreneur does. And you go, do I have to be there? Do I have to have been there? That question right? Then you thought of somewhere else. Look at me. Was Paris, wasn't it? Yeah.

Sam Parr (53:24)

That's awesome, dude.

Oz Pearlman (53:26)

That's it. My first million.

Sam Parr (53:28)

You're comfortable to be around. I don't. You are a horrible herring. Thanks, dude.

Oz Pearlman (53:34)

Thank you. We're going to go run sometime.

Sam Parr (53:36)

That's it. That's the pod. Oh, my God.

Motivated Listener (53:38)

I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be. What? But I want to. I put my all in it. Like no days off on a road, let's travel. Never looking back.

Sam Parr (53:50)

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