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Marile Talks All: Childhood, Divorce, Weight Loss, CHISME & MORE!!
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Marile
Two weeks passed and I asked him and he's like, I don't want to go to therapy. And that's when he was like, you know what? I actually want the divorce. I just don't love you anymore. And he had never told me that.
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Alan Eist
What is up, everyone? I'm your host, Alan Eist, and this is Noche de Pendejadas, your favorite podcast turn talk show. And on the Yotrago Atus Influencers Para Platicar y Po s April 5th in Austin, Texas Festival. Make sure you guys do so to the best of Emancho festivals. And we had so much fun, so I'm so excited and I can't wait to see what Austin, Texas and Bessame Muncho have in store for us. So make sure you guys go ahead ahead and get your tickets, which I'll leave down below. And with that being said, amigas, without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight. But you know what, you guys, and I'm super excited. Outside of what we already see on.
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Marile
Social media.
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Alan Eist
What has Marile been up to? You know, you've been in. I do want to take time before we start with the chisme parable de tolo castao pasando. You know, nono mas visto los fires conos en ancido affectado con to, you know, it is very sad con los incendios and the immigration. I really do feel like este informs in a city near you. Let us know for a good amount of time, you guys, and let me just say the best the ones you do by lando because the quotes you guys do, you come up with these just by what you put online. In a deeper level that I always start off with growing up.
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Marile
And Mexico.
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Alan Eist
It wasn't very diverse.
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Marile
No, no, it wasn't very diverse. Honestly. Like there was just your typical little group of Mexicans. But back then it was in Witchita. It's a super small town. There's. It's way more white people than. And back then there was not many Hispanics up there in the north. So.
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Alan Eist
It'S a really big move, you know, It's a really big move.
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Marile
I had everything your little spoiled girl. And then I go to having nothing, like to being where I was at a place where it was completely different from my two story house in Mexico. I already knew English because by fifth grade, whenever you're. You're in ESL classes, you already have to take all your tests by fourth grade and by fifth grade you have to be ready to go middle school. And if not, they'll send you to ESL in middle school. But honestly, I learned pretty quick. I feel like I'm a very smart person. I've always been a smart person. And yeah, I feel like just learning the language and just the fact that I grew up in the United States and my sisters grew up in the U.S. i mean in Mexico. Un poco.
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Alan Eist
Do you feel like.
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Marile
With my sisters, honestly, my sisters are very, they've always been very supportive. A big shout out to my sister Al Angelica. They are the ones that would purchase everything for me growing up. They were the ones who would go to my games. They were the. I've always been very athletic, like I was in sports all my life. So they were always there supporting me. I don't feel like it, it brought us further away. It did bring us closer. It just feel that when my parents is where it took place in where my parents, I. They wouldn't understand me. My sisters kind of did. But my sisters are always gonna be behind my parents. Because I feel that in Mexico your parents are your parents and that's it. You cannot change that. Your parents are always right. It's kind of like when you go to customer service and the customer's always right. That's kind of the way it is in Mexico. And I feel like here it's more of a. Oh, well, if your parents weren't there for you or if your parents did this or if your parents did that, you know that you kind of just flex your business.
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Marile
Kind of not to swallow the pill.
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Alan Eist
And be like, oh si sa ves queso nuis padres? Si salo que sa que?
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Marile
That's where it plays part where sometimes we have disagreements of well no, even though they're my parents, if they didn't support me in this or in that, you know, so I just felt the traumas are a little different because they did grow up in Mexico and we grew up here. But honestly, at the end of the day, my sisters are my biggest supporters and they always have been with my parents as well. Just a little bit on the emotional side, it's just been a little different. I feel like I was a sister's girl and I feel like a lot of people are going to understand me because there's people who just cannot reach out to their parents for anything. And I was totally a sister's girl. My sisters are like I mentioned, they were like my mom. Like you know, if I had any problem, if my first boyfriend, my first any anything, it was always my sisters, my first drink. Everything was with my sisters. I never really tried to do that things with other people. They were always just supportive on that. But it did affect my emotional relationship with my parents just because my mom had my brother at 41 so she thought she was going to come over here and she was just going to start a new life with us. And then she ended up being pregnant. So I feel like she was not prepared for that. She just had to focus on my little brother a lot. So that took a lot of my parents time away from Me, I don't judge them for them and I just understand them. You know, parents back then, all parents have a story and parents back then are. Were different. And I just feel like the new generation is definitely stepping that up. That's why I don't choose to judge my parents because they've always put a roof over my head and my dad was always hard working. So I'm nobody to talk bad on them or anything like that. But I do know that a lot of people can relate to me when it comes down to the fact that that emotional support is not there. So I found that in my sister Persona.
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Alan Eist
You guys can meet in the middle and have that amazing relationship. Quiero platicar de Marilena s Cuer a quiero que me cuentes un poquito e comueras 2 en lo que bina siendo la middle school, high school school. Popular. Were you more of the outcast.
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Marile
Athletic? Like I was always in sports growing up, so. And I would always hang around with the popular people. Not so that I was popular, but just with known people, you know, with the sports people. And I was kind of like somebody who would talk to everybody. I was very smart. I feel that growing up I was AB honor roll. I was perfect attendance student. Like Ms. Areno Lamo, my fourth grade teacher, she always messages me. Now she sees me on Tik Tok and she tells me how proud she is of me. People don't know, but Junior, pero creo que ne the high school.
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Alan Eist
He was like, okay, do you remember the time where he's like, what was that moment for you?
