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Welcome to Noble Blood, a production of iHeartRadio and Grim and Mild from Aaron Menke. Listener discretion advised. Get thee to a nunnery. Go. Farewell. These are Hamlet's famous words to Ophelia as the play's titular character begins to succumb to madness and paranoia. There are probably plenty of Shakespeare podcasts you could listen to for a more in depth analysis and we could spend hours debating whether Hamlet is actually mad or just pretending. But on a surface level, the meaning of Hamlet's orders to Ophelia is A convent is a place where a woman can go to absolve her sins, to conveniently disappear. Joining a convent by force or coercion or choice is a hand that fate dealt many women, both real and fictional, throughout the ages. In 17th century France, most upper class women generally had two choices upon coming of age, become a wife or become a nun. Both would require following rigorous sets of social rules and accepting a fundamental lack of freedom. But what about the women who defied that Choice? Ninon de l'Enclos was one such woman, and an incredibly unique one at that. Nanon, a student of philosophy from a young age, saw both marriage and the convent as a loss of freedom and resolved to forge a different path for herself. She became Paris's most celebrated courtesan, all while sharing her radical ideas in the city's intellectual circles. But as we know, the consequences of going against the grain are often great for women, both then and now. Ninon's lifestyle landed her imprisoned in a convent, and the order to get thee to a nunnery had come from the very top. For many women, that would be the end of their story, but Ninon was determined to continue on. And unlike the story of Ophelia, you'll find that Ninon's life was no tragedy. I'm Dana Schwartz, and this is noble blood. Anne de l'Enclos was born in Paris on November 10, 1620. Some sources propose that her family were minor nobles, while some other historians insist that they had no noble ties. But no matter their origin, they were probably not particularly wealthy, but they were certainly involved in Parisian high society. The Nickname Ninon, a traditional French diminutive of Anne, was given to her by her father. Henri de l'Enclos was an accomplished luteist and composer, and he taught his daughter to play the lute from a young age. In addition to her father's music lessons, Ninon also inherited his philosophical ideas. He was a neo epicurean taking a brief detour to Philosophy 101. Before we continue. Epicureanism, derived from the teachings of the Greek sage Epicurus, focuses on a secular pursuit to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. The term Neo Epicurean that you'll hear today came about during the philosophy's 17th century revival. That was Ninon's father's outlook. But given how unconventional Ninon's life ended up, what was her mother's perspective? While her father had turned to the Greeks, Ninon's mother was actually a devout Catholic and wished to impart the strict moral standards of Counter Reformational Catholicism on her daughter. Some historians believe her mother's greatest goal was for her daughter to become a nun. And there was even a brief period during which a young Ninon was educated in a convent. Her parents marriage was one of convenience, as you might have been able to guess. Given that husband and wife could not have been more opposed ideologically, you can probably guess whom Ninon ultimately took after. In addition to embracing her father's libertinism and rejection of religion, Ninon became something of a musical prodigy in her youth and performed the lute and clavichord for charmed audiences that gathered in Parisian salons. At the same time, she also mastered Spanish and Italian and became an avid reader. There's an anecdotal account about Ninon in her teenage years that embodies the way she would challenge convention and authority. As the story goes, Ninon informed her friends that since women are tasked with frivolities and men are allotted freedoms they take for granted, from this moment, I will be a man. For Nanon, it wasn't a declaration about gender identity. It was a statement about the role she wished to play in society, about her interests and the freedoms she intended to preserve for herself. Society was only allowing women at the time to occupy an incredibly narrow space, and so Ninon would chart a course for herself, attempting to live with the freedoms that a man would have. It was Ninon's determination to live as a man would that drove her to find another avenue besides the convent or marriage. And it was at this time that she began her famed career, taking a third a courtesan. I find the word courtesan interesting because as a culture we have found no shortage of both euphemisms and derogatory terms for sex workers. But to me, courtesan conveys something specific. There's some sophistication