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Podcast: Not All Hood (NAH)
Hosts: Malcolm-Jamal Warner, Candace Kelley, Lane
Featured Guest: Kim Fields
Release Date: December 11, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and deeply engaging episode, Not All Hood brings together host Malcolm-Jamal Warner, co-host Candace Kelley, and special guest Kim Fields for an intimate roundtable addressing the lived experiences of Black educators, generational legacy, grief, loss, and the power of community. Rather than focusing on industry news, the majority of the episode unfolds as a vulnerable conversation about education, personal journeys, and how to find purpose and healing through service and gratitude.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Malcolm’s Journey: Purpose, Teaching, & Authenticity

[00:28]

• Malcolm shares his upbringing in a militant, socially active household, tracing his activism from the Rodney King protests to Black Lives Matter in 2020.
• He highlights the exhaustion of perpetual struggle and the shift to "living and centering in love," which brought him both peace and greater impact.
  • Quote: “Fighting all the time is exhausting, and it doesn’t necessarily bear fruit. So I made a conscious decision to just live and center and love. And I think when I took that approach, I found peace and impact.” – Malcolm [01:15]

The Importance of Black Male Teachers and Representation

[02:26]

• Malcolm describes a viral video of himself and Black male colleagues, emphasizing that, while nationally Black men make up less than 1.8% of teachers, at his Atlanta school it’s nearly 40%.
  • Quote: “To see that high concentration of Black male teachers is impactful because there’s a lot of people who go their entire K-12 never having a Black male teacher.” – Malcolm [04:13]
• Discusses authenticity at work and the power of students seeing diverse role models—not just for Black kids but also White kids.
  • Quote (Kim Fields): “It is vital that these Black children see a Black man in power...It’s also good for White kids to see it, to diversify their outlook.” [04:29]
• Malcolm’s community of Black male educators is informally connected nationally via social media, though not a formal coalition.

Systemic Challenges in Education

[06:36]

• Discusses why there are so few Black male educators: undervaluing and underpaying teachers, which Malcolm attributes to the field being female-dominated.
• Trains students for entrepreneurship, emphasizing the need to “unlearn” traditional narratives about success and learning.
  • Quote: “I coach my young people to be entrepreneurs. The facts are, if I was not an entrepreneur, I couldn’t afford to be a teacher.” – Malcolm [09:41]
• Explores the necessity of side businesses to survive as educators—but also the imperative that teaching be fairly compensated.
  • Quote: “We still deserve to make a dignified wage from our one job.” – Malcolm [10:02]

Teaching Ethos, Curriculum, & Legacy

[12:15]

• Key lessons Malcolm centers for students:
  • Seek joy, not fleeting happiness
  • Purpose over passion
  • Money isn’t “real,” bank systems, and entrepreneurship as essential financial literacy
  • The most valuable gift: access to his network

[15:59]

• Teaches ethnic studies, economics, and personal finance; believes in ministry through education.
• Describes a family legacy of education and his own non-traditional path via music and politics before entering teaching.

Generational Reflections and Relationships

[17:00]

• Shares about learning from his father, also a teacher, and mixed feelings about teaching's financial challenges
• Opens up about a complex and sometimes strained father-son dynamic, the journey to healing, and a milestone joint interview for Ed Week.
  • Quote: “Not hearing that, not getting that affirmation from your father causes you to never feel satisfied by the things you achieve and causes you to work without rest.” – Malcolm [22:27]

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Grief, Loss, and Service: Sharing Personal Tragedies

Malcolm on Losing His Son

[28:26]

• Malcolm recalls the tragic loss of his 16-year-old son Bryce Brooks, who drowned saving three children caught in a riptide. A family friend Chuck also lost his life attempting the rescue.
  • Quote: “My son lost his life in service to others and not to mention strangers…The kids he saved happen to be APS kids where I serve.” – Malcolm [41:09]
• The episode chronicles his grief journey, coinciding with his legislative fight and run for the Atlanta School Board.

Navigating Public Grief

[32:44]

• Malcolm and Kim discuss the complex reality of grieving publicly, emotional labor, and the challenge of being the object of others' grief.
  • Quote (Kim Fields): “People bring you their grief and they want to lay that at your feet, and it’s out of love…But you’re in the midst of your grieving.” [34:02]
• They share that others were helped by seeing their openness and different ways of processing loss.

Approaches to Healing

[38:09], [39:25]

• Both Kim and Malcolm conclude that therapy wasn’t their main path to healing; instead, the support of invested friends and purposeful work (e.g., starting foundations in their children’s names) gave them support.
  • Quote: “We would need less therapists, if we just had better friends.” – Malcolm [38:33]

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The Power of Legacy: Parenting, Mentorship & Foundations

Shaping and Maintaining Legacy

[49:05]

• Kim explains her perspective that parenting evolves and passes into legacy and friendship as children grow into adulthood. She’s thoughtful and methodical about building a foundation to honor her son’s legacy.

[56:20]

• Both discuss the importance of financial literacy, transparency with children about money, and the benefits of preparing young people to be entrepreneurs.
  • Quote (Kim Fields): “I wanted him to be versed. I wanted him to know. And he did.” [56:20]

Signs, Dreams & Presence

[58:32]

• Both share how their children haven’t appeared in dreams but manifest in other ways—like Malcolm’s hummingbird sightings after Bryce’s passing.
  • Quote: “It became a thing to ask for him to show up as a hummingbird... and like, hummingbirds will fly up to me…” – Malcolm [58:43]

Goodbye Conversations

[61:02]

• Kim recounts moving “goodbye” conversations with her son, emphasizing love, safety, and friendship.
  • Quote: “You feeling safe with me as a child meant more to me than all of the love and respect that I know you have for me.” – Kim Fields [62:37]
• Malcolm shares a final faith-centered conversation with his son and a prophetic discussion about legacy that led to a campaign to name a street for Bryce.

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Gratitude, Faith, and Moving Forward

Living with Intention and Acceptance

[71:55], [74:44]

• Both articulate that the way forward is living in gratitude, accepting what cannot be changed, and choosing not to dwell in “why.”
  • Quote (Kim Fields): “When I step into the light of gratitude…that calms it down for me.” [74:12]
  • Quote (Malcolm): “Not all things are for our knowing…being focused on what. What am I supposed to do now?” [75:49]
• There is an emphasis on “living and being present, being intentional and being focused” as the ultimate takeaway.

Legacy of Community

[79:06]

• The episode closes with a celebration of Black community, the village, and the power of connection in collective healing.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Education & Impact

• “We have more to unlearn than we have to learn.” – Malcolm [02:00]
• “If the majority of my colleagues looked like me across the profession, we would be much better compensated.” – Malcolm [07:10]

On Grief & Legacy

• “My depression was always the heaviest when I centered myself the most. And I always found the most healing when I served others.” – Malcolm [31:45]
• “You feeling safe with me as a child meant more to me than all of the love and respect that I know you have for me.” – Kim Fields [62:37]

On Navigating Life After Loss

• “I have more peace than I ever have.” – Malcolm [78:32]
• “What’s good is living and being present, being intentional and being focused.” – Kim Fields [79:23]

On Intention & Faith

• “Not all things are for our knowing. In fact, most things are not for our knowing.” – Malcolm [75:49]

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Important Timestamps

• Malcolm’s Early Story, Activism & Teaching Philosophy — [00:28] to [05:15]
• The Impact of Black Male Educators & Systemic Barriers — [05:18] to [09:47]
• Entrepreneurship & Teaching as ‘Side Hustle’ — [10:02] to [11:55]
• Legacy Building in the Classroom & Network Access — [12:15] to [15:59]
• Navigating Grief: The Loss of Bryce & Public Mourning — [28:26] to [41:36]
• Therapy vs. Friendship and Tactical Grieving — [38:09] to [42:12]
• Reflections on Parenting & Legacy Work — [49:05] to [51:01]
• Signs from Loved Ones After Loss — [58:32] to [59:41]
• Goodbye Conversations — [61:02] to [70:45]
• Intentional Living, Faith, and Moving Forward — [74:44] to end

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Conclusion: What’s Good? Final Reflections

Final segment - “What’s Good?”
[79:15]

• Kim, Malcolm, and Lane close with a meditation on the “good” in their lives: living with intention, being grateful, focusing on legacy and community, and cherishing the presence and strength of their village.

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For Listeners:

This episode is an essential listen for anyone navigating loss, working in education, or seeking wisdom about authentic living, Black legacy, and the transformative power of healing within community.

