
In this episode of Scrolling: New bedtime trends among new married couples boggle the mind! Then, one man has a theory that HOAs have killed a certain genre of music. Plus, the Scots experience the infamous Boston cop slide.
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Andrew
And we're live on Matchday as Doug reaches for a buffalo wing. He's got it.
Hayley Caranilla
Oh, and he's gone for a can of Pepsi too.
Andrew
What a finish. There's no doubt about it. It just tastes better. Match days deserve Pepsi.
Hayley Caranilla
Welcome to Scrolling with Hailey. I'm Hayley Caranilla. And happy Wednesday, everyone. Lots to get to on today's show because we've got a new study that says more than 40% of millennials are choosing to sleep in separate bedrooms instead of sleeping with their spouse. That's crazy to me. I've texted my group. Both of my group chats are going off because I'm asking all of my married friends what their thoughts are. So we're going to get into it and I want to know what the chat thinks. Also, the Scott's visiting Boston. They're making another appearance on the show today. I can't get over it, you know, and these people, they're, they're going to be here. All these World cup fans are going to be here for a few weeks. So I think I'm going to keep covering this because I just love seeing them experience America. And, and this time it is because they are drinking the city dry. And they're also making a very important pilgrimage to Boston's most famous landmark. Well, Maybe according to TikTok Plus, a World War II era mannequin was seen drinking on the job and actually fleeing from her job. All that and so much more. I want to tell you quickly to subscribe to this show. Quick reminder that Rumble.com Haley is where you can watch this show live Monday through Friday at noon Eastern time. If you can't catch us live, that's totally a. Okay. You can watch whenever you want or listen on your favorite podcast platform. And I also want to tell you about today's sponsors. First up is Veracity. Is anyone else trying to stay fit without going extreme? I used to battle cravings constantly. It was exhausting. That's why I started looking for something that helped me try to tackle the root cause. And this podcast is sponsored by Veracity. Their product Metabolism Ignite is an all natural way to help reduce cravings. Help boost energy, help support your metabolism. When blood sugar spikes and crashes, your energy, mood and cravings can suffer. I started taking it a few weeks ago. Just two, two capsules of breakfast. I feel steady my energy. I have it all day without crashing. It fits into my routine so easily and I absolutely love it. It is no wonder that metabol metabolism Ignite has sold out 10 times so before it sells out again, control your cravings and boost your energy the natural way. Head to Veracity Health Co and use code scroll for up to 65% off your order. Once again, that's Veracity V E R A C I T Y Health Co for up to 65% off. And make sure that you use my promo code scroll so they know that I sent you this. These statements and products have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease or condition. I also want to tell you about Helix. Recently I've noticed how much my mattress affects everything. My energy levels, mood, and even how I show up during the day. That's what finally pushed me to upgrade to Helix. I switched the midnight luxe mattress and honestly, the difference has been incredible. I took their sleep quiz which matched me to the mattress tailored exactly to how I sleep. I it has been a total game changer. I added the cooling upgrade because, you know, we live in South Florida here and it gets pretty hot all the time, so I'm not waking up overheated. I'm not constantly flipping my pillow anymore. The whole experience was super simple, free shipping. It showed up right at my door and set up only took a few minutes. Plus there's a 120 night sleep trial and a limited time warranty, so it really feels like a no brainer to try. Go to helixleep.com hayley that's h a y l e y for 20% off site wide to 25% off luxe mattresses and 30% off elite mattresses. That's right. That's a lot of deals. That is helixsleep.com Hayley H A Y L E Y for 20% off sitewide, 25% off luxe mattresses and 30% off elite mattresses. Again, that is helixsleep.com Haley and without further ado, put those phones on. Do not disturb the. Okay, so I came into work yesterday and I usually, you know, probably much to your dismay or maybe you find it entertaining. I come in here and I tell you all about my dating woes and it rocks. It's very entertaining for everyone else. It's not so entertaining for me because my life is joke. But that's okay. And we were talking about it because I got stood up on Monday and you know, you hate to see that. You hate to see that. So I got stood up and I came in here and I asked at what point, like how long do you have to wait before you realize that you're getting stood up?
Andrew
My answer was no text. You got 15 minutes.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay.
Andrew
And I'm bouncing. No response, no text, no nothing. I'm going to sit there for 15 minutes. I'm gonna have a drink, I'm gonna close out. And I'm bouncing.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay, I respect that. I think 10 minutes. What was the rule in college? Like, if your professor didn't show up within 15 minutes?
Andrew
It was 10, but because I want to date you, I will give you an extra five.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah, exactly. Okay, that makes sense. If you could get the new chat up. I want to see the live chat. It's the old one. Thank you, but I do. I'm interested in seeing, hearing what you all think. And if you know, is it 10 minutes? Do you give someone 20 minutes? So just to give you a little insight into what I was going through, I. This was months and months and months ago. My good friends from high school, they told me, you should really look into a matchmaking service. And I was like, eh, I don't know. I'm putting it off. I don't know. So I look up this matchmaking service, and I'm not going to tell the name because I don't want to shame them. It's not their fault. But this is also not sponsored, so. And I wouldn't have them sponsor me unless they find me a husband. So anyway, I told them I would look into it. I will look into a matchmaking service. So I found one, and I reached out, I did a consultation, and they said, okay, it's $5,000. And I said, that's a joke, right? I'm not paying $5,000. I was sort of under the impression that the guys paid and the women didn't have to pay, which ended up sort of being true. So I said, you know, $5,000 just isn't really in my budget to. I'd rather just die alone, honestly. $5,000 is a lot.
Andrew
$5,000 for anything is a lot.
