Tap to Pay, Tap to Overspend? Mobile Wallet Traps and Money Conversations That Pay Off

Summary

Podcast Summary: NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast

Episode: Tap to Pay, Tap to Overspend? Mobile Wallet Traps and Money Conversations That Pay Off
Hosts: Sean Pyles, CFP®, Elizabeth Ayoola
Guest Nerd: Kate Ashford
Special Guest: Sherri Rash (host of Everyone’s Talking Money)
Date: September 15, 2025

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Episode Overview

This episode explores two major topics:

1. The psychology and practical effects of using mobile wallets compared to cash and credit cards: Are we more likely to overspend when using tap-to-pay methods, and how can we protect ourselves?
2. How to have better, more productive conversations about money: With advice on overcoming taboos, building financial confidence, and actionable strategies for changing our relationship with money.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Why Talking About Money Is Hard (and How To Make It Easier)

• Sherri Rash joins to discuss how money is embedded in everyday conversations, and why people avoid the topic.
• Accepting that money is neutral—a simple tool—and not assigning it excessive emotional weight is key to improving your financial life.
• Quote [03:43]:

  “We don’t have to love money. But I just ask, let’s not hate it, let’s not avoid it. Let’s just accept it. It is what it is.”
  — Sherri Rash

Ways to Start Healthy Money Conversations

• Use neutral, relatable topics as conversation-starters (e.g., “Groceries are so expensive!”) [06:07].
• Moving from commiseration (“complaining”) to exchanging helpful tips makes discussions productive [07:45]:

  “Odds are a best practice or a little tip or trick is going to come out of it.”
  — Sherri Rash

When Money Talk Gets Deep: First Money Memories

• Actionable prompt: Ask yourself and others, “What is your first money memory?” This reveals underlying attitudes and can guide positive change [12:53].
• Quote [13:15]:

  “When I say the word money, what do you think of? …That snap thought helps dictate your relationship with money for the rest of your life.”
  — Sherri Rash

Overcoming Negative Money Memories

• Recognize and acknowledge emotional baggage; tweak the language you use (e.g., say “We’re choosing not to spend money on that,” instead of “We can’t afford that”) [15:03].
• Incremental change begins with self-awareness.

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2. Do Mobile Wallets Make Us Spend More?

Listener Question from David [18:28]:

“I’ve always heard that folks spend more with credit cards than cash. How do phones compare—same as a card or spend more or less than cards?”

The Behavioral Science of Spending Methods

• Using credit cards removes the immediate “pain” of spending, making it easier to overspend [19:16].

  “Using a credit card separates the buying from the paying, so you’re not feeling the pain of that money leaving when you swipe your card.”
  — Kate Ashford [19:16]

• Paying with phones (mobile wallets, Apple Pay, etc.) is even more frictionless—often just a “tap”—which can further reduce mindfulness and increase spending [20:07]:

  “…sometimes I walk away from a transaction at the grocery store and I’m not even sure how much I spent because it’s just so rote.”
  — Kate Ashford

Impulse Spending & Guardrails

• Advice: Budget “fun money” for guilt-free impulse purchases [21:17].
• If impulse spending is a problem, consider strategies such as:
  • Unsubscribing from promo emails
  • Mandating a 24-hour cooling-off period before online purchases
  • Not saving card/payment info on devices
  • Using cash for discretionary expenses whenever possible

The Envelope Method—Still Viable?

• Physically dividing cash into envelopes for budgeting is powerful but harder in a cashless world [23:20].
  • Modern budgeting apps (e.g., YNAB, Goodbudget) can mimic this system virtually.
  • Drawback: some venues no longer accept cash.

Is Mobile Payment Safe?

• Mobile wallets offer strong security: encrypted transactions, biometric authentication. Safer than cash (if lost/stolen) and often even safer than cards, assuming users activate security features [24:13].

Net Positive or Negative?

• Mobile wallets are more secure but can facilitate overspending. The impact depends on the user’s discipline, budgeting habits, and impulse control [25:21].