Transcript

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[Malcolm]

Edu I've lived a lot of life. I grew up in a house with a very militant father. He's a Morehouse man, a member in the Nation of Islam, a member of the Black Panther Party.

[Kim Fields]

Like, high expectations. High expectations.

[Malcolm]

That, and I grew up on Morehouse campus as a kid, so I grew up a certain kind of way. And, you know, I would say I remember my first protest, like Rodney King, like, what's that, 91? And I think, you know, about 2020 and Black lives Matter movement and the organizing work that we did here in Atlanta around that. And so much of my time is just spent, like, fighting, fighting, fighting. And I learned eventually.

Fighting all the time is exhausting, and it doesn't necessarily bear fruit. And so I made a conscious decision to just live and center and love. And I think when I took that approach, I found peace and impact. So I say centered there.

[Kim Fields]

Wow.

[Lane]

When you are inside of the classroom, I teach too, but it's a different level. I'm, you know, maybe 18 to 22 year olds, but the age group that you teach in general is what?

[Malcolm]

I have a high school senior, so my kids are close in age. So they are like 17, 18 also.

[Lane]

They know everything. They think they know everything.

[Malcolm]

You know, I don't get that.

[Lane]

Really.

[Malcolm]

I don't. Honestly, they're vulnerable.

[Kim Fields]

They come to you vulnerable?

[Malcolm]

I think they come to me open. I think the first thing that I try to impart on my students is that we have more to unlearn than we have to learn. And I think it's incentering the need to unlearn that. They don't come to me believing they have all the answers because I've proven to them so many times the things that they believe they know are incorrect.

[Lane]

Being a black man who is a teacher, I mean, the numbers are so tiny across the country on any level.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah.

[Lane]

Whether you teach in kindergarten, third grade, or, you know, college level. So your school, though, as many people know, let's just get out in the open. Let's get that viral video out of the open. Okay, okay. You know I think that when I first came across it, I was like, wow, that is so empowering, because that's how you teach other people that they can do something they see themselves.

[Kim Fields]

Amen. Right.

[Lane]

And you showed so many people, just through one video, how important it is to have a black man inside of the classroom for people who may not have seen it. Can you explain the video I'm talking about?

[Malcolm]

Yeah, there was a minute and a half video that I posted a few months ago of me just walking in and through my school, greeting the other black men who work. At my school, black men represent less than 1.8% of all teachers. And at my school, we represent almost 40% of all of the teachers and a staff of about 150 teachers. And so when you see that concentration of black men in one school and you're talking about a traditional public school, not like a gendered school or anything like that, that's. It's impactful to see. On top of that, what I think is very unique about my school is just that I serve at a place where our administration allows us to show up authentic and show up true and show up as we are. You know, I'm not always wearing a suit. Sometimes I'm wearing a baseball cap, a hoodie, T shirt, you know, cargo pants or what have you. And I'm very comfortable that way, as are my colleagues. And so to see that high concentration of black male teachers is impactful because there's a lot of people who go their entire, you know, K through 12, never having a black male teacher or.

[Kim Fields]

Maybe or a black teacher period, ever.

[Malcolm]

Right. Period.

[Kim Fields]

Or black teacher period. And I think. And that age group, it is so very important that they have a role model because they're getting ready to go out into the world. Are they going to a work situation or. Or they're going away to college. And it is vital that these black children see a black man in power and in authority. It's also good for white kids to see it, to diversify their outlook, to diversify their world. It's extremely important. And it sounds like you are in an absolutely ideal situation where you can show up the way you wish to show up and be fully authentic in who you are in relating to these children.

The presence of black men.

In that sort of position, not just in education, but across the board, there is a dearth of that. There's just a dearth. And to see this.

It's wonderful. It's fantastic. And is there any sort of. Are you collaborating with other black male teachers across the country or is it you're just in Atlanta.

[Malcolm]

One of the benefits for me as a teacher has been that it's created platform for me. And so via social media, I've been able to honestly get in community with a lot of black male teachers from across the country. There's no formal coalition that we have, if you will, but if we were to start to name some of the black male educators who have platforms, influence, site, there aren't that many of us and so we all really know each other. So there have been opportunities that we've had where we've done like online forums and, and things to that effect. I have a show called Teacher Talk Live where I get a lot of us together often to have conversations and talk about, you know, contemporary issues in the education field.

Truth be told.

And I often get asked the question of like, how do we get more black men in the classroom? Like what could we do? And I think the reason that we don't have as many black men is the same issue that we just have in education.

In total, which is that we don't value education and we don't compensate teachers the wage that we should. And the reason that we don't compensate teachers the way that we should is because it is a female dominated field.

If the majority of my colleagues looked like me across the profession, we would be much better compensated.

[Kim Fields]

That's always amazed me and caused me to wonder.

Education and they don't respect it. They continuously take money away from educational budgets. And you would think that the concentration of the thought would be these people, these young people, these kids are going to be running our country, they're going to be taking care of us, they're going to be our leaders, they're going to be creating businesses. It would seem to me that you would want to put a lot of money in this to grow people, to grow these people, to be productive citizens, to be productive and to take over where one regime is moving out. And you can put in educated young people, you can put in business minded people, you can put in people to take over. But it doesn't feel that way.

[Lane]

It feels like, it feels like we're dealing more with, you know, censorship and what patterns they're using. Like we hear exactly those headlines more than we hear other headlines in terms, as opposed to how much they're getting paid or bringing back men into the classroom. It's these books were removed because of this one page.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, but I think everything that you named is the worst fear and not the goal. I mean, 80% of all of our money is owned by 2% of the people.

[Kim Fields]

That's right.

[Malcolm]

And so when we look at, like, what are we talking about here? There's very little capital to even create opportunity from what we're telling young people is out there. I think one of the greatest sins that we commit in education is that we train our young people to be good employees.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

And not for other people. And then on top of that, we have encultured.

Brain drain, especially in our community. We tell a black child to get good grades so that they can get a scholarship, to go to a good school, to get a good job, to buy a house in a good neighborhood. They tell white kids and then get upset about why Sally running down the street with a dog in a neighborhood that they never lived in before. And so we can't have both. And so, you know, again, it goes to the unlearning that we have to do as educators. I coach my young people to be entrepreneurs.

[Kim Fields]

That's right.

[Malcolm]

And the facts are, if I was not an entrepreneur, I couldn't afford to be a teacher.

[Lane]

Is those everybody needs a side business.

[Kim Fields]

Right. Even.

[Lane]

Even the most. The richest people in the world, they don't do just one thing anyway. You should always. I always preach, you should always have something on the side, because that's fair.

[Malcolm]

But we still deserve to make a dignified wage from our one job.

[Lane]

Yeah, this is true. But in 2025, it seems. Not that it's unattainable, but it doesn't seem like that's the way that we are going. So, for example, you just said you have side hustles that help. Right. With your.

[Malcolm]

No, I think what I'm saying is that being able to be successful as an entrepreneur in the education space has made it so that teaching is a side hustle.

[Lane]

I see what you're saying.

[Malcolm]

So it's made it to where I have the privilege to teach without the same financial strain as the majority of my colleagues.

[Lane]

Because you consult.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Lane]

And you sit on the board.

[Malcolm]

I sit on the board. I have a clothing line.

[Lane]

You have a clothing line.

[Malcolm]

I host conferences, I curate conferences, I do social media strategy, et cetera. So it's, you know, I have to sleep less, I have to rest less, I have to work more in order to be able to have a dignified lifestyle, to be able to provide for my family, and then also to be able to show up in the classroom free.

[Lane]

Hmm.

That'S interesting. So your side hustle is not. You don't call it a side hustle. You're saying your main gig.

[Malcolm]

No, I say, you know, I'm an entrepreneur, I'm a business owner. I think like, you know, when we say side hustle and things like that, we kind of little ourselves. Right. Like I see. Yeah, we shrink ourselves.

[Kim Fields]

Diminish it. Diminish it. Yeah.

[Malcolm]

Right. When. When in actuality, I mean, I've had years where I've been one of the largest merchandisers in the education space. So it, you know, I think, not that we need to be braggadocious about ourselves, but we also need to never diminish ourselves.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

Because then, however do we demand our value.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

Especially in our field. I mean, you know how like as a teacher you think about how many innovative ideas and things that we have that we could take to another district and be paid handsomely as a consultant, but our own would just take from us and we would give it, but we wouldn't get our just due.

[Kim Fields]

Wow.

[Lane]

What are you mainly trying to unlearn in terms of. I'm sorry, like with the students, what are you trying to reverse in terms of what you want them to unlearn?