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Marile
Mescucha de castelas estampados. Who cares? You're with us and we're gonn go party later. Homeless.
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Alan Eist
Wow.
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Marile
Yeah, I remember that. I was really struggling and I was struggling because I wanted to, because I was a young girl who was very smart who had it all going at home. And even besides that, I could have gotten a job if I wanted to like this. I just was not settled for the type of job that I had to get because I am so smart. Like how am I gonna be at a job at McDonald's or anything? @ least that's what I thought at that time, you know, because I should already be having another type of job. And I feel like when I went homeless, I pretty much just hit rock bottom. And that's when I reached out to my parents and I went homeless because I couldn't pay my bills. I didn't want want to settle for that job. So I was so young and my parents have always had my back. So they, they always said, come home. Like, you know, come home. So I finally called them and my mom was like, come home. Like your room is there. Like just come home already. Because my sisters had already done like their life and my brother and I had our own room and she's like, just come home. And I ended up going back home. I ended up getting a job as a telemarketer. And that's where my telemarketing like experience started. And I was working like cable and phone and stuff like that, like where you're purchasing stuff. And then I started Chase. When I met my ex husband. I feel like when I met him I kind of just wanted to be better because he was going to school. Trucking company and I worked for the payroll there and so for the accounting department there. And after that, I don't think a lot of people know this, but I had a business of chocolate covered strawberries and baking before this.
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Alan Eist
Okay.
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Marile
So I know how to do that. And honestly, it was fun while it lasted. But at that time I was married already. Because the person that I'm speaking about after the person that I let go when I was young, I feel like with that person that I did let go, I learned a lot because for two years I was very depressed, partying a lot, always drinking, always drunk, like crying over the fact that I let go of a good man thinking that I was never going to find another man. And I remember that every like New Year's I was always super drunk, like crying to my grandma, oh my God, Grandma. So and so pajamas. I was in my pajamas. And I remember that she comes and she's like, hey, we don't have Fiesta. And I'm like, anton says we were like the outcast. They go away when the fire goes out and it's just red. And so I could put my feet there. And it was closed Christmas Day. It was so funny because they were talking about the after. Like the next day we both look at each other and we're like.
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Alan Eist
You know, a very healthy relationship from the start or kind of rock.
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Monet X Change
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Marile
We love that for you.
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Monet X Change
Someone else will too be more you this year and find them on Bumble.
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Bob the Drag Queen
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Alan Eist
Right, Bob?
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Marile
Yes.
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Bob the Drag Queen
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Marile
Typical. It took a big role destination. Like, you know, like, we up, dude. Like, you're pregnant. Like, and that was not. Because we're not 18. We're not 18. So I was like, dude, we're not teenagers. So why is your reaction like this? But now I think about it and I'm like, dude, he was in school, dude. Like, how selfish was I? And I'm not talking about just this. This reaction. I'm talking about just how toxic I was in the relationship. Like, why didn't I not think of, like, his. What he was trying to do for our future? Our future. Yeah, we're gonna stick together. But I feel like I just didn't let him do him while he was in school. So then I didn't get the reaction that I wanted. And that was just like a beginning of a toxic pregnancy. And I remember that we used to talk and I'd be like, did you already tell your parents? Did you already tell your parents? And he's like, no, dude. Like I haven't told my parents. So I don't like because he was in college, you know, so he was like, damn, I'm going to let them down. Like my. His dad works really hard, hard. So he was like, man, I'm gonna let them down because I already got you pregnant. We're both letting my dad down because he already told us, wait until I graduate. So los dos est mi vapami video que no sperramos, you know, nostamos spera yora so so nopen say yo, yo, yo sido cono pesando yo me. And I was like, nah. Like, no, I didn't get the reaction. So then I would cry a lot and we would argue a lot of when he was going to tell his parents. And I remember that he was just like really depressed and his mom caught me and I just like, I just was like, she was so happy. They were so happy, just like my parents. And it was not the reaction that my boyfriend told me that they were going to have. So then I was kind of like, tranquila pero where I have to go to the hospital. And I go to the hospital because I'm bleeding more than what I should. So I go and they tell me that I actually had some clots that time. And I remember that I spoke to the doctor and doctor was like, hey, you know what? Like, oh, that was so hurtful. Like, they're like, oh, your baby's heart's beating. You have to go home. And I was just like, no, take it anymore. That's it. Like, no, they did a sonogram. But then they were like, oh, your baby's heart's beating. You can go. And I'm just like, but I just had a blood clot. Like, am I okay? Like, oh, you just have to go see your ob y however you say it, whatever. And I'm just like, dude, like, what the hell? Like, okay. So I end up going the next day to do. And she's like, oh no, you're fine, you're not bleeding anymore. And I'm like, okay, well, I'm about to travel because I'm going to, you know, go tell my. My in laws that I'm pregnant. And she's like, oh, yeah, no worries. So that was gonna be July 4th of 2013. So Noma's like going and coming. So there's just a one rotating point where you can turn around into either side like Anton says Michael. And I just, my heart just dropped and I was like, oh, my God. Son solos malos. Like, son los malos. Like, and they were. I started, like, going fast, and my mom turned down the radio and she started praying and she's like, no, mija, like, no mascal mate. And I'm pregnant, you know, so my heart's just like breathing super fast. I'm trying to go fast, slow down, you know, So I slowed down. And that's when they start catching up to me. And I'm just like, oh. So I see that they catch up to me. I wrote down, like, they wrote down their window and tons. They took off so fast.
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Alan Eist
Oh.