  “…research shows that people do spend more money when they have mobile payment… And if you’re struggling with impulse shopping… probably not helpful to be able to just tap your phone at the register…”
  — Kate Ashford

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• On redefining “rich” [11:26]:

  “What does rich mean to you? Does it mean flexibility? Does it mean I can go on vacation without thinking twice?” — Sherri Rash

• On personalizing money systems [28:40-29:00]:

  “How can you create your own set of rules and guardrails?...Whatever works for you, works for you. And that’s fine.”
  — Sean Pyles

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Host & Guest Payment Habits (Mobile Wallets)

Kate Ashford [25:59]:

• Finds it “so easy” to pay by phone she sometimes forgets she’s spent money.
• Admits she likely spends more with mobile wallets.

Sean Pyles [26:41]:

• Early adopter but treats mobile payments like any other method.
• Uses guardrails to curb behavior.

Elizabeth Ayoola [27:21]:

• Actively avoids pay-by-phone:

  “I dabble my big toe in pay by phone, and I dabble[d] it right back out because I started spending more… For me personally, it’s a no. So I probably used it for maybe two months and then I deleted it off my phone.”

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Actionable Takeaways

• To start money conversations: Use neutral, everyday subjects; move from venting to sharing tips.
• To reshape your money mindset: Reflect on your earliest money memory and how it shapes your behaviors.
• To control spending: Physically or digitally separate your money (envelope method), and use budget apps if cash isn’t practical.
• To curb impulse spending: Remove save-payment features, unsubscribe from promotional content, impose your own waiting period, and remove mobile wallets if needed.
• On mobile payments: Embrace their security but be vigilant about overspending. Everyone’s solution will look a little different: set your own guardrails.

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 02:32 – Listener question intro: Can paying by phone cause overspending?
• 03:43 – 07:22 – Sherri Rash: Why we need to talk about money & conversational strategies
• 09:35 – 12:30 – Habits of financially successful people & common pitfalls
• 12:53 – 15:03 – The pivotal “first money memory” question
• 19:03 – 20:33 – Science behind credit cards, cash, and pain of paying
• 21:17 – Tips to manage impulse spending
• 23:20 – The cash envelope method in a digital world
• 24:13 – Mobile wallet safety vs. cards/cash
• 25:21 – Are mobile wallets a net positive or negative?
• 25:59 – 28:40 – Hosts’ and guest’s personal experiences with mobile pay
• 28:40 – 29:00 – Personal finance “guardrail” philosophy

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Summary

This episode dives deep into the psychology of both money conversations and modern spending habits: why everyday expenses feel more “real” (and sometimes painful) with cash; why mobile wallets make spending nearly “invisible”; and how each of us can build personal systems to stay in control. The hosts and guests encourage listeners to break money taboos, reflect on their early financial memories, and embrace the most secure options—without falling into traps that make budgets vanish with a single tap.

Bottom line:
Mobile wallets are safe, easy, and convenient—but potentially riskier for those who already struggle with impulse buying. The key is to understand your own habits, set up protective guardrails, and regularly check in on your money—both in your budget and in your mindset.

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Transcript

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How far away is your phone from you right now? I'm willing to bet it's either in your hand or within arm's reach. Or maybe just in your back pocket.

[B]

I feel like that's a judgy question, Sean, so I don't know if I want to answer it.

[A]

I'm going to take it that it's in your hand right now.

[B]

Not in my hand, but definitely a couple inches away.

[A]

Well, we all know that we are helplessly addicted to these devices which can SAP our time, our attention spans and also our hard earned money. So this episode we have some Tips for using these phones responsibly to manage your finances. Welcome to NerdWallet's Smart Money podcast, where you send us your money questions and we answer them with the help of our genius nerds. I'm Sean Pyles.

[B]

And I'm Elizabeth Ayola. This episode, we answer listeners question about whether paying by phone can lead to overspending.

[A]

But first, we're going to talk about talking on Smart Money. All we do is talk about money. But having these conversations can be really tough, whether you're making plans with your partner, planning a vacation with your friends, or just talking yourself out of that next impulse purchase. And joining us in this meta money conversation is Sherry Rash, host of the podcast Everyone's Talking Money. Sheri, welcome to Smart Money.

[D]

Thanks for having me. I'm not going to lie, my heart went up in my throat a little bit when you asked where the phone was. I'm like, it's right here. It's right here. But I'm not looking at it. I promise.

