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I'm Ali Graymond. I'm an expert in OCD recovery because for the last 19 years, I've been helping people fully recover from OCD. If you would like to do personal coaching with me, all the Information is on youhave OCD.com. you can sign up from there.
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The way I want you to approach physical compulsions is to look at each compulsion as not just, but it feels real. I have to do this. Oh, my God. No. You have to look at each compulsion as I am right now, making my OCD worse. So this hell that I'm currently in, I'm keeping it going knowingly. I'm keeping it going by doing these compulsions. This is what I'm doing right now. I'm making an active choice to make my OCD worse by doing. Performing this compulsion. That's what I'm doing right now. You need to be ruthless with yourself if you're gonna say, well, you know, it's just a small one. Well, I suff suffer so much. Well, you know, a million excuses. Then you're gonna be where you already are, where you've been for a long time. I'm not saying don't be kind to yourself, but kindness does not mean letting yourself backslide into hell. Do you know what I mean? You need to be tough. And if, let's say you can only say, okay, I. The best I can do is. Is reducing, counting compulsions that I do in the day and reducing by one a day, that's fine. Any reduction is okay. What's not okay is not reducing at all or increasing and making excuses for it. You know, I have clients who come in all the time, and sometimes they're in such bad situations, but they'll say, I'm ready to do the work. I'm focused. I'm ready. Let's do this. And we just mow through it. We create action plan. We adjust the plan. We increase, decrease. We do what we need to do, and we get this done. This is doable. You absolutely can recover. Not to the point where, like how some people say online, okay, the recovery means management. No, recovery does not mean management. I'm telling you right now, recovery means you stop getting these thoughts altogether. But to get your brain there, we need to show your brain that this is no longer important. And to show your brain that this is no longer important, we need to, little by little, cut down these compulsions all the way to zero. And you can go at the speed that is comfortable for you. You don't need to go at super intense speed. You just need to do what you can, but you need to be focused, and it doesn't actually require time out of your life. If, if anything, people sometimes will say, well, I'm too busy right now. Well, this will actually save you time. So being busy is actually a good thing when you're doing recovery work, number one. And number two, this will give you time back that you're not doing compulsions and that you're not caught up in intense anxiety. So there's really no excuse. And again, any speed is fine. You can go at any speed. But you just have to do this. This is the most important fight of your life. Everything else in your life is based on how well you feel mentally. And how well you feel mentally depends on how much you are reducing these behaviors.
