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I'm Ali Graymond. I'm an expert in OCD recovery because.
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For the last 19 years I've been.
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Helping people fully recover from OCD. If you would like to do personal coaching with me, all the information is on youhubocd.com you can sign up from there.
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It's okay to refocus in order to stop rumination. So the thing about refocusing is you have to have a good reason to refocus. A good reason would be this is my nonsense OCD thought number 1 million. I've had many of these types of thoughts and I actually need to be thinking about my work or what am I going to do next or my tasks for the day. So that's what I'm choosing to focus on. So that's good. Refocusing that you should be doing all day long and that's really how you should be living your life. Focusing on every day in important practical things, anything metaphysical, psychological. I had a thought, I had a feeling. The past, the future, all of that is straight up active rumination, right? So that type of refocusing is good. Bad refocusing is when you say, I am so scared to have this thought, I gotta do anything and everything to get rid of this thought. So I'm going to sing a song, I'm going to turn the TV really loud. I am going to have never ending conversations with people. I'm gonna, whatever it is. Like I'm, I'm not sure what you do, but it's if you're doing it for that reason that you are afraid of the anxiety of the content of something like that coming into your brain and you're trying to run away from it. A fear based response, that's not good. That's. It's also refocusing. Right? But notice the difference between the two. With the first example, I told you that you're trying to make a choice that's better for you. You're saying, I have better things to do, I'm going to go do those better things. That's, that doesn't come from a position of fear. This, when you're saying I am so afraid, I need to run away from these thoughts and anxiety that is coming from a position of fear. And whenever you come from a position of fear, you feed the disorder. So there's different types of refocusing and you need to ask yourself, let's say you tried to, you tried to refocus and divert your attention to something else today. Why did you do that? Did you do it for the right reasons and if you didn't switch and do it for the right reasons next time and it's that again, that decision that this is thought number 1 million. Yes, it's slightly different. Yes, the nuances are a little bit different, but it's really the same thought. You've already had this a million times, so make the choice to do stuff that's actually productive in the day rather than trying to figure out that number 1 million. And that would be correct.
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