[A]

If it's out of sight, you can get a little bit anxious, right? We're just glued to these things. Well, I love the premise of your podcast because money is so important to talk about, and it's one of these subjects that people often avoid talking about. But it's an undercurrent to so many conversations whether or not you're actually talking about money directly. You know, it can be, you're making plans for the weekend with your friends and how much is that going to cost you? Or what's the grocery list for the week? How much are we going to spend on that? So we're talking about money even when we don't mean to. Can you talk with us about how we can have more intentional money conversations even if we don't realize that we're talking about money?

[D]

Well, you're right. Money has to do with everything. We can't function without spending money. So we need to create a decent relationship with money. We don't have to love money. But I just ask, let's not hate it, let's not avoid it. Let's just accept it. It is what it is. And I really think that that's the first step is to accept the fact that money is intertwined in everything. And it's like, do we really want to have a bad relationship with something we have to deal with all the time? Like, how terrible is that? If we really, like, sit back and think about it, how terrible is that? If we hate money and we have to deal with it Multiple times a day, every day, for the rest of our lives. Like, that's a really bad place to be. So, like, let's just get to the fact of we talk about money. Money has to do with everything. And like, let's just identify why we don't like to talk about money. Let's start there in order to improve. And like I said, we don't have to love money, but let's get to not hating it, right?

[A]

Because money itself is neutral. It's a tool that we're deploying all day, every day. But it's loaded with so much baggage based on our upbringings and cultural expectations around money. And that's where things can get really complicated and people can have sometimes dysfunctional emotional relationships with money.

[D]

I think often too, we don't even realize we have a bad relationship with money because we don't talk about it and we just live in our own vacuum. So the way we grew up, we just think that's normal. But then once you start talking about it with other people, you might realize like, oh, maybe that's not the healthiest way to think.

[B]

I wanna know if you've had hesitations with talking about money and then how you kind of overcame them.

[D]

I don't think I've ever had hesitations with talking about money. Here's what I think. I think when people think about talking about money, they think by the end of the conversation, the person's gonna know how much money I make, how much I have in my checking, how much I have in my savings, and all of that. I talk about money all day, every day, and no one knows that about me. We have to separate of we can talk about money without airing all of our dirty laundry.

[A]

So if people are hesitant to talk about money, would you think there's maybe a simple topic that you'd suggest to get this convers? What's a really easy way to dip your toe in?

[D]

I think it depends on who you're talking to. Anyone can talk about groceries. Anyone could say, man, groceries are so expensive. No one's going to be like, no, I think groceries are completely fairly priced and I'm not spending too much.

[A]

I would love to pay more on my groceries. In fact, I'm going to Erewhon tomorrow.

[D]

Exactly. So I think that's a very neutral topic that everyone's going to agree on. Like, wow, things are really expensive. And just starting there. And like, oh, what else do you think is expensive? Or I've come across this just by starting off with that. And yeah, you're putting yourself out there a little bit by just saying, I think groceries are expensive. But you're not saying, oh my God, I can't even get by. I'm struggling. I'm living paycheck to paycheck. It doesn't have to go to that extreme. But just finding a neutral conversation like groceries, like the cost of kids activities, where they start a sport and you have to buy all the equipment, like anything like that. Everyone can commiserate if you will.

[A]

And your example also showed how if you approach it with a sense of curiosity, it's less about getting bogged down in sort of the judgment and shame around all of it, and more of really trying to get to a place where you're understanding how other people are thinking about and navigating the same thing that we're all managing.

[B]

And then, Sheri, as we're talking, I feel like when I think about the conversations I have about money with different people in my life, whether it be about groceries or how expensive childcare is or how much you make, I don't think all of these conversations are necessary necessarily. Always productive. So is there a productive way or a helpful way that people can talk about money so that it actually moves them forward in their financial lives?

[D]

Yeah, I mean, going back to the the grocery conversation instead of just like sitting there complaining about it. Odds are if you're having a conversation, yes, there's going to be some complaining because that's usually what bonds people together is complaining about a topic. But then it's likely that someone's going to say, well, do you know that this grocery store has really good prices on this? Or I found this hidden gem of a store or I find that such and such on Tuesdays has this deal like odds are a best practice or a little tip or trick is going to come out of it. I did a podcast episode recently that I'll look at. This is going a little, you understand my money brain. But I'll look at when I'm grocery shopping, the price per ounce of something. If I'm comparing two different things, because the price tag will show the price per ounce or whatever it is. And like, if you can't decide, well, do I buy the bigger version? Even though it's more expensive, is it actually cheaper? So I feel like a conversation at some point becomes productive because yes, we can all complain, even if you're the one starting it. Offer your little tip or trick.

