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Jay Shetty
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Jay Shetty
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Jay Shetty
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Unknown
Irrelevant of whether you have money or not. When you are poor, when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it feels really hard to feel abundant and rich. But in order to get out of it, it's not feeling worse about it. It's starting to feel better about me. Better about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity and seeing how can I add value to others? How can I get into a richness inside of me to serve and take care of me at the same time?
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Lewis Howes
The Number one Health and Wellness Podcast.
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Unknown
Jay Shetty Jay Shetty.
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Lewis Howes
The one, the only Jay Shetty the world in which we're living today doesn't seem to distribute wealth in a way that allows people to access it. Some people have been set up really badly. They had poor access to education. They didn't really know what jobs were available. People are working really, really hard and not taking that much home. People are coming at it from a place of pain, of desperation, of stress. So everyone already knows that money is stressful. And your first point here is make money easy. And so I want to ask you, when someone's coming at money, our relationship with money is already at a place kind of like finding love. We're desperate for it, we're stressed by it. We're paralyzed by it. We feel the pressure for it. What do you do when you're feeling all of that? What's the first thing you need to do?
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Unknown
Step one is you need awareness. And again, you probably say this so often, and people probably heard this so frequently, but if you don't have awareness on your attachment style towards money and how your nervous system is when you receive money or when money leaves you, when you have to pay your bills or give money away, I want people to create just a scenario of awareness around how you feel and how you think when you receive money, when you pay money, when you look at your bank account, when you open your purse or your wallet and just notice, how do I feel? Do I have shallow breathing? Do I feel relaxed? Do I feel anxious? Do I feel scarce? Do I feel abundant? Just step one is have awareness on how do I feel and how do I think about my money, the money I have, the money that's coming in and the money that's going out. Yeah, that's step one. And when you can just have awareness around it, you can start to say, is my relationship the one that I want to be having? Do I feel really secure around money? If not, okay, what's something I can think about? First, let me think about my money story, the story of my life around money. We grow up as kids and we watch our parents in their relationship, and we tend to develop the relationship style of our parents. Unless we learn how to heal as a teenager and have some type of breakthrough, we're creating some type of attachment style based on what we see with our parents. But think about all the conversations your parents had around money. And if your parents didn't have a secure relationship, if they fought, did they fight about money? Were you involved in the conversation about how expensive things were about your school or sports or programs that they had to pay for? They couldn't afford, did they argue? Did they have challenges? Did they get divorced? Money is one of the biggest reasons people get divorced. It's one of the biggest arguments in marriage as well. So just notice is my nervous system, is my body, is my energy, are my thoughts stressed out around money? Do I feel scarce or to feel abundant? That's kind of step one and then step two is understanding your money story. Because when you can reflect on your money story, you can see what your money personality style is today and for many years. And we can talk about both of us thinking about our past. For many years, I didn't understand money growing up. We didn't have a lot growing up. We weren't completely poor, but I wasn't as well off as the other kids in my class. So I always felt a little bit beneath everyone else. And so my belief system was around that with just a little bit under everyone else. Everyone else is doing a little bit better than us. Sure, we have a home and I'm going to school, but everyone's got rollerblades. I'm in sneakers. People have Nintendo, I don't have one. I'm reading a book. Whatever it is, it was like I was a little bit beneath and that started to shape my story, my personality style. So I felt very insecure around money. And when I got it, I got really excited, but I didn't know what to do with it. So I was also like, afraid I was insecure and I was just unsure of it. And it really started to shape my personality style. Now when I was in my teen years, my dad started to make more money and started to teach me a little bit, but I was still like, just, I want to be a teenager. I don't want to think about this stuff. It seems confusing. I just want to have fun. In my 20s, when I got done playing football, I went to go pursue football, got injured, and I was on my sister's couch for a year and a half and I had no money. And I just felt like, how am I going to make this work? How am I going to make money? I don't know what my skills are, I don't know what my talents are. This is in 2008, when the economy was crashing. So it kind of felt like it is right now. With inflation going up so much right now and people worried about money in the future, I didn't understand and I needed to find money mentors to start teaching me how to learn about how I can receive money and spend it in a more efficient way. And that was kind of the journey of me starting to figure this out. But if we don't have the tools or the money knowledge, then we're always going to be stuck in our money story as our money personality style. And so it's getting to understand awareness. How does it feel when I receive money and I spend money?
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
What is the history of the story around money? For me? Did my parents fight? Did I feel anxious around money? I used to steal a lot when I was a kid, so I had, like, some wounds around money. I had people steal from me as well. So I just had all these different wounds that I had to address and get clear on. And I had to learn how to start healing those money wounds. And again, I know this is the place to come to create more wholeness, to be healthier in your life, and to become more healed. And that's what I want, for people to start to reflect on their money story.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
Write down some of these things so you have awareness first off on why you think and feel the way you do around money.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
Then you can start to see how your personality style towards money now is either helping you create more abundance or keeping you in scarcity and lack. And from there, we can start to have some breakthroughs.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, let's talk about all three. Because as I'm listening to you, I'm thinking that for most of us, when we get aware, we actually realize we don't even want to look at our finances. Right. That's how we all feel because we're so scared. And there's been such a fear built around money that it's like, I don't even want to know because I'm so scared now when I get my paycheck, I'm thinking, oh, God, I hope this covers my rent, my groceries, my bills, whatever else I've got to cover. And then that becomes your stress point. And then you're thinking, oh, gosh, I haven't got enough to spend on this thing that I really wanted to do or I wanted to do something for my kids or whatever it may be. So now there's stress. And so I think for most people, when you actually get awareness, you start realizing it's stress and it's never enough. And it's never enough.
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Unknown
I'm never making enough. And Also, I've got 100,000 in student loan debt. I have this other credit card because I wanted to go on a trip or I had a medical expense that unexpected that came up. Like so many people are struggling to be figuring out how to get out of debt. They have this weight that's carrying them back, but they still want to feel like they're free to live a life of their dreams. They want to be able to go on a trip with a friend a few times a year. They want to go to those expensive concerts. They want to have fun still. But they're unfortunately in a lot of debt. So there's something that's pulling them back as they're trying to go forward, and they feel like there's no way to break free. They think about the rising costs of eggs, the inflation, how everything is just constant. You can't afford a home anymore. All these things seem impossible to break through. But people want to feel free, but they don't feel emotionally free because of all the baggage they have in their life. And that's what I want people to start to feel is how can you feel emotionally free so that your money can come to you effortlessly, and when it leaves you, it's not a bad thing. And the more we relax, the more we can receive. So if I'm tight and I'm always anxious or I'm not willing to look at my bank account because I'm afraid of what's in there, how are we able to receive more and spend more freely? And I think for many years I was able to. I learned how to make money, but I didn't learn how to spend money. And so I just hoarded it because I was afraid to go back. Being broke on my sister's couch, I didn't want to go be broke again. So I just stashed it away into my bank account and just like, okay, I'm going to just wait for it to grow so I feel safe. But that was almost like a prison, in a sense, emotionally, because I didn't feel free to spend it. I was still sleeping on friends couches. I had a million dollars in the bank, and I was sleeping on friends couches. I was sitting in the middle seat, the cheapest seat I could on buses or on planes. And I'd always be like, man, I'm so uncomfortable the next day. Like, my back hurts. Like, I'm just. I'm not feeling free because I was afraid. I was anxious to lose money. And that is not emotional freedom. That is not healing. And I remember thinking to myself, God, I've got. I'm starting to make money. It was like years into my business, I was like, I'm financially free, but I'm still trapped. What is holding me back? And I realized a lot of it was my money story and my money personality style that I needed to start working on. And I don't know if it's the thing that you ever like, I've arrived and I'm perfect and now I'm like this Zen master at money. It's a constant back to awareness. It's a constant practice of awareness and breaking through those limitations.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Jay Shetty
I think what I'm thinking about when.