[Malcolm]

Two very important things.

One that is so much more important for them to center joy in their lives than happiness, meaning centering themselves on earning things in life that can never be taken from them, that will always be an achievement that is theirs, as opposed to fleeting opportunities to feed a moment that gives you something that you can't hold on to. And the other being that they have to be rooted in their purpose over their passion and that their purpose is how God has designed them to be of good and of value to others, as opposed to their passion, which is selfish and self indulging and only for their own benefit. And that when children are able to have clarity between the two and discernment between the two, that all the decisions that they make in life will be rooted and something that I think will bear more impact and more success for them.

[Lane]

You teach?

[Malcolm]

I teach ethnic studies, personal finance and government.

[Lane]

So what's it like being in your class? You know, how, what, what, what? Those two points that you just explained, how do you get that, you know, through the.

Finance.

[Malcolm]

That's the first conversation that we're having. Because if the student doesn't even understand my ethos, then none of it even matters because I'm teaching you economics and I'm teaching you about money, but I'm also going to teach you that money isn't real. I'm going to teach you about a fractional banking system and how banks are Able to create money. And how the illusion that we have of the scarcity of money is one, that we shouldn't have, and it's why it makes it hard.

[Kim Fields]

So this is about financial education, financial literacy.

[Malcolm]

Yes, ma'.

[Kim Fields]

Am. Which is what we are not exposed to, correct? As a whole, we're not exposed to.

[Malcolm]

Well, and two, how can you talk to someone about managing money if you don't talk to them about how to get money? And so that's why I bring it back to the, you know, why it's important to talk about entrepreneurialism and then even to be able to bring a Kim Jones, New York Times selling, you know, best selling author or, you know, a myriad of friends that I have who I get access to and bring. I always tell my students that the most valuable thing that I could ever give them is access to my network.

[Lane]

Mm, you got that right. It is the people who, you know, you know, people talk a lot about Morehouse. I'm curious, has that network kind of really proved what you thought it would and what I've heard about the Morehouse network?

[Malcolm]

Yeah. So I grew up on the campus. I did not attend Morehouse before I have any brothers. He didn't even go to the house. But a proud graduate of Georgia State University Andrew Young School of Public Policy. But.

You know, network is everything and your relationship with others is everything. I'm a member of the hundred black men of Atlanta and I think about, you know, how many areas of professional black men that allows me to then give access to my young people. I have a student of mine right now who's this kid is a senior high school interested in fintech and coding his own fintech apps. And I have a friend who happens to be in fintech and in the edtech space who, who I'm able to just connect them with and out of. Kid has an internship and potentially a scholarship to go to college next year. That's, you know, those are the things that matter. Your original question was like, what is it like to be in my class? And for me, education is a ministry and that's how I treated it.

[Kim Fields]

It feels like that. Are these three separate classes or are they just in one class?

[Malcolm]

So this semester I have ethnic studies. Next semester I will have. I don't think I have government. I believe I only have economics and personal finance.

[Kim Fields]

So they're taught each different, different semesters. They're taught. They're not. You don't. You just have that one class. You don't have. You can't. You don't aren't teaching them.

[Malcolm]

Sometimes you have multiple at one time. You know, in the teacher world, we'll call that multiple preps. I prefer not to have that. What I do appreciate about my school is they've given me like the soft teacher life, so it allows me to stay focused, which is nice.

[Kim Fields]

What drew you to education?

[Malcolm]

I come from a family of educators. My dad is also a teacher, still teaches to this day. Also teaches economics and personal finance.

[Lane]

Is he in Montclair, New Jersey?

[Malcolm]

He was in Montclair, New Jersey.

[Lane]

Okay.

[Malcolm]

And he now is in DeKalb County.

[Kim Fields]

Wow.

[Lane]

Yeah, he came on down.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, he's down here.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah.

[Lane]

What was that like? I mean, listen, my father was an educa. My father, my mother, all my aunts, all the people. I mean, everybody who's at my Thanksgiving table, everybody all in education. But I want you to answer this question. Did you feel, did they try to teach you away from teaching or did they say, you know what, come on.

[Malcolm]

In, come on in. You know what's funny? I remember being in high school Monday, happened to be my teacher for like a class.

[Lane]

Oh, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

[Kim Fields]

Tell me about that.

[Lane]

You stayed in the whole semester?

[Malcolm]

Oh, yeah, look, I made it with your dad. I made it. That wasn't the hard part.

[Kim Fields]

The hard part was what was the class? What was the class?

[Malcolm]

What did my dad teach me? I don't even remember what it was. I felt like it was like a social studies class or something, maybe.

[Kim Fields]

How fantastic is that?

[Malcolm]

Yeah, look, that was a cool experience. But I remember one day after school asking my father how much he made a year. And I remember him telling me, and I remember going, I ain't never done that.

You made what? Yeah, I ain't never doing that. And I remember that vividly and to the point that I was a non traditional teacher. So I didn't go to school to be a teacher and everything.

It took me nine years to get my four year degree. I went to college fresh out of high school. Had an opportunity to do freestyle Friday on BET's 106 and Park. Thought I was going to be a rapper.

[Lane]

I read that.

[Malcolm]

Thought I just, you know, I made it in the hall of fame, more like I went on one time and got out of there. So I thought, I thought, yeah, I thought I was gonna be on somebody's stage, be a young millionaire, and that was gonna be life. I left for Atlanta, dropped outta school, and life did not turn out how I thought it was gonna be. Had some real come to Jesus life events. And then I ended up re enrolling in the school. I thought I'd be a lobbyist, but.

[Kim Fields]

That'S what I thought you had political aspirations.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, I just, I knew I would work in politics of some form. I wanted to lobby for causes that I believed in.

[Kim Fields]

And, and at this point in time. How old are you at this particular time?

[Malcolm]

I moved to Atlanta like 2004. I think I was like 20 or something. Oh, you were young. You were very young. I had like 200 in my pocket and a mattress that sat on the floor and a TV with the hump on the back.

[Kim Fields]

Like that's all I had.

[Lane]

You just had a lot of listeners say, I know that life.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. I live my first two years in Atlanta. I survived off of selling my CDs outside of the clubs on Far Road. That's right, for two years. That's how I, I survived. And so I thought that was going to be life. And I, I end up going back to school. And at the time, once I graduated, this is like 2011, we're still coming off the recession and there were no jobs, but you can get a job teaching. And they were hiring for teachers, a critical need for special ed teachers. And I ended up starting to teach special education. And that was my first step in. Now what was interesting for me is I remember, I remember the first time driving through the parking lot at the school and seeing so many rundown cars.

And I remember my dad saying how much he made.

[Lane]

And you said, this map is map.

[Malcolm]

I'm like, oh, I'm here, I'm here. And you know, and that, that was, that was very interesting. But you know, as God would have it, you know, you'd be, you'd be surprised what he has designed for you that you don't even think to ask for. And, and so God has been very good to me.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah.

[Lane]

Yeah. Those come to Jesus moments, do they involve your dad? Look, military dad.

[Kim Fields]

I'm curious.

[Malcolm]

You know what's interesting? Me and my, my father and I unfortunately have had like a, a tough back and forth relationship, truly. And I don't think I've ever really, I've never talked about it publicly. But you know, we've had, we've had some strains in our relationship. I wish in my heart of hearts that we were closer and that we healed some of the things that we have between us. But.

One of my fondest, most recent memories is Ed Week magazine reached out to me about doing a story on me and wanted to talk about black male educators who Were generational educators, multi generational educators like yourself, all my aunts, my dad. It's really a family business. So I asked my father if he would join in on the interview, and he did. And so I got to share the interview, have a whole photo shoot in my classroom with my dad.

[Lane]

And black and white pictures.

[Malcolm]

Yes.

[Lane]

Those were lovely.

[Malcolm]

You've been doing your homework.

[Kim Fields]

I have.

[Lane]

I'd be a good student, sir.

[Malcolm]

Okay.

[Lane]

Yeah, I saw that.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. So that's a fond memory of mine. But I think, man, I wish I could have more of that. Father, son to black male educator, energy to share with the world.

[Kim Fields]

Well, is this something you can work on that?

[Malcolm]

Well, I think even in speaking in this moment, God has already kind of started to unfold this all work out.

[Kim Fields]

He must be awfully proud of you. He has to be proud of you.

[Malcolm]

I pray so I. You know, I will say this. I think a lot of. A lot of men go their entire life without ever hearing their father say, I'm proud.

[Kim Fields]

I'm proud of you. I love you.