Hayley Caranilla
It is. And that's, you know, that's a lot these days. It's a lot always. But it's a lot these days specifically. And for something like this that you don't really need, it's just supposed to make dating, I guess, easier. And I said, sorry, like, I'm not. I'm not going to do the matchmaking service. And they were like, okay, well, if you. Do you think that you could maybe come up with the money? And I said, no, I'm never coming up the money for this. And they said, okay, how about we do this if you pay US$15. Look at that discount. If you pay. If you pay us A$15, you can just remain in our pool. And if we have a paying client and we think that you're a good match for them, then we'll reach out. And I said, sure. No harm, no foul. So I'm in this pool, and I've only been reached out to three times. First guy wasn't gonna work out. Second guy, I wasn't interested. Third guy, I said, sure, I'd like to meet him. They said, you know, he lives in your area, works in construction. He's very successful, close with his family, et cetera. I'm like, okay, sure. So we set up a virtual date. This is how this works. You do like a FaceTime Zoom date for before you meet. In real life, even though we live close together, they say it's better to just not waste each other's time. See if you're a good match, and then if you want to meet, great. Okay, So I am curling my hair. This is me putting on my fricking clown makeup. I'm at home. I'm getting ready for my zoom date. I'm curling my hair. I'm putting my makeup on. I put a dress on to sit in my house. And I'm waiting there, waiting on the zoom call. Doesn't show up. And I figured, okay, he's five minutes late. Not a big deal. Maybe something came up, not a big deal. Then 10 minutes go by, and I said, okay, maybe I'll reach out to the matchmaking service, tell them that he's 10 minutes late. Maybe they can ping him. Because I only know his first name. I know nothing else about him, really. I have no way to contact him or anything. So I reached out to the matchmaking concierge woman, and I said, hey, he hasn't showed up. It's been 10 minutes. She said, okay, I. I'll go ahead and call him. Why don't you hang on the call? I'll see if I can get in touch with him and see what's going on. Great. No problem. So I'm sitting there like this, Hair and makeup done, dress on. I'm like, I hope he shows up. And she calls me back and says, hey, we've called him three times and we haven't heard from him. So why don't you log off? No need for you to sit here. We'll just try to reschedule. And I said, okay, that's fine. And I actually haven't heard back Since. So I don't know if this guy died. I don't know if he just decided, hey, I'm not interested. But I do think it's odd that I haven't gotten any updates whatsoever, especially not even to reschedule. And even. Even so, I don't know if I'm really interested in rescheduling with this person, because they have given three updates and reminders before the date. So this date was supposed to be on Monday night, and they sent me a reminder on Wednesday. They sent me a reminder on Sunday night and on Monday. So there's no way that he wasn't getting these messages unless he was totally off the grid. Juice McGroyne in the chat says, you dodged a bullet. Maybe. Maybe he's great. I don't know.
Andrew
Maybe he's dead.
Hayley Caranilla
Maybe he's dead and I did. There's no other explanation. If you don't want to go on a date with me, it's obviously because you're dead. And I would say that that's. I mean, obviously we're joking. But I have been. I have been stood up twice. Aside from that as well.
Andrew
Oof.
Hayley Caranilla
All since moving to Florida.
Andrew
Now, that checks out. Florida is a lawless swamp.
Hayley Caranilla
I think that it might be something with these Florida men, which I'm not. I haven't been super thrilled with. But I will tell you a story about when I was stood up. This was the. No, maybe this was the second time I got stood up. The third story, I might have been in the wrong. So we'll go into that. But this next story is diabolical, and we'll get into the show at some point. But I just. How long was I supposed to wait? You tell me in the chat. How long do you sit somewhere and give someone the opportunity to be late until you decide that, okay, this person is not coming? You know, on this zoom call, I sat there for 20 minutes. This next story, I did sit there for maybe an hour, and he didn't show up. But this is an interesting situation. So I. This other guy I met on a dating app, and he said, hey, I'm running a few minutes late. It'll only be five minutes. I said, no problem. So I get to the bar. He decided where the. I'm actually going to pull up our text messages so that we can really go through this. How's that?
Andrew
Whoa. She's got. She's got.
Hayley Caranilla
I've got the receipts. I've got the receipts. And I don't delete anything, so it's Haley. Hi, Haley. Where would you like to grab a drink this evening? First red flag. You decide and you tell me where to meet you. But whatever. That's like, it's the bare minimum.
Andrew
It's the guys. Like, if you're gonna ask somebody on a date, you have to pick said
Hayley Caranilla
location and just say, hey, what time works for you? And honestly, are people that picky where they can't. We're getting a drink. It's not like we're getting dinner. And even then, you know, find something on the menu that, I don't know, maybe I'm just not picky, but whatever. So where would you like to grab a drink this evening? And I said, I'm at church until 6:15. I can meet wherever after that. And then he gives me a bar. And I said, sure, I could be there by seven. And then he said, doesn't. Does tonight still work? And this is. We were texting at 1pm yes, we still have plans tonight. This is why I think this person's weird. So I said, yeah, I'm still at church. I told him I was at church until 6:15. So then he texted me at 6:30. Does tonight still work? I said, yeah, I'm on the way. So he said, hi, I'm sorry, I'm dealing with a family matter, might be late. And this was at 7 o. One date started at 7pm so he said I might be late. I said, no problem. I'm at the bar. Never heard from him again until 6:45am the next morning. And he said, I am so sorry about last night. I had to take my dad to the hospital. Do we believe him?