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Marile
It happened there. You know, girls. I know girls are going to understand me that when you're on your days and you just feel that. That you have to go to the room because you have it there. That's literally how I felt. Like, I felt like I knew I was about to lose my baby and I didn't want to get to where I was going because I did not want to go to the restroom. And I just literally ran to the restroom and I closed the door and I said. And I was just crying, like.
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Alan Eist
You know, I'm so sorry. You know, sales. You know, you're going on this trip. So after.
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Marile
She said no, I gave her hospital. So she drives. Drives the truck. They take me to the hospital. Like, drops of blood everywhere as I'm walking to the emergency room. Because I'm really in shock like, that I'm just even losing my baby right there, you know? So I'm in shock. My cousin's like, arguing with the lady, like, hey, what's going on? My mom was parking the truck. My ex husband was over there helping her, and we're just like, what's going on? And my cousin's like, going back and forth with her. She sees all this. So, like, they have to like, use a vacuum to take everything out of me and. Because if not, I was gonna grac. I said, I don't want to. And then like, my park in the truck, my boyfriend had already ran in in. And he's like, no. Like. And they're like. And he's like, no, I want to die. Like, not in those words. I was like, so hurt that I had lost my child.
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Alan Eist
Yeah, exactly.
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Marile
She's just right now in shock. Like, don't listen to her. Like, save her, obviously, you know, Like, I just remember I looked at the doctor and I said. And he's like. And I was like, so what? Like, you took, like, my baby? And he's just like, sorry. Was just Trying to be there for me, but obviously she's hurt too, because no mother likes to see their child like that, you know? And I was. I was really, like, looking forward to that, you know, because me and my sister were pregnant at the same time, and she's just two months later than me, so ahead of me. So it was just. It was really hard for me, and it's the hardest thing I've had to live. And I will never, like, get over that, you know? So I just feel that I had their support, but I couldn't have it 100% where they're delivering babies and you just hear the babies crying, and I'm just, like, crying all night, and I'm just like, okay, I want to leave because I'm hearing all these deliveries, and I just can't. Like, I just cannot be here. Like, there's no way that I can be going through this right now. So I just feel like I. I don't want to say that my ex. This was a relief for him because I know it also hurts him now, but I do feel that at that time, he was just like, like, you know what I mean? Mean, like, maybe checking up on me, but, like, bro, like, we just, like, we just lost our baby, like, sad. How are you even outside, like, drinking? Like, how are you? I know you're with your family, but, like, this is our child. Like, yeah, like, you're supposed to support me. Like, I was going to be the mother of your child, you know? And I feel like that was the. When I felt like things were getting better. It just. It just got worse after that, you know, because I won't forget that day.
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Alan Eist
And you feel like the relationship kind. Kind of, you know, got rocky or you kind of just saw things differently after that.
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Marile
That was something that I always threw in his face, I guess, you know, like, oh, esque. Like, I just gained so much weight because I was so depressed. Like, and I. I just always wanted to get pregnant again. Like, I always wanted to replace that child, you know, and he never, like, gave me that, you know? And it's not that the relationship was. Went more rocky because it was already rocky. Like, I feel like our relationship was always toxic up until when I tried to change when we were already married. But I've just been. I feel like I was just so toxic that I even didn't even let him. Like, he never proposed. Like, he never proposed, like, wait for the marriage. Yeah. Like, you know, So I was already getting tired of that. I was like, dude, like, I've it's already been for years. Like, or you want to marry me? Or like you already finished college. Like, what's going on? You know, he got that so he can legally come and visit me. Not like a legal citizenship or anything. Anything like that. So I remember it was July 4th again the next. Like, not the next year, but it was July 4th again back in 2015. Like, my sister was like, I go past that's two hours away from. From July 4th, conosotros. So fuero. And I just thought it was kind of weird. Weird because. And that's not like, of him. And he knows how mad I get when he would answer the phone. So I was like, why is he not answering the phone? And I was so excited because he never told me he was going to get his visa. So that was like the. That was one of the. The big things that he did for me. And that was a very, like, emotional moment for me. I was so happy because I always wanted to show him around over here, you know, and it was. It was fun. So. Sevino estuako. So I was like, okay, well, let's just. I was like, do you want to get married? And he was like, well, yeah, like, because there was no work in. So there was really no future there. Like, let's give it a shot. Like, we can't get married after all this weekend because it's this and that familia. We're going to have like a little party. And I was like, okay, well, that's fine. Like, you know, your mom's sick. I understand. Like, are we gonna get married? Because I already paid, like, the, like, not the ceremony, but the person that you pay to marry him, like, for court. But it was gonna be like at a park. So I was like, are you gonna. Like, if not. So I can cancel it. And he's like, no. Like, I didn't know that he hadn't told his parents he was going to go get married. I just don't know why. Like. And my mom was like, you. Do you mind? And I was like, you know what, mom? So, no, but was there to witness our wedding. It was just him and I and our friends and quick, quick, no party, chill night. Like, nothing big. And my dream was always to have a big. Like, because I thought we were going to get married to church, and I thought that we were going to have like a. A big wedding. It was just a super simple wedding. Like, no, nobody knew. And after that, we lived with my parents while I was fixing his papers when he already fixed his Papers in February. He was like, hey, like he' private person. Yeah, in Texas. So we moved to the north side. So that's like way on the opposite side of where we lived at with my parents. So he had to leave that job. And I was only working a part time job, so I literally had to sustain the home. It wasn't a, it wasn't an expensive apartment. It was like 550amonth. But we were living pay to paycheck to paycheck. Like, I had to pay the rent, I had to pay the light, I had to pay the water, I had to pay the, the groceries. And we were eating just