[Malcolm]

And for a lot of us. And it's one of the things that I had to learn to heal. Not hearing that, not getting that affirmation from your father causes you to never feel satisfied by the things you achieve and causes you to work without rest.

[Kim Fields]

That's right.

[Malcolm]

That's right. And so that's one of the things that I'm working to heal.

[Kim Fields]

Wow. Well, you seem to be a man of intention. And it feels to me that if you set your mind to this healing process with your father and you have the tools, you have tools and you know where to get more tools, it'll happen.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

[Kim Fields]

It'll happen.

[Lane]

And the beautiful. He's here.

[Kim Fields]

He's here. Yeah. He's still here.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. You know, I don't pretend to be in control. I don't pretend to be in control, but I do. I am intentional about being open.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

So I do appreciate what you said.

[Kim Fields]

It'll happen.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

[Kim Fields]

It'll happen.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

[Lane]

So how has a teacher. Correct me if I'm wrong. Never been on the board of education where you're on in 150 years.

[Kim Fields]

Is that right?

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Lane]

How is it possible that in the board of education a teacher is not on there? Because you have all the.

[Malcolm]

We would assume.

[Kim Fields]

Yes.

[Malcolm]

We would assume.

[Lane]

So you're the first.

[Malcolm]

So, yes, to your point. I serve on the Atlanta public school board. I was elected in 2023, started my first term in 2024. So I'm halfway through my first four year term in 150 years. Now, a teacher has never served on a school board in the city of Atlanta.

[Kim Fields]

And that's so odd. How can a teacher not be on the school board?

[Lane]

What were they talking about without teachers?

[Malcolm]

I would ask you this, okay. In the locality that you live, and it's not to put you on the.

[Lane]

Spot, but okay, it's a two way street.

[Malcolm]

Can you name two school board members where you live?

[Lane]

Okay, where I live right now?

[Kim Fields]

No.

[Lane]

No.

[Malcolm]

Right. So if we can't even name these people, why is it shocking to us that these people aren't in alignment with what they're there?

[Lane]

That's the last question you gonna ask me.

[Malcolm]

Just say like we, we don't pay much attention, right. To school board. And I think this is the, this is the interesting part.

A lot of people can name the mayor of Atlanta. You probably can name a couple city council members you might even be able to name like some county commissioners. But your school board has a budget that's more than 2x the size of the cities, more than 2x the size of THE COUNTY. They control 51% of your property tax.

[Lane]

That's just right now. That's true.

[Malcolm]

And you can't name who the person is that is accountable to you that governs that much money. And in Atlanta, you're talking about a $1.87 billion budget.

[Kim Fields]

Hmm. Wow.

[Lane]

You got the seat the first time you ran.

[Malcolm]

Yes. So I ran in 2021 for city council in Atlanta. Got respectively spanked.

Shout out to the OG Michael Julian Bond Jr. Michael Julian Bond. But he.

Who now has been a mentor and a good friend. But I ran again. And the only reason I ran at that time was I was bearish about a boat that he had made. But. And I just need to make a point cause I'm that person. But it, but it was still illegal at that time for me to even run for school board. It said that if I run for school board and I'd won and I probably would have at that time, I would have had to resign my job. And mind you, school board only pays like $22,000. So there was no trade off there. So it wasn't going to be an either or for me. So I had to advocate at the state House for two years to get the law changed to change the charter for the Atlanta Public School Board.

[Kim Fields]

Oh, the charter had to be passed.

[Malcolm]

So we had to get the charter changed. And so once we got the charter changed and that then allowed me to be able to run.

[Lane]

Okay. That is some real intention and time and planning. That's amazing. Sometimes you have to change the law.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, I mean, if you have systemic issues, then you have to have systemic solutions. So I mean, we can't just scream and be mad at things and be defeated by things. We have to do something about it. My favorite saying is, you know what? You don't change, you choose.

[Kim Fields]

That's right. Yeah. What you don't change, you choose.

[Lane]

And that is very political. I remember when my father was on the school board. It is political.

[Malcolm]

I was here loaded with all kinds of experience.

[Lane]

Yes, I am. So how was running and getting that seat.

[Malcolm]

Man?

[Lane]

Tell us some things. Tell us some things.

[Malcolm]

It was.

Probably the most challenging time of my life. I think the moment I'm sitting at a table just like ours in my.

[Kim Fields]

In my.

[Malcolm]

In my dining room. I'm sitting around with a group of my friends. I keep bringing up Kim Jones name because she's here in the room, but she happened to be here at the table.

[Lane]

Yes, yes. We have an offering.

[Kim Fields]

Pause.

[Lane]

We have a big, why don't y' all clap? How big are y'?

[Kim Fields]

All?

[Malcolm]

But you know, my sister Kim was, she was at the table as well as some of my other very close friends and got a phone call as we're trying to decide what date we would announce that I was going to run. And we get a phone call from a family friend. My 16 year old son had left to go on a family vacation with.

Another group of families that, you know that we've been around each other for over 10 years. And the phone call says that they could not find my son in the water there at the beach. And it had been like 20 minutes at that point.

[Kim Fields]

And.

[Malcolm]

So then we ended up finding out that unfortunately we had lost my 16 year old son. His name is Bryce Brooks. And we had also lost our close friend Charles Johnson, we call him Chuck, who tried to go in the rescue Bryce. The unfortunate thing is that.

Bryce had gone out into the water to try to pull back three kids who they had seen being pulled out further to the beach. What they didn't know was that the kids were being pulled adrift by a riptide. And so.

Bryce was able to get help to the kids in time, but unfortunately they weren't able to get help to him in time. And unfortunately Bryce succumbed and so did Chub as well. So.

On the hills of losing my son.

Having to go through his funeral, all of the things I had, you know, all these years of work that we did to try to get to the point to decide if I was going to run or not. It was kind of in the air. Honestly, a lot of me was not wanting to do it.

We didn't know the law got changed yet. I think two weeks after Bryce passed, we got notified that the law was getting changed and that the governor was going to sign the charter change. Mind you, we live in Georgia. So for those that don't know, like, less than, I think 4% of Democratically sponsored bills ever get passed in the Georgia state legislature. And that bill did get passed. And so I felt the responsibility.

To run. And so we did. On top of that, I ran against an incumbent. And so for those that don't know, an incumbent is someone who's already in office, 88% of the time, they win. 88% of the time. We ended up winning the election 65% to 35% and citywide at large election.

In a lot of ways, I felt like it was divine or.

[Kim Fields]

Sounds like.

[Malcolm]

Not even supposed to be in the position I'm in, and yet I am.

[Lane]

How did you find what it took to rise every day during that time?

[Malcolm]

Decentering.

Decentering. I think, you know, I'm gonna. I'm transparently like, I talk. I used to work in the mental health field before I was a teacher and. And what I did was coach people who have lived experience with mental illness on how to tell their. Their stories and then get. Create opportunities for me to share their stories in nursing schools and hospitals and places.

So I talk transparently about mental health. And for me, I've lived with depression, I've lived with anxiety, I've taken medication for it, et cetera. And I find what I've learned over the years is that my depression was always the heaviest when I centered myself the most. And I always found the most healing when I served others.

And I think for me, de centering myself and only thinking about how I could be a vessel of service or being hyper focused on that.

Helped me. That may not be the thing for everybody. Like, my wife experienced grief differently than I did. She was probably the opposite of me. Like, you know, for her, she needs her time to herself by herself and maybe with her close village. But me, I needed to de center.

You know, earlier I saw you talking with some folks and it made me reflect because I remember because Bryce's passing was very, very public. It was all over the blogs. It was. You know, my wife and I were on the Jennifer Hudson show. Like, you know, it's all over the place. And so there was nowhere for over a year that I can go that people wouldn't look at me with pity behind their eyes. And it was that hurt, that pity, that, that kind of, you know, you can call it empathy, but you, you.

[Kim Fields]

Read it as pity. As pity.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. And for me, it was just. And I don't even. I don't want to center the word pity. I just want to say I, I saw. I. I would see the hurt behind people's eyes often.

And I just couldn't wait to stop seeing the hurt behind people's eyes.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah. Yes.

[Malcolm]

And so today I'm watching, you know, the hurt behind people's eyes as they talk to you. And like, I empathize with that because.

If you're a person rooted in service, you then feel like you have to have. You understand.

[Kim Fields]

So them right. So them right.

[Malcolm]

And so, you know, I watch it and I'm like, man, that's emotional labor. You didn't ask for.

[Lane]

We talked about this earlier.