Andrew
I think you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. But no.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay. I said, hope everything is okay. And he said, it will be. Yes, thank you. I really, truly am so sorry. And I just didn't answer because I figured, you know, the ball's in his court. If he wants to ask me out again, he can do that. But, like, he screwed up. I'm not saying that, you know, he was lying. Maybe he was, maybe he wasn't. I don't know. But if he really wanted to ask me out and make it up to me, he could have done that. Someone in the chat said he could have texted you. I. I agree.
Andrew
A little communication goes a long way.
Hayley Caranilla
I think if you're sitting in a hospital waiting room, which I've done, everyone's done that, you're sitting there twiddling your thumbs, you can text me and say, hey, I'm not going to make it.
Andrew
That's where the lie comes into play. Because once you've solved the problem and you're sitting there, you go, man, I really missed a date.
Hayley Caranilla
I'm supposed to be somewhere else.
Andrew
Text and say, sorry.
Liz
Yeah.
Andrew
Like this girl is sitting, sitting at the bar.
Hayley Caranilla
And he knew, he knew I was sitting at the bar. I told him, I'm sitting at the bar.
Andrew
And he said, enjoy sitting for a little while longer.
Hayley Caranilla
So when, when that was happening, someone in the judge had asked for proof of hospital. Oh, really?
Andrew
Airline.
Hayley Caranilla
So I at that point, because I didn't know that he was coming or not. Like, he told me a day later that he was sorry. So I. I had a drink while I was waiting. And I have a two drink rule. I never have more than two drinks on a date because I don't think that there's a reason for that. So I had one drink and I figured if he does show up, I'll have another drink with him. But if he doesn't show up, then, I mean, what do I do? Right? So after the first drink, he still didn't come. Hadn't heard from him. So I just had another drink and then I went home. But I was there for probably an hour. I gave him an hour.
Andrew
That's generous.
Hayley Caranilla
It's very generous. But really, I only gave him an hour because I was enjoying two glasses of wine.
Liz
Yeah.
Andrew
So, yeah. Yeah, fair enough. 15 minute the chat. There's a lot of 10 minute rules in the chat.
Hayley Caranilla
10 minute rule. I think 10 minutes. I think 20 minutes is fine.
Andrew
You send me a text, I'll wait all day. I don't care.
Liz
Yeah.
Hayley Caranilla
If you tell me you're on the way. And he said in that situation, he said, I'm gonna be a few minutes late. Okay, no problem.
Andrew
Fashionably late. All right, guy.
Hayley Caranilla
I'm going to be a little late. Okay. A little late means a little late. Doesn't mean I'm not showing up ever. So that's crazy. Here's the craziest part of this story and the most diabolical attempt to slide back in.
Andrew
Of course there's more.
Hayley Caranilla
He texted me on the day that Charlie Kirk was assassinated and said, hey, I hope you're doing okay. I can't believe the news today. I did not answer because that is genuinely the most disgusting thing you could ever do. Andrew's shocked.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
Thank you.
Hayley Caranilla
Thank you. And I'm so glad that I never met this person, because using someone's assassination to basically slide back in. You are disgusting. You were disgusting to Me like, the mo.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
I.
Hayley Caranilla
And part of me thought, do I answer and say, like, you're a piece of shit? But then I said, it's not even worth me moving my thumbs. Like, it is not even worth. Like, are you out of your mind? Crazy news day, huh? No. Someone just fucking died. Yeah. Yep. So that was my second time that I was stood up on a date by a piece of shit. Then this third time, this could have been technically my fault. And I want to throw this out to the chat because maybe it was my fault, maybe not. But I think this is a thing where you kind of have to give people the benefit of the doubt because you don't know the other person on a first date. It's a stranger. You don't know. So he had texted me on a Thursday saying, hey, are we still on for this weekend? I wanted to see him on. I think it was Saturday night or Friday night. So I said, yeah, Saturday night. Or let's say it's Saturday night for the sake of. I don't remember the details, but he checked in with me earlier in the week. And then when I set a date, that's a date until I tell you, hey, something came up. I can't do it anymore. Like, once.
Andrew
You mean like a normal person.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay, thank you. So I see. This is how I operate. If I tell someone, hey, yeah, Saturday night's good. This time is good. See you then. You're going to see me then until you hear differently. But this guy, he texted me on, like, the day before and said, hey, how was your flight? And I didn't answer because I was. I saw his text. I was getting my bags. Getting like. I was super distracted. Didn't answer that. And then he said, because you didn't answer that text, I thought that we. The plans weren't on, so maybe that was my fault. But he also could have texted me again because I had to text him on Saturday, being like, hey, I. Cause I hadn't heard from him. I was like, hey, are we still on for tonight? And he said, no, I made other plans because I didn't hear from you yesterday.
Andrew
You both are in the wrong. But it's so lame that he made other plans. I'm like a quadruple texter.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah.
Andrew
How do you. I'm. I married. Way out of my league. And how do you think I did it?
Hayley Caranilla
By double texting? By not giving her another option.
Andrew
I'm just kidding.
Hayley Caranilla
I love it. Anyway, let's talk about this. This study, which was the entire part. Part of this show, and we just went on a tangent. But anyway, this is a new study that says we're newly married and sleep in separate bedrooms and it doesn't sacrifice our intimacy. This is the headline. And Kelsey and Chad Thompson, this is the couple that they are featured in this article. And this is what the article says. They're married, but separate. For most newlyweds and couples overall, sharing a bedroom is considered a given. For Kelsey and Chad Thompson, it was the one tradition they had happily skipped. The husband and wife couple, who met through a matchmaker in 2021 and married last September, have spent nearly their entire relationship sleeping in separate primary suites inside of their suburban Atlanta home. Far from viewing the arrangement as a sign of marital trouble, they credit it with helping their relationship thrive. When shown their setup, which features two full fledged primary bedrooms, complete with ensuite bathrooms, distinct decor, and plenty of personal space. Kelsey Thompson didn't hesitate. It's a pretty awesome setup. So this sort of backs this new study when we're talking about millennials. So. So this was a study done back in 2023, and they say that 35% of Americans sleep in a separate room from their partner either occasionally or consistently. And millennials were more likely to do it at 43%. And, you know, there's a name for everything. They're calling it Sleep divorce. Sleep divorce is the new. You know, there's a name and there's a trend for everything. So sleep Divorce. And I think this is weird, but can we.
