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Foreign. You are listening to the Navigating Adult ADHD Podcast with your ADHD coach and expert, Xena. Hello, hello, hello, my friend. Welcome back to Navigating Adult adhd. I also want to just do a quick shout out to our new listeners. There was like a ridiculously record high number of people who downloaded the podcast last week and listened. So I just want to say thank you. Thank you for the podcast, love, thank you for being here, and thank you for choosing to press play on this episode. Yeah, I just want to say I appreciate you. I'm so happy you are here. Welcome to Team adhd, my friend. Today we are talking about. Oh my God, we're off to an epic start. Decision fatigue. Okay, luckily we got there. That's what we're talking about today. Why making decisions can feel so, so hard for those of us with adhd. Have you ever stood in the kitchen trying to decide what to eat for dinner, feeling totally overwhelmed by all of the options? Opening the fridge, shutting the fridge, walking away, and then you somehow end up eating toast for dinner? I know I have. Or maybe you eat nothing at all until like 9:30 at night when you are feral, shaking, so, so hungry, you're rage eating crackers over the sink. Okay, been there, done that. Or maybe you have found yourself sitting at your laptop knowing that you need to get shit done. You've got work to do, but then your brain gets really stuck. What should I do first? Which task matters the most? What can I realistically get done right now? What if I start the wrong thing? What if I don't have enough time to get this done right? And suddenly you're frozen? It's not because you're lazy, but because choosing itself has become this ment mentally exhausting thing. Now, sometimes this can look kind of ridiculous from the outside. Really. Like, why am I standing here in my activewear for 15 minutes trying to decide, am I gonna go for a walk? Am I gonna do a workout? Should I tidy the kitchen first? Or maybe I should reply to that email. Actually, I need to have a shower. Did I drink any water? Or should I just lie face down on the bed and have a nap? Okay, here's the thing. All day, every day, we are bombarded with decisions. From the minute we wake up, what do I wear? What do I have for breakfast? Which text do I need to reply to? What should I cook? Should I go out? Should I stay home? What do I buy? What do I focus on? Where should I do cleaning first? What do I say in this conversation? It is a Lot. And for adults with adhd, decision making can become incredibly draining. So that's what I want us to talk about today, my friend. We're going to talk about why this happens. Like, what's actually going on inside the ADHD brain, what decision fatigue can look like in different examples, and also I'm going to share with you six things that can help make this easier. Okay, so starting from the top, what the heck is decision fatigue? Decision fatigue is. It's what happens when your brain gets worn down by having to make too many choices. Every decision you make uses mental energy, right? It uses spoons. If you want to go with the spoon analogy, I think of it often, like, every decision I make is like spending money. It's costing me something. And so the more decisions that you have had to make already, the harder it becomes to make the next one, the less you have to spend on that next decision. So by the time your brain has already navigated getting up, getting dressed, replying to a few messages, remembering the appointments, managing your emotions, resisting all of the distractions, and trying to prioritize your day to get some shit done, you will likely have less capacity for even basic decisions. So at 4pm when somebody says to you, what do you want for dinner? It can literally feel like an attack. I don't know. I just want you to decide and do it. Can you relate? I know I can. So this is where ADHD can make things a little extra spicy. Because many ADHD brains, we're already using more energy to do things that can look simple from the outside. ADHD brains have to often work harder for things like prioritizing, for organizing information, for holding multiple options in our mind. We work harder at managing our time, starting tasks, regulating emotions, shifting our attention between different things. So even before the decision itself, we already have more cognitive load. So I like to think of this term cognitive load as, like, think of your brain as a bathtub. I know, random, right? But think of your brain as a bathtub. It can only hold something so much before it starts to overflow. So I want us to go through six of the key players as to why decision making can be really hard or feel really, really hard for those of us with adhd. Okay, the first one here is executive dysfunction, right? Decision making requires our executive functions to do their job. So that's things like planning, prioritizing, organizing, weighing up the options, or the pros and cons. There's the starting, right? Shifting, as in, you know, moving between different things. Following through all of that is executive functions Now, ADHD brains have difficulty with executive functions. They don't always function. They don't always. They've got to work like a team, and they don't always function as a team either. So if executive functioning is already a struggle, making decisions can feel like trying to direct traffic in the middle of an intersection with no signs, no lights, and everybody's honking at you. Right. Your