[Kim Fields]

We talked about it earlier, people. And that's something that I'm learning because I've never gone through anything like this. And I. It's out of love. It's out of love. But people bring you their grief and they want to lay that, Lay that at your feet, and it's out of love.

[Malcolm]

Yes.

[Kim Fields]

But it's.

You're in the midst of your grieving, and so it's a little hard to really console them and make them feel better. But some of the feedback that I have received that by doing the shows that I've done, the Tamron hall show and Robin Roberts, that it really helped a lot of people. Those shows really helped a lot of people. It helped them with their grief because they saw that I was okay and that I, in my attitude and the fact that I was going forward and how I expressed my grief and it wasn't traditional how people normally would, and it helped other people. And I'm very grateful for that, that I was able to give that it was authentic and it was. It's the way, you know, people like you said, people grieve differently. And my grieving was probably non traditional, but it was mine. It was my journey the way I did it. But I'm so glad that it did help other people. And probably your words will help help people as well. You know, I think when they see that you're okay and also gives. It gives them another way of looking at this thing, looking at dying and losing a child, it's. When a child goes before you, it's very different. It's Very different, because it's supposed to be, is that, you know, your children outlive you when they pass before you do. It's, it's, it's very different.

[Malcolm]

It's unnatural.

[Kim Fields]

Appears to be, that's. It appears to be unnatural. But it's the way things happen.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

[Kim Fields]

You know, it's the way they happen. So in that it is natural, it is the way it was the way we're. It wasn't traditional.

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Kim Fields]

But it was still within that. It's still natural in that way. That's our lot, you know, that.

We survived our children, our children didn't survive us.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, I agree with you totally. And I think we talked about this before. I think.

I've learned so much, so much from.

Experiencing living beyond my child.

What's more, I've had to do it twice because I'd also lost a daughter to premature birth. And so that in itself, you know, I thought that was a learning and loss and grief and then going through it with the 16 year old child who's their own person with their own community, everything. And I, and I know what you.

[Kim Fields]

Poured in, you poured in. That's, you know, an emotional and psychological and love investment.

[Malcolm]

Yes. Who is their own person, who has their own, their own world. And, and, and even in your case, you're talking about, you know, someone, a child who has built so much legacy and.

[Kim Fields]

Exactly.

[Malcolm]

Made so much impact.

[Kim Fields]

Exactly.

[Malcolm]

It, it's all very different.

[Kim Fields]

It's different.

[Malcolm]

It's all very different. And that's why, you know, for any parent that has the misfortune of being in this grieving parent club.

You know, there are no right words for anybody there. There are no perfect things to say or perfect things to do.

[Kim Fields]

Right. Right. It just has to be organic. It has to be how, how you, how you go forward, how you go forward with your feelings. Yeah. Have you taking any grief classes or grief counseling? Did you get individual grief therapy or anything like that?

[Malcolm]

For me, that did not. In this. Speaking as a person who.

Did counseling for eight years, I'm not anti counseling, but for me, it was just not what I needed.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

The way I feel, that's how I felt. I.

Somebody's gonna. This is probably gonna be a clip. But if.

We would need less therapists, if we just had better friends.

[Kim Fields]

Too.

[Malcolm]

Often.

You know, I would go to counseling and I would honestly kind of feel like, what am I paying for? And some folks would say, oh, maybe you didn't have the right person. I've been to a lot of counselors and sat down with a lot of folks. And what I found is a common thread between a good counseling session and a good friend is someone that you can, you can lay down the truth at the feet of who can give you honest feedback that's not clouded by their own bias or their own fears.

And so, you know, a bad friend and bad therapist can be fought to the same thing.

What worked for me is having a village of.

People who understood how I grieved. I'm tactical when I grieve. Right. For me, it was all right. We're going to put together a foundation in Bryce's name. Exactly. It was all right. We're going to put together a scholarship and after that we're going to pull together some money, we're going to create opportunities for kids to get swimming lessons to make sure that less kids are impacted by this. I had been a lifeguard for like 15 years. So to go through all of this, having lifeguard at that is just one of those.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

You know, and so, you know, God makes no mistakes.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

Puts you through the walks that he does to prepare you for things you can't imagine.

[Kim Fields]

That's right. That's right.

[Malcolm]

Now, doing the advocacy work that I do now, I didn't imagine that the authority of being able to say I was a lifeguard would mean something at this point, but it, but it does. And so, you know, now I was able to get funding from the CDC to provide 800 kids swimming lessons for eight weeks in Atlanta. So it's, it's. I needed people beside me who were on that same energy. I didn't have time to ball up and fold and.

[Kim Fields]

Right, exactly. Exactly.

[Malcolm]

I had to put feet to ground.

[Kim Fields]

That's right.

[Malcolm]

And for me, I had to make sure my son's legacy wasn't lost. Because the reality is, you know, my son lost his life in service to others. My son lost his life to save others and not to mention strangers.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

And unbeknownst to us, the kids that he saved happen to be APS kids where I serve.

And transparently I'm aware that there are kids in the district, but I've never tried to seek to find out who they are.

[Kim Fields]

Right? Yeah.

[Malcolm]

And don't desire to.

[Kim Fields]

Right.

[Malcolm]

Don't desire to.

[Kim Fields]

Because this act was enough for you.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

God knows the expectations of impact that I have for those kids and I don't need to know who they are.

[Lane]

Wow.

[Kim Fields]

I feel the same way. I think my knee jerk reaction was to move forward and get the business taken care of. Get the business taken care of. And like you, I also. I want to build a foundation. You know, I want to build a foundation, and I want to, you know, provide opportunities for other young artists, you know, so that was. That was. I kind of followed that as well. I just. I didn't. And with grief counseling, I don't know if I. I was asking. I just. I don't feel the need to go either, you know, because of. Because of my level of acceptance.

I think I'm missing more than grieving because I'm at peace and I've accepted it. And like I was telling you, anything less than that is not productive for me because there's nothing I can do about it. I mean, I can roll up in a ball and sit in a corner, but what is that going to do for it? For. What's that gonna do for me? Nothing but waste some time, you know, and I can cry and be on the phone and talk and create the foundation. I can do that. You know, I don't need to be in a corner somewhere doing it, you know, but everyone grieves differently, and everyone has. Their actions are different.

[Malcolm]

Do you remember making a decision.

To approach it that way, or is this just.

[Kim Fields]

No, I think it's just maybe part of my personality is about, get the job done, get it done. I know it wasn't. I don't believe it was conscious. I didn't sit and think, well, this is the way I'm going to go. I'm not going to do this or I'm going to do this particular thing. It was just for me, okay, there's business here to take care of. Let me take care of the business. And in doing that, and because I'm not coming from a feeling of a place of extreme loss, and I'm coming from a place of acceptance. So I've accepted that, and I'm at peace with that, that now it's time to take care of the business and move forward and to also create a foundation to keep his. Keep his legacy alive, to keep his name alive, to keep him alive.

And in service to other people, in service to other young people. So that was. And I'm. That's where I am now. I'm still in that particular space. I don't feel the need to crawl up in a ball, you know, maybe because I'm sleepy and tired, but not because as. As a. As a result of what had happened. I think about him every day. I will. I will never be the same person. And of course, he will never be forgotten. He's all around and he's. His spirit is still here. You know, he's still here. He hasn't. He hasn't left us yet. But for me, it's the work. The work that it provided an opportunity for me to do another kind of work.

[Malcolm]

Yes.

[Kim Fields]

And that's kind of the place that I'm in and just to stay forward. And I said earlier, when things like this happen.

There'S a reason we don't know the reason. There's a reason things just don't happen.

And so for me, my journey is to find out what the reason is. What's the reason? What's the reason? For me, there's a message and a lesson here for me somewhere.

[Malcolm]

I'm in a moment of disbelief because as you're saying that wrapping my mind around all this, because I remember hearing the news about your son and it was interesting how many people reached out to me for check ins.

Once the news of your song came. Matter of fact, the mayor of Atlanta reached out to me and was like, brother, I'm just checking in on you because the stories of what happened were so similar. And I remember Kim saying, man, I was just talking to Malcolm a few weeks ago, I was trying to get you to get on his show and, and that we will be here today and I'm here sharing space with you. It's just.

[Kim Fields]

And there's a reason.

[Malcolm]

Amen.

[Kim Fields]

It's just not happening.

[Malcolm]

I can't call it, but it's just.

[Kim Fields]

I can't. There's a reason. There's a reason, if no more than just to be in each other's presence and for you to speak your truth, your. To the people that are here and.

To me offer not so much condolences, but.

Strength and support and admiration for what you do and what you're doing.

