Transcript

A (0:00)

I'm trying to say this in, like, the nicest possible way, and it's not coming to me.

B (0:04)

It's fine. Just say it as you feel hate like that.

A (0:08)

He's the one who blackmailed me and extorted me. He was, like, my worst boyfriend ever. The way these bitches can make me cry at the drop of a hat.

B (0:15)

You just had a baby, and it's postpartum, like, everything, but, like, nothing people say will, like, help you. Like, you still start crying out of.

A (0:20)

Nowhere, but just take it day by day. There'd be so many days where I would feel like such a failure, but then I would go to bed that night, and I would be like, but I didn't drink today.

B (0:33)

Hello, welcome to Not Loveline, where we answer your calls, and that's all we do. We don't even talk.

A (0:40)

Yeah, we literally. All we do is answer calls. We're so, so Callie.

B (0:45)

I love Callie. I love Kali and love answering calls. And I love you. I love today's vibes.

A (0:49)

We're having the best day ever, you guys. And we. Trisha and I have been yapping now for almost five hours. Five hours of just talking to each other, and we're finally ready to take some co. Ready.

B (1:00)

Call us today at this number right here. Join us on Patreon patreon.com not loveline, where it's really an extended podcast. Sometimes it gets a little actual over there, but this last one, we kind of just did a little more therapy session, more deep dive into trauma that we've had together and separate and. But then we did talk about queefing, too, so there's something for everyone over there.

A (1:19)

The duality of woman. You know what I mean? Queefing and trauma. Like, you can't ask for much more.

B (1:23)

And it's all there on patreon.com not loveline. It really is love taking calls over there. We did take one call over there, as opposed to the last episode where we took no calls. So we are.

A (1:31)

And sometimes we take them 43 calls, you know what I mean?

B (1:33)

And see if Tana gets stuck in the plant over there.

Summary

Not Loveline – Episode Summary

Podcast: Not Loveline
Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Episode Title: Getting Real About Sobriety & Postpartum Depression
Date: October 6, 2025

Episode Overview

This episode dives deep into mental health and personal growth through candid conversations about sobriety, postpartum depression, self-worth, and evolving past trauma. Tana and Trisha take listener calls, offering their unique, unfiltered perspectives. Whether discussing the journey to sobriety, the tough realities of being a new mom, navigating career crossroads, or confronting relationship anxieties, the hosts blend personal anecdotes with genuine advice—always with their signature humor.

Key Topics & Discussion Points

1. Opening Vibes & Behind the Scenes (00:00–04:00)

The duo banters about being together for five hours, podcast routines, and recording in Trisha’s basement.
- Quote: “We’re having the best day ever, you guys. Trisha and I have been yapping now for almost five hours...” (00:49, Tana)
Lighthearted chats about alone time and their unconventional work environment.

2. Learning to Drive, Vintage Cars, and Responsibility (04:00–06:28)

Tana discusses her plans to learn to drive, her anxiety, and the mildly ridiculous dream of buying a vintage car.
- Quote: “You cannot be someone who does not drive but will not get in an Uber alone. You have to pick one.” (03:59, Tana)
Both weigh in on the fantasy versus practicality of old cars, and Trisha shares her own experiences.

3. CALL #1: Jealousy at the Gym – Relationship Boundaries (06:38–10:26)

Caller describes a scenario where another woman appears to flirt with her boyfriend at the gym.
Tana and Trisha validate the caller’s feelings, emphasizing the boyfriend’s positive behavior.
- Quote: “You’re valid. Like, okay, I’m trying to say this in the nicest possible way and it’s not coming to me…” (07:56, Tana)
Key message: It’s about your partner’s reaction, not the external “petulant” person.
- Quote: “The only way that this call would genuinely infuriate me... is dependent on your boyfriend’s reaction to this girl.” (09:04, Tana)

4. Makeup Artists, Personal Growth & Social Anxiety (11:08–13:43)

The hosts discuss the importance of a good glam squad, the intimacy of working with long-time makeup artists, and how sobriety (and mental health) intersect with this lifestyle.
Both reflect on social anxieties, evolving self-perception, and learning to forgive past “problematic” selves.

