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Episode: Lily Fresa Talks All: Toxic Dad, Pregnant at 15, Suegra Drama, CHISME Y MAS!!!

Date: December 5, 2025
Host: Alannized
Guest: Veronica Lily (Lily Fresa)

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This episode features Veronica Lily, known online as Lily Fresa, who candidly shares her journey growing up in a small town, the impact of having an absent and toxic biological father, becoming pregnant at 15, facing “suegra” (mother-in-law) drama, struggles with postpartum depression, and her path to content creation. The conversation is a raw, heartfelt, and authentically Spanglish exploration of breaking family cycles and finding healing.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Childhood & Family Dynamics

• Growing Up in a Tight-Knit Latino Family
  • Raised by her young single mother, close with her sister and extended family in a tiny 2-bedroom home: “It was like my grandma, my tía, my mom, and it was me and my sister and my grandpa…We were all in like one little house.” (05:47)
  • Birth father in and out of prison; she describes a childhood longing for her father’s presence and feeling like a “broken child.”
• Stepdad as a True Father Figure
  • Initially rejected him out of loyalty to her absent father, later realizes he was her caring, stable parent: “He was just such an involved, like, stepdad. I don’t think that there could be, like, any better stepdad than him.” (12:33)
  • Regret over her behavior as a child, but immense appreciation as an adult and mom.

2. Dealing with a Toxic Dad

• Inconsistency and Betrayal
  • Dad constantly lied about his absences (“taco truck competitions”), never emotionally available, became verbally abusive and cut off Lily and her sister as adults: “This is not who I thought he was… dads don’t do that. Like, calling your daughter a cow, calling her a cockroach.” (18:31)
• Letting Go for Her Own Healing
  • Therapy helped her accept limited love from her father: “This is the amount of love that you want… and this is the amount of love he can give. It’s never going to match.” (30:52)
  • Now focuses on breaking the cycle for her own kids: “If he couldn’t be a good dad, he’s sure as hell not going to be a good grandpa. My rain will never wet my babies, ever.” (31:26)

3. Teen Pregnancy & Early Adulthood

• Pregnancy at 15
  • Hiding her pregnancy, fearing disappointment. Eventually forced to tell her mom and stepdad:
    • “The words could never leave my mouth. I could never say, like, I'm pregnant… and my mom just starts crying because she thinks she had a feeling.” (47:28)
  • Stepdad’s support stands out: “He gives me the burrito…‘Today is the day that everything changes. It’s no longer about you.’” (50:25)
• Navigating School & Young Motherhood
  • Finished school during COVID-19 shutdown; did not face much overt judgement from peers.
  • Honesty about teen motherhood’s challenges but also her determination: “I never compared myself to, like, anybody else my age, because I feel like we’re all just living different lives.” (66:49)

4. Relationship with Nathaniel & Mother-in-law Drama

• Young Love
  • Started dating Nathaniel in 8th grade, openly describes herself as the “toxic” clingy one at first.
  • “I feel like my daddy issues kind of rubbed off in it, too, because I’m like, ‘you’re not allowed to leave me, like he did.’” (37:28)
• Mother-in-law (Suegra) Tensions
  • Early support during pregnancy faded; after baby, mother-in-law wanted their family to split time, created friction and power struggles over baby and resources.
  • Conflict escalated to the point of threats to withhold cars, cut off phone plans, and cold treatment: “She just wanted to take it back…she decided to turn off my phone and not him.” (82:32)
  • Feels her suegra never fully accepted that her son has his own family now, and often directs “smart remarks” or emotional coldness at her.

5. Postpartum Depression & Healing

• Struggled with Emotional Isolation
  • After buying a house, felt emotionally adrift without parental support and husband working long hours: “I would do that a lot…just drive for like an hour, two hours.” (89:01)
  • “I remember crying and Addie’s like, ‘Mommy, what’s wrong?’ And I was like, ‘Oh, nothing, I’m just like, happy.’ But I knew deep down I wasn’t.” (01:53)
• Therapy & Purpose Through Content Creation
  • Therapy provided tools and validation; creating TikToks and staying busy brought joy back: “Keeping yourself busy really does almost give you a purpose.” (95:41)
  • Advice: “If you want to feel happy, do what you can to feel happy. Ask for help…there’s always a light at the end of a dark tunnel.” (94:11)

6. Journey as a Content Creator

• Social Media as Self-Expression
  • Started posting for fun; viral moment packing her partner’s lunch at 4am sparked her growth.
  • Finds empowerment in authenticity: “I love myself…But it’s an insecurity, and if I could change it, I’m gonna change it.” (103:55)
• Platforms as Support System and Outlet
  • Positive feedback from strangers on social media becomes a source of encouragement during hard times.

7. Body Image & Surgery

• Breast Augmentation Experience
  • Lifelong insecurity led her to pursue surgery after second child; describes the process, healing, and emotional journey.
  • “I never, like, take Tylenol…I’m like a typical Mexican, don’t believe it works. I don’t know why, I need to grow up.” (106:01)
  • Candid about aftercare, unexpected struggles (armpit stitches, not wearing deodorant) and how it helped with her confidence.

Memorable Quotes & Key Moments

“Growing up, I wanted to see my dad for the good of him. Now as I get older, I really see him more as the human he is versus the lovey dad that I want to like.”
— Veronica Lily (15:14)

“If he couldn’t be a good dad, he’s sure as hell not going to be a good grandpa, and I do not need that around my…My rain will never wet my babies, ever.”
— Veronica Lily (31:26)

“Today is the day that everything changes. It’s no longer about you. This is the day that you become selfless, not selfish.”
— Lily’s Stepdad (50:25)

“Anybody can look at us weird, look at us crazy, like, judge us, be mad at us…but we are living for our kids. We’re living for ourselves now. …Nobody can take that from us.”
— Veronica Lily (94:11)

“I love myself…But it’s an insecurity, and if I could change it, I’m gonna change it. I hate my tits, so I had to get new ones.”
— Veronica Lily (103:55)

Notable Timestamps

• Lily’s Childhood and Stepdad Story:
  [05:47] - [13:09]

• Reconciling Relationship with Biological Dad:
  [14:14] - [30:52]

• Therapy, Letting Go & Breaking Cycles:
  [30:52] - [32:03]

• Meeting Her Partner & Early Relationship:
  [34:01] - [39:04]

• Teen Pregnancy: Finding Out & Telling Her Family:
  [41:08] - [51:35]

• Mother-in-Law Drama:
  [69:02] - [86:44]

• Navigating Postpartum Depression & Therapy:
  [87:19] - [93:52]

• Starting and Growing on TikTok:
  [96:43] - [100:56]

• Breast Augmentation (Plastic Surgery) Journey:
  [102:13] - [112:39]

• Looking Forward, Advice & Closing:
  [113:05] - [113:51]

Final Thoughts & Advice

Lily’s journey is one of vulnerability and resilience. She emphasizes the importance of therapy, setting healthy boundaries with toxic family, self-forgiveness, and seeking help for postpartum depression. Her story encourages listeners facing teen pregnancy, family cycles of abandonment, or difficult relationships with in-laws to pursue healing and prioritize their own peace and their children’s well-being.

“There’s always going to be something beautiful at the end of it. Just like the rainbow after rain.”
— Veronica Lily (94:11)

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