like your basic stuff. Like, and we were struggling, so he couldn't do that. That. And it was just frustrating the out of him. Like, he was just like, dude, this is not what you told me. And I remember that the first argument that we had like in our apartment, he was just like, this is the worst mistake I made. Like, marrying you was the worst mistake that I made. And I was just. And he's like, I want the divorce. Like, all of this while I was fixing his papers. All of it. Like those. This is how toxic like our relationship was. And I cannot believe I stayed married with him five more years, you know, like, so we had a really big fight and he's just like giving your cousin car. Like, can't even get us to where we're going. Like, I'm just like, dude, like, you're asking for a lot of your man. Like, yeah, like, you know, especially like where you're from, like, provide, you know. But I feel that it was my fault because I swear, like, I know not. You should stop working. You should stop working so that you. So that you can give me my time. Like, that was from like March to like October, right? And then on that same year, I finally, like, we were calling places in Angara, a job, like on Craigslist, like doing floors. And he had to leave. Like he had to leave every weekend, every weekend, all the time. And I am a heavy pot smoker. And I stopped when I was with him because he didn't like that. So when he would leave like, and leave me by myself, I was just like, dude, like, like. And I just felt like that was weird. Like, even though, like, like he was like my cousin, I just felt that it was weird that like my husband's working and I have to like, put up with the fact that his cousin's in the other room. Those solos, like, oh, like, oh, we're gonna. Oh, I have to be quiet. Why? This is my house. Like, why like arguing? I'm like, why? Like. And it was always because I feel like so he could provide for his family in Mexico and me, you know, And I was just like, dude, like what's going on? So then eventually like he had his other cousin come, come live and then his deal come and I'm just like, bro, like we live in a two bedroom apartment. Like you need to do like what's going on here? Like are we gonna get a divorce? Are you gonna get us a house? Like what's going on? Eventually he got a really good, A really good job. Like he started working. Like he was working as a, as a delivery person. But he had like his own route. So he was making good money. He got us our house. Mega.
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Alan Eist
You know, when you guys got married, you kind of. And you started being less toxic.
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Marile
So I didn't have the time to do that. So I just feel like we both couldn't get each other. He couldn't get the US lifestyle and he wanted the Mexican lifestyle. But he like, he wanted the Mexican lifestyle knowing that I really couldn't give it to him because I had to work, you know, so sometimes I didn't have time to wash. Like sometimes maybe I would get home and I was tired cuz I had to work and I didn't clean. So I just feel like he taught me to be like cleaner though, like, and to be like, no, you need to put these things as a priority. And I did learn a lot of good things from him. But I just feel that throughout like, like our marriage we just kind of went from a toxic relationship to a healthy relationship. And then co happened and that's just when everything went like downhill. Like he was working a lot before COVID and then when Covid happened, he was always at a home because it was food. You know how food was still. So they were still working, I guess. So I kind of started like smoking, you know, again. Like he's something that he always told me, like that's not something. So I don't know. Like he just started being different. Like I thought we were good. And then out of nowhere, like things just like distant. Yeah. But I would tell him like, what's wrong? And he was just like, nada. Yeah. Like. Cuz I feel like he's always had in the back of his mind his family. Like not just me. He was so caught up on.
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Alan Eist
Trying to figure out his. While also figuring out like, okay, he.
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Marile
Had a lot of things in his mind and I felt that at that point, he was like, I think the best thing is just leave Marile. I'm like, well, you then, well, let's get divorced. You know, too typical. Like, what do you want to get out of this therapy right now? Like, are you calling me because you want to get a divorce? Are you calling me because. Because it was a decision that I had to make at the time. So she said, you want to get a divorce, or do you want to. Do you just want to, like, fix your marriage? And I said, no. I said, like, I. I see. Like, this is things that I really talk to him about, you know? So I'm just like, no. Like, I was like, no, I want to fix my marriage. So she was like, okay, well, you guys need to come to therapy.
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Alan Eist
Like, there's no fix.
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Marile
Like, what happened, you know? And I'm just like, bro, like, let's just go to therapy. Like, don't end this. Like, don't end this because we've been together for almost 10 years. Like, D. Because you're not 23 anymore. You're not 22 anymore. Like, and if you do get a girl right now, it's probably going to be somebody younger than you. And look at how girls are now. Like, pay for my nails. Pay for my this. Like, you're going to have to really provide, you know? And I'll be like, dude, don't do this. Like, we have a really strong, strong connection. Like, we just have to overcome, like, a problem. He's like, no. Like, I just can't with it. Like, I don't even want to go to therapy. I'm like, well, what does that mean? You know? Like, you don't want to go to therapy? And he's like, well, because at first he told me, give me a couple of weeks because we had already gone to therapy with this person, but he was kind of, like, embarrassed to open up to her about the situation. Two weeks passed, and I asked him, and he's like, I don't want to go to therapy. And that's when he was like, you know what? I actually want the divorce. And I was just like, it's not the first time we talk about divorce. So I didn't take it seriously. And then he's like, yeah, like, it's another argument, you know? And then he was just like, I just don't love you anymore. And he had never told me that. I was just, like, in shock, like, because I was like, oh, this is it. Itambien. Like, I don't hold this against him. Like, I know he was just in a very. Like, he wasn't okay. Like, in his. In his mental health. And that just broke. Like, that was just what did it for me, like, was like, oh, like, dude, we lost our baby. Like, oh, no, I can't wait to have another baby. Like, yo que que tuscan the eye opener for me. He didn't have to say anything else. Like, the only thing was the next day I said, are you sure? And he said, yeah. And I went to the court and I filed for divorce. And I just came back and I remember that he got home from work and I said. And he just looked at me and he was like, what? Like, And I was like, well, you said. And he was like, no. And I was like.