Andrew
Yeah, I also, this is eye opening because hearing this story, I was like, oh, they're like a edgy dreadlock hippie cup. They're not.
Hayley Caranilla
No, they're very wealthy. So this is the couple. They're very wealthy. You could just see from the back of this photo that they live in a very nice home and they have two master bedrooms with bathrooms and everything to themselves. So this is first world solutions. I was gonna say first world problems, but this is like a first world solution.
Andrew
Their marriage is healthy because they are doing fine.
Hayley Caranilla
They don't have any financial troubles at all. So, I mean, what could you fight about? Seriously? So anyway, as long as you're faithful to each other. Come on. Anyway, so this is her room. And her room. It's lovely. It's got sort of this western Chicago decor. And it's got a sliding barn door and you've got a bathroom ensuite. This is her room and beautiful bathroom. And his room is way bigger, so his room, I mean, he's got this palatial estate all to himself. He's got this bedroom. I mean, his bedroom has room for a couch and a dining room. Not a dining room. What is that called?
Andrew
A coffee table?
Hayley Caranilla
Coffee table, sorry. And his is. He's got room for activities. Let's just say that in this ensuite,
Andrew
his bathroom's bigger too.
Hayley Caranilla
Much bigger. I actually prefer her bathroom. I think her bathroom is prettier. But he's got it made, so. And they're very happy, seemingly. I wonder the reasoning though. Is it because of snoring? Is it because they both equally just don't like sleeping with other people? I don't know. There are a lot of different marriage styles, A lot of different sleeping styles. Some people move a lot in their sleep, Some people snore. And if you have a husband or wife that snores, you may be inadvertently forced to sleep separately because you won't get a good night's sleep otherwise. So I think probably a lot of couples go to sleep together and then someone starts snoring and then the other person goes into. Into the guest room or the couch or something else. That's probably the norm.
Andrew
Yeah. I would agree. At least in my household, we are a shared room couple, which I didn't know that I would have to explain to somebody.
Hayley Caranilla
I thought that that was the norm.
Andrew
Yeah.
Hayley Caranilla
Yes.
Andrew
So the only time that we're not in the same room is if one of us is deathly ill or I stay up till 2 in the morning watching NBA and I don't want to disturb her. Disturb her sleep.
Hayley Caranilla
Right. I think ideally couples should fall asleep at the same time and get on a similar schedule. I think there's something romantic about going to sleep together and just making that a routine together and not having bedtime be something that's separate. But again, what do I know? Nothing. I'm getting stood up by assholes.
Andrew
Well, you might have something there as somebody who didn't do that initially and it. We didn't have like marriage issues. But once you start going to bed at the same time, it.
Hayley Caranilla
There's nice.
Andrew
Yeah. It's probably how it's supposed to be.
Hayley Caranilla
Right. I think that that's true. And some people are saying that they have, you know, night terrors or they move a lot in their sleep. I mean, this could be extremely uncomfortable for the other person that you're with. And almost as an act of love, you say we have to sleep separately so that you get to sleep. You know, like it's kind of unfair to make someone suffer through your crap if you're one of those very loud and annoying sleepers.
Andrew
Yeah. I don't know what to do with that. I'm a light sleeper, so I could see how that would pose a problem.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah.
Andrew
But living in your own separate parts of the home. One, I do not have a big enough house for that.
Hayley Caranilla
Right.
Andrew
Two, I don't know. Feels. Feels sad.
Hayley Caranilla
It is sad. And I asked all my friends who are married, and they say that. One of my friends, they said when we go on vacation, we sleep separately. If the. If the hotel room has two separate beds, we. We sprawl out. But we were also talking about this before, and I think a king bed or a California king bed solves a lot of these issues. If you. If you run hot or you're moving a lot or you're snoring or something, a California king bed might help.
Andrew
Yeah. It's a space thing, though, this couple being like, we've solved the problem and living in a palace.
Hayley Caranilla
And they're also newly married. They're newly married. I don't know how long they've been together, but I. I don't know. You would think that newlyweds would want to sleep together. Like, call me crazy, but they look mildly old. That's another thing, too, I think. How old do you think? I'm horrible at guessing ages, but I would say that she's probably mid to late 30s.
Andrew
I have. No, I haven't. You're gonna have to ask the chat. I just assume everybody is my, like, my age and. Or younger. I have no gauge.
Hayley Caranilla
So Maybe their late 30s, maybe early 40s. That's my guess. But I don't. I don't know. They're millennials, so that's got to be their age range. Yes, but is there something to be said for marrying later in life, meeting your person later in life, and being so comfortable with who you are that it becomes hard to be a couple? I think that there is something to be said for that. Like, I'm gonna be 32, and I'm very okay on my own. Like, it's going to be hard to. To go from being okay alone to being with someone else. I think you get very used to living alone or living your own separate life. It's hard to become one.