there, in my opinion, a little glamour. Merriam Webster describes courtesan as a female sex worker with a courtly, wealthy or upper class clientele. The word first appears in the mid-1500s, deriving from the Middle French courtesan, literally meaning woman of the court. Many courtesans came from poorer backgrounds and began their careers as more lower class prostitutes, while others came from more well off backgrounds and became courtesans to improve their social and political currency. Courtesans were expected to be artistically and or intellectually engaging. Their primary job was, of course, companionship and usually sexual pleasure for their benefactors, but it was nearly equally important that they entertained through other avenues. Ninon was neither wealthy nor poor, and she likely saw a courtesan as a path to both financial and social independence. Her personal philosophy also must have contributed to her decision. Unlike the vast majority of her contemporaries, Nanon did not see sex as an immoral act. As she would later write, oh, you mortals who rely so much on the power of your virtue, no matter how great your strength may be, there are moments when the most virtuous person becomes the weakest. The reason for this strange fact is that nature is always pursuing us. It is always aiming to achieve its ends. The desire for love in a woman is a substantial part of her natural constitution. Her virtue has only been patched on. This outlook goes hand in hand with her rejection of the Christian Church's teachings. If desire is not inherently sinful, then repentance is not the point of existence. Ninon's first step to begin her new life was to acquire her own residence in Paris, which she likely did using inheritance from the recent death of her father. She settled on a street in the fashionable quarter of the Marais. The neighborhood was the heart of many of Paris's most esteemed intellectual circles, where men and women would gather to engage with new, often bohemian ideas. Just as Nanon had charmed Parisian society with her lute years earlier, she soon captivated its attention yet again. She gained a reputation for being different from other courtesans at the time because of her openly independent nature. As Ninon's French biographer Roger Duchamp put it, roughly translated into English, Ninon earned her living by having sex. Having sex was not her life. She was known for her strict boundaries. She would be the one to determine when a relationship started and ended. It wasn't unusual for a courtesan to gain enough social currency that she could afford to exert that control, choosing which lover she took instead of the other way around. But Ninon seems to have reached that point quicker than most. As the famed memoirist St. Simon wrote of her, Ninon always had crowds of adorers, but never more than one lover at a time. And when she tired of the precious present occupier, she said so frankly and took another. Yet such was the authority of this wanton that no man dared fall out with his successful rival. He was only too happy to be allowed to visit as a familiar friend. We don't have a clear timeline of when her relationships with her various benefactors started or ended, but we do know their names. Her most famous lovers included the King's cousin, the General Louis II de Bourbon, otherwise known as Legrand Cond. As well as Francois, Duke de la Rochefoucauld, member of one of the most illustrious French noble families and a published writer and frequent salon fixture himself. Among her spurned petitioners was Cardinal Richelieu, the chief minister to Louis xiii, known for accumulating an enormous amount of power and influence in both the Catholic Church and French monarchy. His rejection speaks to the weight of Ninon's social currency as well as her goals. If she simply sought to acquire wealth and power, why would she have refused one of France's most powerful figures? We don't know her specific reasons for refusing Richelieu's advances, but we can probably imagine that Ninon might have taken issue with his censorship of the press and his consolidation of power away from the nobility, her clientele, family and friends. Years into her career, Ninon found herself facing a new and different sort of relationship. In 1652, when she would have been in her early 30s, she was pursued by a well known nobleman, Louis de Mornay. De Mornay gets a mention in St. Simon's memoirs as well, where he's simply described as making a lot of noise with women, end quote. I'm not sure if that's literal or metaphorical, but it's no surprise then that he was married when he and Ninon began a relationship. The couple actually had a son together, Louise, and for three years the three of them lived together in the country where Ninon studied and the noblemen hunted while they both cared for their son. However, Ninon wasn't suited for the quiet country life and she ultimately wasn't suited for