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Lewis Howes
I'm hearing you is if me and you went back to a place in our life where we really didn't have money.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
And you think about someone who's in that position, who's listening to us right now and in their head they're thinking, but how do I become abundant when I don't have. Well, like my natural thing is like I'm just struggling to pay my next bill. And me and you have both been in those situations. I remember when I was growing up, I grew up in a house where we had just enough. Like that was the language my parents. Yes, we have just enough. And my parents would often argue about money. I remember I wasn't allowed to buy cool shoes and stuff. I'd have like the knockoff cheapest brand from whatever, which was. I actually didn't have an issue with that. I didn't have an issue with any of it because we had food and that was my normality. But it's really interesting because the amount of times growing up. I started working when I was 14 and I think that gave me a really interesting sense of how hard it was to make money. Because I started working at 14. I used to get paid £2 per street that I delivered newspapers.
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Unknown
Wow.
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Lewis Howes
So imagine there's a hundred houses. It's going to take me.
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Unknown
Like not per house.
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Lewis Howes
No, no, no, street per street. So I did five streets and so I'd get £10 at the end of the week if I did five streets and each street would take me at least an hour, maybe, I don't know, something like that. And so I'd walk around, I'd pull this thing and I'd deliver it and I got an understanding of how hard it was to make money. But then that became a story for me. Going to your point, making money is hard, Making money is hard. And that there's only a certain amount of money you're allowed to make at this level. Like you're a 14 year old.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
Then I worked in retail. I stacked shelves at a grocery store. I worked at a store called Morrisons, which is like working at Walmart. And There I remember I got paid, like £5 an hour. And then you get, like, time and a half if you work the weekends and the evenings.
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Jay Shetty
All of this to say that I.
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Lewis Howes
Probably spent my whole life only seeing zero in my bank account, because everything that would come in would pay for my phone bill, my car insurance, that I paid for, whatever it was that I was taking care of. So I wasn't relying on my parents. Apart from I lived in their home, obviously. But I always felt like money came in, money went out. And my story around money was, people who have money are doing something bad. So I lived in a home. Whenever we went to a friend's home and they had a nice home, my family would always say, oh, yeah, but they do dodgy stuff to make money. All the language around money was, people with money are doing bad stuff. So in my head, it was like, oh, if you have money, then you must be doing shady stuff, because we don't have money and we're not doing anything.
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Unknown
Right.
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Lewis Howes
Right.
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Unknown
You must be hurting people to make money.
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Lewis Howes
Correct. In some way.
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Unknown
Exploiting, Taking advantage of.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, taking advantage. Whatever. So everything you're saying is so true. Because then when I got to a point in my life where I was just trying to do good and I had something like 150, 200 million views on content and you had no money, I was four months away from being broken.
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Unknown
I met you at this time.
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Lewis Howes
I met you around this time.
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Unknown
I met you this time. Yes.
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Lewis Howes
And it was really interesting to me because that was the time that I was actually doing this work, which is why this book's so powerful, because I realized that I couldn't even with 150, 200 million views. It wasn't that that made money because my story and my personality style was anxious. I felt like it was wrong to make money. Like, that's actually what it was. I felt like making money was bad. And so until I got to that.
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Unknown
Did you believe you were worthy of making more money?
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Lewis Howes
I believed I was worthy, but I believed that you had to be bad to make money.
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Unknown
Wow. So you didn't want to be bad. You don't want to have a lot of money and associate. I have a lot of money, but. And I'm. Now I'm bad.
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Lewis Howes
Correct.
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Unknown
I'm bad and wrong, and I'm hurting others in order to help myself.
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Lewis Howes
Correct. Because good people are poor.
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Unknown
Wow.
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Lewis Howes
Right. Like, to be a good person of good character means to not have money.
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Unknown
Wow. And that was based on a belief system that you developed over time that.
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Lewis Howes
I didn't even know. Like, if you would have told me about this eight years ago, I'd have been like, I don't know. Which is why I think these reflections are so important, people. So when you're in that place, taking your story as well, taking my story, how do we start to rewrite that story now that we're aware what's so.
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Unknown
Powerful that you said that? And I remember this vividly because I met you on Halloween, 2017. Right.
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Lewis Howes
Eight years ago. Yeah.
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Unknown
And we. I said, like, cancel the day. Let's just hang out all day. Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
You had a book coming out that day.
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Unknown
I had a book that came out that day.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
On Halloween.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
Which is called the Basking Masculinity. Anyways, how do we rewire our brain around money to create more abundance when.
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Lewis Howes
You have nothing, when you have lack?
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Unknown
How do we rewire our brain to create abundance when you have nothing and you don't know how to earn more money? The first thing I think you need to be aware of is that your beliefs dictate your behaviors. So if you believe that money is bad or people who make a lot of money are bad and take advantage of others, and therefore me having lack right now means I'm a good person and I don't want to become a bad person, then that belief is going to dictate your behaviors and you're going to stay in lack. You're going to stay in scarcity, and you're going to see opportunities that only give you just enough, as opposed to opportunities that could create incredible wealth for yourself financially, but also an emotional wealth that you've never had before. So that's one of the things you want to understand is first that your beliefs dictate your behaviors.
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Lewis Howes
That's a big one, by the way. That's huge.
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Unknown
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
Like that. I just want to point that out for people. Like, that's so true.
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Unknown
Because your belief.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, it's huge.
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Unknown
Your belief got you to a place of. I am impacting hundreds of millions of people from these. These videos that I created with my talents, but I don't know how to make money with them. And I don't know if I actually should because then I could be bad and wrong or people could perceive me as I did something bad to make this money.
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Lewis Howes
Correct.
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Unknown
And I'm a spiritual person. I'm a monk. I've done all these things. I don't want to have that life, but I want to make an impact. And I don't want to be poor. So I think A lot of people are struggling with that mindset.
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Jay Shetty
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Lewis Howes
What are the other ones you hear? What are the other focusing on that belief period? What are you hearing from people about their but that's my belief and that's very much my history and story. As you said. What other stuff do you hear from people?
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Unknown
The biggest shift that will create abundance in your life is a mindset habit in unlocking wealth for yourself. And one of the big lies or one of the big blocks that holds people back from financial opportunity is that I. I cannot be generous with my time, my wisdom, my knowledge, or my secrets to others, because if I am, they will take it and run with it, and I will be left with nothing. So therefore, I'm going to hoard my energy, I'm going to hoard my time, my knowledge, and only keep it to me so that others don't have good ideas or have my help. And from all the different billionaires and millionaires and financial leaders in the world that I've interviewed, I know you've interviewed a lot of them. There is a question I would always ask individuals who've made incredible amounts of money and that keeps helping them create more wealth year after year. And they all say the same thing, those who have had a sustainably good heart in the process, is that you have to have a generous mindset. So the mindset habit is the first thing that you have to think about when creating abundance with your money, but also feeling abundant internally and it's coming with generosity. So if you feel like you're stuck right now, if you feel like you have nothing, this was what you were at eight years ago when I met you. This is where I was at 15 years ago when I was on my sister's couch. I had no money, I was in student loan debt, was sleeping on her couch. I didn't think I had any skills. I didn't have a college degree yet. I was like, how am I going to make money if I don't know how to make money and I don't have any talent or skill and I'm in debt? It didn't understand it, it felt impossible. And the thing that I shifted when I started meeting money mentors is I needed to learn the first habit, which is the mindset habit, which is a habit of generosity and gratitude.