Andrew
It is a little bit of an adjustment just logistically because you both have different routines and. But I will say my life is significantly better. Like, it. I mean, it does take a second because you're not used to having roommates,
Hayley Caranilla
but I think when you're in your late your early 40s or like late 40s or maybe this is a second marriage. I don't know. I feel like you're so set in your ways. It's kind of like, let's just. Let's be together, but let's do things separately. I think maybe this is more so common for a second marriage.
Andrew
Yeah.
Hayley Caranilla
Where it's like, I'm with you not because we're having kids or doing that, but I'm just. We're having fun. And then it's like, I don't know.
Andrew
I guess.
Hayley Caranilla
I mean, I think that this is a problem because of comfort culture. And I've talked about the issue of comfort culture and many a time before. Like, people freak out now, especially with millennials and Gen Z, at the first sign of discomfort in any aspect of their lives. If their job is hard, it's toxic, and then they have to quit. And you can't dress up when you go to the airport because, you know, I paid for this ticket so I can wear my pajama pants whenever I want. And it's like an entitlement versus it's just entitlement mixed with comfort. Like this constant need for comfort. And when it applies to a relationships, it's like, oh, my relationship is hard, therefore it's toxic, therefore you need to break up or you're tired, so you cancel all of your plans because, you know, it's like, treat yourself culture. Treat yourself comfort culture. So I could see if you are obsessed with being comfortable at all times, you're less likely to make sacrifices in your relationship. And I think this is probably to people that are refusing to make sacrifices in their relationship.
Andrew
You know, like, people laugh about, oh, we're marriage feels like we're roommates. These people don't even feel like roommates.
Hayley Caranilla
No, they live. They're like, no, this is roommates. If you don't. If you don't know the person, this is like random Facebook group roommate situation. So they say that they have a happy marriage. I'm interested to throw this out to the chat. Do you think you can sleep separately and have a healthy marriage? Do you think that you can live separately and have a healthy marriage? I know people who live separately.
Andrew
Depends on the age. I. I got married fairly young. It was pretty easy to adapt because there was. I didn't know a ton else. So it was just like, here we are.
Hayley Caranilla
Someone in the chat says, no way. Nope. Someone else says, yes. Someone else says, define happy. And that's a great point. Like, maybe these people are happy and Everybody's different.
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Hayley Caranilla
Anyway, should we get into blind reactions? You have how many blind reactions for me?
Andrew
I got a few for you if you. We can definitely hop right into it.
Hayley Caranilla
Let's do blind reactions. And there's a theme to the blind reaction. So I have not seen these videos. Andrew finds them. And today's theme is what?
Andrew
So it's kind of a question theme. When you go to a restaurant, especially down here, restaurants have these gimmicks.
Hayley Caranilla
They do.
Andrew
Yeah. So, like, you can order, like, tableside Caesar salad or tableside guac. These restaurants might have taken it too far. And I need you to be the judge of at what point is it embarrassing and gross and, oh, I'm paying for a premium. Cool thing. So here's your first one.
Liz
Okay.
Hayley Caranilla
I have a drink I order when I'm trying.
Andrew
Binach,
Hayley Caranilla
This is too much.
Andrew
You think that's too much?
Hayley Caranilla
I would say this is too much. And what is that navy blue drink that is to turn your mouth blue for your date. That's so nasty. There's. There's, like, red wine mouth where you have red wine on your. It's like, stains your tongue and your lips. This is. Could you imagine that with a navy blue? That's disgusting. No, that's too much.
Andrew
That's a sonic drink if I've ever seen one.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah. What's the next one? Another tableside experience.
Andrew
Of course,
Hayley Caranilla
if my drink doesn't come out like this, I don't want it. That thing is smoking, man. And there's a cotton candy tree in it. And what else is in. Oh, it's separate. What the hell am I looking at? There's like four. There's four different corked drinks in there.
Andrew
Do you think these people were spoiled?
Hayley Caranilla
Like, is that broccoli or moss?
Andrew
It's gotta be moss. Like at Rainforest Cafe when they brought out a lava cake. Do you think as a. As a child, they're like, I'm gonna chase this till I die?
Hayley Caranilla
Ew, that's really gross. They're chasing this drink with cotton candy. Ugh, my stomach hurts just looking at this. If you're listening and not watching, there is a clear glass bowl on the table. There's broccoli slash moss in the bowl to. To adorn the bowl. And then there are basically four different shot glasses with corks. It sort of looks like a mason jar a little bit, but they're corked. And then there's a tree popping out of the broccoli mound. The. The tree leaves are cotton candy. So.
Andrew
So now we're gonna move on to food. It gets worse.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay. The most insane dining experience in New Jersey. This is a flamethrower Experiences here in
Liz
New Jersey, because, honestly, who does the
Hayley Caranilla
butter on the steak is being butter on your steak melted by a flamethrower.
Liz
Even their drink presentation is absolutely beautiful. So if this has been on your list for a while, please bump it to the top. For starters, we got the beautiful, beautiful seafood tower and their famous hand rolls. And the table loved the sashimi. It was super fresh. We even added some beef tartare.
Andrew
But is it too much detail with
Liz
every single plate is so appreciated. We also tried their famous surf and turf cones, and the shrimp was out of this world. It was so flavorful. From this chicken to the ahi tuna and these incredible lamb chops. There wasn't a dish we did not love. And some presentations are predictable, but I was not expecting this. This is very.
Hayley Caranilla
They're, like, dressed like men in black, melting everything. So I have been to a restaurant that uses flamethrowers to. It's a tableside tiramisu experience. There is a steakhouse in Nashville called Harper's, and they. They have flamethrowers.
Andrew
Oh, I'm aware of Harpers.
Liz
Yeah.
