Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized
Episode: Yera Talks All: Childhood, Addiction, Toxic Relationship, Chisme & MORE!!
Release Date: November 28, 2025
Host: Alannized
Guest: Ying Gonzalez (a.k.a. Yera)
Episode Overview
In this emotionally raw and unfiltered episode of Noche de Pendejadas, Alannized welcomes social media personality Ying Gonzalez ("Yera") for a vulnerable conversation on family trauma, addiction, navigating toxic relationships, and reclaiming self-worth. With her signature frankness, Ying opens up about her tumultuous upbringing in Arizona, coping with her parents' struggles with infidelity and substance abuse, her brother's gender transition, losing and rebuilding relationships, internet “chisme,” and finding empowerment through faith and self-growth.
The conversation, delivered in candid Spanglish, blends cheeseman (gossip), heartfelt admissions, laughter, and hard-won wisdom, offering a genuine look behind Ying’s online persona. Listeners are left with a powerful message about resilience, self-definition, and refusing to be limited by one’s environment.
Key Discussion Points & Segments
1. Origin Story & Moving to LA
[02:00–04:00]
- Ying has been dividing time between LA and Arizona, finding more opportunities professionally in LA.
- “Arizona is dry. It’s a desert. But it’s fun, like I’m from there, so I mean, I could get turned. Like, we’ll get lit.” – Ying [02:33]
2. Growing Up in Arizona: Family Dynamics & Turmoil
[04:08–18:13]
- Ying describes her early childhood as happy, with tight-knit parents, but things shift at age 12 after her dad’s infidelity.
- Core memories: Getting a new phone from her dad after getting in trouble—a symbol of her “daddy’s girl” status.
- “I was daddy’s girl. My dad would fix everything for me, so I just… I didn’t care about anything, honestly.” – Ying [09:45]
- Describes intense sibling rivalry, and how her elder sibling’s gender transition and the parents’ separation caused strain.
- “It was really awkward to be like, hey, let’s talk about our feelings. With siblings, you’re like, stop being a pussy. Literally.” – Ying [13:04]
3. Discovering Infidelity and Family Trauma
[14:42–18:13]
- Ying shares in detail the shocking experience of discovering her father’s infidelity—including him moving the “side chick” into their house and forcing Ying to sleep in the living room.
- “My dad had convinced my mom to let the side chick live with us at the time.” – Ying [16:53]
- She connects the change in her dad’s behavior to the start of his drug use, tying drug addiction to drastic family decline.
4. Descent into Addiction, Parental Separation, and Aftermath
[18:13–33:50]
- Stories of violence, her dad’s attempted suicide, her mother following her father into addiction.
- Her mother’s insecurity led her to destructive choices: “She felt like as women, you know, you try to complacer a sus hombres. Maybe she thought, if I start doing drugs… maybe we’re gonna bond over this.” – Alannized [29:35]
- Being forced to grow up fast; raising her baby brother nearly alone after the family splintered: “It was like I was by myself. It was just me and my little brother, like all the time.” – Ying [31:43]
- Her older brother’s mental decline and subsequent diagnosis, possibly as a result of family trauma.
5. Rebuilding: Living With Her Aunt, Mom’s Recovery, and Resentment
[34:12–39:05]
- Life with her aunt brought needed stability, but not without rebellious moments.
- Ying describes the initial resentment towards her mom after she attempted rehab: “I would be super up [mean]…I was super mad that I felt like I got left with everything.”– Ying [36:39]
- Prioritizing her little brother’s well-being and shielding him from further trauma.
6. Healing, God, and Moving Forward
[37:23–39:05]
- Recognizes the toll of trauma hit only in her mid-teens (“I felt like I didn’t have a family in a way…”).
- Tools for healing: “Lately, honestly, I’ve been getting really close to God. I just pray, whenever I’m stressed out or something. Even sometimes cry when I pray because I feel so… connected.” – Ying [37:52]
- Forgiveness and boundary-setting, especially with her parents.
7. Returning to Parental Relationships: Estrangement and Reconciliation
[41:17–46:57]
- Her dad faked his own death, leading to extended grief and confusion until he unexpectedly resurfaced: “Out of nowhere…he was like, I was like what the fuck?” – Ying [42:26]
- Realizes drugs and trauma had fundamentally changed her father, rupturing any chance for their former closeness.