brain is trying to answer what matters most? What do I do first? How long will this take? What is realistic? What if I change my mind? What if I forget something important? Oh, my God, my head hurt just saying all of that. So the second thing that can make decision making more difficult for those of us with ADHD is the working memory piece. Okay. Working memory is one of the things that my ADHD brain definitely struggles with. It is remembering the things I need to remember. It's like the sticky note. I often describe it as like, we've bought budget sticky notes, and so the sticky note falls off the wall in our brain and we just forget the thing. So if you're trying to compare options, remember what you need to remember, hold your priorities in mind and think through the consequences. That's a lot of mental sticky notes. That can become a lot very quickly. It's kind of like carrying seven different grocery bags, and you've got your keys and you've got your phone and you're holding a coffee, and then somebody tosses you one more thing and says, hey, hold this. That one more thing can be the decision that breaks the entire system. So, yeah, working memory is a big factor in decisions and why decision fatigue can really affect us. The third thing that is a big impact for ADHD is specifically is prioritizing. So prioritizing is. Yes, one of our executive functions that we can have difficulty with. It can feel kind of slippery, like it's just slipping through your hands. So sometimes the problem isn't necessarily the decision itself. It's figuring out what matters most, what's urgent? What's the difference between urgent and important? What's going to fit with my energy? What does future me need here? What is the actual first step? Oh, my God. Again, my brain's like, oh, too much. And when everything feels important or urgent. Right. Our brain will often stall. I think this is one of the most frustrating parts because it's not that you've got nothing to do. Right. I don't know about you. I'm sure you've got plenty to do. I know I sure do. It's that sometimes there's just too Many possible answers to what to do. So your brain kind of ends up in this weird traffic jam where every task is like waving its arms yelling, pick me, pick me. No, pick me, I'm more important. And then suddenly you end up reorganizing a drawer or researching the best vacuum cleaner on the Internet for the next 40 minutes. Right? The fourth ADHD kind of brain thing that can trip us up here when it comes to decisions and decision fatigue is perfectionism. And that fear of getting it wrong that is all tied into perfectionism, my friend. So for a lot of us with adhd, we carry shame from our past, mistakes from details we have missed, from impulsive choices we have made or things we've forgotten, or simply from being told that we're careless. So what that means is even the small decisions can carry this extra emotional weight. I talked about this actually in an episode, oh, maybe 10 or 15 back now called the Wall of Awful, which is the emotional wall that we can experience when it comes to doing a task or even just making a decision. It's all of the past emotions that can come with that. So it's no longer just, well, what should I have for lunch? It becomes, what if I choose the wrong thing? What if I waste my money? What if I regret it? What if I mess this up? Why is this so hard for me? So sometimes the decision isn't just a simple decision anymore. It's this whole emotional flashback that we have with the side of self doubt. And this is why something that might look tiny on the outside, like this decision that might seem so small or irrelevant to somebody else, can feel really huge for us. The fifth thing that I see becoming a bit of an issue here for ADHD brains is, and I know this one firsthand, too many options. Too many options is something that can overwhelm our brains so quickly, right? ADHD brains find open ended choices especially hard. So questions like, what should I do today? What do I want to eat? What should I work on first? What kind of exercise should I do? Where should I start cleaning? Right? The possibilities of all of those are endless. That can feel huge because there's no clear cut container or parameters here. It's kind of like being handed the whole universe and being told, just pick something. Right? It sounds freeing until your brain short circuits. Now here's the thing for me, like what should I do today can feel freeing when I'm on holiday. What do I want to eat will feel freeing when I'm on holiday, but when I have a shitload of things to do and I'm working like a full intense day today. No, it feels like pressure. So sometimes too many options doesn't feel like freedom. It feels like, you know, standing in front of Netflix for 40 minutes and then you end up rewatching that same show that you've already seen because your brain can't cope with scrolling through all the options and just making another decision. Ask me how I know I love me some comfort Netflix where like you re watch the same thing. So good. Now the sixth thing I want to say in relation to why decision fatigue can be really weigh heavy on ADHD brains and why it can be more difficult for us is emotional dysregulation. Okay. Decision making isn't just a logical thing. It will stir up emotions. You might feel some frustration, some overwhelm, some anxiety or self doubt or guilt or fear. And once emotions rise, thinking clearly gets murky. It gets harder to do. We're not just making a decision, we're actually managing