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The online world is great for so many things. It’s great for making you laugh, it’s great for entertainment. And every now and again you come across people or ideas that literally blows your mind.
But I still think some of our best thinking happens offline. So, join me, Nessa, on Offline Thoughts as I chat about some of the things I think about when I’m not online.
Your feedback, thoughts and comments would be really appreciated! Send them to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

Gisèle Pelicot's life was turned upside down in 2020 when her husband of nearly 50 years was up skirting women in their provincial town. What the police uncovered was more evil than anyone could have predicted. What is striking about Gisèle's husband is that behind his extraordinarily heinous crimes was a man who was as ordinary in public as he was monstrous in private.Please send your thoughts and comments to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

The DOJ in January 2026 released another tranche of the "Epstein Files". At this point the disturbing contents contained in the files only affirms what we already knew about men as a group. This episode looks at the propaganda the patriarchy perpetuates about the nature of men and what we can learn from the Epstein files.Key words: Jeffrey Epstein, patriarchy, sexual violence of men, protector and provider myth Please share your thoughts or questions to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

Polyamorous relationships from those who choose them sounds great - you get the best parts of having partners without the downsides of monogamy such as possessiveness, control, sexual ownership, and frankly, boredom. But is this something new or a return to something old? Key words: polyamory, monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, love, relationships, Please share your thoughts or questions to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

Despite occupying ideologically opposite terrains, the far left and far right in some respects are different sides of the same coin. At the political level you only need to look at the outcomes of each sides' time in office to understand that shared allegiance. At the interpersonal level - whether on the extreme left or extreme right, their lives and values converge, The question is to what extent? And what does it mean for us who are caught in the middle?Key words: Politics; MAGA, woke left, polarisation, politics of divide and conquer Please share your thoughts or questions to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

Onyeka Ehie's TikTok story time titled "The Danish Deception" has been a sensation spawning thousands of response and commentary videos. It is easy to understand why the story is captivating. A tall, handsome and wealthy Nordic man with a royal title, falls in love with a beautiful American woman and sets on wooing her by flying her across the world, sparing no expense in showing her a good time. Marriage is promised and they begin to plan for a future with a family of their own, in a beautiful home and a supportive network of family and friends around them. When she finds out who he truly is the story become equally horrifying. But the biggest mystery of all is why Onyeka seemed so willingly to believe this man when the relationship was so littered with flaming hot red flags?Key words: love rats, relationship fraud, gambling addiction, financial fraud Please share your thoughts or questions to offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com. Articles:USA Today (2025) Danish Deception summary: TikTok Onyeka Ehie: https://eu.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/2025/11/24/danish-deception-summary-tiktok-onyeka-ehie/87447987007/ (Accessed: 15 December 2025).Bachelor Nation (2025) Onyeka Ehie spills about her Danish Deception and marrying a con artist: https://bachelornation.com/2025/11/25/onyeka-ehie-spills-about-her-danish-deception-and-marrying-a-con-artist-read-the-full-story-here/ (Accessed: 15 December 2025).

Charlie Sheen's Netflix documentary "aka Charlie Sheen" chronicles the actor's extreme highs (no pun intended) and lows. It is supposed to be an unflinching dive into all the things he has been through as well the sins of his past. For this podcaster, it feels like he should have kept those curtains closed - this will not be the redemptive and humanising documentary he hoped it would be. Charlie ignores the obvious - that he was a neppo baby born with a silver spoon in his mouth and willing to shamelessly yield his soft power to get access to women, job opportunities and every vice in his repertoire. What the docuseries reveals despite his attempts to redirect our attention is that - he has hurt a lot of people, he has been incredibly selfish, and it is not clear that he is truly contrite. Oh and on his " big reveal" that he sleeps with men too - it feels rather small in the context of having lost hundreds of millions of dollars, been to rehab dozens of times, had countless public meltdowns, reportedly slept with over 45,000 women and been diagnosed with HIV, What is more notable about the revelation is that he lacks such introspection and honesty that he implies it is drugs that turned him bisexual. Given that he is accused of allegedly having sex with a 13 year old boy when he was 19 - this seems incredibly implausible. Please share your thoughts and comments at offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.

Kirk in life was an extremist who believed all kinds of things about women, people of colour and religion. His killing at the hands of Tyler Robinson has unleashed a divide between those who believe it is disrespectful to speak ill of the dead, and those who believe accountability goes beyond the grave. This episode looks at both those sides. Send me your thoughts and comments at offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.Key words: Charlie Kirk, speaking ill of the dead, male violence, gun violence

The sprinkle sprinkle lady is as entertaining as she is notorious. Her wit, her comedic timing and her branding have made her prolific on TikTok. What she brings to the table is the kind of advice broken-hearted women would have appreciated had they known what lay ahead - particularly those women who are prone to choosing poor dating mates. The thing is, though, when you drill into what Shera's core message is and who her core audience must be - it is clear that what she is offering is not new. It is rebranded prostitution - or "sugaring". Even worse than that, it is advice that she - a married woman living in suburbia with two children - doesn't seem to follow. Tune into the episode to hear my theory. I'd love to get your feedback and hear your thoughts and comments at offlinethoughts.podcast@gmail.com.Key words: Sprinkle sprinkle, sugar baby,

If there is one thing that will define the last few years it's the slow march to a recession. All the red flags are there - 260,000 people lost their jobs in the first four months of this year, the government is seeking to eliminate tens of thousands more, big tech companies like Microsoft, Tesla and Meta are reducing their headcount on levels not seen since the financial crisis of 2008 and this just the beginning. To top it all off - we are also living through a period of high inflation, high interest rates and low economic growth. The writings on the wall are clear - we as works need to start making plans to protect ourselves against the worst. Tune into this episode to listen to steps to take to survive this economy. Key words: Work advice, economy, recession, mass layoffs, tech jobs, retail sector Resources Kelly, J., 2025. Big layoffs are hitting these sectors the hardest. [online] Forbes. Available at: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2025/05/10/big-layoffs-are-hitting-these-sectors-the-hardest/ [Accessed 20 Jul. 2025].Raymond, N., 2025. US agencies shrink layoff plans after mass staff exodus. [online] Reuters. Available at: https://www.reuters.com/legal/litigation/us-agencies-shrink-layoff-plans-after-mass-staff-exodus-2025-07-15/ [Accessed 20 Jul. 2025].Quilantan, J., 2025. Supreme Court clears Education Department to fire nearly half its staff. [online] Politico. Available at: https://www.politico.com/news/2025/07/14/supreme-court-education-department-ruling-00452134 [Accessed 20 Jul. 2025].

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