[A]

It is always funny how people tend to bond over complaining and something that I've tried to shake is like a bad social habit. And so I try to move toward more productive means of communicating like that and bonding over that. So my grocery tip is that I love to get my produce at a beautiful Asian grocery store in my neighborhood. It's so affordable, and I always find something new to try. So folks should check that out.

[B]

All right, Sheri, so a bit about you. You have nearly 20 years in the financial services industry. Over your career, what common themes have you seen around what gets people into trouble with their finances? And also on the flip side, what are some common habits of people who end up financially successful?

[D]

So I would say what gets people in trouble is not paying attention to their money. There are places where the financial industry kind of fails. The public podcasts are helping this a lot. But, like, they want the end user to love financial stuff, whether it's investing or budgeting and all this as much as they do. That's just not going to happen. So I feel like the information comes at such a level of like, so in the weeds or comes from a place of not meeting the end user where they are, and it's intimidating. And then, of course, why would I want to be involved in my money? Because all these gurus, the talking heads out there, are talking down to me almost. So we just avoid our money. And that's the biggest mistake someone can make. Again, acknowledging, like, you don't have to love your money, you don't have to love money in general, but you have to know what's going on with it. So sticking your head in the sand is never the answer. So conversely, those that have success with their money know what's going on with it. They're aware. And it doesn't mean they're waking up every morning saying, I can't wait to see what the futures are doing. Right. That. That's not what I'm saying. It's just knowing what's going on with it, knowing where it is, asking questions, having resources to help you.

[A]

So, Sheri, there are a lot of people who by many measures are doing well. Maybe they're earning north of six figures and they own their house and they're investing for retirement, but they still don't feel like they're doing great. And maybe they don't feel like they're rich or what have you. So how do you think people can get to a better place about how they feel with their money, even if they are doing okay? And how do you think people can get to a place of being, quote, unquote, rich, if that even means Anything. If you're not a billionaire nowadays, I.

[D]

Would first say, what does rich mean to you? Does it mean having a certain amount of money? If it does, likely when you get to that point, you're not going to feel much better because that's just like a faux number. It's just a number we throw around. So what does rich mean to you? Does it mean flexibility? Does it mean I can go on vacation without thinking twice? What does rich mean to you? But I would say for someone that is making good money and is on track for retirement, doing all the right things on paper, I would look at is your money controlling you or are you controlling your money? Because so oftentimes when we have money come in, it's getting sliced and diced and divvied up into all of these places where our bills are getting paid, our mortgages are getting paid, all of that. But we're not allocating money to ourselves like our present day selves. We're taking care of everyone else and not doing anything for ourselves. Today, if you feel like I'm doing all the right things, I have good income, what are you doing for yourself today? And how much control do you have over your money when it's coming in?

[B]

And that's why I'm a huge fan of financial check ins. Our listeners know we love those because you really kind of can get a picture of where you are. Because I know that sometimes I suffer from feeling like I'm not saving enough. And then I look at the numbers and I'm like, hey, girl, you're actually doing a pretty good job so you can live a little, you know.

[A]

So getting back to the idea of talking about money, Sheri, if you could encourage everyone listening to have just one financial conversation, what would it be about?

[D]

This is a little deep, but it tells you a lot of what you need to know or what the person you're talking to and having the conversation with needs to know about their relationship with money. But it's what is your first money memory? When I say the word money, what do you think of it? Can get deep very quickly if they answer.

[A]

Trying to give my own answer here.

[D]

But that tells you like right away what you're working with when it comes to your relationship about money. If you say, well, I heard my parents arguing about money, then you probably are going to have a push and pull relationship with money. If it's, well, I remember that the tooth fairy would come and I'd put the money in my piggy bank and then I'd go to the store and spend it, that's a positive. So you likely have more of a positive relationship with money or a neutral relationship. So whatever it is, don't force yourself to go, well, it has to be my first one. It's whatever comes to mind, like right away, like that snap thought that helps dictate your relationship with money for the rest of your life. So unpacking that is a big job, especially if it's negative. But that'll help tell you the direction you are with your relationship with money.