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Lewis Howes
So what did that look like then? What was the practical step?
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Unknown
What it looks like was, how do I meet money people? People who have money, people who have success, people can teach me knowledge. I needed to come with a sense of energy, of curiosity, of possibilities and of joy. I literally wrote a list down of all these different things that I thought were my talents. I go, how can I make money? I don't have any skills. I played football and now I'm injured. What can I do for people? But I was like, well, I'm really curious. Maybe I can just ask people questions. And never did I think in a million years that I could have a 12 year old podcast just asking questions and make millions of dollars a year. I never thought that was possible. I was in my early 20s, and I was like, you know what? I've got a lot of energy. I've got a lot of passion, so let me bring passion and energy to other people and excitement. And that energy was infectious. And there's a currency that's tied to that energy of passion, joy, excitement, curiosity. That currency may not look like money, but for those who are older, who have no more passion, they're burnt out, they're exhausted. It is the highest form of currency. They want that. They crave that energy. They've burned themselves out for decades. They want to feel young again. They want to feel curious again. They want to feel excited again. And when you come to someone with that energy, you are bringing a different mindset. So the mindset of curiosity, joy, passion, presence, like just connecting with someone and asking them a question is such a valuable currency. So we have to look into these untapped skills, talents, currencies inside of us that are hidden to others, but inside of us, they can create magic. Yeah, that's one of them. Another one is just being generous with your time, with your resources, with your ideas, and helping others succeed.
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Lewis Howes
I love that, because I didn't even know that then, but I was doing it unconsciously.
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Unknown
Yes, you were.
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Lewis Howes
So I really wanted to interview incredible people, but I didn't have a platform at the time when I met you. And so I'd partnered up with Nasdaq. And by the way, just to be really clear with everyone, I didn't get paid to do this.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
So NASDAQ had something where everyone's using Facebook Live. And I said, hey, could I have an hour in the NASDAQ building whenever I have an amazing guest that says yes so that I can interview them on NASDAQ Live? And they would put the picture up on the middle of Times Square on a billboard, so now I could reach out to people I looked up to.
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Unknown
That's the reason why I went on the show.
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Lewis Howes
Exactly.
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Unknown
I didn't know who you were until I saw, hey, I can get you on a billboard on Times Square. I go, that's value to me. Right now.
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Lewis Howes
I'm being generous, and I'm trying to find a way, because I don't have anything to offer.
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Unknown
Nothing.
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Lewis Howes
But I admire you. And it was all people I admired. It was yourself. It was Ryan Holiday said, yes. Me and Ryan had met maybe once before that, but Ryan came on that show, and there were a bunch of other authors. Deepak Chopra came on that show with me, and it was all people that I'd Admired, looked up to for a long time, and exactly that. That's how, first of all, we became great friends off of it. But the point is, it's exactly what you're saying, that even though I felt I had nothing to offer, I had to find a way to create something, to offer someone a value. I. I didn't get paid for it for that show. I didn't get paid to run it. I didn't make any money from it. But it created an opportunity for me to connect with friends, to connect with people that were doing incredible things, and, of course, allowed me to showcase my talents so that then I could show it to other people. I remember I had Ryan Harwood on the show who founded Purewow, and he just sold it to Gary Vee. Yeah, that's how I met Gary. So Ryan came on my show, and he was just like, jay, I love you. You're a great interviewer. Like, you have such great energy. He really liked my passion, and he said, you got to come meet Gary. And I was like, no way. Like, I love Gary. And so he took me to meet Gary for the first time. We had a meeting in his office, and that's how I built my relationship with him. It was all thanks to Ryan. And so when you think about it now, like, when I'm. I've never thought about it until what you're saying now. When I look back, Ryan's been on the podcast, like, four times now.
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Jay Shetty
Whatever.
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Lewis Howes
I love his books. So many relationships came out of that. And so I think when you live in a world of I have nothing to offer and I don't have anything, it becomes really hard to create.
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Unknown
And most people think, when I have nothing, I need to take from someone else. Yes, I don't have anything. So I can't give anything if I don't have it. So I need someone to give me money right now because I'm broke, I'm poor, I'm stuck, I'm stressed, I'm anxious, I can't think out of myself. And this first habit is really gratitude. And generosity is the gateway to abundance. And it may not mean you're gonna make money right away. You didn't make money by having me on the show right away, but we became friends. I helped you, you helped me. Over time, we helped each other create more abundance together. Not only financially, which we've done together, but a type of richness that isn't about money. And this book, again, it's a money book, but it's really like, it doesn't matter how much money you have, if you don't feel like you have a rich life inside of you that's real. It does not matter how much is in your bank account, how big your net worth is, if you don't feel like you have an abundant life, if you're stressed, if you're overwhelmed, if you're anxious, if you're constantly in drama, that is not abundance. A high net worth does not mean you are free. And the goal is for us to feel free every moment of our lives as often as possible, and allow money to be a tool to create incredible opportunities, memories, moments where you can be generous with it, with the people you care about, the causes you care about, the institutions you care about, to serve more people and feel good about doing it, not feel bad about doing it. And that's part of this process. Most people, when they lack money, they want to take from others. They want someone to help them. And you need to flip it on its head and say, how can I help others even when I have nothing? That is the time to be more generous and in more gratitude and say thank you for this opportunity. Even if you have to just lie to yourself for a moment. Say, I'm stuck, I'm on my sister's couch, I have no money. I'm four months. In four months, I'm going to be out of an apartment and I don't know where the money's coming. Just say, thank you, God, thank you, universe, for this opportunity to learn, this opportunity to grow, because I'll never be here again. I interviewed. I don't know if you've had Ken Honda on, but he wrote Happy Money.
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Lewis Howes
But I haven't had him on.
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Unknown
Dude, he's so cool. I love this approach to this. And he's talking similar style about how do you just live a rich life, irrelevant of whether you have money or not. And again, this is what I want people to get to. When you are poor, when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it feels really hard to feel abundant and rich. And we want to start shifting our thoughts, our emotions, and our energy on, okay, I know I'm in this financial situation. It doesn't feel good. But in order to get out of it, it's not feeling worse about it. It's starting to feel better about me, better about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity, and seeing how can I add value to others. And that's the first thing we need to be thinking about. How can I get into a richness inside of me to Serve others and take care of me at the same time. And one of the practices or these social experiments or exercises similar to you that Ken has is that whenever money comes to him, whether it's a check, whether it's a Venmo payment, whatever it might be, he just says thank you to that money. He looks at that number. If it's a penny, if it's a million dollars, if it's your. Your normal check you get coming in in the mail every two weeks, he looks at it and says thank you, and literally opens his heart and loves that money that comes to him. He says thank you. Where do you want to go? Do you want to go into my bank account? Do you want to go to my savings? Do you want to go to investments? Do you want to go towards paying off debt? Do you want me to give you away? And it might be a weird kind of, like, exercise, but I love this approach to just being mindful of money. When it comes, say thank you. And then when you pay bills, when you pay off debt, say thank you as well. Thank you for allowing me to pay off this debt. Thank you for paying my cell phone bill so I can call my friends and family that I love. Thank you for the ability to live a richer life. And when we start to approach money in that way, it doesn't mean money's gonna fall from the sky and come to us abundantly, but we're gonna start to feel more rich and abundant internally, which that energy is what will attract more opportunities. Those opportunities could lead to millions. This hostess that came to you, she brought that thankful energy, that present energy, that loving, joyful, curious energy, and it created an abundance of opportunities and connection.