all of the emotions that the decision brings up and that matters. Right. This is where I do a lot of my coaching is sort of spent with, with clients and inside the adulting with ADHD membership is around the emotions that come up around decisions. Because emotions drive actions. We want to feel good about making that decision. Now we're actually in charge of how we feel. We just don't think we are. I'm not going to get into it. I'm not going to get into. Right. But emotions are huge, my friend, with decisions. Because if choosing what to reply to an email also triggers like the people pleasing or the fear of being misunderstood, the pressure to say the right thing, and you know, shame about how long you've taken to reply, then of course that quick email is not just a quick email. It feels like, you know, you're walking into this mental war. Emotions and decisions is huge, my friend. So emotional regulation, that's a big one. So let's go through some examples of what this can look like in real life. Okay, what does decision fatigue look like? So in terms of food, you're hungry, but deciding what to eat feels too hard. Nothing sounds right or feels right. There are too many options. You don't want to cook, but you don't want to eat the wrong thing. You want to have something healthy, you think you should have some protein so you delay eating. Maybe you snack randomly, you eat toast again, or then you end up ordering something really expensive off Uber eats because your brain has just hit the wall. And then there's that ADHD bonus twist where Being underfed actually makes your brain function worse, meaning that decision making becomes even harder. Isn't that rude? So rude. So at work, what does this look like at work? You sit down to do your work, but then you can't decide, what task should I start with? What's most important? What's going to take the amount of effort, but what's going to give me the biggest payoff? So instead of starting, maybe you freeze, you procrastinate, or you scroll on Instagram. This is how you can end up color coding a document or renaming files. I literally did that the other day and I was like, why am I renaming files on my computer? What am I procrastinating? Trust me, I was definitely procrastinating. Right? And then whilst doing that, the important task is just sitting there, kind of radiating pressure in your direction. In terms of housework, you know that you want to tidy the house. It's a mess. But there are too many starting points. Do I start in the kitchen? Do I start in the laundry? Wait, that dining room table. Hang on the bedroom. What about the dishes? Should I take the trash out first? Your brain can't decide what counts the most, so it'll struggle to begin. It's kind of like walking into a room and just imagine that every single object in that room is like shouting your name. That's what it can feel like when you're experiencing decision fatigue, right? Shopping, you spend ages researching, comparing, reading reviews, second guessing, asking other people, still not buying the thing. Or, and this is so me, you impulsively buy something just to escape the discomfort of deciding. So it's either like this, 12 tabs, spreadsheet, mild identity crisis and no purchase, or the extreme other end of the scale, right? You bought it in 11 seconds and you really hope it is going to be great and that it's not financially, like a terrible decision, Right? Often there's like no middle ground here. It's 100% all or nothing social stuff. This one's so me, right? In terms of socializing and you're experiencing decision fatigue, it could look like, should I go? Should I cancel? Am I going to have the energy for that? That's one I think about. Especially if it's an evening thing. You gu. No, I'm not an evening person at all, right? Am I gonna have the energy? Am I gonna regret not going? Am I gonna feel like I'm missing out? Will I regret if I do go? Do I need a rest? Or do I really need that connection? Sometimes even that simple, like social decision can become this whole, like internal committee. Honestly, sometimes I feel like there are five versions of myself sitting around a boardroom table, all arguing and talking over one another. Seriously, that's what it's like inside my brain sometimes, right? Somebody at the table wants connection, somebody wants rest, somebody wants to look normal, somebody wants to be in their pajamas cuddling a cat. And somebody else is just offended that they've been asked to do something. No wonder, no wonder. This can be so tiring for ADHD brains, right? One more example. Let me give you an admin example, okay? Replying to one email, just one email. It might require deciding, what do I say? How formal do I need to be? Should I deal with the whole thing now or just respond to this one question? Do I need to gather more information first? Is this really that urgent? Is there something else I should do before I even reply to this? And Suddenly this like 3 minute task or this 3 minute email takes you an hour. Oh my God. I have had this experience, like I've come a long way, trust me. And I actually think AI helps hugely when it comes to replying to emails or sending emails now. But I remember this one email, gosh, this has got to be going back a few years now. And it was to a client and I don't even. They'd asked me a question and I was sending an email and what could have been, and probably should have been maybe a 10 minute reply because I did have to put some thought into it and sort of answer their questions and