[A]

And I think going back to that grocery conversation earlier, that first money memory, this first conversation you're having about your feelings and memories of money has an effect on how we're having these conversations about our everyday expenses too.

[D]

If you said, my first money memory is my parents arguing about money, we don't have enough money, or whatever it is, you may then never feel like you have enough. So when things get expensive, it could be even that much harder on you. And because you are in the back of your mind going, well, I never had enough, I never have have enough. Things are getting more expensive. Things are out of my control. When. If you just take a step backwards and look at your money, do money check ins like Elizabeth mentioned, okay, yeah, things are more expensive. It's okay, I'm doing okay.

[A]

Yeah, you'll make it work.

[B]

And I think just to leave people with one more actionable tip, Once people do come up with that first memory, let's say it is traumatic or it is holding them back, what can they do to work through that?

[D]

I think acknowledging it is the biggest thing to work through it. Acknowledging it and understanding it, not putting any more emotion on the money, you're already putting enough. So let's try to get out of the emotion because like you said earlier, Shawn and I say it all the time, money is a tool, it's neutral. So we need to look at it as neutral, but we put our own emotions on it. So I think recognizing the emotions first is the biggest thing. So if you go, oh, wow, like I guess I do look at money in a negative way. That's the biggest thing. Like if you just are coming from a place of. I'm aware that I look at money in a negative way. That just helps so much right there to just start to transform. So you can check yourself and you can also be aware of like the phrases you use, like to your kids, instead of saying, we can't afford that, we're going to choose not to spend my money on that right now. Just like that slight little change. And by saying we don't afford that, we can't afford that, you could be in your head thinking, well, I'm not spending my money on that. Just say that. I'm not going to spend my money on that right now.

[B]

Yeah, it's one of my favorite lines for my son. No, don't want to.

[A]

And it's honest. Yeah. Well, Sherry Rash, host of Everyone's Talking Money, thank you so much for joining us on Smart Money.

[D]

Thanks for having me. It was a fun conversation.

[B]

All right, we're about to get into this episode's Money question where we talk about how paying by phone compares to other payment methods.

[A]

But before we get into that, listeners, you know the drill. Send us your money questions. What's that one thing that you just can't seem to work out in your financial life? Like, maybe you're not sure how much you need to save for retirement, or you want to supercharge your savings before the end of the year, but need some help getting the right strategy to do.

[B]

So Christmas is coming. No, I'm not too early. And maybe you're thinking about how to budget for that. We can help out. So send us a question if you have any related to that. You can leave us a voicemail or text us on the Nerd hotline at 901-730-6373. That's 901-730-N E R D. Or email.

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We're back. And answering your money questions to help you make smarter financial decisions. This episode's question comes from a listener named David who sent us an email. Here it is. I've always heard that folks spend more with credit cards than cash. How do phones compare same as a card or spend more or less than cards? Just curious. I feel the benefits and security outweigh the possible pitfalls, but mileage may vary. Thanks, David.

[B]

To help us answer David's question on this episode of the podcast, we're joined by personal finance nerd Kate Ashford. Hello again and again, Kate.

[E]

Hi guys, how are you?

[A]

Great to have you. How are you?

[E]

Good.

[B]

Let's talk about the premise of David's question. That people spend more money with credit cards than they do with cash. This is something that's been backed up by research in the field of behavioral finance many times over. Kate, can you break down what's happening here?

[E]

Essentially, using a credit card separates the buying from the paying, so you're not feeling the pain of that money leaving when you swipe your card. You don't get that feeling until you're paying your credit card bill, and that's probably weeks later and it's not connected to that purchase. Compare that to how it feels to physically pull cash out of your wallet. You feel that pain immediately. Ask my 14 year old. Anytime I tell her to buy something herself, suddenly she doesn't want to buy it anymore.

[A]

I bet.

[E]

So if you're operating on all cash, you tend to spend less.

[A]

So then it stands to reason that paying with your phone delivers a similar experience of not really feeling like you are spending money when you actually are spending it, or I guess borrowing it short term. If you're using a credit card anytime, there's like a near frictionless way to spend your money and buy something without actually pulling out cash. Our brains are going to have a hard time feeling like we're spending money. Does that seem accur it to you? Kate?