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Lewis Howes
You've reminded me of two really amazing things that I love that I want to throw out, because they're not us. It's about other people. Last night, I was at a premiere of a new show coming out on Hulu called Deli Boys. It's a full South Asian cast. I was really excited to be just at the premiere and just seeing my friends, like, you know, do this amazing thing, and. And it was fascinating because me and Lilly Singh were together, you know, Lily. And so me and Lily were together, and we're hanging out, and this guy said, hey, can I film you for two seconds? He was working at the event, and I believe this is what he does on his own. I don't know his name, but I'll have to find it. And he took a quick swipe of Lily, like, one shot, and she was like, oh, my God, Jay, you got to do this. He took a quick swipe with me. He edited it on the spot, and he created this amazing reel of the event. Like, and he was just doing it with quick. And he was taking, like, two seconds of our time.
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Jay Shetty
And me and Lily both turned around.
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Lewis Howes
And go, is this what you do? Like, how can we work with you? And, like, you know, because it was. It was such a great skill, and he was showcasing his talent. He didn't charge you? He didn't charge us. He didn't ask for us or anything. He showed us his talent, and all of a sudden, both of us were like this. A few months ago, I went to a restaurant that I'd never been to with some friends. This wasn't, like, a fancy restaurant. Just, you know, it was a great restaurant, but it wasn't, like, fancy or anything like that. The lady who was hosting, she had so much energy and so much passion. She was, like, taking our order. But then when we asked her for recommendation, she knew every detail. And, like, she got three job offers at that table. Me and my friend and everyone, like, what do you do? What do you want to do?
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Unknown
Let's hire you.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, let's hire you. Because we just. There was such an energy. And so what you're saying is so true, because I'm now looking back at my own life and thinking about moments where I've had that visceral reaction to someone, and she was like, this is what I want to do. This is my dream. And one of my mates was like, all right, well, let's connect. Like, I. You know, he thinks she could work with him, but it was, again, the same thing. You're saying it was just energy and passion.
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Unknown
Energy she didn't have any other. She didn't have. It didn't matter about her college.
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Jay Shetty
We hadn't even looked at it.
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Unknown
It doesn't matter what skill, other skills you have. If you have energy, passion, and a curiosity to care about someone, you can go so far in that potential relationship.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
Speaking about, you know, hostess or. Or waiters or waitresses, there were studies that psychologists did around tipping and waiters, and I don't know the exact statistic. I know it was over a certain amount, but I don't know the exact percentage. But there are three things that you can do as a waiter to make more money. Oh, Getting higher tips based on psychology and these studies. One is just introducing yourself and saying your name. My name is Lewis Howes. What's your name? Thanks for being here today. Saying your name Creates a deeper connection.
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Lewis Howes
I agree.
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Unknown
Making a recommendation of something. You said she was making recommendations. You know, making a recommendation, hey, I really recommend this. If you're into this or these two, the best two options I would recommend gets you a higher chance of getting a better tip and complimenting the person on their food choice. I'll have the burger or the vegan burger. That's a great choice. Those three things will increase your ability to earn more tips. And it's not like you had some other skill. You just created connection with someone and you were trying to bring that energy to them. And money is an energy. And how we think and how we feel will dictate the energy we have towards it. And also, you create money through your energy. And so she had a certain energy with you, and you're like, man, this is amazing. You're recommending it to millions of people about this person that you just met for the first time. It's like you can create so many opportunities for not only financial abundance, but spiritual abundance by bringing generosity, curiosity, energy, joy and love to someone's life. And it doesn't have to take hours. This was five minutes of this person's time. She got three job offers over that night. She could have had a different energy and said, okay, here's your table, sit down. And she would have had nothing. But she could have went to Harvard and had all these other skills and none of that would have mattered without the energy she brought.
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Lewis Howes
People who don't know this story or have forgotten about it, like Drock and Gary Vee, like, that's their journey, right? Like, Drock basically went up to Gary and was like, hey, I'll just edit videos for you for free. And now he's been traveling the world with Gary for the last God knows how long they've been working. Yeah, and he's such a great guy and he's awesome. And it's just. But it all came from that, that idea of, hey, I'm just going to edit these videos for you and do this.
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Unknown
And again, going back to what we said before is like, when you have no money, when you're broke, when you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, burnt out, you lost your job, you feel like you need help and you may need help. And the best way to create abundance is to go from helplessness to help fullness. So instead of saying, I feel helpless, I don't know what to do, you've got to flip and say, how can I be helpful? How can I help myself? But by also helping someone else, how can I shift out of this negative energy into an energy of abundance, which is so hard to do when you have nothing. I remember for a year and a half feeling trapped on my sister's couch with no money, thinking, how am I going to do this? And there just has to be a decision where you say, I'm going to get up and I'm going to get out of this funk, out of this energy, and choose and decide to bring energy to someone else without asking for anything in return. And when you do that, you'll start to build momentum, and that's what's going to help you get to the next level.
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Lewis Howes
I remember the day after I realized I was four months away from being broke. I must have emailed a thousand people saying, I will do anything. Here are my skills. I would consult videos, I will consult, I'll run your social media. Those weren't things I wanted to do in my life, but I needed to create a foundation from which I could then invest that into what I wanted to do. And actually, that year, everything I made, I invested into starting this podcast.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
So everything I made this year went into launching on purpose because that's not what I wanted to do. I didn't want to edit other people's videos. I didn't want to launch social media profiles. I didn't want to coach and consult, but I had those skills. And I think this is one of the things sometimes, is that we all have skills that are valuable somewhere, and they may not be the skills that you want to do for the rest.
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Unknown
Of your life, but the season of life.
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Lewis Howes
But the season of life. And I think there's something to be said for that, because we all want to be paid for what we love doing. But even my life today, I have. There's a lot of things I have to do.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
And there's a lot of things I love to do. And that's life.
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Unknown
Yeah. And like you said, the seasonal side of things, like when I was just getting started making money, this was in 2008, 2009, 2010. I was using LinkedIn as a platform and a tool to meet CEOs, executives and business leaders. And I was helping them originally with their LinkedIn profile. And it's just saying, hey, how can I help you optimize your profile? I see that it's missing some things here. I'll do it for free. And I did this to build relationships with them. And through that, they just all wanted to help me and give back to me. And then eventually someone said, hey, I'll pay you for this. This is really helpful. I was like, oh, I can make money on LinkedIn. It's not what I wanted to do, but I had a skill to do it right then. So I did that for a few years. And once I had that foundation, I used that money to launch the School of Greatness as well. Because I had a couple years of Runway now, and I didn't want to do that forever, but I did it for the season. I got skills, I made money, and I created a sense of freedom for myself to do what I really wanted to do later.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. What do you have to say to people who are saying, like, you can manifest money? Do you agree with that idea of.