- [69:05]
Alan Eist
Were you still at a moment?
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Marile
You know, I'll save you, you know? So I was, okay. Then if he goes and he does this, he wants this. Yeah. And then he calls me that. He already did it. And that to me was like, oh, that's done. Like, we're done. Like, so when he did that, I. I went and I said, hey, we need to sell our house. And he was like. I was like, well, what are we gonna do? You're gonna sell the house? Like, you're gonna stay with it? Are you gonna give me my part? Like, because even though I didn't put for the down payment, bro, like, I've been with you for the past 10 years. Like, and I think that the lease that I deserve for even because he got his papers. And I'm not saying that he married me because of his papers, but he gets to live another lifestyle here, you know what I'm saying? Like, now he can provide for his family. Now he has that other opportunity to be with another and enjoy everything that I don't get to enjoy. But. And honestly that I always told him that's the best thing he can do for me. Like, learn from it, you know, and. And be happy in the future. But I'm like, I did that for you, so the least you can do is like. And he. And he never said no. His. Like, no. Yeah. Like, you know what? Let's sell the house, Richard. If anybody needs any, you know, Rich Migo, Richard, the. The Texas. He. I caught him up and I said, hey, Richie, you know me. He's the one that bought. We bought the house from. And I said, my ex husband, you know, he. We're divorcing. He wants to sell the house. He's like, okay, yeah, like, let. Let me put it up on sale. And he Was thinking like a month that we were going to sell the house in a month. We put the house on the market on a Friday. On Monday may say, hey, we have three buyers already. These are the prices. Which one do you like best? And I said, hey, these are the deals. Like we're going to go close the deal. And he's just looking at me like, like this fast, like this fat. And I just think that I don't, I don't think it's cuz he wanted to stay with me. I just think everything was just going.
- [71:02]
Alan Eist
So fast that he was like, like, oh.
- [71:08]
Marile
Yeah. He's like, what the. You know, so I'm like, okay, it's already sold and we have to be out in two weeks. And he's like, wait, what? Like so, yeah, I helped him get an apartment not under my name. I just helped him to do all this because I build up. I helped him build his credit because I already knew how to do all that stuff. So I helped him get like he had badass credit. He had badass. I helped him get an apartment and he got an apartment. Like I set them up for the next bitch. Which is okay, you guys. It's okay. No personada as you. But I, I. So I feel like I also showed him how to be independent, you know. And I remember like a few months later, this, mind you, this is already divorced. Like, we're already divorced. We're just waiting for the stamp from the judge. A few months pass and he's like, hey, you know what? They broke into my car because he got a new car. And he's like, they broke into my car and they took my, my passport and no, my, not my passport, I'm sorry, my residency card. And it was crazy because when he left me like that December, like he lost that truck that he had just got in the lano. Like he got into a car accident and then they, he got a new car and then they broke into his new car and they took away his residency. So it was going downhill, girls. Like, so I helped this man. Like, I helped him because he's, he's some. He's always going to be somebody special in my life. You know, I helped him. I said, hey, you know what? Like, I helped him renew his resident. Like reportedly lost everything. He got his. Yeah. So I, I would never be that type of person. So I just really just helped him. And then after that we just kind of like went our separate ways. And then that's when I went viral.
- [73:06]
Alan Eist
On Tik Tok, you know, you felt like you had already disappointed your parents and yourself with the first relationship and the first guy you let go. Did you start getting those thoughts again? And how did you navigate, you know, the whole process?
- [73:52]
Marile
So it was like, I'm already 31 year old. Back at home with your parents. Like, I was literally going just to the gym, like, day and night, and my dad's like, where are you at? Like, I'm just like, bro. Like, I'm 31. Like, and it sucks because I was put in a situation where I was so depressed that I didn't even want to look for a job. Like, I didn't even want to do my strawberries anymore. I just didn't want to do nothing in Ayosta, you know? But at some point in time, I was just not comfortable with my parents. And it's not because of my family. Like, my family really saw me, like, downhill. Like, there was a time where I just went in the car and I was just like, I grabbed my dad's, you know, gun. And I was just even thinking about, like, doing something just because I thought I had hit rock bottom. And if there's anybody out there that's feeling like that, like, please, please don't. Like, no divorce is worth you thinking anything like that. Because at the end of the day, he chose that.
- [74:54]
Alan Eist
Yeah.
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Marile
You know, as you know. And I just felt that at that time I was like in. I was in the car and I was just like, okay, either do this or I don't. But then I kind of just thought, like, I was already viral on Tik Tok, so I had like 75,000 followers. And I was like, okay, have you. You. You've always liked this. You know, you've always liked to be on. On camera and all this stuff. You. I acted like a little mini influencer before, so I was like, okay, should I just go on with this or should I just end everything now and pretty much end with my parents life too? Because how do you think my dad would have felt if he would find out that was his gun? You know what I mean? Like, I'm just like, no. Like, I kind of just thought through it and I was like, this is the time. Time for me to just let go of this. And like, everybody was asking us, you know, and he was just like, well, you know, I was 260 pounds, so I was really big. I'm only 411 guys. So you can just imagine that like polycystic ovary syndrome, which means that you just have like a disbalance in your hormones. And your testerone hormone is upper in levels, which. That's actually a male hormone. So, like, you have, like, facial hair pigmentation. Your voice is a little deeper. So it's just things that also pretty prevent you from having a baby. But I think that there's a misconception on PCOs, because people think that that just means you cannot have kids.
