Podcast Summary: "Evidence of the Afterlife Can Heal Your Suffering" with Lauren Robertson

Podcast: New Thinking Allowed Audio Podcast
Host: Emmy Vadnais (co-host for Jeffrey Mishlove)
Guest: Lauren Robertson, Author & Psychic Medium
Date: January 13, 2026

Episode Overview

This episode explores how receiving and recognizing evidence of the afterlife through mediumship can help ease grief and heal suffering. Psychic medium and author Lauren Robertson shares her approach to mediumship, stories of evidential communication, and practical advice for those seeking to commune with loved ones in spirit. The conversation emphasizes relational approaches to spirituality, handling grief, and the healing potential of ongoing spiritual bonds.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Importance of Evidential Mediumship

• Healing through Evidence:
  The core of healing, according to Lauren, comes from mediums providing specific, verifiable details that only the deceased and their loved one would know. Evidence such as names, shared memories, and significant objects fosters a sense of continuation.

  • "The healing itself actually comes from the quality of the evidence... it brings with it a sense of wonder and a feeling of awe... that their loved one in spirit is actually there." — Lauren Robertson (03:41)

• Confirmation Beyond Goodbye:
  Evidence from spirit can redefine loss, turning "goodbye forever" into a transformed ongoing relationship.

2. Three Keys to Accurate Spirit Communication

Lauren outlines her three foundational techniques for improving evidential mediumship:

A. Relax and Release Control

• Surrender is crucial:
  • "Really good mediumship comes from not trying at all...show up and just wait for whatever wants to come through." — Lauren Robertson (05:37)
• The best results come when the medium is open and curious rather than anxious or trying to control the session.

B. Build a Relationship With the Spirit World

• Foster an ongoing “friendship” with the benevolent force or creator behind mediumship.
• Practice “sitting in the power”—a meditation visualizing light, creating familiarity so the spirit world feels comfortable to communicate:
  • "You need to create a friendship with that higher power... the more you invest in the relationship... the more they will show up for you in the moment of the readings." — Lauren Robertson (08:20)

C. Expand Trait Openness

• Research shows mediums score high in “trait openness”—try new experiences, form diverse relationships, seek out wonder and awe.
• Personal relationships enrich this openness and mediumship itself.

3. Trust and Restraint in Readings

• Giving information exactly as received without embellishment leads to better accuracy and more detail over time.
  • "If what you got in your mind's eye was an orange, just say, 'I've got an orange here.'...the more you show restraint and just give what's there, the more that what you get will be right." — Lauren Robertson (11:43)

4. Notable Reading Experiences

• Podcast Host Story:
  Lauren describes a surprising session where a spirit requested she speak to the host's husband—someone Lauren didn’t know existed. The information transcended cultural differences, showing the spirit world’s range and humanity.

  • "The spirit world is capable of giving evidence that transcends cultural limitations...it was so uncontrived because I didn't know she was going to ask me for a reading..." — Lauren Robertson (15:37)

• Shared Object Validation:
  At a church gathering, Lauren described a specific gold compact, and the audience member physically produced the object.

  • "She pulled it out of her bag and showed it to everyone... objects last... it brings a real concreteness and solidarity to the reading." — Lauren Robertson (20:09)

5. Challenges and Learning Opportunities

• Session Difficulties:
  • Sittings can be impacted by client needs mismatching mediumship—for example, when someone really needs practical advice or therapy, not spiritual communication.
  • Pressure (from medium or sitter) disrupts the flow of information.
  • Each sitting is unique—sometimes sessions just “don’t work,” and refunds or rescheduling are necessary.
    • "I've had to give refunds. I've had to stop a reading in the middle and just say, look, that's just not the right day... There really has been some clangers over the years." — Lauren Robertson (25:14)

6. Role of Sitter Openness & Integration of Grief

• Openness helps—but isn’t everything:
  Mutual personality resonance between sitter, medium, and spirit is ideal.

  • "If people have come with an open heart and they already trust me, then the reading tends to go a bit better... but there's always exceptions." — Lauren Robertson (30:05)

• Integration of Grief:
  The best spiritual communication arises when grief is acknowledged and processed; seeking to “cling” hinders contact.