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Unknown
It's an interesting story. I was in New York last week, and I said to myself, and I have a lot of these different exercises and games in the book to just give people as social experiments. I think it's really powerful to give yourself experiment, because I think when you experiment, you allow yourself to explore possibilities. And when you create an experiment for yourself, you allow for the idea of magic to enter your life. So I want you to, just as you're watching or listening, I want you to say, I allow for magic. And abundance to manifest in my life. I'm going to create a possibility that this can happen in my life. A moment, a synchronicity. Someone might call me out of the blue. Someone might hand me money randomly. I'm going to allow for this moment to happen and this magic to happen. So I said to myself, I want to follow my own practices, right? And I went to see our friend Mel Robbins in Boston. And then I was in New York for a few days. And I just said to myself, money comes to me abundantly and freely. In it, I see it everywhere. I just said this to myself every morning when I woke up. And when I went out of the hotel, I said, money comes to me abundantly and freely. And I see it everywhere. And I'm a magnet for money. I'm a magnet for money. I just kept saying this energy. I'm a magnet for money. I was just playful, this social experiment. And when I was at Mel's, a penny dropped on the floor. Someone was carrying a box, and a penny fell. And I said, oh, look, money comes to me. I see it everywhere. There's a penny. Yeah, there's a point to this story. And I pick it up, I say, mel, do you want this? And she goes, no, it's yours. And I go, thank you. I receive because when I relax, I receive. And I'm a magnet for money. Even it was a penny, I could notice it. And I was like, all right, it came to me. See, here's a win. Here's a little winner. Let me do this again. The next day, I go to New York City and I'm in the subway. It's freezing right now in New York. It's like 15 degrees. And I'm just saying this to myself in the subway. And as I get off the subway, I go up the stairs, and it's freaking filthy in the New York subway, right? And the stairs are dirty, and I see a penny, heads up. And I thought to myself, this is filthy. This is dirty. It's not valuable. It's not enough money. I don't need to pick this up. But I was like, no, I'm doing this experiment. Money comes to me abundantly and freely. I'm a magnet for money. And I'm going to manifest money, right? And so I see it's heads up. I pick it up, put in my pocket, and I just say, thank you, money, for coming to me. The next day, I put it on my bedside table. I don't think anything of it. The next day, I wake up and I Look at this penny. And I said, because I'm doing this experiment every day, I'm a magnet for money. Money comes to me abundantly and freely. And I look at it as a reminder. These two pennies, look. This is a reminder that money came to me. Maybe it's not thousands of dollars or millions of dollars, it's not something that's magically right in here, but it's a reminder that something is possible. And I flipped over this one. No, I looked at the penny because it was heads up and I noticed something. I go, oh, that's really interesting. It said 1945 on this penny. That's an 80 year old penny. And I go, huh, that's unique. I haven't seen a penny that old in a long time. And I flip it over and I notice something and I get chills thinking about it. I notice it's a wheat penny. I don't know if you know what a wheat penny is. So a wheat penny looks different than a normal penny. It's got like two stalks of wheat on the outside of the penny. It's this old penny. And I look it up And I Google 1945 wheat penny value. And one just sold. I kid you not, I get chills thinking about it. One just sold. Guess for how much?
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Lewis Howes
I have no idea.
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Unknown
$4,000.
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Lewis Howes
No way.
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Unknown
Online, one sold for $4,000. Now it's all based on the condition and all these different things. Like who knows, maybe it's worth $20, maybe it's worth $5,000, maybe it's worth a hundred dol that there was more value inside of that penny than what met the eye originally.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
And the experiment of let me be open to possibilities for money to come to me and what I thought was two pennies might be $2,000. And all I had to do was be willing to look for it.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
Be willing to pick it up and say, I receive. Thank you. If I didn't look for, if I didn't set that intention, if I didn't see the possibilities in front of me, I may not have received that penny that could have would be worth thousands. And it's the same thing in life. We may not see the opportunity in front of us right now. We may not reach out to the people we already know and say, hey, this is what I'm looking to create in my life. I have these skills, I have these talents. Is there anything that you need right now that I can be of service for you with? And that's for that first year. How you Created multiple six figures in that first year when you had nothing, was reaching out to hundreds of people, that was you either setting the intention, seeing that there might be possibilities, and doing the work to manifest hundreds of thousands that first six months. So by doing that effort, setting the intention, by saying, I'm open to possibilities, I'm open to receiving opportunities that come to me, but I have to be willing to look for them. I have to be willing to ask for them. I have to be willing to put myself out there and receive and say, yes, thank you, I will do this work. And that's what I think people need to be thinking about. Can you manifest millions? Yes. If you're willing to set a clear intention. If you're willing to reach out and say, here's what I'm willing to offer and add value in, I want to help you achieve these goals, you're creating more potential to manifest money.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, I love that penny story because I'll tell you a bit about what I do, and I do a similar thing, and it comes from my tradition.
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Unknown
So do you have a money mantra?
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Lewis Howes
No, I don't say something, but I'll tell you about it. Yeah. So there's a. So in our tradition, there's a God or a goddess for each aspect of society.
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Unknown
Money.
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Lewis Howes
And so there is God, as in there's one God, but then there's loads of different gods for different departments of society. Kind of like you have a president or a prime minister, and then you have, like, the cabinet and that.
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Unknown
Who's the money God?
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Lewis Howes
So it's a goddess called Lakshmi. That's it. Lakshmi, yeah. And Lakshmi means wealth or fortune.
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Unknown
It's like luxury almost. Yeah, it's like Lakshmi.
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Lewis Howes
Maybe that's where it comes from. But Lakshmi is the goddess of fortune or the goddess of wealth. And so you would never, ever put your foot on a goddess. So whenever you're walking the streets and you see pennies around, you're never meant to just walk past them. You actually meant to pick them up and put them to your head. So that's kind of like part of our culture. And so whenever I'm walking around the streets of New York or L. A, wherever I am, or subways, I do the same thing. I'll always pick it up. And it's really funny because someone who's with me will be like, what are you doing? Like, you know, like, why are you doing that? I'm like, because I'm showing respect. I'm actually showing respect to the goddess of fortune.
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Unknown
So. Good man.
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Lewis Howes
And so that's what it is. It's like I'm showing respect to the goddess of fortune by picking it up. And usually you give that money to charity or whatever it may be. It's not. You're trying to keep on it. You may give it away, whatever. But the point is, you're saying, I'm not disrespecting the goddess of fortune wherever I see her.
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Unknown
That's beautiful.
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Lewis Howes
Because I want to have a respectful relationship with money. I actually really love practices like that, because I think it goes back to the point you're making, that we have a relationship with everything. You have a relationship with your body, you have a relationship with your mind, you have a relationship with your partner, and you have a relationship with money. And so speaking to money and speaking about money is something you have to do if you want to love that thing and you want it to love you back. Right. If you never talk about your partner and you never talk to your partner, how are they going to love you and how are you going to love them?