- Maintains limited contact for her own peace: “I know what it felt like to feel like my dad died, so I don’t want to end up on bad terms if anything ever does happen.” – Ying [49:07]
8. Effects on School and Growing Up Fast
[47:24–52:15]
- School was deprioritized amid household chaos; she became behind but ultimately finished via alternative schooling.
- “When my parents started doing drugs… it was like, you’re not even you anymore. I lost my parents.” – Ying [48:50]
- Explains how surviving her chaotic upbringing forced her into maturity young: “Now I feel very different. I feel like a grown ass woman. Period.” – Ying [52:15]
9. Empowering Advice and Reflection
[52:37–55:55]
- Deep reflections on gratitude for hardship: “I’m so grateful that I went through everything I did because…what would I be doing, who would I be, how would I be acting?” – Ying [52:15]
- “The piece of advice I could give you guys is…pray on it. Like, you will get through it. Grind your ass off, chase your dreams, chase what you want to do because the hard work will pay off.” – Ying [52:49]
- Fierce insistence on not letting one’s past define their future: “I knew…how I was going to be. Like I knew everything about myself before I was even it. I kind of manifested it for myself.” – Ying [54:11]
10. Chisme, Toxic Relationships, and Betrayal
[59:02–71:34]
- First love was a boy she met at a party who later became a source of significant pain and toxic cycles.
- Moved in with a close friend— someone she thought of as family—whose betrayal eventually hurt more than the breakup itself.
- “She was my sister. The only person I really had. Her and her mom gave me a family…but she also did a lot of shit to me.” – Ying [61:56]
- After spiraling to the point of hospitalization during the darkest moments of the breakup, Ying rebuilt herself through self-care and focus (“Eat, sleep, gym, work. That’s all I do now.” [71:13])
- “I respect him…but in a different way. I would not get back with him ever again.” – Ying [70:15]
11. Social Media, Criticism, and Confidence
[72:11–77:32]
- Ying’s online career was partly influenced by her ex, but built on her own efforts and work ethic.
- Deals with online hate by prioritizing her own happiness: “I don’t care. Period.” – Ying [73:54]
- Opens up about insecurities (teeth, weight) and how public scrutiny can hit old wounds.
12. Future Goals & Final Thoughts
[77:32–79:51]
- Envisions a future with a strong family, possibly kids, and her own successful business.
- Alannized praises Ying’s resilience and transparency, remarking on her personal growth against extraordinary odds.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- “My dad had convinced my mom to let the side chick live with us…” – Ying [16:53]
- “He [dad] kicked me out of my room and made me sleep in the living room because he gave my room to the girl.” – Ying [17:31]
- “When my parents started doing drugs…I lost my parents because it was like, you’re not even you anymore.” – Ying [48:50]
- “I’m so grateful that I went through everything I did, because…what would I be doing, who would I be, how would I be acting?” – Ying [52:15]
- “If you are going through something you think you’re not gonna get through, trust me, you are…grind your ass off, chase your dreams. The hard work will pay off.” – Ying [52:49]
- “Nobody made me, I made myself…nobody did the shit I did.” – Ying [73:04]
- “If you don’t heal, you’ll be stuck telling yourself it’s okay to act the way you act out because you went through this. You’re the driver of your life.” – Alannized [55:55]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Ying’s childhood, family background: [04:08–14:42]
- Discovering infidelity, addiction: [14:42–18:13]
- Aftermath, living with aunt, mom’s recovery: [34:12–39:05]
- Dad fakes his death, relationship fallout: [41:17–46:57]
- Advice on healing/growth: [52:37–55:55]
- Toxic relationships, moving on: [59:02–71:34]
- Life as a Creator & Online Criticism: [72:11–77:32]
- Future vision and closing: [77:32–end]
Tone & Style
This episode is highly candid, raw, and unfiltered, blending tough subjects with moments of humor, warmth, and empowerment. Both host and guest use Spanglish, slip comfortably between personal anecdotes and universal lessons, and often break difficult narratives with jokes or light-hearted banter. Ying’s openness about her family struggles, personal growth, and her insistence on self-worth are especially resonant for listeners seeking real, relatable stories behind the social media façade.
Summary Takeaway
Ying Gonzalez’s journey is a testament to surviving and thriving amid extraordinary adversity. Her episode of Noche de Pendejadas serves as both catharsis and motivation—a reminder that family pain, betrayal, and trauma can be overcome, but the choice to heal, grow, and break cycles rests within ourselves. Listeners are encouraged to confront their own hardships head-on, seek support (spiritual or otherwise), and manifest a life far greater than what their circumstances might dictate.