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I'm Ali Graymond. I'm an expert in OCD recovery because for the last 19 years, I've been helping people fully recover from OCD. If you would like to do personal coaching with me, all the information is on. You have OCD.com. you can sign up from there.
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Let's talk about signs that this is a real event ocd. So first of all, what is real event ocd? Real event OCD is the type of OCD where the person is worried about something that actually really did happen, but nobody else would worry about it. It's so and insignificant. It's basically kind of creating a mountain out of a molehill. That's real event od, but it's not even the molehill. It's like a microscopic molehill, and the person is making it a huge deal. So if you feel like you might be facing something like this, the first question you should ask yourself is, would anybody I know really worry about this? To the extent that I'm worried about it, would they stay up all night? Would they ruminate? Would they. Would. Would they create this situation? Or would they be like, who cares? Doesn't matter. Whatever happened, happened. I'm choosing to move on. If most people, you know, you. Maybe you didn't ask them, but you have an idea that they wouldn't care, then you need to act like them. So you need to show your brain that you are choosing. Even though you feel like you care, you're choosing not to care. And choosing not to care means no more rumination, no more online research, no more talking about it, no more, no more allowing yourself to actively ruminate about it. It can be there in the background, but actively. We're not engaging in this anymore. So imagine yourself as you are driving in one lane and your OCD is driving in the lane next to you, parallel to you, with you, but not in the same lane. Not intersecting, not getting into an accident, just going. You're going your way. And OCD can go next to you, it can scream at you, but it's in its own lane. You need to be pushing forward. Doesn't matter what it said. Nobody else would react to this. I'm not reacting to this. So again, signs that this is relevant ocd. The biggest one is nobody would care about this. Number two, the fact that it's ocd, meaning that it wants something from you. It wants you to figure it out, to solve, to research, to understand, to confess, perhaps. So all of this also shows to you that this is ocd. It wants something from you. Either a physical behavior or usually some sort of a mental behavior, analyzing, whatever. Don't give it what it wants, allow it to be there, continue on. And then the third one, which, I mean, this can switch from theme to theme, situation to situation, but generally speaking, it will always kind of hit the same thing that you are usually worried about. So it will be within that same genre. So if you are, let's say harm OCD is a big one for you. It'll be something about harm or relationship stuff. It'll be relationship. Like it will go within that genre. Not necessarily, because it can obviously switch. OC does switch, but it's more likely to go into that genre. So these are just telltale signs that this is real event. And real event OCD can be connected to relationship ocd. Like let's say something happened in the past and you're obsessing about it, but it's so small nobody would care about it. Or religious ocd, you had a bad thought, whatever, and you know, nobody would care. But you do. I don't know, harm ocd, whatever. So diff different themes. It's normal for it to come in, but it's. It's. Again, it's your overall reaction to things. You know, it's. You cannot allow yourself to give into a reaction.
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