[Malcolm]

Yeah, I offer the same to you. I.

I'm grateful to be able to witness your grace and your grief.

You know, often people will say, how do you. Where do you find the strength? And I don't know that strength is the right word. I'd have to leave it either to faith and understanding that it is not in our control.

That our babies are not ours to have, but to cherish.

[Kim Fields]

That's right. That's right.

[Malcolm]

But I'd also have to say that it's in focusing on being just present.

[Kim Fields]

Being present, being present.

[Malcolm]

Because I think the only thing that I could focus on, and I mean in the genesis of my grief, which is breathing.

Like, honestly, like breathing is like the. Is just the Baseline of just. I need to breathe. I just need to be present.

[Kim Fields]

Absolutely.

[Malcolm]

Right now. That was the hardest thing to do.

[Kim Fields]

To be present.

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Kim Fields]

The first phone call I made.

That may sound weird, but the very first phone call I made was to the business manager. Get the paperwork ready. He's passed. I need, I need all the paperwork together. That's all I could think about. Get this, get the business taken care of, you know. And that was my first and surprising because he doesn't answer his phone. What he tell you? Text me? He picked up his phone and I said, get the paperwork ready.

[Malcolm]

No.

[Kim Fields]

And I don't know if. And people have been kind and loving and saying how strong I am. I don't know if it's strength or just focus.

Faith, I guess. Faith, you know, faith in an understanding of where I am and what has happened and once again, acceptance, you know, But I appreciate the compliment. And if it looks that way, if it looks that way, then great. Maybe someone can partake of that for themselves if they ever find themselves in any situation where they have to grieve. But it's not that I'm not feeling strong. I don't feel like, you know, I don't feel like I'm caring or I'm being this superwoman. I don't feel that at all. I just feel like I'm moving forward as best I can through. Through this process. Cause it's a process.

[Malcolm]

Has your idea of parenting shifted?

[Kim Fields]

I don't think I understand the question.

[Malcolm]

So.

For me, having a 16 year old son, I'm thinking about all the things that he would be. Yes, that he could be.

[Kim Fields]

My son was 54.

[Malcolm]

That he should do right. And so now in his passing.

For me, parenting looks less about investing in the future of my child and more like investing in the legacy of my child.

[Kim Fields]

Well, my parenting was over. I was no longer parenting.

[Malcolm]

So when you cut your parenting off, I thought it goes on forever.

[Kim Fields]

Oh, he wasn't gonna allow me to parent him. Nah, it got to Ma, Ma, come on now. You know, Ma, Ma, I got this, you know, don't worry, you know, I can handle this, you know, and at some point in time you really do have to back off. That's right, you have to back off. Because he was, he was a grown man, middle aged man. What am I, how am I going to be pairing him? You know, all I can, all I could do after a certain point is just be.

The best business partner with him as I could be and best friend. So the parenting part was over. I will always be.

His mother.

[Malcolm]

Do you feel like you own the responsibility of the legacy work now?

[Kim Fields]

I do. I do. I do feel it is my responsibility to keep that. To keep his legacy alive and to keep it moving, to keep it out there, to keep it in front. Absolutely, I do. I am also building a foundation, but I'm not. I'm taking my time to build it. You know, I'm taking my time to build my. My. My. My board members. You know, I'm taking. And I want to. I'm reaching out to people who have worked with him during his career, all of his life, because these are people who are already emotionally invested. I'm taking my time to really learn what it means to build a foundation. I'm learning a lot, you know? Well, you know, and I'm just. I'm taking my time.

[Lane]

You know, it's interesting what you said, because we've said so. We have an audience today that. That clapped if you listen to this. All right. And so, you know, some of the producers are in the audience, and we would sit at this table often with Malcolm and. And your. Your name would come up. So I know what you mean in the sense of you weren't parenting, like, you know, directing his life. Yes, but parenting happens even if you're not there, if that makes sense. So that when you think about somebody's value system and what makes them who they are and that safe place that you were talking about, that in the back of one's head is every day something that I know kept him grounded. And I'll speak for myself. Having that for myself keeps me grounded, knowing that that's there. Those parents are always in your ear. I know. Your dad is always in your ear. You know what I mean? So that parenting is always happening, even if it's not adjective.

[Kim Fields]

Not if it's not active yet passive parenting.

[Malcolm]

There we go. Even with having a younger child, like, listen, for all the teen parents out there who might think in the back of their mind somewhere, like, maybe I'm failing or not doing a good enough job, you'd be surprised how much gets imparted on these kids. Like, I would hear stories about my son afterwards, and I'm like, I just knew you weren't listening when I was talking to him.

[Kim Fields]

Right, Right.

[Malcolm]

But you went out there and did all the right stuff, and you were saying the right stuff, and you were giving good guidance and counsel to other people and being a good human to other people.

[Kim Fields]

I experienced the same thing I experienced even younger. Before he passed, I would hear him talking to people, or we'd be in conversations about what he said to someone. And I was like, he got it.

He heard me. He got it. You know, and even now, the things and the people that he touched, unbelievable. I mean, this is all over the world.

[Malcolm]

It is.

[Kim Fields]

Getting back to having black men.

It was extremely important. That character of Theo. So many black men grew up because they didn't see themselves on television. And the genius of Bill Cosby of how he crafted that character.

I really see the impact of it now because I'm hearing it from other black men that.

Young black girls had someone that they could drool over, that they had, you know, they could have. Young black girls could have a heartthrob, you know, that could have a black heartthrob.

[Lane]

And cute.

She was cute.

[Kim Fields]

And young black men had, you know, young black boys had someone that they could. They could look up to, someone that looked like them.

[Lane]

You know, I'm going to connect some dots here because you have told me that you would make Malcolm every year, twice a year, go and sit and have the financial discussion.

[Kim Fields]

Oh, yeah.

[Lane]

And this is because you teach finance.

[Kim Fields]

Yes. When we first started out.

It was more to protect myself than anything else. And I'll tell you why. When we started out, there were several high profile child actors whose parents had absconded with their money or their fortunes were squandered, and so on and so forth. So I'm like, you are not gonna say, my mama took my money. That is what you're not gonna say.

[Malcolm]

Let me show you these receipts.

[Kim Fields]

You're not. Y'. All. I'm not gonna show you receipts, but you're going to be in the financial meeting with me. Okay? So he was about 14 years old. And I hired a business management company. And twice a year, June and December, okay. And we had to sit in these meetings. He could have torn his eyelashes out. They were so boring. A 14 year old kid. It's not. And I didn't care, right? I did not care. I don't care if you. If you absorb it or not. You cannot say you were not there. You could not say you did not know. Right? Because you were right there. This went on until.

30 years or more, until those people retired and I had to get with another firm. And he was in Georgia and I was in California. And so now Zoom, we would do it by Zoom, but going through all of the. Going through all the finances, going through the books. And by the time he was somewhere in his 30s.

I didn't have to run the meeting, I could sit there and I would think, a question. He would answer the. He would ask the question. But he. All of his life, he was. He. So he knew about money. He knew about his money, and he knew about the investments that were made. He knew what to do and what not to do with his money. And like I said, that was really protection for me because anything could happen, you know, and the last thing I would want is for that to come back on me that, you know, anything untoward could happen. I wanted him to be versed. I wanted him to know. And he did. He did.

[Malcolm]

I would. I would say that's something we need to do more of with all of our kids. There's so many kids from our community.

Whose parents. I know this just from my own experience. My parents were not transparent with me about finances. This is not something, I mean, that was like, not a child's place. Like.

[Kim Fields]

Yes.

[Malcolm]

You didn't know how much the rent or the mortgage was or the light bill was. You knew the. You knew the light bill was high. Everybody knew the light bill. Yeah, everybody knew the light bill was high. We just didn't know how high. Right. And so. And I don't know if folks understand how much of a disservice that is to our young people that we keep them from understanding how finances really work.

[Kim Fields]

Right. I felt it was important because it was his money. Yeah, it was his money.

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Kim Fields]

But there is a young woman here in the Atlanta area who has a program that is teaching young teens to be entrepreneurs and teaching them financial.

Literacy. And the program. I have never. I haven't been in one of her sessions, but it's gaining a lot, a lot of momentum. And maybe I can connect you with her and you can get together and form something where it's a beautiful program, from what I understand. And she's right here. She's local. She's right here. Yeah. A young woman. A young woman, you know, and it's. And it's about becoming entrepreneurs and about teaching financial legacy.

[Lane]

Do you dream about your sons or how do they come to you?

[Malcolm]

You can answer.