help them with something. I remember it took me almost two hours to reply to this one email. I was like, what? And this is the kind of stuff that people don't see, right? Especially our neurotypical friends. They don't necessarily get it, they don't necessarily see it. All they see is this unanswered email. What they don't see is the 14 micro decisions that are hiding behind that email and all of the emotions that are attached to that. So when making a decision feels too overwhelming or too hard, what actually happens? Well, it actually often leads us to do things like avoid the decision, put it off, ask somebody else to choose, scroll on Instagram for hours, do nothing impulsively, choose just to escape the discomfort. Pick something that's familiar, get stuck researching, spend hours researching, especially out of fear of getting it wrong, or just abandon right, give it up completely. Now, none of that means that we are broken. In fact, these are things that our nervous system is doing in an attempt to reduce the overwhelm, in an attempt to help us to feel better. It's trying to kind of soothe us, it's trying to support us. Right? It's well intended, right? Your brain is basically trying to find the quickest exit from the pressure. So sometimes that does look like avoidance. Sometimes it looks like impulsivity, Sometimes it looks like pretending this decision doesn't even exist and just hoping it just like magically sorts itself out. Okay? Not ideal, but incredibly human, my friend. So human. And unfortunately, we've got to talk about the shame, because the shame that comes up around decisions can be quite big. So many ADHDers judge themselves harshly for the difficulty that they experience when it comes to making a decision. Why can't I just pick something? This is so ridiculous. What's wrong with me? Other adults don't struggle like this. I'm so useless. Why do I make everything harder than it needs to be? My friend, the truth is that decision fatigue isn't a sign that you're incapable. It is a sign that your brain is overloaded. Remember that mental bathtub that I mentioned earlier? Okay, Your brain is like a bathtub. It can only hold so much before it starts to overflow. So when your brain has too many tabs open, okay? Even a small choice can feel like somebody just shoved another 14 browser windows in your face, asked you just to calmly compare prices, predict the future, and make the best possible decision. Honestly, that would exhaust anyone. Struggling to choose does not mean that there's anything wrong with you. It does not mean that you're a bad person. It simply means that your brain needs less input, less pressure and more support. Right, my friend? So please give yourself a break. So now I want us to walk through some practical things. I believe I've got six on my list here. Six practical things that can help when you are struggling with decision fatigue. Okay, so number one, reduce the number of options. The more options you have, the harder it can be. Seriously. So I had this. Actually, I'm thinking of a funny example. After I was the MC at the ADHD conference in Christchurch at the end of last year, it was December of last year. My friend Carrie, she was one of the speakers, we went out for dinner afterwards. Dinner and drinks. And we got to this. This. What was it? A oh, my gosh, Argentinian restaurant. And we got there and we look at the menu and I'm like, I'm starving, I'm thirsty. Everything looks amazing. And I said to her, I cannot decide. My bathtub was just full on overflowing. I said to her, can you decide for me I will have whatever you think I should have. I would have eaten anything on that menu. I would have drunk anything on that menu. So she decided, and I was so happy with it. But there was so many options on that menu, and all of them looked good, right? So when you're choosing from, like 12 different things to have for lunch versus two, it can make a massive difference. Reduce the number of options. So for me, I work from home, so I either have eggs on. On a piece of sourdough, or I will eat left leftovers. That's it. I've got two choices. It's leftovers, or I can have the eggs on toast. That's it, right? And maybe it's pick from three outfits instead of your whole wardrobe. Having a short list of meals on the fridge, I find this to be incredibly helpful because my brain will forget. So I have a list of things that I will make for myself, things that I will eat. And then I've got a list for the kids because I forget the meals that they like or the meals that I've made for them in the past. So I've got two separate lists. So for the kids, things like spaghetti Bolognese, chicken curry is on the list. Tacos, nachos. These are things on the list. For me, I've got another list. It's like chicken salad, salmon and veggies, chicken wraps, these sorts of things. But having these short little lists helps me to make a decision. Helps helps me to not even have to think about the options available. Again, reduce the number of options. It can also look like creating a default list for things to do at work. So, for example, on my whiteboard over here in the corner, I've got a list of things that I do throughout the week. So I've got write the weekly newsletter, draft the podcast, work on the burnout workbook, post on social media. And I've got that there. So I can just grab from that. So I've got something easy to grab from and do. It's like this default list, right? Sometimes freedom is lovely. Don't get me wrong, I fucking love freedom. I value