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Alan Eist
Yeah.
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Marile
No. So PCOS is basically like, you have your ovaries, and you need your ovaries cleared so that your eggs can go in there and catch it and get pregnant. When you do have pcos, you are. Have, like, your cysts that are a little inflammated. So all girls have cysts. You know, some of them are cancerous. Some of them. Everybody has this. So those start getting out of your ovaries, and that's how you get your period regularly. So when you don't, they just start building up and building up and building up. So when the sperms and the, like, you. They don't have a chance to even get pregnant. It's clogged. Exactly. So it's clogged. So you can't even get pregnant. So in order for you to get pregnant, you have to lose weight.
- [77:56]
Alan Eist
I do know it's a very strict diet. No, for pcos, yes.
- [78:00]
Marile
You have to, like, because it's so hard already to lose weight.
- [78:08]
Alan Eist
Did you already have, like, symptoms or where you're like, you know what? Or this or this or that? Did you already, in your mind, be like, oh, I have that, or.
- [78:17]
Marile
Yes. Actually, like, the other day I was talking to Lucas and I was telling him, like, bro, like, I'm just realizing that before I had my surgeries, like, I had, like, that line going down like that.
- [78:28]
Alan Eist
Oh, like the happy trail.
- [78:29]
Marile
Yes. And the only guys have that happy trail. Like Ms. Axilas. I was like, oh, no, I want a baby. Like, October, like, I started October, and I went hard October because it was so. It was so recent for me, the divorce. And then November, December, I kind of just started drinking and just binge eating and stuff. And I started in January and in February. That's when, like, I got, like, my first big, like, million. More than million.
- [79:34]
Alan Eist
You were starting to post online. You were becoming viral. Like, what made you be like, you know what. What was that moment, like, where you're like, oh, okay, I'm going viral. I can actually probably do this.
- [80:00]
Marile
I was in a program. Program where I used to do, like, the news for the school. So I used to be, like, a broadcast person. For the social media department. And I used to do, like, little, like, you know what I mean? So you're so good at this. Like, you're just so good at it. Like, you're made for this. And that's why I decided to do broadcasting for my first initial career. Things didn't work out, so then I started just. I've always been somebody to share my life on social media. Like, I've always shared. When I get, like, I just always shared my life because I've always thought, like, I was little influencer. And then I had a Facebook group with like 90,000 people of makeup, and I used to go live there before. Like, let's do makeup. Must be Cindy before all of them. And I was like, a little. Okay. Like, you know, with other girls that back then, you know, but obviously, let's make them all then put the path out down for us, you know? Yeah, they blew. They blew up, you know, But. But I remember we used to do it before, and that's when I was like, hey, I can do this. I can do the lives. I can do everything. Like, and I've always been really good at talking, so I was like, I can totally do this. So I. I go back to my ex, where he didn't really like, like that because Facebook. And then he just be like, a little embarrassed. So I kind of saw that. So I stopped. I stopped. And he would always tell me, like, to convert the stone to we dying. Like, why are you telling everybody what we're doing? Like, he just didn't really like that. So I stopped, like. But I remember when I got a divorce, like, I. I went traveling like crazy este a Miami, and I was just like, all over the place. And I was like, a little like. And I even have a video where I'm like, here I am, you guys. Like, if I'm your. Like, it's not like anybody cares what I'm doing, but I'm still, like, keeping you updated, like your little influencer. I see. And that's funny because I look at that video now, and I'm just like, oh, my God. Like, I actually did become a content creator.
- [82:14]
Alan Eist
You manifested?
- [82:15]
Marile
Yeah, like, and I feel that I've always manifested a lot of things because even when I first went to Vegas in 2018, I absolutely love that. And I remember I. I had the pleasure to live there for the past two years. I moved back to Texas recently, but I did have the pleasure to do that. So honestly, I feel like I just kind of started, like, I've always been really good. And then I, I, I put it in my head. I was like, I started reading how you can go viral on TikTok. Like, I've always just been like a, I want to know everything type of person. So I was like, how can you go viral on TikTok? And I started seeing that you have to be different. You have to be, you have to do something that other people haven't done or you just have to really catch people's attention. So I was like, what can I put that? And I was like, hey, you know what, what happens here is I'm overweight and also like, motivation.
- [82:57]
Alan Eist
Yeah. Like, share your life. But also.
- [83:02]
Marile
Yes. So then I was like, I'm a share. And I started sharing that I had PCOS and weight loss and I lost 40 pounds in two months. So everybody was like, what the heck? That's why in, in my video didn't go viral until February, because I start like in the, I just started going like crazy at the gym. Morning, night, eating healthy, pura, leave the soda, thank me later, you know? So I just kept on going and I kept on going and I did, I felt like just the fact that I shared PCOS and that I did lose weight because it is so hard to lose weight with pcos video is, that's really what caught people's attention. And then I started using Mexican music for workout videos.
- [83:52]
Alan Eist
Okay.
- [83:53]
Marile
Like grupo feed me. Like different type of. And every time I would upload, work, like, or transition like, of that, I'm losing weight with those. And that's when I started getting my followers, like, and my first video that went really viral, you guys, it went viral because I was jumping on a box.
