Not Loveline — "LEAVING THE PAST BEHIND US, ENGAGEMENTS, HAVING CHILDREN AND HEALING"
Podcast Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Date: January 12, 2026
Brief Overview
In this candid, vulnerable, and humorous episode of "Not Loveline," Tana Mongeau and Trisha Paytas catch up on their personal lives and explore themes of personal growth, healing from the past, the pressures of adulthood, body image and cosmetic regrets, relationships, future goals, and their roles as public figures. The duo reflects on the past year, discusses their evolving dreams (from Congress ambitions to touring and giving back), and offers insight into how they're navigating fame, relationships, and self-acceptance in 2026.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Technical Difficulties, High Vibes, and Kicking Off the Episode
- The episode opens with playful banter about technical difficulties, Tana healing mics with her "high vibrations," and the energy between the hosts.
- Notable Quote: “I think the energy is so good that we up the electronics... we're vibrating so high.” — Tana (B) [01:32]
2. Virality, Congress Ambitions, & The Past Haunting the Present
- Trisha recounts her viral moment considering a Congressional run, and both discuss the anxiety of mainstream attention dredging up past mistakes.
- Discussed the impossibility of taking brand deals as a political candidate, comparing idealism with the realities of internet infamy.
- Notable Quote: “You can’t take a brand deal if you’re running for Congress. Sorry. Arby’s Dominoes. I need that coin.” — Trisha (A) [03:54]
- Tana advocates for Trisha, emphasizing growth and real impact beyond official titles, “Can a person grow and want better for the world?” — Tana [07:10]
3. Philanthropy, Social Impact, & Giving Back
- Both hosts express intentions to focus more on philanthropy, sharing anecdotes about donating to causes and the desire for their communities to join charity efforts.
- Planning charity events as part of their upcoming live shows.
- Notable Quote: “I really want this to be a philanthropic year... for both of us.” — Tana [07:55]
4. Healing, Self-Work, & Regret in Sex Work and Cosmetic Procedures
- Trisha opens up about her own past with sex work, expressing regret over choices made at 18 and an urge to see age restrictions increased.
- Tana shares similar feelings about OnlyFans and the layered experiences that come only with hindsight and maturity.
- Both voice concerns about younger women making irreversible choices for money without fully formed judgment.
- Notable Quote: “Most people regret their sex work... 18 is so young.” — Trisha [11:00]
- "It’s just a lot more layered..." — Tana [11:37]
5. The Interplay of Fame and Internet Culture
- Tana tells the story of seeing Adam Sandler in Maui, reflecting on the isolating effects of immense fame.
- Both discuss feeling empathy for celebrities constantly under public scrutiny and the need for respect in fan interactions.
- Notable Quote: “He just wanted Nobu with his family, and it was giving like full zoo animal.” — Tana [28:19]
6. Cosmetic Procedures: Regret, Education, and Transparency
- Tana shares details about another round of dental surgery, highlighting the normalization and risks of cosmetic work in internet culture.
- They advocate for more transparent education about procedures and their downsides.
- “Altering them [your teeth] is not as light as a lot of people make it seem.” — Tana [17:19]
7. Reflection on Personal Growth, Healing, and Goals
- Both hosts recount difficult periods in 2025 and the importance of self-healing before helping others.
- Tana details a cathartic experience in Hawaii, shedding emotional baggage and feeling lighter for the new year.
- Notable Resolution: “Be active for at least 10 minutes a day.” — Tana [54:55]
- “End of your twenties… there’s so much pressure… you’re actually starting to figure things out.” — Tana [58:28]
8. Relationships, Engagements, and the Pressure to "Keep up"
- Audience and societal pressure for engagement and marriage is discussed. Tana emphasizes wanting to be “present” in her relationship and ensuring it doesn’t feel like “just another thing on the books.”
- Trisha provides reassurance against societal timelines, relating her own story of later engagement and motherhood.
- Notable Quote: “I want to be really present in the time that we’re engaged. I do not want planning a wedding to feel like planning a lip liner launch.” — Tana [61:05]
9. The Cycle of Healing and Parenting
- Tana shares a moving story about not knowing how to ride a bike due to childhood neglect, connecting it to fears about carrying trauma forward into motherhood.
- Trisha relates her own healing through parenthood, seeing generational pain resolved through giving her child the love she lacked.
- Notable Moment:
- “It's not only am I angry for baby Tana, but for anyone else who feels that way…” — Tana [63:44]
- “Heals you when you have kids.” — Trisha [65:27]
10. Social Media, Consumer Culture, and Evolution as Creators
- Reflections on the evolution of YouTube, TikTok, and having lives documented online.
- Consumerism is explored, especially among younger generations influenced by TikTok shop culture.
- Notable Quote: “I’m trying to be giving as much as I’m also buying. If I want to buy something ignorant, then you better give something ignorant.” — Tana [87:39]
11. Embracing Change, Future Plans & Show Announcements
- Both hosts are excited for the upcoming Not Love Live tour, hinting at incorporating charity, sketches, and musical elements.
- They discuss creative costumes, show ideas, and wanting to stay inspired.
- “I'm so excited for this year. I'm so excited for us to do some shows too.” — Tana [31:43]
- “Tour tickets soon, I think... Madison Square Garden, here we come.” — Trisha & Tana [90:29]
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)
- “You vibrate on such a high frequency that you have the ability to up like a television.” — Tana [01:55]
- “Can a person grow and want better for the world?” — Tana [07:10]
- “Most people regret their sex work. And they were older, but 18… it's so true.” — Trisha [11:00]
- “I think it's good, but at the same time, our generation… you wanted one thing, and if you were lucky enough to get it, it was a prized possession. This generation does not have that as much.” — Tana [76:13]
- “It's not only am I angry for baby Tana, but for anyone else who feels that way…” — Tana [63:44]
- “Heals you when you have kids.” — Trisha [65:27]
- “If I want to buy something ignorant, then you better give something ignorant.” — Tana [87:39]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Technical Difficulties & Vibe Check: 00:00 – 01:40
- Congress & Viral Anxiety: 02:15 – 07:37
- Philanthropy & Giving Back: 07:55 – 09:55
- Sex Work & Cosmetic/Social Regret: 10:15 – 12:41, 17:19 – 18:26
- Cosmetic Surgery Cautionary Tales: 16:06 – 18:26
- Celebrity & Fame Reflections (Adam Sandler, etc.): 25:29 – 29:51
- New Year, Self-Improvement, & Resolutions: 54:53 – 57:20
- Relationships, Engagement, and Societal Pressure: 59:52 – 62:18
- Childhood Trauma/Bike Story & Preparing for Motherhood: 62:18 – 67:35
- Consumerism, Social Media & Gen-Z Shopping: 75:01 – 77:29, 87:28 – 88:04
- YouTube Careers, Online Evolution, and Nostalgia: 88:04 – 90:27
- Future Plans (Tour, Creativity, Manifesting): 90:27 – End
Tone & Style
- Conversational, honest, self-deprecating, supportive, and occasionally raw.
- Playful banter underpinned by meaningful introspection.
- Balance of humor ("spray tan blowout,” “manifestation for Adam Sandler”) and serious topics (healing, regret, philanthropy).
Conclusion
This episode offers a deep, unfiltered look into the lives and evolving mindsets of two of YouTube’s most tenacious personalities. Listeners will feel the tug-of-war between past regrets and future dreams, the pressure of public scrutiny, and the healing force of friendship, humor, and self-acceptance. For fans and newcomers alike, the hosts’ vulnerability and camaraderie provide both entertainment and real-life insight into letting go, giving back, and moving forward.