[Kim Fields]

He hasn't come to me. He hasn't come to me, but.

He'S.

Me being here, it was. This was Malcolm me being here. This was his spirit that being asked to come and co host. And after Lane called me and asked me, I have a picture that sits right in front of me. And I said, you did this. Thank you. And so he's working in other ways. He hasn't come to me, but he's come to other people. He's come to other people.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. I have a similar experience. I've not had my son come to me in a dream. I've wished for it, kind of hoped for it, but hasn't been a thing.

Shortly after he passed, and I don't know how this came up, but it became a thing to ask for him to show up as a hummingbird.

[Lane]

I just don't wanna say the birds.

[Malcolm]

The hummingbird. And so this all of a sudden, and it's very interesting. Like, I have a bunch of porches on my house and like, I could be sitting on the porch and, like, hummingbirds will fly up to me while I'm sitting.

[Lane]

Really?

[Malcolm]

They'll fly up to me if I'm washing the car in the driveway that he normally would be washing or things like that. So I get. I get.

[Kim Fields]

That's remarkable.

[Malcolm]

Yeah. Wow. I remember right before we were about to go, we were on Jennifer Hudson. We're in the dressing room and just randomly, I think the makeup artist had, like, hummingbird print all over, like the countertop sector. Like, just random. And then I think when I was on the show, I think Jennifer said something to me about.

One of her family members and hummingbirds and exactly say. So it's just like. Just kept coming up, coming up and coming up.

[Kim Fields]

No, I haven't had. I haven't. And maybe I'm not paying attention, I don't know. But I. I don't see anything that's being repetitive, you know, that that's in my life. I don't see that. But there are things that have gone on in my life, and I know it was because of him. I. I'm just real clear that it's because of him. Like I said, just. Just being here. He did this, you know, he did.

[Lane]

He did all this for my sister was a bird or my father in my dreams to a point where I have to write them down. They were just so real. And it wasn't a strange dream in terms of, oh, and then he was floating down the sky. It was real. It was. He came in and would do things that we would normally do. We would have a regular conversation. It was clothes that were in his closet. It was very, very real. And I had nine of them. And then I wrote them all down so I wouldn't forget because they were just so real and vivid. You know, sometimes you wake up and you don't hear the dream. You don't remember the dream. So I wanted to make sure that I remember them. That's why I asked. But, yeah, the bird is a really big, big one.

[Kim Fields]

That. I didn't know that. Yeah, I didn't know that.

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Kim Fields]

Oh, but you know what? Now that we're talking, I've seen, like, very large bird feathers. I have seen bird feathers. I have. But that's about the extent of it.

[Malcolm]

You talked to me earlier about goodbye conversations, and I was. It activated a bunch of thoughts and memories from me, but I was curious from you what those goodbye conversations were like and why they resonated with you as. Being that.

[Kim Fields]

We were in a conversation about.

We were talking about his daughter, and we were talking about. He was. He was. And actually sent me the video. The conversation centered around two therapists, and one was male, one was female, and the female therapist was talking. Was talking about a trauma that had occurred. And so the other therapist, the male therapist said, well, did you speak to your mother about this? And she said, no, I couldn't. I couldn't tell my mother. And he said, well, that's where the trauma is, because you had no safe place to go with this with what had happened to you. And.

In talking to my son, and we went on and talked about some other things. And then I asked him, I said, did you ever not feel safe with me? And he said, never. Never. He always felt. He felt safe that he could come to me and for that. And I sent him a text later, and I said to him that.

You feeling safe with me as a child meant more to me than all of the love and respect that I know you have for me. There's the feeling of safety that you don't feel that you're protected from harm and that you're in a safe place. So that. And when I look back.

I was left with that. That he felt safe with me as a parent. And we had another conversation.

I was traveling, and he wanted to know where I was and who I was with.

[Malcolm]

You must have been looking real fancy that day.

[Kim Fields]

That was on the phone.

[Lane]

What are you doing?

[Kim Fields]

Yeah, we were on the phone, and I had learned to wait for him to call me, particularly if, you know, if it wasn't business. I needed to speak with him. I had learned to wait. Let. He'll call when he has a time to talk. Cause when he does call, we have more of a personal conversation. So I was in D.C. and I was going to the African American Museum, and he happened to call. I was in a cab, and we just. He wondered, what are you doing?

[Malcolm]

Oh, you was definitely on a date. You going to the museum?

In D.C. you got flew down everything.

[Kim Fields]

So he wanted to. He kept asking me these questions, you know, and I kept. I kept. Not avoiding, but not really giving him an answer. And so he just stopped and he said, you know, I've known you for a very long time. And we just cracked up because it was like, you know, I know you ain't tell. You're not telling me the truth. And we had the biggest laugh that we had. We hadn't had one like that. I mean, this a. A gut laugh, you know. And so I think those two things and some. A few other conversations, we had more business and looking at them in totality, those were our. Those were goodbye conversations. Because he.

Said it in a very fatherly way. You know, I've known you for a very long time.

And the other conversation were. That was us. That was the way we were. You know, we were friends. Yeah, we were friends. And he was my confidant. He raised me kind of sort of, you know. No, he. You were a young mother. I was a young mother. I raised him and shared my growing experiences with him. And as I got. As I got older and he got older, you know, I needed some parenting in some areas, and he was my parent, my coach, not father, but more, you know, just. Just coached and helped and got me to see things differently and to maybe think differently on things. He was my refuge, you know, and my security was my. We was in my world. And so those two things, him feeling safe and him saying, I know you.

That that was a completion there. And I see it, and I choose to see it as these were goodbye conversations because they were significant conversations, and they were heartfelt, and they were about he and I, our relationship. And I think. And I think that the joy is that. And his father. His father.

He says, you know, we had him for 54 years, and his thing is we, you know, this is what we had. This is what we created. We had this. And so the gratitude in that and so that there's. So that the grief and the longing for more because his life was more complete than your son's. And I can understand that. That feeling of what he could have been, the could have. See, I don't have the coulda, woulda, shoulda, but the coulda for you is. Is heartbreaking because you began to see the man that he was becoming and how he impacted other people. And that's. That's important.

[Malcolm]

Excuse me. Got me some water.

Thank you.

[Kim Fields]

So that. That hits. That hits. That hits a little differently.

[Malcolm]

Thank you.

[Kim Fields]

That hits a little Differently.

You saw the beginnings of the kind of man that he was going to be, the kind of man that he was becoming.

[Malcolm]

I remember in my son's last weeks.

We had.

Some very spirited, colorful conversations.

Around faith.

And belief.

And I remember my son sitting on the island in our kitchen, and I was. I was taking him to task about being a non believer because he had said something to me that like, I don't know, it stirred up something in my soul. He. He said, I think too often you give. You give too much credit to God for things that you achieve.

And.

It just activated to me that he didn't really understand, at least at that time, how all this stuff works, that.

You could put all the effort into something and it not turn out how you want it to, because it's not God's will for it to be that way. You could put minimal or no effort into something. In fact, you could work against yourself on something and it could turn out a certain kind of way because that's how God designed it to work.

And.

It mattered so much to me for my son to understand that, like, the successes are the things that we got to experience as a family, for myself, as an educator, as an entrepreneur, as a social media personnel, whatever, that. That was not just because I earned it. It was not because I'm that great that there's a favor at work.

That put me in that position. And so we go back and forth about it. I'd taken them, you know, I'm running. Well, I was running profits at the time, but we were like visiting a lot of churches and moving around, and we went to this one church. So visions in Grant park.

Shout out to Bishop O.C. allen.

And I watched my son find his faith in that church. And I remember us talking after church, he's sitting on the island, going back forth, and he said something. I said, bro, you're really not a believer. And I mean, with all the conviction that he had, he's like, I am a believer. I do believe in God. And he, you know, he's breaks down into tears and we have this moment. And what I know is, in a lot of ways.

That was one of my goodbye conversations. It was God making it very known and clear to me that I raised my son to be a believer. When if I didn't have that moment, that would have probably been a thing that haunted me or wondering that I would have had, like, did my son die a believer?

[Kim Fields]

Believe her.

[Malcolm]

The other conversation that I had with him right before he passed was I say to him, you haven't really achieved much in life if they don't want to name a street after you.

[Lane]

No. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Malcolm]

That's what I told him.

[Kim Fields]

That's a lot of pressure.

[Malcolm]

Hey.

[Kim Fields]

That's a lot of pressure.

[Malcolm]

Hey.

[Kim Fields]

Oh, my God.

[Malcolm]

Look, we're not here to be regular.

