Not Loveline – Episode Summary

Podcast: Not Loveline
Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Episode: When to Move On + Reigniting Sparks in Your Love Life
Date: November 24, 2025

Overview

In this lively episode, Tana and Trisha reunite after almost a month apart and dive into relationship questions sent in by listeners. The pair share personal stories about their own love lives, discuss how to reignite romance, tackle moving on from exes, and debate whether relationships with differing values (like religion or politics) can last. Their signature blend of playful banter and sincere honesty sets the tone for an episode full of laughs and practical, relatable advice.

Main Topics & Key Insights

Reigniting the Spark in Relationships

[26:01–29:55] Listener Question: Best dates to spark back the love

• Both hosts acknowledge that romantic ruts are natural, especially with busy lives and kids.
• Tana: “I think that the spark is never gone if you want the spark still... Real love is not all about [the honeymoon phase].” ([26:48])
• Trisha and Tana suggest:
  • Revisit places or routines from the early days of your relationship (first date spot, favorite foods, inside jokes).
  • Engage in simple, nostalgic activities (jacuzzi nights, making a favorite meal).
  • Play interactive games like “We’re Not Really Strangers” or word association to build intimacy.
  • Small gestures (“Ask him, ‘What outfit should I wear later?’ and wear it for him.” – Tana, [29:44])
• Trisha: “Our lives are so boring...but it’s peaceful, there’s no drama. So I’m like, it’s boring, but I love it.” ([29:23])

Moving On From an Ex

[40:35–44:13] Listener Question: How do you get the crazy ex out of your brain? Why do they haunt my dreams?

• Tana: “If you know that you’re not supposed to be with someone and you choose not to, that’s a huge step.” ([41:47])
• Both hosts agree it’s common to hold on, but healthy love and time bring clarity.
  • Take pieces from past relationships as part of your growth (“We all are the mosaics of the people that we loved.”—Tana, [42:07])
  • Make a list of cons to remind yourself why it didn’t work.
• Memorable moment: Trisha and Tana joke about minimal kindness making them obsessed with former partners.
  • Tana: “One time I sneezed and he said, bless you, and I’m gonna be hung up on this man for a year.” ([44:04])
  • Trisha: “But one time he made me noodles at midnight!” ([43:59])

Knowing When to Move On

[44:13–45:39] Listener Question: How do you know when it’s the right time to move on?

• Tana: “If you’re asking that question, [you] know deep down.” ([44:13])
• Listen to your intuition; wanting more from life is a sign.
• If you’re romanticizing life without them, it’s a red flag.
• Trisha: “I don’t think there was ever a time with Moses where I’m like, maybe this is not what I want... if you’re thinking, like, when’s the time to move on...” ([44:40])

Compromising While Living Together

[35:32–39:36] Listener Question: Tips on compromising while living together

• Both admit they struggle! Tana: “I suck at compromising.” ([35:45])
• Some couples work well when one partner makes more decisions if it fits their dynamic.
• Trisha: “It works in our relationship. Controlling is like, the wrong word, but… I do make a lot of decisions and he’s happy to support and go along.”
• The key is seeing things from their perspective and identifying what matters most to each.
• Pick your battles; let small things slide if they’re not worth it in the big picture.
• Tana’s story: She and Makoa compromise by balancing Vegas party time with more “wholesome” outings (trips to the Hoover Dam, national parks).

Relationships with Differing Values

[47:21–51:41] Listener Question: Can a relationship survive different religious or political views?

• Tana: Yes, if both partners are open and not pushy: “So long as you’re not projecting it on me, pushing it on me, trying to change me, or a hateful, bigoted, awful person...” ([47:32])
• If you’re raising kids together, having shared values may matter more.
• If your differences bleed into feeling judged (food, religion, or politics), it’s likely not sustainable.
  • Trisha: “If I was with a vegan... I could not because I would feel judged eating my bacon...” ([50:33])
• The hosts agree that judgment is the real issue—not the differences themselves.

Listener Mailbag: Holiday Gifts for Your Partner

[53:40–55:57]

• Both find shopping for men difficult.
  • Tana: “All my gifts are just things I want to see him wear.” ([53:45])
  • Sentimental gifts (letters, paintings, poems) are always meaningful and a good “green flag” test.
• Pro tip: Shop together, make mental notes, and ask directly—men are usually straightforward!

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On keeping the romance alive:
  “You gotta do something that you used to do... like, maybe literally go to your first date spot.” – Tana ([27:43])
• On moving on:
  “We all are like, made up of all of the people that we’ve loved in our life in so many ways. And that’s okay.” – Tana ([42:07])
• On relationships with differing views:
  “It just depends on the [person]... there are the vegans that are like, ‘I don’t know how you eat that’... I hate that.” – Tana ([51:14])
• On compromising:
  “Pick your battles...there are certain things, like, with parenting or something like that. It’s like, OK, I’ll let him [have his way] this one.” – Trisha ([37:33])
• On exes:
  “One time, he made me noodles at midnight.” – Trisha ([43:59])

Fun Tangents & Pop Culture

• The duo discusses their love for Skims vs. Victoria’s Secret, their misadventures with rainbow grilled cheese, and TV recs (“All’s Fair” with Kim Kardashian, “I <3 LA” with Rachel Sennott).
• Quick, hilarious word association game ([30:22])
• Musings on awards, dishwashing, favorite waters, and hotel choices in Vegas.

Timestamps of Key Segments

| Segment | Timestamp | |-----------------------------------------------|-------------| | Reigniting the Spark | 26:01–29:55 | | Compromising While Living Together | 35:32–39:36 | | Moving On From an Ex | 40:35–44:13 | | Knowing When to Move On | 44:13–45:39 | | Relationships with Differing Values | 47:21–51:41 | | Holiday Gifts for Your Partner | 53:40–55:57 | | TV & Pop Culture Recs | 15:56–19:37 | | Word Association Game | 30:22–31:34 |

Overall Tone & Takeaways

Light, open, irreverent, and supportive. Tana and Trisha blend humor, self-deprecation, and surprising vulnerability. While they admit they’re not experts, their candid stories and lessons learned offer comfort to anyone navigating love, heartbreak, or domestic life. Their message: love is messy, compromising is tricky, and sometimes “boring” is beautiful.

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