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Unknown
Imagine you're, you know, Roddy for the next month. You never say thank you.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
You never look her in the eyes. You never speak to her. You avoid her constantly. Imagine like your relationship's gonna suffer. You know, I'm sure you guys will figure it out. But imagine that's a lifetime of a relationship. It cannot survive. And here's a great question that I want everyone to ask themselves. And another exercise that I want everyone to think about right now, whether you're watching or listening, I want you to comment on the YouTube below what opened up for you during this moment, and I'm gonna give you the exercise. Jay. So imagine this door opens, and it's a person, and this person is money. It's the idea of money. It's a person that walks in. Right. Is money. And could you, as an example for people to imagine this as well, what does that person look like when they come in? What would you do? What would you say or not say? Could you. Could you share kind of what that would be like for you? Money. A person walks in. They are money. They are the representation of your relationship with money.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
How would you show up and react?
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Lewis Howes
So in our culture, because it would be Lakshmi walking in, I'll show you a visual of her afterwards. You would actually bow down. Like, you'd have that. And that's a sign of respect. Not a sign of surrender or subjugation, but a sign of respect. Like, you'd bow.
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Unknown
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
You'd offer her whatever she wanted. Like, you'd be like, what. What do you need? Like, what would you like? What would you. Would you like a place to sit? Kind of like a guest in your.
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Unknown
Like a generous host.
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Lewis Howes
You treat them like a guest in your home. Yeah. Like, what would you like? Can you. Can I get you something to drink? You know, whatever it may be, Obviously, she's a goddess. She doesn't need anything. But the point is, that's how the hospitality would still be carried through.
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Unknown
That's cool.
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Lewis Howes
And then you'd thank her as well. Like, you'd start every connection with a. With a God or a goddess with gratitude. So it'd be like a. A genuine appreciation and an ability to share how you feel. Like, I think being vulnerable and saying, hey, like, been really tough this month. Like, I'm really struggling right now. Like, this is what I'm going through. I need your help. Like a prayer almost Interesting of sorts.
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Unknown
That's beautiful. And I asked. I've been asking a lot of people this, and so I love to hear people's responses and be honest. In the YouTube comments below of your relationship with money, I asked someone close to me, someone younger, probably in their late 20s. I asked them, you know, if money walked in and you were at a party, how would you respond? And they said, I would run to the bar. I would not make eye contact. I would gossip behind their back to other people there about money. I would look down at them, but then I would use them and abuse them because I would really need money, and I would ghost them afterwards. And I go. And I go, wow. And they were like, yeah, I know it's really bad, but they were being honest.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
So I want people to be honest, like, what is your relationship with money? And just imagine, that's crazy. If you were money and someone treated you that way, if they wouldn't look at you, they avoid you, they speak poorly behind your back, they would use you and abuse you when they wanted you, and then they ghost you when they didn't want to talk to you. Do you think money would want to keep showing up in your life if they were a person?
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, definitely.
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Unknown
If they were a person, would they want to be in your life where they feel, this isn't a good relationship for me? And your show is all about helping people get healed, healthy and whole. And if you want to create a richer, more abundant life, you have to create a healthy relationship with. With money in your life. And look at it as if this was a love of my life, not in a worshiping like I worship it no matter what. But more of like, this is like a person that I love and I want to treat them with care. I want to be a great host. How can I show up? And it doesn't mean it's always going to be perfect, but how can I show up and be generous, be kind, be patient, listen, be aware and be of service to it.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, I think make a huge difference.
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Unknown
Huge difference. I'm not saying you haven't had a beautiful, abundant, peaceful life as well with money, but I would bet to say that you've also experienced stress and overwhelm with money for sure, more than having no money. And a lot of people get blocked because they know that like, oh, more money, more problems is another like money lie, right? Or money like wound that people might have. Like, I don't want to make more money because I see people who do have money, they're constantly stressed, they're not generous with it, they're stingy, they don't even tip at all. They're even more stingy with it and they have it. So what's the point of having it if they're not generous? I don't want to be like that. And there can be money traps or money wounds when you have money, if you haven't learned how to heal that relationship. And so it's learning how to heal the relationship so that when you grow your net worth, you also increase your self worth inside and feel peaceful about it. You expand your nervous system, your container to receive abundantly so that it's not scary, it's not stressful. You can receive more and you can give more because you know that the more you relax, the more you receive. And when you give, it's going to come back in some way. I struggled with that my first six, seven, eight years of making money. I hoarded money because I was afraid to go broke again. And it limited me in certain ways and it made me feel stressful and it made me feel like people were trying to take advantage of me and take my money. It doesn't feel rich having money and living in scarcity still.
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Unknown
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Lewis Howes
There was a beautiful thing that we'd always repeat in the monastery. It was like, God doesn't see what you give. God sees what you hold back. And so there's not this, you know, because we can sometimes become egotistical about how much we give. And it's like, well, you got one hand behind your back, and that's. You just made that point. It's that. It's that pinch. It's that. Are you giving where there's a challenge to give because that's where we're healing. You can get really egotistical, like, hey, if you were worth a billion and you signed a million dollar check, like, I know people that are making 3 million in interest a day. So you writing a million dollar check is not the same. This also applies when you have very little. So my parents, who didn't make a lot when they were giving, felt like a lot. It felt like a lot. And so like, what we're saying is that, that this thought of being a giver has to be core to us.
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Unknown
You know, my dad was a lot like that too. He had strangers knocking on the door that somehow convinced him to stay with us for like three months in the summer who were. And he just opened his doors and said yes, like, okay. And so he was just like, like your parents, like, okay, you need a place to stay for a week, a month, two months. Cool, we'll figure it out. We'll feed you, we'll do this. As long as we feel like you're doing something good and we're trying to support you. And I think it's. You don't have to give money to feel rich. Yes, you can be very generous with your time, with your resources, in other ways, with your food. It's like you can give in other ways and create a richness of life. And that's the key, is to feel rich and abundant and free. And if you feel that when you start making money, you're going to continue to feel free. The biggest trap is when you feel scarce and you start making money and you still feel trapped, you still don't feel free. That is an even greater prison in my mind that you're living in scarcity when you have money.
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Lewis Howes
I mean, there's so many people right now that have the pressure to save money because we've been talking about making money. Yes, but there's this pressure to save money. And how do you find that balance between spending comfortably if you have the ability, versus like saving for your future or your family? Like, how do you think about that version?
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Unknown
Well, I think when you can live beneath your means and feel abundant, you've won. So when you live beneath your means and you don't need extra stuff, you've won. I just watched the Count of Monte Cristo the other night. It's an incredible movie of a guy who has nothing, who was born by, you know, back in the, I don't know, 1700s or something. It's a period piece. He was born of, like a clerk, a guy who makes no money. And his friend was born of, like some general who had a lot of money or something. And this poor kid that grew up friends didn't have anything, but he had the world. He had no money, no possessions, but he just approached life was like, man, but here's a piece of string, here's a rock that I can play with. Like, I can just imagine the beauty of the world. And he appreciated everything, even though he had no money. And I think in some ways it's so hard to look at that. When we see Instagram and TikTok, where.
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Lewis Howes
Everyone has things, that's the hard part. Yeah.