that hugely. But sometimes too much freedom is like a trap wearing a cute outfit. Okay, the second thing that can help here is to create defaults. So defaults reduce the amount of deciding your brain has to do. So, for example, it could look like having the same breakfast every morning. I literally do this right now. That breakfast for me is a protein smoothie. It has raspberries, it has peanut butter powder, protein powder, some nuts and seeds, chia seeds, almond milk. I think that's about it. And that is it. Every morning, same breakfast. So easy, I don't even have to think about what to make. Also like creating a default could be having grocery staples. So for me that's sourdough and avocados, like regardless, because I can eat that breakfast, lunch and dinner, right? It could be having set days for certain jobs, standard reply templates for emails or what have you go to meals for those low energy days, like 100% mine would be a toasted sandwich or avocado on toast. That's it. So those default things. Now defaults are not about being boring. Yeah, they might be boring. They're about being supportive. Right? Like little stepping stones for your brain. It's just helping to reduce the friction, eliminate the decisions. Just make it easier. One of my favorite things, and I think this is like, this really does set my brain up for success and set me up for success is making decisions ahead of time. I am a huge, huge advocate for this. Had to think of that word. It was escaping me. We found it. So making decisions when your brain is in a calm place, not when you're hungry, tired, emotional or overwhelmed. Okay, so for example, I will always decide my outfit the night before. So the first thing I put on in the morning six days a week is going to be workout clothes because I get up and I go for a walk. So I will always get out my activewear and sit it on the bathroom on the ensuite bathroom. Like, what is the word? Oh my God, words have gone today. The vanity, like on the, on the, you know, whatever. Like I'll put it in the bathroom so I can get up, go in there and get dressed. Okay. I always have that out the night before the. The. So that was six days of the week. The seventh day is when I'm going to Toastmasters and I'll wear something nice. I'm not wearing my activewear, but I will always go in my wardrobe and pick that out and then hang it in the bathroom so that I have that and I don't have to think about it in the morning. Because, man, when I get up in the morning, my brain is foggy. It is not in a place of making decisions. And making decisions are gonna take me like 10 times as long. So making decisions ahead of time could be that you choose your top three work tasks the day before. So as you're wrapping up, you then decide, well, what are the things? Three things I'm going to do tomorrow, right? Preparing meals or deciding meals. Ahead of time. So, for example, my partner and I went for a walk yesterday, and he was making dinner last night for the boys. He was making spaghetti bolognese. And we were talking about tonight, and I knew I was on dinner. I said, okay, I'm going to make tacos. So I'm just going to check when we get back, do we have everything? And I was like, hey, we don't have lettuce. So he's picking up lettuce today. So again, just like, having that decision ahead of time really helps me. I do not like getting to like four or five o' clock and him. Him being like, who's doing dinner? And I'm like, what? I didn't know about this. What do you mean? I'm sure it's your night. And he's like, no, it's your night. And I'm like, like, no, my bathtub's gonna be overflowing real quick. It could also be like, decisions ahead of time. This is one that I see a lot of people doing is deciding what you want off a menu before you get to that restaurant, deciding what you're going to order, especially if that can overwhelm you. That can be a really supportive thing to do, right? Basically, you don't want to wait till your brain is running on fumes to ask it to be wise, strategic, decisive. It's like asking a toddler to run a board meeting. Make the decision while you still have some fuel in the tank. All right? Decisions ahead of time, hugely supportive. I always think of this, like I said, as setting my future self up for success 100%. Right? The fourth thing that can help here is to use good enough thinking. Not, like, not the perfect choice. The goal is not to make the perfect choice. It's a good enough choice, a choice that's going to help you move forward. One of the best things about making a decision, like any decision, regardless of what the decision is, is as you start to act upon that and you move towards that decision, you're going to get new data, you're going to get new information, right? Like, if that is, should I start this business? Okay? And you decide, I'm going to start it. Nights and weekends, and you start it. You're going to get information, you're going to gather. You know, whether or not people respond to this, whether or not they like what you thought they would like or they like something else. Like, you're going to get all of this new data, this new information from which you make another decision. So here are some questions to help with good enough thinking. What is good enough for today? What does that look like just today? What's the easiest okay option here? What choice would make my life 10% easier? Which option is going to require the least amount of energy right now? Just a couple of really good questions. Like, that can be so helpful