[E]

Absolutely it does. I think sometimes about how I had to explain credit cards to my children because watching me pay with a plastic card doesn't intuitively seem like spending money. It's so quick you're not counting out bills, you're not scrounging around for correct change. Sometimes I walk away from a transaction at the grocery store and I'm not even sure how much I spent because it's just so rote. You don't really have to use your brain. It feels disconnected from cash spending.

[A]

So, Kate, when you were talking with your kids about how credit cards work, what was it that clicked for them, that made them seem to understand that this is actual money that you're spending?

[E]

I just had to explain to them that it's not that I'm just swiping this piece of plastic, that this is money that we have to pay our credit card company at the end of every month. And it really is real money.

[A]

I think that's a reminder that we all need every so often.

[E]

Oh, for sure.

[B]

Something else that makes paying by phone so appealing is that it makes impulse shopping so easy. And to be honest, impulse shopping can feel really good. Ask me, because I know. I think everyone indulges in impulse shopping from time to time, but doing it all the time can be rough. On your budget, what advice do you have for how people can impulse shop responsibly or curb this behavior if they're struggling with it?

[E]

Kate, I think it helps to set some amount of money in your budget that's fun money that you can spend on whatever you want. I think you'll probably get the most joy out of it if you reflect on what you really want to buy. But if you like that spur of the moment feeling, just set a limit that works for your budget. I think about this like gambling. When I'm in a place where I can gamble, I give myself some set amount, $100, whatever, and I can gamble until that's gone. That's my fun money. I didn't expect to leave with it anyway, but I stop at $100. If you have trouble stopping at that set amount, either spend in cash, which automatically limits you, or take some steps to curb online spending, like unsubscribing from promotional emails or making yourself wait a day between adding something to your cart and buying it. Don't save your credit card number to your online wallet, so put some guardrails up.

[B]

Kate, have you been watching what I've been doing in my finances? I've done all of those things, and I will attest that it helps tremendously with impulse spending.

[E]

Yes. And don't memorize your credit card number. It's not.

[B]

No, it's a setup.

[A]

Sorry, it's too late already. Deep in my brain. One thing I'm thinking about as it relates to this topic is a write up that our colleague Aaron Hurd did around the psychology behind using credit cards versus cash. We'll have a link to this in the episode description. In Erin's article, she talks about a phenomena called payment coupling that explains why purchasing something with a credit card, either on your phone or a physical card, can feel better than paying with cash. The idea is basically like you mentioned earlier, Kate, that because you don't actually pay for something the moment that you buy it when using a credit card, it just doesn't feel as painful as when you buy it with cash right then and there. And that can make a good argument for doing something like the envelope method, which you also briefly alluded to, Kate, where you just keep cash on you for certain purposes in different fit physical envelopes in your bag and then once that money is gone, that is it. You can't run to the ATM and pull out more cash or use your credit card to cover the purchase. So where do you think the envelope method, sometimes called cash stuffing, fits into the spectrum of payment options? And is it still even realistic in our increasingly cashless society?

[E]

There's no question this is harder than it used to be. Some venues don't even take cash now, so that's tricky. I go to a football game every year at a stadium that used to accept only cash and now it accepts no cash at all. So certainly you can carry cash and stash a card in the back of your wallet for emergencies or for those cashless venues. But you could also check out some of the budgeting apps that are structured like the envelope method, where your income is portioned out to specific spending categories. I think Ynab and Good Budget both use this approach. You might have to pay a fee to connect the app to your accounts, but you'll get the benefit of still tracking and categorizing every transaction, even if it's not all in cash.

[B]

I will say that paying by your phone has become pretty ubiquitous over the past few years, but some people might still be wary of the technology. So can you speak to its safety and how it compares with other payment methods like, let's say, using your credit card or cash.

[E]

As much as cash might make you more mindful about your spending. There are drawbacks to it because it's a physical and finite resource. You could drop a wad of cash while you're out and there's no way to get it back. Everyone has found cash on the sidewalk at Some point. Credit cards, on the other hand, come with fraud protection and also chip technology that makes it tougher to clone cards. But again, if you lose your card, someone can typically use it until you catch on, and your card number can be stolen and used by someone else. You're protected against fraud as long as you catch it and report it. But it's a pain. Paying by phone has even more security measures like encrypting your card number when you use it, so the merchant never gets it. You can set up biometric authentication, your face, your fingerprint, which makes it harder for someone else to use your phone to pay for something. And for these reasons, mobile payment is considered more secure for in person shopping. But you have to make sure you've set up those authentication requirements.

