My Momma Told Me – “The Youngest Child is Always Spoiled”

Podcast: My Momma Told Me – Big Money Players Network & iHeartPodcasts
Air Date: October 21, 2025
Hosts: Langston Kerman & David Gborie
Guest: Takara Williams (Comedian)

Overview

In this lively, hilarious episode, Langston Kerman and David Gborie bring on comedian Takara Williams to dissect the Black household conspiracy theory: “The youngest child is always spoiled.” The group swaps stories on birth order, evolving parenting philosophies, and the realities behind claims of favoritism. Beyond sibling dynamics, they wander into generational differences in child-rearing, the pitfalls of social media, viral content, and cultural evolution. The show keeps its trademark irreverent and insightful comedic style throughout.

Major Discussion Points & Insights

1. Conspiracy Theory Deep Dive: Are Youngest Children Always Spoiled?

• Takara’s Perspective:
  • Her older kids claim the youngest is spoiled.

    "My mama didn't tell me that. My two older kids told me that." (12:49, Takara)

  • She observes her parenting has changed: with her oldest born at 16, and her youngest coming 10 years later, the youngest really does get a different parental version—more attention, more calmness.

    “It's not even that she's spoiled. She's an only child at this point because my two oldest don't live there anymore.” (12:57, Takara)

• Langston & David’s Experiences:
  • Both commiserate over their own families—different resources, parenting bandwidths, and the simple passage of time make the youngest’s life materially easier.

    “I think it's just basic needs that were able to be met.” (17:41, David)

  • They agree the supposed “spoiling” is often just parents having more patience or money by the time the youngest comes along.

2. Parental Growth & Guilt

• New Found Chill:
  • All agree that “spoiling” isn’t about loving the younger kid more, but about having more to give.

    "The loving you more is... that's complicated. But if your mama don't love you the most, hey, that's your problem.” (17:28, Langston)

• Evolving Standards:
  • Takara shares the anecdote of buying her youngest a MacBook (while her oldest two had basic laptops or none at all), sparking sibling jealousy but reflecting both changing times and increasing household stability.

    "There's like… my kids… Well, two older… My daughter, she's 11, she's in sixth grade, and school year started. She needed a laptop, so I bought her a Lenovo... and I just went and was like...MacBook." (18:26–19:19, Takara)

3. Changing Family Dynamics and Sibling Resentment

• Privileges:
  • Later children get to pick dinner, negotiate bedtimes, and participate in decisions that would have been unimaginable for the oldest.

    "My two oldest kids now is I asked my youngest one what she wants to eat for dinner." (29:34, Takara)

  • The hosts reflect on how shifting priorities—from survival to support—shape the family experience for each child.

4. Parenting Real Talk

• It’s Not “Spoiling”—It’s Survival:
  • They discuss how parents simply become less anxious, and more flexible with each child:

    “45% of me and my son's relationship is knocking rocks out of his hands and telling him to stop eating it.” (27:35, Langston)

• Lessons for Older Siblings:
  • Takara notes that older siblings’ feedback (“you weren’t around enough!”) actually prompts parents to do better with the youngest, contributing to the “spoiling” dynamic.

    "You're teaching them how to love your younger sibling.” (22:10, Takara)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Langston on Parental Chill:

  “My shoulders just ain't as hunched up as they were with the first.” (16:34)

• David on Perspective:

  “As long as you're maxing out your abilities, right? Like, I look at my siblings, and we're way far apart.” (23:39)

• Takara on Shifting Resources:

  “How dare you buy him the real cereal in the boxes and I got the bag cereal.” (18:58)

• On Not Everyone Getting the Same:

  “If you come to me right now and say, Takara, I need 100 bucks, and I say...Here’s $80... It's my best. It's not enough.” (24:26)

• On Kids' Emotional Realities:

  “Even though to us, it’s not important, it is very important to them.” (53:20, Takara)

• David on Retroactive Judgement:

  “That's my problem with people going back and deeming things problematic...” (76:11)

Social Media & Content Culture

Bigger tangent, but threaded throughout the podcast.

