Not Loveline – Episode Summary

Podcast: Not Loveline
Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Episode Title: Getting Real About Sobriety & Postpartum Depression
Date: October 6, 2025

Episode Overview

This episode dives deep into mental health and personal growth through candid conversations about sobriety, postpartum depression, self-worth, and evolving past trauma. Tana and Trisha take listener calls, offering their unique, unfiltered perspectives. Whether discussing the journey to sobriety, the tough realities of being a new mom, navigating career crossroads, or confronting relationship anxieties, the hosts blend personal anecdotes with genuine advice—always with their signature humor.

Key Topics & Discussion Points

1. Opening Vibes & Behind the Scenes (00:00–04:00)

• The duo banters about being together for five hours, podcast routines, and recording in Trisha’s basement.
  • Quote: “We’re having the best day ever, you guys. Trisha and I have been yapping now for almost five hours...” (00:49, Tana)
• Lighthearted chats about alone time and their unconventional work environment.

2. Learning to Drive, Vintage Cars, and Responsibility (04:00–06:28)

• Tana discusses her plans to learn to drive, her anxiety, and the mildly ridiculous dream of buying a vintage car.
  • Quote: “You cannot be someone who does not drive but will not get in an Uber alone. You have to pick one.” (03:59, Tana)
• Both weigh in on the fantasy versus practicality of old cars, and Trisha shares her own experiences.

3. CALL #1: Jealousy at the Gym – Relationship Boundaries (06:38–10:26)

• Caller describes a scenario where another woman appears to flirt with her boyfriend at the gym.
• Tana and Trisha validate the caller’s feelings, emphasizing the boyfriend’s positive behavior.
  • Quote: “You’re valid. Like, okay, I’m trying to say this in the nicest possible way and it’s not coming to me…” (07:56, Tana)
• Key message: It’s about your partner’s reaction, not the external “petulant” person.
  • Quote: “The only way that this call would genuinely infuriate me... is dependent on your boyfriend’s reaction to this girl.” (09:04, Tana)

4. Makeup Artists, Personal Growth & Social Anxiety (11:08–13:43)

• The hosts discuss the importance of a good glam squad, the intimacy of working with long-time makeup artists, and how sobriety (and mental health) intersect with this lifestyle.
• Both reflect on social anxieties, evolving self-perception, and learning to forgive past “problematic” selves.

5. Career Pressures & Job Market Realities (26:32–34:17)

CALL #2: Leaving Bartending for Marketing

• Caller struggles with leaving better-tipping bartending work for an uncertain marketing career.
• Both hosts empathize, discussing the grind of bartending and the burdens of student debt.
  • Quote: “Like, dealing with drunk idiots… I’m so surprised that we don’t hear of bartender assault more.” (27:36, Tana)
  • Quote: “Why is education so expensive?” (29:16, Tana)
• They encourage shooting your shot, using social media skills, and note how persistence pays off.
  • Quote: “Life. What is life without shooting your shot? The worst thing someone can ever say to you is no.” (32:22, Tana)

6. Media, Social Presence, and Shifting Landscapes (34:31–35:59)

• Tangent about TV, content creators, and how even traditional media is now desperate for viral moments.
  • Quote: “We’ve spent so much of our life being like, I’m worth nothing unless I’m in traditional media. And now traditional media is worth nothing if it’s not...” (35:53, Tana)

7. CALL #3: Anxieties about Boyfriend’s Driving (36:03–43:45)

• Caller loves her boyfriend but feels unsafe with his slow reaction time while driving.
• Tana and Trisha discuss anxiety, control, and communication in relationships. Trisha relates to wanting to be behind the wheel.
  • Quote: “Every time you’re in the car with the person you love the most… you’re having a panic attack.” (41:12, Tana)
  • Suggestions: Prefer driving, communicate, practice prayer or mindfulness.

8. CALL #4: Postpartum Depression Support (44:50–51:20)

• Young mom caller feels overwhelmed by postpartum depression.
• Trisha shares raw experiences, including struggles with bonding, depression, and the power of asking for help.
  • Quote: “With Malibu, it was like crippling… I can’t be a mom, I regret this… Why doesn’t anyone tell you that it’s so hard?” (45:37, Trisha)
• Emphasize therapy, small self-care steps, grace, and gradual healing.
  • Quote: “So much of that is giving yourself grace… You being alive and loving your baby and wanting to, like, get better—that’s all you can do.” (48:12, Tana)

9. CALL #5: Sobriety Journey – Day One (52:31–63:14)

• Emotional caller credits the hosts for inspiring her to start her “no alcohol journey.”
  • Quote: “Every time I tried to go sober… day one is not gorgeous and glamorous…” (53:51, Tana)
• Tana recounts her own recovery, what each sober day means, and the power of “counting up” instead of down.
  • Quote: “Your life will really change when you start counting up. And I’ll never forget it because it’s, like, so true.” (56:09, Tana)
• Both discuss relapse, acceptance, and the shift in social circles sobriety brings.
  • Quote: “If all I did today was be sober, that is a productive good day.” (60:22, Tana)
  • Quote: “You are, like, sober girl now, which is, like, crazy.” (62:17, Trisha)
• Touched by the normalization of sobriety in the younger generation.

Notable Quotes

• Tana: “You cannot be someone who does not drive but will not get in an Uber alone. You have to pick one.” (03:59)
• Trisha: “With Malibu, it was like crippling. Like, I didn’t even want to hold my baby… I regret this. Why doesn’t anyone tell you that it’s so hard?” (45:37)
• Tana: “Just take it day by day. There’d be so many days where I would feel like such a failure, but then I would go to bed that night, and I would be like, but I didn’t drink today.” (55:09)
• Trisha: “If all I did today was be sober, that is a productive good day.” (60:22)
• Tana: “Life. What is life without shooting your shot? The worst thing someone can ever say to you is no.” (32:22)

Memorable Moments

• Trisha’s emotional honesty about postpartum regrets and healing.
• Tana’s encouragement and raw vulnerability talking about sobriety and relapse.
• The hosts’ jokes about old YouTube trends (“Let Me Borrow That Top”, “Shoes”) and how their humor balances tougher topics.
• Layered advice: sometimes serious, sometimes riotously off-the-cuff (“Spray bottle and spray him like a cat, like train.” – 43:36, Tana).

Important Advice Sections & Timestamps

• Dealing with Jealousy/Boundaries in Relationships: 06:38–10:26
• Career Anxiety/Bartending vs. Degrees: 26:32–34:17
• Navigating Social Anxiety and Self-Worth: 20:32–22:11
• Postpartum Depression—Seeking Help & Self-Care: 44:50–51:20
• Sobriety—Starting, Relapsing, Finding Community: 52:31–63:14

Tone & Style

True to both hosts, the tone swings from irreverent to deeply sincere. Their openness about past mistakes, mental health, and identity is always laced with warmth and a little self-deprecation—making the advice as relatable as it is real.

For Listeners New or Old

This episode is essential if you:

• Struggle with feelings of isolation (new mom, newly sober, career confusion)
• Value honesty about mental health and recovery
• Want to laugh and cry with two wildly real internet icons

Final Takeaway:
No matter your journey—be it sobriety, motherhood, love, or self-acceptance—you’re not alone. “Give yourself grace”—and it’s okay to ask for help, celebrate even the small wins, and let yourself start over as many times as you need.