de Mornay, a man with ultimately boring, fairly conventional and Low brow interests. Ninon returned to Paris in 1655 and her son seems to have stayed at court. We don't know for sure what kind of relationship Ninon had with him throughout the rest of her life. Returning to her previous career, as it turned out, wouldn't be as smooth as she might have hoped. Ninon was used to ending relationships on her terms, but de Mornay appears not to have gotten that message. When she refused to return to him despite his pleas, he fell into a fever. To console his distress, she cut off her hair and sent the curled locks to his bedside. It didn't do much to appease her scorned ex lover, but it did evidently start a trend. Women across Paris began to sport bobbed hair a la Ninon. Eventually, like all of her other former lovers, De Mornay forgave Ninon and they settled into a friendship. It wasn't just hairstyles that were changing in Paris. The Fronde the two short wars between the French nobility and Louis XIV's regency government further asserted the power of the monarchy and Cardinal Mazarin, young Louis minister and Richelieu's successor. With this assertion came a wave of conservatism, and conservatives famously don't favor openly atheist courtesans. It was only a year after Ninon's return to the city in 1656 that the Queen Mother of France, Anne of Austria, was petitioned by a group of Ninon's detractors, AKA those who might have been jealous of her status, wary of her philosophy, or both, to silence her. The petition ultimately led to Ninon's imprisonment in a convent home to many wayward women of the 17th century. While there were those who joined the convent voluntarily, the French convent primarily functioned as an alternative to prison for rebellious women. Ninon had designed a life for herself specifically to circumvent the choice between marriage or convent. But in the end, she was still sentenced to the latter. The writing of Ninon's that has survived is philosophical, not diaristic. So we're left to imagine how she must have felt, confused, confined to those walls. As we know, Ninon was not fated to stay at the convent for long. The story goes that her savior was actually not, as you might have been expecting, one of her many powerful lovers, but a kindred spirit. Christina, the exiled Queen of Sweden, who we actually discussed in the early podcast episode. Queen Christina removed her own crown. You can see why. The monarch who described herself as having an insurmountable distaste for marriage as well as for all the things that females talked about and did would be impressed by Ninon's convictions. Christina often wore masculine clothing. She barely combed her hair and cared far more about her studies than she did running a country. She was just a reminder. It's been a while since the episode. Ultimately forced to abdicate her throne for her refusal to marry and intend to convert to Catholicism, Christina was only in her 20s when she abdicated, and so much of her life after the throne was spent traveling Europe. During her time in Parisian society, she likely heard much about Ninon's rise and fall and decided to visit her in the convent. Their conversation must have made an impact and sounds like an Off Broadway play waiting to happen. Christina swiftly intervened and Ninon was set free. In 1659, a pamphlet began to circulate around Paris. Wonderfully entitled the Coquette Avenged. It was a short work, but it boldly described the possibility of living a good, fulfilling life outside the constraints of religion. While it's not a certainty, the work has long been attributed to Ninon, and it's believed to have been written during her time in the convent, proving that her imprisonment only further cemented her beliefs and convictions. After her brief stay with the nuns, Nanon returned to being a courtesan. But in the 1660s, she would ultimately say goodbye to that part of her life and dedicate herself to her literary circle. While Ninon had attended and hosted numerous salons in her time, in 1667 she established her regular salon at the Hotel de Sagan in Paris, which would continue to meet for the rest of her life. Her guests were some of the city's most prominent intellectuals, artists and political thinkers. The most famous names among her friends include St Simon, the memoirist we've quoted several times now, Mollieri, the iconic playwright, and the woman known as Madame Scarron, who actually secretly married Louis XIV following the death of Queen Maria Theresa. Ninon's surviving philosophical work comes from her letters to another attendee of her salons, a man named Charles de Sevign. An aristocrat and the son of Madame de Sevigne, who's remembered to this day as a 17th century literary icon for her own letter writing, Ninon appears to have taken Charles, 28 years her junior, under her wing. Or in her own words, you ought to be aware of the fact that when a woman has