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Unknown
When you see everyone else having fun with money and going on that trip with their girlfriends or buying that expensive car to show off to their guy friends, or getting the nice watches or having the cool shoes and you thinking, oh, if I could really have money, then I could have these things that would make me feel cool or feel better. But if we can approach life and just be like, man, life is so good with what I have. That is true wealth. That is true abundance and happiness. And it doesn't mean you shouldn't strive to create more. If you want more. If you want to have nice shoes or a nice watch, cool. You've got to learn how to make money. And you want to learn how to make money easy, not make money hard. And that, that is a process in developing these skills, these talents within you and seeing how you can monetize those skills. And I'm not saying don't splurge on certain things if you want to, but you have to understand the consequences. If you're going to splurge on something to have fun with friends or go on trips and spend this money that you maybe don't have, just know there might be a consequence to that later. If you have to use a credit card, you have to pay that debt with interest later. So just know there's a cost to splurging or doing spending when you don't have it. I'm a big fan of saving and investing so that you can have freedom in the future and feel rich continually and not needing to buy things to feel richer.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. What about this idea of I want to make money quick? Like, I just want to make a million dollars in a week. I want to find that hack that solves my money problems. Like, what's your take on that? Is that possible?
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Unknown
I've got money wounds, and it's because I wanted to make easy money in my Past not make money easy. And I don't know anyone that doesn't want to make easy money. Like our ego wants it to come to us now and when to find the quick hack or the, the quick investment that's going to 10x in two months. Sure, there's always outliers that figure out a way to do that. But every time I've tried to do that, I've lost my money and it's been painful and I'm like, okay, I think I've learned that lesson. But here's this new like quick, easy money opportunity. And every time I do it again, I'm like, what was I thinking? You see that others act like there's a way to do it so easy. If you just invest in crypto, if you just invest in this, if you just do this thing, you're going to make quick and easy money. I don't know anyone who's made hundreds of millions, millions or billions who's lived that way. They might have invested and gone all in on one business and created generational wealth, or maybe they went all in on investing in one main stock that ended up 10 or 20xing over time. But going to quick make easy money way doesn't usually work and it's painful lessons. You have to live afterwards. So I don't know. Have you ever made quick, easy money?
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Lewis Howes
No. No, I haven't for sure. And, and I've probably made mistakes when I had a bad relationship with money. Yeah, I remember my, one of my mentors in like 2013 told me to invest in crypto. And at the time I thought to myself, it's a scam. I've only got like, I only like at that time in my life, I probably had $1,000 right. Saved because I'd just come out, I just started working, I didn't have the money. So I was thinking, thousand dollars, what's it gonna do? Obviously I was stupid. I didn't know that.
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Unknown
Also wouldn't have been quick, it would.
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Lewis Howes
Have been taken, it would have taken 10 or 15 years. Yeah, that's the thing. It's like, yeah, we could always look.
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Unknown
Back and say, oh, our friend told us to invest in this thing 10 years ago. And if I imagine if I did it 10 years. Yeah, just like any stock.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
If you invest in it and wait 10 years, it should go up if the company continues to do well.
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Lewis Howes
No, I've never made easy money.
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Unknown
You actually have made easy money after putting in a decade plus of work, a decade of developing skills, of monetizing your skills and following the seven habits we talk about in this book, which is, yeah, you can make easy money now. You can get paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to speak for 60 minutes because you've added so much value in the world for the past decade plus and even a decade before that of spiritual practice, before you even learned how to make money. So two decades, two decades of how do I develop skills within me to serve people, whether it be one on one, one to 10, one to 10,000. How do I develop those skills to serve and give generously? You have followed this mindset perfectly, which is a mindset of generosity and gratitude. And that's all you did for essentially the last two decades. How can I learn how to become a better human? How can I give generously? And how can I be appreciative and grateful for the life that I have? And you had no money for almost four years as a monk, but I would bet that you lived a beautifully rich life. You didn't need the money to feel rich. You felt provided for. You had nature, you had community. You were learning. You got to be on purpose. You got to serve. And what a beautiful gift to receive. And you had no money in your bank account, but you were probably one of the richest people that you knew. And that is beautiful.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Unknown
That is abundant.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. And that's something that definitely doesn't change with the financial change.
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Unknown
If I have no money right now, how can I get to a place where you were at where I had the richest, most abundant life because I was working on me. I was a giver. I was generous with my time and my energy and my resources, whatever, whatever I had. And then how can I start to earn more money, make money easy, by feeling effortless internally expanding my nervous system so that it can receive more and feel safe? That is a rich, abundant life.
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Lewis Howes
And that's what we're all really looking for.
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Unknown
And me and you both know people who have hundreds of million dollars that they've exited companies and they're not happy. It doesn't mean having more money equals happiness. You still have to learn how to heal you and have a healthy relationship with yourself. And money, even when you have it.
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Lewis Howes
When you're looking for a quick fix and a quick win, the problem is the speed at which you win is the speed at which you lose.
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Unknown
Yes.
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Lewis Howes
Right. So if you think, I'll put money into this now, I'll make something in a week. Chances are, like you said, you lose it immediately, you lose it in a day, you lose it in a day. And the reason that happens is because you actually don't know why you're putting your money there. So it goes back to your first point of awareness. It goes back to something you call the mapping habit, the plan. Because what's going on is you're saying, I want this to happen now. I want this to happen immediately. I want this to happen quickly. So I know zero about this crypto.
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Unknown
Let me just throw it in there.
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Lewis Howes
I know zero about this property. I've had friends literally gamble away their life savings because they heard all their friends were making money through crypto. Or I always say, when people say to me, I've got this much money, what should I invest in? I'm like, what do you know about invest in that? What do you actually know about? What do you actually have experience, knowledge, wisdom in? Because guess what? Because of that, you'll make money on it. Because you actually understand it. Again, it goes back to the point of respect. If we don't respect our audience, it doesn't grow. If you don't respect your community, it doesn't grow. If you don't respect your clients, it doesn't grow. By us saying, I want to make money, but I know nothing about this industry, it means I'm disrespecting the industry. And sure, there may be one person who had some lucky story that they tell you about, but the truth is, most of us are not going to get there. So if you have a little bit of money and you're like, jay, I've only got $100 to invest. Louis, I've only got $1,000 to invest. And you ask me where to put it. Put it in what you know, put it in yourself if that's all you know is yourself and your skills. And I think so many of us are looking for that ticket, but actually, that investment in yourself will pay so many dividends.
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Unknown
This is. This is. I'm glad you said this, because a week ago, someone literally asked me, If I have $1,000 right now to invest, where should I invest it? And everyone says, put it in crypto, put it in real estate funds. Put in all these things. Don't listen to any of that. When I had no money, there was two things that I needed to create more of a currency within me, and that was courage and confidence. I lacked the courage to develop certain skills. When I had courage to go all in on learning public speaking or learning how to write, I didn't know those skills. I actually lacked those skills, and I was afraid to Be a failure at those things by trying them, but by having the courage to invest my time and energy in a public speaking class and a writing coach. I didn't have the skills, but I developed the courage. That courage created the actions to create confidence. That confidence created a currency within me of belief. That belief dictated my behaviors to start charging more, to go out there and ask for more, to put myself out there in bigger ways. And so if you have a thousand dollars or $5,000 right now and you want to figure out where to invest it, invest it in courage to learn new skills that will give you confidence. That would be an incredible currency that you'll have forever.
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Lewis Howes
I mean, Louis, I'm so excited for people to read this book.