[B]

So paying by phone can be safer than using a credit card or cash. But this payment method can also lead to overspending. So Kate, do you think that paying by phone is a net positive or negative given these pros and cons?

[E]

If you are a responsible credit card user, being able to pay by phone is a plus because it's a more secure transaction. That said, the listener question is sound. Research shows that people do spend more money when they have mobile payment as part of their system versus just using a credit card. And if you're struggling with impulse shopping and having a hard time sticking to a budget, it's probably not helpful to be able to just tap your phone at the register to buy things. So this is person and discipline dependent.

[A]

I'd love to hear how each of you handles and approaches paying by phone versus with credit cards. Do you find that you actually do spend more when you're using your phone or not? What do you think?

[E]

I probably do. I'm half and half on pay by phone. It's so easy to pay for things and sometimes you only have to carry your phone and you're covered. And that's nice. But sometimes it doesn't even register in my brain that I've paid for something because there's zero friction. It's just a double click and a tap. My husband would probably tell you he'd rather I didn't use it.

[A]

And does that make it more tempting for you than a credit card? Like say, three years ago you were just probably using your credit card. Was it the same or is it now easier for you to spend your money?

[E]

It's easier. I don't even have to take something out of my pocket. It's just my phone is in my hand and there I am. I don't even have to have a method of payment that looks like money. I just have my phone and I.

[A]

Can pay for something that doesn't even get into Pay by Watch. Because you can pay with your Apple watch too, if you have one.

[E]

Oh, that's tough.

[A]

Which I've done. I was an early adopter to pay by phone technology, and I actually don't find that I spend more money with it than I do with just a credit card because I treat it the same as buying anything else. And I don't really use my cell phone to pay for online purchases, actually. So in some ways, because I have that guardrail, or at least I try to, I'm curbing my spending a little bit. So, yeah, for me, it hasn't really changed my behavior, except for the fact that I am not pulling out my wallet nearly as often as I used to.

[E]

There you go.

[A]

Elizabeth, what about you?

[B]

Well, I personally think that it is a scheme, a setup orchestrated by capitalism. Yeah, this is all capitalism. Trying to keep me glued to my phone, trying to make me spend more money. So I dabbled my big toe in pay by phone, and I dabbled it right back out because I started spending more. Yeah, I started spending more because I like to spend online. And then sometimes when I'm at the store, like Kate said, if I have to reach in my pocket or I forget my wallet in my car, sometimes I go, actually, I don't really need that thing. But when it's on my phone, I just spend, swipe, spend, swipe. And for me personally, it's a no. So I probably used it for maybe two months and then I deleted it off of my phone. So I do not use pay by phone.

[E]

I online shop on my phone. And you can Apple pay that way too. So it just is.

[D]

Yes.

[E]

It's not even just, you know, at the register. You can, you know, I'm at whatever dot com and you just hit Apple pay and it's done.

[B]

Exactly.

[A]

I got a medical bill from a provider and they had Pay by Apple pay on your phone. So it's everywhere. At this point, it felt. It felt kind of silly. So, Elizabeth, what kind of guardrails do you have now? Is it really just not having pay by phone methods available to you?

[B]

Oh, I mean it. I don't have it on my phone at all. So, yeah, so if I leave my wallet at home, great. I save some money. So I do not pay for anything using my phone. Nope.

[A]

Yeah. Well, that gets me to think about a common theme in personal finance, which is like how can you create your own set of rules and guardrails to make managing your money easier and make it less likely that you will overspend on things that you don't actually need? And Elizabeth, you have your system right there. I have my own. Everyone figures out their own funky little way to do it. And at the end of the day, whatever works for you, works for you. And that's fine.

[B]

That's right.

[E]

That's right.

[A]

Well, Kate, do you have any other thoughts that you want to leave listeners with around paying by phone and how to curb our spending, which we seem to have a hard time doing?

[E]

Only that I think Elizabeth has something on taking pay by phone off your phone that might make it easier for me to spend a little less.

[A]

Great. Well, thank you so much for coming on and chatting with us today.

[E]

Thank you for having me.

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

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