- [84:27]
Alan Eist
Okay. Yes. Huh. I've seen that video. Was that before, right?
- [84:29]
Marile
Yes. And I was really like, that's the exercise that I've always done, even when I was £260. And people threw so much hate at me because they were like, oh my God, your knees. Or oh my God, like, you're too fat to be doing that. Oh my God, you're gonna hurt yourself. Like, and that's not true, you guys, because I was athletic my whole life. Like, and I used to play volleyball and I used to jump on those boxes, like high ass boxes. So my muscle, for some, it had memories. So my knees are good. Like, compared to somebody who's never done exercise their whole life. Like, dude, you're not, like, you're not gonna, your knees are not gonna be good. That's why you probably had 31. Your knees will probably break. But not mind cuz I, I, you know. So that's why I think I went viral. Cuz that video was also like a chubby girl doing that. Or they were talking. Yeah, they were talking like you're going to break your knees like big. But like give up. I'mma tell you guys something because that's going to help you like even learn to, to, to deal with those type of comments. So honestly I just kind of use that to motivate you, to motivate me. And I also started creating that type of content and I would always do. And I started recording myself a lot, A lot. And I did it like to where I had what was really at like chubby or fat, whatever you guys want to call me. And I went all the way down £90 and I used a video and, and they show me, I think that video has like more than 15 million views. And he's like, so that was honestly very cool. So I have had a lot of videos for my transition that have gone viral and have helped me get my followers. But I have also had lots of friends that I have collaborated with that have helped me also get where I'm at today.
- [86:26]
Alan Eist
So you know your weight loss journey. I've seen the transformation and it's something I suppose you're so proud about because that's the meta.
- [86:51]
Marile
Weight loss surgery. Because I'm going to tell you guys something. A lot of people think that I got the gastric. I do not. Did not. I did not get no surgery before losing my £90. I did that. I'm a bad. And there's comments that want to come and say, oh, with surgery this, with surgery that. No, with surgery I just became a better like, like completely on the outside. But on the inside what I did, that takes a lot of discipline and that takes a lot of time and effort and nobody's gonna take that away from.
- [87:26]
Alan Eist
Surgeries. Work hard for that money because surgery is not cheap.
- [87:32]
Marile
Like you just start going on unfortunately like, like a. They can now I have to fix this. Now insecurities come out. Yes, you guys. Like that's a lot of weight. So I had a lot of excessive skin and that became now my insecurity. It wasn't so much because I was fat, because you need, I'm telling you, I was an athletic person. I had a nice body growing. So for me to go for that to 260 and then I'm like yeah, yeah, hell yeah, 90 pounds. But I still see myself as 260 because I'm like what the is all this like, dude, like, because I never had like, flabby. And I'm like, because I was athletic. And that's how I can prove that I was athletic growing up. Because I don't have. I didn't have any loose skin on, like on my arm, my legs because the other wobbly. And I have cellular because. Yeah, but that's just so something normal with age, you guys. But honestly, I feel like I. I worked my ass off and I'm always gonna be so proud of that. Yeah, I mean, Nadian like, Nadian be like, that was surgery. I'm like, I don't give a. Because you go and lose 90 pounds before getting surgery. I could have just used the easy way out and got in surgery from the first part. And then after that you can just get very surgeries. And I'm not talking about weight loss surgery because that takes a lot of guts too, because you still have to be on a diet, you still have to go to the gym. You still have to do a lot when you do get weight loss.
- [88:51]
Alan Eist
And I feel like even then I feel like. But at the end of the day, it's like, you stay. When I started posting my. There's one video and it's funny because I posted it twice because I knew was going to trigger people, right? And you know what's so funny? I've always been, you want to talk?
- [89:47]
Marile
You know, I'm kind of glad you brought that up because it's true. Like, people always tell me, okay, if you guys watch my tik tok, I answer and respond a lot to hating comments, you guys. I don't respond because they affect me. Because like I said, nobody's going to take away what I did and how proud I am of being what I am today. But the fact that I respond is just to. Because that's what people like to see. Like you if I co on on there and I'm like, oh. Like, oh, oh, you look so beautiful. Oh, thank you so much for telling me I'm beautiful. People are just gonna swipe right through that. Now, if I'm talking to somebody who deserves it and who's just talking out of their ass, yes, people are gonna watch that. And that's the only reason why I answered. Not because it affects me or because I'm gonna be like hurting or I.
- [90:30]
Alan Eist
Exact. That's literally how I think about it too. Because I'm like, no, what was the moment for you where you're like, you know what? You had a lot of loose skin. What Was that moment where you're like, you know what? I'm gonna get surgery. Surgery.
- [90:55]
Marile
Well, I actually always wanted surgery, and I had pictures already saved. Like, I. I just did decided, like, you know what? I need to look good for myself because this is causing such insecurity. Like, I didn't even have, like, intimacy with this person, even though they knew me before surgery. Because, first of all, I was, like, freshly divorced. I was not really, like, out there like that, but I had already been talking to this person for a while. But I didn't. I couldn't. Because I could. I couldn't see myself, like, undressed in front of somebody. Like, when I've been with somebody for 10 years, and then looking with. With, like, a flabby stomach. Like, even though. Because I know it's not fat. Me. Like, I know that I. I already lost 90 pounds. Like, what do I have to do? And I went to different doctors, and I was like, bro, like, what could I do? And they're like, surgery. Like, it's. So, unfortunately, no Masakita surgery analyzed, like, my boobs. My. So he's like, you needed a mommy makeover. And that's when I decided. I said, okay, 20 pounds of, like, skin or something like that. And, like, I don't know how many pounds of, like, grass.