Andrew
And you got the tiramisu experience.
Hayley Caranilla
Yes. And they also. They do something with the steak too.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
So they're.
Hayley Caranilla
They're doing this gimmick. I've seen this in real life.
Andrew
All right, here's one more. Okay, this one's a little ridiculous.
Hayley Caranilla
$5,000 POV cart. And what
Andrew
in beefcake?
Hayley Caranilla
Who. If I watch it? This is so Vegas. What a ridiculous bread. That looks good, though. Surf and turf. That looks good.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
Potato.
Hayley Caranilla
There's caviar in the middle of the baked potato. Poppy steak love. Oh, man. This is so famous, guys. That's all I can describe. Describe it as. Huge cake. I kind of like a gimmick.
Andrew
It's like when you order fajitas at a Mexican restaurant because you want attention.
Hayley Caranilla
The. All the attention. If you're at someone else's birthday dinner and you order the fajitas you might have an attention seeking problem.
Andrew
Unless the fajitas are really good.
Hayley Caranilla
Unless the. I like fajitas.
Andrew
I do too. But I'm almost embarrassed to order them because of the stigma.
Hayley Caranilla
The stigmas is it runs deep. Now, there was. Okay, I'll tell you about a gimmick that I love. There is a bar on Stone street in New York City, and it is called the Cauldron, and it is Harry Potter themed. And I went there on what.
Andrew
What it's themed, though? Whatever they do, it's themed.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay, but can I explain how cool it is?
Andrew
Go ahead, Go ahead.
Hayley Caranilla
And I'm not even, like, I'm not even a Potter head or anything, but this was very cool. And I went on Halloween, so it was very in theme. But my. My friend Liz, who we love scary movies and stuff, we decided to go on Halloween. The way that the bar works, they have this huge tree in the middle of the bar, and it's like a magic tree, and they have all these spouts on the tree. And you go to the bar, you give them your card, and in return, they keep your card and they give you a magic wand. And the way that it works is you can go to the magic tree, tap your magic wand to the tree, and you can get as much beer out of the spigot as you want. So they give you a cup, they give you a magic wand, tap your magic wand to the tree, your. Your alcohol comes out, whatever is in the spout. And then if you want to check your balance, you go to the magic mirror on the other side of the bar, you tap your magic wand to the mirror, and it brings up your tab, and you can see how. How many ounces you've drank and how much you're running up your tab. Pretty cool.
Andrew
I might have to get the address to this place. That sounds sick.
Hayley Caranilla
Pretty cool. I know.
Andrew
I like that they. I like that at one point, there probably wasn't a way to view your tab, and people were just walking, bonding, everything back.
Hayley Caranilla
That's very dangerous. You know, and it's. It's. It's kind of do it yourself, so you could do a lot of damage there. Should we get into the Am I the a holes? Yes, let's get into it.
Andrew
Have you ever had a really good summer job?
Hayley Caranilla
Yes, I have.
Andrew
All right, well, this scenario is based around a summer job.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay.
Andrew
So I will read it here.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay.
Andrew
I am a high schooler with a summer job at a coffee shop. My coworkers who work weekends with me are about my Age. So sometimes customers will come in and will just be super angry about little stuff. Literally blow up over nothing, scream, yell, cause a scene. It's really tough to handle. How sad. You're a grown ass person yelling at a high school boy working a summer job. Yeah, my friend and I were joking and having a little bit of fun.
Hayley Caranilla
What's their job again? Can you remind me?
Andrew
At a coffee shop?
Hayley Caranilla
Coffee shop. Okay.
Andrew
So one day working, we came up with a little game and a guy was having a temper tantrum. And my buddy walked up and said, you know what? This is completely unacceptable. You're fired. I then pretended to be very sad and walked right into the back, leaving my friend and this person who was having a tantrum by themselves.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay.
Andrew
So they this, I would plead, no, please don't fire me. My family needs this money. I need this job, please. We had been playing it up the whole time. The angry guy started to backtrack immediately. It isn't that big of a problem. You don't need to fire her. I didn't really mean it. And my buddy immediately says no. We pride ourselves on the best customer service. Of course, after all that drama, I still have my job. We were just playing around. We've done this a few times to customers who really lose their temper.
Hayley Caranilla
Not the a hole. I'm totally on their side.
Andrew
And each person, depending on who's getting yelled at gets fired. And the person immediately regrets, no, I love this. Anyway, I've told a lot of people this story and people say we're really mean. Leaving these people with a life traumatic event, that they think that I really get a child fired.
Hayley Caranilla
It's really not wrong. No, it's not that traumatic. And I think that these people really do need a reality check. I, you know, people say all the time my biggest pet peeve is when someone is rude to wait staff or something. And everyone says that because it's true. It really is disturbing to yell at a high school student or a wait a waiter who made a mistake. You can be annoyed, but the way that you treat someone is how you will be treated back. If you say, hey, I'm so sorry, but this steak didn't come out the way that. Would you mind doing this? Like it's the way that you word it. So if you go to a coffee shop, like how bad could your coffee really be? Like, this isn't that deep. It's not that serious. They could just make another coffee, say, hey, I'm so sorry, would you mind doing this? Or this isn't what I ordered. You know, if you're apologetic and you are nice, they will probably reward you with a new drink. They probably won't charge you for it. They'll probably be very nice and happy to help you. So I don't really understand. Like, I couldn't ever be in a situation where I'm yelling at a high school student because you see yourself in them.
Andrew
That's the thing.
Hayley Caranilla
Like, I was never once could I
Andrew
fuss at a child.