lost the freshness of her first youth and takes a special interest in a young man, everybody says she desires to make a worldling of him. You know, the malignity of this expression. I do not care to expose myself to Its application. All the service I am willing to render you is to become your confidant. You will tell me your troubles, and I will tell you what is in my mind. Likewise aid you to know your own heart. Heart and that of a woman. Charles, in his youthful ignorance, had found himself struggling to find a woman that returned his affections. Nanon became something of his dating guru. As you can probably guess, her advice to him wasn't the kind of soundbites you can hear on TikTok from dating experts, but rather a reflection of her philosophical beliefs regarding sex during gender and the nature of humans themselves. In one letter, she writes, it is not because you, referring to both Charles and men at large, possess superior qualities, that you are an agreeable companion. To be embraced with outstretched arms, you must be sympathetic, amusing, important to the pleasure of others. I warn you that you cannot succeed in any other manner, especially. Especially with women. Now tell me, what would you like me to do with your learning, with the geometry of your mind and with the exactitude of your memory? Dear Marquis, if you have such advantages, if you have no personal charm to balance your austerity, you will not please women. I can vouch for that. Far from pleasing them, you will seem to them like an intimidating critic. You will so constrain them that any pleasure they might have enjoyed in your presence will be banished. In other words, don't be all head and no heart. While this is surely a bit of tough love, it's also a blatant disavowal of conventional gender roles. Relationships, Ninon argues, cannot work when a man is expected to always only be the head and the woman, only the heart. What is love without reciprocity? While Ninon encouraged men to work on their charm, she began to further encourage fellow women to work on their minds. Her salon began hosting lectures, and at each one men paid a fee, while women were admitted for free. The original Ladies Night. By this point in her life, Ninon was approaching her 80s. I am of your opinion, she wrote in a letter, that wrinkles are a mark of wisdom. That series of letters, the last written works we have of Ninon's, add a new face to her philosophy, which is her thoughts on aging and mortality. While she complained of physical discomfort and transformations, she was not dismayed by changes in her appearance. The soul and the mind, she believed, shone far brighter than beauty. Nanon de l'enclos died of natural causes in Paris in 1705 at 84 years old. 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Amy Bruni
Are you prepared to venture to the darkest, most haunted locations in the world?
Dana Schwartz
It was all solid black like shadow.
Amy Bruni
As your host Amy Bruni, I'm ready to take you on a spine tingling journey through the unknown.
Dana Schwartz
There was a man sitting in the corner, she saw him and then it was gone.
Amy Bruni
Listen to new episodes of Haunted road on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.
Noble Blood: The Coquette Avenged – A Detailed Summary
Episode Information
Overview In this captivating episode of Noble Blood, Dana Schwartz delves into the intriguing life of Ninon de l'Enclos, a 17th-century French woman who defied societal expectations to carve her own path. From her early life in Parisian high society to her role as a celebrated courtesan and later as a literary salon hostess, Ninon's story is one of resilience, intellect, and unwavering independence.
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Ninon de l'Enclos, born Anne de l'Enclos on November 10, 1620, emerged from Parisian high society, though her family's noble status remains debated among historians. Her father, Henri de l'Enclos, was a talented luteist and composer who instilled in her both musical prowess and philosophical thought, specifically Neo-Epicureanism—a revival of Epicurean philosophy focused on maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain.
Ninon's mother, in contrast, was a devout Catholic aiming to mold her daughter’s moral compass in line with Counter-Reformational Catholicism. This ideological clash within her household set the stage for Ninon's later rebellion against traditional female roles.
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In 17th-century France, women of the upper class typically faced two paths upon reaching adulthood: marriage or entering a convent. Ninon vehemently opposed both, viewing them as restrictive and inhibiting her freedom. Demonstrating her early defiance, she famously declared to her friends, “since women are tasked with frivolities and men are allotted freedoms they take for granted, from this moment, I will be a man” ([08:45]).