- [92:51]
Alan Eist
How was the recovery?
- [92:52]
Marile
It was in Mexico. It was in Guadalajara. The lipo that. That hurts. Like, my. I feel. Because I feel that my lipo hurt so much because they took off so much skin and they took off, like, so much gasa that my body was, like, burning. Yeah, it was just burning, you guys. Like, I don't know of anybody who's got an lipo out there. It feels like that, but me. Like, the only time I feel good was when I was, like, laying down in the donut. There's, like, a donut where you're just, like, putting your butt in there, you know? And then when I would get up, you feel like, a hot. Like, a hot. Like. Like, everything. Like, your blood is just hot. So, like, I was just like, what the hell? And that really hurt. But it was almost only for, like, three days because I was already doing tik toks. Like, two days later, I'm just like that. I feel like a person who loses weight is always going to have body dysmorphia. A. Honestly, me personally, my tummy tuck, I was so happy because that's where my whole, like, loose skin was at. I don't think a tummy tuck hurts. And there's a lot of other Procedures now, like skin tightening stuff where you don't even have to cut yourself. They literally just like tighten your skin. So there's way more options now. But my, my biggest thing, like the bbo, I don't even think that was like t. The worst was. Was the lipo. But other than that, I. And I went for a second one. I got a second lipo. I. I got my first lipo in 2023 in July, which was my. My makeover. And then in February, I did get a second lipo. Those are the two surgeries that I have. And I got another lipo just because the first lipo. No to. Because I was. I had so much loose skin, you guys, the second time. Because every. I was good everywhere except for like right here. Yeah. So that's where they focused on and that's what they worked on. And who knows, maybe this year if I don't go for a baby, I'm going to get.
- [95:22]
Alan Eist
You know, going through this long journey, you know, from losing all that weight to I'm sure at one moment feeling hopeless, like, oh my God. To now seeing the transformation you've had.
- [95:34]
Marile
I'm very happy that weight loss has helped me to be confident of. I would. I've been waiting for this moment for the longest time. Meloda. I want to look cute.
- [96:08]
Alan Eist
Yeah.
- [96:08]
Marile
Like, I'm gonna take all these pictures, I'm gonna take all these videos and I just want to look pretty and I just want to be healthy and I just want to show my children too, to be healthy. Because nobody taught me to be healthy growing up. Especially in the Mexican culture, they don't teach you that. So nobody taught me. Hey, Mikas. And my little nieces and nephews, they're half Arabic and half Mexican and they're like so skinny. And they eat a lot. Like, you know, they eat hella rice. They eat a lot of stuff, but they don't, they don't gain weight. So I just feel that it has just given me more confidence to take pictures to put myself out there. It did also just, you know, give me the confidence to put myself more out there on social media and unless less like transition type of way, just more of like confident like with my new body.
- [97:03]
Alan Eist
I think, you know, at the end of the day, you know, like you said, comfortable in your skin, you feel amazing and you look the part and be like, you know what?
- [97:48]
Marile
I'm going cry to sleep about it. No, I'm literally looking through those comments, see who the I can answer and like, you know, okay. And I Do answer for those of you that said, I answer to my positive comments but I answer in like comment like ote amo or like in. In. In private, you know.
- [98:01]
Alan Eist
Yeah. Paracasi terminar estre vista. Yeah, we're getting to the end, you guys. I want to go back a little bit to social media. You know, goes live two days before the TikTok ban.
- [98:23]
Marile
I don't think so. I already heard Elon Musk no say 270 days extension. Honestly, I hope not because this is where I started. Like this is my home. Like I love tick tock. I love all my followers. I love all the people that I have met there. It's gonna be very sad if it does go but whatever is next, I'm ready for it. C I Y and that and who knows? You guys, we have two days for me to Rich and Millie. I'm always gonna read nice night her craze. So go follow me. Estepero la verdad. No no kitan and if it does, you can find me on Instagram at la marile la underscore marile. You can also find me on tik tok Marile Perez. I also have lemonade Marile Perez. And that's it. You guys Facebook. I'm gonna start now. If they do take off tik tok go on Facebook.
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Alan Eist
Link down below at the end of every ep. Kind of give the opportunity for my guest to aar any rumor. Is there anything that you've heard about yourself or anything in general that you're like, you know what? That is so far from the truth.
- [99:37]
Marile
No por por chees you guys implemented. I did have like some drama that happened back then, but it's all fixed. I'm good with everybody, you guys. I am, I'm okay with them. And honestly, recently they have me like in a little cheese there with melip. Me and Melly are good you guys. I just want to leave that here. We're good. We're friends. Is one of the first people I ever went live with. Like she's one of like the first people that I ever even like helped me out on social media. So like yo.
- [100:41]
Alan Eist
Whether that's Korean spirit wise personally, and I'm so excited. Let me just say you are como like a breathe of fresh air. It's like, like hearing you just talk and how open and raw you are. You know, you've taken a lot of accountability for a lot of the things that have passed in your life and you're like, you know what.
- [101:53]
Marile
Are going through times that are hard to go through right now. You're always going to learn from this and it's going to get easier.
- [102:03]
Alan Eist
On all her social medias, which I'll leave on the screen as well as down below to follow me on all my social medias on any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you once again for being here.
- [102:15]
Marile
You're welcome, baby. I love you.
- [102:18]
Alan Eist
And thank you guys so much for watching. And we'll see you guys in the next one. Bye, guys. Yeah.