5. Internet Critique & 'Content Everything'

• Cultural Pressures:
  • The crew critique social media’s incentive structures and the emotional exhaustion of playing the “content” game.

    “To add more content is to play a game that I consider to be nasty.” (41:29, Langston)

• Viral Video Pitfalls:
  • Takara describes the spiral from wholesome content to outlandish actions for attention and money—e.g., TikTokers transitioning from garden videos to OnlyFans due to dwindling popularity and income.

    "She started off very wholesome, very cute, and then she got a hit and it made millions of views... and then before you knew it, she was on Onlyfans, dog." (46:23)

• Consent & Parenting Online:
  • Takara is careful to get her kids’ permission before sharing personal stories on stage, noting the emotional stakes of publicizing kids' lives online.

    "I talk about my kids a lot on stage, but I ask their permission, and they're adults, and I still ask." (53:42)

Cultural Time, Memory, and Accountability

6. Listener Voicemail: Timeline Distortion & Historical Amnesia

(71:00)

• A listener posits that white Americans’ way of referring to the recent past (“2015 was so long ago...”) is an attempt to distance society from uncomfortable recent history, specifically around slavery and civil rights.

  “I think the reason that they talk about timeline in such distant manner is because they're trying to get us comfortable with slavery again.” (71:00, Voicemail Caller)

• The hosts riff on how white Americans minimize the closeness of historical injustices, and how social and psychological realities linger far longer than “numbers” on a calendar.

  “The last living slaves died in our generation.” (74:40, Langston)

Social Evolution & Retroactive Judgment

7. On Cultural Change & Revisiting the Past

• The crew touch on how current generations retroactively judge older shows and behavior (“Martin’s jokes about Pam”) through the lens of today’s values, often missing the context and comedic intent.

  "To think that you would have been different at that time is a lie." (76:24, Langston)

• Takara shares how playful sibling colorism in her own family is not the same as how online activists understand the term today.

  "Now, in the climate now, people are offended. They're going back to our classic shows... and saying that it was offensive." (79:05, Takara)

Funniest Tangents

• Uber & Luxury Upcharges:
  • The gang commiserates over “priority pickup,” “Uber Comfort”—and whether these are real or marketing tricks (05:01–10:00).
• Weird Social Media Food Trends:
  • Mukbangs and food challenge culture as a sign of online absurdity (64:39).

    “Why are you eating 19 McChicken sandwiches?” (65:03, Takara)

Selected Timestamps

• Spoiling the Youngest – Main Theory Introduction: 12:41
• Takara on Parenting Growth: 13:41
• MacBook vs. Lenovo, Kids’ Tech Envy: 18:26
• Older Siblings “Teaching” Better Parenting: 22:10
• Laugh-out-Loud Uber/Plane Upgrades Segment: 05:04–09:20
• Voicemail: Timeline Distortion & Historical Amnesia: 71:00
• Cultural Judgment & ‘Martin’ Show Retro Critique: 76:11
• Food Challenges/Mukbang Commentary: 64:39–68:37
• Social Media Responsibility Tangent: 35:18–47:11

Episode Tone

The episode maintains a blend of warmth, relatability, and rowdy humor. The hosts and Takara riff with quick wit, but also dip into genuinely thoughtful commentary on parenting, intergenerational progress, and society’s struggles with accountability both in the home and on the internet.

Summary for the Uninitiated

Even if you’ve never listened to My Momma Told Me, this episode gives you a vivid, silly, and sometimes moving window into how Black family legends form and stick around. It interrogates whether the “spoiled youngest child” is a myth—or a matter of shifting circumstances. The episode stays true to stand-up comedy’s roots, where pain and absurdity intermingle, and always asks: how much of what our mommas told us was ever really true?

For more:

• Follow Takara Williams (@takara williams / takara.com), watch David Gborie’s “Birth of a Nation” special, and catch Langston Kerman’s “Bad Poetry” on Netflix.
• Submit your own family conspiracy theory; the gang might roast it—lovingly—next.