  • "If you try to connect with your loved one in spirit as a way to hang on... it tends not to work as well, or at all." — Lauren Robertson (43:37)

7. Living Agent Psi & Source of Mediumistic Information

• Does mediumship come from spirits or the living?
  Lauren values direct emotional experience as primary evidence, pointing out that unknown information that proves true can’t come from the sitter.
  • "All it takes is to say something that they don't know and for it to later come true for [living agent psi] to be undermined... focus on the first person experiential aspect of what it feels like to receive a message from the spirit world." — Lauren Robertson (34:43)

8. Healing Through Continuing Bonds

• Mediumship as Path From Grief to Love:
  Grieving loved ones can transform loss into a new relationship with someone now “a new type of being.”
  • "What if your body is the briefest and most boring thing about you? ... You can still love and create new experiences with... a version of the self that you can still love." — Lauren Robertson (38:44)

Practical Guidance for Grieving Listeners

1. How to Communicate With Loved Ones in Spirit

• Direct experience is possible—no medium required:

  • Accept the reality of loss before seeking spiritual signs.
  • Cultivate openness to direct experiences (signs, dreams, inner impressions).
    • "It just becomes your direct communion with your loved ones in spirit." — Lauren Robertson (43:37)

• Dreams as a Common Medium:

  • Lauren coined “dreamiumship” to describe mediumistic dreams.
    • "There definitely seems to be a measurable vibrational similarity... when people are dreaming and when people are doing mediumship." — Lauren Robertson (46:59)

• Ask for Specific Signs:

  • Be playful and bold: request unlikely, specific symbols to receive as evidence.
    • "Ask for something really specific that you wouldn't normally see... Trust me when I say your loved ones in spirit can do a lot better than [the usual signs]." — Lauren Robertson (48:47)

• Engage in Imaginative Conversations:

  • Visualize meeting loved ones in a comforting location and converse; sometimes, these exchanges yield helpful or even predictive insights.
  • Try Lauren’s "meeting spirit" meditation (on her website and in her book).

• Practice Allowing and Receptivity:

  • Don’t force or try too hard; shift from action to being and receiving.
    • "The key word there, the operative word is receiving... getting really good at being and how that feels is going to attune you to the state you need to be in to receive signs." — Lauren Robertson (55:06)

2. Overcoming Fear of “Dark Forces”

• Use emotional resonance as a guide:
  Negative perceptions often stem from personal fears or trauma; trust feelings of love and joy in genuine spirit contact.

  • "If you and your heart of hearts feel that... I felt the love that I always felt from her. And you don't have any reason to suspect differently... then just be aware that's your own mind and not actually in the event itself." — Lauren Robertson (57:52)

• Personal story of postpartum anxiety:
  Lauren shares how exhaustion and stress led to intrusive fears about dark forces, highlighting the need for self-care and therapy when needed.

3. Balance: Living Life While Maintaining Spiritual Bonds

• Let afterlife communication be a background miracle:
  Don’t fixate on it; live fully, and let signs and messages uplift you without preoccupation.
  • "The spirit world will not feel betrayed by you moving your attention away from them... It's a little miracle that happens every now and again." — Lauren Robertson (66:40)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the real meaning of evidence:
  “Objects last, and they last in their physical form... it brings a concreteness and solidarity to the reading.” — Lauren Robertson (20:09)

• On grief and new relationships:
  “If mediumship... can shunt your orbit from being someone that orbits around loss to being someone that orbits around love... that can be the difference between a more difficult life and a better one.” — Lauren Robertson (41:55)

• On playful engagement with the spirit world:
  “Ask for something really specific... a man wearing a smiley face T shirt carrying a watermelon.... The spirit world can pull strings of cause and effect that we don't... know anything about yet.” — Lauren Robertson (48:47)

• On healing through acceptance:
  "Really good communication from the spirit world that's direct... happens when we've accepted their passing, accepted the loss of their body, and are willing to let our life start growing around our grief again." — Lauren Robertson (43:37)

• On balancing attention between worlds:
  "Let it be something that you don't focus on too much... you're focusing on the big miracles that are right in front of you." — Lauren Robertson (66:40)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 03:41 – The importance of evidential mediumship
• 05:37 – Relaxation and curiosity as keys to accurate readings
• 08:20 – Building a friendship with the spirit world
• 11:43 – The art of restraint and trusting what's received
• 13:15 – Expanding trait openness
• 15:37 – Story: The surprise podcast host reading
• 20:09 – Evidential objects and their emotional impact
• 25:14 – Mediumship sessions that don’t go well: lessons learned
• 30:05 – Sitter openness and personality resonance
• 34:43 – Discussion of "living agent psi" and the source of information
• 38:44 – Mediumship and healing grief
• 43:37 – Steps for direct communication with loved ones in spirit
• 46:59 – Dreamiumship and dream visitations
• 48:47 – How to ask for specific signs from spirits
• 52:35 – Visualization and conversation practice
• 55:06 – Relaxation and allowing in receiving signs
• 57:52 – On fears of dark forces and trauma-informed understanding
• 66:40 – Living your life while cherishing spiritual connections

Concluding Thoughts

Lauren Robertson frames both mediumship and personal afterlife communication as relational, life-affirming processes. Evidence of continued existence eases suffering by expanding the boundaries of love beyond the physical. Lauren’s guidance empowers listeners to develop both openness and discernment along their own journeys—with practical exercises, reassurance, and encouragement to let love (in all its forms) be the guide.