This declaration wasn’t about gender identity but rather a statement against the societal constraints imposed on women. Determined to bypass the limited choices available, Ninon chose to become a courtesan—a role that, while still constrained, offered her a semblance of independence and social mobility.
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Ninon leveraged her intellect, charm, and artistic talents to distinguish herself from her contemporaries. Unlike many courtesans who either hailed from impoverished backgrounds or sought upward mobility, Ninon used her position to foster both financial and social independence. Her approach was sophisticated; as portrayed by her biographer Roger Duchamp, “Ninon earned her living by having sex. Having sex was not her life” ([12:15]).
Her relationships with powerful men, including General Louis II de Bourbon and François, Duke de la Rochefoucauld, elevated her status. Notably, her rejection of Cardinal Richelieu’s advances underscored her autonomy and unwillingness to be swayed by even the most influential figures of her time ([16:50]).
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Ninon’s Neo-Epicurean beliefs profoundly influenced her worldview, particularly her stance on sexuality and morality. She challenged the prevailing Christian notion that desire was inherently sinful, advocating instead for a naturalistic understanding of human desires. In her own words, “oh, you mortals who rely so much on the power of your virtue... The desire for love in a woman is a substantial part of her natural constitution” ([20:25]).
This philosophy not only justified her lifestyle but also empowered her to live authentically, rejecting societal expectations to conform to restrictive moral codes.
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Despite her efforts to navigate a path of independence, societal backlash was inevitable. Amid the conservative resurgence following the Fronde wars, Ninon faced increased scrutiny. In 1656, a petition led by detractors resulted in her imprisonment in a convent—a common punishment for rebellious women. Contrary to enduring her confinement, Ninon’s resilience shone through.
Her liberation came unexpectedly through Queen Christina of Sweden, a kindred spirit who admired Ninon’s convictions. Their meeting in the convent was transformative, leading to Ninon’s release and the subsequent circulation of the pamphlet Coquette Avenged in 1659 ([24:35]). This publication further cemented her philosophical stance against religious and societal constraints.
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Returning to Paris, Ninon transitioned from her role as a courtesan to becoming a prominent salon hostess. In 1667, she established her salon at the Hotel de Sagan, attracting luminaries like the memoirist St. Simon, playwright Mollieri, and Madame Scarron. Her salons became hubs of intellectual discourse, reflecting her enduring commitment to fostering education and philosophical debate.
Ninon’s mentorship of Charles de Sevign, an aristocrat much younger than herself, highlighted her influence on the next generation of thinkers. Her correspondence with him offered insights into her progressive views on gender roles and relationships, urging men to balance intellectual rigor with emotional intelligence ([26:00]).
As she aged, Ninon remained undeterred by societal notions of beauty and mortality. Her letters from her later years emphasized the primacy of the soul and intellect over physical appearance, encapsulating her lifelong dedication to personal integrity and intellectual fulfillment ([26:40]).
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Ninon de l'Enclos passed away in Paris in 1705 at the age of 84. Her legacy extended beyond her lifetime, influencing future intellectuals and writers. Notably, her support for a young boy who would become the renowned philosopher Voltaire underscores her lasting impact on the literary world. Ninon’s life exemplifies the pursuit of freedom and intellectual honesty, making her a pivotal figure in the history of women's autonomy and philosophical thought.
Notable Quotes with Timestamps
Ninon’s Declaration of Independence:
Ninon's Approach to Courtesanship:
Rejection of Cardinal Richelieu:
Philosophical Stance on Desire:
Advice to Charles de Sevign:
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Conclusion
Ninon de l'Enclos's life story, as vividly portrayed in this episode of Noble Blood, is a testament to the enduring struggle for female autonomy and intellectual freedom. By challenging societal norms and embracing her philosophical beliefs, Ninon not only shaped her destiny but also left an indelible mark on French intellectual circles and beyond. Her legacy serves as an inspiration for those who dare to defy conventions in pursuit of personal and intellectual liberation.