because a lot of the exhaustion comes from trying to make the air quotes right. Decision. Hello, perfectionism. Instead of just choosing a workable one. And remember, any decision you make is always going to help you get more data, more information, and then you can make another decision. Okay? Number five, make the choice smaller. This is so helpful for our brains. So helpful. Instead of, what should I do today? Try. What's one thing I can do in the next 15 minutes instead of, you know, how do I clean the house? Like, where am I going to start? Try. Do I want to start with taking out the rubbish or doing the dishes? Smaller choices are so much easier for the ADHD brain to work with. Right. I use this concept, like, zooming in and out quite a lot when I'm with clients. And, you know, if you're in your bedroom and you're wanting to clean your bedroom, I might say, okay, zoom into the one area that's bugging you the most. And they'll be like, oh, the bedside table, because it's covered in mugs and plates and bowls and books and stuff. Great, let's just start there. Let's just do that today. Okay? So making that choice smaller can be so helpful. I do this actually with the kids quite a lot. Literally. Last night, actually, one of the boys, he was. It was his turn to do dishes after dinner, and I said to him, hey, do you want to have a shower first or do you want to wash the dishes? And of course, he was like, shower. They'll, like, avoid the dishes as long as they can. But, like, he knew that that was what he was going to have to do when he came out of the shower. But of course you want to do the shower first, no problem. But just giving them those two choices is so helpful. Now, big decisions can feel like you're. You're being, you know, big, vague decisions, right? Like, what should I do today? It can kind of feel like you're being dropped in the middle of the ocean. Whereas a smaller decision is like, hey, let's just swim out to that boy over there. Okay? So we're making it more doable, more realistic, more like, oh, our brain can get on board with that. All right. The sixth thing that can make decision fatigue easier or support it is using external support, okay? ADHD brains often do better when decisions are made more visible. So I want to talk through what that could look like. First of all, writing things down. Brain dumping is so fucking valuable. Getting it all out of your head. Write down the different options. Write down your thoughts, your feelings about those options. Maybe you write a pros and cons list, but getting it out of your head can make the decision so much easier to see, to understand. Okay? When it's in your brain, it's out of sight, right? It's kind of like it's in the dark. You know it's there, but you're fumbling around in this dark room. When you get that shit out and onto paper, you brought it into the light, okay? You've turned the light on in the dark room. So writing things down. Another one is ask for help. Ask for support. Ask somebody to help you narrow the choices down if you have to. You're coming off an international flight and you've got, you know, 10 different train options that you could book for you to get from Rome to. To Florence, and. And you're really overwhelmed by that. Have somebody sit with you. Maybe you pick somebody who, you know, has done a lot of travel himself or is really smart with things like this. Like, somebody pick somebody. Ask them to come and help you. People love to help. Honestly, they do. People love to help. Like, sometimes we get funny about asking, like, we don't want to be a burden or we don't like asking for help, but we rob them of that gift. We rob them of how good they get to fucking feel when they help someone, all right? You know that feeling, it's good. So don't rob them of that, okay? It was a little rant. Ask somebody to help you to narrow those choices or to sit with you and body double, even body double with you while you decide that will be so helpful. Use a whiteboard, right? Or draw it out on a big sheet of paper. That can be so helpful, okay? Because trying to hold everything in your head is often where the walls, walls, the wheels fall off, right? Getting it out of your brain into the real world can make things so much lighter. And again, asking for support can really help to take the pressure off. And having that sounding board can be so helpful, they might see something you can't see or vice versa, okay, my friend, some decisions are harder because they matter, but others are hard because your brain is tired and that mental bathtub is overflowing. And that distinction matters, okay? Not every difficult decision is this deep or meaningful one. Sometimes your brain is just cooked, okay? Does not mean you're incapable. It means you are human, my friend. So if choosing feels exhausting, if making decisions can feel so hard, you are not alone, right? And you're not silly for struggling with this, okay? For struggling with things that maybe look simple from the outside. Decision fatigue can be so real. It is very, very real. Especially when you have ADHD and your brain is already working harder behind the scenes. So instead of asking, why am I like this? A better question I want to offer you is what would make this easier on my brain? Perhaps it's less pressure. Maybe it's fewer options, more support. Maybe it's more compassion. Or just making a good enough choice. Okay, my friends. Huge, huge love. Take care. I'll speak to you soon. 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