5. Career Pressures & Job Market Realities (26:32–34:17)

CALL #2: Leaving Bartending for Marketing

Caller struggles with leaving better-tipping bartending work for an uncertain marketing career.
Both hosts empathize, discussing the grind of bartending and the burdens of student debt.
- Quote: “Like, dealing with drunk idiots… I’m so surprised that we don’t hear of bartender assault more.” (27:36, Tana)
- Quote: “Why is education so expensive?” (29:16, Tana)
They encourage shooting your shot, using social media skills, and note how persistence pays off.
- Quote: “Life. What is life without shooting your shot? The worst thing someone can ever say to you is no.” (32:22, Tana)

6. Media, Social Presence, and Shifting Landscapes (34:31–35:59)

Tangent about TV, content creators, and how even traditional media is now desperate for viral moments.
- Quote: “We’ve spent so much of our life being like, I’m worth nothing unless I’m in traditional media. And now traditional media is worth nothing if it’s not...” (35:53, Tana)

7. CALL #3: Anxieties about Boyfriend’s Driving (36:03–43:45)

Caller loves her boyfriend but feels unsafe with his slow reaction time while driving.
Tana and Trisha discuss anxiety, control, and communication in relationships. Trisha relates to wanting to be behind the wheel.
- Quote: “Every time you’re in the car with the person you love the most… you’re having a panic attack.” (41:12, Tana)
- Suggestions: Prefer driving, communicate, practice prayer or mindfulness.

8. CALL #4: Postpartum Depression Support (44:50–51:20)

Young mom caller feels overwhelmed by postpartum depression.
Trisha shares raw experiences, including struggles with bonding, depression, and the power of asking for help.
- Quote: “With Malibu, it was like crippling… I can’t be a mom, I regret this… Why doesn’t anyone tell you that it’s so hard?” (45:37, Trisha)
Emphasize therapy, small self-care steps, grace, and gradual healing.
- Quote: “So much of that is giving yourself grace… You being alive and loving your baby and wanting to, like, get better—that’s all you can do.” (48:12, Tana)

9. CALL #5: Sobriety Journey – Day One (52:31–63:14)

Emotional caller credits the hosts for inspiring her to start her “no alcohol journey.”
- Quote: “Every time I tried to go sober… day one is not gorgeous and glamorous…” (53:51, Tana)
Tana recounts her own recovery, what each sober day means, and the power of “counting up” instead of down.
- Quote: “Your life will really change when you start counting up. And I’ll never forget it because it’s, like, so true.” (56:09, Tana)
Both discuss relapse, acceptance, and the shift in social circles sobriety brings.
- Quote: “If all I did today was be sober, that is a productive good day.” (60:22, Tana)
- Quote: “You are, like, sober girl now, which is, like, crazy.” (62:17, Trisha)
Touched by the normalization of sobriety in the younger generation.

Notable Quotes

Tana: “You cannot be someone who does not drive but will not get in an Uber alone. You have to pick one.” (03:59)
Trisha: “With Malibu, it was like crippling. Like, I didn’t even want to hold my baby… I regret this. Why doesn’t anyone tell you that it’s so hard?” (45:37)
Tana: “Just take it day by day. There’d be so many days where I would feel like such a failure, but then I would go to bed that night, and I would be like, but I didn’t drink today.” (55:09)
Trisha: “If all I did today was be sober, that is a productive good day.” (60:22)
Tana: “Life. What is life without shooting your shot? The worst thing someone can ever say to you is no.” (32:22)

Memorable Moments

Trisha’s emotional honesty about postpartum regrets and healing.
Tana’s encouragement and raw vulnerability talking about sobriety and relapse.
The hosts’ jokes about old YouTube trends (“Let Me Borrow That Top”, “Shoes”) and how their humor balances tougher topics.
Layered advice: sometimes serious, sometimes riotously off-the-cuff (“Spray bottle and spray him like a cat, like train.” – 43:36, Tana).

Important Advice Sections & Timestamps

Dealing with Jealousy/Boundaries in Relationships: 06:38–10:26
Career Anxiety/Bartending vs. Degrees: 26:32–34:17
Navigating Social Anxiety and Self-Worth: 20:32–22:11
Postpartum Depression—Seeking Help & Self-Care: 44:50–51:20
Sobriety—Starting, Relapsing, Finding Community: 52:31–63:14

Tone & Style

True to both hosts, the tone swings from irreverent to deeply sincere. Their openness about past mistakes, mental health, and identity is always laced with warmth and a little self-deprecation—making the advice as relatable as it is real.

For Listeners New or Old

This episode is essential if you:

Struggle with feelings of isolation (new mom, newly sober, career confusion)
Value honesty about mental health and recovery
Want to laugh and cry with two wildly real internet icons

Final Takeaway:
No matter your journey—be it sobriety, motherhood, love, or self-acceptance—you’re not alone. “Give yourself grace”—and it’s okay to ask for help, celebrate even the small wins, and let yourself start over as many times as you need.

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