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Unknown
It's.
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Lewis Howes
Honestly, I love this conversation because we're both sitting here as people who, like you said, not, not finished our money journey either. We're, we're, you know, I've got so many years left to learn so much more. The reason why I empathize with it is I never, ever thought I'd be financially abundant mentally or physically. And I know you feel the same way I was.
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Unknown
I never, never figured out how to make money same.
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Lewis Howes
I really empathize with everyone who's listening going, I'm stuck. I'm trying to figure this out. But I really do believe it starts with this, because this is the work you'll have to do whether you make money tomorrow or in 10 years. And no matter how much you make, you're still gonna have to do this work. Yes, in this book. Because even if you find a way to make money and you become really, really financially successful, you will never feel free in that financial success without doing this work. And you'll still feel anxious and you'll still feel stressed and you'll still feel all of that. Right.
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Unknown
I tell a story in the book about. I used to live in an apartment building here in, you know, in la. It's really sad. There's a lot of wealthy people in this building that I lived in, a lot of celebrities and billionaires. I was the poorest person there. Which is another, another lesson which is to put yourself in rooms, always be where you can mastermind with people and be around proximity of. Of people who have more so you can learn from them. But I was on a trip, and I came back from a trip, driving back into the. The valet of my building, and there was a tent in the valet, like in the driveway. And I kind of jokingly said to the valet attendant as I pulled into the building, I said, someone didn't jump, did they kind of like joking. And the guy looked at me with like a serious face like, yeah, it just happened like 30 minutes ago. And I was, I was like, this can't be real. It was like, what? There's billionaires in here, there's millionaires in here, there's celebrities in here. I was like, why would anyone in this building take their own life? And it was kind of like just this shock to me because I learned later who this person was. Someone did jump off the building right before I came back. And he was worth hundreds of millions of dollars, net worth. We just googled his name. And I was just thinking, why would someone worth so much money take their life? And I don't want to assume what really happened, but it doesn't mean having all the money in the world is going to solve all your problems and you're going to feel like you can love and accept yourself, that you have self worth. So like you said, you may learn how to make a lot of money, but if you haven't learned how to heal your relationship with you, then all the money in the world can't save your life and can't make you feel rich, can't make you feel abundant, can't make you have beautiful relationships with friends, family, colleagues. And that's real. The real wealth comes in life when you have deep, meaningful relationships. And something I want to acknowledge that you do really well is you follow this first habit, the mindset habit, so well, which is how can I be generous with my time, my energy, my love for friends, family, colleagues, your community? This community feels it. Everyone listening and watching right now feel your generosity, your giving hearts, and your gratitude for them, whether it be individually or collectively, they feel it. And most people, they want to make more money, but they don't have that generosity, that grateful spirit. And they want the quick fix. They want to make easy money quick, not make money easy. And the billionaires that I know, you know, and the millionaires that, that we know, we've interviewed, and I'll ask them this question. What do you think the key to creating more financial abundance every year after year is for you? Every billionaire or mega millionaire will say, giving more. I make more when I give more that year, whether it be giving more to charities, whether it be giving to people in my life, whether it be giving back to my community, giving back to my employees, my business, finding ways to give more and almost give where it feels a little uncomfortable, like, oh, that was, that was a big check. I just Wrote, oh, man, I care about this cause, this charity. I feel safe giving this amount. But what really would make it uncomfortable? Or I go to church every week and I typically give this. But what would make me feel a little uncomfortable. Most of these people say the more they give, when it's the most uncomfortable, somehow they just keep earning more. And I'm not saying you should give all your money away and you're going to earn more back, but having that mindset of generosity and you do this very well, where you give to your community, whenever there's some type of breakdown in the world, you're one of the first people to say, how can we give? How can we rally the troops? You give first. You rally the troops, say, let's give back. The fires happened. Stuff happened in India a couple years ago. Stuff's always happening. And you say, we're going to give. I don't know if that seems something conscious you think about, like, oh, by giving more every year, it helps me make more, but also I feel richer. And when you do that with everyone in your life, whether you're the hostess and you give curiosity, love, passion, fun, playfulness, you're giving something in that moment. If you can write a check for something that is a cause and you give, it's because you can, and you do it generously. It's just going to make you richer inside, and you're creating an energy of abundance to attract more.
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Lewis Howes
I think for me, it was watching my parents. So for all the other things I said about just enough and everything, my parents always gave in charity. Our home was always a home where everyone was welcome. My mom would happily cook dinner for everyone, even though, you know, we didn't have everything.
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Unknown
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
And so my parents had this generous heart. At the same time, they probably felt.
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Unknown
Rich in that, for sure. Generosity.
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Lewis Howes
Sure. And they did it when we didn't have a lot like my parents. Now when I realize how much my parents made and how much they gave in charity, the proportions were pretty off. And I think for me, I just felt so fortunate and I feel so lucky, and I feel so grateful that I have been able to find abundance in my life that I feel like the only natural reaction to that has to be to give.
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Unknown
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
When I came back to LA with the fires and everything, I was just grateful to come back to our home. But not everyone I know came back to her home. And so I felt grateful that I had a home. And so I was like, okay, what can we do? And so I think it comes from a place of gratitude. Again, it comes from a place of seeing my parents be so generous, even though they had nothing to give, actually. And it ultimately comes to me because I just feel like there's no better use for it in the long run than that. And I do believe it will come back in its own way. I don't give it because I want it back. I. I give it because I believe there's a need. But I do deeply believe that it will come back in its own way. And it always has. The book's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life. Lewis Howes. Louis, I'm so grateful, genuinely, for this conversation. It's left me feeling so rich. I've always felt rich in our friendship, and I'm really glad that you wrote about it in this way, because I think there's lots of great money experts out there who agreeing really good, sound financial advice.
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Unknown
Yeah, that's not.
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Lewis Howes
That's not what this is. And I think we need all of it. But I think this is a deep part because I know for me personally, this has been really deep work, and you put it into a book, and so I'm so grateful that people get to access it.
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Unknown
Thanks, brother.
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Lewis Howes
Thank you for doing this. Everyone who's been listening or watching, read the book. Learn the habits. Tag me and Lewis on Instagram on TikTok. Let me know what's resonating with you, what's connected with you. I want to hear your stories. I want to hear what skill you invested in. I want you to turn up at your job, even if you hate it. I want you to turn up to it with all the love that you possibly have. See whose mind you blow, who gets impressed by what you're doing. Someone's going to be able to shift your life at some point, and it's going to start with you. But just don't underestimate the value of these things that sound simple and they sound like I've got to figure out something more complex. No, no, no. This is where it starts. And this will mean that at the end of it, you'll be happy. So thank you to Louis. Thank you to each and every one of you. And yeah, make money easy.
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Unknown
Appreciate it, brother.
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Lewis Howes
I love you. If you love this episode, you'll love.
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Jay Shetty
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Lewis Howes
Why stress and overthinking negatively impacts your brain and heart and how to change.
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Jay Shetty
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Lewis Howes
Listen to it right now.
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Unknown
How many times do we have to.
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Lewis Howes
Forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering.
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Unknown
That's the moment of change. No one cares how many times you fell off off the bicycle.
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Lewis Howes
If you ride the bicycle now you ride the bike.
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Unknown
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Jay Shetty
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Lewis Howes
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Lewis Howes
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Lewis Howes
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