[Kim Fields]

That's right.

[Malcolm]

We're not here to be regular.

[Kim Fields]

That's right. That's right. That's right.

[Malcolm]

So, you know, we. Trying to be. Theo. Trying to be legendary. Trying to be legendary. So needless to say, we're working to get a street named after Bryce in the city of Atlanta. And I think.

You'D be surprised some of the conversations that you have that are foreshadows of the work that you will have to do.

[Kim Fields]

Wow.

That's amazing. That's amazing.

[Lane]

You know, I want to.

I want to thank you both because you have co hosted with me all day, all day, and then you got me an audience. This never happens. It never happens with me and Malcolm. You come. Got a whole audience.

[Kim Fields]

Malcolm did it. Malcolm did it. Honey. Malcolm brought these people here. Malcolm did it.

[Lane]

And just everything that you've shared is so. You know, we record these shows and I always say, oh, I just don't. I don't want to go too long. It's got to be interesting. This was all just so interesting and rewarding. I'm wondering if we can end on some thoughts about how you find yourselves and have a moment. How do you go about doing that these days? Like, what is some.

Or is that a work in progress for you now?

[Kim Fields]

It's a work in progress, but it's also.

Being grateful. Being grateful. And to look at my blessings and just the gratitude. The gratitude of it all, even how he died, being grateful for the way he died without suffering, without. We didn't have to watch him die from some debilitating disease. We didn't have to see. Didn't have to. He didn't have a heart attack where he was. He couldn't work. A heart attack or a stroke where he couldn't work. And he's an actor. And that would have been a slow. That would have been an awful. An awful, awful situation for him. Close to death. A living. A living death. Yeah. He wasn't hung.

He wasn't shot. He wasn't in some awful accident where he was half alive and half dead. It was clean and it was over. And I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful. And this is me. And some. Some of you may say that she's really Weird. But I'm grateful that my son does. Is living in the state of Georgia with the political climate the way it is. You know.

They would shoot him or hang him first and then say, oh, look, this was Theo. One of my fears, anyway, with him being in Georgia, I was always on edge about him living here.

He had a beautiful and full life. He was in love with his life, with his daughter, with his wife. And I'm grateful for that, that he experienced all that he experienced, that he accomplished the goals that he had set for himself. And he was happy. He was happy. And I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for it, you know, and I'm grateful that I was chosen to be his mother. And I'm grateful that I carried out my parenting so that he could be the person that everyone here and around the world loves and felt and was impacted by his. By the loss. I'm grateful for that. And so when I step into the light of gratitude.

That calms it down. That calms it down for me.

[Malcolm]

I appreciate you for sharing that. I think I share.

A lot of the same sentiments. I think gratitude is.

An intentional direction, an intentional posture that I've had to take.

[Kim Fields]

Yes.

[Malcolm]

I remember having to remind myself and tell myself to say, thank you, God, on the day my son passed. To start there.

I think I'd asked you earlier, like, if you were on purpose about how you approached your grief. And for me, I had to be on purpose about one thing because I think there's. I think there's one word.

That is a result either of our.

Gaps in faith. Emotional immaturity. I'm not sure, but it's that word why.

And the trap of why. The trap. The word why is.

[Kim Fields]

And it'll send you right down a rabbit hole.

[Malcolm]

And it was. It was something on that, because I remember being in the driveway talking to my wife, and I remember her falling in my arms and repeatedly saying why? And I. And I had to. To really just stop her in that moment and say, listen, that's the one thing we're not going to do. Not going to ask is we're not going to get caught up on why. Because to believe that God owes us explanation in its own right is just audacity beyond what I will allow myself to enter.

[Kim Fields]

Okay.

[Malcolm]

Not all things are for our knowing.

[Kim Fields]

Yes.

[Malcolm]

Not all things are for our knowing. In fact, most things are not for our knowing. And so it was that. That being intentional about not getting caught up in why, but being focused on what. What am I supposed to do now?

[Kim Fields]

Yeah.

[Malcolm]

What am I supposed to do now?

[Kim Fields]

Absolutely.

[Malcolm]

That. That for me has been the saving grace and. And replacing what. The tradition of the worldwide. And. And so that. That was. That's one big, big part. But I think beyond that.

It'S in, like, really living.

[Kim Fields]

Yes, yes. And.

[Malcolm]

And not living with just reckless abandonment, just like.

[Kim Fields]

But being fulfilled in your life.

[Malcolm]

Seriously, like, you want that car, go buy that car. Hey, like, seriously, you want that car, go by that car.

[Kim Fields]

Piece of cake, right? Eat the cake. Eat the cake.

[Malcolm]

Eat the cake.

I'm glad you said it. Cause I didn't have to.

[Kim Fields]

Because I could.

[Malcolm]

I tried not to say it.

[Kim Fields]

Keep the cake, buy the shoes, whatever. Do it. Serious.

[Malcolm]

Seriously. Because you'll live your life so guarded. You'll live your life worried about the what ifs. And.

You can't count the head. The hairs on your head. Well, I can't. Cause I don't have no.

[Kim Fields]

If.

[Malcolm]

If you can't count. If you can't count the hairs on your head, then. Then how knowing are you? And how dare you be so anxious? And so, you know, for me, that. That has really shifted how intentional I am about gratitude, about being on purpose and being unafraid. I definitely, I think, have better discernment on what matters and what doesn't.

We found ourselves so caught up in things that don't matter, and we found ourselves caught up serving in ways that don't really serve.

You know, four years ago, five years ago, folks would just know me as, like, as an advocate or a protester or a community organizer or what have you.

And not that I don't still believe in the same things, but I found myself not running to put out everybody's fire.

[Kim Fields]

Yes, sir. Yes, sir.

[Malcolm]

I didn't owe it to anybody to always be outraged.

And that has helped me to really claim my peace. And so I would say, although now I have a heavier heart than I ever did. I have more peace than I ever have.

[Kim Fields]

Mm.

Powerful. Powerful. Thank you.

[Malcolm]

I'd like to say two things real quick. First, the springboard off of. You were worried about Malcolm here in Atlanta. Atlanta is not a real place, so black people don't get stronger up in Atlanta. When she said Georgia, though. She said Georgia. She said. She said Georgia.

The second thing I want to say is we, Malcolm, always like to start the shows with what's really good.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah.

[Malcolm]

So, you know, and us not leaving on a. A somber note. That's leaving on a great note, like, to go with what he.

[Lane]

He say what's good.

[Malcolm]

Yeah.

[Kim Fields]

What's Good. All right.

[Malcolm]

So that's a good. That's a good one.

[Lane]

What's good.

[Kim Fields]

What's good is. Is.

Living.

What's good is living and being present, being intentional and being focused. That's good.

[Lane]

What's good, sir.

[Malcolm]

What's good is that the village is alive.

What's good is, you know, seeing we're looking at a room full of community in a village, you know, from folks who I watched as a kid on TV to.

You know, folks who are there when I'm having the lowest, heaviest moment. So it's that the village is alive and thriving, if anybody ever doubted.

[Lane]

And we always answered it, too, as hosts.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah. What's good?

[Lane]

What's good. What's good is seeing you two.

That's why I stepped back. What's good is seeing you talk about, you know, a relationship that you wanted to mend and that you were gonna begin and work harder on that, and that you talked about therapy not really working out, but what I saw today, that was little therapy.

[Kim Fields]

Yeah. And.

[Lane]

And that. That's what's good. What's good is connecting.

[Kim Fields]

Connecting.

[Lane]

Yeah. So I'm gonna. And I'm gonna go off Utah. Connecting with all of these people.

[Kim Fields]

Yes.

[Lane]

We had people fly. We had someone fly in from Canada.

[Malcolm]

Come on now.

[Lane]

We invited all of the people done.

[Malcolm]

Left that universal healthcare to come down here.

[Lane]

And we invited all of the previous guests, right? We've got Bill Duke over there. You know, we've got, you know, you mentioned someone who you grew up with on tv. We've got Kim Fields here. I see my husband now.

[Kim Fields]

He.

[Lane]

See I have to do that.

[Malcolm]

It's gonna be a long ride home.

[Lane]

You've mentioned.

[Kim Fields]

Exactly.

[Lane]

You've mentioned, you know, Kimberly Lachish Drones. And you know, she's here. There's another Kimberly Jones.

You know, there are some lovely people here who are all a part of this community and connecting. And I just. I love the connecting. That's what's good.

[Kim Fields]

Amen.

[Lane]

We are connected always.

[Kim Fields]

Absolutely. Absolutely.

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