Hayley Caranilla
I was this person. I was in high school once. I was, you know, nervous at the cash register. I was whatever. Like, whatever it is. But you have to just. It's like, have empathy.
Andrew
I think it's a very funny.
Hayley Caranilla
I think it's very funny. And I think these grown adults that are yelling at high school students and demanding their co. You know, this is at a coffee shop. Get over. Over it. So if you're being an asshole to high schoolers at a coffee shop and then they get you back by being like, oh, we're going to fire this person. That's great. Good for them. They need to be taught a lesson. And sometimes the kids are teaching the adults the lesson. I agree.
Andrew
I'm team. I'm team kid.
Hayley Caranilla
I'm team kid.
Andrew
Here's. Here's my next question for you. What was your favorite summer job?
Hayley Caranilla
So my summer job that I went back to every year was a camp counselor at a country club. So I would teach kids tennis, golf, swimming, get them changed, put their socks on, put their sunscreen on, you know, all that stuff. But it was so much fun. I loved being around the kids. And we were outside. It was only three hours a day.
Andrew
Have you ever worked retail?
Hayley Caranilla
Yes, I worked at Abercrombie.
Andrew
No way.
Hayley Caranilla
Yes.
Andrew
Like Abercrombie in the mall?
Hayley Caranilla
Yes.
Liz
When.
Andrew
That's a high school job, I'm assuming. Yeah.
Hayley Caranilla
No, I. It was college break. I would come home from college and worked at Abercrombie.
Andrew
College Christmas at Abercrombie.
Hayley Caranilla
Yes. And I'm bad at math. And they would put me behind the cash register. And then I told them. I was like, listen, I'm really not good at this. Can you just put me out front? So then I would. I'll tell you a funny story.
Andrew
Yeah. I was just about to ask what's your. What's your Abercrombie story?
Hayley Caranilla
So I would fold jeans. I was great at folding the jeans. And then I would also greet people in the front. And what's so funny is they have certain sayings that you're supposed to Say, and it's supposed to be very cool. Girl, you're not supposed to be. Hi, can you. Can I help you? It's like, hey, what's up?
Andrew
That's a rule.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah. Well, not like a rule, but they say when someone comes in, it's treat them like a friend. Treat them like a peer, not customer service. You know, hey, what can I do for you? Can I get you a.
Liz
Whatever.
Hayley Caranilla
It's more so like, hey, what's up?
Andrew
I did not shop at Abercrombie. I was very intimidated. I was an Urban Outfitters guy, and Abercrombie people bullied Urban Outfitters guys.
Hayley Caranilla
Really?
Andrew
Yeah. So, yeah. So this is eye opening.
Hayley Caranilla
I would greet. And then this is crazy, too. So I would greet people and say, hey, what's up? And then I would fold the jeans or whatever. The craziest thing is, if you catch someone stealing, you're not. You can't tell them. You can't say, hey, I caught you stealing. So I watch this woman so woke. What you're supposed to do is say, hey, if you see someone putting a shirt in their bag or something, you say, hey, can I get you a dressing room for that? Hey, what's up? Can I get you a dressing room for that?
Andrew
Hello, thief.
Hayley Caranilla
And that's what you're supposed to do. I watched this woman, literally, you remember those round tables full of perfume and cologne?
Andrew
Yeah.
Hayley Caranilla
She opens her bag and, like, does one of those.
Andrew
Like, she's a jewel thief in a cartoon.
Hayley Caranilla
Yes.
Andrew
Yes.
Hayley Caranilla
Like, opened her bag and went like that. And they never told me a saying for that. I can't say, hey, can I get you a dressing room for your 70 perfumes?
Andrew
You want to take those around back and try those on before you steal them?
Hayley Caranilla
So they only said they were like. But they were very specific about what you could say. So I said, shoot. I can't say, can I get you a dressing room for those? So I just. I watched her walk out. She just walked off with 70 per views. And the thing is, there was also a rule, like, you couldn't follow them out. You couldn't say anything to them. You couldn't confront them. All you could do is alert the mall security. So I just alerted the mall security, and I said, that woman stole stuff.
Andrew
I once saw mall security chasing somebody through the mall, and that was pretty sick.
Hayley Caranilla
Yeah.
Andrew
But, like, what's. You're also a college kid. Like, you don't care.
Hayley Caranilla
No, this was a job that I would take for. I don't know, how long is Christmas Break a month.
Andrew
Yeah, not even.
Hayley Caranilla
So I didn't really care.
Andrew
And that's hilarious. Just let a woman like eating and abetting perfume. What are you doing with all that perfume too? Reselling it. Feels like a lot of risk for Facebook market. Yeah, Abercrombie.
Hayley Caranilla
So anyway. All right, let's get it. Well, do we have time? We have five minutes. So should we pick one video? Why don't you pick one video for me?
Andrew
All right, Sounds good. This one, I think, was my favorite.
Hayley Caranilla
Okay.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
Well, I unfortunately just got caught in a teen takeover at the high park.
Hayley Caranilla
Trader Joe's.
Unknown Woman Running for Congress
Not acceptable. I got back from the office and decided to pop into Trader Joe's so I could get some dinner and snacks for my kids. When I arrived there, there were a few units from UCPD and then there were some teens walking around. And I was like, you know what? They seem like they leave. They're leaving. I'm gonna go ahead and run into the store. I didn't leave any of my belongings in my car, and I took my kids into the store with me. While we are in the store, the entire store is swarmed with hundreds of teens. These are not cheerful looking teens. I love our people, but we have to be so for real about what is happening in Chicago right now, because nothing about what I just saw is okay. My kids were afraid. The people in the store were very nervous. I heard parents telling their kids, shut up. I have to think. People literally frantically trying to figure out what they may need to do to get out of a very tough situation. This is not okay. Chicagoans are being terrorized by these teens. Cps, turn off the bus cards right now. We don't need divvy bikes. We don't need scooters. There has to be a citywide mandatory curfew for these kids.
