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I'm Ali Graymond. I'm an expert in OCD recovery because for the last 19 years, I've been.
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Helping people fully recover from OCD.
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If you would like to do personal coaching with me, all the Information is on youhave OCD.com. you can sign up from there.
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Today, I just wanted to remind you that just because you are getting these disturbing thoughts, it does not make you a bad person. A lot of the time people are like, but. But I had this thought, I had this feeling, oh, my God, I am such a bad person. Nobody would want to be with me if they didn't, if they knew I had these thoughts. I hear this literally all the time. These thoughts do not define you. First of all, everybody gets bad thoughts. Everybody gets disturbing thoughts. So it's normal. This is part of being a human. All kinds of stuff goes through our minds. Just like some people with OCD sanitize their hands. What you're trying to do is sanitize your mind from these thoughts. And the more you try to sanitize, the more dirtier you will feel. Allow them to be how they be. It doesn't matter. You're not a bad person. It doesn't matter what is going through your mind. Don't associate who you are with the thought that you're getting. And it's a choice that you need to make. So it's not that you're trying to achieve a feeling of not associating yourself with these thoughts. It's that you're making a choice that whenever a thought comes in like this, I will not react the way I normally react. I'm not going to take it seriously. I'm not going to attribute it to myself. I'll just view it as a passing thought. Who cares? So it's a choice that you are making. And I'm telling you, I'm telling you as an expert. I've been doing recovery work with clients for 20 years. It's the right choice. You are good. You are worthy. Who cares what thought went through your mind? It doesn't define who you are. Stop treating yourself like you're a perpetrator. You've done nothing wrong. These thoughts are happening to you not because of you. Well, they're having a little bit because of you, because of the reaction that you're having to them, because you're flagging them in your mind as important. But they're not happening because you are a bad person. You're just triggering the mechanism kind of accidentally, let's say, out of not knowing so now that you know, try to act like you're making the choice that it doesn't matter. I got a disturbing thought. Sure, whatever. Am I going to get a million more? Probably. Who cares? That needs to be your reaction, not your usual of me have this thought. What does this mean? I'm a terrible, terrible person. No, doesn't matter. And don't try to switch a bad thought for a good thought. Don't even label it as a bad thought. There's no such thing as thoughts in another video saying this. It's just a box. Your brain sent you a box of content. It's. It's a neutral box. What you make out of it is, you know, how you react to it, is how your brain starts to view it. So don't view it as, oh my God, this disturbing thought. View it as like, okay, who cares? Don't flag it. It's going to go away. Don't define yourself by these thoughts. They mean nothing about you. If anything, OCD goes for the opposite of who you really are. So if you're sweet, caring person, you're going to get very disturbing thought. It goes for the opposite. So try to view it like that. Don't take it seriously. Keep yourself moving forward.