Hayley Caranilla
So this woman is running for Congress in the Chicago area, in Chicago's 1st District. She's running as a Republican, and I don't want to shame her for by any means, but I think if you see a teen takeover at Trader Joe's, why are you entering the Trader Joe's?
Andrew
I see more than five teens. I immediately leave just out of fear of being bullied.
Hayley Caranilla
Teens are so scary. Teens are horrifying. Any parent watching this who has kids in middle school or high school, the
Andrew
meanest human beings you've ever met, they're bullies.
Hayley Caranilla
Even just the way that they look at you. Like, if I walked past a pack of high school girls, I'd be nervous.
Andrew
Somebody calls me Ohio, I'm Losing it.
Hayley Caranilla
I would just be, I don't know. They make you uncomfortable. I can't explain it. So then imagine, you know, hundreds of Trader Joe's, I'm not going in there. And then it's also, you know about the teen takeovers. You know that these are a bunch of high school, maybe even after older than high school kids that are roaming around and doing, you know, Lord knows what. Why are you walking in there with your kids? That's so weird to me.
Andrew
Also, why are teens taking over Trader Joe's?
Hayley Caranilla
I don't know. There's. That is another thing that I can't get into their heads. I have no idea why they're doing this. I think they're bored and their parents don't know where they are and they don't care. So they just. Why not, right? Why not take over Trader Joe's? There's no, they just get a kick out of it. But why are you see this going on and you think, oh, I think they're leaving soon. Why would you think that? Why would you think that the teens
Andrew
are leaving Trader Joe's and not to be that guy? Trader Joe's is usually in a very nice part of town and or a part of town that real estate developers think is going to be very, a nice area soon. So to have a teen takeover, there's crazy.
Hayley Caranilla
She said that this was in Hyde park in Chicago. So yeah, to your point, maybe you don't expect this to happen at Trader Joe's, but if you see it happening at Trader Joe's, why would you continue into the Trader Joe's? Whatever, I'm done victim shaming. So she goes into the Trader Joe's with her kids, a mid teen takeover, whatever. And she starts blaming, you know, Mayor Brandon Johnson, which I agree, the mayor is the person that has to take care of this. And someone commented, what's sad is that Hyde park is one of the nicest parts of the south side, has a lot of black owned businesses, cultured activities. A lot of us go that to that area to have a good classy time. The excuse is they don't have programs is a lie. There are programs all over the city and most importantly, they don't have to do this. I was a teen in Chicago not too long ago and we didn't do this. This is a parenting issue, mind you, it's not even summer yet. Someone else said, you're running for Congress, propose a solution. The solution is the people in place have to do their jobs. Right? Mayor Brandon Johnson, the same way in D.C. mayor Muriel Bowser had to put curfews in place when this was happening in D.C. because that's her jurisdiction. That's what she has to do. So to yell at this woman who's not even elected yet, you know, come up with a solution. She did come up with a solution in the video. It's so that the sitting elected officials do their jobs. And I agree. Like, why are we electing more Blue City Slop into office? This is what you're going to get. You vote in Blue City Slop, you're going to get Blue City Slope. That's. That's what the. That's what this is.
Andrew
As I was lurking on Facebook for Facebook finds, as I do, I saw a teen takeover for a mall down here. It was quashed immediately. It's just proof that you can take care of. Like, before it was even a big deal. The police had already posted the flyer on the Martin County Facebook page and said, if you show up, we will arrest you. Good luck.
Hayley Caranilla
Nice.
Andrew
There was no teen takeover.
Hayley Caranilla
Fair warning, and nothing. Nothing to see here.
Andrew
The fog is so cool, though. Those teens would have been the coolest people. I wish we could have gone.
Hayley Caranilla
Maybe Mayor Brandon Johnson is as afraid of high schoolers as we are.
Andrew
I don't doubt it.
Hayley Caranilla
And honestly, kind of fair.
Andrew
Very.
Hayley Caranilla
Thank you for scrolling along with me. Sorry about the technical difficulties in the beginning of the show, but if you stuck around, thank you so much. You can follow me on social media at Haley Carania, and I'll see you right back here tomorrow.
Andrew
Bye.
Hayley Caranilla
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Host: Hayley Caranilla
Episode: 320 | June 17, 2026
Hayley Caranilla dives into a headline-grabbing study revealing that over 40% of millennials choose to sleep in separate bedrooms from their spouses. With her trademark wit and conservative lens, Hayley explores what’s driving this “sleep divorce” trend, reflects on comfort culture, and shares her own experiences and opinions on modern relationships. The show also takes diversions into dating horror stories, social etiquette, and culture-war commentary, complemented by blind reacts to restaurant gimmicks and an “Am I the A-hole?” segment.
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Hayley delivers sharp, humorous, and direct commentary, blending personal anecdotes with a cultural critique. Her conservative perspective is evident in framing topics (e.g., critiques of “comfort culture” and urban policy). The episode balances light-hearted storytelling (dating woes, retail mishaps) with more pointed observations about societal trends and generational shifts. The conversational, at times sardonic, banter with co-hosts adds energy and relatability.
For listeners curious about the culture war, modern dating, and how the next generation is reshaping traditional norms—especially regarding marriage and cohabitation—this episode of Scrolling with Hayley provides plenty of sharp takes, laughter, and fodder for debate.